No contact is a win win situation in every aspect... Immediately after the breakup, it gives you a sense of hope in order to keep your mind in place and make the grieving process easier, and when you eventually find out, if they would come back or not, you would have healed considerably by that time, to the point of questioning if you really want them back. So you don't care either way and you are happy with yourself. If they come back, then maybe appreciate it and give it a try how it plays out, if not you would be 101% assured that this person never really deserved that much to be in your life in the first place. Either way, you have already overcome that person, and also walked away with decency. Keep it together people!!
@CollectivelyEzra4 жыл бұрын
If they don’t want to be in your life, just let them go. You deserve someone who actually cares enough to be in your life
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Facts
@lilianamarques82423 жыл бұрын
that's how my stbx felt for 2 years. that's why he left. not because he gave up but because he didn't feel loved. I won't give up on him because I was just as lost as he was.
@esdrasmanrique6457 Жыл бұрын
What if I messed up
@esdrasmanrique6457 Жыл бұрын
@@lilianamarques8242 update?
@alisonb5921 Жыл бұрын
Me & him, were just friends, (neighbours). He went no contact, February, last year. We had sporadic contact, through the last year. It was the cruel way he treated me after he went no contact. I got harassed, my cats were hosed, if they went in his yard & other harassment. He moved out, late last year. I have seen him driving around town with a young child in his car. I think the child is hers? I'm happy, single & childfree. I never wanted kids. I'm glad he left & moved on. I'm still ignoring him & I cut a friend out of my life, who still talked to my ex neighbour. I won't tolerate disloyalty from friends. No contact, works !!
@PistolPete19804 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, I followed your advice on no contact but took it to the next level. I hide in a doomsday bunker and went radio silent. Didn't go to work, didn't contact my parents, friends, not a soul... Next thing I know after a few days to a week. I'm getting messages and calls from pretty much anyone I ever knew asking if I'm ok and that they are worried about me. But I stayed strong and didn't respond. Next thing I know they got the whole damn town out looking for me, cops , search dog, the whole 9 yards. Anyway It was at this point that my ex gf contacted me. She started sending me delirious texts telling me how much she was worried about me fearing the worst. that she loved me, and that she wished we could be together again. Anyway long story short. I'm back with my ex after she thought she had lost for permanently. gave her a little taste of life without me. No contact really does work. Listen to this guy folks he knows what hes talking about.
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
You did the right thing in this situation. What that let you know is that she genuinely care about you. You put her to the test to see if she cared and she passed good for you sir.
@RealCoachLee4 жыл бұрын
LOL
@zepperfox76694 жыл бұрын
Lmao😂 bro even the cops supported your no contact
@FueledByKass4 жыл бұрын
LMAO!
@rushikeshpatil11574 жыл бұрын
@@zepperfox7669 😂😂😂
@joshichauhan0404 жыл бұрын
I must say coach Lee deserves to have Billions of subscribers.. I swear to God❤️
@christinewatson19894 жыл бұрын
He's the only relationship/breakup coach on youtube who isn't taking advantage of people who are in a vulnerable emotional state and trying to get them to buy some bogus book or program. The emergency breakup kit is fantastic (I bought it) but the information he just gives away for FREE here on youtube is they type of stuff you'd have to pay other breakup coached hundreds to get.
@Marianna71174 жыл бұрын
@@christinewatson1989 He is amazing! I only wished he went back to consultation, when you can write to him with your own situation and questions!
@jaynefernandez4834 жыл бұрын
Joshi Chauhan I totally agree
@christinewatson19894 жыл бұрын
@@Marianna7117 Me too! I'd love to spend that stimulus check on a coaching call.
@TW-mb4mu3 жыл бұрын
I see you and agree with you. He is doing truly the work of God!
@ewoski4 жыл бұрын
When you’re in the middle of a break up, all this advice goes in one ear and out the other.
@ATXMEX784 жыл бұрын
It's like that bro after a while I'll just rewatch them and yeah it's like the first time listening.. but it gets better bro Also look up Dating Guy, The Love Chat and Corey Wayne.. even Alpha Male Strategies Look up hypergamy and it will make sense stay strong bro it's a Marathon not a Sprint Work on yourself and it gets better! I know she may have left an imprint on you and seems irreplaceable but she is that's why there's so many out there for us.. I still compare other women to my ex and they can't she was amazing but atleast I had my turn with her it's hard sometimes but I get through Oh an meditation helps alot bro!
@rushikeshpatil11574 жыл бұрын
@@ATXMEX78 you just named every fuckin thing that I have been doing to stay stronger.
@rachaeladeline4 жыл бұрын
I have been watching these and even rewatching these for the past week to really engrain it in. It can happen, lol😂 becoming a better person is hard, but it's worth it! It really makes you feel like you have more dignity in yourself.
@michaelfuller83042 жыл бұрын
I disagree man. These vids keep me strong. I tried to reach her over and over but didn’t get anywhere. No contact is what I learned from these vids. They keep me strong, helped me to compose myself and pick up my self respect. I’m now working on myself and learning to be a better version of me so if she comes back then I’m stronger or if I meet someone else then I’ll be better having learned from my mistakes
@XxJustinxx882 жыл бұрын
Man thank you for the laugh! Seriously! I haven't laughed In days but I read your comment and literally laughed my ass off waiting to clock In at work. It's so simple but true!
@ricasso7774 жыл бұрын
I’m 6 months in NO contact & I still miss her . The pain has eased with time but I do have days when I feel like breaking nc, but then remind myself how far I’ve came .
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Luciano Mercado have you heard anything from her? If not I would remain in no contact and began seeking someone else. Sometimes women will break up with you and give you no closure so why should you. If I were you I would forward with life and seek another woman.
