STUFF I WANTED IN 2020 BUT DIDN'T BUY & HOW MUCH IT WOULD HAVE COST | Hannah Louise Poston

[@anotherlemontree]

I lost it when the Dôen fantasy collage started to cover your face, because I recognise these dreams from my long-time obsession with Toast's aesthetic: you're super cosy, but on a beach or in an orchard or in a hammock on the beach or in an orchard; the ocean is there and you are poetic and windswept, but warm; you wear £60 cashmere socks and £200 shapeless dresses, but also chop citrus fruit in your little rustic Mediterranean kitchen with perfectly mismatched crockery. Toast's quality has long-since declined, but the dream is still alive in my daft heart.

[@darcyreadssometimes3904]

"There are no perfect choices." You have come SO far, and I am proud of you.

[@HannahLouisePoston]

:) thank you, Darcy!!!!

[@emilyharper7448]

As a perfectionist with a fear of failure, this is something I’ve also been learning song with Hannah.

[@scottyboyish]

I have followed you for over a year now and while I have very different interests, I find myself drawn to your content because of the way you speak about your passions and decisions. You’ve inspired me to make changes in my own financial life and I’ll be doing a targeted no buy next year. Thank you for allowing us to come on this journey with you, even when being honest means you become the target of criticism. I hope your 2021 brings back opportunities for growth and projects that 2020 stole, as well as good health and loving support!

[@HannahLouisePoston]

thank you, Alex!

[@sydneyyoung3]

Video idea: “if I were to make a makeup collection” where you use the makeup you have to create a “release.” Maybe your release would have an eye palette, 2 lip colors, some cream cheeks, ect., ect.. it would be extra cool if you renamed the stuff too in your “they clearly don’t have a poet on there staff” kinda way

[@BelleStreetBoyz]

That sounds so fun. I would love to see this idea! 💚

[@HannahLouisePoston]

LOVE this idea

[@gypsyheartcaravan]

This sounds so good - the world needs a grungy rainbow curated by you with loads of amazing greens and bronzes packed into an aesthetic tiled floor... please!

[@buffalobeautyboy]

This is AWESOME!!!!

[@alfredoallen720]

sorry to be so off topic but does any of you know of a tool to get back into an Instagram account..? I stupidly lost the password. I appreciate any assistance you can offer me.

[@Elizabeth-uu5tv]

Your description of Doen as a brand is friggen priceless 😆🤣

[@ericaohmg95]

Cottagecore!!!! 😍

[@TrishasMusic]

Where is it in the video?

[@Elizabeth-uu5tv]

@@TrishasMusic 8:31

[@AmeerahMuhammad]

For me perfume has been the thing that I put on no matter what I am wearing or doing. It makes me feel “put together” and even if I am just hanging out at home in my loungewear. The ritual of wearing perfume has such a profound effect on how I feel.

[@mysticfox1563]

Perfume is something I wear just for me as well. I’m even more likely to put it on to go to bed than to go to work.

[@oldstoner4336]

I wear it to bed too! I wear it for myself.

[@ellesmelly]

same! I think of it as like having a soundtrack to your day but through smell, associating certain events with certain smells even if the event is just lounging and relaxing at home

[@lisaho3325]

Couldn’t agree more! I love perfume!

[@sleepyheadsarah]

The phenomenon you described about wanting to curate a collection of items instead of buying just one. That sounds a bit like the Cheerleader Effect, where groups collectively seems more appealing than when you investigate any particular individual in isolation.

[@anotherlemontree]

Yes!

[@janelles5444]

Our styles are MILES apart. I do not understand why you like the things you like. But your passion for what you like makes me listen to the reason why you like it. It compels me to truly listen and try to understand your point of view. I never do, but I never feel like I'm "wasting my time" listening to you share your thoughts. I think that's a great testament to you and your presence and passion. I hope that never decreases. Please continue all that you're passionate about.

[@WarKitten]

I struggle with overspending and I'm not ready to commit to a no-buy but I appreciate your sensible content about it so much! That idea of wanting to curate a shopping cart vs buying the one thing is SO TRUE. I think the free shipping price points can lure us into it as well. Look how sensible I'm being buying something for $10 more to save the $5 shipping.

[@Yzabell0M]

I was not into doing a no buy either but then I did and inventory... I totally recommend. It is eye opening and can put you into the mood of using up what you have instead of wanting new stuff, and easing you into a no buy.

