No Contact Rule Success Stories and Examples

[@Dj_CaTz1]

I gotta say, we broke up in like November. It was definitely hard, she started being distant, I heard some stuff after we broke up. I was like screw it I’ll work on myself, using this and masculine energy. They said no contact. I did just that, focused on myself. Enjoyed life, she went through like 3 guys in 5 months. She has been trying to get back with me for the past 2 months and I have turned her down. When she left, that’s when I realized I deserved better (: good luck fellas! Y’all can do it!

[@southsidefronto]

Preach 🙏🏽

[@lisamanoban5699]

Thats what i like to do since she is with other guy rightnow but we have children it poison my mind what to do

[@roger9162]

She belongs to the streets

[@MaryGj]

Omg … three guys on 5 months …that’s sad …. What a shame .. don’t take her back she is low life …my ex I think is doing the same thing to me …. I took him back so many times I loved him so much .. I bagged him , cried , I got hurt and stressed… I feel like he is doing the same like your ex…

[@AlexanderBeenGreat]

Coach lee, please start doing this at least every few weeks. It really helps with staying optimistic and is helpful with anxiety

[@lili63js51]

Update? I dont know if i need to be optimistic cuz he will ever ever reach out.

[@harris4357]

Same, any updates?

[@heartmendoza3361]

i'm dealing with my anxiety now🥺😓

[@Mainstdreamer]

Same!

[@heidiarmstrong5464]

Anxiety ruins your confidence. It screws with your mind, makes you panic, and do stupid things. I liken it to being on a tightrope, trying to keep it together, and then you fall again, because your distracted by anxiety. Anxiety keeps you from your goal of getting where you want to be with your ex.

[@ShilohJulia]

Your explanations are so true. Anytime anyone looks up “get my ex back” they come upon a million metaphysical “law of attraction” bullshit. Your advice is scientific and psychological. It’s not about praying or chanting and meditating. It’s about being logical and level-headed. It’s not about “soulmates” or “twin flames” it’s just about how human being’s brains naturally respond to breakups and relationships. You are the real deal.

[@AReazy67]

Well it is about those things you mentioned

[@DR_socal]

I agree! No pseudoscience bullshit. Coach Lee is using a scientific approach, which is refreshing in many ways.

[@brooke9188]

They’re one in the same

[@bowhunt9968]

God and coach Lee is your best chance!

[@DockClock-rp2ro]

Agreed. The stuff you mentioned is essentially a roundabout why of applying this same method. They solve the same problem but with woowoo language, and no actual behavioural understanding. It leaves them open to gaps and misunderstandings.

[@SOCCERxPRO18]

Can’t wait to type my success story here! Stay strong everyone

[@SOCCERxPRO18]

@@kewl800i No update. Ive moved on and am so much better

[@SOCCERxPRO18]

@@tH4tAwsOmeDudE Ive moved on. I feel so happy and confident on my own

[@maybugz]

@@SOCCERxPRO18 best way to be.

[@alexanderstevens145]

@@kewl800i it takes over a year sometimes. If you were with them for 6 months or longer they prob will reach out at some point. If it was a one month fling you probably won’t hear from them ever again.

[@ketobodybuilder2482]

It works i just fell for the breadcrumbs of she wanted a serious talk. Smh about to go back . I hope it will work the second time.

[@CupofLizzy]

For everyone who goes through a rough break up right now, im sending everyone virtual hugs! i know its tough, i ended crying almost each day! but we got this, i pray for you all.....

[@ronchilled]

Thanks 🙏

[@danielbrown8602]

I made all the wrong moves at first. Separation anxiety is a killer. On a positive note I lost 10 lbs from not eating. Now I'm on the no contact and the last 2 days she reached out to me.

[@brandonohara4122]

How long did it take for her to reach out?

[@danielbrown8602]

@@brandonohara4122 3 months. We're actually back together and now married.

[@brandonohara4122]

@@danielbrown8602 thats great man I'm on like day 46 or so of nc

[@danielbrown8602]

@@brandonohara4122 if you really love her, just keep bettering yourself. And do A LOT of praying and exercise.

[@brandonohara4122]

@@danielbrown8602 Amen I'm not expecting her to come back though. Just working on myself. We'll see right?

[@ErikasCorner]

I'm here to spread some hope y'all. I initiated NC and after 37 days of NC he texted me today. He texted me asking me how I'm doing, he said he missed talking to me and he's anxious asking me when he and I can see each other again! This is 100% truth. Listen, here and there some days were pretty difficult for me but I stuck to NC. Keep going everyone. Trust me I know how you feel. You can do it. Thank you Coach Lee for your logical, sound and soothing videos to keep us going. I'll be taking things slow with him but excited to see where this goes.

[@rebeccav7420]

Update? Hope all is well!

[@maxmillianochango6575]

At first i started NO CONTACT to get her back but with time i realized i needed it for myself,if someone truly loves you they will never leave you because of issues that can be resolved,I know God got my back and i will heal completely and things will be better with me if i continue working to be a better version of myself

[@61shades55]

Flighty people make lousy partners anyway.

[@tabby__cat]

It's truly mature of you to realize that you needed no contact and space for yourself, not just for your ex. It matches my situation, because after 1.5 years after my own breakup and having begged my ex to come back, I realized that I needed time to grow and appreciate myself as an individual. Now after 3 months of no contact, I feel like I was able to heal and be better. I do hope my ex contacts me soon though! But in the meantime, I'll continue working on my own life. Thanks for sharing, and good luck!

[@maxmillianochango6575]

@@tabby__cat all will be well you will reach a point like me now that you don't care if they come back and I can say I am in a good place

[@MrSamoannn]

@@maxmillianochango6575 happy for u man! Love Life!

[@johnnycase2905]

@@tabby__cat update?

