Surprised my son with a room makeover part 1

[@Picassoinkz]

“I went to clean his room” Every teenagers nightmare 😂😂

[@feitraspace4801]

Bruhhh

[@martanogueira1934]

i assure you my room is not even close to dirty, hygiene is everything

[@MinMishi313]

I am a teen and I am like so opisate my rooms allways clean I am clean and my bro here he is 11 and 😂😹his room is like a turnado

[@brendafleck3352]

They may not like it immediately but later if you haven't found a private item, he will appreciate it

[@uptownqtee40]

I hope she didn't find the crusty sock hidden on the side of the bed.

[@maryannkom299]

I saw the full video on this. She touched on the privacy issue and admitted she found a condom in the room, but she said ooh well I’m glad he’s being safe. Overall she took the little brother into her room and gave her older son his own space. And he was thrilled. And of course you don’t kick your kids out at 18.

[@verovero8845]

But they should also have respect and not have sex in their parents home. Unless it’s all changed now I guess

[@verovero8845]

@Gavroche that’s why you get your own place

[@camilasfv0208]

@@verovero8845 why would it be disrespectful? As long as they are not being noisy or disrupting the peace of the house there's nothing disrespectful about it

[@Charlie-yv3ib]

​@@verovero8845 yeah sure because houses and rent are cheap nowadays🙄

[@iancrum9845]

@verover8845 How is it disrespectful? It’s just part of being a human? People are going to have sex, people are going to masturbate it’s part of living.

[@scrumps101]

I just want to applaud your beliefs in allowing children to stay home after 18 to establish themselves. My son stayed home until he was 23. He worked and saved $20k and bought a house. He won’t have to throw money away renting and is now 26 and we’ll on his way to a comfortable and less stressful life.

[@LUXURYPREMIER]

My oldest is 20 years old and he can stay here as long as he wants to. I know people who puts kids out at 18 but I cannot do that as long as I have home my kids will always have a roof no matter their age. Love my 5 kiddos……

[@ruthcunfer3372]

Yeah, I understand not putting your child out at those ages. However, they still need to know how to clean their own room without their mom or anyone else's help as well as they need to be helping out with chores, otherwise you're doing them a disservice, making them feel like everyone is always going to do things for them. They should've been learning that since they were 10 or earlier not that you're doing their laundry and cooking, cleaning and paying for everything at mid to late teens.

[@ruthcunfer3372]

Yeah, I understand not putting your child out at those ages. However, they still need to know how to clean their own room without their mom or anyone else's help as well as they need to be helping out with chores, otherwise you're doing them a disservice, making them feel like everyone is always going to do things for them. They should've been learning that since they were 10 or earlier not that you're doing their laundry and cooking, cleaning and paying for everything at mid to late teens.

[@QueenBluntdanae]

Beautiful

[@scrumps101]

@@ruthcunfer3372 Oh 100 percent!! That rule came with the invitation to stay home, to clean up after yourself and keep your space clean. My kids learned very young how to clean and grew up cleaning. It’s so important to give your kids the skills to prep at them for adult life, I mean, that’s our jobs as parents. If we don’t give them those tools we’ve failed them. I didn’t comment about the woman in the video cleaning up that room simply because it sounds as if 2 or more brothers were sharing a room and didn’t mention the age(s) of the other boy(s) in the room. There are too many unknown variables here to make any kind of accurate statements.

[@apaularayproduction1263]

As a child who left the nest at 18, I can say with 100% confidence that what you’re doing is going to help tremendously for your children. I have been struggling because my parents wanted to “teach me a lesson about adulting” without the support or ANY guidance. I see my parents once a year and talk to them six times a year. Please never stop being an amazing mother, we need more of you 😢

[@teresamontana1481]

Sending you hugs ❤

[@Plutogotbanz]

❤❤❤❤

[@lynaisfly]

❤❤❤❤hugs

[@marjorierodriguez5927]

Sending you hugs ❤❤❤❤

[@bubblegum6828]

When my parents stopped caring about my room being messy, i strated caring myself lol

[@vanessaamber7344]

What age was that?

[@blueeyedbatman]

Clearly that didn't work for this kid...

[@MollyMA13]

Doesn’t seem like that strategy worked here 😂

[@djmarie2058]

called “reverse psychology” back in the day… And 🎯 parenting. If it didn’t work, parents would re-evaluate for mental health issues…

[@naylisyazwina6836]

@@blueeyedbatman the mom said his best friend died 2 years ago and he might have depression. That's why

[@brunabarros8154]

Your way of thinking about helping your son even if he will turn 18years old and understanding him about not knowing if he goes to university or find a job its amazing. That makes the difference

[@blueeyedbatman]

Really.....? Based on the video her way of thinking was: Eldest sons best friend dies - but let's not allow him to have his own space for a few years, it's not like keeping a young kid in a room with a deeply depressed teen will be detrimental to BOTH boys mental health..... 🙄 Oh yeah and I [this idiotic mother] KNOW that he's mentally struggling but instead of getting him the legitimate help that he actually needs, I'll just clean his room and finally decide to give him some privacy that he could have had two years ago, but I chose not to let him.

[@baylorsailor]

He'll be a lost kid instead of a young adult. How fun.

[@minmaxed]

@@baylorsailor this boys best friend literally passed away recently as the OP stated in another comment, have some damn compassion

[@HeAintNoJoke]

@@baylorsailor America is the only place that kicks their children out at 18 I know people who stay at home work together and a few years later all are able to buy homes you just a hatee

[@mw9107]

@@baylorsailor lol every kid is lost at 18. This mom just has the courage to acknowledge it and allow her kid to take the time needed to figure things out. I wish my dad would have done that instead of beating my ass for not having it together.

[@Nickdude56]

So you’re a quality parent… we need more of those in this world.

[@footballeditsyt3193]

We dont need more we all need to act like them...

