Strangers Share How They Came Out As LGBTQ+ in Singapore | TEA TALKS EP 6

This Pride month, we went to Pink Dot (Singapore’s only Pride event) to hear stories of struggles, acceptance and love from the LGBTQ+ community.
Do you have your own to share?
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══ Content ══
0:00 Hook
0:26 Intro (New guest host!)
2:43 Meeting Sherwin (Journey as a bisexual man)
3:24 Coming out to his family
4:41 Getting outed in BMT
6:31 Meeting Chloe (Journey as a transgender woman)
8:54 Going back to school after transitioning
10:43 Emma and Anna's coming out stories
13:33 Getting engaged at Pink Dot
13:58 Getting advice about coming out
15:01 Juggling religion and sexuality
16:06 Ending
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[@lurveanime4ever]

Aww teared up when Syabil said it was all about owning who you are and being true to yourself 🥺 On a side note, love the energy of the host and the guests on this episode! So wholesome!!!

[@omega_3_998]

THIS is the video we need, these are the interviews that make a positive impact. Sadly, the Aimrun video did the complete opposite.

[@54hex]

Yeah right. Its kinda toxic in the comments section if you scroll further and read them. Although it is their own opinions and point of view, we should be respectful towards one another and not make nasty comments.

[@tanzepei1985]

Aimrun's behavior is plain out satanic

[@bharathdeva9407]

He is nobody bro .just ignore him , just a clown desperate for views .nth much 😎🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈❤

[@wallaceli4426]

Ya.. Show more of these monsters pls

[@loveandfaithfulness4479]

Satan, also called the adversary or the devil, is the enemy of all righteousness and of those who seek to follow God. he and his followers try to lead us away from righteousness. he has many schemes to mislead and turn man from God. satan attempts to undermine us by confusing gender, promoting sexual relations outside of marriage, ridiculing marriage, and discouraging childbearing by married adults who would otherwise raise children in righteousness. The Bible condemns any form of sexual act that is considered “worthless” in God's eyes. homosexuality, beastiality, fornication, and adultery. they say it’s all love and everything, but really there is no true love, they are just looking for lust. God made man & woman as a perfect couple to be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth. This was given by God not freely chosen. Going against His image & His design is going against Him. We aren't here to change the word of God the word of God is here to change us, What are the actual "fruits"-the results-of the homosexual lifestyle? Can't naturally have biological kids, Diseases, Suffering, Unfulfillment, Nothingness! homosexual activity leads to a Host of serious transmitted diseases (STDs) HIV, fatal transmitted Infections, and physical health problems, mental health problems, major depression, anxiety, substance abuse and greater risk of suicidal and a greatly shortened lifespan and the suffering list goes on. why are there so many diseases? why such young deaths? It has to do with the sexual practices. It goes against how God created bodies to work. and when you violate God’s design, there are always consequences. Same-sex attraction is always an expression of the fallen nature. But if you repent now, God forgiveness starts the process and His power continues to work in us, when we say yes to Him. But when we fail to listen to God, then problems, affliction and suffering will be the consequence of disobedience. I say this lovingly and to say truth in love is to love one another. Do not value your homosexuality Sin more than you value God. The only hope for the homosexual and all people who break God's laws is to turn to Christ. if we want to walk with Christ we must repent and reject our fleshly desires and deny ourselves. God can save you from that horrible life and community. God promises the strength for victory over sin, Including homosexuality, to all those who will believe in Jesus Christ for their Salvation.

[@thebaabstudio8989]

Really proud of Chloe, take care and take in the positivity and ignore the negativity ♡

[@deevyatjw]

this made me tear up!!! everyone’s stories were so heartwarming and inspiring, thank you ogs for supporting the community

[@simweizhi218]

Pink Dot is really more than fighting for LGBTQ+ rights. It is also fighting for and owning our love towards ourselves. Really am thankful for the interviewees in this video.

[@shaunateo5736]

really love the energy from the host and the guests in the episode

[@adeltay924]

Super proud of Syabil! It's never easy to share about personal matters, but he chose to be vulnerable and open about it. Truly admire his courage ❤️ sending you lots of love Syabil! ❤️

[@duckseatingbread]

Such lovely stories 🥺🥺🥺 teared up at Emma’s sharing at the end

[@SchismSphinx]

Their stories are really inspiring! And love Syabil's energy as a host as well!

