Sub-Conscious Brain - Part 1

Sub-Conscious Brain - Part 1 - Complex Trauma

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@sarahjmount9221 10 ай бұрын

Tim is incredible. He has a manner of speaking and presenting complex issues in such a comprehensive way. His messages are so interesting and informative. He has helped me to understand CPTSD so well through teaching me to have self-awareness finally, in my life. It’s imperative for recovery. His messages are realistic and very factual. I applaud his efforts and hard work in sharing his thoughts and experiences with us all. He puts his info out to those of us who need it, so generously. Thank God for him and a couple others who are as good as him but in a different way. They started me on my healing journey and pretty much saved my life. Tim’s speeches are special and so helpful. I keep learning from them. ❤

@4Mikes4Mindset4 10 ай бұрын

It's literally amazing. His channel appeared within the last month and I was ready for the depth and clarity of his wisdom in this crucial area. I'm convinced after self therapy since 2020 that we have to be ready to receive this type of core change wisdom. It's just hard prep work til it clicks into place. ❤

@sarahjmount9221 10 ай бұрын

@@4Mikes4Mindset4 Yes!

@natural3362 5 ай бұрын

I have just healed from dissociation. My entire life of dissociation was to protect me from the rejection and the abuse. My mother is very good at making me feel like a criminal unwanted kid. She always blamed me for the stuff i didn't do. She always accuse me of something i didn't do and whenever i tried to defend myself, i was seen as a rude kid and i was punished even further. My mother never believed me nor defended me. Any stranger can go and call my mother and tell my mother what did i do wrong and my mother will support every bullies. I can't defend myself. So when i was a kid, on the bed, i dissociate and start to daydreaming. I have become a maladaptive daydreamer. This emotionally stunted my emotional growth. I can't read mockery, sarcasm, social skills are non existent so i was bullied all the way in the high school. I couldn't defend myself because my mother would support the bullies. The only way i could have survived is to dissociate but dissociation is in my opinion the most damaging and inefective coping mechanism because not only it stunted my emotional growth, it also prevents my body from healing and releasing trauma so i decided to feel all my emotions and stopped being numb And i was often triggered by my mother. The traumas was all stored in my body all these years because of dissociation I was also physically abused aside from emotional abuse When i look back, oh my gosh.. How pitiful i was.. I just want to hug myself. That poor kid has no way out, has no way of regulating her emotions. I feel compassion toward myself and i love myself a lifetime as much as i could My mother rejection and treatment of me was internalized as me not being worth loving and not worth being accepted. This is why i people please to get people to love me in high school. Poor kid...i love my inner child so much

@priyarobin4414 Ай бұрын

I feel like I just read my own story! Sending you lots of hugs and prayers.❤

@r.bishop1127 10 ай бұрын

I'm really thankful for your channel. I grew up in a very dysfunctional alcoholic home. I've done alanon. I have two siblings with ALD. I've dated toxic people. I've read and read and read. I suppose everyone is always a work in progress, but your info actually has info on how to heal! Not just educate myself on dysfunction. I know I am dysfunctional and working on me now instead of being in the midst of chaos. Took a long time to recognize my codependency, my toxic reactions, and boundaries. But I'm learning. It is painful but long over due!

@kwilsonization 10 ай бұрын

Tim your channel has rearranged my understanding of myself and the reasons why my life was out of control and caused me so much pain. I’m in the healing phase now after 4 years of therapy your content is keeping me aware as I drop all of my personas and grieve the losses in my life

@lowen1868 9 ай бұрын

In a world where people have to pay thousands for even a small peice of this info , putting it out for free on KZbin will save lives. It's helped me understand some stuff I didn't know even existed in my brain . - someone who can't afford his sanity

@olgakim4848 10 ай бұрын

So good to see this channel gaining subs more and more rapidly. Needs to reach a billion more.

@4Mikes4Mindset4 10 ай бұрын

100% ❤

@amyhardy6784 10 ай бұрын

I just finished your series on anger. I would love to hear more about how to comfortable around someone else's anger or upset without trying to fix it or being negatively affected by it. This is a big challenge for me. I am wearing myself out.

@happygucci5094 10 ай бұрын

Felt this… You are not alone 💗

@thestraightroad305 10 ай бұрын

I can really relate to that! Great question.

@comnandmentsdeadlysins 9 ай бұрын

Focus on your heart rate and deep breathing. It has worked for me time and again. You still own your power to manage your emotions/feelings/energy no matter what others are doing near or around you. Those who are running on emotions do not even notice I am focusing my energy on me not them. Suprising is the amount of truth others speak about themselves when I am calm and able to listen. Not consumed by the energy/emotions they are emiting.

