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[@PanchitoLopez-su2zn]

For me it’s that my family grew up poor and now that I live alone I have a well paid job so I feel the power of buying all the food I never got as a child…

[@crocodileranger8404]

I developed a food scarcity mindset because i grew up with so many siblings. When i got a gift as a child and it was candy or chocolate i would literally shove it down my throat right then and there no matter how big it was or if my stomach hurt later because i knew if i would bring it home my parents would force me to share it with all of my siblings. You couldn't just place a yogurt in the fridge and say oh i will eat this later, no it would just be gone the next time i checked. My mother would also always reprimand me and my sister when we wanted seconds and say that we should hold back and leave more food for my brothers because they are older and bigger and girls don't need to eat that much. Having a weightloss obsessed mother and a father who would literally hide candy around the house so he could eat in secret didn't help either. Moving out early and having my own place kind of freed me i know that my fridge and pantry are full and when i come back home everything will be there because it is mine.

[@MBlto]

god i felt this.

[@todoshuuandr8912]

Feel you, sis, glad you are better now

[@calvoekleiden8664]

Your parents made you share your gifts???

[@makylah4265]

Wow, It was the exact same for me. Tbh I’m just now realizing that this was a thing. I’ve been researching to find out why I’m like this. My mom growing up was overweight so she was so obsessed with losing it and would never get certain foods. Just strictly fruit and vegetables which was good but yk I was a kid I want candy and all of that. My stepdad would always bring home so many snacks and they would hide it in their bedroom. When my mom would actually get some for my siblings and I which was once a month, me and my siblings developed a scarcity mindset and would eat it within like 5 hours because we knew that it would be gone by tomorrow since it would also tempt my mom. Now that I have moved out I realized that since I have more freedom whenever I want something I get it because I feel like it’s my only opportunity and that I need it when in reality I know that’s not true but for some reason I still have that mindset because of how my parents were for almost my whole life. Of course now I’m trying to change it which is why I’m watching this video but I never really realized until I saw this comment.

[@susanhampton9671]

How many times did I gorge for today and PROMISE myself I would stop tomorrow? I wasted years of tomorrows! When you assess how much your addiction has stole from you, it is mindboggling...the amount of food involved, the cost of the food, the hiding certain foods. or eating small portions in light and bingeing in the dark. And then wear the excess calories on your body. Thank you for this video. It helped. =)

[@snoozyq9576]

I don't even know why Im like this. Food has never been scarce for me.

[@echo4572]

This really helped me realize that I sort of have a food scarcity mind set. Growing up, my mom would always tell me to eat less, even when I wasn't particularly overweight. Really, I was just growing naturally. So, whenever she wasn't around (i.e. at work/out) I would binge eat like mad, just gorging on whatever I could find in my house because I knew as soon as she came back home, I wouldn't be able to have any of those foods without fearing her judgment. This mentality has really screwed me over for years, and even now it feels impossible to break. I really want to get better, but as long as I live with my mom and she only sees me as a fat problem, I don't think it's possible. But until I can move out, I'm going to try my best :) Thank you so much for this video!

[@RevdUp.Art.Fotografer]

I believe she’s projecting her own ideas, opinions, and fears about herself onto you. That way she can attempt to ‘fix’ you instead of looking at her own life and taking responsibility for it. If you can remember that she’s talking to herself when she does that, it could very well help. I’m guessing that her mother did/said that to her when she was growing up. We can pass on only what we know.

[@echo4572]

@@RevdUp.Art.Fotografer thank you so much :)) ive thought about this before haha but ive never really tried thinking that she’s talking about herself

[@paulinemoira8442]

I grew up quite poor and while there was no scarcity in quantity or quality of food their was scarcity in diversity of food. Some things we would maybe get 2-3 times a year and so I got really obsessed with them. Moving out and being able to have those foods every day was such a bizarre experience.

[@LaurenElise.]

I want to share what this video allowed me to remind myself, in case anyone ever can relate. I started binging and craving food out of shame. My family growing up would make me feel like I wanted too much, so I used to hide it and eat when I could and no one was watching. Then secretly getting rid of evidence of me eating it. I was under 10 years old when this started and I am now 23 and aware of this issue but struggling very much to break the cycle of wanting to indulge in sweets in a overindulgent way then hide my actions. Sometimes I don't even want it, but i eat it anyways and that perplexes me.