[@myeongwol]

Very nice interview!

[@heperspires]

There is so much hope with the conversations shared in this video. Also for the young host, come out in your own time, don’t rush the process but you’ll be loved regardless. Let’s hope one day where coming out is no longer necessary as it’s just who we are. Straight folks needn’t ‘come out’ to be who they are, so why should the rest of us have to when we are completely normal? 🏳️‍🌈

[@jjjjjjjj7290]

Sorry to burst your bubble but its not if it was normal there would not be laws like this, plain n simple.

[@sophinetan8104]

Syabil speaks so well! To all the people who shared, thank you for opening your heart and sharing with us! To all the closed minded, bigoted people in the comment section - you people are the exact reason why we need more and more and MORE of such content. So that hopefully your children one day will have the courage to be who they want to be despite what you tell them. Thanks OGS for never shying away from difficult topics

[@bharathdeva9407]

Well said 💪

[@bharathdeva9407]

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈❤❤❤

[@ndzm4722]

Id rather be called bigot than living a delusional life🤣

[@bharathdeva9407]

@@ndzm4722 u r the one living a delusional life

[@tanthaman]

Disgusting comment

[@sharontham11116]

Just be what you want to be...as long as you are happy!

[@natalie1798]

Great video once again! Syabil, your story is beautiful too. Thank you for being so honest about your struggle with religion and sexuality - you are not alone and I wish you the best ❤️

[@Its_a_me_WSA]

Those devout religious ppl who use religion as an excuse not to accept LBTQ ppl haven't truly understood what their religion espouses: kindness, compassion and acceptance. If I, just a free-thinker, can do so, all the more reason why it's wrong that they can't. What's most important is whether they lead a decent, honest life

[@bharathdeva9407]

Well i m a hindu n i love all my lgbt brothers n sisters btw 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@Its_a_me_WSA]

@@bharathdeva9407 great! Yup not referring to all religious ppl. Just those who have misguided interpretation of their religion teachings

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

what about if someone who is pidofeel? is it right n ok? because it happened naturally . they're not chose to be like that..can they be part of the alphabet team?

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

@@piexelss consenting people? what if it's relationship of consenting mother n son or father n daughter?

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

@@piexelss you don't know about contraception? or what about if it relationship between father n son? there's no risk of birth defect right?

[@til_valhalla16]

Being a guy who is for the most part, straight, I sincerely hope that Singapore as a society will progressively open up more to the LGBTQ+ folks and accept PinkDot as just another event, not a "special", unique event. To all my LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters and whatever label you wanna put (not that you have to), stay strong, be positive and keep being who you are without the need to repress your true self.

[@nadra558]

So much love for syabil, always❤️ im so proud of him and all the interviewees here ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@shnizzlsmashizzls]

Go Syabil!!!! Sending u virtual support 🥺 Good job on this episode ya’ll!

[@lydiat5819]

I am straight and I already have to face lots of challenges so much so that it affects my health, so I can't imagine how they face life on top of the daily challenges as this is no small feat. *Salute* to them, they didn't ask to be born that way. We must be more accommodating to one another.

[@luk4aaaa]

Thank you for understanding and synpathising, also healthy coping mechanisms helps LGBT people get through life as well as supportive friends.

[@manboyangel]

So so proud of you all! Stay strong and be happy bc there's absolutely nothing wrong with you!

[@chi7dish]

thank you ogs for contributing to progress by having a warm open discussion about this community ❤️

[@GAEUL1985]

Why don’t people like gay people? We are so accepting and wholesome! ♥️ Listen to the advice given by Anna. You are wonderful in your own way!

[@chocolatejellybean2820]

it's important Singaporean has a place to feel safe.

[@zoneinfinite]

How is Syabil now? Did his parents watch this video? To Syabil's parents, jangan marah. Paham lgbt bukan pilihan (understand that lgbt isn't a choice or a lifestyle).

[@tanjohnny6511]

In todays modern information age,homophobic is outdated idealogy.We should treat sexuality as personal choice or traits and no discrimination against them.

