Story of a Young Family returning to India after living in US for 9 years | NRI Life | Back to India

[@sreelathapendu]

We moved back 3 years back to India (Banglore) after living in California (san jose) for 10 years. I stayed for 10 years and my husband stayed for 14 years. We moved back on 10th May 2021 at the peak of corona time both in USA and India. It was a such thrilling and adventurous journey back to India that a proper movie can be made of the series of encounters that we faced during the period of March 2021 to October 2021. That time of our life was so unforgettable. If you call us for podcast we will be happy to share exciting and crazy rollercoaster of our moving back to India. It will be standalone comedy that everyone will enjoy... both people who have relocated and to India and those who wants to relocate to India. I liked this KZbin channel so much. Thank you so much for these videos.😂

[@DesiReturn]

Hi, Thanks a lot for reaching out. Would love to have your roller coaster story on our podcast. Can you please send a note to info @ desireturn .com or on Insta desireturn.official we can take it from there. Thanks and look forward to talking to you

[@suryakumari2487]

@@sreelathapendu we would love to watch your podcast You lease share your beautiful journey to India

[@sreelathapendu]

@@suryakumari2487 surely will share dear. Thank you for encouraging me 🙏

[@DesiReturn]

@@sreelathapendu Thanks for reaching out again. It went to spam for some reason. I got it and will follow-up via email. Thanks again

[@samtaba4215]

Hi Sreelatha please share your experience I watch every episode

[@savanthkumarnaidutrichinap1914]

Welcome to India for joining us. We are very happy for Indians returning back to India. Wish you all the best. Thank you.

[@DesiReturn]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts

[@indiancitizen8297]

We stayed in USA 5 years , UK 4 years.... settled back in India...having great time with family and friends

[@DesiReturn]

That’s fantastic. Great to hear that. What brought you to India?

[@indiancitizen8297]

@@DesiReturn My parents and in laws....most precious relations

[@raunaksant974]

In short conclusion of the discussion is Stay in USA if you don't like relatives Stay in India if you like relatives and social life.

[@DesiReturn]

😊

[@clairechloe5294]

😅😅😅

[@madhurisomayaji]

😅

[@dr.harishdhir9245]

I lived in Germany for twenty years and returned to India in 1981. It was difficult to adjust at that time. But today I feel happy to be back. India of Today is totally different than India of 1981. Better than Europe or the USA.

[@DesiReturn]

Wow. Been in India since 1981. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Would you be open to share your story on the podcast? Thanks

[@prannaymalu1624]

What a thoughtful process, and a great interview covering a lot of FAQs. Lovely!!

[@DesiReturn]

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[@sidhu0081]

This was such a nice conversation these guys had! Appreciate it man!😊

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks a lot for great feedback. Please share with others who can benefit from the content

[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks! Means a lot 😊

[@alokbrahma3395]

India Today is completely different from what it was a decade ago. Now there is no reason to settle abroad. We also moved back to India from Canada

[@DesiReturn]

True. Lot of development. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Would you be open to share your journey on the podcast?

[@bendover-bz4bc]

Can you drink tap water?

[@abhisheksingh-ns4dl]

Crime air pollution water pollution its just the start list goes on

[@sethuraj2850]

Thank you for sharing your thought process. Swathi and Anish, wish you all the BEST.

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.

[@atulkarde8589]

अनिश स्वाती, खूप छान कथन केलात तुमचा return Journey ...All the Best... भेटत राहू ...🎉

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching

[@sky301289]

Thanks for sharing your experience. An an NRI, fully agree with UPI experience.

[@DesiReturn]

Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts.

[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks 😊

[@Surendrachaluvadi-pb6pu]

I decided and returning back India in two weeks from now

[@DesiReturn]

Great. Congratulations and all the best👍

[@reshmiseerparsad8143]

This is a very personal decision n at least you guys lived previously in India.we r planning on moving after having got on numerous vacations there….most important is to understand why u r making the move, once u buy into that, you will be motivated to making the move a success….its a mindset basically

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts

[@reshmiseerparsad8143]

@DesiReturn best wishes to u n yr family

[@reshmiseerparsad8143]

Thnku

[@user-iz8ds9tw6b]

Made for eachother( Lovely Couple)❤God Bless❤ Jai Hind🇮🇳

[@DesiReturn]

Thank you. Yes they are and we are planning to bring them soon to see how things are going . Stay tuned

[@KG-ho7bj]

Hi Avinash, I know you put in a lot of preparation into these episodes. It would be good to lay out facts like the city they moved to in India, industry they work in, trigger point for moving back. Thanks!

