Stranger Challenges Chess Girl For a Date

The interaction in this video was one of my weirdest chess experiences this year. Sorry about the inconvenience of the blurred face and altered voice, but I believe it was the right thing to do. I hope you’ll still enjoy cringing along with me - remember to like, subscribe, and comment if you do!
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0:00 - intro
0:51 - game starts
6:14 - rejection speech
9:17 - second game

[@robertfong7345]

Just tell him you only date 2000+ rated players.

[@akaNemsko]

LOL

[@yodanivada007]

No person has to explain their 'no'

[@waykee3]

Shut up please. Thank you. 🙏

[@nawelgarcia1917]

If you ask him nicely and the other agrees to give an answer. there's no problem with it

[@nick_fuqua]

@@nawelgarcia1917 if a stranger came up to you and acted exactly like this guy except they asked you for money, to use your phone, or whatever else. You and most others would rightfully call them an asshole. Some one you don’t know politely saying no is not permission to treat them with less courtesy than anyone else regardless of the social situation.

[@BradJames878]

If you get a 'no,' then you already screwed up from the start. I would never ask unless I was fairly sure I would get a 'yes." And the way I know that is she has to give some indication that she is interested...ie, flirt, touch me, etc. In this video, the girl was there to play chess, and it showed. The guy screwed up by asking for a date.

[@kineticballs77]

Poor guy in the thumbnail tho

[@rickmorty5150]

I saw this live. A lot of female streamers hide the fact that they are in a relationship. Single? Hmmm? Dude was cringe though.

[@XxKidnoffxX]

They have no choice to hide it. Probably like 90-95% of their community are simps. They need to believe to keep giving money.

[@Subuzgreatest]

No more simp money

[@waykee3]

You jealous that someone is intrusive?

[@XxKidnoffxX]

@@waykee3 why people always bring the jealous thing? How we can be jealous of a creep like that?

[@waykee3]

@@XxKidnoffxX If you encounter such stuff often, it means that it's likely true.

[@buffalo241]

That was very good performance under pressure Nemo and handled with grace.

[@wishiwsthr]

Girlfriend, "Those bracelets look very familiar"!

[@daredariuz]

the blurry face takes away the fun

[@lookatmydab1482]

Yeah but everyone deserves their privacy

[@XxKidnoffxX]

@@lookatmydab1482 even a$$holes?

[@Vilizio]

I remember this live lol Geez that was like what two months ago or so?

[@letstalkpakistan493]

boy must have been in pretty high position in Yale Frat lol

[@blackmamba6938]

I don't get what everyone's issue is in the comments. He shot his shot. He didn't do anything that was creepy. Get over yourselves.

[@markyeeee]

I agree....Happens all the time in bars....this wasn't harassment and not a big deal

[@BroCactus]

based

[@KianDaHazrd]

Agreed, these comments are delusional because a man simply exists. The comment section is safe to throw out these attacking statements because they are safe behind a screen.

[@waykee3]

Those people that say it’s creepy or cringy apparently have low self-confidence. 😂 Losers.

[@chrishosey7535]

Perfectly said

[@keifermatthew]

Aka "if you ask me out in an uncomfortable way I turn into prime Hikaru" Nemsko

[@rajii201]

Black King moved to f7, e8, and yet castled queenside 😂

[@topsystems9495]

I also noticed, why she didn't told him he can't castle?

[@rajii201]

@@topsystems9495 she didn't realize at that time, but realised afterwards after playing 1 more move or so. Then she let him keep that way.

[@topsystems9495]

@@rajii201 You are right, I have not seen the whole video. Now I did

[@joannewilson6577]

@@topsystems9495 She did told him..he cheated twice...

[@lonegamer895]

I remember this stream no wonder you are cringed lol 😅

[@IOSALive]

akaNemsko, I subscribed because your videos are super cool!

[@akaNemsko]

Thanks for subbing!

[@lexvdw]

The relief on her face at the end haha, well done.

