STOP SAYING THESE WORDS

"unalive" "seggs" "corn" MAKE IT STOP!! Ben is back this week to remind you that you ARE NOT in face "shadow banned", your content just SUCKS! Creators on TikTok have long made code words in lieu of saying the real thing in hopes of avoiding their account getting flagged, but things have gotten out of hand.
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[@CemeteryDxll]

Adults censoring their words while kids are literally saying swear words and shit openly is crazy fr 😨🧸

[@___F4ITH]

frrrrr

[@arianagrenade1]

My 4 y/o cousins are constantly swearing, they probably learned that from roaming freely around the internet 😦

[@CemeteryDxll]

@@arianagrenade1 whatttt not the 4 year olds too 😭

[@strxberry_luuvz]

@@arianagrenade1 bad parenting 101💪💪

[@Skrimbi]

​@@strxberry_luuvz good parenting, like the kids will learn some lessons ya know? Let em be free

[@billiesversionn]

I was telling my mom about how I started listening to your podcast and how I loved it and she goes "Ben is the hyper squirrelly kid with the pescetarianism right?". When I tell you I dieeeed!!!

[@mayaa72]

best pfp ever.

[@karafoley729]

Aw thats so sweet

[@billiesversionn]

@@mayaa72 W fr!!

[@beebopbug]

lmfao pescetarianism sounds like a disease

[@emmyw6]

HAHAHAHHA PLEASE YOUR MOM SOUNDS SO SWEET

[@Monkeyinsecret]

FINALLY someone talks about this !!!! I’ve always hated when people would say bish as a LITERAL insult. I just can’t get over how much it annoys me 😢

[@green82929]

if someon unironically said this to me I’d unalive

[@k-s-n-p]

​@@green82929 well played 👏😌

[@TeddyK1ng]

“Bihh” makes me UNREASONABLY angry!!!

[@leep7136]

Or ahh

[@KysEcstacy]

Bish, shiz, ish and smol all give off the same unbearable annoying ass vibe

[@loveworm36]

it's really funny ben is complaining about people saying "seggs" when benji wouldn't be caught dead saying sex 😭

[@hanselmartinez762]

Frrrrr

[@AvocadoPsoriasis]

yOu MeAn UnAlIvEd??

[@alishbafatima2675]

He is so entertaining like he would just stare in to the camera and I would still be entertained

[@F3L1X_rules_all]

Nahh this comment is stolen Edit: I 100% agree tho

[@an0606]

same, srsly he looks so goofy (in a good way)

[@ILAVAMINIONS]

I know someone’s gonna say “ That’s creepy “ It’s a joke for whoever gonna comment that

[@user9182b4qh]

I used to try listening to all these podcasts, but because they were so long my short attention span couldn't last 10 minutes. Your podcast however keeps me listening for the entire video Tysm for being entertaining, your vids truly make my day:)

[@ChrisSmith-gv6ww]

Thats crazy

[@an0606]

if your attention span is about 10 minutes how do you pay attention to class or study and books and stuff? (Im just genuinely curious)

[@user9182b4qh]

@@an0606it’s not that my attention span is 10 minutes, I just get really bored listening to most podcasts and stop before I’ve even listened to ten minutes of it

[@deleted3945]

i agree with so much of this, i love ben and hes brought me lots of comfort especially bc he can express the feelings and opinions i cannot. With the tone text symbols such as /j /srs etc i use for ppl only bc me myself hates the fact that txt has no tone. i either use that or emojis. the thing “seggs” ive used once or twice as a joke in a group chat cus the context made it funny but that’s all. those are my thoughts on it

[@snufkin123]

hi Ben, just wanted to let you know that as an autistic person tone indicators can be very helpful, especially when people are being sarcastic as i and many other neurodivergents struggle with tones of voice both in person and online.

[@no1legobatmanfan]

snufkin ❤️❤️ i love the moomins

[@stellunacos]

yeah hope he sees this i’m kinda :(

[@haruokii.]

i agree, tone indicators help me a lot ^^ /ot but I love ur name sm :D /pos

[@Commentingstuff]

Yeah! I don’t believe I’m autistic myself, but I know someone that uses tone indicators (sometimes even out loud!) and I use them back, it’s not a huge chore or anything, and I personally don’t really see Ben’s issue with it :/

[@krows.demise69]

Yeahh I hope he sees this

[@chaoticsquidintuos1337]

I always thought censoring yourself unless necessary was stupid.

