Stop Punishing Yourself For Past Mistakes | Forgive Yourself

[@ShaunHolden]

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[@d5impact717]

Hey Shaun, so I cheated on my girlfriend but I left her for another woman , I didn't think or care about my girlfriends feelings. Were back together but I keep finding myself living in the past because I havent forgiven myself yet. Thank you this video is helping alot

[@ShaunHolden]

@@d5impact717 Hello my friend! I am glad this is helping - you must remember we are all human we all make mistakes and we can not do anything about our past! If anything it could be a lesson for you to understand how lucky you are to have your current girlfriend! Dont look backwards, we are not heading that way! Here if you need anything.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@d5impact717 Have you forgiven yourself yet?

[@jean-marcprince7975]

It really made sense when you said " we only punish our kids once for a mistake" and I hope this can dwell in my mind and stop punishing myself for the same mistake over and over. Thanks, I needed to hear this.

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey Jean. Glad this resonated with you. How long have you struggled with this? Glad it helped!

[@jean-marcprince7975]

@@ShaunHolden Ive been struggling with this for the past few years and when i beat myself up, i think of this and it releives me a bit. Thanks, I needed to hear this

[@ShaunHolden]

@@jean-marcprince7975 you are more than welcome. I am happy to help if you need any extra support let me know! Shaun

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello Jean. I hope you are well and are having a wonderful day. I wanted to make you aware that since this video has had over 13,000 views I have had SO many people reaching out for support, of course I am only one person so unfortunately I am not able to help them all. However, I have been studying forgiveness in great detail and I am in the process of creating a program to help people who are struggling with self forgiveness. Would this be something you would benefit from? Shaun

[@Janette_AJ]

Yes. It resonated with me too. In fact, I almost cried because now I remember how my parents often shame me for mistakes I had done loooong in the past, including those I made even before I was able to remember things (yes, when I was barely a toddler). Now I live away from my parents and the healing journey is slowly opening my eyes. Every process and realization hurts but I guess it is necessary.

[@Sarah.g.carter]

I think many people hold onto the mistake and the past because it's safe. It doesn't feel good but at leas they know the feeling. Letting go would mean taking responsibility of moving forward and bettering yourself. That responsibility is often unknown and uncomfortable, so people rather stay in the past rather than move on.

[@ShaunHolden]

Sarah, Refined how bizarre I just watched your last video and came to my notifications to see this! Yes I think that’s true too, forgiveness is good and forgiving ourself might be more important than forgiving anyone else! Love your input as always! Thanks for being here! X

[@stepclosertosuccess996]

Forgive yourself and learn from all your mistakes.

[@ShaunHolden]

Step Closer to Success EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM! Thanks for watching I appreciate it, what do you think about the question? I’m interested?

[@Token4NaijaTV]

I can’t agree more with you, every mistake is a very good experience

[@ShaunHolden]

Tanwa Stanley thanks lovely! 🙂 I need to catch up on your last video

[@ShaunHolden]

Hope you are well!

[@brightbeatrice112]

Everyone makes mistakes! I have been dishonest to people I love in the past😥 To heal myself I have been journaling and writing down positive affirmation's. Also, connecting to my inner child through having more fun!🙌 . To every negative experience I say "thank you for that experience" and move on. ❤✨ Thanks for the reassuring messages.

[@ShaunHolden]

Wow I love this message! So much! I have been guilty of this too! So it’s important that we air the mistakes and move on! We aren’t perfect but we can get better. I loved reading how you cope and thank you for being so open and honest x

[@brightbeatrice112]

@@ShaunHolden Yes! It is always better to be honest with people 😃 You are a such kind person and talented KZbin creator (PS. I like your dog)🐶

[@ShaunHolden]

@@brightbeatrice112 thank you very much I have not made as many videos as normal but I’ve been busy helping and serving others so I have enjoyed that. Now I just need to get back to creating videos. How are you coping?

[@theamalgamatedtheory]

Thank you this is so hard and the anxiety i have plus needless suffering is too much to bear .

[@hazelmash8238]

I am at a point in my life I am constantly beating myself up for my past mistakes, every time I try to forgive myself I just think that my mistake is probably the cause of someone else's depression then it becomes much more hard to forgive myself and even hate myself more. Love this video💕

[@ShaunHolden]

Hazel thank you for commenting. First of all I want to acknowledge, appreciate and understand that you have found this video as you are seeking change. You are wanting to improve, to get better in this area of your life. That is possibly one of the most hardest things to do. Taking that first step and being open to change. So that’s amazing, let me just recognise that at first. Secondly, I would love to explore this with you a little more and would be happy to discuss this with you if you would be open to a conversation on how to overcome this issue? Please don’t worry this would be a free call, I aim to serve and help others help themselves and would love to unpack this with you some more. How do you feel about that? Shaun 🙂❤️🧠

[@hazelmash8238]

@@ShaunHolden Thank you so much. And yes I am totally open to a conversation to overcome this issue. Thank you once more

[@ShaunHolden]

@@hazelmash8238 no problem at all. How would be best to contact you?

[@ShaunHolden]

@@hazelmash8238 do you have an email?

[@ShaunHolden]

@@hazelmash8238 hey hazel I just got a notification about WhatsApp but it’s disappeared! If you want to email me I can give you my email address?

[@worldpeace5449]

This is one of the biggest things to deal with in life, dealing with past mistakes. I've made many mistakes deliberately and unintentionally! I refuse to give up on my dreams of being successful one day, even if others mock me and say "it will never happen." I refuse to sit in my room feeling sorry for myself, thinking of broken relationships and the pain of losing others. If I fail, but gave effort towards that accomplishment, then I'm content!

[@ShaunHolden]

I completely agree, Thank you very much for watching and commenting. I love this idea my friend. Thank you for watching, I hope you enjoyed this video and found value in it? Can I ask, I have not seen you on this channel before, where did you find this video?

[@worldpeace5449]

@@ShaunHolden Just browsing around KZbin, I came across your video.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@worldpeace5449 ahh thank you I’ve spent the last 7 months creating videos with the aim to help others in every day life, I hope you find value in the other videos! Where are you from in this big world?

[@yanis80]

Thank you for this video. I was beating myself up for missing an important meeting. I apologized but it didn't make me feel any better. I now know that it is a learning experience and best of all, I am not alone. Thinking about daring 7 billion people to say they never made a mistake was insightful. Is not about the deed, is about how we treat ourselves. Thank you!