[@glowcrow7406]

I've been following you since summer I think and I just have to say that I truly love the way you talk. Even though it's different language and country, you sound lot like my friend who is pursuing PHD in literature and it makes me feel so cozy and warm when I watch your videos, so thank you for that ❤️

[@tashalawson2028]

Your content has really been blessing me lately. I'm sure you hear this a lot, but truly you're like a breath of fresh air. Sending you love this end of the year!

[@taniaquinones3447]

She is

[@PlainJane144]

She's so beautiful inside and out. Really er passion shines through. Happy New Year to you all! May this year be our breath of fresh air in reality!

[@HannahLouisePoston]

thank you, Tasha!

[@clairedaniels3292]

My urge to overspend is really rooted in my perfectionism, so I’m vowing to work on that head on in therapy this year. I often feel the overwhelming itch to throw away everything I own, and replace it with its “perfect” version. And that pursuit is exhausting! My underwear can just be underwear!

[@Kiki-fe2le]

I struggle with the same thing. I always want the one perfect item and spend a lot on a quest to find it. Really stupid and wasteful.

[@redcordelia]

I've been going back and rewatching your old no buy year content. I did a 2020 no buy, and I didn't break my rules, but when I wrote my rules in Dec of 2019 I planned to do some shopping for makeup and clothes for myself in November and December. And then when my preplanned restrictions were lifted at such a stressful time, I went a lot more wild than I initially planned. Too many sweaters and cozy pajamas to comfort myself, and even lipsticks, for god knows what reason. Anyhow, I want a do-over. And I can have one, cause I'm the boss of my life. I'm doing another no buy in 2021 and redirecting my income toward a vacation. Anyhow, my point is, thank you for speaking so frankly about your experiences and allowing yourself to be so vulnerable even though the internet is so unsafe. Your content has been instrumental in helping me make a plan for how I'm going to turn around my impulsive spending.

[@HannahLouisePoston]

[@PlainJane144]

Interesting enough Hannah when you spoke about still doing your makeup during isolation and it not deterring you... I have found that I now wear makeup during isolation when previously I wore little to nothing. In other words,makeup is now my crutch. So interesting. I totally get your feeling though 🥰

[@EvaLoVerde]

I'm glad I found your channel. The things you say should not be that hard to get my brain around to, but I realize how difficult it is to rewire my brain in a way that makes sense for me and is the best course of action for my life

[@elizabethroyerjohnson4992]

Ahhaha the description of the Doen brand and the photos made me laugh 😂 I think it’s also a funny and helpful example of how brands take us in with images that produce these sort of vague but appealing ideas about the kind of life we think we could live with those items

[@amydement.]

‘There are no perfect choices.” Thank you. I struggle and get mired in the brambles over ‘perfect choices’ and I waste so much mental and sometimes physical energy dithering when I could be actually LIVING and being IN the moment. Thanks for sharing. I’ll remember your epiphany and try to self apply.

[@thrivingandbeyond3541]

You have been able to perfectly explain the process of changing your shopping behavior, and the mental and emotional wrangling of working through the temptation we may feel. This clarity is so beneficial... and helps to solidify your positive choices this year. I've been with you since the beginning Hannah, and this is a joy to watch. Beautiful things will always be available; there is no rush to acquire - even when it feels immediate. Thank you!! Hugs, hugs to everyone.

[@wiredayan9719]

I think Doen should pay you for that description... now i wanna check them out

[@Mel-pb5xw]

Right?

[@Pslm91v14n15]

I have the Doen eclipse nightgown in pond and it’s been a lifesaver this pregnancy! I tend to gain too much when pregnant but I still feel beautiful in it. Almost like a historical chemise but with elastic. Also.. I keep overheating so thin cotton helps. Quality wise: french seams, hand embroidery, extraordinarily soft cotton. Nightgowns are something I’ve been looking for for a few years now and have no regrets when the right ones pop up.

[@annemarson4144]

Y'know, I had heard such wildly positive things about By the Fireplace for years that it took on a life of its own inside my head during quarantine. I finally bought it (sweaty palms and all) -- "smartly" only the 30 ml, whereas when I was younger I would have faceplanted right into the large size -- and even convinced myself I loved it at first smell. But ultimately I wore it twice and sold it online for cheap. I just could not hang with smelling like a burnt marshmallow all day. (And this lady loves s'mores.) I am a grapefruit/salt air/greens person, and quarantine made me think I was a burnt marshmallow person.

[@Nopi9]

My relationship with by the fireplace is complete opposite. I had heard nothing of it at all when I first smelt it and I loved it instantly and was shocked at how well it really smelt like being by the fireplace. But I couldn’t justify the price especially considering it was an easy de toilette. and 2 or 3 years later I still think about that damn perfume and still haven’t bitten the bullet

[@kimberlysh88]

@@Nopi9 same! I have the smallest size (the long, thin spray bottle) and savor it in the fall and winter.