[@So-gu1vi]

Sameee

[@NoopyP]

20:35 A mosquito flew by me at this exact moment and I "unalived it" then and there. As the sound of the clap resonated in my studio, I heard Ben go "oh, a little fruitfly". Felt unreal.

[@trishfish6914]

/srs and /gen are tone indicators that help specifically autistic people who struggle with reading others emotions already on a day to day, but now they have the added challenge of doing it through a screen. i brought it up to my bf who agrees that using tone indicators would help a lot of confusion and prevent a lot of arguments. he doesnt like having to read between the lines and try to figure out what im actually feeling and i dont like being misunderstood. its just easier for us to use tone indicators in text

[@CousinCreepy]

Unalive, unhoused, self-deletion - all sinister "newspeak" - keep preaching brother!

[@mercurialrose]

This is actually an issue on tumblr, a lot of people on there use content filters that block certain words, but if you say unalived instead of suicide obviously those filters are gonna miss it and show people content that they don’t want to see.

[@AlaskaViolets_leftToeNail]

Honestly its really annoying seeing posts I dont want to see, and put in blockers to not see the posts as they are sometimes triggering or just uncomfortable to read. I think people need to just use the real words😭

[@lil-liv6724]

True

[@F3L1X_rules_all]

I love how Ben is so straight to the point about things in any topic. Also, he thinks of the smartest things to talk about on this podcast.

[@sarahmaliah]

i thing tiktok has made people forget that they are their own person, like you have free will to say whatever you want

[@killherqueen]

i think people on tiktok say what they want to say...

[@Pinkchainsawgirlie1234]

I’m autistic and I use tone indicators for actual accessibility needs, I’m not able to pick up on jokes that may seem obvious to most people. I think that a lot of people think “this joke was so obvious why’d they add the tone indicator it made the joke not funny” and they don’t realize that some people will actually need that. Tone indicators are so prevalent in my life that me and my friends actually use them in texts and whatnot to avoid confusion. It also felt a little off when you said “jokes are funnier with a little confusion/with the gullible people missing the joke” because I have spent 90% of my life confused because I don’t get social cues and I don’t need that to bleed into my online life. Also not all people are gullible because they are “stupid” some of us are just disabled!! Love your content 🫶

[@MrAjking808]

So all of you are in this comment section? Lmao 😂 this why I hate certain topics everyone claims to have something too

[@menheratenshi8040]

THANK YOU, FFS. as someone who doesn't use tiktok this censorship bleeding into irl dives me crazy.

[@shaquadradeloiserussell8659]

....stop saying "FFS".... that's exactly the point of this.

[@menheratenshi8040]

it just means for fuck's sake. it's the same idea as LOL , which wasn't intended for censorship either. just so you don't have to type more.@@shaquadradeloiserussell8659

[@pinkperfumefairy9205]

​@@shaquadradeloiserussell8659Stop using un capitalized letters. That's exactly the point of this.

[@shaquadradeloiserussell8659]

@@pinkperfumefairy9205 @pinkperfumefairy9205 my lack of capital letters, shows that I am more interested in getting straight to the point, rather than taking more excessive time, and losing focus, to make it as 100% college term approved as possible. using unnecessary profanity shows arrogance and a snarky mouth that is bigger than your brain, a lack of maturity; which doesn't look good when you need to deliver a relevant fact based report; it makes it harder for people to take you seriously. you also type these profane acronyms simply because you've seen a bunch of other people suddenly doing it, and you think it makes you look like you know what you're doing, a "know-it-all" ;when you're really just a brain dead copycat; blinded by society and the system. come back here to be our creative writing professor , when you think you're better qualified and more matured to give a better university style seminar lecture, without all that childishness. just imagine if Dr. Carl Sagan, and all those other professional science minded hotshot celebrities, had the nerve to display themselves to the public the way you just have. ridiculous. just god damn ridiculous. (Notice that the only thing I capitalized is Dr. Carl Sagan, but not god damn. ...I also didn't type it in an acronym, as if I'm scared my mom will whip my ass if I get caught saying it. ...Wussy Boy.)