[@lajoieurmom6011]

How about you be one of them then 😒

[@footballeditsyt3193]

@@lajoieurmom6011 ok sure no biggy you can be one to

[@lajoieurmom6011]

@@footballeditsyt3193 that's what I'm saying instead of saying "we need more people like this" how about we all become those people.

[@footballeditsyt3193]

@@lajoieurmom6011 oh okay sorry for misunderstanding :)

[@WetPizzaSlices]

My momma did this for me when I was 16. It was one of the best gifts ever, she painted the room with a big ol star for the Dallas cowboys. Man I loved it.

[@ninjawinnja8096]

😢

[@Grim_Grim.]

This mother literally deserves the world.

[@skittlegxng]

no

[@ricky-sh6fv]

FaCts

[@j.bennette3390]

She should be teaching those boys how to clean up after themselves. What young lady (or man) wants to date a guy who has been totally catered to by his mom and doesn’t know how to maintain cleanliness and order for himself?

[@amycurran9195]

Ikr she’s like my mum

[@elisa4822]

@@skittlegxng yes

[@j.m.74]

So grateful my mother wasn't one of those "kick em out the moment they turn 18" wackaloons. The day I turned 18, I was only 3 months into my senior year of high school.

[@baylorsailor]

Do you still live at home?

[@trudy285]

I was told since age 12, that at 18 to be out. I left at 17 with college level nurse diploma, full time job and my own apartment. I didn't turn 18 until four months after graduating highschool and college. My kids later were all encouraged to become whatever they wanted to be. But go to college. Live at home if they wished to. All four are college grads. Good jobs. Happily married with children. The son that I cleaned up and organized his room at age 13 like this family did, is now a business consultant for a fortune 500 company with his double master's degree. Yes, I'm a proud mama. ☺️✌️❤️🦋🙏.

[@Angelmheee]

​@@baylorsailor I'm 19 and still live with my parents. Perks of being asian i guess

[@koribanks3641]

Lmao at wackaloon... 😂😂

[@j.m.74]

@@baylorsailor That would be a bit difficult, seeing as both parents are 🪦 (almost 2 years ago). But anyways, I had my first apartment 10 months after I got my high school diploma.

[@musicsansnotes]

Yes. I support supportive loving parents that want to keep their kids home. They still need help. Yes, you explained it very well.

[@elishagumbs9505]

That's exactly what I say. As long as my son is doing what he's supposed to and continues to respect me, he can be right here!

[@rogerroger3383]

Are there still people who kick their kids out at 18? That's horrible.

[@psalms2928]

💯 especially with the increasing cost of rent,food,transportation,school fees and living in general they are least need to be 20-21 to get there life plan in order and most importantly they should definitely start saving during this time

[@robyn00xx]

I was one of em! As soon as I started working 40hrs my dad kicked me out at 19……had to rent a room from an elderly couple….. now sharing an apartment with my partner at 22

[@goddesslov3338]

Yeah but I came out alright 😂 pretty great actually.

[@creescrazylife901]

My sons best friend was told to leave and then when he couldn’t immediately find somewhere they started taking advantage of him financially and even stealing from his room. He moved to another state as soon as he had the chance. 😔

[@wyntersteele1a]

They should not be kicked out of the home but they should definitely be required to have a job or go to school. Responsibility falls in everyone's lap eventually. How will they be able to survive on their own if the parent has not encouraged their children to start assuming responsibility for ones adult self?

[@rackel1213]

You’re such a loving and caring mama. ❤

[@wolfegameingstar5785]

I wish she had let the video run a little longer. I wanted to see the completed version and to see her son’s reaction. IJS

[@s00nt0b3]

​@Ainsley waste of time, waste of life 😂 I block most ppl that have more then 1 part🤦🤦🤦🤷

[@lipsticklatina79]

Go to her YouRube page and the videos are on there.

[@s00nt0b3]

@@lipsticklatina79 have you gone on some of these ppls pages bf, there's 600 videos and u spend 10mins trying to find the 2nd and 3rd videos not a fan

[@faithbautista1511]

love y n this! can people get it?

[@echsemia]

​@@s00nt0b3 yeah but shorts have a limited amount of time so they can't put it all in one video when it's too long. And if they make a long format video then it doesn't get as many views as the shorts so it's better to just make 2 parts

[@chrisojar]

Any parent who supports their kids like this deserves everything.

[@wmhfv992]

@@alakes You can really tell how many people in the comments are young and just want their moms to redo their rooms too, but her son is not young enough to think this is going to be a regular thing for the rest of his life. He's 17. It's the kids whose moms do this for them every week for the entire childhood that end up that way. Also it's not even 26, 26 is just when they're no longer coverable on your health insurance and then you have to pay for all that shit out of pocket.

[@cheddarcheese930]

Oh please, for starters he could clean that rattrap himself. He's 17, NOT A BABY. ridiculous. You want your kids living like babies their whole life? Need mommy to clean and style your room?

[@kimbasandy1096]

They may not always be kids but they'll ALWAYS be your baby no matter how old they get. Keep on loving and supporting them 🙏🏾

[@ainnochaim9450]

I relate to her as a mother. She says a lot of the same things. I feel like she really LOVES being a mom just like I do. 🧡🧡🧡

[@blueeyedbatman]

I sure hope that you don't relate to someone who chooses to clean a room instead of getting their child legitimate help for their depression.....