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for the feedback and something we will look into.

[@ruchishinde5194]

Just a feedback, having chapters would be very helpful to viewers specially for long-form videos.

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for the feedback. Yes we have implemented chapters long time back. This is our first video. Most of our videos on channel have chapters.

[@shivarham]

Smart couple. Nice video. Thank you :)

[@DesiReturn]

Thank you!!

[@Antariksha]

I think it always feels like grass is greener on the other side. At the end of the day, we have to be practical. We would not move back to India anytime soon because we want our children to get good opportunities and education and the quality of life is much better here. Later in life, maybe. Stayed in Singapore and US for 15 years.

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. The key thing is what's important to you and your family and decide. All the best enjoy your time!

[@bostonlights2749]

You are doing a very good job! Kudos!

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts

[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks!

[@prathimahangal4491]

We are moving back to India, Pune in Nov 2024 after 6 long years, this is helping us to understand how things may work in future with us too…. Pls can u lil more focus on the kids education once moving back with any of the family faced….. So many thanks to u for helping out in terms of providing info nd planning atlst to some extent before moving😊

[@DesiReturn]

Congratulations!! Glad the content is helpful. There are few families who talked about their kids adjustment on the channel( one family switched from CBSE to IB, some fit well with CBSE etc.,) If there is a specific content you want us to bring, let us know. All the best with the move. Do you need a checklist for the move?

[@reshmiseerparsad8143]

Awesome, I also believe in spending time maximally with family and doing chores on my own

[@DesiReturn]

Great. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts

[@reshmiseerparsad8143]

@DesiReturn this is a lovely show...much appreciated, congrats to a wonderful host

[@DesiReturn]

@@reshmiseerparsad8143 Thanks a lot. We have been releasing one espisode every Thursday..We got more 60 families sharing their stories thus far.. Please check them out. All the best

[@jasmineshone3719]

We moved to US when our kids were just 3 and 1 and as a mother I feel that’s the best thing that could have happened to us. I was tired and exhausted as a mother being told how to raise my kids by every other person. I took my kids to the library and park everyday. We went on a lot of vacations. The time I would have spent attending functions with family and friends we spent as a family. When our kids were little I never wasted my time and energy on what clothes or jewelry to wear, I played with them a lot. Our kids are teens now and we have a beautiful relationship with them. After 15 years in California we own 2 houses, one a vacation home near Yosemite in 5 acres, no loans and at our property in Silicon Valley we grow tons of organic fruits and veggies for our own use. We do all our house chores including flooring, installing new toilets, building our own furniture and we also have a lot of pets we love. Also because we have an active lifestyle we do not have any health problems. We feel rooted and home❤

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching and sharing your journey and experience. Everyone's priority and their life experience is different. That's the beauty of each unique journey. All the best! Cheers

[@secular2605]

May I know your professional details....are you working? If so in which field??

[@divyak1111]

Thats good it worked out for you. 15 years ago buying a house with one salary was possible and you or your partner can stay at home and do all the activities with kids, this is not possible today. With both parents working and kids being raised in day care in US, its better to come back, so atleast grandparents can take care and spend time with kids.

[@AdityaJape]

​@@divyak1111 usa will collapse and they will retreat

[@jasmineshone3719]

We have couples colleagues who bought homes in last 3 years with just one persons income. Only problem they had to buy out of the Bay Area, but than they only have to come to office twice a week now. Atleast for me I never had plans to work, I could never trust my kids with anyone not ever our families. We managed on lot less when our kids were little back in Bangalore early days of our marriage. Basic furniture, not even a television because we couldn’t afford one. Kids don’t know what material things they don’t have when they are little, but not having their mother that they know.

[@Oo-pl9zg]

I returned to india after living in Australia for 30 years..chose to retire in Bangalore.