[@ShaunHolden]

Absolutely - thank you so much for your feedback the reality is… we are human, we make mistakes but it doesn’t serve us to keep replaying them over and over in our mind and making ourselves feel guilty. Most people underestimate the importance of our internal dialogue, it’s powerful so we must be careful with how we speak to ourselves. I am glad you found value in this video and I really appreciate your kind words. I’ve been trying to teach a lot of self development on my KZbin channel and compassion is a pinnacle cog in personal growth, hope you find value in the other videos and thank you so much for stopping by. Shaun x

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello quick question is this something you still struggle with?

[@steveguitarman1488]

Thank you for your encouraging words. One of my biggest mistakes was getting drunk and becoming aggressive. Shouting my mouth off at people. It was about this time last year. But I'm glad I've sorted it out now and shook hands and made peace. It was only recently I was told by someone they can't believe I'm the same person. I actually had to tell them that was me.. and told me I actually look like a different lad now..

[@ShaunHolden]

That is brilliant to hear. What brings you to this video my friend if you have already forgiven? Thanks for your comment! Appreciate it

[@steveguitarman1488]

@@ShaunHolden your video just happened to be on my recommended videos list. So thought I'd have a look at it. I thought I'd share my testimony with you. All the best to you.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@steveguitarman1488 Thank you sir this is something I have found millions of people struggle with and it really is a shame I just hope I can help as many of them as possible.

[@drilonnasufi7883]

Hi Shaun. The mistakes I’ve made in my life have been apart of me for a long time. For almost my whole life, I’ve been procrastinating on my work, and going to bed at late time. But when I first got into college, those mistakes seemed to take a toll on my identity. I procrastinated on a bunch of my work, and in fact went to bed at late times. My family was hard on me for that, and yelled at me for the mistakes I made. I was mad at them for yelling at me, but I don’t blame them entirely, because those mistakes were bad, and they could in fact ruin my career and life. But now that I just turned 19, I want to take the mistakes I’ve made in the past and forgive myself for them. This will help me be more disciplined and make my sophomore year in college the best. I feel a lot better sharing this with someone who would understand. Thanks a lot

[@ShaunHolden]

Drilon thank you for sharing this I appreciate it! How are you feeling at the moment? Did it feel good to get this off your chest? Shaun

[@WillNelson73]

The problem for me is that my mistake has followed me for decades.

[@ShaunHolden]

Most mistakes do, want to share it?

[@WillNelson73]

​@@ShaunHoldenit's too embarrassing. It happened in 2003, but I still feel as if God is still punishing me for it.

[@ChristaBello]

Yesterday is gone! Today is another opportunity. Your video is inspiring and motivating. Looking forward to the next. Great job!

[@ShaunHolden]

Yes! Thank you! I appreciate you being here. :)

[@ShaunHolden]

How have you been doing lately? Have you been coping ok? 🙂

[@TheresaJacobs-f5e]

Yes everyday is a new day ! Ty for your comment

[@angeldelmak8630]

your mistakes don’t define you, but they can refine you - so true and such an important mindset to have for moving forward. these are great tips. thank for sharing! just subscribed ✨

[@ShaunHolden]

Ángel del Mak I love that you picked up on this saying. I wrote it down and was like “boom” that’s awesome I love it. Then no one has mentioned it so thank you so much for being here, subscribing and watching ♥️

[@ShaunHolden]

Black Joy! How are things with you lately? I hope you are doing amazing!

[@jalyssagibson132]

I keep hearing "stop punishing yourself" and was drawn to this video. Thanks .

[@ShaunHolden]

How did you find it? I hope the other videos on the channel help you too

[@MhKara]

You are right - we must draw the line with our past and move forward. Great video!

[@ShaunHolden]

Yes we do. Thank you for being here!

[@WagnerSaucedo]

This is so great Shaun! we tend to live in our past and never move on because we are not able to forgive ourselves. But we have to remember that we are only able to make progress in life if let go of that past. Great video! just liked and subbed for more my friend! 👍

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you very much your kind words mean more to me than you know. I will always appreciate your support and feedback so thank you ☺️

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey man, just popped back onto this old video and saw your face, how are you doing my friend? Been a while!

[@chitosandoval6197]

It’s good to sometimes tel yourself that you are wrong and learn from your mistakes and from those mistakes you can be a better person , good video 👍👍👍👍🛎

[@ShaunHolden]

Oh wow thank you very much! Where did you come across my video? I would be really interested to find out! Thank you for watching I’ll be sure to stop by and check yours out too!

[@xxstormxx56]

That is me. I depise myself making mistakes. I just want to be perfect in order not to be humiliated. Punishments are the things I deserve. We live in a world where people pray on people.

[@ShaunHolden]

What does perfect look like to you?

[@xxstormxx56]

@@ShaunHolden no mistakes, no embarrassment, no mercy

[@ShaunHolden]

@@xxstormxx56 Then that's not being human. We will always make mistakes its part of being human.

[@lifeinperspective5327]

Brilliantly delivered, and the tips are practical and a great place to start. It's amazing how easily we tell others "Everyone makes mistakes. Don't worry about." Yet, we carry it for endless time.

[@ShaunHolden]

You are so right. Thank you for watching and supporting me each week I appreciate it :)We are far from perfect! I hope you have a wonderful weekend sir!

[@lifeinperspective5327]

@@ShaunHolden My pleasure 🙏🙌

[@zachssnackscookingchannel]

Hey Shaun, he is a good person and I love his videos! 🙂👆

[@ShaunHolden]

ZACH’S SNACKS COOKING CHANNEL there is a guy I need to introduce you to my friend for you both to collab! He’s got a cooking channel too!

[@zachssnackscookingchannel]

Shaun Holden Okay yes lets do it !😌

[@ShaunHolden]

You need to get back to making videos my friends

[@linzshorts6535]

Loving our mistakes is the ultimate way to truly heal our past wounds and brokenness. We must forgive ourselves for betraying our hearts and slowly learn to let go and bring love to our hearts. It is not easy at all, but one day, by practicing healing through love, compassion, and forgiveness everyday, the healing with bring wholeness back to your soul. Be the company you want to be with is one of the most powerful way to truly push ourselves to transform our inner being. My past mistake is lying through out my teenagers life by being someone I was not meant to become.

[@ShaunHolden]

Yes Yes Yess! I am glad you have seen this now :) Thank you for watching and supporting my channel each and every week :) Means so much!

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello stranger missed your voice! How on earth are you lately?

