STRAIGHT FRIEND CRUSHES

[@singboy4]

never loose great friendship for a crush. a friend is always with you ... even if you are attracted to them. Revealing a crush can hurt both of you

[@LetsPlayBlake]

Ugh I'm rewatching this cause it's happening again... I can't anymore, feelings are just fcking annoying.

[@andrewwing7888]

I know, it really sux

[@wald1709]

I feel you…this just happened to me recently

[@Libant1]

I've accepted that my friend is straight after it took some time, but I'm still quite attached to him. I still entertain fantasies of possible outcomes where we end up together, most of them silly and unrealistic, but enticing none-the-less. So I feel that I've only made 1/2 the step without taking the other, as I won't press the idea to go after him but still keep thoughts of what it would be like to be there. I'm not sure what I'm doing, but videos like this help me realize I shouldn't. Thanks

[@jeffb5785]

As a bisexual with very masculine looks and mannerisms in High School, I had some serious feelings for several of my straight friends but I never acted on them. I sometimes wonder if any of them would have returned the feelings but were also very deep in the closet

[@motopapii]

Story of my life....

[@robertbrolo486]

ThatOne Kid + 3 years ago its ur Story of ur Life.

[@michaelm5601]

Don’t procrastinate your coming out. The sooner you do, the happier the rest of your life will be. After the arrows stop flying you will feel free, happy and see life through better eyes . Start by being honest with your self..

[@anugrahmarwan1149]

1st of all, why did I just watch this?! Definitely my wake up call. It sucks being in this situation but you're right, friendship is so much important. Thank you Brian! Wish you and Dan have an amazing time together!

[@greverification]

I wish I had this advice when I was back in highschool, it would've saved me a lot of heartache. Good going Brian, keep up the good work.

[@TeamFurjan]

I have experienced this far too many times. Its so frustrating when it happens.

[@wald1709]

This is the 4th for me

[@damieg82]

You hit the nail on the head, Brian! Actually the very first person I came out to was a straight best friend. Why? Because I had such a huge crush on him. Looking back now it's so silly but to be honest I almost feel like every gay guy should go through this. It teaches you about your emotions and being able to control them, as well as the reality of heartbreak... all good building blocks for a happy, healthy relationship later on in life.

[@Jeremyj99]

Why is it that Brian can know everything I have/am feeling and put it into words? He's just so perfect at talking about what's best for me.

[@Jay-i9g5c]

Have a friend who is straight & have a crush on. I won’t even bother to tell him bc I know I’ll lose him. It’s best that way. I tried to “build a case” and I just told myself one day… no. I accepted nothing was going to happen and that’s that. Completely agree with you. I don’t want to lose this friend.

[@BigJoeyGomez]

This was solid stuff that I, and probably a lot of people needed to hear. It seems like the hardest part of moving on is accepting hard reality and finding people who can actually connect on that level. Thank you for the advice, friend.

[@nanianmichaels]

I've also been there. It hurt. A lot. He was the first guy I came out to, who over time became my best friend. We spent quite a lot of time together, then I started falling hard for him, to the point I almost couldn't resist kissing him. Yikes... I had to take a deep breath, tell him, then back off for a while, to get my head straight again. We're still great friends. For those going through this, I feel you, but quoting Will & Grace, "You will never have him. You will NEVER have him." ;)

[@2697Miguel]

Wow all that you said happen to me. I had a crush on a classmate and I was allways thinking he liked me, but deep inside me I knew that it wasn't true. I was "in love" for him untill the worse(best) thing happen I found he had a girlfriend, I felt really bad for one day but it was the perfect opportunity to forget him. Today he is one of my best friends. Thank you for your awesome videos please keep up with them. P.S: Nice eyes :p

[@BalletLad1]

Loving your vids especially about being bi. I was someone who believed the whole "theres no such thing as bi" crap. That video helped me understand the feelings I was having for one of my friends who happens to be a girl.

[@lafond66]

I have a good friend who went through this for months. The drama of it all, ups and downs... It's frustrating when you know that they're still struggling with their own sexuality and you wish they'd just hurry up and figure it out (and ideally be with you). In the end my friend moved on, and a few weeks later found a new boy whom he's been dating now for a few months and things are going great.