[@akitoyaname7897]

You are a good mother. He will look back at getting his own room and you keeping him safe at home so he can safe up with so much appreciation. Also, cleaning for/with your kids can really help with stress for them and you did him such a good deed here

[@blueeyedbatman]

🤣 God how high are some of you? His best friend died TWO YEARS AGO and she's just now choosing to give him his own space. She had the space all along and yet didn't allow her TEENAGER any privacy or space to grieve. And instead of getting him professional help for his depression she went in and cleaned his room... 🙄 Leaving the little one in there with the depressed teen can be detrimental to BOTH boys mental health. And invading the privacy of someone who is deeply depressed is a shot in the dark because often times it can do more harm than good. Depressed people tend to have messy spaces, but the messy space isn't the cause of the depression, so getting rid of it won't help. You can often times make their anxiety and depression WORSE doing something like this.

[@akitoyaname7897]

@@blueeyedbatman bro, chill. This was the first video i saw of her concerning her own house. I didn't know any backstory details. How about you stop being an ass assuming people are just ignorant and take a break from social media? I had no idea her son was suffering from a loss

[@blueeyedbatman]

@@akitoyaname7897 I'm sorry, anything after the word "bro" isn't taken seriously because you sound like a child. And literally it would have taken you less than a minute to find out the backstory. 👌 If you can't be bothered to fact check or find out the back story or reasoning for something- YOU are the one who shouldn't be on social media. You can't believe everything you see, and just like you can't assume everyone is bad, you can't assume everyone is good either - thats why you take it upon yourself to get facts before throwing out bs comments.

[@gogogadgetgore]

​@@blueeyedbatman THANK YOU. I don't understand people praising this woman for straight up invading her son's privacy.

[@dianaritchie8857]

My daughter lived at home until she was in her late 20s, had a good job, and was able to buy her own home. She doesn’t have to depend on a man and she is a happy confident person.

[@christiandpaul631]

Lonely way

[@SlickRickTPB]

ask her if she still wants a man when her last few eggs are on the way out...

[@TheLoneMitten]

​@@christiandpaul631 women cultivate friendships. Other relationships and hobbies when they're single. Unlike men. We are happier single. Speak for yourself.

[@chickennugget-ug9gn]

@@TheLoneMitten that sorta solitude is necessary for everyone imo, you learn so much more about yourself like thay

[@8eight306]

​@@TheLoneMitten "We are happier single" doubt, enjoy going crazy near menopause.

[@donnakeeley7924]

That's a very caring, thoughtful, mom! Your son will thank you later, when he is older and appreciates how lucky he is to have you. You are setting him up for success.

[@blueeyedbatman]

.... I swear half the people in the comments are brain dead.... did you miss the part where she KNOWS her son has been struggling with depression, but did nothing about it? She could have allowed him to have his own room - they didn't magically get more space, but now all of a sudden he can have his own room. And instead of getting him professional help for his depression, she cleaned his room.... even though for some depressed people, invading their [MINIMAL in this case] privacy can be detrimental to their mental health. Not to mention that he's a teen who can't just be a teen because every second of the day he has to set an example for his brother - I'm sure that really helped the kid after his best friend died.

[@shortyp1000]

Exactly! Great that you're a supportive parent. Set them up to succeed. ❤️

[@THEDISH54]

Good for you mom! I lived with my Aunt and Uncle & I would hear her ask her 2nd son to clean his room and his patio enclosed area room. Finally, I got tired of hearing that that I went in and cleaned his 2 rooms and changed the linen on the bed and washed the clothes on the floor and made the room sparkle. She came back from grocery shopping & after I helped her bring in the groceries and put everything away she went upstairs and I heard her say..”OMG BRIAN’S ROOM IS IMMACULATE!” I never opened my mouth & when Brian came home he ran downstairs and gave me this huge hug. He just reminded me of that a week ago. 😅

[@sitolm9791]

What an awesome Mom! God bless you!

[@Nigelesethecrow2023]

My boy is 19 and he can stay as long as he likes..Until he is financially ready to support himself comfortably in his own home✌🏻 Great job you did here Mom!!!!!

[@emily92417]

That’s same with what my mom says

[@Nigelesethecrow2023]

@@emily92417 You have a great Mom Emily xx

[@gigio6873]

Uhmmm to each as own... we all left at high school and went to college...we never came home...we all own homes.. Teach Financial responsibility as your number 1 priority.... cause if you died tomorrow you know they can make it on their own ..

[@mutya_]

​@@gigio6873That's like a US thing. Idk why y'all so obsessed with kicking your children out of your house. That's not teaching responsibility and independency. That's just cruel. Some 18-year-olds are barely out of highschool and you expect them to survive on their own? Your culture sucks.

[@gigio6873]

@@mutya_ Ohhh I see... let them live in the Land of Make Believe... where princesses and dragons and unicorns live... oh sorry I can't do that we live in the real world... You know bill's got to get paid... live with needs and very little wants.... something called Financial Freedom for starters... Tell family and friends if you want to give your child a gift provide them a monetary gift ... that way your child can see their bank account grow.... teach them about earning interest on their savings.... yeah I guess our culture really sucks. ...jeez.... you probably shower your kids with a bunch of unnecessary items and then when they move out you got to throw away about $8,000 worth of crap that you bought and they never needed... instead of making a few adjustments you could have let them moved out with somewhere around 20K... But yeah my thought process is a little out there...cause if my husband and I died tomorrow.....my kids would know exactly how to care for themselves and their siblings.... they would know how to pay bills, survive financiallly and they would have money to do so.......yeah my culture sucks

[@eileenblack5748]

My son was cleaning his room and doing his own laundry at 12. I was proud 🤗🤗❤️😊

[@df-nk6gd]