[@fromtheblackplagueinfecteddark]

@@shaquadradeloiserussell8659ffs is just an abbreviation

[@ar1sah]

i totally agree!! it’s getting in my nerves when people use tiktok language irl

[@sokoertjx]

ben omfg you always say the things everyone is thinking but nobody says. ilysm please never stop doing podcasts and yt 🩷🩷🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@charliluckyluvs]

finally someone talked about this it’s pissed me off sm 😭

[@ProfessorUnknown0]

He’s so funny if he just simply just lived I would be cackling and wheezing on the floor

[@shawtybae7848]

i like your profile picture

[@ProfessorUnknown0]

@@shawtybae7848 I like yours better

[@That.0n3.w3irdo.Gl1tch]

And he succeeded at that 😂

[@addy4559]

26:09 they are called tone indicators btw ! lots of neurodivergent people use them.

[@peachy1835]

autism

[@eddie_xx1167]

i feel you like JUST SAY THE WORD i get if you don’t wanna get banned but YOU ARENT GOING TO GET BANNED IN REAL LIFE😭😭

[@lanascherries]

ppl are just chronically online

[@MrAjking808]

Yeah it’s porn on twitter & they still use these words lol

[@o.livi.o3]

my drama (kinda): i have these two friends, they used to hate each other and always said mean things about each other. that lasted for a while but then one day they became friends. now they barely ever talk to me, they hang out without me and it makes me kinda sad, idk what to do. 😕 ily ben, i already listened to this podcast earlier

[@robin_kaito]

Literally why do all trios end like that??

[@user-uk2fm7hq4m]

@@robin_kaito I am in a trio and to be honest we are good bffs it’s prob not all trios but I get it most trios do end like that

[@kyanluvsmen]

this exact thing happened to me before, imo js stop hanging out w them,ur not rlly gaining anything if the only thing you feel around them is sadness.

[@robin_kaito]

@@user-uk2fm7hq4m oh i was in a great trio for 3 years and then it ended like that

[@KysEcstacy]

Have the same shit happening to me, these 2 mfers are online all the fucking time but only respond to me once a month if im lucky. They tell me “if you ever need to talk im here” but after someone in my music circle killed himself they only responded a month after

[@ew-no]

the way ben was looking down at his phone for his lines during the liquid iv portions 😭😭

[@Shadesofmacca]

this is so real oh my godddd. I think the only thing that doesn’t bother me tooo much? The tone tags /j stuff. I personally don't use them but a lot of autistic people do cause they don't understand tone. I'm autistic aswell and I've had my fair share of meltdowns cause I don't get tone, but tone tags are still on thin ice for me.

[@funkensteinfrights]

what really sucks is when people misuse them and just completely destroy the point of them existing

[@twuffyy]

i dont think tone tags should be considered “thin ice”.. theyre used to help people who struggle with tone, as you said, and i understand you not using them (i don’t either), but saying theyre on “thin ice” is just weird to me idk?? this isn’t meant to be hostile or anything just putting it out there :^)

[@snufkin123]

I'm also autistic, and I think for me tone tags are very helpful

[@rottingstarz]

​@@snufkin123 love your pfp

[@aspen_equestrian610]

@@twuffyy yess, as someone who needs people to use them, its really annoying when people are like "oMg ThEyRe LiKE sO aNnOyInG"

[@kyeducky]

i don't wanna come across as a fucking keyboard warrior or anything, but as an autistic person I do find tone indicators (/j, /srs, /gen) pretty helpful when talking to people online and stuff. however I do agree that there's people online that's use them excessively. for example if someone said smtn like "I love cats! /gen" like that's fine and dandy but it couldn't have been taken differently tone wise and therefore didn't need the tone indicator because neurodivergent people aren't dumb. I personally only need them when someone is being subtly sarcastic or saying smtn like "I hate you. /j". I also think that (given they're not excessively used) tone indicators can be needed in online posts, because while I could hypothetically go into the comments and ask about it, that in a way singles me out and it would just be nicer to read it and understand it the first time like your average neurotypical person would. when used correctly, tone indicators just make neurodivergent people feel less different and help someone like myself understand people's tone when that help is needed. ^-^

[@junedaniel2981]

THIS!!!!!!!

[@KatKiwi_]

THIS ^^^

[@jennysomething3666]

Like imagine being murdered and some teenager on tiktok says you were "UNALIVED" I will literally scream

[@lucymartin7051]

i get everything else but like tone indicators are really useful😭 to be fair though they can be used a lot, i think tone indicators matter mostly in like private messages not as much when its like online with everyone

[@n1na_588]

Yess

[@ruby.koman.]

oh my fricking gosh. you are so fricking right. i am literally unalived by ben’s funniness. and dude… i can’t believe you actually said……. seggs…. my bad, my bad. my posts have been getting shadow banned recently and I’m pretty sure it’s because I said CR@P in one of my videos. ugh. i’m such a baddie.