[@priscilla5404]

I think you discovered something I always knew but I didn't know how to put into words. I grew up really poor. Food was never abailable, and for the most part, if I wanted to eat something that I'd bought for myself, I had to hide it. Now I socialize around food a lot: I love to cook for everyone else but myself, I think is my way of nurturing my loved ones... And I always binge with that feeling of "it's now or never". Once I started earning my own money and living on my own my weight escalated. I deal with it now aswell. I have to deal with my inner child and tell her we can eat freely and we don't need to be anxious about the food going away... thank you

[@caracho7191]

Oh I know how you feel! Same goes for me, except I wasn´t poor. My brother used to eat "my" food. That followed me my first years of living alone.

[@elisoukhi4370]

At first it didn't resonate with me at all, but as the video went on, I realised how it would describe me sooo well. When I am with my friends or family outside and I see them take some food, even though I am not very hungry, I would feel like missing out if I didn't take anything myself. As if it was an opportunity for me to eat something I've never eaten (even though I wasn't feeling hungry at all !), same thing when my family brings home desserts, dishes, etc. I feel like now that I understand it better, I can finally maybe feel at peace with food and myself !! Thank you !

[@Sarah-yj9zl]

Absolutely! my mom tells me you could eat this cake / dessert now or i'll send it to our neighbours. The thing is it's ramadan and i just broke my fast after 18 hours and my stomach can't handle dessert right now, but i know i will in 2 hours. I used to eat it right away and feel SICK! now i save me some and eat it when i'm comfortable.

[@chivas13b]

your talks help men too…i realised I have a scarcity mentality coz I restrict myself. I then overindulge when the opportunity arises coz I know I won’t have those foods again.

[@SofiaChannel06]

I grew up in a household obsessed with everything diet, be it my mom or dad. The fact that my mom is a dietitian (focused on weight loss) makes me aware of calories since I was 6 or 7, during which I also got introduced to "carbs bad" and was taught to only get a spoon of rice for each meal, well now that I'm writing this it's kind of heartbreaking haha. I was also taught from a young age on what foods are "bad" and "good", mind you my mom still had these 90's type of diet in mind even in the 2000's (to be honest, I'm a bit sorry for her clients...). She was always on a diet, understandably for the image she was presenting for her weight loss clients, and ate little that she always wants some of my food (sometimes even ate half of mine) and I had no option to decline. My dad was not much different, always diet this diet that, to the point that my worst memories about diet and body image is the moment when I was so happy when I got good grades and was told that I could go to my preferred university and apply for medicine, then when I went to tell my parents my father instead berated me for my weight instead. It was so out of nowhere (except the daily "you look fat") that it broke my heart and made me felt like all achievements are useless if I'm still fat, nonetheless I cried and everytime I remember that incident I can't help but cringe and hate my life. It was so stupidly unrelated but my brain can't help but think so. Thank you very much for making this short, yet meaningful video 💔 I'm so glad to read all these comments about similar stories to mine, and I wish everyone happiness

[@AB-ln2qk]

Sorry for your tough upbringing. 😢 Clean the slate and make your own rules. You’re in charge now! You know what’s right. 😊

[@cristelvin3731]

My dear, dont know where you are with your life but i sincerely hope that you find peace and that your life gets so filled with good people and good achievements that you can forget all of this

[@cindy8121]

I realized that my sense of urgency was based on a history with hypoglycaemia. Desire to avoid the unwanted and uncomfortable physical effects of low blood sugar affected my thinking about food so much!

[@catiephillips5239]

Thanks so much for this. This has been the best video I’ve seen explaining these topics and how to deal with them. Other videos I’ve seen have just said “stop seeing food as emotional regulation” without explaining what mindsets cause that. Beautifully articulated. ❤❤

[@Plottoberry]

I really used to have this mindset. Sometimes it still seeps in. But I do not have a scarcity of food. I have an abundance. I have money. I am fine. Like - if I dont eat this cake now, no problem. I will get the opportunity to eat a different cake in a week or two. For me, it was really upbringing and diet (and diet culture). My mum will never get rid of it. Me and my siblings did. My brother and I absolutely love food, love cooking, I think it will sadden us deeply to restrict ourselves with 'no more this or that'. I do restrict, but I have the 'just logic' state of mind. Like, I love cake, but I only take one piece per week. It makes cake so much more special and I get super happy when I go to a party, I look forward to having cake, like a child. Sounds silly but I'm happy about it? It is also more satisfying now because I allow myself to fully enjoy it.

[@milagrosluis8997]

Finding your channel changed my life

[@misfitsky]

i just found this video and wow… i’ve never heard it that way. i’ve struggled with binging for a very long time and this really helped me get into a different mindset. thank you for this.

[@Kakashi-Usagi]

This is what happens when you grow up in a big family. My parents would get the shopping once a week and they would get 1 or 2 treat things for the week. But if you didn’t eat them right away someone else would. So you’d always need to find them and eat your one straight away so you didn’t lose out on it.