@ricasso7774 жыл бұрын
vdubman Smith no I haven’t heard anything from her . I have been staying busy focusing on myself and my career , been dating other women the past couple months but it just doesn’t feel the same .
@juliemanso45894 жыл бұрын
Lucinda Bunafield that’s a scam ! Don’t take advantage of people in a time like this!
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
@@ricasso777 you are doing the right thing for yourself by slowly moving forward with other women. Continue the no contact for little bit longer but if you dont start hearing from her it may be time to continue to move forward. It just depend on how bad the breakup was whether it ended on good or bad terms. Was you the cause or was it her having a change of heart. Either way just hope she reach out some day and if she does play it cool and have a regular conversation with her without bringing up the breakup.
@ricasso7774 жыл бұрын
vdubman Smith long story short she moved away from work , gave me false hope of a long distance relationship 1 month into her moving she slowly started to ghost me , texts and communication wasn’t the same and her excuse was she was too consumed with her new position & didn’t have time to balance work & a long distance relationship . But before she moved the last time we were face to face she was balling her eyes out . Which why at first I was confused by her behavior and demeanor soon as she moved . She went cold and distant
@eelyakasablak4 жыл бұрын
They send so many mixed signals... one day they’d treat you like you don’t exist, mean and that they’re sneaky. Trying to hide their “rebound”. Then the next they’d ask you to have lunch. Although she treats me like I don’t exist and rude I always have a smile on my face, super normal and polite. I’m doing everything you’re saying right before you posted this video. She’s also the first person to check my stories on social media. It’s really obvious that she’s faking her happiness.
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
If she's sending you mixed signals then its obvious she dont know what she wants. That's a waste of your time and energy so why give her a good vibe and she's being fake with you. What you could do is go no contact and dont post anything about your relationship with her on social media. Just back off and let her come to you. If her attitude towards you dont change then you need to dismiss her from your life and move on.
@christianclark46124 жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee, I just wanted to say that I've been binge watching all of your videos, you deserve a Netflix Special for the amount of quality you've provided in these videos. I was watching other coaches on KZbin, getting advice from people who were telling me all the wrong things, I wished I had found your videos sooner, it would've saved me a lot of heartache. As soon as I can, I will be purchasing your emergency kits, even though I'm not married or currently in a relationship, I really just want the value of knowing what to do in these situations moving forward.
@RealCoachLee4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Christian!
@jlorenzoval.17503 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is so handsome and so smart!! You are the best relationship coach on here.
@karenreyes11224 жыл бұрын
Coach lees advice got my ex to contact me. I was in an LDR and thought maybe this wouldn’t work but it has! Thank you coach lee
@JelenaVecic0244 жыл бұрын
Really? I was in LDR almost 7 years.was dumped on 8th march ..since then i am in NC... still feel super heart broken...how that works, let me know.
@Ace88456784 жыл бұрын
Tell us how!
@karenreyes11224 жыл бұрын
Jelena Vecic when he first told me he didn’t want to be with me I pleaded. That afternoon I accepted it and went straight to NC. IT WAS HARD. first month felt like and eternity the second month was hard but I had to really tell myself either NC to get him back or move on. I was literally moving on when I got a text from him. Asking how I was during this pandemic. I was nice but followed coach lees advice in not being the one to carry the conversation so it kinda died out. Then a week later he asked to call me I said ok and he apologized for everything I said thank you and that’s it. At this point I said to myself he needs to be the pursuer so I never initiated to text him. I thought well I blew my chances but I don’t want to feed into his ego and make him feel like I’m the chaser. Next think you know he’s constantly texting me, yesterday we spoke on the phone and he’s flying out here in two weeks. We aren’t officially back together but I feel like all of e advice coach lee gives is honest and it actually works. I watched many of his videos multiple times to get through. Stay strong work on yourself and know your value. Wishing you the best! 🤍
@sandrae23194 жыл бұрын
Karen Reyes beautiful ♥️ im glad it worked out for you
@karenreyes11224 жыл бұрын
Ace Lyp I was devastated when my ex broke up with me. I pleaded for him to stay but he was sticking to his “no”. I went into NC right off the bat. Watched all of coach lees videos to get me through the first month. This pandemic is also making it THAT much harder. I wanted to reach out multiple times but as coach lee says we can’t be the ones to pursue. So I held my ground. Just when I was feeling like I was moving on he reached out. One text here another there, I’d respond but never carried the conversation. Our talks have been small. Last night he called and we spoke for 2 hrs. In coach lees video on LDRs he states that the big gesture has to be done face to face, can’t be something done over the phone. In our conversation last night he asked if he could come visit and see me. I agreed. I have a lot to clear and get straight but his action of coming to see me speaks volume. I can’t say we are going to be back together but I now know that I have the advantage.
@BihFaca114 жыл бұрын
NoContact for life 💪🏼🙌🏼.
@richardl41164 жыл бұрын
Right! If you're not feeling it, time to move on. Let her be
@BihFaca114 жыл бұрын
Richard L Yes sir! Life goes on life is short
@victora.g.27082 жыл бұрын
@@richardl4116 No contact will last until they reach out, sir. It's not our work. I hope you understand this.
@user-ix3sr6ng8u4 ай бұрын
😅😅
@vibe85174 жыл бұрын
Make a video on first love and first breakup.. Cause many of your viewers are facing first love/breakup... This would be very helpful to alot of people
@toiletfarm4 жыл бұрын
My ex wife and I exchange our son, and our texts are generally pragmatic. When I do talk to her in person, she's anxious, dumps her fears on me, and is borderline in tears almost every time. There's a lot of confusion for both of us at this point. No contact is good simply because it prevents outbursts in anger.
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Keep it short with her and dont let her know anything about who you may be currently seeing. Your conversations with her should be strictly about your son and nothing else. Good luck to you sir.