[@whalebeats4202]

I remember seeing this live 💀The whole situation was just too far and he should've just taken the kind rejection. I like that all these other guys started surrounding him though once they probably saw how uncomfortable Nemo was. Props to the guy in the blue beanie too for being hilarious after

[@jachcoff]

i mean from this clip the guy was pretty respectful

[@kkringle3043]

The garbled voice makes 90% of what he's saying impossible to follow. BTW You mentioned ruining someone's relationship with their girlfriend? If this dude has a GF and she watched this, she'd know it was him. He gave up enough info. Toronto boy; went to Yale; runs a business; goes to chess bars; drinks screwdrivers by the looks; wears douchy bracelets ;)

[@manishpillai7719]

so how tf are u supposed to ask out a girl if this is supposed to be cringe ?

[@neitt4493]

Don't insist or be asking why you are being rejected, it's annoying and outcome won't change.

[@kineticballs77]

He didn't have to push that far after the first "No"

[@baldheadkid]

That's a good question. Asking out isn't cringe. The repeated pushing after she politely said "no" was cringe. You like chess. Asking out pretty girls is the same as playing against a GM. In chess: Sure you can go with the cheesy Bishop and Queen checkmate attempt on move 3. But if Magnus politely avoids getting mated by you, you cannot get upset. In dating: Sure you can go and ask out a super hot and intelligent girl like Nemo as a complete stranger in a bar during a live stream but don't get upset if she says no. And don't try to keep forcing the issue. It's sad and embarrassing.

[@ginger2586]

learn to read body language because this was just horrible. she clearly didn’t wanna get drinks, just take the rejection.

[@CoolBurnz]

Him asking her out initially wasn’t cringe. The cringe part is that he couldn’t take no for an answer

[@CesarGarcia-nd5xz]

Bro fought with all his mighty

[@jss.2020]

he wanted that date

[@archivist17]

The Bear.

[@danielmelese206]

ask Nemo on a date after taking all her bookie crisps. She wanna play poker like she plays chess tho.

[@officialdapperdb]

If he was super hot and in her extremely high standards/preferences, her interaction would have been different. "He's so cute! I got butterflies!" This interaction was harmless and happens every day by guys who see an attractive girl and want to shoot their shot. There is never a perfect time to talk to a girl. Never a perfect word combination. The chances of 2 people meeting are at astronomical odds. The chances of him ever meeting her again are even worse odds. Looks like all men need to be as close to perfect as possible to approach women. Ladies, the top 20% of men are dating ALL of you at the same time in a carousel. You want a great man? Check your friend zone. Plenty of great men that would be awesome human beings to you are hidden in plain site. To this dude. You did awesome. Took a lot of guts to ask her out. Accept the L and don't quit. Too bad this girl is using it in an anti-men campaign. Read the comments from women here who are bashing this dude. This clip has been on all socials. She is using this dudes efforts to shame men for clout.

[@fjsioewiox]

you're on the wrong channel, stay with those 'dating' podcasts

[@officialdapperdb]

The content creator made this fair game for discussion. Direct your ire at her. The title of the video is "Win = DATE". I won't be responding to anymore reply's as you're either a dude who's white knighting for a girl who you'll never meet, or a girl who is her target audience to trigger at a man's expense. In anycase, I won't change your mind anyway. Good luck and I wish you well.

[@waybackhome6578]

He was super aggressive and likely drunk. Have some social awareness and impact on the woman giving a polite no when out of nowhere some stranger starts harassing her for a date. There was zero getting to know her just straight up let’s go, give me your number, let’s get a drink.

[@mikehipparchusnewton7436]

How Dare you comment on this in your face I'm better than you behavior from a good looking female who's out of everyone's leage. Modern day feminism has educated us that us men are worthless dogs and overall only deserve women with mustaches who are 2's at best. If a lady is super good looking she should only be showing off on social media and talking down to everyone else as God designed it to be of course. That's part of the reason society and dating is so easy and pleasant to deal with today of course...Social media showing off how awesome women are and us men are just desperate loosers to get a lady who's actually attractive. Now go read some Jane Austen.