[@DesiReturn]

Wow. Thats a long time. Are you open to share you story on our podcast? Whats the best way to reach you or you can send a note to info @ desireturn .com Thanks

[@mr.p2631]

I have lived more than 10 years in the US and now going back. I have a pending I-140 petition which would be approved in next few months but I am not pursuing it means I will lose the opportunity for GC but I have no intention of coming back. Few of the reasons I decided to Move back to India or I wouldn't move to west 1. Family. This is my biggest reason. I would like to be closer to my family. 2. Feel like an outsider. Although I have lived here for 10 years but to date I don't feel at home. This country has given me a lot in terms of experiences ,money personal growth but I still don't feel at home. 3. My own Kids. Although the schools are great and you have all the facilities still you hear shootings in schools all the time. You would see students hitting their teachers. You would see Students swearing on their teachers. I would not want my kids to grow up in such school and I hope this disease doesn't spread to India. BTW my kids are Indian citizen so they are not anchor babies. 4. Woke culture. This is again one of my biggest reasons of moving back and is related to my kids only. To be able to identify your gender at age 9 and you can hide that from your own parents. I am sorry I will not take this. I am not against any LGBTQ+ and I would be perfectly fine if my kids tomorrow identify as one but I wouldn't want them to be immerse in that all the time and at a tender age. All the talk here is about that only. 5. Old Age. I would not want to be old in a western country. My spouse's Mama Mami came here in the early 80s but now they are also thinking of moving to India because of the help they can get and to be around people like them. Both their daughters are married and live far from them. 6. Extreme Right Politics. This is the first time in US history that Whites are in a minority. This kind of demographic change would affect everyone in the long run. This is the reason you see Extreme Right Wing Politics on the rise. You hear Netherlands PM Danish PM speaking ill about particular community in their parliament. Sooner or later this will lead to some sort of friction between communities. We are already seeing that in France, UK etc. 7. High Amount of Debt. The western countries ( at least the US) run on Debt. This model has survived till date but now the Debt is unmanageable. Most of my American friends have at least 70 -80k or more in student loans and most of them don't have a salaried Job. The culture of just getting a Credit Card and living off it wouldn't last very long. Those were my 2 cents. To anyone who wants to move to a Western Country be prepared for a Big cultural shock. Life is not easy here but it can be rewarding if you have the right attitude. Also it's very important at what age you move. If you are moving in your 20s your experience and expectations would be different from someone in their 30s. I would be different if you are moving as a student, PR, work Visa, with kids , with a spouse. So Please I would request to think very hard before making this move. Not to mention it can be an even harrowing experience if you move by taking Debt and are unable to find a job quickly over here. Getting Help is the most difficult thing here. And since this channel is guiding people who wish to move back I would suggest to take that decision sooner than later.

[@DesiReturn]

Thank you for sharing such a detailed points from your perspective. Would you be open to come as a guest on the podcast to share your planning/journey?

[@mr.p2631]

@@DesiReturn Sure I don't mind. How about I give you the perspective after living couple months in India?

[@DesiReturn]

@@mr.p2631 Sure. Please reach out to me at instagram handle or at info@ desireturn.com Thanks

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

When you lived there didn't you think of these points. Having made money made you realise as you have made enough money now pointing out what made you uncomfortable. We are hypocrites.

[@sravanthidasigi9764]

Thanks to the detailed video, it helps us a lot.

[@DesiReturn]

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[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks!!

[@ravishah8089]

​@@DesiReturn can you get a spreadsheet from Anisb and swati about pros and cons of living in India vs US?

[@DesiReturn]

@@ravishah8089 Can you please reach out to us at instagram or info @ desireturn so we can follow-up with the sheet

[@vanikaedward1793]

It’s so nice that people are going back to home country. My country for sure not an option ☹️. We are the neighbors of India 😀.

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

After reaching out priorities we start finding negative points and begin to shower love for mother country. Why didn't you guys come just after few months to India. When a desire is fullfilled the chances of reaching the desires does not help you we begin to go back to so called my family is priority I love India peaceful, lovely weather. Guys please do not listen to anyone just collect the information whatver is required and chase what you have been desiring for. God bless u all

[@anuragtalati]