[@redballoon13]

I like your way of framing choices as not being perfect Hannah. I'm somewhat of a minimalist myself but very much a perfectionist and definitely a lover of beautiful things. I tend to beat myself up when I purchase something and it isn't exactly what I was expecting or I don't perfectly love it the way I thought I would. But we're not perfect and the world isn't perfect and THINGS won't change that or make us perfect. I think you touched on that in your makeup and shame video. It's a nice reminder for all of us.

[@BelleStreetBoyz]

💜

[@marto443]

It's so crazy how, in the moment, we say to ourselves "It's not that much". But when you add it all up, then you really see it. It's as you've said, more mindful shopping. Pausing to see what is needed, what would be of value, get the most use, truly be loved vs. short term gratification/the rush of getting a good deal etc Beautiful content ❤ Much needed reminders. Thank you!

[@nailinthefashion]

i just wanna take a moment to thank you for reintroducing my mind to the concept of house dresses. i used to have a grey one but grew out of it and never replaced it. using my christmas money, i got a new one from target which totally dupes the vibes of the doen one i had my eye on. i cannot wait to pop a huge sweater on it! would love to see an updated perfume tour-- glossier you was my sweaty palmed purchase of the year, and i don't regret it but it also wasn't incredible. i'm gonna go back to an old favourite, DKNY be delicious cuz honestly, it'll be like an antidote to the chaos.

[@HannahLouisePoston]

YESSSSS the house dresses are everything

[@AmberOrtolano]

I bought house dresses from Target bc of Hannah too!!!

[@nailinthefashion]

@@AmberOrtolano i chopped the sleeves off and splash dyed it olive -- LIVING for the grunge. i've decided i want to get another in a couple months, a cobalt one~ and so i hope you enjoy yours a bunch this year too! (:

[@BelleStreetBoyz]

I think this is one of my favorite videos I've ever seen from you, especially the part at the end when you reflected on your choices and budget. This type of content is SO IMPORTANT, Hannah! I cannot thank you enough for sharing your journey with us. You help so many people. THANK YOU! 💜💚💙

[@RK-re1wm]

I'm currently trying to resist buying one of those crackling candles. I just want the cozy feeling of a fireplace, but I don't even like the scent. Maybe the Netflix fireplace will satisfy my desire 😅

[@redcordelia]

I bought a crackly candle, and there's something in the fragrance that irritates my respiratory system. It smells really good and it's fun to have around, but the fragrance reaches a certain concentration in the air and I feel my airways burning. Then I start to cough and I need to open a window. I still like the scent but I don't think I'll buy another one.

[@jenann3266]

I have a large bottle of Britney Spears Fantasy perfume that I picked up on a whim from Marshals years ago. I love how it smells, but never wore it in public because I felt it was too juvenile, uninspired, and basically just not for the person I imagine I am, lol. Since quarantine I have been wearing it and actually really enjoy it. It seems to suit the times and it’s good to use it up instead of having it sitting. I also think that it’s funny that I don’t mind wearing an outfit from Old Navy but I want my perfume to be interesting and make a unique statement. Why have we been conditioned to think this way? 🤔😂

[@TheDarlingM]

Thing 1: Your Doen description was so accurate it made me tingle. Thing 2: I have learned in quarantine that I actually really do love fashion for myself; I've been sustained by my clothing rentals this year even though no one sees me in the stuff except myself. Thing 3: But oh the loungewear and the bath products! How much longer must I resist? (I'm reminded of when you were away writing, and how that helped -- I definitely need to do better at distracting myself with making art instead of spending so much time on shopping behaviors.) Thing 4: Julia getting you into house dresses has been one of the best parts of my year - thanks, Julia! Thing 5: I have so many guesses about what you'll be doing in 2021 and I can't wait to hear the plan; happy new year, Hannah!

[@shawna6893]

This is one of my favorite type of videos on your channel!

[@julia-o8f9h]

6:23 I have never in my life felt what you just described when it comes to purchasing stuff. For me shopping feels flat. I appreciate you being honest and descriptive. It’s a chance to see through someone else’s eyes.

[@mollymeehl3015]

I've discovered Doen through your channel and I'm in love. I was in stitches over your Doen piece!! Lol. I'm on a no buy this year (thanks to finding your channel) but a dress from Doen is #1 on my wishlist

[@carolefletcher]

Your videos are always fascinating, Hannah, because they deal with the psychology of why we buy what we buy.