[@adiova55]

Hello Coach Lee, I’ve been meaning to message you over year now to tell you thank you. I watched your videos and they helped me get through that difficult period. During that time being alone, I grew. I committed myself to no-contact: blocked her on all social media phone, etc… No contact for about 3 months, and well long story short, she called me out of the blue and we have been back together for over a year now, and the relationship is flourishing. For me, the magic happened when I started doing thing for myself and she was leaving my mind. Thank you again. I hope to meet you in person one day to thank you! Maybe have a beer?🎉😂

[@13sprintuser]

Wow amazing! Was she by chance avoidantly attached? Are you guys still together?

[@aprilzoe_4494]

Success here !!! Even though I have him back I still come back to watch these to feel better. Also though I have him back im still radio silent on social media . Many hating people out there DIDNT like us happy so. I don’t post what I do with him. We went out to lunch today ... it was amazing . I went to his job to eat and he was all over me we saw someone who worked with us who saw us together we did not engage but we were all over eachother . I’m so happy tbh

[@simonemathew4422]

Me too

[@That_Handle]

IKR !?! It can seem that way - that some people don't want to see a success story so close to them... I think people are becoming comfortable and not only the dopamine fix from touch screen technology and liking, "friend"-ing , pinning, etc., I think some people are finding it difficult to celebrate good events that are just too close to them now as well too. I told my ex that if she wants to come back that she needs to come back stronger even though she was the one that broke up with me. I pointed out that she had some serious, lingering mommy-approval/-shame and parental (divorced) modeling issues, weaknesses and reactive-assuming behaviors and, if she ever reconsiders, that she needs to talk to me about what those things are and that if we are to ever visit with each other to seriously attend to openly addressing the matters, that neither of us tell either of our families what we are doing because it is about _our growth_ & not theirs , not for their approval nor are there any of their situational friction they might want to apply upon her/us to jealously obstruct us.

[@wyattandwill12]

@@simonemathew4422 I'm not a professional so I could be wrong, but it might be a good idea to stay in breakup recovery mode as long as it takes because things can revert and end up collapsing again. Not speaking death, keep up the good work and you may see life!

[@NofyahShemTov]

Me too. Because I know there's a chance he'll ask for another break, next time I plan to be ready for it.

[@swativirdi3020]

How much time did he take to come back????

[@himaniyadav1750]

Success story here coach Lee,,,my ex had dumped me after going hot and cold for some time. I had gone into NC . He called today after about three weeks . We spoke naturally. He told me he was watching a song,and it reminded me of him and what went wrong between us . I felt happy. I pray for everyone to find their love. Thank you coach Lee for giving strength and being there.

[@jambogb]

Any update? What happened in the end?

[@ecb_luster]

i hope you're in a happy relationship dude you deserve it you're such a selfless amazing person for making all these videos. wish you the best man

[@TylerSmith-dx8pb]

I plan to post my success story here and every other channel when it happens! I loved my girl and I know she loved me, I made a mistake, made plenty more mistakes in the break up, but I’m betting on myself. We had a good thing. Day 20 since last contact. Stay strong 💪🏻

[@JuanGarcia-rq3tu]

Update ?

[@Crm.xcviii]

I think they got back together 😂👑 I’m happy for him

[@TylerSmith-dx8pb]

Sadly not friends, but I’m doing way better now and I’m okay with things, dating new people, I’m actually heading to a date right now! Keep at it

[@brandonohara4122]

@@TylerSmith-dx8pb how are you now bud?

[@TylerSmith-dx8pb]

@@brandonohara4122Hi Brandon, I’m doing really well man, thank you for asking. Sadly, my success story is not what most people are hoping for. Having said that, I have come to realise a new sense of self, and I respect myself more. I can’t put it all into words in a KZbin comment, but I have honestly begun to realise my true potential, and I wish the same for everyone reading this, whether you get the outcome you desire or something else. Whatever happens, happens for you, and you will be a stronger person because of it, and at the very least, go to the gym. Peace and love ❤️

[@garymbantu]

I want share my recent success too, i went into no contact since the last week of January to 17 Feb which is around 3 weeks. My ex reached out to me and she says she misses me and thought it was bad that we missed celebrating valentines. As coach Lee says i didn't ignore her i casually told her i missed her too. We have reconnected and for the first time she asked me what we can both do to up our game & learn from our mistakes . We have planned for first meet up on 14th March. Coach Lee thank you for your strategies they work

[@kungfukenny1540]

Update?

[@flyeaglesfly22]

Coach Lee: thank you for all your help. I haven’t had to watch one of your videos in awhile and it’s thanks to no contact. I went immediately into no contact for 3 months. All the time apart did was show me that this is real love, I couldn’t move on and didn’t want to. We had a unique situation and our ending didn’t feel right. Lots of unfinished business as we were best friends and didn’t end because of any certain reason. I couldn’t wait any longer, I needed to see where she was at so I could either move on or work together for something stronger. I’m happy to say we’re back together and it feels better than it ever has. We’re more honest and open than ever and it feels great to have my best friend back in my life, and I have you to thank. Thank you!

[@vibe8517]

I want my bestfriend too

[@Liz.Ann.e]

If you don’t mind sharing what you said to her ? at some point I want to just reach out to him to see if I need to move on or if he is willing to work things out. Can you share your story ?

[@DravenThegloriouscat]

flyeaglesfly22 hey I’m glad that you got her back. For me, a month ago I was devastated because she had just broken up with me

[@abdul-otf]

How did you reach out to her? what did you say? I’m in the same situation as you, I need your help

[@Thigrandil]

Same exact situation here! 3 months into the breakup and ive lost 50lbs, she texts me every day, we see each other 2 times a week, shes my best friend, i cant and wont ever move on. Shes in a rebound, so it needs a bit more time. Pray for me, i need all the help i can get!

[@perfectcatch24]

NO CONTACT DAY 2- It's really hard because I love him, but everytime I feel sad, I watch this video. I am hoping for the best.

[@thedamnedalpaca8159]

This is not Coach Lee, this is Obi-Wan Kenobi

[@jerrycundiffii4818]

Kenob-Lee

[@alexanderfinlayson3555]

Obi Wan Koachlee

[@LieutenantCaine9]

Coach where would I be without your videos? Man, it's like your reading my mind! Today I felt weakness and the need to reach out, but I am maintaining NC. Thank you so much for everything, for keeping us all strong and disciplined!