[@UnboxingJobs]

Thank you so much Shaun! We are often our own worst critic or judge. Also loved the point on thinking of mistakes as learning experience. Given the amount of mistakes we all can make, that can really turn the tide towards positive.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thanks for turning up each week I genuinely mean that. It’s so refreshing to have the support from yourself each week I can always count on certain people to turn up and watch and support so I thank you for that! Absolutely it’s important we all accept that we make mistakes and forgive ourselves for them!

[@PrettyPennyClub]

Really enjoying these videos. Very genuine and not down-talking like some other similar channels. "Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future" - can't remember where I heard that but it stuck with me. Keep up the good work.

[@ShaunHolden]

I appreciate that! I am glad you like them! You will find that that quote is Oscar Wilde :) Thanks buddy! Appreciate you watching very much so!

[@PrettyPennyClub]

@@ShaunHolden ah Oscar Wilde - good knowledge!

[@herkcollins4263]

I've been in a few relationships where I was used or abused, but never really loved. Seven months ago, I met a very sweet guy and the more we got to know each other, the more we fell in love with each other. Something happened that caused me to go off and say some things I'm really not proud of because I have been so accustomed to being used and never really loved and it hurt him deeply. I've been so regretful and though he said he forgave me and that we would never speak of it again, I can't let go of the fact that I let my insecurity cause me to hurt the man that I love so much. It's making me feel like everything has changed, though we talked it over and he forgave me, I feel like I've done something that can't be undone, broken something that can't be repaired. It could just be me because I'm beating myself up with guilt, but I just can't seem to let it go and move forward positively, thankful that I have a guy who was loving enough to forgive me and let it go himself.

[@ShaunHolden]

Herk - thank you for sharing your story with us all. I hope that someone reads this and finds comfort in your mistake. Unfortunately sometimes our own issues impact the people around us much more than we ever wanted to. A lot of these issues and mistakes can result in us losing the people closest to us. I have posted about things like this on IG over the last 12 weeks as a couple of my clients have been suffering with issues such as abandonment issues and things. If you follow me on there you will see the content and we can also chat on a more regular basis. I look forward to it. Shaun

[@ShaunHolden]

Here if you need anything

[@herkcollins4263]

@@ShaunHolden thank you, but it was a while ago and we've moved past it now. It was good to get it off my chest though, thank you for that.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@herkcollins4263 You are most welcome!

[@TheDepiano]

Very helpful video when we've hurt someone we deeply care for. Thank you Shaun!

[@ShaunHolden]

Luigi. No problem at all, it worries me how many times per day this video gets watched. I am thinking about making a course on forgiveness, this video just scratches the surface I have so many people reach out and ask for support with forgiveness. Do you think if I made a mini course that was affordable people would find it valuable? Shaun

[@TheDepiano]

@@ShaunHolden Hey Shaun, I am definitely not surprised by the success of the video. It's such a gut-wrenching feeling, especially when you've apologized, done everything that you felt you could, and still nothing comes back from the other side. Why not? But you should only do it if YOU see value in it, you know? I'd gladly talk to you though, if possible.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@TheDepiano Absolutely the response has been incredible and I would be happy to see if I can serve others and help them with their struggles! Would be happy to talk with you my friend you can either email me or reach out on IG! Either is fine with me!

[@TheDepiano]

​@@ShaunHolden Ok, I'll reach out to you today! Could you give me your email address?

[@ShaunHolden]

@@TheDepiano [e-mail] It should be in the description box too!

[@MikeStallone]

What a great lesson! I’ve always believed one of the biggest factors holding you back is yourself! Also love your intro man! It’s right to the point and hooks you

[@ShaunHolden]

Glad you liked it! Thanks brother :)

[@ladybug410-o2i]

Alright imma share too. So I made two past mistakes. 4 years ago. The first one was treating someone as if they worked for me because I was just joking around. The second time I said something mean to them but I was really doing it because I felt a lack of attention. Now to this day people are mean to me as if punishing me when rumors spread about what I did. It also changed me as a person. It broke my heart. I stopped being extroverted,stopped being happy with my life,stopped making new friends and stopped loving myself so now I have to recover from this.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you for joining and being vulnerable and sharing your mistakes. Let me ask you this one question Cadence. What do you think is the one thing you need to recover from this?

[@ShaunHolden]

Calista - Have you been able to solve this problem that you are having?

[@ys177]

Consequence for my mistake is too awful.. Great vid thank you!

[@ShaunHolden]

Glad it was helpful! Is there anything I can help you with?

[@jasonmackeseyfitness4586]

Excited for the premiere

[@ShaunHolden]

Awesome man!

[@Vegankingzz]

Me to

[@LilacGlo]

Hey Shaun. This is so good and so true! A lot of us leave with retreat and quilt for this we’ve done in the past and that stops us from moving forward! Fantastic content hun. Keep up the great work 👍🏽🥰❤️

[@ShaunHolden]

Love that! Thank you my friend. How have you been?

[@wemoveforward6413]

Absolutely fantastic. I needed this today.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you so much it’s important for us to not dwell on the past, forgive yourself we are all humans. ♥️ if you want to support the channel feel free to like and subscribe 🙂 thank you I’m glad you found value in this video x

[@wemoveforward6413]

@@ShaunHolden thank you mate. I've liked and subbed. Thank you

[@Vegankingzz]

Another great video. This man is incredible and his words can heal the heart. Great video it was a pleasure being part of the premier 🤟🏾💪🏾🙏🏾

[@ShaunHolden]

My pleasure!

[@Vegankingzz]

@@ShaunHolden Can't wait for the others. This was one was definitely dooe

[@ShaunHolden]

COOKING WITH VEGAN KING'ZZ TV & MORE no problem mate

[@liviasworldoffacts2521]

Hi Shaun. Thanks for this video. I really need to hear this. I been beating myself up lately because of a problem at work... there are days I'm fine but there are days I can't stop thinking about it.

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey I am sorry I have only just seen this comment. Is everything ok at the moment or would you like to discuss it in more detail? The link for a discovery call is my description if you want to jump on a call via zoom. The first call is free so be happy to talk! Let me know. Alternatively you can find me on IG!

[@ShaunHolden]

Livia - This video has been really in demand. Quick question for you, do you still struggle with this topic?