As a person who is planning to return back in next 1.5 years, I want to tell that it is not really easy coming back within few months after going to US even if one dislikes US lifestyle: 1. Many people around you tell that it is just a initial homsickness, give some more time to new country and you will start liking it, so many people decide to extend their stay longer in hopes that they will overcome the struggles and things will become smooth eventually 2. The money, time and efforts invested in new country like US Canada is significant, and usually there is a desire to return back to India after having recovered that monetary investment and some abroad work experience trying to gain new perspective 3. Many fear that returning too early from US-Canada after staying for few months will invite ridicule from their friends and family back home as someone who returned as a "failure", hence many come back after gathering significant experience and can boldly say that they came to India out of their own free will rather than being "laid-off" or inability to find jobs. They want to tell their friends that they worked hard, made savings and expeirence and now want to live the life that they want in their way. 4. They want to live for a timebeing in US-Canada just to convince themselves they have made most rational decision that suits their lifestyle. Returning back to India early and then not able to re-integrate back easily may leave a sense of regret that they made mistake leaving behind US lifestyle. Big Kudos to the couple who made decision to live a lifestyle that truly makes them happy and fulfilling. One should always make a decision that gives them fulfillment eventually. Wish them best luck.

[@mukundpotdar7471]

Interview खुप छान आहे .. तुम्ही पुर्ण विचार करून भारतात आला असाल असा अंदाज होता . पण इतकी systematic thought process केली असेल असे वाटले न्हवते . (Spreadsheet , weightage वगैरे) ... तुमचे इथले वास्तव्य आनंदी व धम्माल व्हावे हीच सदिच्छा ... मुकुंद पोतदार .

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks

[@anishthuse5043]

Thank you 😊

[@dr.harishdhir9245]

Why no one living in Europe and USA talks about Racism there. Almost every Indian living there has at one time or other faced Racism. No doubt one can earn well there and live a comfortable life but Racism exists there and one cannot deny this reality.

[@ashishvlogs7680]

Fact is that we face more racism in india than any part of the world.

[@bendover-bz4bc]

What about racism in India? People don't even let you enter temples directly

[@vineethsasidharan5067]

I want to move back. But the only thing thats holding me back is the weather in my home town(Kerala). The weather has changed a lot over the past 10 years. The summers are just unbearable. Anyone has faced difficulties in coping with the summer when they moved back.? If yes how did you manage.

[@DesiReturn]

Summers are hot here in Telangana but manageable as it is for 2 months and try to spend more time indoors. Good luck!

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

Passion is the main ingredient to lead life hot or cold does not matter. Take care. I was in kerala it was hot but I loved the place.

[@nuranichandra2177]

It is horses for the courses and to each is own. There is no right or wrong answer. Newcomers have a very tough time getting their green card and it is nearly impossible to get one that makes it very frustrating. These guys moved to the US in 2014 so it is utter stupidity to expect huge changes in 9 years. The chai example is also bad.

[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks for your comment! I believe each one has their own perspective and ours might be different than yours… just be careful on the choice of words you use… not commenting is a choice you can excercise

[@nuranichandra2177]

@@anishthuse5043I don’t mince words just to please someone. Calling spade a spade is the right thing to do.

[@anishthuse5043]

@@nuranichandra2177ok peace ✌🏻

[@laila3925]

Start your podcast in Mixed language and not just english

[@DesiReturn]

Sure. will look into it.

[@humsafar2996]

We want to move to Pune too...and want to know about job market etc...is it possible to dm you both for some info?

[@DesiReturn]

Please send an email to info ( @) desireturn.com so that I can share the contact info the guests for you to reach out to them.

[@anishthuse5043]

Sure!

[@xxxx-tb4de]

Looks like Free baby sitting was the main reason for moving back. Correct?

[@humsafar2996]

As parents...though we really want to come back...we are worried about competition culture for our kids....we hzve to study...toil hard to get a seat in a good college in india...while this might be much easier in abroad...thoughts?

[@DesiReturn]

That's a fair point. I believe as a parents we can create an environment that kids dont feel that competition culture (but it's not completely shielding it from competitive environment). It also depends on the schools (some IB schools don't even give grades etc.,). In regard to kids, other point is kids who grew up in India can live either in India or abroad but not the other way round.

[@rosesweet2405]

Not completely true because your channel name itself is DesiReturn, kids who grew up in India, are unable to stay in other countries and return to India.

[@sonip2200]

If u r kids good study off course get sest

[@anishagulati7836]

Where have they moved back in India?

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching. They moved back to Pune.

[@vinaychavan4364]

We are 3 months away from moving back... Its been 13 years, and thats exactly how we feel about moving back.

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts. Glad you liked the episode. You can get a checklist for the move at desireturn.com/get-checklist/

[@anishthuse5043]

Good to know!! Thanks!