[@dE3Lov]

Been no contact for almost 5 months. It's over. I appreciate coach Lee's optimism, but in my case and many other's relationships there is no getting back together.

[@dE3Lov]

@@johnmay161 thanks John, from what I've heard she's already moved on and is in a relationship.

[@NomadUrpagi]

At this point you can try contacting her as coach said.

[@danieljohnson9807]

Sometimes when you least expect it their number pops up. I know. Its been 6 years used nc many times sometimes it lasted over a year. It does work but does not repair the damage.

[@harris4357]

Any updates ?

[@shorts_mania6]

@@danieljohnson9807 so true

[@jocelynparfan4595]

Oh i love success stories Coach Lee,please make some more of videos like these.Examples of your real coaching to people about no contact is very easy to understand that the no contact rule is a very powerful tool.

[@Rockardo_]

I honestly need more of these they give me so much hope and just help me calm my nerves about my whole situation

[@lunaluna8100]

I watch your videos everyday for hours. I have really bad anxiety. Your videos helps me to deal with my anxiety. I watch your video till I fall asleep. I'm really grateful. Thank you so much. ❤️

[@Alex-mx6mu]

"I have dwelled in darkness without you, thank god you reached out" Hahaha this killed me

[@paulabatari4282]

The no contact rule works. Don’t give up! If he or she really loves you they will text or call eventually.

[@XoloVT]

Its been a month. Kinda rough. So many emotions go through my head every day and every week. Even though what happened really sucks. I just want my bestfriend back

[@brandominoeffect]

D16 Oisuv don’t we all. Guess we all have some really stubborn exes

[@masondykstra9464]

Brandon Thomas anyone is gonna be stubborn when they don’t want to do something we just have to accept they don’t want to be with us rn and that could be permanent

[@jpletcher8682]

I'm dead inside

[@CorporateQueen]

You need to work on yourself. They won't even start to feel your loss until around the 3-4 month mark

[@That_Handle]

Same.

[@jaynefernandez483]

Hello King Coach, listening to you on my drive home from work, soothing. I too made mistakes at beginning but as soon as I found your videos, I absorbed all things you said, when I focused on myself he began reaching out immediately, I let him come to me. It truly works. Can’t wait to be notified for your videos. I can’t thank you enough. 🥰

[@StepOver420]

how long did you wait? how llong were u guys togethe?

[@ramonzeiro]

I had a boyfriend for roughly three months, but before that he was just getting out from a eight months relationship. Now that he has broken up with me, he got back with his ex. Yes, I was the rebound. I'm in no contact for 45 days but I just accepted that everything that happened was just a rebound. All the love he promised, the attemps to be a better person for me was just him recovering from an abusive relationship. I still thinks a lot about him but I want to move on, I can't force me to like him anymore, he will not change. I want to thank Coach Lee for helping getting through all this messed up situation, you really teached me really powerful lessons that I will carry on my whole life from now.

[@toel33]

Ramon Carneiro its okay to grieve and feel the loss! But I’d like to remember you that you’ll become stronger, wiser and a better version of yourself! I don’t know you but I’m sure you deserve someone better and you’ll meet that someone someday! 🙏🏼

[@kiasca3489]

Just use NC buddy, if you were good enough and the ex was and it fact it might continue, you might have a chance. Did you see the rebound video? What a rebound does that helps the dumper.

[@perfectcatch24]

Stay strong, it's hard but I also need to be strong like you. He needs to know my value.

[@klhooker]

Assuming he doesn't come back a year from now you will be a much stronger person for having had this experience. I have been where he is and he may be looking in the mirror and asking himself why he let himself back into a toxic relationship when he could have moved on. However that is his cross to bare. The father you stay away and the less you obsess the better. Work on yourself for youself.

[@ZoeyIndigoSky]

I'm in no contact, it's almost been 1 month. Been binge watching no contact videos all over youtube to keep me sane!! Man been up and down, working on myself, some days been good, other days I just think about him and how he is seriously so special, kind, his humour, so many things. And it's just so hard to find someone that just clicks with you and has those traits. Been open to the idea that either he contacts me in the future or ital get better and I'll find someone better. But I'll be okay. It's obviously just hard within the first few months. But I have been through multiple breakups - you just need to accept the grieving process and learn and grow from your mistakes and be a better person! For yourself and future partner. Really do hope I get a second chance with him, but I'll be okay and become a whole new person regardless!

[@anilmagar3545]

Really inspired

[@ronaldwow]

Any update

[@shampa.basuchatterjee]

It worked for me within a month of zero contact. My guy is back, but by that time I had also learnt to enjoy my own company and get going on my own. No contact is great not only to get your ex back but also very healing for your own self. You feel so much more confident, calmer, and the realisation that life is great with/without him is liberating! I also practiced gratitude and knew for sure that if not him then someone better than him!

[@annabylina]

Did you come back together?

[@madlife7274]

@@annabylina is she is not replying... mean she is living the perfect life with his someone

[@vidyaroy1627]

No contact worked for me. Thank you so much coach Lee ❤ I will share with my friends. You're the best

[@nbagametime3295]

Update?

[@rachaeladeline]

"I have dwelled in darkness without you" Sadly, even though I now realize it might sound stupid, I probably would've said something like that unless I saw your videos😂 Coach Lee has our backs. You're a Godsend!

[@Thessaloniaworsley]

I’m a little over 30 days of no contact/radio silence . I deactivated all my social media and stopped speaking to anyone associated with him so I’m completely out his life. Still cry randomly but healing each day.. I’m confident he will come back and if not I’m confident I’ll be okay after some more time. I hope to be updating this one day with my story of success

[@marcGOAT1]

he ever come back?