[@buffalobeautyboy]

I understand 100% the idea of it being the experience of having something vs the perfect thing. This year has taught me a lot about object permanence in my life and how not everything is so precious and needs to be kept in bell jars. It’s an expression of appreciation to use what I have and pass it on if it’s not for me anymore.

[@001Miko100]

Your talking about bath products - that so hooked me. I’ve been on a no buy specifically around bath products and have gotten to a good place with it, but oh my goodness, your TALKING about it and describing it in such detail... I felt it in my soul. And then you pulled me back from the edge, and I was just there. Anyways, it was a good moment. To be reminded so vividly what I have been trying to deconstruct and release myself from was startling and also incredibly helpful. Thank you for all that you do.

[@whitneyallan8920]

Hannah, I've been watching since your no-buy year and I don't know if I've ever taken the time to thank you. You've had a huge impact on my life. This year I set a budget for myself and it's been a great success. Shopping is more rewarding when I actually take the time to make choices about what I buy. And I agree with you... it's not that every single thing I bought has been "perfect" or the right choice. However, choosing to budget in the first place has been the right choice and has made all the difference. All the best to you and Joe in 2021. ❤︎

[@Shadowsandflowers]

It's so interesting in how you found you were seeking perfection first in the over-consumption of beautiful things, and then in the resistance of overconsumption. I think your loosening of the focus for the year of less stuff, shows progress in letting go of the ideal of perfection in your life, and a shift to focusing on what's healthy for you.

[@tamaralewis-campbell9457]

Hannah, bless you for being so truly and beautifully unique. You have inspired me to refine my desires and purchases. Like you, I enjoy the stories and identity of "things". Your channel is unlike any other "beauty influencer" and I suspect all of your viewers feel as though they have found their little treasure trove when they watch you because you are one of a kind. May 2021 gift you many more like-minded subscribers and dreams fulfilled.

[@angelablackburn6268]

The Doen dress bit 🤣🤣🤣

[@elisepeachey1633]

I think the delay between want and buy is so important and something I've taken on board more. So often when I give it time the thing I 'must have' is really me trying to soothe or distract myself, or fits with the 'fantasy self' that you spoke about so well. This concept in particular really struck a cord with me and helped me to look at why I wanted something and where it fit with my current and realistic future life. Some things really were a fantasy self want and others were a growth/change want - i.e., my tastes or lifestyle were naturally changing and it fit with that, rather than an 'I wish I/my life was...' want.

[@ems_h.eartnotes]

I'm doing a no buy in 2021 after 18 months of successful budgeting. I got money for Christmas and so I bought tried and true skincare replacements so I don't need to spend on that for several months, plus some bath bombs from Lush as a frivolous treat. I feel good and ready to go. Thanks Hannah, your content has always helped me stay on track 👍

[@anneleroux7872]

Your videos inspired me to do a no buy in 2021! as a side note you have the most beautiful way of describing things and emotions 💕

[@MadiThorne]

I love how crisp your new setup is 😍 you look extra glamorous!

[@ZiggyKitty]

Holy guacamole YES on making purchases in groups. What is the psychology behind that?! It’s such a strong pull that caught hold of me hard during Black Friday, and again recently. My goodness I don’t know what it is but I’m glad to hear someone else put it to words!

[@rubyat2435]

Hannah, I purchased 2 sets of Tkees sweatsuits based on your initial introduction of the brand. The clothing pieces are all amazing quality and make for chic loungewear despite the slouchiness! When you can, I would recommend giving them a chance. Also, I ordered a tracksuit from Aviator Nation; however, their packaging was so horrendous, I never want to make a purchase there again!

[@eddyaaaaaaa]

I put on perfume to lead zoom classes from my couch 😂

[@mysticfox1563]

You aren’t alone 😂

[@Lesieva]

😂 amazing! I bet it made you feel so fab though which is always a bonus 😊

[@eddyaaaaaaa]

@@Lesieva Absolutely!

[@Elizabeth-qp1rn]

Me too! My students cannot smell me over Zoom but I can enjoy my scent!

[@cinemaocd1752]

I fell for that Aviator Nation crop sweatshirt too... We watched a Frank Zappa documentary and then I was obsessed with funky 70s platform oxfords that I needed with the power of a thousand suns for 48 hours. There are 6 inches of snow here and I'm not going anywhere but man did I need those shoes.

[@savvagecabbage23]

I cannot emphasize how meaningful and enjoyable I find your content!

[@jessielindsey11]

I would call the Doen look “cottage core” and it’s very 2020 trendy. Loved your thoughts in this video!