[@chrishosey7535]

@@waybackhome6578 Firstly, "harassing"? There was next to none in the video. Secondly, he straight up spent most of their conversation asking questions about herself. So why are we lying? Also, immediately asking someone on a date is actually a better way of getting to know them, as you will actually be put into a situation where you both are actively getting to know each other instead of just a casual interaction.

[@valorant123]

dude moves like hes 800+ clowns everywhere

[@joannewilson6577]

I think that he was better then 1700 unless he meant a 1700 FIDE = 1900 online...since she is +2100 at least in blitz and +2200 in classical....

[@martinblack781]

What part of 'no' doesn't he understand?

[@keramidasnicolas2079]

The second game was very good and very interesting.

[@firstlast7692]

She may have a boyfriend and could never publicly agree to a date 😅

[@kevinwellwrought2024]

He must have lost on purpose!

[@chrishosey7535]

Why is everyone calling the guy creepy? Am I missing something?

[@waybackhome6578]

Probably. Seems like you don’t understand when someone is uncomfortable.

[@chrishosey7535]

@@waybackhome6578 Just because she's uncomfortable doesn't mean he's creepy. Seems like you don't know what a false equivalence is.

[@Vcreations216]

How he's long castling when his king moved?

[@KianDaHazrd]

They allowed it to happen

[@boxofcans461]

It doesn't matter because he lost the game anyway.

[@Anonymous-8080]

14:31 that transition though

[@chetansahu1505]

@2:25 how could he castle?

[@alcubierrevj]

Hi, Nemo, what video editing software do you use and how do you alter his vocals and do a moving blur on his face?

[@nikitabanks]

afterfx and you can youtube how to change voice

[@genesiscruz2000]

He's definitely out of her elo.

[@paper_gem]

If you want to reject a guy, just say you're gay, and/or married.

[@s.t.7169]

What man could concentrate on chess playing this girl!? Adorable + WAYyyyyy smarter than me that's for sure!!

[@gohkimhock]

Why the black can castle after moving the king?

[@piotrkorycinski6820]

Chess has been my passion for 40 years. How can I play chess with you online?

[@nawelgarcia1917]

Try Titled Tuesday

[@joannewilson6577]

How strong are you because she is +2100 in blitz and +2200 in classical? You won't last long if you are not at least 1700 FIDE. = 1900 online.

[@datoubi]

Yeah no. I guess that's the last video I watched from you. To be fair, I just started doing that today. This guy was alright and your extreme reaction here doesn't match your reaction you have him.

[@brynsengt856]

How can he castle on the first game??

[@brynsengt856]

Ahh nvm commented too quickly 😂

[@TimViolaSSB]

holy cringe ! btw, its not you who is responsible for their actions. if they want to act like that they should be ready to own their own actions too. i would never protect the identity of someone like that honestly.

[@thedonwu]

pisslow hitting on nemsko SMH

[@Tymczas]

many guys had her...poor SIMP

[@jimmyros2110]

I was actually rooting for the guy although I knew he wouldn’t win. She’s just too good at chess. I hope the poker thing works out for you Nemo! Stay in Toronto and keep up the great content!

[@BradJames878]

I am an older guy, and watching the younger guys screw up makes me cringe. DON'T PURSUE. DON'T give a woman the time of day until she gives some indication that she wants to go out with you. If you ask her out blindly, you have given her power, and women have too much power already. I feel bad for the girl in this video because she is trying to be polite instead of telling the guy to take a flying leap. And to top it all off, the guy tried to cheat by illegally moving his queen. This guy should be ashamed of himself.

[@danielbaggins7341]

What if women never give you any sort of indications though...

[@BradJames878]

@@danielbaggins7341if no women ever give an indication that she might be interested, then possibly you need to take steps to become a better catch yourself. Maybe cosmetic surgery, work out, better clothes, hygiene, etc. And hang out with guy friends. Women find men more attractive when they have guy friends, as opposed to being a loner. But never come across as needy, like the guy in this video did. Women are more attracted to men who act like they have other things going on in their lives more important than they are. And be honest and ask yourself if you are only going after the gorgeous models. Both sexes are guilty of this: they may get attention from a 6 or 7 as opposed to a 10, and they won't even consider that person, even though they might still be a great catch.