[@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS]

Food For Thought... ... thank you @Our Grandfather Story for sharing this video~

[@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS]

😌 Furthermore, Really Grateful to the team behind the production of this video too~ You all did a wonderful job

[@niconiconii5266]

Guys, as a straight man myself, i gotta say PINKDOT and it's community do deserve a place in our society, they deserve to being part of our "balance" system, just like how we accommodate religions and races. But, i do think we need some patient to get our system prepared for officially admitting LGBTQ existence and being part of us. By the way, i'm not speaking as PAP lap dog but think seriously we do wants them to live their life without killing the whole balance of our society, like many country does, they earn their balance by fighting each other. So, we should go the opposite, push the government for a well-planned system, do not make discrimination toward LGBTQ at the same time.

[@bharathdeva9407]

Agreed bro .i m straight n i m ok with same sex marriages in singapore .

[@jjjjjjjj7290]

They do disrupt the balance, the balance of normality or whatever you wanna call it. This becomes normalised everywhere theres gonna be a decline with birthrates.

[@niconiconii5266]

@@jjjjjjjj7290I don't think anyone is born for the matter of birthrate tho, it can be solved even if we recognised same sex marriage.

[@jjjjjjjj7290]

@@niconiconii5266 you do realise if your parents were gay you wouldnt be born right? Why is there a need to recognise same sex marriage? Its not normal coming out as queer or whatever or having to identify people by their pronouns.

[@douknodawae7805]

@@jjjjjjjj7290 brother how many ppl having sex nowadays more unwanted babies than birth rate dropping leh

[@Howardggoh]

its so wonderful to hear these stories and really inspiring to be true to yourself

[@oksurebro7154]

it's rejuvenating to see the current like to dislike ratio. Shows that people are still disapproving of Pride and the movement in general whilst on thr other hand a growing trend of youth hoping on the bandwagon, expressing themselves. But what remains to be seen is the fact that most don't realise that tensions are still quite strong on this matter. Holding its position as one of those issues where there's no clear right or wrong because it's just 2 polarised parties going off against each other. Moreover, whilst the vocal majority that we do see here are waving their flags there's still and always be a part of society still adverse on the movement and future of our society. From a standpoint some argue that the control over society that our govt has, will be gone if laws are changed in the long term. It is intrinsic of humans to have needs fulfilled but some may push for change in less civil ways. Notice, how the law on public assembly accentuates that you only need 1 person to stand outside government property and protest unlawfully before they get arrested ? My point here is that this entire movement has too many points of contention to it and moving forward some may not see the change they hope for.

[@annagracewang]

so wholesome!! syabil slay 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@chimmichua1986]

Sherwin looks like a cute plump dumpling

[@AK8901]

The guests are wonderful! Hosts too.

[@arseniykucherenko4960]

Please bring the light to the topic of Polyamory in Singapore is so little information about people who living this lifestyle here.

[@aquaticaries7725]

Who else is jealous that they have accepting parents? TWT Like pls can we switch parents even just for a day?? TWT

[@thick_daddy_tyrone9472]

Wtf is wrong with you

[@willyhuang4026]

Chloe, all the best to you.

[@entertainment1443]

The secret of a successful life is to be happy with yourself. That's all that matters.

[@vincenttan6303]

I identify as fat fxxx. Just had 4 heavy meals today.

[@hamid8222]

i think Syabil's my favourite host from OGS now! congrats on hosting your first Tea Talks session!! can't wait for more🤩🫶🏽

[@duckseatingbread]

yea he did such a good job!!!! love his energy :'')

[@xXGrEyZXx]

Honestly couldn't tell Chloe was a boy

[@lilaznkid4ever]

Respectfully asking, is the host on the right a male or female?

[@chris9879]

Female

[@Jayalen]

She got hair loss issue.

[@Ghost_594]

the accent gay people have tho

[@beckham48]

The 2 ladies amazing relationships is much better than straight in toxic relationships

[@misterbig9025]

Do the males need to do national service? If they can skip NS then ...

[@BULLIER8]

as long as ur a male in the eyes of the goverment u need to serve. unless u officially change ur gender with surgery.