[@marcGOAT1]

I'm guessing a big fat no

[@sparrowsgirl14]

My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me two days ago out of nowhere. I’ve been a complete and utter disaster. I’m having trouble even functioning. We lived together and had created a whole life together. I sent him a clean slate message today, so NC begins.. This is going to be one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. But I love him. So fxcking much. So I’m going to give him the breakup he wants, if it’ll make him happy. I’m going to hope and pray that he reaches out and we will work out. I don’t want lose him and I truly feel we are meant to be together. So I will hold onto my hope and faith and spend this time improving myself.

[@olivepineda1990]

Did he come back?

[@cyndypancham1342]

My brack up was 4 days no I started nc 3 days now

[@misssexieems]

Any update?

[@ke228]

Thank you Coach. This video came at exactly the right time. I have been in no contact for 5 months now. While I have faced the likelihood of my ex GF never coming back and accepted that possibility, I do still think about her, love her, and miss her. I actually explored the idea of reaching out to her today. I even typed the message but decided not to send it. Then I thought about it some more and said "wait a minute, I know better." Then I saw this video. I was her longest relationship, but unfortunately I begged and pleaded for a while (21 days over the course of almost 4 months). She is somewhat introverted so I know how important space is to her. I was in panic mode right after the breakup so I lost sight of that, and tried to do everything I could to keep things going. I regret that every day. I often wonder if after 5 months of NC, that she has been curious about what I've been up to, or maybe why I haven't reached out again. I also wonder if she has thought about reaching out to me. I have improved so much in my life but she is still on my mind every day.

[@chrisyoli1598]

Keith going on 4 months for me. She’s reached out during NC but breadcrumbs. I don’t carry the conversation and have never initiated. Good luck to you, my friend. Stay strong

[@ke228]

Chris Yoli Thanks. Be thankful she has reached out at all. I have hoped for at least that much.

[@Nokutizu]

mine hasn’t been that long...The “No Contact” (2Weeks and a half) but...I’m wondering if he’ll ever reach out because the last day we saw each other..I was very angry at him for leaving. (we lived together too) It was hurting so much that I mentioned how he shouldn’t Looked for me again and he agreed. *I kinda regret saying that* but I was so overwelmbed from the abandonment that I couldn’t control myself... so...even if I’m trying the method.. I’m not sure if he’ll return after that. I know it’s to soon to assume but...since we ended things that way idk if I ruined the possibility before it even began. PS: I also told him that I hated him too. :(

[@chrisyoli1598]

єlч -ѕαn look up the fading affect bias.. basically states that memories associated with negative emotions are forgotten more quickly. Maybe apologize for your behavior and go no contact

[@ke228]

Chris Yoli That is definitely something to consider. At least I know that I never acted angry towards my ex, but I did show that I was obviously very clingy, especially after the breakup. Her and I were close. What I told her after the breakup was that I hoped we could continue things in the future, and that there was so much more we could do. I said that more than enough times to where she knew I wasn't leaving her alone to the point of annoyance. The second to last time I contacted her was a voicemail in which I mentioned that I knew I contacted her more times than I should have, but assured her that I never meant any harm and apologized for it. I've since known that she wasn't receptive at that point. I'm not sure if she has been surprised that I've been silent for 5 months. I'm just glad I decided not to break no contact the other day.

[@VermontV8]

"Keeping the lines of communication you just make it easy for them" So 100% true! Doing that you just don't let them experience the consequences of their choice. Don't do this mistake, cut the communication and go NC as soon as possible!

[@rachbecir4773]

2 weeks of no contact and I cried for the first time today. :/

[@cyndypancham1342]

O know the feeling

[@KDotz]

Success story right here :) THANK YOU COACH LEE

[@kouzaris579]

What happened?

[@ItsTruthBaby]

Congratulations

[@christinebored8809]

No contact worked perfectly for me but I was worried for a while.....worked in the end though

[@vibe8517]

Really what's the story

[@mbelcher77]

What's the story?

[@christinebored8809]

My partner decided on the 2nd of January to call it a day on our 15 year relationship and for like 10 days I begged pleaded ' ....the usual crap . Then I stopped and went totally no contact for like two weeks, before I know it shes missing me and making little reasons to get in touch with me ....I thought we were done tbh but we got back together and everything's going good . I truly believe if I didn't go no contact she'd have moved on but going no contact give her time to miss me and get curious of what I was doing ect .....its hard but definitely worth a go

[@paolanamuncura8879]

How long after did he or she contact you

[@christinebored8809]

@@paolanamuncura8879 about 3 weeks Paola...its not easy but stick with it....Good luck 👍 💓

[@florakim8496]

Been in no contact for about 10 weeks and I’m hoping he comes back.

[@NomadUrpagi]

Update? Rn im on day 80 and she is still silent 😰

[@graciousqueen8463]

I think U should move on and get someone else. Don't put your life at a standstill because of him. He probably has moved on too

[@youtoo2233]

@@graciousqueen8463 so true. We can't wait on an ex forever, Often they have moved on and found new love and we must do the same. If your paths cross again someday then yeah see what happens, but for now move on

[@florakim8496]

Gracious Queen I’m continuing on with my life with or without him. :) He might have moved on but I never know just have to see what’s ahead. Thanks for the advice though 💕

[@florakim8496]

Jo Kah Sadly still in no contact :( it was pretty hard today bc it was his birthday recently. Still going to have hope and I wish you the best of luck 🥺🤍

[@mattkurtz8549]

What works for everyone else ,seldom works for me, did everything the way I should have , implimented no contact , ignored dumb texts , responded to the reach out text the right way , became a better me , moved on with my life dating other women but she has a place in my heart where she will always be wanted , 4 months in , lost pretty much all hope for her return. But it's ok guess she never really loved me in the first place. Feel like I came close but can't seem to pull her back in. Guess it was not meant to be. Good work coach , I'm glad to hear that some are getting there loves back , beautiful feeling it must be.

[@theseattlegreen1871]

😭😖

[@frank1231983]

"ignored dumb texts"? Looks like it DID work for you as the other person reached out...something else went wrong.