Exactly, if they aren't taught life skills and basic adult responsibilities while growing up.....when will they? Those are the kids who end up failing at life. I'm not saying kick them out at 18, but if they don't have any mh concerns there's no reason to be cleaning their room for them constantly. Do I occasionally go and tidy up a bedroom, yes, and my kids learn gratitude. I've got 5 kids, the oldest will be 23 in a few months. He went to college and lived home at first then a dorm. College was not for him and he changed paths after consulting with local resources. He worked ft and saved enough for a 3bdr home to share with his HS best friend. He's saved over 30k in 3yrs, he learned how to manage his money, his house is more spotless than mine lol and he's thriving. His almost 21yr old sister lives in an offcampus apartment near her University. She was ahead of the curve so she will graduate a year earlier than her peers. She holds a pt job, uses grants to help after tuition is paid and the apartment is cheaper than the campus dorms. She has a nest egg of 15k. It can be done. And it's not cruel....her first year the job she got treated her like garbage, and I told her that if it caused her that much distress then it was not worth it. She took a small break for 2mths not working and was good to go finding another better job just fine. Now my middle kid turns 18 this month. His dad and I are at our wits end. He's been disrespectful and rude...and we gave him space because he was struggling w a personal issue. But now its become a huge problem because he believes he's owed things. I would never kick him out or turn him away, but rules are getting stricter and he will need to show improvement to have them lifted. He's not happy, but I'm not happy to send a young adult into the world who cannot even be responsible for small things. We'll work on it. Nothing is ever perfect and no 1 way works for everyone. All I ask is they give it their best.

[@peacefaith560]

Exactly!!

[@Alisha8596]

And her son suffered a loss and had a rough couple years, so she's just being a good mom. But im glad you kid is self sufficient, that's great.

[@whbbrd]

Not only can "you're out of the house at 18" prep them for financial failure, but it's also unloving.

[@elsaberhe9704]

I do not believe it's "unloving", it's just a different culture developed with growth that gave birth to independent living; that may be feasible in other cultures. In addition, packed in the same household does not always mean families love more than the ones experiencing independent living. In short, all is well. Whatever works for each family is fine; let us just stop judging those who do things differently from ourselves. God bless❤️🙏

[@whbbrd]

@@elsaberhe9704 I see that you probably didn't grow up where I did (rural, economically depressed area where some of the guys I knew were told by unloving, uninvolved fathers, "get out when you turn 18".) This attitude had nothing to do with helping their children find their independence, it was said by fathers who didn't want to be involved anymore. I was there, I saw it with my own eyes.

[@elsaberhe9704]

@@whbbrd I totally trust your experience. Hope we do better as human beings; love one another for our own benefits and expansion of the universe. God bless. Practice Presence❤️🙏

[@ananovela3685]

I never understood “18 you’re out, time to make your on decision” aside from providing, protecting & educating the individuals many don’t prepare them for real world situations. I get that It’s character building etc for them but why can’t they do that from security of being at home???

[@isaiahcanreallyrap]

This makes me tear up, knowing that there are mother's who think this lifestyle is normal... Keep being a great mom.

[@janesmith4h]

I heard EVERYTHING you said. My kiddo graduates this year, and we asked them to go to a local college, and stay home to save. Great Job, Mama! ❤️

[@deathfromtext]

Yeah as someone who was 17 once ide be completely mortified if my mom had to clean up my room and she decided to show the entire world. That teenager has like zero integrity

[@morganboggis03]

But that isn’t just his room so it’s different. He shares a room so it’s a given that other people will go in there.

[@AshAsh32]

He literally shared his room with a kid🤔how tidy do you think it’s going to STAY

[@ameliasolis3981]

I don't think you know what the word integrity actually means.

[@MsLilyPickles]

@@ameliasolis3981 I came here to say this. This is not the place to use that word. Makes no sense in the context. Lol

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

Not to mention not cleaning can be a symptom of something bigger.... My apartment looks worse than that right now, and I'm in the middle of doing a big overall clean because I let it get bad during my current depression period(I'm just starting to come out of it now, so I'm starting to finally clean.it's mostly clothes/paper but still yucky.) I remember when the same thing happened to me as a teenager, when I was going through depression then as well. It was honestly traumatic for me, because my parents threw out a bunch of stuff that was important to me. I remember they threw out a letter my friend had written me, that was on my side table that I knew where it was. It was a friend of mine who passed away about a year after they through everything out of my room, I would appreciated to still have that letter. Plus the fact that this is embarrassing as hell, most of us get very embarrassed and we don't clean our room. Especially when we're older teenagers, and basically almost an adult.it honestly just feels like she wanted to shame him, so he wouldn't do it again. Which is pretty disgusting.

[@marypevitt174]

I believe if you have children they should stay home until they marry or adult enough to move out , which ever comes 1st, but I would never throw them out of the house, I let my 2 stay as long as they wanted , they worked and paid their way , I didn't want rent from them , but they never sponged on me either , they have family of their own and they're both beautiful adults and I could not be any prouder of them

[@koyanc3]

I agree

[@thesquad827]

Omg no $ex is disgsuting if i ever adopt children their not going to do that

[@aloeleaf]

@@thesquad827 you’re far too immature to raise kids.

[@thesquad827]

@@aloeleaf its disgusting tp have S** though yall really want a thing inside u squirting nah

[@dinglehopper8414]

@@thesquad827 don't adopt

[@sweetpie7919]

They're your kids, the people you love more than anyone on Earth. I don't understand why some people kick them out. Nothing magical happens when you blow out 18 candles, you're still the same kid you were yesterday. Our kids will stay home with us until they are ready, prepared, and have money saved for a house or at least a good down payment. You set them up to succeed, not to struggle and maybe fail. My goodness.

[@dann-elsmith2402]

Aww maaan, I was waiting to see the end result…oh well, that was a nice gesture ❤

[@tarascreativeflow2763]

Go to her channel all the parts are there

[@curlygurl43]

I’m so glad you cleaned and sanitized that room- that’s real love❤

[@graciecarswell9115]

I want to see more cleaning before and after, this is so satisfying.