[@caitk6016]

I’m here so early! I’ll be doing my first true no buy this coming year and I am very excited to change my spending habits.

[@sabahatnaheed1435]

im preparing to do a no buy year challenge in 2021. I spend £1000 on skincare to last me over 3 years. I feel ashamed that I spent so much but I will use it all.

[@thatElene]

I´m going to do it too! I guess that year 2021 (with its unclarity an confusion) might me the perfect year for no-buy. Let's keep our fingers crossed :)

[@mysticfox1563]

Can you return it and then plan to buy as you need it?

[@KRfromthePaleozoic]

I thought I was probably the only one who falls asleep thinking about makeup 😅 The Gucci voile lipsticks haunt my dreams

[@abidavies154]

My god that is so much money when you put it like that! I don't like how much I spent on beautiful things this year so I'm on a no buy right now until April 1st and I've decided to try seasonal spending like you talked about a month back. So on April 1st I have 250 pounds to spend and then four times a year I get to spend that much all in one go and then hopefully I'll only spend a thousand pounds in one year on clothes and makeup and pretty homewares. I think a thousand is reasonable but I dont like that I probably spent about 3 thousand this year. Wish me luck!

[@MaryJoHeadrick]

I feel you on the baby stuff. I have to stop myself from buying every pair of tiny socks I see for my niece

[@_hael]

Wow... I am so grateful to have found your channel! I have recognised an unhealthy relationship with "things" in myself and have slowly been working on it the past few years in a similar albeit more disorganised journey to yours. I am really looking forward to checking in throughout the new year to hear your experience and tips. Thank you for the genuine transparency and humbling vulnerability you have decided to share with us all :)

[@alicewonder4923]

I desperately need to learn that there are no perfect choices. I either buy things impulsively, or I spend hours and days trying to find the perfect thing. It’s crazy-making, and I’m hoping something that awareness will start to fix. Your discursive thoughts on these matters never fail to help. Thank you. ❤️

[@theuncommonviewer]

That is SUCH good advice/a great lesson to learn: about the amount of leeway you give yourself in your budget to explore aesthetics and also trying to retain your consumer values. I feel inspired! I often use guilt as a fuel for stopping myself buying something eg. Fast fashion, and instead it would be great to have this positive focus instead.

[@bradenroberts1633]

I know EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN about curating your cart to have a set of products… I never knew what it was until I saw this video. BLESS YOU ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kate98765]

YES United Nude! I bought their cube heels when I got a new job this year as a treat to myself. love them

[@emilys1045]

For all of 2021 you should make a point of writing down as you go stuff you want!! Then by the end of the year looking back on stuff you don’t even remember wanting would be so interesting and fun 🤯👍🏻 love this vid ❤️

[@abbyhayes634]

I found your channel through your Auric review and I can't stop bingeing. I haven't seen any channels quite like yours. I love your budget and attitude around beauty products and think I'm going to do one too, I'm a big overspender and could use the reminder to love what I have

[@Feraligamr]

Thank you for sharing that final thought that you were still formulating. I find I have anxiety over making optimal choices with my money and I feel like it makes me make bad choices. So hearing you talk about that was inspiring and has given me a lot to mull over about how I feel and how I can help myself come to a similar feeling to the one you describe.

[@curlycue1983]

I love the discussion about seeking perfection and how you found that none of the items you bought or didn't buy were bad choices, and you would've been happier either way. Please expand in other videos if you are inspired to do so!

[@ameerahalgohary]

My no-buy taught me that I really can go without a lot of stuff. And that I can, in lots of cases, find alternatives without spending money. This year I was saving for a specific home appliance. I really needed it, and I did my research to find the perfect one. I already had the money, but I didn't buy it, because I needed to save for more important things for the next year. And after all that planning, I found out that I can go without. Thanks for promoting this message by sharing your experience with us.

[@HannahLouisePoston]

[@AnkV]

I think one of the most insightful things is easing out of the obsession with optimization. This was a letting go of the intensity of the addiction to (beautiful) things.

[@averysandoval541]

this blush is beautiful!

[@nottheredelilah3757]

i think the one drawback of watching hannah's stuff in a no-buy year ia that she's always got the hookup on a brand i didnt know existed that i now DESPERATELY want to shop from 😅

[@amberwings17]

Your channel inspired me to do a low buy a couple years ago and I find myself wanting to add less and less to my wishlist as time goes on. Even though I don’t have a huge collection where I could dupe new releases, I have a better idea of my preferences now so I just avert my eyes from the things that don’t suit me

[@PaleOpal21]

I had an obsession for perfume this year which has never happened previously. Weird. My Replica fragrance was Whispers In The Library.