[@TribeofSoul]

It did work. If she was constantly reaching out to you and you ignored her she just gave up. You missed an opportunity. You can respond to your ex if you seem them honestly trying. Don’t self sabotage anymore.

[@NomadUrpagi]

Actually other commenters are right. If she reached out she wants to see u. Isnt that what u wanted in the first place

[@scjeepHO]

He specifically said "do not ignore them"!!!

[@115Jordan]

I contacted after 60 days and it was the best thing ever

[@cycolburn99]

Jordan what was the response?

[@115Jordan]

Cy Colburn I can’t quite remember the exact words said but the result was us rekindling and we both missed each other very dearly. That was in November it is now March and we are happily together

[@iammeow9947]

Why u guys breakup?

[@theseattlegreen1871]

@@115Jordan I wish that would happen to me..... You're a very lucky person...... Congratulations.... I hope you 2 stay together till death do you part.....

[@lapangzvlog5973]

Day 2 super hard ,but i know God will lead on which way to go . I pray for all broken souls out there ❤

[@simonemathew4422]

Am a success story, Thank Coach Lee

[@Ch2.0ris]

All the best to everyone here.. never degrade your value, we all Are the best

[@666.Slipknot]

Gonna be 3 weeks in NC it's very hard not to think about the good times we had,all these memories haunt me. I have done all the mistakes which coach Lee mentioned. I even told her,I will be waiting for you and she told me not to waste my time, she's not coming back to me. I know even though I m in NC,it won't matter to her. This break up and the LOCKDOWN combo is making it more difficult. I want to wish good luck to all the people going through this bad phase. We are in this together. Thank you Coach Lee. ☺️

[@user-gz4fi1ns7c]

Same! Hopefully it will get easier for us!

[@stan______]

Any update?

[@666.Slipknot]

@@stan______ OMG Haha. She got married in 2021😅 If you are going through the same thing, my suggestion would be not to think too much. I know it's hard, but believe me, even if she doesn't come back, down the line after 1-2 years you gonna be okay. I thought I would never recover from this and my life is over. Now when I read my comment, i realise how stupid I was. Spend time with your family. In my case my family was my biggest support. You are going to be Okay!! 🫡

[@llxrnn2]

It's my second day of no contact. This will be the last I'll count the day and I'll update you guys after a month! Goodluck to your journey guys, always remember that you're doing the no contact rule to heal and improve yourself and not to wait your ex back. What will be, will be. So focus on the present time❤

[@Juliette277]

how are you feeling? any updates?

[@llxrnn2]

@@Juliette277 hii. I'm goodd (7/10) but sometimes its still hurts because I used to be with that person for 5 years and i can't stop thinking about her, if she's going to chat me or call & our good memories. I've decided to blocked her on every social media because i think its a waste of time waiting for her so i need to move on and i'm not ready to see her with other person haha (my friend told me she's sharing some post about someone new) So yeah, life goes onnn. I'm now focusing in my life and try new things!. Rememeber that. If they wanted to, they would but never expect them back.

[@ronaldclaude1892]

I have been in no contact for 29 days. She reached out twice to congratulate me on my son middle school graduation and yesterday to wish me a Father’s Day, but both times were via text message. I was very short and cordial. Her birthday is in 2 weeks, but I won’t say anything since I will never initiate a conversation with her. The best thing is to do no contact for as long hours it requires. Some days will better than others, but as time progresses, you will feel better and stronger. It’s a process, so follow it.

[@llxrnn2]

@@ronaldclaude1892happy belated father's day! thankyou for this sir! Same to you. We will get better soon! let me know what will happen for the next weeks/months

[@davyteky7144]

@@ronaldclaude1892good luck and we will wait updates too

[@oparachizoma1509]

I watch some of your no contact videos in 2019 when I was going through a bad break up. I tried it and it was soooo hard! Cried myself to sleep every night.. I stayed committed to the no contact though.. fast forward to July 2021, I get a call from him saying he’s been thinking about me but I don’t want him anymore bcos not only did I heal and move on, Right now I just don’t see what I saw in him anymore.😀

[@malcolmhamilton8706]

yo storie should b everybody's real goal low key

[@joeyloucks912]

I hope I can wrote my success story in here one day. These comments and videos give me hope and breathe life into my hurting soul❤

[@IronKurdi]

How are you doing? Any updates?

[@denisesantillo4589]

thank you so much for your videos, i followed everything you said to do with the no contact rule, It was difficult but I did not break the rule. I watch your videos to help me remain strong. Well it worked and on the exact 30 day he contacted me. success and by the way I love your videos it helped me stay strong. I watched your videos everyday

[@sydneym4428]

These videos have been helping me so much. My ex and I broke up June 12th after he was very hot and cold for awhile. Even a week before he broke up with me he was saying things like “I always wanna be with you” but his actions said otherwise. He went on vacation and came back, telling me he missed me and wanted to fix things, but that night he blindsided me with a break up. He mentioned that he had been thinking about it for three weeks, and in the mean time he acted normal and still engaged in things like sex.He came over the next day and told me he wanted a break instead and proceeded to tell me that “the break will be short I just need to work on myself” and “I love you so much this has to work out I need you in my life.” He made out with me and cuddled with me affectionately, then told me he’d “talk to me later.” He told none of his friends about it, so I explained to a mutual friend and she told me that he wanted to get back together with me after speaking with him. 2 1/2 weeks later I angry texted him because he was hanging out with a girl best friend who had feelings for him almost every day. He told me “I made him want to not exist” and got very angry and defensive when I confronted him. The relationship was so wonderful until the very end. He’s moving an hour away and I think he may have gotten cold feet, but I still don’t really know why it happened. He told me “I’d be better off without him” and that “he makes me suffer” and that’s why he was breaking up with me in the very end. He told me not to contact him and it was all very confusing. Eventually that night he said he hoped we could reconnect in some way eventually and asked to be friends but I declined. He also thanked me for everything and told me “he would always be there for me if I was always there for him” and offered to be emotional support if I ever needed it. It was all so weird and he still has not talked to most of his friends about it. I’ve been 2 1/2 weeks no contact and I’ve muted his posts on social media. I’ve been staying away from him and am planning to fully go into no contact like I did with a previous ex. This worked on a previous ex of mine who still tried to reach out even a year after going no contact. I shut it down and was happier without him. I really still love my most recent ex even though he treated me poorly, but I really want him to fix his problems before getting back together. Knowing this is a win/win, I’m hoping this will make things feel a lot better in my life either way like it did before. But your videos are so nice and helpful. Thank you 💜

[@mariadesiree1421]

Update?