@cockasaurus162 жыл бұрын
Bpd or bipolar possibly there
@mirelle_guthier4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee ,you just made my Day,thank you so much for all your advice,is so wert full.Want you to know there is lots of coach it out there,but sense I find your coaching,I made my choice,for me what you say counts for me,because it makes so much sense.Not only does your Voice sounding very soothing,you talk really from true Life,that makes so much sense to me.When I get uneasy with my Situation over breakup ,all at takes it seems turning in to your Video’,Emergency Kit,to building me back up,your Face expression often makes me laughing,and gives me Strength to hanging in no Contact ,to get me thru the Day’s .So thank you for that,you are truly amazing.I know with your advice I am in good Hand ,and I also learn patience,for what is important to me.Please stay safe and thank you so much for all the help you give us,I am so glad I found you and your coaching ,I would not want to miss that,that is how important it is to me.
@heartbroken66274 жыл бұрын
This video showed up right when I was wondering if total no contact is too much- after all, every relationship is different.
@damien4v34 жыл бұрын
Heartbroken what’s your relationship and situation?
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Depend on whether there are kids or property involved. If not then no contact is the best option especially if the person broke it off with you.
@kiasca34894 жыл бұрын
Hope she/he doesnt know your youtube channel name 🙈🙊
@JirouYuki3 жыл бұрын
Its hard when she’s my boss, I still have to see her at work everyday. I haven’t finish my project so I cannot quit for now. I dont think no contact will work unless I totally disappear. Stuck here, guys. Seeing her everyday it hurts me so much.
@peachblossom.phlox34033 жыл бұрын
I also work with my ex and it's so painful seeing him all the time looking happy without me and I'm dying on the inside 😞
@alfredtineo30233 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee has the best channel.
@staceyrourke25573 жыл бұрын
I sometimes see my ex at work as we like working at the same place. He can't even look at and I've backed off. He sits there so quiet and I carry on and have a laugh with everyone in front of him. I hope all this works
@mr.wonderbreadman35974 жыл бұрын
I will say coach you helped me in understanding how to properly communicate and to not do vulnerable things anymore I more happier with no having my ex and feel it as a blessing that I’m able to be myself again
@77BLAZER774 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your help coach, its really comforting and reassuring to listen to you, please post more often especially in these depressing quarantine times !!!
@Goofy22424 жыл бұрын
So I just got out of a video call with my ex. We hadn't spoken for at least 3 weeks, but I sent her her copy of a magazine which came in the post along with a book she had left here. When she received it she asked if she could video call me. We had a fun conversation just chatting about coping with the quarantine and how everything's going, I was a bit cheeky with her throughout and at some point I just stopped her and said "btw, can I just say you look gorgeous today", which she appreciated. She did say that she thinks the breakup was the best thing that could have happened at this time, because since we are physically separated by the quarantine we couldn't even meet up if either of us wanted to or see each other randomly in the streets, and therefore we both got time to just get on as individuals. I said I agreed of course, but just changed the subject as I wanted to avoid talking about any relationship issues. I then said let's just leave it there, and it was nice to talk to her and let's do it again some time! She said yes and we said our goodbyes. Though just now after hanging up she sent a couple more texts just asking about my family and how they're doing, but it seems like maybe she is opening up the channel for communication. I just thought I wanted to share, since I don't have many people around me who actually give constructive, unbiased opinions haha Any thoughts on how to go from here?
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Give it some time i would go in strategic contact with her. The good thing is you guys are talking and texting at times but it seems like she don't want nothing serious at this time. So what you could do is go no contact for a while just to see if she will check up on you from time to time. If she dont want a relationship with you after a while and that's what you want then you may have to move on to someone else. The best thing at this time is to give her the breakup and dont force a relationship on her until she brings it up. If she dont want a long term relationship and you do and she's not talking about going to the step then you need to fall back and let her really miss you.
@willpianista Жыл бұрын
We still share the same apartment due to financial constraints on my part. It has been 7 months already and we have been through a lot of stages- from talking regularly and every day, sharing the same table on meals and etc. Currently, I'm using no contact as I can, because dealing with him every day and still sharing so much was hurting me and preventing me to move on. But I'm trying to dont act angry and being casual when we need to talk - but this is recent and these videos are helping me on that. I dont know if I want him anymore because I'm too much hurt for what he did and what I've been through, so this 'almost no contact' is to focus on me on the first place. Now, when me meet and talk there is a huge energy that surrounds us. It is almost impossible to talk to him as a casual and regular talk because of this energy on both sides. We still feel too much but I dont know what is up with him, I just try to focus on myself. I want to move out from here so I can practice the real no contact and then deal with whatever it will become of this. It is a win win situation and that is how I try to think.
@HaloHuntress3 ай бұрын
I just need to get business done. He's completely silent. He's alive, posting, not blocking, just ignoring everything as polite and business oriented the messages are.
@diontaeknox5744 жыл бұрын
You kno what you are talking bout 100 percent..you really do..I only listen to you cuz you do not cut corners..ALL FACTS..PLZ LISTEN TO HIM EVERYONE
@geec.19324 жыл бұрын
yay 1st comment and like
@jaynefernandez4834 жыл бұрын
Hello King Coach Lee, I was looking today for another video and you’re here. Thank you. Love your hair and the blue looks good on you. No disrespect. Thank you , total relief watching your video driving home again from hospital. Stay safe 🥰
@jaynefernandez4834 жыл бұрын
Andrea Buma have one already King Coach Lee
@JimmyDean-ew7gh2 ай бұрын
I went into no contact with my pregnant gf after My understanding of “space” was way off from what her idea of “space” was. Her idea was apparently closer to no contact. Can you talk about how to properly give space? How to effectively communicate towards what the needs and expectations are. So others don’t mess it up like me? I’ve honored her no contact, but used strategic contact to check in on her health with baby. That her stress and anxiety are in check that that I hope she is doing well. Stated “not expecting a response” as my first sentence. Just genuinely wishing her well. Hope it didn’t hurt me in my obvious desire to get back to baseline and reconnect and repair and raise our baby together…. Fingers crossed. Got 6 more months to go, so there is time.