[@birdieculture]

Hi Shaun! I came to this video coz I remember 11 years ago I did something not the nicest to a guy. I just suddenly became aware of it and am now finding myself feeling guilty, yet I can't apologise to him anymore as its a been too long. 😭 I swear I will (try my very best to) never do it again

[@ShaunHolden]

Thanks for sharing! What is stopping you from forgiving yourself and/or apologising? I have an idea if you are struggling. Shaun

[@Northfacebloke]

Thanks buddy,Kenny is cool

[@realtomchou]

It's very important to open up! This is a great message. Thank you! Understanding changing is good for the better ✊🏼

[@ShaunHolden]

Yes sir thank you for being here thank you for being you and thank you for watching me. I’m glad we connected man

[@crispy_pringle]

at the quote “we only punish our kids for a mistake once, not weeks or months” i immediately thought to myself, “well, my parents did” and although i think that was not the intended reaction here i figured out a huge roadblock for me. thank you

[@crispy_pringle]

that being said, i love my parents immensely, my mistakes arent their fault but the self flagellation i put on myself suddenly makes way more sense

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey Chris, thanks for your comment my friend. Ironically, my parent figures did the same. However, I realised that was not the correct way once I was older! It wasn’t. What was the roadblock? Are you consistently punishing yourself?

[@ShaunHolden]

@@crispy_pringle ahhh nice to read this. There is another video I created on forgiveness. I hope that helps too. I hope you enjoy the other videos I have created 🙂

[@crispy_pringle]

the realization was like, for a moment i saw a parallel between the way my parents talked to me as a kid and how i talk to myself if i’ve done something i’m not happy with. i sometimes find myself feeling beyond shameful for things i’d done at 15-17, even though it was something i said before i was even an adult, i just dwell on it? like i know there’s mistakes i’ve made that i would never repeat, but i can’t shake thinking that i’m just awful, and deep down i know it isnt true, its just such a confusing cycle.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@crispy_pringle Is this a topic that still troubles you? I am thinking about making a short cheap course for this.

[@liveyourlife2763]

Everyone can relate to the points you made. Well done!

[@ShaunHolden]

LiveYourLife Thank you matey I appreciate it!

[@davidloney4261]

Hi. Folks, I have been involved in many areas of Shaun's video, helping others s long the way from my mistakes..but what is outstanding about Shaun's they are Simple and direct, without fuss, and easy manageable to reload and listen again. Thanks Shaun, another gem.

[@ShaunHolden]

Cheers Dave thank you very much a lot of time and effort went into this one so thank you for being here and supporting me!

[@danetheridge839]

Another great Video Shaun - really enjoyed it and love the tips :-)

[@ShaunHolden]

Thanks Dan appreciate it. I am aiming for 5k subs at the end of the year and I’ll remember you along with a few others, who have been here since the start. So honestly thank you!

[@mayakitkit3854]

thank you this video is really thoughtful and helped me in my journey

[@ShaunHolden]

I'm so glad! Please let me know how this helped you?

[@Vegankingzz]

My brother came with that heat. Please call the fire department 🙏🏾💪🏾♥️

[@ShaunHolden]

You burnt something in the kitchen? haha

[@Vegankingzz]

@@ShaunHolden Yes my TV since you on fire

[@cameronsanchez2204]

I didn't just make a mistake, I did something wrong, very very wrong but nobody knows I did it. I didn't do something that would get me in prison for life, but I did something that wasn't good by any means. I feel like a terrible person. I hope this video will help me out!

[@ShaunHolden]

How did you find it? How are you feeling about it now? If you need or want any extra support then feel free to let me know. Shaun

[@cameronsanchez2204]

@@ShaunHolden Honestly I didn't expect you to respond but I appreciate it. I searched up on KZbin something about disliking myself over past choices. I don't think that my entire mentality has changed or anything just yet but anything helps, seriously. By the way I'm only 18 and I'll be 19 soon, but I just feel like my past self wasn't the best influence on others. But anyway thanks man!

[@ShaunHolden]

@@cameronsanchez2204 Thank you for your vulnerability. A year has passed how are you feeling now?

[@Tharun786]

Great video Shaun. Really thought provoking.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you my friend! I appreciate it glad it’s done exactly what it was intended for!

[@lifeinperspective5327]

Mistake: I had a bad habit of playing not to lose once I succeeded at something. Rather than keep going I'd play defense and scarce and ended up losing anyway. I've now remedied it and no longer beat myself up for it. 🍻🥂

[@ShaunHolden]

Yes Sir! I love that attitude :) Good for you my brother !

[@garethmitchell642]

Well done mate deffo good points this week hope to see you soon for catch up

[@ShaunHolden]

Gareth Mitchell I think it’s really relatable to us all. Regardless, we’ve all made mistakes! Thank you for watching

[@garethmitchell642]

yeah deffo. everyones made a mistake no ones perfct its a learning curve that we got to take

[@ShaunHolden]

Gareth Mitchell yes sir! Love this! I’ll always remember how supportive you’ve been!

[@MB-wk5lc]

Great video :)) and a very kind manner

[@ShaunHolden]

You are so kind! Thank you! How did you come across my work? Shaun

[@trishahunt79]

Hey Shaun! Here showing love from RGs page. 😉 Keep up the good work.

[@ShaunHolden]

Wow thank you so much I appreciate your support ❤️ it’s so nice to see people come from Rich saying my content is good so thank you x

[@EuanCopeland]

Im ready for this boss 🙌🏻

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you my friend appreciate it mate!

[@EuanCopeland]

@@ShaunHolden very welcome!

[@CaseAlcala]

Let's go Mr. GUY! Hehehe! You are absolutely killing it and 100% valuable. Never stop, please know ill support you til the end, no matter how much I lose track and forget to comment/like for you ❤

[@ShaunHolden]

You are very welcome thanks so much for watching I really appreciate you turning up to support me. It means a lot to me, I really mean that!

[@michele8760]

It was a really helpful video! Thank you very much!

[@ShaunHolden]

I am very glad it was useful for you. Thank you for leaving your comment and letting me know that this was really helpful. ❤️

[@ShaunHolden]

Have you dealt with this issue now?

[@ShaunHolden]

I hope this helps!

[@kasarajaxen-gray770]

Thank You 🙏🏻

[@ShaunHolden]

For what?

[@ShaunHolden]

Did it help?

[@Allycastlemakeup]

Thank you Shaun! This has been really really helpful and thank you so much for the good for thought too. Me, I’ve done a Million mistakes! Lol yikes! Just kidding. God bless you and all your love ones!!! Your puppy is so cute!!!

[@ShaunHolden]

There is nothing wrong with making mistakes! We all do it. Thank you for watching! :)

[@evangeliamintzai6302]

Such a cute puppy! I think that what you help you not being mean with others when they don't understand your point is to read about the 16 personalities from MBTI. Ask your friends to take the test and then see how to handle different personalities. About past mistakes, oh boy, so many. But I always try to apologize shortly after.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you very much I will certainly do this, thank you I always find your comments helpful and informative. I appreciate you being here, I really do. So thank you 😊 I need to catch up on your last 2 videos I think too x

[@evangeliamintzai6302]

@@ShaunHolden no worries and no rush! They are there, not going anywhere 😊.