@caroleminke6116 5 ай бұрын

Go gray rock plz this method probably saved my health if not my life ❤️‍🩹

@World-Sojourner.22 10 ай бұрын

☮️❤️ Greetings from Oregon! I thank God that he led me to find your channel! You are a most excellent teacher! Thank You,! ☮️❤️

@bryanmccaffrey4385 10 ай бұрын

Interesting start with the perceptual set stuff. I've healed a lot but still get some of that unconscious negativity bias kicking in more than I'd like. The learned associations thing is really hitting home. It doesn't feel good at all. I'm in therapy for it. Yoga helps. Forest helps. I'm also studying this in undergrad again. Hoping to take your coaching course when it's open.

@juliedolph-f7u 7 ай бұрын

I’m appreciating your information. I have looked for someone locally to get this type of help for CPTSD but so far I’ve been told there isn’t anyone. I’ve read some books on new ways of looking at how trauma affects our body physically. Trauma is so widespread and yet it seems to be ignored as the root cause of many difficulties. Thank you!

@cathywestholt5324 10 ай бұрын

Everything that was terrible in my childhood was red....worst was the red leather belt with which my mom used the very thick buckle to beat me when she was in a bad mood. Nothing had to be related to my behavior. Next was the horrible tasting red liquid phenobarbital I had to take twice a day for epilepsy. Not only did it taste horrible, but much of the time the spoon was a bit aggressively pushed into my mouth. Lastly I was forced to wear ugly red corrective shoes to correct flat feet. I was laughed at by my classmates all the years I was forced to wear them. I don't buy or wear anything red. I also don't buy belts. I just can't. It holds too much trauma. I am an odd person out here in St. Louis, MO the home of Cardinals baseball that I don't own any team related item because of the red. I also won't put pepper in or on anything or eat food like peppered bacon, pepper steak, etc. On a family trip to Florida when I was five we stayed in a condo owned by my dad's friend while he was away. I said something dad didn't like. He reached in the kitchen cabinet and grabbed a can of black pepper, held my mouth open, and dumped it in my mouth. Pepper is traumatic.

@LyndaHubbs 10 ай бұрын

I’m so very sorry for the trauma you experienced. Keep listing to Tim Fletcher, he’s awesome for healing. Perhaps, free and open to join weekly meeting in your neighborhood called ACA/Dysfunctional Families. ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics / Dysfunctional Families. Neglect is the most common abuse children suffer, but your experience was beyond neglect.

@sarahjmount9221 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing some of your story. I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that and how it still affects you today. I understand what it’s like to be traumatized over and over; and to associate certain things with the experiences like Tim discusses in this video. It hinders your ability to really live. You’re just existing, miserably. I’m 55 yrs old and had no idea what CPTSD was until a couple of years ago. I wasted over half of my life on people who never loved or cared for me, being completely dysfunctional. It’s a work in progress but now that I know what’s wrong with me, I’ve been healing from it by doing the work, and going no contact with the toxic people. Keep watching Tim. He will help you start to retrain your subconscious. The key to recovery, here, is changing your way of thinking. We all have to be patient, though, because it takes a lot of time, energy, and emotional hard work. Good luck with your recovery. I wish you all the best. ❤

@cathywestholt5324 10 ай бұрын

@@sarahjmount9221 thank you. I am watching all of his videos. I really hope they help. I will be 70 soon. Everyone has passed now including my dearest sister (we really helped each other get through each day) I am all alone. My dad was much better after that one occasion and we became close. I really miss him. Mom eventually stopped the physical abuse, but the verbal, emotional and mental abuse continued until the day she died in her 80's. I feel guilty to not miss my mother. I feel abnormal and shameful because everyone seems to miss their mothers deeply when they die. I just don't. I miss and mourn the loss of my sister and dad, but not her. I don't know if at this age and all alone if I will ever heal. I hope so, but after this length of time (along with an abusive husband for 10 years thrown in the mix) if I ever will heal and have that freedom and peace.

@happygucci5094 10 ай бұрын

I am sending you so much love- you are not alone.

@happygucci5094 10 ай бұрын

@@sarahjmount9221this was beautiful 🥹 thank you- I think we all can use this msg as a reminder… 🙏🏽💗

@LynnBond-w4i 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for all that you do! Learning to understand thanks to you

@pamelariley6694 10 ай бұрын

1st time that I've heard this. Very interesting. Truthful. Thanks ❤

@mirelladlima5278 9 ай бұрын

I did not realise I had some aspects of complex trauma till I happened to stumble upon one of your videos🙏

@pennyrobertson6118 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your insight 💜🙏 have been struggling with Complex PTSD since early childhood (am now 62). TIS a lifelong process & appreciate your channel 😊

@C-Span222 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so very much for your dedication and support. 😊

@sarahg1077 9 ай бұрын

So good! I always relate this back to toxic Christian teachings and how it becomes so engrained in the subconscious brain that it becomes “normal” but causes so much damage. 😢

@kristinaherrejon7181 10 ай бұрын

I love your teaching ability Tim. Thank you for blessing us with your gifts.