@ecstazyrm3 ай бұрын
Coach Lee has great character
@angiemail84594 жыл бұрын
Thank you, coach Lee, that was fantastic and very helpful.
@sharontay74823 жыл бұрын
Thank you coach Lee, this is just what I need to hear....your advice brings me lots of comfort.
@blue_boy_2 жыл бұрын
He left me because his mental health is bad and that he has no interest in a relationship with anyone atm, which I partly think is also because of his mental health. He told me I didn't do anything wrong and that he really enjoyed the 2 months he was with me. We're both 16, so it's not like this relationship could have become anything serious like marriage or kids. I slightly hope things could bloom again in adulthood where we're both more mature and he's ready for commitment and has a better mental health
@KC-kz9pd4 жыл бұрын
Strategic contact will backfire if your partner has borderline personality disorder, emotional issues and is a narcissist. Tried strategic contact and she turned nasty and then snuck in my house and took all of my daughter's stuff that we were supposed to be sorting through together and dividing up fairly as we were supposed to still be on good terms, now it's turned ugly because I expressed my disappointment in her for what she did
@CiluhStyle1 Жыл бұрын
I feel for you man hope my wife doesn't turn out to be nasty
@LoKiiiEditz4 жыл бұрын
My ex came back after 4 months, I sent him pictures of my workout progress. Like a week after that he contacted me and wanted me to come pick him up and we hung out. I always wear a hat and while I was driving with him in the passenger seat. He took my hat off my head and I said give me my hat back all playfully. He laughed and said you said that on the first day we met. The time we had was fun, snd he wants to hangout again soon. We were together for 2 years and we lived together. Just be patient, work on yourself. I followed all of Coach Lee's videos, he was scared to reach out to me because he gained alittle weight.
@LoKiiiEditz4 жыл бұрын
He left again, he said he was stressed and didn't want to talk for awhile. I'm really not caring at this point. So much energy wasted.
@hayquesonar28964 жыл бұрын
LoKiiiEditz I’m sorry girl ☹️
@Taran5324 жыл бұрын
Do no contact with zero expectation that it will work. From watching millions of these videos and reading all the comments, I gather less than 5% of people actually get back together. Respect yourself and move on.
@RealCoachLee4 жыл бұрын
It’s significantly higher than that. You don’t always here the end of the story when you read comments. And a lot of people do crazy things and then expect no contact to bail them out. It doesn’t work every time but it works a heck of a lot more than 5%.
@ach40494 жыл бұрын
My ex and I do not have children together, but I have a son and he does too and we like each other's kid. So, today was his son birthday and I sent a gift via Sedex and an email to my ex with the tracking number just saying it was from me to "D"s birthday and should arrive soon. One line short, polite and not personal. Did mentioned us or our breakup or anything. Signed with my bussiness signature with full name.
@terribythesea15064 жыл бұрын
Great sound advice Coach Lee...thank you...you rock!!!
@timt89254 жыл бұрын
Damn I been out right ignoring her for a week and we live together.
@kiranruzzell23583 жыл бұрын
Hi coach lee.. I've been watching almost..i mean almost all of your videos now because I've been dump last month and now applying almost all of your NC and strategic rules and hoping it will work..btw i watch one of your videos that im doing wrong that when she dump me i keep on messaging her and she doesn't seen any of my messages and i realized that like you've said before that I'll give her time 1-3weeks..so, now ill applying the NC rule just today I'm making this message on you..and hoping for a bright future for me and for my wife🙏🏻..ill continue watching all your videos this is now my only sympathy because i dont want any of my family and friends get involved with this ill make it on my own way with the help of your videos.. God bless you more coach and more power🙏🏻😊
@ianshakeshaft41503 жыл бұрын
It's been 7 months since my wife announced we had to separate, 2 months later I was told she was involved with someone and 6 weeks ago she finally moved out to her own place. I am in limited contact due to us having 2 children. But she seems as cold as ever. In process of taking her off the mortgage and I recently fitted new locks. She was not happy at all and messaged "what's the rush" to change the locks.
@benstevens216413 күн бұрын
Any updates?
@sonymouse29174 жыл бұрын
But how can they wonder what you are up to, when they know you are stuck at home during COVID Self-Isolation?
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
SonyMouse they only going to know what you tell them through a phone call text or social media. If the person is not communicating with you how you going to know what going on with them.
@doublea1253 жыл бұрын
It's all about mirroring. Don't give any more than you get.
@taaronjones4 жыл бұрын
Hey Coach Lee, appreciate your videos man. They have helped me recover from a fallen relationship 2 years ago. I have used your tactics to move on to a new relationship. We started dating in January and built up amazing momentum. I was going to ask her to be my girlfriend, but then quarantine happened and I haven't seen her in person since. I know she is really really into me, but the connection has faded since quarantine. Most likely because she is a nurse in an epicenter and overwhelmed with the tragedy. We have texted here and there but nothing of substance. I have a note drafted out stating my intentions to pick up the momentum when this is said and done. This feels different since we never started a formal relationship. What would you do? Again, much appreciate the videos and advice
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Aaron Jones in your situation I would try strategic contact. She could be very much overwhelmed with the covid situation or maybe she had a death in her family. I would text her one time and wait for a response. If she responds then that's good let the coversation flow naturally. If she dont respond after you have reached out a few times then I would go to no contact. Dont give up if she care anything about you she will respond at some point just be patient and dont force it let her call you.