[@elliephilly]

every time i have heard someone say the word 'unalive' i have physically curled into a ball with cringe i hate it so much

[@onthelevel1]

thank you for reading my drama and helping! it is really reassuring to know i’m not alone and someone else has been in a situation like that. you’re awesome ! ❤️ 31:48

[@my-pfp-is-my-crush]

UR SO LUCKYYYY

[@rachelwarbeck6585]

How's it going for you now??

[@pixie_himzy]

aww ur so lucky but im really sorry ur going through that:( remember to stick up for yourself ! hope all is going well now

[@deepsea5348]

4:55 MORT??

[@ParaTara]

I’m not sure about TikTok’s rules around shadowbanning disabled ppl (ect) but it’s still a thing with Instagram. I just interviewed with them & explained extensively why their monetization policies are harmful & unnecessary when it comes to limiting monetization if you post something “polarizing” about disability. For example, you could say “all buildings should have ramps for disabled ppl,” and it COULD very well be polarizing, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad statement. It means we have a lot of work to do. Another policy limits monetization if you show “explicit” content about bodily functions, but several disabled creators post things like that strictly for awareness. and example would be a person posting how catheters work & why they are necessary. Another example could be someone showing their stoma. Their body may look or perform differently, but it’s not unhealthy or bad. It’s just the spectrum of human/bodily diversity. IG shouldn’t limit ppl who just ✨woke up like this✨ and simply decided to show themselves on camera. So, YES Instagram still does that but I’m not sure about tiktok. They seemed receptive to what I was saying though & hopefully they will change it soon.

[@Brwnsz]

my drama :), me and my bestfriend are pretty much sisters and are inseparable, this girl from one of our previous friend groups started hanging out w us and at first we didn’t mind she’s nice and all but over time we started to notice how self centred she is (literally only ever talks ab herself or makes our problems ab her) but it’s not like we are just going to say “stop hanging out with us” bc we obviously don’t want to hurt her feelings but at the same time we really just want her to stop she is so toxic, we rlly need ur advice Ben 😭 sorry this is long lol

[@KysEcstacy]

Hesitating isnt gonna help, imo its better for someone to know when they arent wanted but thats just me. You could format it more politely if you wish

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

In your mind, it's going to sound bad because you're making it sound bad lool As long as you word it correctly, then all should be okay It's pointless and will only cause more harm to all you guys to continue it And will just hurt more And besides, you should *always* call people out on their bull when it comes to harm But ofc, it doesn't have to be in a way you're being toxic either But, you don't have to completely isolate her if you don't feel it's best, you could always talk about it and *then* isolate *if* she continues If not, then you can just let her know the problem in a polite way, and how you hope for her the best but you guys don't feel it's best to continue being friends Hope all goes well/is well ! And hope the best for you and your bff And sorry that that happened -- always is disappointing smh

[@donanopalitos3194]

I get so excited when Ben post's. I'm glad your Okay Ben. ❤

[@donanopalitos3194]

How did my comment get 35 likes!??🫢🫢

[@xylnem]

@@donanopalitos319450 now bae🤪

[@jay69419]

This podcast is like the only thing keeping me alive lmao the way I wait every week and just keep refreshing Ben's channel until Ben posts a new episode lol. And with all the old episodes I just relisten and fall asleep to them. I love this podcast so much it's really helped me through some rough times ❤❤❤

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

I hope you're doing alright ! N also hope you have/find other things for in case he ever goes inactive or somethin' 👍

[@Jebzzzster]

As someone who can't read sarcasm or get jokes the /srs or /j is important to me so I understand, however sometimes it's super obvious if someone is joking or not, people sometimes ignore them, and sometimes I don't even know which one to use. Other than that I think they're really helpful, and jokes are supposed to be funny, but they cannot be funny if I'm confused.

[@blueisthebrightestcolor]

im neurodivergent (autistic + adhd) and tone tags were invented by neurodivergents , for neurodivergents . and most people who use tone tags Are autistic . tone tags are very necessary for a lot of us . most of the time , when people use tone tags in EVERYTHING they say , they’re probably autistic (or , they’ve been asked to use tone tags more , and they wanted to do so) .