[@shaunny0208]

Thanks for posting this, I told a really good friend that I had feelings for him and as much as he has said that this won't change anything when it comes to our friendship I sense that it already has. I really needed to hear this, Thanks.

[@MASTERPC-YouTube]

The truth hurts. A lot. Thanks for this (albeit years ago). Still applies and is a timeless challenge.

[@iLuvMe9412]

This was the story of my life all throughout high school! And now in college I still catch myself growing an attraction to my straight friends, but this video has helped me as I come to realize that I am wasting my time in something that will never happen. Thanks Brian for the video!! :)

[@mondohdz531]

This was prefect to hear for the sane reason this video was made for. It brought me back to reality a bit and a heavy feeling in my stomach. ugh I'm figuring that this happens because we don't develop this type of interaction or bond with each other, basically skipping it all and right to the sheets :(

[@dboy7373]

Thank you for posting this video! There is a lot of truth to 0:50 - 1:15 I think a lot of people can relate to this. This is the first video I have seen that covers this topic so well. Good job!

[@BrettGailey3]

Thank you so much for making this video. It makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one who has done this

[@Pheonix7king]

I'd like to think myself extremely lucky.I came out to my best friend (who i met on WoW 5 years ago), in July of last year and it turns out he had had developed feelings for me within the first few months of us hanging out together, but never said anything at all he hid for years but gave subtle hints that i was too blind to see. before i'd came out to him i was depressed and felt like id never find anyone, id never really thought about how rare my situation might be until i saw this.

[@Dracula_thevamp]

This vid explains wats happening to me. I've had a crush on my friend for 5 years now and I have known him for 8 years. I've tried so many times to get over him but I just couldn't especially since I had to see him at school. I was so obsessed that I couldn't stop thinking about him. He started dating one of my friends in 6th grade and that broke my heart badly. I told him so many times that im going to stop being friends with him cause I couldn't handle my emotions anymore. I told him probably 50 times during 6 th grade but it never happen but then 7th gade came and I barely talked to him that year but I just couldn't stop thinking about him. After 7th garde came 8th and I thought I had gotten over him during summer since I didn't really think about him but when I saw his face 8th grade all the feelings came back and I started getting depressed and emotional unstable. I would flirt with him alot(he doesn't know im gay) but he never noticed but wat made it worse was that he would touch me in places and that got me so confused(meaning he would grope me,he would pick me up, accidentally hit my ass and dick, etc). Doing that just made it all the worse but he was straight and that just kept on killing me inside. So wat I did was that I finally made my choice him or me and I choose me so what I did was distance myself from him I started telling him to stop touching and slowly that made it much better. Now I barely talk to him and im feeling great but I know it sounds harsh but emotions are very strong and by suppressing them can cause some damage and right now im having the best time of my life im over him and I'm getting intrested in other people. It feels goo getting this off my chest I hope u understand what im going through.

[@taylormcbelk3417]

He called it. And the internet doesn't help in small towns for the simple fact all anyone on the internet wants is nudes or actual sex, there really isn't anyone (or atleast anyone I've found) who just wants a nice slow paced adult relationship, sure I'm 15 and stuff but, all I want is someone who's mature, decent looking, and will wrap they're arma around me at a moments notice......... is that really to much to ask.... :'(

[@jasonbristow]

Brian. I was literally shivering watching this video. Why didn't I find it 2-3 years ago? You're obviously right. But this video has helped me so much. I really was "in love" with some of my straight friends and looking back it's really strange I let this happen. Well, I wanted to write more, but I kind of forgot it already. It was an awesome video! Thank you! :)

[@MrHillflower]

I was thinking about this the other day, reminiscing about a str8 friend crush I had many years ago in high school. He was later the first person I came out to. And he was so awesome and a true friend. We've lost touch over the years, but I still think about those days sometimes. Brian you were right on target with this vid.

[@stoner987]

This is so awesome. I have had many a straight crush throughout my life and at 1:52 you talk about them being "a great friend" and unfortunately thats not always the case. I continued to crush on a lot of my friends after I came out too them and after I came out to them, most of them quite talking to me and as far as I know, non of them ever knew about me having a crush on them. Thanks Brian!!!