@Lavida-melody4 жыл бұрын
@aaron jones My ex and I started dating in January as well. We live in the same neighborhood so we never stopped seeing each other during quarantine. If she doesn’t live too far away it’s worth a shot to start trying to see her again. Especially since things are slowly opening back up. I know you wrote this a month ago, but a month in a pandemic changes more rapidly than usual. Good luck!!
@rickmunroe50784 жыл бұрын
I wonder if coach Lee and coach Corey are drinking buddies?
@ollyolly48782 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for sending me to this video greatly appreciate this
@faridsyarmany4 жыл бұрын
thanks coach lee, i'm feeling better everytime i watch your video, i'm still in the NC rn, it's been 2 weeks of NC, she has reached me out a couple of times and asked me how i was doing, she also told me to move on but i responded to her politely and simply. I hope i'll get her back soon.
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Dont respond to her anymore based on what she said. Stay in no contact no phone calls or text. Let her have the break up and just move forward with your life.
@unknown498183 жыл бұрын
Did u ever get her back?
@robertbernabe68693 жыл бұрын
Loved the video. First off, what should I say/do if I have an outing planned with my kids and they ask if mom can join us? Secondly, should I discourage the kids to refrain from trying to include me in their outings? Ideally, I would want my time to be with me only and her time with her only. We have agreed for family outings together once a month. Maybe twice depending on what's going on in the world.
@TheMichaelCardoza2 жыл бұрын
I’ve made some major mistakes up to this point. I hope I can turn this around.
@jessicas.8052 жыл бұрын
Yea. Me too. I’m wondering how it all works now. 😔🤔
@stephaniegonzalez68352 жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee me and my husband are still living together he gives mixed signals there are times he laughs and jokes around with me but times he’s distant and we never go out what do you suggest
@quirkyquester2 жыл бұрын
Oops, I just pretended that I didn't see her. Hopefully that didn't ruin the chance today. I'll smile and say hi to her next time I see her.
@amorhatley11332 жыл бұрын
thank you coach Lee... you're the best❤❤❤
@lojadoindianobr2 ай бұрын
Following your videos I try to avoid being angry even though . It's been very difficult to coup with my ex . Having kids in between looks like but sometimes I don't want to talk to her coz of way she has disrespected me for a long time. Sometimes she sends messages do this do that for the kids and I just send a thumps up. Now moving on it hurts but will pass god willing.
@traviseversole4 жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee, I have been in no contact since January. Out of the blue about 5 days ago I get a “hey” text from my ex. I don’t respond immediately because I was busy at the time although I wanted to. I get another one about ten minutes later that said “I just wanted to see what you were up to, but okay.” I replied a couple hours later. We exchange a few texts and she exits the conversation by saying, “Well, I will let you get back to work, I just wanted to see what you were up to.” I told her it was great to hear from her. The next day again, “hey.” Almost the same conversation as the day before. The third day I get “good morning” with the same conversation. On the fourth day, I get “hey” again. Then she says “I’m sorry for all the heartache I put you through. I left you with no closure. I was selfish. And I’m really sorry. I had this on my heart today.” I told her I appreciated her saying that. She said “Welcome”. I sent her a 💜 and she sent back a 💙. Those are our favorite colors. I haven’t heard from her since and that has been two days ago. What could this all mean? I didn’t try to set up a date because I moved away for a better job opportunity after the breakup. I was doing great, focusing on myself and my goals, and this has got me a bit confused. Thanks for all you do!
@sandrae23194 жыл бұрын
Travis Eversole I would go back to nc. I think she needs more effort for you to initiate contact. I got an apology aswell few days ago and im back in nc, because he needs to work his ass off now if he wants me back.
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't put to much thought into it at this point. You have already elevating your situation and you shouldn't look back. I would keep the no contact in place and move on to greener pastures. Like a city bus there will always be another one coming through. You have to deal with women that is willing be with you for you not just somebody that's passing through.
@sashafranklin23093 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, So my wife and I are separated, per her request. It’s very fresh. Been on NC for 4 days now. But the complications of my situation are, the kids are not mine. She doesn’t allow me to see them. Even when I ask. Then on top of that, she has recently said that I do not care for the well being of her or her kids, because I haven’t sent money to help her. She states that I only would help her if she lives under my roof. And that I am controlling. I don’t know what do. Do I send money? Do I continue with the NC?
@lyricalprophet1004 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, I really would appreciate your advice on my situation.....
@stephanielong61134 жыл бұрын
I really need to speak to you coach lee!
@stephanielong61134 жыл бұрын
Andrea Buma I love you thank you !
@globalmark33004 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee do you have any videos to get EX back with different attachments styles ? if not can you make some eg Dismissive Avoident Thanks
@jordancollette34347 ай бұрын
My fiancée had an emotional affair with a past ex and I've been doing no contact for almost 2 weeks. But she was somehow signed into my social media accounts and saw conversations of me and some girls who were talking about having a 3some with me and she sent me 20 angry messages saying how gross I am and that she thought I loved her enough to make things right, even though she broke up with me. What should I do in this situation?
@michaelpipinias43052 ай бұрын
@Coach Lee Thank you for your videos and replying to me Coach Lee. I wish I had found you sooner as after watching your videos I now realise I have caused alot of damage. Is there any other way of contacting you so I can make plans for a private session, I do not have FB or IG. Wishing you all the best Thanks again
@naalati14 жыл бұрын
Me ex contacted me after 46 days of no contact via soc med. i replied subtle and simple and she didnt reply. After 2 weeks she contact me again via soc med (private message) wishing me on special festive day. After back and forth 3-4 message, she disappeared and and contact me again after 5 days by commenting on my ig story. I replied and she reply back in 2 days, i decided not to reply her anymore. Why she doin this? Is she try to test the water, try to put me in friend zone or she just want to be nice? Or she just missing me? I know going back to her ex.