[@simonthechipmunk5091]

i appreciate fine tags because i’m autistic and often times when i don’t understand a joke or sarcasm i get made fun of or i’ll think people are mad at me when they arent

[@Yourlocalbaddiebestie]

I’m not the type of person to listen to podcasts I can barely watch a live stream without clicking off but yours has me hooked

[@romanrosee]

DRAMA🤞 So I’m trans but not out(to a lot of people)and not transitioned so I look like a girl, most people who don’t know call me she and I don’t get upset unless I’m out to them. My friend who is ‘friends’ with these two girls(we don’t like them at all)told them I was trans just because I come up in conversation sometimes and my friend doesn’t want me being misgendered. I don’t even know these two girls that well btw, never done anything bad to them. My friend said that they would misgender me all the time even after she told them I go by he/him and when they would actually call me the correct pronouns they would say it sarcastically..I also have classes with them so I want to confront them really bad but I’m a little scared because I’m just like that😢

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

I'm sorry to hear 🙁 that's always a hard N complicated thing to deal with it's fr not that hard man -- the same way it wouldn't be hard of me to use "he/him" for them like ? have fun being uncomfortable ya'll !! but seriously -- I get disagreeing with it, but I don't understand the hatred for the people -- hadn't we practically gone over this with history of people wearing things that others disagreed with (and heck even got arrested for ? {from what I remember}) If you can, considering you want to, perhaps try finding them online and doing it that way ? And if not, perhaps you can ask if you can confront them together with your friend if you feel that'll help ? And if not that either, then maybe if there's a trusted adult around ? (unfortunately seems rare when it comes to these kinds of things though) If none of those, then I hope you get the courage And if not or if you do but they don't stop, then unfortunately you'll just have to try your best to cope with the bad of the world N us peeps who aren't like that'll be here to respect you I'm glad to know you have a friend Bit weird they hang out with them though ? sounds they should distance themself from them -- especially as knowing that stuffs only hurts But yeah -- hope for the best for you and your sitch 👍

[@Hara877]

The way “seggs” feels so crude and violating to the ears… like why does the censored version sound so much worse than the regular word??

[@Transboiii123]

I don’t know why but when Ben says any curse word or really any word that’s considered “bad” (I,e: body parts) it just makes me laugh- it’s just his annunciation of the words is so entertaining and I love it-

[@Lily-gb9yd]

I find it so hard to focus on something and I never really watch KZbin or podcasts as I find it difficult not to get bored or distracted but your videos are so entertaining and are like some of the only videos I can sit down and watch without having to do something in the background

[@cherrytomatoes2613]

This is one of the only videos over 25 minutes long I actually finished. This was extremely interesting, thank you very much for sharing your opinion.

[@A.69.-]

Ben physically cant be boring. Always entertaining

[@lynnied3ar]

bro u say things everyone thinks about but they dont bring it up and its not just typical stuff its like really specific shit like idk why but its so entertaining to see it like being worded out from another persons perspective anyways us fans have unconditional love for u u ate wit this podcast

[@RubeVerreth]

From now on let’s say “S🥚🥚”instead of “seggs”

[@drpeppercats]

i only use algo speak for like tiktok, tiktok comments specifically because they take that shit DOWNN but yea irl is insane lmaoo 💀

[@natalie_falzone]

i love ur podcasts thanks ben ❤

[@nadjamasic]

i used to have a friend who used to always blur cure words in texts, is was so annoying 😭😭

[@massivecat555]

naw THE “I don’t care it’s a freee country 🤓” AT THE START IS SENDING ME!

[@RaiNKyle_]

I feel like some people say unalived because the thought or word death or dead triggers people, same for sex too, BUT BESIDES THAT I HONESTLY AGREE UNLESS ITS SOMETHING THAT TRIGGERS SOMEONE THEYRE TALKING TO ITS ANNOYING

[@joostkleinfan2009]

MY DRAMAA: so I have this one friend who’s in a super toxic relationship to the point where there’s been multiple times where she’s come to school crying over her girlfriend. She’s told me and my friends about the relationship for MONTHS and despite us urging to break up, she says she CANT since her girlfriend is connected to her entire friend group (if she breaks up her whole friend group will drop her). She told us she will break up over the summer but the relationship is so clearly hurting her. Do we keep urging her to break up or should we just let her wait until summer????