[@jjjjjjjjj8722]

Guys please listen to coach lee. I was separated from my fiancé of 6 years with a beautiful a daughter for 3 months and half. Be respectful, work on yourself and don’t bother then and yes I fucked up bad. Have faith guys. Stay strong.

[@marissamadeline]

I was broken up with after four years, two of which we lived together, because I can be a nag/ temperamental and occasionally controlling. We also share a ton of great times together too though. I’m concerned that his friends who are all single, may be influencing him not bother with me anymore. He is a bit immature and impressionable, so I’m worried that they will talk him out of contacting me even if he wants to. I’m currently in no contact, except random messages, initiated by him, to talk about what to do with the apartment and stuff like that. This is easily the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through.

[@swativirdi3020]

Wts the update??

[@peachblossom.phlox3403]

Boyfriend broke up with me too and I also believe he is being influenced by all his single friends to remain single 😞

[@marissamadeline]

Swati Virdi with someone else now, funny enough, an ex from high school that I’ve remained friends with for over a decade. My current ex has barely spoken to me except for to get all of his belongings.

[@kiwigal7033]

It. Worked coach lee !!!!! Dec 28 my man ended it with me, yesterday we reunited. I let him message me and I kept my cool even though I wanted to scream I miss you take me back. Eventually he broke down and said he missed me like hell and wants to try again. He did however try to date others but I’m ok with that cause he said they just weren’t me 😁Thank you thank you

[@kiwigal7033]

Whoa 57 days I just made it within the 45-60 days

[@RealCoachLee]

Awesome Kiwigal70! I'm happy for you!

[@kiwigal7033]

Coach Lee you are a genius x

[@jonassmith4056]

Well, I broke no contact after a little over 2 months. Figured I didn't have anything to lose and told her I hope she's doing well. Turns out she had blocked me. Cool.

[@wraprap1674]

Lmao

[@tamw3542]

Lmaoo damn

[@malcolmhamilton8706]

😂

[@wyattearp7082]

I prolly got the best one ever when I hear back from ya coach I’ll blow ya mind . Thanks for these vids and guys don’t give up , draw close to God and hang tough. Don’t chase do not chase work on you

[@woolf1949]

You make good sense Coach. You seem to have a good understanding of damaged relationships. Thanks for your guidance NickW

[@nicolepaige8758]

Been on NC for nearly 3 mos since he broke up with me. I’m trying to stay strong though I’m almost always on the verge of breaking down, however, when i think about your words of encouragement about staying strong, I pull myself together. I get my strength from you Coach!

[@AshSchultzArt]

what happened?

[@bumbleberryanimations5629]

Update?

[@nicolepaige8758]

@@bumbleberryanimations5629 no update and I'm not waiting

[@alechi7051]

@@nicolepaige8758 update

[@nicolepaige8758]

@@alechi7051 I’m all good now, without him. I’ve accepted that we’re not meant to be

[@gabrielfajardo1428]

Coach lee i want to thankyou from the bottom of my heart your videos helped me so much and i got the emergency breakup kit my x broke up with me August 20th 2020 and she blocked me in all ways oct1st 2020 and i went NC and she came back to me yesterday now we are doing great , thankyou your the best out their.

[@bethelbethlehem3001]

Wow! Congratulations to those succeeded. 👍👍 Congrats Coach Lee!!

[@meshamalik5048]

Thank God you post video, i was feeling so depressed !

[@streetglamtv5937]

Although I am having such a tough time right now, watching these videos cracks me up! Your sarcastic tone is hilarious.

[@abeerhasan2627]

Would have loved to hear about a LDR success story

[@IceBlueThug]

Coach Lee has so much information about the psychology of getting an ex back, and the steps needed to do so, he should just write a book. It would literally have a wealth of information from all of his knowledge. And he can make money from royalties.

[@xvimatthiasivx41]

Hi coach Lee, me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 7 months just broke up. I've already done most of the wrong things after a break up lol (begging, apologizing, negotiating, and promising to fix it all) but unfortunately I locked my keys in my car and had to walk to her work for a ride. She was acting very strange when we talked (likely because she found out i had talked to a friend of hers about the situation) skipping all the small stuff we got to my house and talked a lot I did break down and what not I could tell she wanted to cry but when I asked she didnt want to admit it. She showed a lot of sympathy for me and told me I wasn'ta bad boyfriend. I left the car and as I got to the top of the stairs I had the urge to turn around. As I did I walked to her car to find her having a very bad breakdown. I started to ask what was wrong and she replied "I just wanted to get out of the car and hug you" I leaped out of the passenger seat and ran to her door opened it and hugged her. I talk to her and promised a better future for us and I'll NEVER forget the way she hugged my arm as tight as she did, it was like she didnt want to let go. I just kissed her on the forehead and cheeks, promising to be a better man in the future for her. We cried in each other's arms for about a minute. It was late and her mother was beginning to worry so she had to leave, she had college early in the morning. We said our goodbyes and hugged on last time. That was the last time I'd seen her in person. Me and her mom talk a lot about the whole situation, but we both agree that we can't do anything about it. Shes gone on a few dates with guys already and we've been broken up since February 13th. I was a week into no contact but unfortunately I had to break it to ask for a rather personal item from her and she was just rude and short with me. she replied INSTANTLY everytime we messaged. Do you see any hope in the future of her coming back?