[@AmandaCaple]

Shes a wonderful mom. I was put out at 18 on the streets. Still struggling

[@boriisims6737]

Did this for my boys and after hours and hours spent doing it two days later it was back to before 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ i vowed to never enter their room to do that again 😂

[@urmamasmamasmama]

🤣🤣🤣🤣I know the feeling

[@salmaumar5750]

Yeah They can either do it or leave it. Their choice

[@cynthiabragg2611]

I found girls to be messier 😆😂😂 ENJOY!

[@JaxLittles]

Cleaning without helping them set up an organizing system that they can follow is a waste of time. Especially for us ADHD folks, depression, anxiety, etc.

[@Throatzillaaa]

It does sound like you cleaned it + had expectations that you just decided on, all by yourself. Perhaps before cleaning it, you could have discussed expectations with them? If they let it get that bad, it is kind that you cleaned it, I'm not saying that. As an adult who struggles with mental illness, when I let a room get quite bad, I feel like cleaning it is nearly an insurmountable task and it's so overwhelming to me, so getting help in that situation is always something I am so so grateful for, but those who have been kind enough to help me, haven't also then been upset or disappointed at me if it gets bad again. I'd just recommend not doing thoughtful acts with some kind of unrealistic expectation that you have come to by yourself. Just do the kind act because it feels good to help your loved ones and they appreciate the help, yknow? What happens beyond that is out of your hands.

[@bellabutton7]

Exactly! My dad gave me a suitcase when I turned 18🙃 Kicking out your kids when they turn 18 is so stupid my babies can stay with me as LONG as they’d like! I want them to be set up for success!

[@cynthiakj9979]

As someone with a younger brother who is 35 years old, never finished college nor has ever applied for a job, coddling them eternally is a huge no-no. If my parents would kick him out, he’d have to find his feet.

[@dayzey40]

@@cynthiakj9979 Now that is crazy, letting him stay not working and for that long...that is sort of irresponsible of a parent to do. If he worked and helped them out around the house and bills, that would be ok, but not working and helping with the bills is crazy. My older brother has his own house, but prefers to stay at my parents house to watch over them, and help them...and has worked at the same place since he was 16...

[@christinarobleto1786]

My mom thought that too & my brother is 48 yrs old now & all he does is drink & smoke pot, he doesn't lift a finger around the house & my mother now 84 is still cooking for him. She's now becoming frail & senile. Teach your kids what they need to know to survive on their own or you'll have problems later down the road.

[@Lynn-vs4uu]

Dang my mom never cleaned my room, after I was like 5 it was on me

[@StellasLive]

Same.. I do the cleaning since I was like 8/9

[@jamesmcardle1494]

And so it should be, my mom got us to do things as soon as you could, make you bed wash and mend clothes polish shoes, floor iron clothes. Paid off when we when to the army at 18. And later in life. Cooked for my girl at 13 she was hooked 😋

[@marialindell9874]

Just a reminder: having difficulties with cleaning your livingn spaces and yourself is a widely known sign of mental illness, depression and just stress. I have been diagnosed with depression amongst some other things (mind you I had to lie and say its not as bad as it is because of abusive adults in my life) and my room is a hoarders wet dream. I started to pick up on the hoarding myself as another symptom of abuse after having to live with one my whole life. I'm also the caretaker to that person, who is also disabled. My family has been on the brink of homelessness for years. Having crippling depression (in my case suicidal ideation before the age of 9 till today) and chronic stress makes is very hard for me to do basic tasks. But when I do want to do them, you can't be snarky at me for finally doing them because that will just put the loop back on. Yes, I haven't brushed my teeth as often as I should have this week, but to me it's a choice of A) brushing my teeth and B) going to school. Obviously I will pick B because that way I can get out from the abuse. Also the teen shares the room, so I would guess the younger brother contributes plenty to that mess. No need to go full on hating on the teen, when they aren't the only contributor.

[@esval3054]

​@@marialindell9874 Some people are just lazy.

[@Missguidedghost_]

Same. But I had to clean the moment I was able to pick up a toy and walk to put it away. My mom would throw everything in the trash that “wasn’t in its rightful place”. I’ll never forget once she found ONE PUZZLE PIECE🧩 on the floor and dumped out every single puzzle we owned on the floor (1000 piece puzzles each box X 7 or 8 boxes) and told us to put them all together and figure out what puzzle that ONE PIECE went to. ???!! She ended up throwing all the puzzles away. Me and my brother were 6 and 5 years old. Now that I’m a parent I realize how absolutely insane my mother was and how much she expected from us at such little ages. My daughter will NEVER ✋🏻 and if she ever needs help or feels overwhelmed from a mess I will help her, and show her that it’s okay to be messy sometimes but it’s normal to clean after yourself. My anxiety started at such a young age from hearing “it better be done in 3 hours or else you’re getting beat”. Cause that’s the way to show a child how to clean 🤡 if you’re reading this and do this to your child- please don’t. That’s terrible parenting and causes more harm in your child than good- for the rest of their life. Anxiety is awful to deal with at such a young age.

[@thewanderer1598]

That’s nice and I like how you just put his stuff in bags and don’t dig through or read things that respect is so nice not everyone gets that trust

[@SlickRickTPB]

i mean one of them was literally taking pictures lmao

[@donnalawrence9054]

@@SlickRickTPB LMAO 🤣. This is Worse than pictures. You are right 👍

[@donnalawrence9054]

I was going to agree and read Ricky's comment. On point. 😂

[@alongfellow4147]

Girl me neither, my son can stay with me until he's got through college and is able to save a significant amount so he can buy his own home. I love him so much I'll cherish every moment he lives with me

[@paigens0725]

This is so sweet and I’m glad you aren’t enraged or agitated with the state of his room. I know my mom would be. But I’m glad you’re not eager for him to move out and accept him being close to you. Me, personally, I would be out of my parents house as soon as I have enough saved but I’m thankful he has a beautiful mother as you.