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

(my advice in case he may not see) aw damn that's always really sad and hard to deal with for both sides That friend group is toxic if instead of supporting her, they'll drop her Even if they're good to her, they clearly aren't good enough friends as to do that unfortunately Well -- there comes a certain point in which you can't do much else But keep in mind yk her feelings as well -- make sure you're not gonna be hurting her as well by constantly telling her -- it is up to her after all and she knows what she needs to do N you've told her many times already, so she can only now help herself But perhaps the best thing you can do is say it one last time ? let her know how you feel about it again -- but add on how you just have to let her make the good decision and how you hope she will -- how you can't say much else but how you'll be there to support her and do what you can to make her feel the opposite of what her toxic gf makes her feel N leave it as that N just see what happens N hope for the best Make sure yk you're not being harmed either by the whole situation Hope for the best ! 👍

[@SALEM_STARR]

As someone with autism, I need tone indicators.

[@zzag5356]

My drama is i got sent to my principles office for having a meme of jyp (really old ugly company owner) in the back of my phone and someone asked who he was and i said my bf and a teacher overheard and flagged me up. I was sent to the office and was presented with my parents then told i will be recieving counselling and they will be contacting the police if i wanted to due to me being in a “relationship with an adult” like hello as if im dating jyp like ??? It was awful and i had to have a conversation with my parents🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍

[@orteney.]

jyp… AS IN THE KPOP/ENTERTAINMENT GROUP 😭😭😭

[@zzag5356]

@@orteney. YES

[@justkiri3342]

Not JYP... who's never even seen you... 💀

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

LMAO that's literally a cartoon moment -- but the serious part of it bro -- I'm sorry abt that it's good to hear though your school at least does something about that ? though that kinda sounds they took drastic measures before anything -- hope you're doing alr now and all is solved and no rumors come from that or anything

[@zzag5356]

@@tranquillrainbows9493 its ok ppl were laughing 💀💀

[@shits-yourself]

TikTok is so sensitive too like I remember one time (before I deleted it) someone said that the word “slay” is a slur 💀 Edit: yes I am being fr

[@meee8993]

no fr and they think saying these substitutions irl makes them considerate or whatever like just say words, nobody is gonna cancel you irl if you do 😭

[@pepemillyco-zi7iu]

I'm late but I love this podcast and someone is finally talking about it it drives me crazy

[@mk-aka-morgan8386]

Language changes with time and culture, that’s why niches of people have specific slang or phrases that might not be common for other niches. I think it’s cool to see how Language continues to evolve with technology, and I don’t personally feel like tone indicators or online slang is really as big of an issue as you feel it is.

[@madvulcan8964]

I had a similar rant about this a few days a go. People really need to stop say unlalived, if you let other people control your speech its not just gonna mess with how you speak but also how you think. 0:46 Why didn't just you say the full world if your opposed to it? 7:04 Of curse the WP can say those words, their an elite chosen run company who are privilege to say what every they like. Their not tethered by rules meant for non inner circle members. 11:08 Trigger warning's are not useful and are just as damaging to peoples minds as also algospeak is.

[@Kikicat_Plays]

When I was a kid, I didn't like hearing or saying words like dead, life, or live. It made me overthink about things, so I didn't like to talk about it. But even so, I never said unalive and stuff like that. I just did my best to never mention that stuff, unless for school.

[@carlylicious]

those podcasts and his videos r the reason I still open KZbin some sort of excitement ❤

[@x-gate-gate-gate]

It is sad to see this trend. KZbin used to be the wild west where you could be real and be yourself and talk like how you talk in real life. Now people are scared to say things that are said on cable tv sitcoms. The way the tables have turned...

[@Violett4411]

I think people are just so scared of offending anyone but you’ll never be able to make everyone happy. People keep getting offended by stupid things no matter what so we may as well just speak normally like wth 😂🤷‍♀️

[@froghog]

this weeks drama is so relateable omg 😭

[@eloisemae]

my drammmaaaaa: i was friends with this guy like six months ago and i had the biggest crush on him. i found out he was taken and stopped telling people i liked him but my annoying ass friend ran around and told everyone. but anyways him and his gf broke up and i became best friends with his ex(this was like three months ago). he is in my science class and we were signed up to work on a project together. we had to meet up outside of school to finished it and he told me that he broke up with his gf because he said he liked me. i told him i would think about it. like i still like him and all i just don’t know what to say!!!! btw i love you ben and ur videos always make me laugh!!!

[@crwbrs]

BEN I LOVE U SO MUCH KEEP UP THE INSPIRING PODCASTS .