[@diegotroestch7347]

You've Been VERY helpful troughout all my life, I Can see ANY other youtuber trying to make me understand, and I don't get it or at least like 3 or 4 hours later of seeing the same video Thanks a Lot really

[@SteveAndrade623]

You show great insight and I like the way you just put what you have to say out there. I only discovered your channel (and "Mallow's") about a week ago (today is 5-20-13). I work out of my home and decided to take the day off (haven't had 1 in a LONG time) and went back and watched all your and Dan's vids. The comfort the 2 of you have around each other is fun and sweet. To both of you, enjoy life and stay happy.

[@SebassoKahlo]

It is sad, but true -- it has happened to the best of us. In the end, one feels like such a fool. :'( Especially when you see him flirting with a girl! Lol. C'est la vie! Thanks for the great advice; you must be a great friend :)

[@AlexRo2016]

Happened to me. It was a good, awkward, painful but productive experience. It took me awhile to get over him. But I'm glad I did.

[@TylerCrume]

It's crazy how I just came across this video, it describes my exact situation. I mean to a "T." You gave great points and advice bro, your a true inspiration! : )

[@ogt123456789]

omg this is a big issue for me, and you are absolutely right you have to move on even if it hurts. love your videos :D

[@bobeeboi]

Brian 1st I'm a middle aged gay man who came out at 17 back in 84 and the first lesson I learned was that not all guys are gay. So I got over the straight crush phase really quick. 2nd your advice is dead on kudos. 3rd You and Dan are just adorable both inside and out. 4th Really personal question which one of you is higher maintenance?and 5th That kitchen, the stove are those ceramic knives in the back I'm super jealous. One last thing I hope you and Dan stay together forever.

[@BobbyBrady2000]

You seem so much more comfortable in front of the camera in this video!!!! You are a great KZbinr!! Can't wait to see what's next :)

[@gyscloete83]

True words.Know the situation. I live on a Resort in RSA. Its more like a small town, and is 45km away from the nearest city. After work mostly the only thing to do is go have drinks with friends, and i went through prissily what you mentioned in the video. What helped me get out of that situation was to distance my self. Do more stuff by myself or to get of complex more often. My friend and i still hang out, just not as much any more. But its heard a specially in a small place like this.

[@dleimkuehler]

Fantastic video, Brian as always!!!!! And I too LOVE your Kitchen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep making videos, you are such an inspiration to me!!!!!!!!! David xx

[@wozzywick]

I'm struggling with this. The problem is I think deep down I want to feel this way- I enjoy the feeling I get when I'm around them and I don't want to stop feeling that way, even though I know I need to. Anyone have any advice to deal with this?

[@happybalint]

Matthew Worswick same

[@jeffb5785]

I don't know if there is an easy answer or a one size fits all answer, I think takes some reflection on what you might gain or lose if you were to come out, for me as a young man my fear of other friends and worst of all my family kept me very closeted, I got married and had 3 kids and loved every minute of it but I never lost my lust for guys.

[@wozzywick]

@@jeffb5785 My comment was 7 years ago and I'm in a very different place. I think you may have misunderstood, though. I've always been completely fine with being gay, my problem was with having a crush on a specific individual.

[@jeffb5785]

@@wozzywick I hope your new place and time is good, I will pay closer attention to dates when something was posted before responding in the future. I wish you well.

[@KateLynchRatliff]

I'm a girl, and I'm bisexual. I havent told anyone but my two best friends. Im afriad to tell anyone else. I also have a HUGE crush on my best friend. It's like I'm in love with her, I feel so broken thinking about telling her cause I dont wanna mess up are friendship. I dont think she is bisexual, we never really talked about it. I'm pretty sure she is straight. But I literally love her. I dont know how she would react there are a couple ways it can go. 1. Be friendzoned and have things be awkward. 2. Be friendzoned but not talk as much, like being ignored and when we do talk it will be awkward. 3. She is nice about it but say she is straight and we are still friends but it will feel like something is missing. 4. Completely ruin our friendship. 5. She could like me back ( she probley wont but u never know ) . But I'm like seriously in love with her and dont know what to do, help me? 

[@motherhoodsbeauty9279]

You should watch tv show call Faking It. It about two female bestfriend who tried to act like lesbian couple but in the end one of them is turn out to be real lesbian and she have a crush on her friend. When she tell her bestfriend, her bestfriend was like i love you so much but not in that way. Watch it. It really good show. I am Straight girl and i like it.