[@ireneangelucci3733]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@ShaunHolden]

No problem Irene. I understand that this video isn’t going to help you go through the process alone. Therefore you can check all the other videos out on my channel they will help you with the process of self forgiveness!

[@ShaunHolden]

This might help you too... www.shaunholdenlifecoaching.co.uk/self-forgiveness-system

[@KamuanyaDesigns]

Nice to see you Kenny, I've seen your arrival on Instagram lol!! Something I hold onto a lot is the decisions that I made too late in life, like being a full time artist. I often think that I'd be so much closer to my goal if I'd just started my art business when I was younger. Now, I feel like an old lady among little girls sometimes and it shows me down.

[@ShaunHolden]

I honestly believe this and it’s that we are exactly where we are supposed to be right now. I often think about if I’d have started things earlier I wouldn’t be doing what I love now. I nearly took a new exciting job before I started this channel and never, I am so glad I didn’t too! Age is wisdom, don’t beat yourself up about it! X

[@KamuanyaDesigns]

@@ShaunHolden thanks!!🙏🏾

[@ShaunHolden]

@@KamuanyaDesigns how are you getting on stranger?

[@KamuanyaDesigns]

@@ShaunHolden Heyyy, I'm doing alright! Busy with loads of client work and art commissions as the holidays get closer. Good to hear from you friend :). How have you been!?

[@evelynquesada5698]

Super important topic!! love it thank you!

[@ShaunHolden]

You are so welcome!

[@succeedinfinance9344]

NIce video, good insights. Personal psychology is a very important. You won one more friend.

[@ShaunHolden]

Absolutely! Thank you for being here :)

[@jackiec.7055]

Thank you

[@ShaunHolden]

Anything you need let me know. Happy to help.

[@ShaunHolden]

There’s a new video dropped that I think will be helpful too on my channel. It’s the latest one

[@fififinance7469]

interesting video, and i think mindset plays such an important part for all facets of life. I appreciate that learning and developing as a person is dynamic, mistakes will happen and try to learn from them write down what you learned (I do it in my check out journal for the day) and also any principles that I have learned. One important thing I do is weeding, he he, life is too short for those that dont care or have genuine support for me. Cant deal with negativity so no need to try and reverse or please them... liberating to let it go and move forward!

[@ShaunHolden]

You are very welcome thanks so much for watching I really appreciate you turning up to support me. It means a lot to me, I really mean that! Mindset plays more of a part in our life than we realise :)

[@millennialgeisha2192]

I thought I forgave myself for a season that happened 3 years ago. Some that were involved haven't forgiven me, though I've apologized. I feel like everytime it comes up, I'm blamed all over again. I won't blame myself anymore, I can't change what happened. I don't know how to make them feel better. So sometimes I feel like just running away to reinvent myself. Where noone knows, or at least I wouldn't be reminded. But I'm sure I'll have to life with this, but do you have a suggestion that might make it easier? Perhaps a response that would shut them down, stern, but still polite. I appreciate your work. Mahalo

[@millennialgeisha2192]

I forgot to add, that each person I apologized to was via a conversation, not just an "I'm sorry." An admittance of guilt/remorse, the why behind it & the assurance that it wouldn't happen a 2nd time.

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello Millennial Geisha. I really wanted to say thank you for leaning into discomfort, being vulnerable and sharing this with me. From the bottom of my heart I truly appreciate it. I do have a suggestion for you to make it easier, its to make peace with the unfortunate idea that you can not do anything about those people not forgiving you, we all go through our own healing journey at our own pace. Some people are not ready to forgive the other person even if the person who did wrong has apologised profoundly. Lets take the whole Chris Rock and Will Smith fiasco for example, Will has apologised and reached out and Chris Rock has mentioned he is not ready to talk just yet and that shows you that everyone processes things differently and at their own pace. In terms of shutting them down in a stern but polite way. I would offer a suggestion that can come in the form of a quote: "say what you mean, but without saying it mean." Unfortunately, we can never guarantee other people's forgiveness, that's why the exercise of forgiving ourselves is SO powerful and vital to our development. If you have any questions you can reach me on my email or Instagram, I hope the content I provide on my channel continues to help you as much as this video has. Shaun x

[@ShaunHolden]

@@millennialgeisha2192 Have you managed to solve this problem?

[@noserialkiller3596]

A helpful video, thanks! No Serial Killer.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you for watching!

[@noserialkiller3596]

@@ShaunHolden You're welcome!

[@ShaunHolden]

@@noserialkiller3596there’s a new one that I think you might like too. P.s cool name!

[@noserialkiller3596]

@@ShaunHolden I'll check it out, thanks! No Serial Killer is a music concept designed to eliminate murder from society. We've done an epic quadruple-album on Bandcamp. Thanks for your comment! No Serial Killer.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@noserialkiller3596 Wow thats phenomenal, I have never heard of bandcamp before can I just find this online? What genre is it?

[@surajdey3781]

This so good Shaun love it ❤️!!!

[@ShaunHolden]

Suraj Dey thank you what do you think about the question I asked? I am interested to know your take?

[@surajdey3781]

Shaun Holden forgiving yourself is a must as if one can not forgive them selves they can’t forgive others also.

[@drrohanfonseca]

Thank you for being inspiring. Real food for thought.

[@ShaunHolden]

drrohanfonseca I’m glad you thought so for me I was thinking the same. Once I figured it out it really made me think! Thanks for watching!

[@ShaunHolden]

How are you my friend? Not seen you for a while?! I hope you are well!!

[@drrohanfonseca]

@@ShaunHolden All good mate. Have been following you but just too lazy to comment 😁

[@ShaunHolden]

@@drrohanfonseca hey don’t worry at all! You aren’t obligated to comment! Are you still creating?

[@Skibidi_Limestone6969]

I totally agree that is great advice thank you

[@ShaunHolden]

You are so welcome! Let me ask what made you search for this topic?

[@lbcreativedesigns9210]

Great one Mr Holden. Thanks again.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thanks for listening

[@myrnawenavarroweek4107]

Thank you 😊 by the way love your accent

[@ShaunHolden]

You are welcome. Thank you. This is an old video but glad it’s still helping others 🙂❤️

[@ArizonaInsider]

Can definitely see the improved camera quality! Great stuff.