[@chetanshukla768]

Yeah of course. Everyone can think about moving back after being a millionaire 😂

[@AlpaPatel-n9d]

Which city are you living in India ? Is it Pune ?

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching. Yes pune

[@anupamdubey3503]

Hi Team, I am staying in USA last five years with wife and two kids , one is 11 years and another one is 14 years old . I am thinking to move back to India due to heath issue my mother . I just wanted to know pros and cons for study prospects for my kids . My daughter will go grade next academic year. Please let me know if any wahtsup group for this .

[@DesiReturn]

chat.whatsapp.com/HKBciWDYBhb088DMabbAGD is the whatsapp group. 14 year old is a tough age to relocate but depends on the kid too

[@Godhanichetan]

​@@DesiReturn@ sir sent me link.bcz now i am thinking back to india from usa after 11 years so

[@nani1890]

Nice one

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching!

[@timepass20246]

what is the priority date ?? is it EB2/EB3 ?? everything lies in there .😀

[@parthdeo]

Can you please do a video on Melbourne- Pune if you have anyone? This will be really helpful… We are in the same boat .. and thinking about the move..

[@DesiReturn]

We have guests who moved from Australia. Please check it out. It's hard to find guests who are open to talk especially from one city to another city in India. We have whatsapp group that you could join for further discussion. chat.whatsapp.com/Kq5POBu21mzHEDleAnN4dH

[@SingaporeBuilds]

Good one

[@DesiReturn]

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[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks 😊

[@meetube30]

H1b renew nahi hua Kya? Reject kar diya gaya? 😂😂😂 Ya gc backlog mein phas gaya

[@adityagangadhari1444]

BTW Chai is still10-15 only😜😜😜

[@DesiReturn]

😄

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

In my city is still 7 rs

[@indiancitizen8297]

Lovely couple

[@DesiReturn]

Thank you

[@rahulgokhroo6686]

❤

[@DesiReturn]

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[@venkateshprabhu7027]

95 % of the case that is reason.

[@anitacohen8753]

Oh dear, keep your foreign bank accounts and citizenship!!

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching

[@chetanshukla768]

9 years in US? You are already a millionaire bro. Plus the kid is a US citizen. Who are they kidding, seriously.

[@shivarham]

The host looks and sounds like Sundar pichai in his 30s 😀

[@DesiReturn]

Lol 😄

[@ashishvlogs7680]

Day care in india are not regulated so don't compare cost of day care of US to india

[@DesiReturn]

Nothing to do with regulation. There are good playschools and cost of living differences are there

[@sunderj4774]

Where is the need for N.R.I. to complain that there is competition Red tapism and so on since the money they have earned abroad is itself sufficient if they park it in the Indian banks which offer attractive rate of interest.

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts

[@abhayapte7226]

H1B problem ? What is the immigration status of the kids?

[@DesiReturn]

No H1B problem. Kid is USC

[@venkateshprabhu7027]

Sir Madam You went there for employment. Don't lie..It was not possible.

[@bvssrsguntur6338]

If someone is able to make US $ that's not

[@ravib2303]

May be your 6years H1B push you out.....once your daughter is 21 she can move to USA.

[@DesiReturn]

It's a pro-active concious decision in their case than forced

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

​@@DesiReturnwe can never know the intentions no one is gonna tell us 100 💯 truth

[@journeysinamerica8763]

The judgmental desi spotted. Trying to rationalize his Decisions. Many would have i140 approved and waiting in line . Rather wait going back is far better . Offcourse some people only value money we know them very well . Who will do all kinds of frauds to stay back

[@DesiReturn]

Please get your comprehensive moving checklist for returning to India here desireturn.com/get-checklist/

[@ravishingravi]

Very nice couple.

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching

[@anishthuse5043]

Thanks!

[@sonip2200]

India is best to live

[@DesiReturn]

Thanks for watching

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

Yeah after making all the money

[@sonip2200]

@@praveenkumar-yo1xg India has the more then world .. need to work heard no country give free money ok ..

[@praveenkumar-yo1xg]

@@sonip2200 dollar matters to those who desire for. Passion matters. In India we won't get paid in dollars.

[@sonip2200]

@@praveenkumar-yo1xg u must fraud Telugu.. 99% ppl came USA with fake documents.. because of Telugu fraud ppl immigration made strict law.. number one backward state in India andhra ..