[@asifwekere]

Some people enjoy the challenge of chasing the wind. Some of your friends will lead you on sending mixed messages. The best thing for you is, to move on with your life. Just be their friends. Great Video Brian.... By-the way, you have a gorgeous kitchen. You should give us a house tour someday? Live4Love:)

[@feralvam]

Oh, I know how bad this can get! Long story short: After having a crush on him for over 2 years and had never said anything, I got drunk at a party and came out to him (and to all my friends) and told him I loved him. As expected, everything went to hell, and it took us around a year to be able to speak to each other again in a sort of confortable way. Needless to say, friendship completely ruined. Never making that mistake again! Nice vid!

[@RudyTheBulldog]

My buddy had this crush on a guy and he thought it was a silly crush. turned out that that the guy had fell in love with him too. even though he was straight. he even said to my buddy "it's not about guys. it's about you". there are exceptions people, straight guys can have "exceptions". if your hearts tells you to keep crushing on someone maybe you should trust it. unless you're making yourself believe in something that doesn't exist. anyway, just dont give up right away.

[@Blipblop17]

HOLY COW! Story of my life! This happened to me over the summer and this described my exact situation. It really did help.

[@ashn893]

U spoke my heart out man iv been trying to accept nd move on since 2 years hopefull itl happen soon nd il b free cos i really need my frnd life without him is impossible

[@lecontre79]

Very well said Kris...it would be heartbreaking to crush on someone that you thought was straight and then have them turn out to be gay and have no interest in you. I had a similar situation like that, but it ended up with a happy story. We became really good friends :)

[@romahome007]

thanks, this video made so much sense, it was nice to know i am not the only one who went through that.

[@jenniferwhite8904]

I cant imagine someone actually NOT liking Brian back. Hes so freakin GOOD LOOKING!!!

[@xaviercabrera509]

Thanks for this. It really helped me out I've been in a rut for the past couple weeks. And this helped me soo much

[@LewioYoshi101]

this video has helped me so much, I'm 14 and I'm pretty much in love with one of my few close guy friends. I think it's because not many boys tolerate my sexuality and when one does I can get feelings towards them. I flirt with this boy and he flirts back but he doesn't know he's doing it. My heart breaks more and more everyday and I just want to scream at him how I feel, but he is my friend and I don't want that to change. So thanks, I know now to just get over him and stop being naive!=) x

[@blackwell-cronie8340]

right I get what you say about not looking for signs, but this person always links arms with me and when we're all sat down in our friendship group she'll come up and hug me from behind and rest her head on me. Things like that. I don't know if these are signs persay and it makes it worse considering I've never even had a relationship before, but I really do like this person and can't help but thinking that there may be a small chance that she likes me too.

[@Denf0]

I think that the best solution for this is to just come out and tell them. I did this, literally, and the first person I came out to was a straight crush. He didn't return the feeling, unsurprisingly, but it did the most wonderful job of helping me get over all the terrible depressing feelings I had about him before, and I came out a much better person for it. Sometimes all it takes is a little dose of reality to help you through a tough time. Don't build things up in your head!!

[@TyQtee]

I made this mistake once and I felt so foolish, I felt stupid, I've never done this again!!! I learned my lesson!!!

[@ericmashbuttons]

I've definitely had this dilemma myself. I have a great friendship with one of my co-workers; He's one of the few really close guy friends I have in general. When I first met him, I immediately developed a crush on him even though I knew he was straight from the get-go. I got over it a while ago, however because of the type of guy he is I don't think I'll ever not be attracted to him. But that's it, just an unspoken attraction. I value our great friendship so much, I would never screw it up.

[@b.a.stretke9189]

Great video! You should do more of them :) also just a side note, I love your kitchen. The design is to die for! Especially love the countertops. Is that granite?

[@jpjazzer1]

Brian, I love your kitchen!!!! What was going through your mind when you went to meet with Dan for the 1st time. Were you afraid of rejection? Was it scary to drive so far with the thought you might be hurt emotionally? Just curious..........thanks for sharing your thoughts and your vids so far. Keep it up.

[@JesseRodriguez567]

Hi. I wanted to thank you and your boyfriend because you two were really great motivation I needed to come to my parents. So thank you. (: Keep making videos, darling!