[@danielbaggins7341]

@@BradJames878 Thanks for the answer. Didnt expect someone would respond. Really appreciate it. Do You think modern day women are worth of all this effort? I have my doubts. I think it is worth it do this for ourselves in order to improve and to be a better human being in general, but doing this to attract modern women who can dump you in a second because they have thousend options thanks to the social media and dating apps? I Have my doubts. Sorry for mistakes, English is not my native.

[@fjsioewiox]

2:12 wait WHAT THE FRICK???? how did Nemo think he was still allowed to castle?? He had already moved his king!

[@chetansahu1505]

exactly.. i was shocked to see this

[@fjsioewiox]

also this guy probably knew Nemo forgot that he was not allowed to castle, but cheated anyway

[@XxKidnoffxX]

​@@fjsioewiox He just dont really know to play. He was not there for the chess, but more for the checkmate, if you know what I mean...

[@fjsioewiox]

@@XxKidnoffxX lol he said he's rated 1700, and you can clearly see he's not actually bad at chess, just a sleazebag

[@XxKidnoffxX]

@@fjsioewiox He was still not there for the chess

[@daredevilforlife]

The half-men out there that don’t find this dude cringe are part of the problem.

[@rahul2000]

what problem the problem of attraction towards opposite sex?????

[@WaffleKnight1]

If you think asking someone out or getting rejected is cringe, you're probably never gonna find a girlfriend bruv.

[@nawelgarcia1917]

Use the word "cringe" is the problem

[@nick_fuqua]

If a stranger came up to you, asked you for money, to use your phone, give them a ride, or whatever else. You tell them no but then they continue to ask and then ask for a reason why. Then they twist your arm to get you to wager it on a game. you and most others would rightfully call them an asshole. This situation is no different. Aside from the multiple “no’s”, anyone with two brain cells would know that the four women that go to a weekly chess club to be hit on by the hundreds of men that also go. They go to play chess. Lastly, if you learn anything from this video, trying to pressure a woman you met five minutes ago to go on a date, doesn’t work. Dude could probably tell he made her uncomfortable, at the least he could tell they didnt click.

[@nick_fuqua]

@@WaffleKnight1 approaching women like this won’t get anyone a girlfriend either.

[@highcue]

How to stay classy, cringe dude in a chess bar edition

[@nbeqo]

That is why chess is so hard for beautiful girls!

[@nephastgweiz1022]

Yes ! Life is extremely difficult for beautiful girls. Average and ugly dudes have it so easy.

[@michael20223]

Nemo is funny.

[@dagensdom656]

What a creep. Nemo buy some pepparspray.

[@chrishosey7535]

How was he creepy? Lol

[@dagensdom656]

@@chrishosey7535 No means no he keeps pushing. She does not have to give him a reason why.

[@chrishosey7535]

@@dagensdom656 That's fine, but him pursuing in and of itself is not creepy. Firstly, this wasn't a normal interaction where you're just walking by someone and asking them out, they were both in a setting that encourages conversation and a more intimate interaction (intimate as in deeper than surface level interactions like a "hi how are you"). Secondly, this isn't just any person. She's a very attractive, intelligent, talented woman that you don't just see every day. This could have been a once in a lifetime opportunity to find an actually worthwhile partner in a sea full of inadequate options. His attempts weren't rude, nor objectifying, nor were they forceful. So why is he being demonized for simply putting his best foot forward? You don't just give up on someone like that. Doesn't mean you harass them, but he doesn't do that at all. The second he loses the second match, he gracefully exits. I don't understand why politely pursuing a woman, which is what our society has deemed as the proper way of garnering a Woman's affections, (and make no mistake, the way he went about this WAS polite) is now so demonized or wrong.