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you buddy! I appreciate it I’m on my 11 pro now with better lighting! 👍

[@Angiebabyyy]

I’m patiently waiting 😌

[@ShaunHolden]

Angie’s World thank you my friend x

[@ShaunHolden]

Angie’s World hope you enjoyed it x

[@Angiebabyyy]

Shaun Holden i did , y’all the beauty of every of your video is that it helps with healing and growing in a unique name thanks Shaun

[@ShaunHolden]

Angie’s World wow that’s amazing to hear thank you so much it’s so great to hear that feedback

[@CoachKev0731]

Control what you can control. Stop harping on the mistake and figure out how you can start down the process of turning it into a success story. Mistakes are going to happen. How we react to them is our decision.

[@ShaunHolden]

Absolutely it’s sometimes so much harder to forgive ourselves than it is to forgive others! It’s so crazy. Thanks for being here bud! I’ll have to catch up on your latest videos as the puppy that you might have seen in this video has really been keeping me busy

[@stacybelcourt6492]

I hurt a man I truly loved. Feel so bad about. 😢I have been able to get past it

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey Stacy. Thanks for sharing! When was this? Are you ok! Shaun

[@ShaunHolden]

www.shaunholdenlifecoaching.co.uk/self-forgiveness-opt-in This will help!

[@ShaunHolden]

We have just uploaded something brand new!

[@andyspooner5533]

I have been beating myself up for years on my past mistakes. I’m 42 years old and I up until 6 months ago I was on a spending spree... buying/buying/buying. Because of it I have very little in savings and retirement. I try to forget about it but the guilt and worry eat me alive... I don’t know we’re to start on forgiving myself

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello Andy. I hope you are well. Thank you for sharing your story and being so open about it. Would you like to have a conversation about this? Forgiveness can be done and I would be happy to help you with this.

[@andyspooner5533]

@@ShaunHolden sure

[@ShaunHolden]

@@andyspooner5533 what is your email address? I will email you alternatively you can use the link in the description to book a call.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@andyspooner5533 Hello Andy. I never heard from you. I hope you are well. I am creating a programme on this subject as so many people seem to really struggle with it!

[@ShaunHolden]

@@andyspooner5533 I have not heard from you but this link should help my friend www.shaunholdenlifecoaching.co.uk/forgive-yourself-for-better-health-course

[@shireenshah639]

My mom had a serious illness and was in ICU and was bedridden for more than 6 months. Meanwhile dad had passed away and my relatives mocked at that situation. Humiliated me and mom a lot. I have never uttered a word against them i just kept quite. This had happened 3 years back i still cant forgive them. My mom had never humiliated or mocked any human in her life. She had never took things for granted. Still im angry with people who humiliated my mom. Sometimes i ignore sometimes i lose myself and get angry and it severely affects my health. I feel like some enzymes secretes and gets.severe stomach upset and it reflects on my lips that bleeds with cut.

[@ShaunHolden]

How are you feeling now? I feel this situation requires a lot of compassion to which the situation did not get. What is it you are angry with, them as individuals or the fact that your dad passed away during the difficult time ?

[@shireenshah639]

@@ShaunHolden im good now Im not worried for losing my dad coz everyone have to leave this world one day. I was angry with the behaviour of my relatives. Later i have started to focus on my works. I cant bear and dont like to keep negatives in me. Im trying to improve myself and keep my mind calm and would like to reach the thoughtless level... before i leave this world. I dont know whether.im capable or would universe allow access to be in a thoughtless state still i will try my best

[@ShaunHolden]

@@shireenshah639 How have you been coping with this?

[@Tiffanylouisekelly]

I'm sorry to hear about this, it's terrible 😢❤ My dad committed suicide back in 2022,& it got leaked in Cornwall live, there was a lot of trolls taking the mick out of him, I was so hurt. 😢

[@maybeaoval2058]

My problem is difficult I did something terrible 3 years ago and my friend keeps teasing me about what I did and I can’t let it go. Any suggestions?

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey thanks for your comment how is this impacting you at the moment ?

[@panaderiatecnica5922]

First of all, we have to accept the mistake done in the past, whether you can fix it or not, our only choice is to learn from the experience. Everyone makes mistakes like myself. Once I’ve learned it was only a negative choice we decided to do that turned poorly. I call it a poor event, but in reality it doesn’t define after you take responsibility for it. For my experience, the feeling of guilt is only momentarily so keep pushing yourself forward everyday the negative thought appears in your head. You may not get over it in a day, but once you only focus on the lesson rather than the pain you will beautifully grow. Keep strong you can do it and have fun life is to short to stress out.

[@sumathybalaji5252]

Good post. Helpful

[@ShaunHolden]

What is it you came to this video for? Are you struggling at the moment?

[@sumathybalaji5252]

@@ShaunHolden on and off. Definitely, I feel better after I watched your video and few other videos. Thanks for your concern.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@sumathybalaji5252 Always here if you need anything! You can find me on Instagram too!

[@sumathybalaji5252]

Thank you Shaun .

[@dietitianmanisha]

Ohh my god the way kenny looked at you !!! True love 🤗

[@ShaunHolden]

Ahhh he’s adorable I appreciate you watching what is one mistake you have made? X

[@napolipompeii9240]

Thanks Shaun. 🤗

[@ShaunHolden]

You are welcome it’s what I’m on the platform for, to help others. How did you find it? What was your favourite part?

[@napolipompeii9240]

@@ShaunHolden firstly, I follow you on Instagram. Secondly, I think this particular discussion is poignant because we as adults rarely forgive ourselves for even the most simple mistakes. Thank you and keep up the great work. 🤗

[@ShaunHolden]

Napoli Pompeii firstly I apologise I meant how did you find the video, I know I have you on IG. I agree, we do this too much that’s the thing, we really do just punish ourselves so much but why? We wouldn’t do this to our children, it would be child abuse. Do you think you can relate to this in any way?

[@napolipompeii9240]

@@ShaunHolden shaun, I follow you because you speak truth. You identify issues and meet them head on..I appreciate that. I am a survivor and therefore I appreciate your discussion. Plz keep going thank you

[@ShaunHolden]

Napoli Pompeii wow thank you so much it is comments like that which keeps me motivate to post every single week for you. It takes me a while to do these videos but knowing that they are helping you and others it’s all time well spent 😊

[@queenfpbt1212]

I can't forgive myself.I hurt everyday the pain the shame and guilt is killing me on the inside.When I wake up everyday I'm so sad and wish I didn't.Self forgiveness is so hard to do😥

[@ievan5394]

Same. I'm so tired of it. I just want to be happy but sometimes I remember my past mistakes and thinking I don't deserve happiness 'cuz I took others' back then when I was younger. I said sorry but it was not a proper apology, I really want to tell them once more that I'm sorry and I regret what I've done. Unfortunately we've lost-contact since my apologies. I feel guilty for a long time, but these past months are like the worst phase of it, I feel like I haven't beaten myself enough. It affects my present so much. I'm scared to make friends 'cuz I don't want to hurt them, but I feel lonely all the time. I did my best to help people and trying to be a better person, but at the end of the day I always see myself as a bad person. Self forgiveness is indeed hard. Sorry for my terrible English, not my first language. And sorry for literally sharing my personal story to you, a complete stranger. I just... don't have a friend to share with.