[@lemoncurd313]

one thing that always annoyed me, im not sure if this falls into the same category, but when people say things like "im gonna commit toaster bath" or shit like that i havent finished the vid yet so idk if u talk abt it or not

[@Tiffany_Sun]

This bugs me so much too! I’m glad I’m not the only one who hates it

[@ar1sah]

my drama: so today was my first day at work with my twin and my colleague wanted to differentiate between me and my twin. they just called me fat because i’m a bit chubbier than my twin. i’m very insecure with my look so this sent me to the edge :( i told my parents about it and they just said i’m overreacting because my weight is normal but i still can’t stop thinking about it.

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

wtf ?? who does that -- I hope you're doing okay that's not overreacting -- in your mind, it's something different -- and in the person's mind, they were clearly thinking of something different as well unfortunately, there'll *always* be people who'll think something like that so, as long as they're not telling you to change something that's bad (something that's not harming you or anyone else), then whatever they say shouldn't matter because there'll always be that *one* person who's unhappy with *something* about you just focus on being a good person, and you'll hopefully be okay 👍

[@ar1sah]

@@tranquillrainbows9493 thank you so much for your kind words!! i will definitely will remember your wise words! i’m still trying to embrace and accept how i look :)) thank you for making me feel better and valid

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

@@ar1sah yayy !! super glad to hear ! If it helps and if you can/don't already, try to find things that you feel suit you and your body -- that helps a ton And ofc not in an obsessive way, let yourself be comfortable N wear comfortable things (and omg some cute comfortable clothes I b seeing -- just💖) it's not fair to always need to dress up Just make sure whatever you may decide on, it's for you and you only and that it's not harming anyone ofc (including yourself) and yk -- no matter how you look, judging based on this interaction you seem like a nice person N that's what makes one truly shine -- at least in my eyes (always that one person who'll be happy with something !!) I hope for the best for you and your job ✨

[@ar1sah]

@@tranquillrainbows9493 AWWWW THAT’S VERY SWEET OF YOU im tearing up 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹 you’re a nice person yourself and thank you for making me smile through our short conversation!! i’ll keep your advice and your kind words in my mind

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

@@ar1sah FEEL I SHOULD SAY SOMETHING IN CAPS BACK BUT THE REST IS IN -- NON-CAPS LMAO BUT :SPARKLES: THERE WE GO same for you !! always so glad to have a convo like this means sm to me when it means sm to someone else I shall keepith this convo in mind as well. (lmao I can understand that N that sounds you did what was best for you which is gud!) awe -- gasp -- tysmm you have a good day as well (/evening/night/midnight lol) feel free to come back if you need or somethin' like that 👍

[@user-mt8vn7ds2w]

heres my drama: so i have these 2 besties and i love them so much, but one time they body shamed me, calling me flat chested, really skinny and stuff. I was really sad about it, almost cried, but i always hang out with them and i love them a lot. i dont know if im being dramatic, is it normal for friends to be like that? also i love u so much ben u are my comfort youtuber, thank u for all u do !!

[@glxwytxlips]

it’s not normal for friends to be like that.. friends don’t body shame, and I’m sorry you had to go through that :(

[@anukriti7511]

If you still wanna be friends with them or if they're mostly decent people: let them know that those terms make you uncomfortable or just them generally talking/joking about your body makes you uncomfortable. It might take them a while to start being mindful of it but if they outright refuse to put your comfort first, find new friends.

[@tranquillrainbows9493]

you're not being dramatic at all --- even if it seems stupid to someone else, it should be respected cause it's not stupid to you -- *especially* by your own friends I def understand that -- your friends are supposed to support you, and that should be one of them (supporting your body N all) -- not making you feel unsupoorted I'm sorry that happened -- I can only imagine -- especially for your bffs It depends -- for some people it's normal, and for some it's not And if you feel hurt by it, then that shows it's not normal for you and that should be respected That's why it needs to be talked about because since it's normal for some people, then they aren't aware yk they think everyone'll accept that I agree with the commenter anukriti Try talking to them about it and how it made you feel -- and if they continue to do so or express how they don't care when you told them, then as sad as it is and will be hard, it seems it'd be best to drop them cause those aren't true friends if that were the case, yk and'll only do you good to drop em' rather than letting it carry on I hope for the best for you

[@MIRR0RBALLLL]

these episodes waiting for me when i get home from class every wednesday is the best thing ever

[@shawtybae7848]

this literally 7 year old called me every insult on the planet, you dont have to censor your words