@megancretes19974 жыл бұрын
My ex contacted me yesterday after 43 days of NC. He was asking how I've been during quarantine and asked lots of questions about my job etc. We spoke for over an hour but I was not acting too keen and let him carry the conversation. He ended the conversation by saying he's going to bed and if I ever need anything to please message him and don't be afraid to talk to him. I don't know where to go from here I know I need to go back into NC but do you think he will reach out again?
@IrishCassidy4 жыл бұрын
You should possibly have ended conversation first. Let him chase you.
@TuanLe-bp1yb2 жыл бұрын
Don’t initiate anything
@MOTwaccoe4 жыл бұрын
I have kids but contact them directly cutting the ex out of the loop completely. She knows I talk to them and arrange meets with them. They are 10 and 12. They both have phones. I want my ex back badly and I love her. Married 23 years and I miss her daily, we have been apart 10 weeks today and it was my grandsons first birthday. I went to see him at my daughters and then the ex took my 2 youngest and my eldest to see him and that hurt. I wanted to build memories and I feel left out. I still don't talk to the ex because I was hoping nc would work
@allaces95614 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same position as you my friend to a degree,my step son has just had his first child and iv not seen her because of this virus..my ex ended it 5 weeks ago and damn it's hard.. her feelings are shut off from me...I cant even see my kids atm,very tough indeed brother
@Nova-tc6jv3 жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee, I was about 110 days into no contact until some of his insurance paperwork and insurance bill were delivered to my address. I guess he forgot to update his address with the insurance company to his current address. I thought the right thing to do would be to let him know about it, so I broke NC. I left the paperwork outside and he came by to pick it up. We didn’t see each other or talk and kept it strictly about that during our text exchange. Did I mess up my chances by breaking NC?
@cootrecords93214 жыл бұрын
Thanks Coach !
@kristengonzalez18414 жыл бұрын
Hello, coach Lee i have watched all your videos and am in 8 months of No-Contact. Apparently he has a girlfriend, but he asked how i was doing and if i was dating anyone through a mutual friend. What could this possibly mean.
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Kristen, it sounds like his REBOUND didn't work and now he wants you again. They ALL do that. If you take him back, he WILL CHEAT AGAIN. You don't need him. Let him go. Good luck, honey..⚘️
@Vampknightzerolover4 жыл бұрын
After I sent my ex a text saying I understood his decision to break up, he sent me like 5 long texts saying that if I needed anything or whatever that I could contact him and still be friends but I ignored him. Should I have replied ?.....
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Nope immediately go into no contact and dont text back on your phone and Facebook. This person obviously has moved on and is showing you no consideration for your time and energy. Consider it their loss.
@RealCoachLee4 жыл бұрын
You didn’t have to to those. Now no contact begins.
@chrisbell48943 жыл бұрын
We have kids so I use strategic contact but what do u do when she starts texting or talking about random stuff that isn’t necessary? I know u don’t ignore them but I want as little contact as possible so she might miss me.
@richardl41164 жыл бұрын
I asked my ex to work things out, she said no. I waited a week to see if she would change her mind, silence. I blocked her and moved on. There's a shelf live to all offers, mine just happens to be short
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Richard L dont reach out to her at all. Let her have the break up and go find someone else that look better. Trust and believe if she finds out you have moved on and you stick to no contact she'll be wondering how you are and what you are doing. Do not contact her let her contact you and if she do and you care about her let her work hard to win you back not the other way around.
@richardl41164 жыл бұрын
@@vdubmansmith86 Thank you! Update, I found someone, she's very pretty, kind, together and the best part, she pursues me. Life is good. To anyone reading this, my advice is simple, never settle. There's only one you, so be the happiest you you can be 😊
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
@@richardl4116 Im so glad to hear that congrats bud. You did the right thing for your situation. You are absolutely right you have to value yourself enough to not tolerate anyone making you feel like you are not worthy enough. Your ex will regret her decision once she dumped on happens all the time. Your comment made my day sir. Keep living for you it only gets better.
@applesnicolle51442 жыл бұрын
@@richardl4116 / Congratulations Richard! Hope your still together?
@christianpetersons.garvez27074 жыл бұрын
Hi sir good day. Love what u are doing thank u and may I khow how can I contact u sir? I would love to hear some advices from u.
@MsKasiulenka5 күн бұрын
Our son is 17 and my ex moved a few houses down. We were together for 19 years. He cheated for a year and I was willing to work it out but he left us both. He thinks we could make it work if the relationship is broken down to nothingness and potentially be rebuilt. I started no contact for now. He is doing soul searching. He does want to meet once a week to discuss feelings but I don’t know if that’s healthy.
@EmoJoshSavesTheWorld4 жыл бұрын
Hey, Coach Lee. Do you think you could make a video covering what to do if you broke up just before the stay at home orders were started, and how we can keep our exes from getting over us during this time? I literally can’t see her to remind her of the good times or the guy she fell in love with. I feel the fact I have just been a name on a phone for two months is not helping in my favor. I think it’s worth noting that the topic would not be about whether or not it’s okay to contact them during the corona virus, as you already made a video for that, but rather what to do to keep them from moving on during this time.