[@queenfpbt1212]

@@ievan5394 Thanks for sharing with me how you feel.Its good to know I'm not alone but it's also bad were suffering like we are.I can't enjoy anything anymore I feel like I'm a bad person who doesn't deserve anything good.Im so tired of pretending that I'm okay.I pray for you and I that we can at some point forgive ourselves🙏Wish you all the best.

[@ievan5394]

@@queenfpbt1212 Thank you so much. I, too, wish you all the very best in life, take care! 💗

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello. I completely understand where you are coming from. This is HARD it is not easy but it CAN be done. If you would like some support we can jump on a call and focus on helping you with this?

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello. Wow, what courage and bravery you have for being so open about your journey and your story around this. You are not a bad person, we make mistakes we are human, it is natural. There is no book on how to be a perfect human being, we make mistakes and sometimes this comes at the cost of hurting the ones we hold dearest. You can forgive yourself, it takes time but it can be done. Would you like some help with this? Shaun

[@Tiffanylouisekelly]

Aww your dog is so cute ❤❤

[@LaurenRogers59]

Love this video x

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you Lauren. What did you love about it?

[@LaurenRogers59]

@@ShaunHolden I just loved it because it is very relatable. Xx

[@sebastianking5271]

I’ve hurt people and have caused people to become from happy and carefree to angry and hurt like me and I just can’t

[@ShaunHolden]

Hurt people hurt people. Have you tried to heal your pain, agony and hurt? Shaun

[@drewtrulock333]

i did somethibg pathetic and cowardly and hurt a good person who liked me and played with her letting my demons get the best of me. idk how bad it hurt her but seeing how bad it hurt me i could only imagine. the only way to move forward is to forgivr myself its a process when you screwed up something beautiful

[@ShaunHolden]

Drew - I feel you. This is so familiar. I appreciate you sharing your story how are you feeling about it all now? Shaun

[@drewtrulock333]

@@ShaunHolden a little better but its still pretty hard some moments are good some i still feel terrible

[@nathanielwiley4226]

I haven't accepted myself as a depressed person. Someone hung up on me from a store when I was joking around and asking a question in a funny way. Second time I called, I asked if it was necessary for her to do that cause I asked a question but in a joking but serious way, but she did it again. so I went and through something to teach a lesson but I got banned and then later I felt really horrible for what I did to her. Plus I haven't accepted myself from my feelings of desires of liking guys that I'd didn't know Sex orientation comes from feelings and desires. I felt bad about it that still of this day, I dwell alot on it. Wished I could turn back time to redo everything.😥😭 That was what I did and I'm sorry I ever did it. I wished I was never such an angry person in my past.

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello my friend thank you for being open, honest and vulnerable. Is this something you have managed to accept now? Or are you still struggling? I would be happy to speak with you if you feel this will help! 🙂

[@amycurtis7954]

Ah! I'm not able to watch at that time. I wish I was!

[@ShaunHolden]

Amy Curtis thank you. As long as you can watch it I’m grateful for whenever you can ♥️

[@johnrainsman6650]

I'm not so sure I can forgive myself. I feel like what happened at work defines me. I was taken to my supervisor's office with her and a high-ranking chef. They (or mostly the chef) told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much. Not THAT type of touch, of course not! Just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. I was always very outgoing at work. When I asked her if anyone reported a complaint, she said it didn't matter. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, and that I pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school (I work at a university's catering service). She told me I shouldn't tell my stories because they may be inappropriate to my coworkers. Now yeah, I pretty much don't have a filter, and sometimes I guess I do say inappropriate stuff at work, but not horribly nor intentionally. I like to joke around and have fun with my coworkers (and I know they like to have fun with each other too), but I guess it isn't like that after all (more or less). I really didn't get specific information from the chef about what and who. She understands and likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits, for good behavior and my coworkers' sake. And again, that I shouldn't touch my coworkers (shoulders or arms) without their consent. But seriously, I'm not a creep! I don't randomly hug people or anything like that. I didn't mean to be so "handsy" (I say loosely). I'm so embarrassed about the office lecture. I am not like Biden at all. I'm really not. Have I really gone that far at work? It shouldn't have gotten to that point. I'm an adult, not a kid who needs a timeout or a teenager who gets detention. I've been depressed and self-doubtful ever since. I wish I wasn't on the spectrum; allistics are so lucky.

[@ShaunHolden]

Do you want some help with this?

[@johnrainsman6650]

@@ShaunHolden yeah, your opinion

[@ShaunHolden]

​@@johnrainsman6650 I have given you my opinion on another post that you posted this exact same comment. What is not forgiving yourself holding you back from doing?

[@johnrainsman6650]

@@ShaunHolden I didn't even know I had commented on another of your videos; my memory isn't always so good To answer your question, it's the fact that I got myself _to that point:_ a lecture in my boss's office. _That's_ why I can't forgive myself. Makes me feel like a pathetic boy in a man's body, who is equivalent to an obnoxious detention-receiving high schooler. I'm down on my ASD. Allistics are so lucky

[@ShaunHolden]

I think maybe you need to check my latest video out then... As I dont think you realise the significant impact not forgiving yourself has on people..

[@obinnaukoha1380]

Lost a dream job because of my ignorance and stupidity. Lost an opportunity of a lifetime. It's hard to forgive this one

[@ShaunHolden]

You can do it absolutely! If you need some help please let me know !

[@obinnaukoha1380]

@@ShaunHolden some help will be great because I feel useless.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@obinnaukoha1380 Follow me on IG shaunholden_lifecoaching and we can talk

[@mditt7]

love your accent bro - is that Northern England somewhere?