[@donmorrison5030]

Matthew Lockridge yep, respect her, work on your own life, let her come back to her when she's ready, do your life, and keep it short with her when she reaches out, respond back with, good to hear from you, get with me when you have time for a dinner, got to run

[@xvimatthiasivx41]

@@donmorrison5030 thank you sir, I feel pretty good about the future!

[@renatelewis6607]

Matthew you have to stop talking to her Mother to her friends and you have to go no contact for as long as it takes. NC works. So leave her alone. She has to miss you.

[@RealCoachLee]

Don’t talk to her family members or friends. Disappear.

[@xvimatthiasivx41]

@@RealCoachLee your videos are the literally the best content on KZbin. Thank you for the time and effort you put into all of these videos. I AM going to disappear this time. this isn't the first time we've stopped talking to each other and its definitely not the worst reason that we've stopped talking. We were previously friends for 4 years before we officially got together. I can do this, thank you again for the helpful videos Coach Lee!

[@jessicadavis4163]

This gives me so much hope! I spent 3 weeks begging and pleading! I feel like a fool! He finally got angry with me and said it’s completely over. Broke my heart to pieces, but I am doing no contact from now on. I love him that much that I am going to leave him alone now. I hope this no contact works even after 3 weeks.

[@Hhshhshhe]

Day 1… I truly believe that I was a huge part in the relationship failing. I know how much I need to grow. This girl is my best friend and soulmate. See y’all on the other side. I will do this.

[@_asia.marie_5163]

update?

[@IronKurdi]

Update?

[@Hhshhshhe]

@@IronKurdi update, I got over her and found someone so much better. I was in a very toxic and manipulative relationship without realizing it.

[@nickcast3172]

Can you shed some insight into healthy strong relationships that ended due to different goals in life, or different ways of viewing the world like politics and such.

[@michalremis]

Nick Cast Never Ever discuss about politics! Even with your friends family or anybody..even if they ask just say it’s my opinion and I dont want to talk about it

[@gennam9637]

@@michalremis I agree. Keep politics to yourself.

[@kiasca3489]

That's a bs excuse. It's like I have to work on myself.

[@kiasca3489]

@@michalremis I disagree, I mean If I see the other person is not taking the subject as a mature discussion I usually stop . But a couple is supose to be mature, respect each other opinions.

[@davidtizard8955]

After 4 months and a month and half of no contact. My ex reached out and wants me back

[@TChalla-yg8bl]

Thank you Coach Lee for giving hope and even if an ex doesn't come back also giving us self confidence dealing with heartbreak and breakups

[@Rachel-iStockholm]

My ex sent me a text today saying she can not stand the emptiness in her life without me. I am meeting her tomorrow. I've been in no contact on and off for a month and a half.

[@thurtythree9668]

Coach Lee, My ex girlfriend of 3 years dumped me a month ago because she couldnt see a future with me. of course I was devastated, cried and begged for her to stay and work it out. She insisted that I move out. I moved out but then found out she is now seeing the neighbor guy casually or something im not sure. she was never upfront about it. insists she never cheated. she reached out since then and said she misses me, this whole thing is hard on her, says she isn't over me and actually got jealous of a pic I posted of our old hangout spot. I feel like she is using this guy as a band-aid and truly still loves me. she kept saying how much she missed our connection/bond. my heart hurts - I want her back so badly. She is the only woman I considered getting married to.

[@Mariyahfatima]

How are you feeling now? Did she try to get back with you?

[@yasheikasolomon4981]

Hey Everyone!! Embracing NC can be incredibly overwhelming but can also be empowering. It gives you the space and clarity you need to heal and focus on your own growth! I know it’s hard! Trust that the time apart will bring positive changes and help you come out stronger. The key is you can’t stress or harp on when it’s gonna happen! Stay strong 💪🏽 ❤

[@eymieancheta9734]

I love watching you Coach Lee❤️ Even if it's only a video, it changes my mindset and insights in my life into a good one😊

[@sheliasanders404]

I’m another success story Dr.Lee thank u sooo much 💕

[@sharona1ification]

Shelia Sanders tell us we are hopeless

[@sheliasanders404]

Sharona Jhingoeriesingh NOOOO you’re not I think I’f watch more of Dr.Lees video and follow his advice u can have success with this

[@sharona1ification]

What was you’re story I feel so hopeless ❤️ thankyou

[@an247]

Coach Lee, do you have any success stories regading long distance relationships?

[@an247]

@@zytxhdx1398 it is the worst situation :(. Don't worry we just need stay positive and pull through

[@Chris-im8uq]

I'm in the same position. It truly sucks. I think it is different being so far away as we wont have those moments where we may meet in town etc.

[@elvisfreshly1857]

Same

[@taliktamut9991]

Same as me .i broke no conatct after 1 month and 16 days.but she was still the same..iam in no contact again..iam so worried she is even moving to another city.

[@misspearll8627]

I'm in same position 😭 ldr.... We was only 1 year together but that was so intense.... 11days NC today and I feel like I lost a part of me 😔😭 any updates from you guys?

[@BagChasinLife]

No contact worked bro, after 3 weeks. I was definitely an exception, but we plan on starting over completely as friends and maybe if it happens we work our way back into a relationship. I have hope we will, but I am ok if we don’t I’ve already relearned my worth and know I don’t need her to be happy and that I’m a lot stronger than I thought.

[@reyanareyes1056]

No contact works. I bitched/pleaded did all tht for 2.5 months ..it finally got to the point where she had to be mean to me to leave her alone & I did & 23 days later she wrote me .. I even moved to a whole different state tht she didn’t even believe n happened to go to California and accidentally had a 9 hour layover where I am now ..we had a bomb ass day n I dropped her to the airport & she’s ALREADY texting me ... We are staying single though to better ourselves for when I move back n if we do get back together .. relationships don’t work out a 2nd time if the original issues aren’t fixed . Anyways never would have guessed this would happen

[@sarophinmusic]

Im in a 2nd day of NC. I hope this will work on me. I really wanted to be back with my ex. I havent got any message from my ex since we broke up.