@ullah20133 жыл бұрын
Hey Coach Lee, what about sharing a dog together with ex? We been together for 4 and half years … She broke up with me about a month ago, and I did no contact for 3 week. The relationship was pretty toxic. But I stuck by her side and never gave up on us. All she does is drink with her friends and gets disrespectful with me. Oneday, she broke up with me of something she caused. I started becoming all needy and begged her to stay. I even guilt trip her. Now seeing thing more clear, I should have never reacted that way. After no contact, she sent me a song and said she missed me. We started seeing each other here and there. She told me, she was talking to this guy right after we broke up … she claiming nothing happened and that they are just texting. That kinda broke me, because I’ve been miserable the entire time… I just focus on myself. Hitting the gym most of my time but still really hurt. We started talking regular because we share a dog that I got for her. We even sleept together few times. I asked her if we can get back together, but she said she’s wants to take it slow… and gives me the hot and cold treatment. I love her, I love our dog and I can’t not stop seeing him. She is overprotective of our dog and does not want to let me walk him alone or maybe she’s using that as an excuse, because I would walk him by myself in the past… I want to get back with her but I feel like she’s not feeling the breakup since I’m texting and I’m there. Any suggestions? Thanks
@luiskurt2065 ай бұрын
Update???
@ferencmondik31 Жыл бұрын
@Coach Lee Shall I wish her Happy Birthday even though she is the mother of my child and we meet regularly? Thank you! Highly appreciate your reply! All the best
@lucypaxton36554 жыл бұрын
coach, what do i do when my ex sent me money during no contact from a business we had together during the relationship LOL is he moving on or feeling guilty?
@azazel39444 жыл бұрын
if you had a business together she felt that is right to you give the money
@mr.wonderbreadman35974 жыл бұрын
I’m not an expert but I’d say he feels inclined to give you money as you both created that together and as a last thing he could do after things didn’t workout so well
@Jayee9999 Жыл бұрын
I had been in a “situationship” with a man at work. He sat right behind me. Fortunately, his manager moved him to the other building. He still comes by to talk to the lady that sits next to me. He ignores me. I did see him in the break room and said hello. The next day he ignored me again.
@SamaelBDS4 жыл бұрын
Are you going to make calls again? I see that it is no longer available for now. I have already bought the breakup guide but I have some questions still
@JPogi6904 жыл бұрын
Maybe you can comment your questions here? So we can maybe help or give some insight?
@chikaokerekenneoma63862 жыл бұрын
I have a question to ask is there any exceptions for the no contact rule, like when you are In a no contact rule can you break it by wishing them a happy birthday and after that still continue with the no contact rules or where doing business before the break up happened do I have to continue the no contact rules or I do it apply in terms of doing business together.
@ineanna3 жыл бұрын
Hello coach Lee 🤗 thanks for your help a lot! Could you please make more videos about married but about to seperation couples. I wonder why people live still together and still broken up. Also what to mention or not mention in a couple therapy, if it is the case. Im feeling nervous because i dont trust in couple therapies much, we are complicated! It can cut the interaction at all. But how will i react to a person who wants to leave me but stay after 3 months of break up. Am i helping to get them be better and move on? Or helping to get them be closer? I cant get the subtle changes in our behaviours like we both are being more and more friendly lately. Please, more video for on the edged people. ☺️ greetings and thanks again.
@ashleynedland162 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend and I broke up but we still live together. So limited contact has been the move as neither of us can move out. Don't know if it's working but honestly I don't care, I miss me being happy.
@nicolasgranados75024 жыл бұрын
What to do when she says she didn’t have feelings for you for 3 months in a 3 year relationship? I feel like I let her have too much control of the relationship because I wanted to be a good boyfriend to her. I think it’s been 3 weeks without talking so far
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
You need to reflect on the three months you were having issues. It may not necessarily be your fault. Sometimes women just change their minds or she could have lost some attraction to you. What you should do is concentrate on yourself and your purpose stay in no contact and wait to see if she will reach out to you. If not then you have to move forward but 3 weeks is not long enough for her to forget about you. She's probably thinking about you now but you have to let her have the breakup and let her miss you. Dont text or facetime her at all. If she care anything about you she will reach out because she is going to be curious as to why you haven't called her. So play it cool and allow her to call you first.
@DatMusicGuyZ4 жыл бұрын
My ex drunk texted me and tried making me jealous by showing she's with other guys, i didn't give a damn and then she called me (guess those guys weren't good enough lol)
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
Your next course of action is to go into no contact dont respond to no text messages or Facebook posts. Go ghost and act like you too busy to talk and hang around other women that look better than her and see how the tables turn. You have to play the game she's playing except be more extreme by going off the grid with her.
@DatMusicGuyZ4 жыл бұрын
@@vdubmansmith86 I think the right call is to go no contact until she calls again, she has seen that i hang with other girls too
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
@@DatMusicGuyZ you right and at the same time if she wants to be with you seriously make her earn her way back into your life. Dont give her the green light so easily.
@Littlgrl21321 күн бұрын
@coach lee. I work closely with him. And the project we have together is going badly. He is uncooperative at work and dismissive. It got so bad I had to report him to his boss. Not sure where this anger is coming from but I cannot not speak with him. The issue is same as personal, not communicating clearly. So what now??
@ashleysmith1011 Жыл бұрын
Great content thank you.
@OfficialFloydboy4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, I went online and ordered your emergency break up kit. After I completed I went to book a call with you and it gave me NO options. can you please help with this. Thank you!
@OfficialFloydboy4 жыл бұрын
Maybe I might have to. Just sucks because I already paid for the breakup advice he was offering on the site. Just wish it was a real way to speak to them. Maybe I Should’ve saved my money 😕 and just watched the free videos
@thomasnorthcastle4130 Жыл бұрын
Simply awesome
@nationnat10254 жыл бұрын
Think my chances are dead. My ex and I had a big fight over the fact that I wanted to end the friendship and get out of the friendzone. Well, I got out of it, but for the wrong reason. She says she forgives but cant forget and has unfollowed me on IG cause she says we're not friends. Still friends on FB, but still
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
If she's not taking you seriously then you are wasting time with her and I would go to no contact on everything and move forward.