[@noellevalla8122]

Oh same I finished two bath and body work sprays. I have bought perfume for the first time in years. And have been waiting all the indie perfumes. I also have been wearing all the eyeshadows like every day as well

[@jimenanunez9481]

Love the concluding thoughts . It’s really interesting how you realize it’s about the experience not so much the specific item. I would love to know how you stay on budget. What the thought process is . ❤️

[@pamhands]

I hadn't heard the name printfresh in such a long time, it really took me back to my art school days. They're based in my city and I used to see their job openings for interns constantly. My understanding is that they kept a somewhat volatile design environment with a rotating door of interns whose artwork they use. It was generally understood as somewhere you'd literally be working like a rented mule for "experience". Can't say I'd support them personally. Sadly there seem to be many places like this where artists are used for their ideas and paid very little, if at all. That was about ten years ago. Hopefully they've changed but honestly I doubt it.

[@dragonscorpio2864]

I have been just the opposite!🌸 I have been LOVING my perfume to help me 'escape' at home, But I have only put on makeup sporadically and I literally have more makeup than Sephora.🌸Whatever get us through!🌸

[@plainjayna]

I’ve been wearing perfume a lot. I do work outside my house but even after a shower before bed I spray perfume to feel extra cute.

[@anotherlemontree]

On the topic of "perfect" choices, I don't think this entirely captures what you started to wonder about at the end, but I recall a subscriber making a comment quite a long time ago along the lines of seeing makeup purchases as "spending [x amount] for the experience of trying this product." The idea that however we spend our budgets for luxury items, we are gaining something experiential, and that this is fine as long as we aren't mortgaging our futures. I don't know if I'm putting it any more lucidly than you are tbh 😅but there are definitely some interesting elements to your half-formed / newly minted thoughts around this. Thank you also for reminding me that I need to set down my 2021 no-buy terms on paper! They're floating around my head atm and I need to put them solidly in writing in the next couple of days.

[@sophieisridiculous]

I often feel the need to make the perfect choice so it's so nice to hear you talking about it, it hits me most when it comes to practical things because I want them to last. I often find it paralysing, I guess it's the paradox of choice because of how big the market has gotten. It's one of the reasons I like getting recommendations or gifts, just so I don't have to choose the specific product, only the type. Also, I have a baby in my covid bubble and I feel you on the want to buy them everything, christmas was especially tough but I limited it to just 5, 3 of which are books.

[@livia3429]

I audibly laughed when you were describing Doen with photos!!! 😂😂😂

[@ameerahalgohary]

I rarely wear makeup at home, but my consumption of perfume increased in quarantine :D

[@kf10126]

Your description of Doen (sp?) had be literally laughing out loud. Also... The first time I saw your videos, I thought, wow there's something about her that so reminds me of my old friend Chloe who I haven't seen in decades, but who I send a message to once every year or two. She has an amazing life and I'm so happy for her. But it's a lot about your style of speaking, your mannerisms, your attitude, your love of beautiful things and maybe even your actual style, the long hair is a similar color to hers. She always had a perfect body and while she was petite, everything on her is long and lean and perfect. Even your long fingers and fingernails remind me of her. She's even from Portland, originally, and I think you've lived there for a time. I told my daughter the other day, this lady (you) seemed more educated than many beauty KZbinrs, as you have a way about you, and my friend Chloe is very well educated. She studied for a year at Oxford and went to a mostly girls private school where I lived at the time in the Midwest. The only men there were theater majors, and when I went to her graduation (she was salutatorian of a huge class and will have been valedictorian if Oxford hasn't kicked her in her ass) where she got her Poli Sci degree, I got to see one of my favorite actress from the 80s and early 90s, Annie Potts, as their keynote speaker. You have an English degree I'm assuming since you're a poet. You both love creative men (she married the guitar player from REM and they do a lot of things helping and educating disadvantaged kids in other countries) and just so much about you makes me feel like I'm listening to Chloe. I think you just said you lived in Portugal and she was a student exchange student in Portugal. She fluently speaks Portuguese. Watching your videos feels like hanging out with her, it feels like being at home in my 20s, because she was my roommate for a few years then, she stayed with me while she was in college and I loved her so much I ALMOST moved to Portland with her when she graduated. I'm still kinda sad I didn't, but that was like close to 30 years ago and I think I'm just wishing I had a life more like hers. Anyway, I wonder if you're from Portland because you REALLY sound like her, with the slow and deliberate grammatically correct style of speaking. I wonder if everyone there sounds like that. Lol, that was a tangent.