[@neitt4493]

@@chrishosey7535 It is totally fine to try your chance and despite what you may think everybody agree on that, you miss the point. Just don't insist or ask why you are being rejected. Simple. Why ? Because the first answer won't change just because you insist. Not knowing this much makes you self centered and a not very perceptive person, so learn to read the room, and instant give up after a no. And if you ask why being dicarded, you will maybe force a polite lie ... in both cases you lose even more points. "You don't just give up on someone like that." In fact you do.

[@chrishosey7535]

@@neitt4493 This is a very unrealistic view on dating. It is very common for an initial rejection to turn into a long term relationship. So your assertion that the answer won't change, especially in this context where they're actively conversating, is just false. It's not like I'm suggesting harassment. And although you did hint at this not being the case, asking a woman why you were rejected gives the pursuer at least some closure as well as a roadmap for future interactions. Obviously she doesn't owe him an explanation, but he also doesn't owe her a quick exit to avoid any more awkward interactions.

[@stellahoffman4740]

Nemo, Super cool.💯

[@jamesatkins7592]

Not sure i can watch this - got enough natural cringe of my own 🤦

[@MMarinovWildRift]

Is not possible to castle after king move!!!

[@Cage5]

The fact that he doesn't know the knight-queen trick for a 1700 rated player is pretty pathetic. Or he lied about his rating, which again doesn't reflect well on him. Anyhow, he was a little bit too pushy about things and the dialogue was cringe from his side. Also nemo is too kind with strangers. I'm glad that nothing specific happened with her.

[@chrishosey7535]

Very hostile analysis of the guy. The hell did he do to piss ypu off?

[@KianDaHazrd]

What has this man done to you???

[@jayantpriyadarshi9266]

How could he still castle ? Can someone tell me

[@fjsioewiox]

Nemo forgot and he took the opportunity to cheat

[@peekay4]

Should have posted without the blur

[@jianfenggoh7401]

nemo

[@Korolev_igo]

Hello 😊💆🏻‍♀️

[@Mike-Eye]

lol dude is so cringe

[@chrishosey7535]

He actually wasn't. Persistence ≠ Cringe, especially when trying to cultivate a relationship with someone.

[@nawelgarcia1917]

Sure. Not everyone wants to meet their partner through Instagram or Tinder like u

[@baldheadkid]

What an annoying guy!

[@OGRE_HATES_NERDS]

if it was me asking her she would have been like oh yeah baby

[@fjsioewiox]

yikes

[@toaster4693]

Ew.

[@oliver-04]

yeah sure buddy

[@The_struggles_of_Bubu]

Yes , exactly , and also if I was the captain of titanic , the ship wouldn't have hit the iceberg

[@XxKidnoffxX]

​@@The_struggles_of_Bubuplease in your script, can I be Leonardo DiCaprio?

[@samgratte3429]

so cringe 🥶

[@jackavle]

That guy is so unbearable...

[@chrishosey7535]

How? Please someone tell me how respectfully shooting your shot is creepy or unbearable.

[@jackavle]

@@chrishosey7535 you obviously hadn't realise how cringey you were when you did the same thing as that guy. The fact that you even consider that "respectful" is telling that you don't understand what it meant by respecting the other person, no matter guy or girl.

[@chrishosey7535]

@@jackavle lol, sure man. You didn't even try to explain how the guy was "unbearable". This seems more like a you problem.

[@jackavle]

@@chrishosey7535 and you not able to understand the concept of mutual respect is perhaps why you are such a successful womanizer. Good job, playa.

[@chrishosey7535]

@@jackavle Your ability to casually throw out such serious accusations so casually is actually baffling. Then you have the audacity to believe that you're in the right. Lmao

[@gauravdube8133]

And I don't know why asking a girl out is cringe. Will girls are taking up the job of asking out guys? No, right? Still, I think after the first NO, he shouldn't have insisted. In conclusion, both need to Grow up!

[@blackmamba6938]

I disagree. Girls will always give you no as a first response and will be disappointed you didn't try harder. They always say no to not look desperate and then change their mind shortly after.