@4Mikes4Mindset4 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Mr. Fletcher

@125ccbiker9 10 ай бұрын

It's a good jog he's not Terrence Fletcher from Whiplash.

@jenndel4 10 ай бұрын

I love you Tim! You are amazing

@reeniesmith3263 10 ай бұрын

"living is easy with eyes closed" Paul McCartney

@nitindadar7933 10 ай бұрын

beauty - thx Mr. Fletcher

@claireh.7605 10 ай бұрын

Just had a dentist appointment for teeth cleaning. Didn’t drink coffee or have pastries. Did half an hour zone 2 on an elliptical machine. Calm not hungry. Now making a meal. The cycle of coffee donuts and American eating out which is all crap pretend food - keeps me in the trauma.

@overcome24 9 ай бұрын

You have just described in detail how the mind of our soul reasons based on taking impulses from our environment through our five senses to create emotions. We make decisions based on emotions and not reason. This is the mind of our soul. Yes our soul has a mind, a will and emotions, which need to come under the rule of the Spirit. What I’ve been wanting to understand is how our dreams trigger similar responses within the soul’s emotions. Because our dreams bypass the conscious mind. When dreaming our soul’s 5 senses get triggered, our emotions respond similar and independently as if conscious and aware of our circumstances. Just trying to figure it out… Things can be going well, but a bad dream can unleash a whole lot of unexpected and unwanted emotional responses. You think you’ve overcome certain things, then you are back to square one because of a bad dream.

@animalliberationCLBB 10 ай бұрын

❤❤❤much BLESSINGS from Germany ❤❤❤

@frankleap 10 ай бұрын

Thank YOU!

@grandiesgarden175 10 ай бұрын

Thanks, Tim Fletcher❤

@CynthiaSchoenbauer 10 ай бұрын

I really had to rejoin your channel because you are putting the pieces of all my learnings together. When you add the right words, phrases, and logic of what has been going on with me, you help me reach some of the major conclusions of my life! And a lot of the new ones are much more flattering to me than all the old ones.

@sagesufferswell 10 ай бұрын

Bias is so important to understand.

@daliacezar 10 ай бұрын

Meditation helped me observe the links on what surfaces from unconscious to awareness. Thank you ,amazing teachings .

@truthministry7462 10 ай бұрын

This was a very good study

@rvios79 9 ай бұрын

Mulțumim!

@miuthub7954 7 ай бұрын

Please do these in podcast form so we can have the audio

@Mary-vq6ns 10 ай бұрын

Hello Pastor Fletcher. please post the full video where you are in a black shirt with gold pineapples pattern

@jeankipper6954 10 ай бұрын

Two to ten years. OMG. Yet, the alternatives are longer and harder.

@Willsontime 7 ай бұрын

I agree on the car arriving after work. As a 9 year old I had a good idea of my fathers mood from this The diagram at 30.45 doesn’t work for me. When I see soap or soup after eating I see soap as it’s time to wash hands after eating.

@sagesufferswell 10 ай бұрын

Fascinating, thank you!

@fredontime 10 ай бұрын

My subconscious brain seems to me in control part of the time.

@fredontime 9 ай бұрын

And we are working on that 😎

@Dyslexicjungledragon 9 ай бұрын

We can totally relate. Like being a backseat driver watching things happen but can’t control

@quantaVastitude2021 2 ай бұрын

"Thinking, Fast and Slow" is a book by Daniel Kahneman

@roxaneroberge8381 10 ай бұрын

Your are an excellent teacher!

@pegagonza3784 10 ай бұрын

What do you think about EMDR ? Thanks for your videos

@alexandrugheorghe5610 10 ай бұрын

They use it in Tim's RE-ACT/LIFT program

@jolaola1987 10 ай бұрын

Here is his program available .? Is he in Canada or UK too?