[@KM-nq7ez]

Loved your description of your Dress desire from Dowen...very often I’ll create a fantasy situation in which the desired item will make everything seem”perfect”. Found this video very enlightening.

[@jessie9653]

Great video, I love the perspective you give on the way you feel and your thought process when you want to purchase something. I've been dealing with the same thoughts on a lot of the same things lol. Recognizing it is key 😉 I'm doing a low buy 2021. I can do this!!! Your videos are so helpful

[@missvinnet5507]

I'm so happy to get to see you go on this journey and see you grow, it inspires me to grow and challenge myself as well. Congrats on all the work you've invested in yourself and time you've taken to explore new ways of being

[@Lesieva]

I’ve loved watching you the last few years. I can relate a lot, not in style and tastes for what you choose (we are very different in that) but i share a love for beauty and quality. I too turn to spending money for all the reasons you do. For the love of it, but also because my identity clings to it, or because it momentarily makes me happy. Because it makes all the bad a little less bad. For me too, 2017 (and halfway through 2018) have been really bad in spending and not saving. For my own reasons, not even tied to yours. I, too, need more “rehab” and “moderation”. I’ve been better since that second half of 2018. I’m still not where i need to be though. I’m going to do a project along with you for 2021. Mine is something a bit different though. I’ll be focusing on saving a certain amount of money. Simultaneously i will also be making less in 2021 than i did before. Which means i will need to spend a lot less to still save this amount. I will be setting a monthly “budget” for fun, but it will be fluid. Saving goes before anything else. If i need my funds for more important things than “fun”, i will not have much “fun” in that month. If I don’t, i may have more “fun” in that month. But I can’t skip saving. My monthly “budget” is a good indicator for how much i should, on average, be able to spend while still pay bills and non-fun stuff that comes my way. I will document where my spending goes and what i’m saving. Just for me to keep track of my goal and to show myself what i spend my money on. I’ve done the saving this year as well but without actual structure. While i did succeed in my minimum goal (because of decreased income as well as some unexpected costs in the house I didn’t meet my absolute goal - i totally would have, though.) my goal wasn’t nearly as ambitious or enforced. Let’s see for next year if this helps to step it up a notch. Thank you for the motivation. I’ve been watching things on minimalism too, i’m very interested in the “living with less” but i can’t quite relate to having that little. I just want everything i own to have a purpose and be used and loved, without the cluttered feeling of excess and especially visual clutter. But in a small home, even if you don’t have too much, it can soon feel like too much without the space to put it away. You fit my “vision” so much more than minimalists and having you, with so much charisma, talk about things has been especially great. I look forward to seeing your new project for 2021. I hope 2021 will be a better year for us all but also for you personally. A new place, a new business? Whatever you desire i wish it for you.

[@HannahLouisePoston]

you are going to do brilliantly in 2021!!

[@Lesieva]

@@HannahLouisePoston 😘 thank you, i’m sure you will too on your new plans for 2021 (whatever they are)!

[@nicolerene83]

Target has some peasant dresses with the ruffled shoulder.... Very Little House On The Prairie...

[@Nopi9]

I am so glad you did not buy 3 dove body scrubs for 40 dollars . Ther a cheap drugstore brand in the uk like maybe 7 dollars a jar and that’s without the offers that are usually about in stores. Also rip to the united nude flagship store that used to be in Covent Garden london. That was beautiful underrated store

[@FerSanchezArt]

This year for me was insane. It was the year that I worked the most (Im a tattoo artist) and was able to finally buy stuff. For a long period of time I was jobless and now Im revamping my wordrove. I have stuff when I have to tattoo (mostly black because if the ink and stains) but now Im able to buy nice and delicate shirts to go out for dinner. For the last four months I'v ebeen buing perfume (one per month) and fewer but nicer makeup items. Im so happy with my makeup collection. I have really nice stuff and recently I decluttered a lot and gave it to my sister (she's 11) and she's stocked. For this first time in my life I was able to buy presents for chistmas and it felt sooo good.. But for the next year I think Im going to enjoy what I have (it's a lot) and start saving for a new chair for the studio. I wish you a merry new year!!!! Thank you so so much, because you helped me a lot with the mentality of "fewer but nicer things"

[@himynameisrebecca7364]

1. Now I want a Dowen dress. Thanks. Lol! 2. I started wearing my perfume and makeup again in quarantine when I realized I still wanted to be my best self for me and my husband. 3. Missguided has a tye-dye lounge outfit very similar from the Aviator Nation one for only $50. I bought it in June. Lol! Great minds think alike....yet I failed and had to buy it. Needless to say, January starts a new low-buy for the year.