[@happybalint]

But theres no magic button to turn it off

[@krisandrew1]

I think this video could come at a better time! Thank you, Brian. :)

[@YoSoyDavidGalleta]

It's really interesting to watch you talk about this because you have a lot of the same qualities and personality traits as a straight friend I made freshman year of college who I had a crush on.... lol

[@alwaysthekoolestkid]

Omg this makes so much since and helps so much because I've been majorly crushing on this boy at school who I know is straight

[@ghostgamer16]

Ive had this happened to me theres a guy ive liked for five years now, I met him online. But it's so confusing. Especially that small little hope, that always questions things and makes it harder to let go. Anyway, I'm not willing to go with this anymore. I'm tired, thanks for the vid it really cleared me up 😊

[@Michaelchen0824]

I love Brian'a video. The stuff he talking about is always useful. BBBBBBBRRIAN!

[@jaeharu]

Your videos are so awesome, Brian!!! You & Brian are so inspirational!

[@PEPSIMAX2013]

Brian ..today i need this video .. thanks .... But you know .. my experience .. i lost 4 or 5 friends .. in the last year .. I fight a lot and rejected their thoughts ..about me .. I´m gay .. and in somehow ..my friends are too curious .. they give me all the signals that i need it to fall in love with them .. but ..with the years they do terrible faults , lying all the time to me to continuing the friendship ... so i quit ...literaly ...my headaches gone .. , since I dont speak anymore with them .. im okay .. i miss the old times but now im better

[@thaumatococcus7]

I know what you are saying. I had fallen in love with my best friend and it took me years to get over that feeling. We are still besties but whenever I see him, Ican't escape that moment of agonising pain.

[@TheCoronaCreations]

I think an important thing to note as well is that even if you do crush on a 'straight' friend for years, and they do eventually come out as bi/gay, that still doesn't mean that they like you back in that way. I mean, what's more crushing - being rejected because their sexuality doesn't match up with yours, or being rejected because they just don't like you that way?

[@pf1133]

I've never heard anyone list so precisely everything going on in my head. The only thing is when your friends start telling you they think he's bi or gay and his friends tell you too its makes it even more frustrating and this going on for over a year! Thanks Brian for the video.

[@MatTZI014]

You're an attractive charming guy. Whoever is in a relationship with you is a very lucky guy. Anyway, I know what you mean bro. I'm bisexual (learning towards liking guys more than woman) and I'm attracted to some of my straight guy friends. It's hard because you want them so much but you know your boundaries. It's like an exhibit. You could look but not touch. Too bad there isn't a way to make straight guys fall in love with you in that way. However, I cherish the time I spend with them!

[@Wickedvickk]

I understand what you are trying to say but truth is, you just never know if someone is straight or not. Sometimes we just can't tell. I sometimes think I make it so obvious that I'm gay but to some people, they just don't believe it. Idk, what I'm trying to say is, sometimes things might end up how you pictured/hoped for them to be.

[@andybug1]

This is the most true thing I have ever heard

[@hpflyboi]

VERY well said Brian!!

[@Jomateo44]

Haha! Great advice indeed! Of all the friends I had in high school, most of them turned out to be gay, but none of them were the ones I had had a crush on ;)

[@goMANgo84]

"Building a case in your head!" Well articulated.

[@cardoman87]

D*mn, this doesn't happen to me often, but it really shows i'm gay... Bryan, what a beautiful kitchen you have! Love the design, the colors, the tiles and, obviously, the male model. :-) Oh, yeah, the topic... Yep, it happened to me *twice* at a young age. When i was 8-10 and when i was 15-16. My best friend at the time and i did everything together, talked about everything and were completely comfortable with just being with each other... I craved for more, the other didn't.

[@LonelyBoy31]

Thank you. Harsh truth but...it is what it is!