[@dalemills7926]

I knew a family who literally kicked the kids out at 18..most of her children have been doomed for failure ones dead and the other 2 are not doing too well, and 1 girl is doing great a d she is married and thriving, the other girl married quickly and she's not much better than what she left @ home.. LOVE HOW U are such a super great mom and helping him supporting him ❤️ find his niche in life

[@joybella2]

I have teenage boys too and have the same issue. Thanks for your perspective about cleaning. I’m realizing is not worth the fight. For some reason this real touched me as a mom. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@queend9759]

Well done Momma, I believe the same, I support all of my boys singlehandedly, my eldest is 20 and back at home after being attacked, he's settled now and I did his room up to make him feel more comfortable. I'd love to see the end results ❤️

[@cultivatelife8645]

Sweet Momma, Compassionate , kind and so generous with her time . What a beautiful gift to him

[@blueeyedbatman]

I wish some of you would get some basic common sense.... How is she sweet or compassionate? She had the space for him to have his own room, but CHOSE not to let him, even after his best friend died.... she said she knows that he's depressed and her solution is to invade his minimal privacy to clean his room instead of getting him a therapist...how is that caring at all? She forced the boys to share a room after that incident instead of allowing the eldest space and privacy to grieve his loss.... which could very well be detrimental to the mental health of BOTH boys. The eldest has to try and set a good example for the youngest while also trying to keep his mental health afloat with no help. And the youngest is constantly immersed in the life of a depressed person - not knowing that those habits aren't normal.

[@blackcosmos]

Your a wonderful mom. Not to worry when he does eventually move out on his own, there's a great chance that he won't keep his place like he once did his room cause he'll remember just how well u used to do the upkeep

[@thoughts_from.a.balcony]

Need Part 2!!!>>>>>

[@octobermourning]

I’m Latina. Not only do our parents not kick us out, they get upset when we leave, particularly the daughters! I left home at 24 years old and my dad called me every day to remind me my room is still there for 9 months. 4 years later and married, now they’ve turned into their dog’s room. So yeah, my old room is now my parents cavapoo’s room, complete with a custom doggy bed and decal. When I visit, I sleep on the couch while the dog has a whole room 😂😂 (Per my father, I left his house for another man but his puppy dog is loyal 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀)

[@MsAlonzo26]

As mothers we have to meet our kids half way. This was thoughtful and loving ❤️

[@peacefaith560]

Nope this is pure lazy!! We cleaned our room and house at 10 yrs old!! That’s why these young men look for women to clean up and take care of them ... mama did it lol 😂

[@kelsiemarie3]

Props for setting your kids up for success and not failure!!

[@keero1862]

Your a wonderful mom! 😊 Idk how anyone expects an 18yo to afford housing as well as food, paying bills and everything on their own these days.

[@mariec.9102]

Then in 13 years she'll be on the Dr. Phil show complaining that her 30 year old son won't move out.😆🤭 At 18 he should contribute to the house by working and cleaning up or he could go to college, and still work. It just sounds like she might be trying to turn h back into a child.

[@keero1862]

@@mariec.9102 You have no idea what he's doing with his life. You don't know either of them but you choose to assume everyone is that stereotype.

[@africacarey]

She is not a wonderful mom she's an enabler doing for your kids doesn't mean you're a wonderful mom all the time

[@keero1862]

@@africacarey Karen. Explain. I literally never said that. Read it again or don't talk to me.

[@cherizeaustin0816]

In todays economic downturn it’s too difficult for our young adults to live on their own .As compassionate guardians we must be cognizant of the state of affairs in the world and help until they can find their way.

[@Maggiewuvsrufus]

My mom always said ur out of my house at 18, I moved out at 17&1/2. Barely seen her since and I’m 23.

[@yve5659]

Thanks for the warning. I’ll never say that to my child

[@xxglowenxx]

That happen to one of my friends in highschool. He had to leave on his birthday, which was in the middle of the school week. He literally had to bring his stuff to school

[@SKar-ok8ks]

@@xxglowenxx how sad is that!!

[@robyn00xx]

Dad kicked me out at 19 and I haven’t spoken to him and I don’t plan on it… I’m 22

[@Maggiewuvsrufus]

@@xxglowenxx I just worked hard 2 graduate early, I didn’t realize how toxic my mom was until maybe a few months ago. I just thought back then I was doing what I had to do. But makes me sad still as I will probably never have a real parent or that connection other people have. But maybe I can people like this lady in the video and that will be an okay substitute, and my kids will never have to feel what I felt.

[@JazzyJ1994]

This is how us Latinos are. well majorly of us we stick together no matter what. I remember when I moved out my mom was like you don’t need to go. Love you mom ❤ viva La Raza 🇲🇽

[@TheBaileyandashlyn]

Honestly, good for you for changing your perspective on his room being perfectly cleaned. Rooms are a teenager's space. If it's not hurting them or too bad, leave them be for a while about it. They'll appreciate cleaning much more when they realize the benefits of a clean room themselves and are not screamed at relentlessly to keep it clean.

[@abubomom2]

I have a two bedroom and I sleep in the living room. I never had my own room growing up so I’m happy my kids do!! ❤

[@katemcpherson4259]

Hat's off to the mom. Great job being a parent

[@vanessamendez7112]

Oh moms what would we do without them ❤️❤️

[@sarahpowell5044]

Yep but mine didn’t appreciate it

[@suzettehatfield2531]

You’re an awesome Mom ❤

[@Pkbucket]

I had a coworker say that she makes her kids look for a place to stay when they turned 18 because she didnt want them to become dependent on her and i couldnt help but think about what if they cant finda place to stay especially it being so bad in the market right now like damn why have kids at all if all you wanna do is get rid of them when they turn 18?

[@jmayday2653]

Challenging your kids is not a bad thing. You're acting like she won't ever help them or answer a phone call if they need it. Bet her kids are learning fast and will have a house in their mid 20s while other kids are in their moms basement at 30.