[@michelesalter9564]

Love everything about this video, what stopped my heart was what the reality would have been of the dollar amount spent if you have not been exercising the muscles of not overspending. All talking points were 110% relatable. Tie dye sweat suit hugs!

[@HannahLouisePoston]

[@hannah3854]

Just wanted to comment here, with hopes I’m not too late for you to be reading some, but the elf cream blush palette you love, is on sale for about 3 dollars on their website! I know you’ve been using yours with love, and wanted you know in case you plan on repurchasing. I hope the sale doesn’t mean they are discontinuing it though, I love it too!

[@leahmommy7711]

The opposite happened to me with the makeup and perfume. Quarantine showed me that I don’t like to wear makeup if I’m not leaving the house but I wear perfume daily. I got the Sultry palette for Christmas so I’m going to force myself to put some makeup on for NYE even though I’m staying home.

[@psh11m]

🙋🏻‍♀️Me too with the makeup and perfume! I love the process of putting on my makeup but totally lost interest in perfume. I had a signature scent but had no desire to wear it. Even when going into the office, I lost all interest. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@beckyobeck]

I loooooove this video. Thank you for doing the work and math. It all adds up. Wow that's true.

[@Darima2]

I still wear perfume at home. I think we should do things because we enjoy it for ourselves and let go of the idea that it's just for others. I have seasonal perfumes for going out and I have softer perfumes for home. One of the ones perfect for home is Replica Lazy Sunday Morning. I also love CK One because the nostalgia of that scent gives me joy . I also love Body sprays for home. These are different from the perfumes I like to wear out which aemre heavier for winter and more expensive. Jean Paul Gaultier is absolutely delicious on a crisp cold yet sunny winter day. I've also been wearing samples of Hermes Twilly and MJ Decadence because although heavy, they're perfect for cold weather. So contemplating whether to buy it once I finish one of my winter perfumes. I love loungewear because I've been working from home since 2014 so I've got an entire shelf devoted to it and another for fitness wear. I have lots of beloved hoodies and yoga pants, tights. I love that more companies are coming out with matching loungewear because that used to be rare to see at least at my price point. There is a certain joy I get from wearing a matching sweatshirt /sweatpants suit and I know I've already worn and washed them a bajillion times so I feel good about it, its function, comfort and value has added more to my wardrobe than any clothing item I've bought with the exception of my outerwear.

[@TheLatonya999]

Your haircut is so pretty and really suits you

[@Eva_R966]

It's so interesting to hear about your relationship to perfume! I feel like for me, it is still related to my fantasy self, but since I am one of the only people in my life who cares about perfume/has a perfume-sensitive nose, I have always assumed I'm the only one who cares and have continued to wear perfume similarly to makeup 😁 I have been more into learning about fragrance though, especially since I've been listening to a podcast called "Smell Ya Later" that i can recommend for lighthearted but still informative content (including an episode on the recent revival of Commodity fragrance!!!!)

[@angelablackburn6268]

Great video _ I think about things I want in such a similar way. Strangely comforting to know I’m not “battling” alone. Sometimes it’s pleasurable battling too!

[@sheilasingleton7904]

I can relate completely! I’m working on planning better and saving $$

[@decourcy2024]

OMG the ‘knee jerk’ - that part. I need saving from the knee jerk.

[@AlisonBurtt]

Your perfume comment, about it being something related to your identity of how you move through the world, reflected something I thought recently. The longing associated with perfume might have less to do with acquisitiveness and more to do with longing to be out in the world as if everything were normal. In fact, I spent my birthday money on those beautiful Zeesea lipsticks for just that reason. I won't wear them until I'm out in the world again, but it's okay. Their purchase gave me some hope that we will again be out and showing our mouths someday. Just as you will wear perfume to waft down the street.

[@annaboyar3875]

I liked watching Hannah describe cottege core

[@drionaitalia]

Have you looked into getting Dragon dictation software? If you have wrist pain, it could be a real game changer. You can use it for text and for other commands (for example, for video editing stuff).

[@Sam-le4gl]

Great video! Your point at the end really rang true for me as well. Thank you.

[@heatherl3934]

I only recently started wearing my perfumes at home, and I also want to get new ones, but I will wait until I can smell them in person. Scents are so strongly tied with memory, son sometimes it can be hard to to go back to old ones because you associate them with a different person. On a side note-I didn’t realize Commodity re-opened- so thanks!