[@DolliPillz]

love you Ben

[@stinkypete7688]

i understand how tone tags can like look cringe, but when ur neurodivergent and cant tell if someone is joking, being serious, being platonic, being sarcastic, they really help. i do however hate when people say ‘slash es are es’ irl though, like bro just say u mean it seriously

[@alphinitawolfalpha]

At least someone is bothered about that too! Ty Ben! ❤ This video is giving me a headache 🤕 but listening to Ben my head kinda stoped(Btw I am commenting while watching the vid so heh). Ben is cringing during the whole video 😖

[@azcottage1082]

Omg a new episode finally😭 also are u gonna try playing security breach cuz I rly wanna see u play it lmaooo

[@glenjennett]

I've never liked slang talk, especially nowadays when new words come out and I have no idea what people are saying. Being a writer, I just prefer to use normal words when talking. It makes conversation less confusing. "Unalive" doesn't even make sense as a substitute for dead. As far as trigger warnings go, yes it's good to be sensitive sometimes, but you are going to come across things that make you uncomfortable, but that's part of being out in the world. You just have to learn to not let those kinds of things bother you if they do cross your path. Unfortunately, the world does not conform to how each of us would like it to be and we can't expect other people to always be sensitive to what might trigger us or get upset if we hear or see certain things.

[@anamlinar]

I heard someone use sewer slide for suicide. It took me a minute to figure out what they were talking about. It's absurd!

[@luvusm111]

THISS LMAO 😭someone said "side eye" out loud 5 times in one convo

[@ar1sah]

2 videos a DAY???? I LOVE YOU BEN

[@wamrainc176]

100% agree with you, every time I hear someone say unalived make me cringe so bad. There are literally no rhyme or reason for it

[@SaraVeryLittleBean_456]

I do agree like I swear it is so freaking annoying I swear

[@Chelseaoftheweek]

Drama: so one time I was at Costco and they were handing out samples and there was this lady that she wouldn’t give me or my grandma samples (we were the only brown people there) and we asked if we can have a sample and she told us to go away because she hates our people💀so I called later on told them her name and they said they received a lot of complains about her so she got fired and I never saw her again💀

[@karlym2159]

I completely agree with you with everything you said

[@kayerossiter9767]

Everything that Ben says I agree with love you Ben❤❤❤

[@Sillyman6969]

i agree especially if it's something serious like a certain crime and people say grape like it just feels like they arent taking it seriously

[@Katttt----1]

Frrr like just use the word, but put a warning at the beginning of the video so people wouldn’t get flashbacks

[@ar1sah]

the way ben got really stressed out while talking about this show how much it bothered him hdhdjdk

[@halaldoritos]

your videos perfectly describe my thoughts about everything

[@scarlettsinead2098]

similarly, "#fakebody" makes me literally cringe so bad like do people really think tiktok hasn't caught on that it basically just means "i am wearing a bikini" or something similar like it obviously doesn't do anything

[@mollss]

The "#fakebody" is a bypass for kids to post videos without getting banned lol

[@novabobova]

I have genuinely never heard someone use the word unalive like that if I ever say that word which I only ever use if like context of suicide because I don’t like saying that word, it makes me uncomfortable but I have never heard someone go “sorry gram grams unalived” like what

[@kongoubongo1114]

There are other substitues that have been used for centuries and don't sound nearly as Orwellian. 'Kicked the bucket', 'bought the farm' or 'passed away'. 'She is no longer with us'. 'he had his way with her' or 'he tore off her clothes and defiled her'.

[@vickayy]

IVE BEEN WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO SAY THIS

[@kaierhiart]

FINALLY SOMEONE TALKS ABOUT THIS

[@uhh3457]

I think tone tags are good tho, just not using it in every single sentence, only when needed. People need it like neurodivergent or autistic people.

[@lemonadec0re]

Yeah

[@Lucyp714]

Drama: I’m in a small friend group of 4, and recently one of the friends has been lying to us but mainly me about a fake traumatic past she’s had and how a man was going to assault and SA her. Her mom however confirmed this story is false and I’m really not sure how to continue to be friends with her.

[@yeti_rex07]

Oh fr, there's also like some many better euphemisms for dead/death than "unalive" too

[@Buttwr]

I really hate when people in real life say stuff like “goofy ahhh” 1 it’s super overused and cringey 2 we’re not in Roblox, you can say ass.

[@musics4ves]

I heavily agree. it doesnt help its just annoying...