@alexandrugheorghe5610 10 ай бұрын

@@jolaola1987 Google timfletcher ca and you'll find his website. He is based in Canada. There's more information on the website and you can contact them should you have any questions

@Amber-z5s5z 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for all the hard and restless work you have done and are doing. I hope you get a nobel prize. You are changing the for free. 😮😮😮😮😊😊😊😊 I just needed truth and substance to hold on to to figure out living life happy and one i don't want excape. But i had to get in so called trouble to get any. Wow Thank you so much you help me heal myself. And return i for God well i was able to hear him lol

@nishanacht 5 ай бұрын

Excellent✨ty

@Cheshireagusta 10 ай бұрын

How does this fit with our knowledge that the eye also does not focus or even see most of what our brain interprets to be what we are looking at?

@cyirvine6300 9 ай бұрын

My family has it's own language built on these subconsious bits of information. An example: my sister was coming to borrow something. I'm an hour away so i asked her if she wanted to have lunch here. No, I'm too busy, I'll grab a burger to eat on the way. When the time came my husband asked why i was setting a place for her for lunch. It was obvious to me but I had to explain, she was going to get a burger. She HATES burgers. She said she was in a hurry because she didn't want me to make a big thing. We made a bet. Sure enough, she arrived, hadn't eaten anything and gobbled the sandwich greatfully. I've been married 53 years. My husband is a saint for putting up with his wife and in laws!

@cameron529 8 ай бұрын

Tim did u teach a class in Kingston many years ago??

@manyBlessings2all 10 ай бұрын

Ethnicity makes no difference to my perception.. sadly simply jealous of the 5million house owner & sad/sorry/symapthetic for the homeless.. but I'm autistic & have noticed with other autistic folk that generally we see people as simply people & don't understand all the divisions 🎉❤

@user-bd4bo4tb8u 9 ай бұрын

Where do we find surrogate families. Everyone has given up on me, and with good reason. There is just no one left and I don’t like church. I’m trying to get by daily by myself but it’s exhausting to move.

@timothythegreat6294 Ай бұрын

replay replay replay ❤❤❤

@susansilvey1614 9 ай бұрын

We would scatter and hide when we heard the car

@laltamiranov 10 ай бұрын

What do you mean by "...the person wasn't white but you find out that they're Russian? In your mind, what color are Russians then? What is a white to you that excludes other fair skinned people? What does that say about YOUR sub-conscious biases?

@jolaola1987 10 ай бұрын

Russia is a massive country. Could be Asian or brown from south. People with no complex of complexion have no problem with stating about shades of human skin. There's no agenda behind it.

@seachange2512 10 ай бұрын

Dear @cathywestholt5324 My heart is responding with sadness to know how cruelly you have been treated. You were an innocent child who deserved to be cherished and protected and made to feel safe and secure. What was done to you was wrong and reprehensible. It is so understandable how you react to the colour red, pepper etc., given how it relates to your history. l hope you receive all the informed trauma support you deserve to recover and heal.

@happygucci5094 10 ай бұрын

💯💗🥹🙏🏽

@Tadesan 10 ай бұрын

My trauma has made me a loser. I can't have new experiences because nobody will spend time with me.

@sashrafi90 10 ай бұрын

Hey just so you know, you can say "black people/person(s)" - really hope this helps!!

@sashrafi90 10 ай бұрын

(and not all African-Americans are black! and its okay you weren't thinking about it. really it is don't worry about it love the channel)

@happygucci5094 10 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same thing 😅🙏🏽

@Horseyperson12 10 ай бұрын

These talks cause anxiety 😢

@elainehiggins713 10 ай бұрын

Probably NFL or NBA player or Oprah Winfrey or Beyoncé or Morgan Freeman. Maybe a personal injury lawyer. They make big money where I live.

@mgkos 3 ай бұрын

Start wth ethnicity is off track. It’s logically consistent that those who have lived in a country are statistically far more likely to have both some multigenerational assets to draw on & passed on insider info about how to do well in an Anglophone country. Migrants from ANY other culture will need a few generations (at least one if not two) to build capital in a new adopted country. Not bias, just common sense.

@maritaandersson9394 9 ай бұрын

❤

@gracerod2038 10 ай бұрын

I don’t think that at all, about any poor person, no matter their background!

@susanwiltshire1458 10 ай бұрын

Why do everyone being in colour

@dukeduke2790 9 ай бұрын

tons of people u subscribe cause he has member only video💩

@gerrylee4907 10 ай бұрын

40 million bits of data/second; how would anyone be able to assemble that finding? i dont buy these unproveable submissions, and what is the prophet of knowing such useless info?

@cyirvine6300 9 ай бұрын

What???? Do you have ANY idea how many government grants are made to the neuroscience scientists? MILLIONS $$! Don't understand how they get that data? That's because you don't know how science works. Ask yourself why your subconscious just can't accept this. It might be helpful to answer why you can't believe other scientific statements.

@susansilvey1614 9 ай бұрын

I dislike old spice