[@christyzhang3026]

syabil so slay ❣️

[@aquaticaries7725]

Omg I was there at Pink Dot and saw them I was scared to come onto the set even cuz I was so scared of being outed esp to family

[@Ghost_594]

damn the like to dislike ratio on this vid

[@bchpls24]

how do you see the ratio? 🤔

[@luciusl753]

Sadly i never get the respect i should get most of the time. People are lucky to have a supporting family and friends

[@jgd777]

AIYOYO...ABANG PONDAN

[@liuxiaokang454]

Adel straight ❤❤

[@irfanazhari8863]

Stay strong 💪 and do not give up.🙏

[@foais4104]

Saya doakan supaya Syabil diberi petunjuk & hidayah & kembali ke jln yg diredhai Allah.Semoga anda dpt bimbingan & menjadi muslim yg ta'at.InsyaAllah dgn selalu dekat dgn Nya anda akan berada dijln yg lurus.Pergaulan memainkan peranan penting dlm mempengaruhi hidup kita,jadi berhati-hatilah.

[@ummiramli6554]

Aamiin3

[@paletrumpet]

lovely video

[@Jayalen]

HAH! GHEYYYYYYY

[@sternritter9788]

Is it gay if i'm attracted to a trans? Cus Chloe was cute af

[@tanthaman]

Ew

[@thatperson8741]

Ye its possible. Or you could be bi. Dont worry about labels tho. Some people like having them and others dont and ye its rly up to you if u wanna explore it

[@bharathdeva9407]

@@tanthaman lame

[@Jayalen]

Wah Lao Wei please get a real nerd girl.

[@asyrafamir7359]

L comments fr

[@aHopefulDream]

damn I didn’t think there’d be this much homophobia in the comments 👀 y’all need to calm down

[@bharathdeva9407]

Haha just ignore them.thier opinion is irrelevant anyways.

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

only straightphobia here😂

[@spinvalve]

Hey yo bois and gurlz, Roe v Wade just got overturned by the SCOTUS 💥 Peace out

[@bharathdeva9407]

Thats in usa btw

[@spinvalve]

@@bharathdeva9407 wrong. That's in usa

[@oatman9714]

First one is beyond ridiculous. Looks like king Kong mixed with Ursula gone wild.

[@milktoast8071]

As a biological female, I would still feel uncomfortable having a transgender use the same toilet as us. Especially if they are bisexual. Given that we do have different hormones and body parts, I would most certainly be cautious and afraid

[@DiamondShogun]

“Robbanahablana min azwajina wazurriyatina qurrata a'yunin waj'alana lilmuttaqina imaama.”, “Ya Tuhanku, anugerahkan kepada kami istri-istri kami beserta keturunan kami sebagai penyenang hati kami dan jadikanlah kami imam bagi orang yang bertakwa."

[@nmi8286]

Aamiin......

[@alya.nasser]

ameen

[@umarmars47]

Tabahlah ummah kita..

[@ruhasli9255]

Patutla tanda2 khiamat dah terang2 ni..jantan suka jantan betina suka betina..tak takut ke dgn musibah yg akan datang..tobat la kau jantan2 dan betina2...baca kisah nabi Luth tu dah menyeramkan..Nafsu mengalahkan hukum2 Allah swt..istigfar banyak...tanda khiamat dah terlalu banyak ooi

[@beara1139]

the transgender girl, when time to serve ns how ah lol

[@asyrafamir7359]

She wont need to

[@BULLIER8]

as long as ur a male in the eyes of the goverment u need to serve. Unless u legally declared female then will not be required to serve NS. ( transition or surgery )

[@asyrafamir7359]

@@BULLIER8 she go medical check up the MO see also cfm dont let her serve bruh

[@BULLIER8]

@@asyrafamir7359 well like i say unless shes legally declared transition gender change with ( transition or surgey ). If ur IC is still a guy the easiest way is still admin jobs, wont be combat.

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

what about if someone who is pidofeel? is it right n ok? because it happened naturally . they're not chose to be like that..can they be part of the alphabet team?

[@bchpls24]

dude.. it's all about consent. kids can't consent..

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

@@bchpls24 but the argument is, it happened naturally as they said..they can't help it..the attraction is there. actually i have no problem with the alphabet group as long they keep their lifestyle to themselves behind the door (private). the attempt to normalise this lifestyle that makes people upset

[@bharathdeva9407]

What is a pidofeel .is it a new word u invented .go n learn english first before u start to comment .😂🤣

[@bharathdeva9407]

@@muhammadnizamuddin2084 if u r upset keep it to urself .this is a democratic country ppl can live their lives the way they want to live .i m straight n i m ok with two men kissing each other in public .u can look away if u dun like but u have no right to tell ppl how to live thier lives .