[@senika]

I think I have a scarcity and guilt mindset. I often have cravings but I usually won't admit how big it is. I live with a friend of mine and sometimes we will watch a movie and have some snacks and candy, the thing is that I usually buy more of the snacks and hide some of it so I can eat more of it after my friend goes to bed. I often have the mindset that I have to buy more of the snacks/candy so I don't have to get the feeling of obsession if I don't feel satisfied with the things I "originally" was planing to eat.

[@koraXro]

For me it was my mother saying I eat too much, or that I shouldn't eat bread... she told my grandmother not to give me bread when I was 5, my grandmother's neighbour mentioned she gave me bread without my mom knowing because i was asking for it. Bread. This year I was home in was eating something I can't find in the country I live in now. My mother came over to see what I eat ( I knew she would) and said: wow, you eat so much, more than me. Mind you she's not skinny or fit. I looked at my childhood photos and I wasn't fat or chunky, just taller and not skinny. I confronted her and asked what's her problem with me and why was she like this all my life. She said only in the last years, not when i was a child. Her memories are different than mine. Bottom line, I love food, I think about food a lot, when i visit a place I look up whats good to eat ... I don't know how to give this mentality up. How do I just look at food as nourishment and not a goal or life goal 😢

[@hesterwright3674]

It's not just nourishment though. It's enjoyable too. I don't think people who have a healthy relationship with food see it purely as nourishment, they have snacks and enjoy food

[@kaley182]

Part of the reason I overeat is because I buy too much and cook too much. Therefore I don't want to waste food. I'm working on not buying so much! I'm glad I had this realization recently. 😊

[@Plottoberry]

Please get a freezer and freeze your food! Or invite people over, many people love to take a seat and just eat a fresh meal... don"t forget that many people dont like cooking so its a win-win.

[@ediblecrayons2382]

Unrelated but your voice is incredibly beautiful and soothing!

[@danhas9552]

Thank you so much for this. I cried as I was watching, felt healing. Thank you

[@mariettedunn2740]

Amazing, the same with me. Its the first time I found something described like this, spot on. Went through a lot of KZbin videos looking for why I am eating this way and is the first time I think I found the correct one. Thank you again.

[@NadaAlawadhi]

That’s me, let me indulge and have one final burger and fries and then that’s it, I’m going to start eating healthy and I will only order healthy options. And then it gets repetitive.

[@NerdishBookWorm]

You’re truly amazing for this. ❤

[@bruisedviolets]

it’s literally hell i can’t deal w it

[@Pizzaqueen17]

Thanks!

[@osatoogiamien1574]

This is so insightful!

[@samanthaharris2342]

I can't Thank you enough for this content 💕🙏

[@RachaelWrigley]

You're so welcome!

[@Heather-xm9ul]

My son and daughter are undersized because they were literally starved by their bio family. My daughter still doesn't grow because she still won't eat. My son is OBSESSED with food. He will point out every single restaurant, constantly check the pantry, constantly look at food in the garage, and even takes the grocery ads out of the mail. How in the hell do we get it to sink in that the food will not disappear if he stops staring at it?? It's not just annoying, it's a full blown obsession! How do we get it to sink in that he won't starve??

[@Heather-xm9ul]

@@RP-uu7oq both kids are in therapy

[@hannahwatkins7992]

That'll take a very long time. Just be patient. It's not easy to change learned behaviors, especially when they came from a place of trauma. It will likely still happen or affect them in adulthood too. That's just one reason why child abuse is so horrible. It can shape someone for the rest of their life. Just love them, don't let them know that their behaviors bother you. They could be developmentally delayed on top of all this due to being starved before.

[@karind.6103]

Thank you thank you, you are a savior and a very nice person ❤❤❤

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you! That's very kind of you ❤️

[@EmblaBexell]

Wow.. I really needed this

[@ComfortOnwe]

Your content is always amazing. Thank you for this. 💜

[@RachaelWrigley]

You are so welcome X

[@janicetelfer6211]

For me my mom made us eat very healthy and we were limited on eating treats. When I got out on my own I indulged more and gained weight I appreciate my mom's way of eating now and I have maintained my weight somewhat but I still go through stages like I feel rebellious I have to eat this and I Indulge. I can gain weight quickly too. I know how to get it off but I want this mindset gone!! I'm grateful my mom showed me how to stay healthy. It's literally saved my life. After a bad car accident I had to take alot of pain meds for nerve pain and after 7 years of trying different ones. The meds caused congestive heart failure. And the one good thing that helped me was I don't have clogged Arties because I ate very healthy for the most part. Is there some way I can get this mindset gone?? I really struggle with it. And I get very discouraged when I let loose. Cause I know I can gain 10 pounds easily now with heart failure as I cannot move alot because of pain ect. Grateful for any advice ❤

[@sineadryan4424]

I'm currently travelling around Asia and it's really exacerbated this scarcity mindset that I have around food. You've put into words so well why I'm eating so much in one go when the food is exposed to me even if I don't actually want it (but at the same time I do want it). How can I overcome this while backpacking through Asia when the foods that I do like are rare to come by / difficult to search for?