[@karilindsey3816]

If your children can't depend on you!!!!!! Who else can they depend on? And don't say themselves! Anyone saying things like that is NOT living in the REAL world!! Or they're privileged. Which still isn't living in the real world!

[@sparklesp9304]

​​@@jmayday2653 Hopefully they don't end up being victims of assault and robbery as that's all that a 18 year old making minimum wage can afford right now...a crappy apartment in a high-crime area that no one in their right mind would live in, smh. This isn't the 80s and the mom's privilege is showing in that she has no clue how bad things are because her generation didn't experience any of what's going on in America right now. And I'm definitely not a teenager, but am out there and can't even imagine being an 18 year old with NO degree or education, trying to make it in todays market with this generation's culture in a minimum wage job, smh. She's literally throwing them to the wolves like Cardi Bs mother did, which is why she started stripping. You have to make three times your rent in wages to apply to many apartments nowadays, and most are starting at $1500 and going upwards, meaning you need to make around 4.5 K- 5K a month to even apply, which is 60K a year. If people with degrees making 50 and 60k a year are struggling, how's a kid, making less than 30K going to make it, smh? Unless they get government assistance?

[@shara8956]

I'm so glad my mother treated me like an adult, and made me responsible for basics like cleaning my room. Now I have a clean apartment. I tidy up even when I don't feel like it. Sometimes being a great parent is loving your kid enough to actually parent them.

[@VincentMothling]

Yes but she expressed she use to do this and go over bored we do not know what it is normaly like I do not believe this is what it normaly looks like due to some other comments menching his best friend resantly died. But you also have to keep in mind he could have something going on mentaly besides the grief of lossing a firend contributing and the younger brother could also be makeinh a mess. You ahve to have a balance when it comes to people as due to my grandmother going overbored on cleanlyness I mentaly can’t handle cleaning a lot of the time cos if it’s not good enough when I try what’s the point but I also have meny mental iusses holding me back as well but overal as long as it’s not a shared liveing space or both partys don’t care you can have some level of mess we need to normalizehouses that look lived on

[@Trex4201]

My parents never made me clean. Maybe once in a blue moon. But I was lazy, entitled and spoiled. My room was trashed. I now work 48hrs a week and keep my house clean and tidy. Your theory is moot. Being a loving parent isn’t measured by how often you force your kid to clean. It’s ok to hold them accountable but it’s also ok to help them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@JaxAndJay761]

I wish my mom cared for me enough like that, she always uses the excuse "i play the mom and dad role since our dad left. My mom doesnt nothing at all and makes me play the mom role over my siblings. Really makes me wish i had a mom like yours :/

[@ginaperez8139]

​@@JaxAndJay761 aww I'm sorry you feel like this maybe if you sit down and calmly talk to your mom and let her know how it makes you feel and what you want from her too. Maybe she doesn't know how you feel or of that is too much to do fave to face I used to write a letter to my mom and that way she had to read it and not interrupt me or yell at me Lol Try it sweetie Good Luck

[@ohreally8349]

@@ginaperez8139 I know some moms like this and it’s absolutely disgusting! This behavior is rampant in the community. Why have more children if the older one is going to be caring for the younger ones. I only have one because I’d rather give all my attention to her.

[@normavillanuevamendoza2801]

You and I think alike 🙏🏽❤️ I believe the same way, I feel sorry for kids that have parents who want their kids out asap right after graduation 😔

[@blueeyedbatman]

So if your kids are deeply depressed, you're going to make them share a room with their younger sibling, effectively giving them ZERO privacy or space to grieve...? And instead of getting your child the professional help that they desperately need, you'll clean their room...? No wonder kids are growing up so f*cked up these days...

[@princeslayy]

You're such a nice mom you're the best mom ever has had

[@JustADogLover396]

my parents say the same. they say I can stay with them for as long as me and my sibling want. I plan to leave and move into an apartment around 22, but who knows. plans change. I need to save up but I'm thinking it's gonna be super hard once I get a job. And I know I probably won't get a job once I'm 16, but I want at least four years of saving to be able to buy my own car and rent my own apartment. I want to be able to afford insurance, rent, food, etc. so I guess it's good to do research in advance (I'm 14, female), so I know what will be the most paying job for my skill set. I made the decision 2 weeks ago to get healthier so I can be fitter and be more flexible with whatever my job will be. I mean I want to be able to fit as many job descriptions as possible. I want to be able to eventually take care of my parents and my brother if needed. it's all so much easier with two parents who say I can stay as long as I need to.

[@shiinway]

you sound like a responsible human with healthy relationships with your parents. that's awesome, wish you the best!

[@sparklesp9304]

You probably should look at starting a business

[@Tinkerbella32]

I was evicted from my parents house after I graduated from high school. I joined the military due to having nowhere else to go! But as my younger siblings grew up they both stayed living at home. The thing is I was going to leave away and I vowed to never live near those people again. They aren't considered family to me because of what they put me through. I'm not talking about the fact I was evicted! I mean having a lock and alarm outside my room, among a lot of other things! I'm not selfish but I will not ever live near people who make me hate myself and are the main cause for my trust issues! Sorry went off topic... I'm so happy that you gave your oldest son his own space! Edit: I was the oldest of my father from a relationship that was incredibly toxic! He hates my mother so much that he caused me pain to watch her suffer! My father is extremely toxic and selfish and what's worse is he's unaware of that fact and thinks he's so great! I had ADHD and a sever eating disorder and instead of getting me help he put me in foster care until I hit high school! To which I then became the live in maid so to speak. The day I was old enough to get a job, I was told to start paying bills or else. I was 15... I worked 2 jobs and was still getting good grades. Everything went south my senior year when I had to get a 3rd job to pay my own bills. I had car insurance and a phone bill. I still graduated with several scholarships that I couldn't use because my father spent my tuition money I saved up for his wife's daughters braces... I personally don't think I turned out horrible except for my trust issues and crippling depression but I have amazing people in my life now and 3 kids of my own that I would burn the world for! I would do anything for my kids and I don't understand how my father could treat me like that, especially when I love my kids so much. I don't understand how my father didn't love me enough because I can't imagine life without my babies! 😭😭😭 sorry for over sharing!