[@homologo5222]

I had this with one of my best friends and I just told him how I felt and it brought us closer together and proved he was definitely a true friend and didn't feel awkward around me which made me feel better about all of it ^_^

[@misterpanda8820]

I fell in love with my bestfriend I met him at the start of school June 2016 and we've been buddies till now But the thing is.. I'm not sure if he's straight or gay or bi We always hang out after school, we are always together.. I'm not sure about my thoughts if I'm putting so much thoughts about his action He teases me all the time.. With the common mistake that I made from the pasts pretty much all of it.. He compliments me about stuffs or achievements I've gotten He remembers all the things I told him before, even I forgot but he still remembers One time we were in the cafeteria (usually he always want to go home early) but this time is different it felt like he doesn't want to go home yet and want to spend more time with me So he started talking about stories from his childhood up to the present and I told him sorry I don't have much to tell about my childhood life since I don't remember much about it He told me it's OK I'll just keep talking about myself then.. Altho there are sure signs that he doesn't show interest I'm not sure if he likes me just as a friend or likes me more than just a friend because I'm not sure if my thoughts are clear since I realized I loved him my perception became different and it somehow made me confused and asked myself is he always like this or that I need help I'm super confused right now I'm not sure if I should continue loving him Cuz I'm not sure if he's gay or straight and it's messing up my mind Ps. He not really active on social media and he has no phone so pretty much we don't talk much But on real life he's super talkative

[@mustie3682]

Rain Gayahan hey any news now? :)

[@leohillenbrand7555]

Love your friends! Be in love with your partner.

[@MrElpaisita2]

I have been struggling with this same problem. It is driving me nuts and yes, I know, I started creating all these stories in my head which are not necessarily true, but it is very hard to really put him off your mind. I mean, I spend a lot of time with him and it just makes me crazy to feel as though I cannot even express what I feel. That is where I set the priority and direct truth that before everything he is my friend and I do not want to lose the friendship we have cultivated thus far.

[@SneakyNinjaSistas]

Well what if you don't know their sexuality? Because my friend has never had a crush on anyone and doesn't really know, so idk either.... Help?

[@turnonstephon]

You guys are so sweet together :)

[@JTCooper]

The thing is that, it doesnt help when they like instigate it more. See, i had this straight friend who i like really really liked and he knew too but instead of telling me he wasnt interested he would kind of like, contradict himself. Everytime we saw each other, we'd hug, and every time we'd say goodbye, we'd hug, and sometimes he'd even let me sit on his lap or lie down on his shoulder. (Well his parents dont really like me for some reason so i cant talk to him anymore though).

[@asbaran]

Sound advise, although I would recommend frequenting gay friendly spots (cafes, bars) or even attending pride week. It's always better to meet people in person because it's hard to get a sense of other peoples character over the internet.

[@xoashm5787]

I'm a straight girl. I've liked a lot of ppl in my life and until now the've all been boys. But now I like a girl. And I don't know what 2 do.

[@peachtea4138]

Go for it! Follow your heart

[@oscarcombaluzier7718]

Excellent video as many people have said here! Regarding me, I have a crush on my bestfriend who is also the first person I came out. I am still confused with him.. He doesn´t "fear" to be close to me.. I mean, he doesn´t mind to cuddle with me, he kissed me several times on the cheek.. and did other stuff that usually gay guys do.. But furthermore, he has a similar behaviour with girls.. and he has actually a big crush on a girl.. So I though he is bi.. but he told to several other friends that he isn´t when they asked him.. I really, don´t know.. On one hand I want a lot he stays my best friend but on the other I want to stop my emotional problems in my head because of him. It makes me just depressed.

[@camerongotvaslee1839]

we are literally going through the same thing and it fucking sucks.

[@oscarcombaluzier7718]

It´s a difficult situation.. and I would say that the only solution is time..

[@alexmillesfoodie]

I feel like everyone has gone through this at least once in there lives how can you not? I live in a smallish/big town ( I mean its Boise ) and feel like I live in a small town. How do u find people when your to young to go to a club haha where can u meet people?? there should be a tutorial on that

[@andrewgonzales732]

I had a crush on one of my straight friends in high school and it drove me to a great depression that has hindered me in school for the last couple of years. Even though I graduated in the summer of 2010, I didn't really acknowledge a lot of my feelings until recently. If you have a crush on one of your friends who is straight, I would highly recommend talking to him about it sometime, because that's what got me over my high and long rut.

[@jasonbristow]

I know this, you cannot change someone else's feelings just because you like them. It would be selfish to ty to change them just so that they fit better to your own life. I've been there. I guess luckily I'm out of school for a few years as it was really hard to be surrounded by so many good looking boys :D You should hang on, Brian is right, it's not real love, just some really overwhelming fancy...how I hate those ^^ ;)

[@lecontre79]

It's all about wanting the unattainable...I find myself being attracted to unattainable men from time to time and I have to remind myself that the reason for this is because it is a forbidden fruit. Get someone that will love you the way you love them...it is nice to be loved back!