[@megabaneen8057]

makes so much sense

[@pharmclare]

Amazing inspiration video, thank you

[@amberhaynes2482]

I grew up with a single mom. We had barley enough. Times were really hard and it was ramen noodles every night. I remember treats being rare.

[@lamergirl3266]

i really needed this

[@Joy_Boobo]

Thanks for teaching

[@victoriacristina9610]

I feel like food(especially candy,chocolate) is the only thing that makes me feel really happy. My case is : - i eat,sometimes,someone else's food(my boss,my stepmother etc); -i also a few years ago I didn't pay some bills bc i spend with food - depending on how i am at the day, i eat until almost through up How do i find something else to makes me happy????? I have depression and feel like people don't want to be around me anymore

[@Plottoberry]

I relate to this. One thing that is also comforting is warmth and soft things. Take baths, lay under blankets, buy a huge teddy bear. Drink tea. Those things helped me when I was really depressed. Cuddling with cats or dogs (on yout lap) also helped.

[@clararodriguesart4360]

I suffer from this. My house is like that somedays we don't have food so when we have i become obsessed with it.

[@gabeangel8104]

Those are good ideas to deal with food scarcity driven eating but how do you cope with the issue if you CAN'T just go out and get more food whenever you want it: Poverty, physical issues with being able to eat (digestive conditions or food intolerances etc), mobility issues causing you to need someone else to shop for you or other reasons for limited access to shops, etc.

[@RachaelWrigley]

You're absolutely right. I'm afraid that this extends beyond my expertise and may require specialised input if you're struggling with your relationship with food and have these additional limitations ❤️

[@minas.831]

I have a guilt mindset it drives me crazy why should I be feeling bad for something I’m supposed to do fuel myself to keep going

[@NourishNutrients]

true...

[@tulipmars]

i’ve spent like $200 on doordash in the past month

[@user-to1fp5lk4v]

Who else starving while watching this video

[@EstherAnagirl-yy4id]

Hold on. I just hit a breakthrough

[@anhelaanhela4996]

I live with obese parents and idk when they decide to inhale the whole fridge...

[@HomemakerDaze]

What community on Facebook?

[@sammygetssmaller6751]

How much is your course? I'm struggling 😢

[@RachaelWrigley]

I won't put that information here but if you hop on to my waitlist (linked in description), you will hear all about it xx

[@lifeassaraa9967]

Please please please just know im so grateful for this. I can’t even tell you. I’m 20. I’ve struggled with everything you just said for years and years. I can’t remember not being completely consumed by food. I just had a baby & I’ve gained weight and it’s literally so damaging. My dad would tell me as a child someone might come in on a train and take me away and starve me. I felt like I needed to eat and eat. This is so encouraging. I’ve never heard it described this way 😭🤍🤍

[@RachaelWrigley]

I'm so glad that you found this helpful and comforting! Xx

[@kineret115]

I think that issues around food start in the childhood. I'm almost 20. I think about food almost all the time. When I was a child there was one time that my aunt and uncle took me to to the shop to help them and I was hungry but they didn't offer to buy me anything and it was for long time and for some reason I thought I will starve. There was another time that I used to eat a lot of tomatoes and It's not fattening food,but my mother has told me that I eat every second and that I will become obese

[@lifeassaraa9967]

@@kineret115 I’m also 20. Weirdly I feel a lot of people our age feel the same way. Wonder if it was our parents era

[@RevdUp.Art.Fotografer]

I’m so sorry your dad said that to you. It was extremely inappropriate, at the least.

[@minas.831]

What I don’t understand is there 7 billion people on this planet, and it takes 50 days for broccoli to grow but we need to eat everyday cause we burn calories just existing, and unless your rich and have property and land you can’t provide food for yourself. It’s like whoever put us on earth didn’t think about what we do to eat

[@Lflordecoco]

@rachael what's the name of your fb group?

[@InhaleSkyExhaleStars]

title: stop thinking about food all the time me: but i don't want to, food is my life 🥹😍

[@RachaelWrigley]

This doesn't apply to you if you're happy ❤️