[@muhammadnizamuddin2084]

@@bharathdeva9407 KZbin will delete my comment if i spell correctly

[@cottonbud8078]

xia suay

[@albertpang102]

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[@umarmars47]

Habis

[@shafiqyongxian97]

Au’dhu billahi mina shaitan rajeem…

[@cathhl2440]

Mmm… please also be sensitive to others? How you dress can make people around you feel uncomfortable and awkward.

[@ggl1518]

Fatherless

[@anahor_nid]

Kesian betul dgn jantan suka jantan betina suka betina..Allah laknat kaum ni

[@aisinGioroPon]

I identify as an Apache Helicopter.

[@54hex]

what a classic joke

[@sophinetan8104]

eh you very funny and clever hor?

[@aisinGioroPon]

@Kimberly Chua sure , My pronouns are he/li . Nothing wrong right? It’s totally fine to call myself that right?

[@aisinGioroPon]

@Kimberly Chua so it’s fine right to call myself that?

[@mdariff9757]

Say no to LGBT or rainbow. This community must not be in SG. You people ruin the new generation mind.

[@tanthaman]

Agree

[@ryanang56]

i identify as innocent so if i ever killed someone ... uk what do say

[@sophinetan8104]

then you just hope your original witty self can carry you through your trial lor

[@tanthaman]

@@sophinetan8104 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@bharathdeva9407]

Why dun u try that n see for urself .its not crime to be gay or lesbian but its a crime to kill .

[@ragsoh]

Always love OGS...now I have changed my mind. Good bye! Just unsubbed. Sadly 3 weeks ago, I was commenting how good your contents were. I have to eat my words now.

[@54hex]

just because they support this community? It’s your own choice but this video is just about sharing one’s identity/preferences. Nothing much to be honest, it doesn’t change their style of making content for viewers/clients.

[@LeonTai]

Oh no! ... anyway

[@sophinetan8104]

yeah i think they didn't need your sub either

[@DiamondShogun]

He got his own rights and opinions too. No one should force anyone to like or accept any group since y’all are also entitled to your own choice and preferences, he deserves his own opinion too.

[@sophinetan8104]

@@DiamondShogun yeah that’s why I think he can unsub eh. No one asking him to remain subbed

[@ryanang56]

u identify as he him than wake out your clothes for the'Guy' in the first vid

[@sophinetan8104]

eh maybe go fix your english first la

[@tanthaman]

@@sophinetan8104 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@tj3398]

wtf public indecency???

[@sophinetan8104]

please la - your mouth is also a public indecency

[@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893]

@@sophinetan8104 angkat bola

[@sophinetan8104]

@@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893 eh…. I also wanna angkat yours. When your travel vlog coming? Soon..??

[@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893]

@@sophinetan8104 I already got my bola carried with care so I don’t need one.

[@miniexistence]

you're also very indecent to strangers on the internet

[@poliewill2909]

377a must stay.

[@henrysim8185]

yea, no shit

[@sophinetan8104]

i think you at the wrong video

[@bryant8563]

Ok boomer, you should stay at home and continue watching Channel 8. KZbin content is too advanced for you

[@henrysim8185]

what most people said it's true, it's either we're against you guys or with you guys, you want others to be open and accept the lgbt community but you can't accept other people opinion/remarks

[@henrysim8185]

​@Kimberly Chua well the same goes for you, it's up to us to decide what we wanna watch & cast our views & opinion, don't like? , you can ignore the comment

[@halimah1309]

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@syahabbath2352]

This is so wrong ah...

[@sophinetan8104]

so wrong to love?

[@tomryann86]

Love wins eventually. This is 2022 not 1990. Either change your mindset or go to hell

[@spinvalve]

@@sophinetan8104 ia satu kesalahan besar untuk gian homoseks

[@tanthaman]

@@sophinetan8104 🤮 🤮 🤮 🤮 🤮 🤮

[@nmi8286]

Definitely wrong.....

[@spinvalve]

cringe

[@tanthaman]

Wtf

[@sophinetan8104]

right back at ya

[@tanthaman]

@@sophinetan8104 r u lgbt