@AK-wj7bw4 жыл бұрын
Hello, Coach Lee she broke up with me a week ago, it was pretty serious. We were talking about kids, marriage and life together. I chased & did beg then got in an argument later on. She blocked me everywhere. Went two days of no contact. I apologized for overreacting and acting selfish. She talked to me a bit through email. Now unblocked my number as well. I told her as you said I’ll miss you & wish you the best, she replied with it’s the past, all we can do now is grow as two individuals. I haven’t opened the text saw it in the notifications. & have started the no contact officially. Should I say something or say nothing.
@luiskurt2065 ай бұрын
What happened?
@tacsshacktomcurrie14912 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the link. I failed in no contact in the fist 5 weeks, my wife just says she needs space, it will be a long long time before she will consider us and she doesn't know what she want but I went begging and I think iv made it worse. Thanks for this video
@SSpitz162 жыл бұрын
Hi Can you give update?
@tacsshacktomcurrie14912 жыл бұрын
@@SSpitz16 6 months now still separated
@SSpitz162 жыл бұрын
@@tacsshacktomcurrie1491 Thank you for letting me know. Do you guys still talk or are you doing No Contact? In my case, we separated 5months ago after 11 years together. Hard to do the NC.
@tacsshacktomcurrie14912 жыл бұрын
@@SSpitz16 yeah I kinda been abot unless tbf, now we just talk regarding the children, she's not as cold towards me just amicable. I don't reply to messages stright away and when I do talk to her it's about the kids, I don't react when she is pushing my buttons, dont get angry or show my struggles, today I just try and keep it kid focused but it is hard. I'm friendly enough not rude ect will make a passive comment like, how was your day ect but rarely. That's about I definitely getting better.
@SSpitz162 жыл бұрын
@@tacsshacktomcurrie1491 Wish you all the best! Hope we can both get through this :)
@zeniz84 жыл бұрын
I really need some advise.. So after the whole no contact phase my ex reached out and after some weeks we went for a walk. I flirted and was playfull and our bond was very good and we laughed a lot, felt like good old times. But.. What comes next? What can I do right now to get her back? I don't want to come over as a needy person, I am to far to fail now.. I worked so hard to get her back. Someone please tell me what to do now? Thx for reading.
@vdubmansmith864 жыл бұрын
The good thing is that you guys are vibing and getting along which is great. I would do strategic contact with her and dont force a relationship on her just yet. Let her keep chasing you and take it slow she will respect you more if dont force something she dont want. Let her give you the green light and then you take the opportunity to cash in on her offer. I know you anxious and you been in no contact for a while. Dont blow it by making her reminisce what caused the break up. Take your time and let her get to know you all over again. Whatever you are doing now to keep the spark do that when you with her and dont ever let her see you sad. Act casual relax and enjoy her company when you have a chance to talk to her. Remember dont force your love let it happen naturally.
@bjarnieinarsson54692 жыл бұрын
Its so hard cause me and my ex talk sooo much about our son. But i keep it on point, but im being funny and casual. I send videos and so on to my ex of my son and me doing fun stuff. But still afraid its to much
@marterllll4 жыл бұрын
make a video about getting back an ex with BPD
@johncieclark38974 жыл бұрын
Martin D run
@brendaedwards36514 жыл бұрын
Hi coach Lee
@ohevshalomel2 жыл бұрын
I can contact my two adult stepkids myself, so I’m not concerned about that. But my oldest cat lives with my ex-partner (her choice because she hates my other cats, LOL), and she’s an old girl. I miss her and don’t want to give up seeing her, plus my dog loves visiting his “daddy”. I haven’t contacted my ex since he dumped me about a half a month ago. Should I contact him to arrange “visitation” for the pets?
@caroshmarow Жыл бұрын
I’ve had to break NC to collect my remaining items 🙄 I’m dreading seeing him after 3 weeks going deep into NC🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
@CiluhStyle1 Жыл бұрын
What if you're married and you're children are homeschooled, spouse breaks up with you but can't leave to separate or get the space you need cuz you have to be there for the homeschooling part? And spouse has deserted you at home while they only come home right before you have to work...how do you deal with something like that? This is so painful. @coachlee
@h.s.47954 жыл бұрын
I want to know how did you get your haircut in quarantine, coach.
@PistolPete19804 жыл бұрын
You gonna call a snitch hotline?
@h.s.47954 жыл бұрын
@@PistolPete1980 I need a haircut myself.
@richardl41164 жыл бұрын
Lol, no sh!t
@RealCoachLee4 жыл бұрын
I actually got it cut really short the day before my state closed businesses.
@richardl41164 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee, always one step ahead!
@sufianelmariamy99062 жыл бұрын
It has been 8 months now , my wife applied for a divorce already, and we have a baby together, do you think doing strategic contact will still help me ? Thank you for all your videos.
@teddyh8714 жыл бұрын
I’m on close to the 3 month mark of no contact. However my ex is a nurse in the hospital on the covid unit. I saw her on bumble a month ago. I don’t think she’s dating because she’s taking the virus very seriously. Does this make this time count less because she’s not dating and focused on work? It’s a super confusing situation:( . I’m laid off aswell so nothing but time to go stir crazy.
@Germanybabe4 жыл бұрын
@Coachlee, are you available for calls?
@Yoshibelle6152 жыл бұрын
i love your videos they have helped me understand the breakup dynamic i wasn’t giving him the breakup but i have and it has helped me not care so much and he’s reaching out and being decent side note i think your nose is cute lol
@lisagw46322 жыл бұрын
I don't work with or was married to my ex, however we have to see each other regularly. I work in a place that he frequents on a regular basis. He is there pretty much everyday. I do not work there everyday so I do not go unless I am working or that is what I try to do. We do have many!! mutual friends that also frequent this establishment. I am trying to use the no contact rule but because of this situation, totally disappearing is not practical. Any advice would be appreciated.