[@ShaunHolden]

Hey my friend. Yes north west near Liverpool. I’ve been on the platform a little over a year but not consistent enough! This is an old video, did it help? Where are you from too? Shaun 🙂

[@sophielouise4551]

@@ShaunHolden I know this is an old video but I'm not on social media and I'm really struggling lately with getting past mistakes out of my mind. They are literally taking over me to the point I dont want to leave the house. It's just out of control now

[@ShaunHolden]

@@sophielouise4551 excellent work that you’re off social media good for you 👏 Not so excellent news you’re a struggling I’m so sorry to hear that. My email is in the description, pop me an email I’d be happy to help 🙂

[@ShaunHolden]

@@sophielouise4551 let me know if you need some support

[@ShaunHolden]

@@sophielouise4551 I have a quick question if I was to put together a short course on this would it be something you would be interested in?

[@meganoxtoby]

Your dog is super cute! :D

[@ShaunHolden]

You are so kind! Thank you!

[@FaHizasmomory50]

Stay connected

[@ShaunHolden]

You know indeed. Have you got a channel?

[@thecowboy9698]

What do you do with a woman you genuinely want to make things work with, but she keeps reminding you of a past mistake, not to mention, but anytime you have a disagreement, she never misses an opportunity to attack your character, and anytime you do screw up, she seemingly punishes you for it?

[@ShaunHolden]

Get rid of her. She clearly hasn’t forgiven you for the past mistake if she keeps throwing it in your face. She shouldn’t be judging you for your past you don’t live there anymore

[@ActTrix]

Very good advice, but I am now distracted by that adorable pup omg 😍

[@ShaunHolden]

ActTrix hahahaha thank you so much! I’ve not seen you on my channel before where did you find my channel? Do you have a channel too?

[@ActTrix]

@@ShaunHolden no problem 😊 I found it on Annie's group and yup I do acting videos 😊

[@ShaunHolden]

ActTrix awesome I’ll check you out shortly!

[@ActTrix]

@@ShaunHolden thank you 😊💗!

[@isaacwong4699]

I always easily to forgive others & I dunno why still can't forgive myself.

[@ShaunHolden]

There is a simple explanation for this my friend. Here is the thing, when we forgive others there is normal a victim (ourselves) and a perpetrator (the person) However, when it comes to self forgiveness we are both the victim and the perpetrator so it is a lot harder task. I am creating some content around forgiveness over the next couple of weeks so please keep your eyes peeled hopefully it will help you with this!

[@isaacwong4699]

@@ShaunHolden ok I can't wait for your presentation

[@ShaunHolden]

@@isaacwong4699 My friend, I have been working hard over the last few months to create something with this specific problem. Would this be something you would be interested in?

[@ShaunHolden]

This has been released

[@bishalgurung3225]

Hello sir I was a cashier in department store I made a mistake of taking cash from counter and not printing bill... My owner saw it and slap me and fired me from job..... I regret my mistake But i cannot overcome from this event I am in depression please give me some guidelines to overcome it

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello Bishal. I want to say thank you for being honest and letting me know about this. Have you apologised?

[@belindakokebe801]

I overreacted to a certain situation in my relationship and lied to my boyfriend and he wants nothing to do with me anymore......I want to learn how to forgive myself

[@ShaunHolden]

That is incredibly courageous of you, then you have come to the right place! I am proud of you for being an action taker. When do you want to start your self forgiveness journey?

[@belindakokebe801]

Immediately,I feel I've punished myself enough,it's really affecting my mental and physical health

[@ShaunHolden]

@@belindakokebe801 Lets get to work then. Where are you from in the world?

[@ShaunHolden]

@@belindakokebe801 Are you serious about this? I can jump on a call with you over the next few days. Let me know!

[@josephnguyen4548]

What region of the United Kingdom are you from? I love your accent!

[@ShaunHolden]

The north west my friend. Thank you where are you from? 🙂

[@josephnguyen4548]

@@ShaunHolden I’m from America. I have a friend from southeast England and he sounds completely different from you. It’s crazy how there’re so many different accents in England. So you’re from northwest England ?

[@ShaunHolden]

@@josephnguyen4548 Joseph - Sorry I missed this, yes I am indeed! Where about in the South East?

[@josephnguyen4548]

@@ShaunHolden He’s from the London area!

[@ShaunHolden]

@@josephnguyen4548 Ahhh fair enough!

[@andreajohnson9850]

Sean. I had an affair while I was married. My husband had ED and unable to have sex. He was mostly uninterestee in showing affection or intimacy in other ways. So I turned to a former lover. I felt unwanted and undesired. The thing that bothers me the mist is that he suspected the affair and was upset but he is now passed away. No way to take it back.

[@ShaunHolden]

Hello Andrea. I am sorry to hear about this. How long have you been wrestling with this problem? You and over 12,000 other people seem to really be struggling with Self Forgiveness and I know millions of others will be too. How long ago was this? Shaun

[@andreajohnson9850]

My husband passed away in December. The affair ended 2 years prior.

[@ShaunHolden]

@@andreajohnson9850 Hello Andrea. The thing is there is no way to take anything back from the past. I would be happy to jump on a call with you over the next couple of weeks and see how I can help. Where are you from?

[@andreajohnson9850]

Savannah Ga

[@ShaunHolden]

@@andreajohnson9850 I would be happy to jump on a call and see if I can help you. There won't be a cost involved for the call either. Just happy to see if I can help you.

[@KairhanosGaming]

there's no making mine better. Straight up told my dad I was glad he was suffering on his death bed, guess I'm fucked.

[@ShaunHolden]

We say some mean things when we are not thinking straight - sounds like you regret it?

[@KairhanosGaming]

@@ShaunHolden yea, I spent many years trying to justify that I felt that way and said it. He was a drug addict and he beat the shit out of me. Because of that and what an even worse abuser I met online did to me I went through most of my life with a chip on my shoulder. I was a straight up cyberbully, said that to my dad and I refused to let anyone close even my own partners (poly relationship). I have spent the last several years trying to atone for it only to watch all the good I manage to accomplish get undone by someone else. I'm just at that impasse where the only thing I can do is recognize why I was that way and forgive myself. I can't keep living this way. I want to make it right but I have tried for years. Thanks for the video though it helped a bit.

[@orangebubblemindset]

Love your voice

[@ShaunHolden]

Thank you Angela. This was lovely to read, where did you come across my video? Shaun

[@niyellslife263]

I know this video is old,but I made a horrible mistake with my mom and sister and said some bad things ..I’m only 13 but I’m always beating my self up about it and thinking about how I hurt the people I love the most ..any advice?

[@ShaunHolden]

We all make mistakes. Hope you enjoyed it and it was helpful there are other videos here too for you on the channel to help.

[@niyellslife263]

@@ShaunHolden Thank you!