[@dankline9162]

The first story is very similar to mine. Except she was very passive and has low self esteem. She said one day that she was feeling conflicted, needed some guidance. I heard her, but didn't act quickly enough or give the answers she was looking for. I thought I had, but she acted not herself since and then delayed the breakup. When she did, she didnt want to work on the relationship, yet didnt want to cut me off completely, knowing that I too, am sensitive, and said she wanted to be there if I needed her. I begged and pleaded, trying to get information, and explain how much she meant to me. This went on for months until I was exhausted, without options other than chatting to myself. Wish I hadnt been so stupid, I thought I was doing the right thing. I had one friend with good sense, and finally checked online to confirm what he was saying. That was was a bad feeling, initially, but I have more confidence already. I want my soul mate back!!

[@corbelan4]

On Day 2 of No Contact, but the more I realize how my ex doesn’t give a shit about me, I am getting over her quicker. Why be sad over someone that doesn’t care about me?

[@chrisprova2558]

4 weeks later , how you doing ?

[@corbelan4]

@@chrisprova2558 Had to reset no contact. On Day 4 now...It was hard because I still see her at school. now im completely avoiding her. im moving on.

[@detraadams2680]

Its alot of videos out but u take the time to explain things and the steps I just want to say thank u

[@baynaamn]

Its been almost 2 months i dont see any success. I see just my feelings are going away.

[@rezenewoldegebrel6960]

Man I just Love You to think how you helping millions God Send.

[@lfenton2120]

No contact would be so much better if I wasn’t blocked 😤

[@lili63js51]

Update? Still blocked?

[@Ladyraedior]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@duan_meixuan]

My ex's relief stage was only three weeks because he thought I'd be friends with him. But I cut it off a little more than a month after the breakup. Currently in NC, and earlier this month he liked one of my posts (I have no idea if that means anything).

[@ismailelmassaoudi4317]

currently in day 3 of no contact i know it's still soon but just giving an update

[@PopDaBop]

How’s it going??

[@ismailelmassaoudi4317]

@@PopDaBop oh sorry didn't see your question well she hasn't reached out to me at all

[@surrealfeline]

Does anyone watch a ton of these but still come away thinking that their situation is STILL unique in some ways, and that probably no video or success story could cover it? Ugh. I'm in such torment... 4 mths into NC and still nothing. Hope is just fading away more and more. Hard to work on myself when I feel I have no motivation to do so. :(

[@johnnytaylor6099]

Ahhh back to coach lee a 3rd time in my life 😂 1 time no contact worked after a month, she tried to make a comeback. Another time it didn’t, never heard from her again. And now I’m back to almost a week of no contact again with another one, she’s still leaning towards the ex so I’m trying to just let it go and go contact. Time’ll tell.

[@Samx838]

Update?

[@shrimpdoll4311]

I genuinely cannot wait till I can post my own success story here, but till then we stay strong.

[@disorder_go]

A big shift in my mindset this past day or two. Been on NC for 3 weeks now and I’m starting to move on, hoping my ex doesn’t contact me. I’m kinda done with it.

[@Ckyt572]

44 days of NC, I think he's not coming back but I love him and I respect his decision. I gave the best in our relationship so I'll be fine.

[@user-id1qb1vm2s]

Any updates?

[@hwdareu5848]

About to be 3 months of no contact. 😊

[@Naruto16315]

How long were u together

[@NomadUrpagi]

@@Naruto16315 i was 1.5 years tgthr. But it was a long distance. We met 7-8 times though. Also 80 days into nc. She didnt resch out yet

[@sophierobert7941]

@@NomadUrpagi then reach out

[@randallnoblett1657]

I broke up with her and I felt a void within me after three days but we still talked during this three days. I’ve talked to her about getting back together but she refused and I’ve begged her for almost two weeks now but she still said she can’t do it anymore. I tried the no contact rule and I’ve had a panic attacks, my body keep trembling which made me broke the “ no contact rule” but hearing this successful stories .. I’m now standing on my grounds with the no contact rule . I really messed up by breaking the rule which made her hanged up the phone on me . I just wanna tell you guys who are starting the “ no contact rule” we should stay strong . It’ll work itself out. Thanks Coach Lee

[@rosedelbecq2319]

My ex say it over after 6 years what to do

[@AminataD26]

Exactly what he told me oooh he needs to work on himself n dis my exact story lol exactly what I did after 2 days I will call, cried n beg. But thank God I’m in NC for good n it day 3. Thanks be to God

[@dwightschrute8141]

.update?

[@alandelgado5406]

Vote this if you think applying the no contact rule in a mature way (responding when contacted, be respectful to space when not, being nice but cool) should be called “CoachLeeing” . “E.g. I’m coachleeing him/her right now, I don’t want to hurt the slim chances I still have.”

[@gabbymontoya2085]

NC 2 months bad day and good days but I will never settle for mediocre & trashy treatment. Never.

[@rokmfone6034]

I m here since 23.10.2019 when we have stoped communacating since that i learnes a lot and i m gratefull have a great day

[@JustJohnnyIV]

I miss her so much

[@LabradoodleTofuBoy]

First of all, I never heard of NC before. Coach Lee, I listened to you. I actually stopped contacting my bf. It was the hardest thing I had to do but I did it! For just 2 weeks of NC, it helped us. Now he communicates & has agreed to work on our relationship. As for me, during NC I lost weights and improved my golf skills. So much more I could do solo. We will go see a couple therapist to work on few issues. Other than that, I think we're going to be ok. I'm giving him more time. It's good for couple to function as individual once in a while. It's about trust & having faith in each other. God sent u to me Coach Lee. Thank you!

[@RealCoachLee]

Michele, I’m thrilled for you. Would you be willing to email your story to us at [e-mail]?

[@alyssaroberts2675]

“I have dwelled in darkness without you” 😭😂😭 it’s funny bcuz it’s true

[@RealCoachLee]

It's actually a line from the movie, "Willow." ;)

[@alyssaroberts2675]

Never seen it but I’ll check it out 😄 it looks interesting lol