[@jamieb9168]

I'm a 50 year old guy going through this with my 42 year old co-worker. What's worse is that he's married with 3 kids and I'm married to another guy and we all work in the same factory. We even give this guy rides home each night. But this guy has given me some pretty strong signals. We once took him and his two younger kids to a fair while his wife was out of town. At the fair they had a small indoor reptile exhibit. One of the guys showing the reptiles was Black with blue eyes and his voice and mannerisms were such that I was 99% positive he was gay. Well, a week or two later this co-worker friend stopped by my station and we started talking. We were talking about how gay men can find some women to be pretty and he said the same of straight people towards the same sex. Then he said "Remember that guy at the reptile exhibit? If I were gay, that's the type of guy I'd like." To me, that was a big sign right there. But then he followed that with "Even my wife thinks I'm part of that 5 or 10% of men." So that's when I really began to wonder. He's also done and said some very flirty things with me at work. And he even told me about how he went to a sex shop and bought a dildo. He said his wife was too embarrassed to go inside though. But that just seems like something a totally straight guy would never share with another guy (gay or straight). He's tall and I'm short and one day I asked if I could borrow him for a minute to reach something at my work station. As we were on our way to my work station he said "You can borrow me anytime!" There's just so many signs here that most straight men would never say. And he sometimes goes out for drinks on Friday evening late at night. He told me I could meet him sometime. So I am very curious to see how that first time drinking together will go. Of course I will NOT be making any moves on him. I'm just more curious to see if he will reveal anymore signs once he's had a few drinks. I do honestly think he has a slight bi-curiosity to him. There's a great KZbin video about the "Secret to getting straight guys" by Patrick Marano. He says that it will usually be a guy that you know and have a bromance with. And I've known this co-worker for about a year now and there is a bit of a bromance going on. I will bring him food that I've made and he does the same for me. And about 6 months ago he moved to a different station at our factory and promised me and my partner that he wouldn't become a snob or assimilate to the better-than-everyone-else mentality that the guys in that area have. And he's stayed true to that promise. It's made one of the guys actually very crabby and it's almost to the point where our co-worker friend is ready to file harassment charges with HR against this guy. And he has confided in me even more than my partner. So unlike a lot of people here, I think my situation is pretty unique where the guy may actually be bi-curious. Some of the things he's said are just too out of the ordinary for someone who would be 100% straight.

[@kylejackson6445]

I had a crush on my best friend. But then I decided that I would not act on them mainly cause for me it would be weird for me to hit on someone I grow up with. I'm mean I already came out but now I kind of going back in the closet cause my mother freaked me out so much, and I know I'm gay so I'm not total sure what to do.

[@veenx0704]

my high school just ended yesterday and i still have feelings for him:(

[@bleachwaterhydration1048]

VEENX0704 How's life after high school?

[@FWB-n6u]

honestly i didn’t start developing feelings until he started to get so touchy with me when we’re under the influence and we’re always cuddling while drunk. idk if he’s straight or not cuz where im from everyone has to appear as “str8” since it’s illegal and everyone who’s bi/gay are DL. it’s so confusing i need to move on

[@treywest101]

I think that is so true because that is the something about me and my friend and we have been friend seens 1th grade and I thot that we were perfect for each other but now I think it is all in my head.

[@joshuarichards8065]

I was once in a similar situation, except my female friend was the one who had a crush on me and I was the gay guy. When she asked me if there was potential between us, I told her no and explained that I was going through personal issues at the time, (I was coming to terms with my sexuality), but I told her she would find someone who would make her happier than what I could. She did move on and she did find someone special and is now married.

[@MetalKnucklezX]

Thanks Brian this helped a lot

[@remco6441]

And this is the firts comment ever. Btw love your videos and also Dan's videos.

[@notme507]

My ‘straight’ friend/crush came out to me as bisexual. But I guess I could never really see us together.

[@kino7991]

I just can't deal with the fact that I have a friend in my school who, just for fun (as a joke or something), comes behind me and hugs me to say hello. I can't even count the amount of hugs he's given me. It's really hard to move on with theses kind of feelings when the one person who is causing them, comes to remind you of them every single day. Could you give me advice?