[@crazydragy4233]

Sweetie, you did amazing despite that massive shit pile of an obstacle your sperm donour was

[@DaughteroftheKing...]

Wow thanks for sharing.. I'm so sorry you went through that.

[@worshipjesus275]

I love it thank you for being a loving mom and being understanding when I was younger my mom would also spoil me here and there and now I do that to my boys my mom also lives with me and I spoil her to just like she did to me

[@Happybidr]

You are absolutely right about the need to continue to help your kids beyond 18, and really, way beyond that! It was my dream to get my kids through college without owing anything, and we did it! Today’s young adults face things that are harder than we had it, economically. Back in the 1950s, when my parents got married and graduated from college they were able to get a good job and live on one salary and buy a house. Today’s young adults graduate from college owing about $50k plus and that’s just from a bachelor’s degree! Fortunately, lots of kids are getting smart and doing a two year community college degree which in our state means automatic admit to a state university depending on your grades. So our daughters made it through that and saved a lot of money. There are online and part time college programs that save money and still give you the credentials you need. Be smart-look for alternatives!

[@treypasha8168]

I told my boys that they don't have to leave but it's up to them just because I know how hard it's gonna be when they become adults.

[@ululazmi9781]

Why teenagers in the US going to leave? Would they can make their own money?

[@raquellambropoulos279]

Not hard if they get an education

[@raquellambropoulos279]

@@ululazmi9781 these parents are delusional. Most 17 yr olds i know are already accepted at a university. This is not an example of the typical American teen.

[@Throatzillaaa]

@@raquellambropoulos279 do you live in the HS? I think a lot of high schoolers have applied to college (and seniors in HS are usually 17-18). Almost all are pushing 19 when they actually leave for college (i realized this as I was one of the only minors who was graduating at my high school, only 3 of us were 17). Sounds like this boy is already in college, but unsure of if it's the right choice for him. Let him be, ffs.

[@thesquad827]

@@raquellambropoulos279 again college and university is a total scam most successful people never went to college and college wont guarantee your successful or find the job even with a degree ebcause tehres othe rpeople that might get it

[@F2397-m4c]

Everyone needs to teach their children to be tidy!! Crazy.

[@sparklesp9304]

Nope. You show them how to clean and then leave it up to them to decide what is or isn't important for them to clean in their room as it's THEIR room and you're teaching them responsibility meaning it has to be THEIR choice, not yours

[@RimaEln]

You can teach someone to be tidy, but they will ultimately decide for themselves. In my family, we were all taught to keep the house and ourselves clean. The girls do it perfectly, while the boy keeps everything untidy and dirty. Boys are just generally unclean for some reason.

[@Alisha8596]

Everyone needs to be there for their children when they need it, like this mom. Her son suffered a loss and had been going through a hard time.

[@jessbella]

i just saw that you said his bestfriend died. i hope hes doing okay. grief is difficult to deal with and sometimes our rooms really reflect how we feel inside regardless of whether people wanna acknowledge that or not

[@amazingautumn12]

Tragedy is absolutely no excuse to turn your living space into filth. He was this way before and he will continue be dirty and irresponsible. Stop defending it

[@martinacollado2222]

You are a truly great wonderful mother God bless your heart mom❤

[@kmyounce1]

As a mom I taught my boys to keep their space clean and neat.

[@Valeries_sore_heart]

It doesnt matter what u teach ur kids, how would you feel if your boys started feeling like they wanted to remove themself and couldnt even get out of bed some days? Tell me karen. Would that make you feel good?

[@Empress_CODM]

@@Valeries_sore_heart not everyones depressed tho some are just lazy

[@Valeries_sore_heart]

@@Empress_CODM you shouldnt just assume that they’re lazy though.

[@Empress_CODM]

@@Valeries_sore_heart and you shouldnt assume theyre depressed🤷‍♀️

[@Empress_CODM]

@@Valeries_sore_heart it literally goes both ways bruh

[@LadyClemons_1386]

I agree 💯 ... My mom kicked me out when I was 18 , I will NOT do this to my children... And my mom wonders why I struggle 🙄

[@peacefaith560]

She teaching you about life ! I left at 19

[@pitohui1800]

​@peacefaith560 That's not an excuse to throwing out your child. You can learn about life while also living in your parents' home.

[@realTMT]

Props to him for sharing a room till 17, my greedy ass wouldn’t have made it till 10

[@N4tur3sCh1ld]

EXACTLY, OVER 9YRS NEEDS THEIR OWN ROOM BUT IM JUST SAT HERE IN MY HOT ASS BED SHARING MY ROOM WITH MY DAD AND ALL I HEAR IS GOLF AND FOOTBALL NOISES

[@lizzie0743]

You are a good mother!! Your helping him for the future as an adult now your awesome ❤❤❤❤

[@tippytoe1250]

I lived at home until 2 weeks before my wedding. My husband and I moved right out of our parents home and into our own home at 25. We even paid for our entire wedding ourselves. I’m planning on doing the same for our kids. Give them a leg up on life.

[@CannabrannaLammer]

If you'd gone that long, why wouldn't you wait until your wedding day?

[@Crab_People]

You sound like an amazing parent

[@simplyhappy420]

"It just sets them up for failure" im glad you said that. And i hope some parents listened. I was kicked out as soon as i graduated (17 years old) and i went to stay with a 27 year old man because none of my friends had their own place, my one parent is all i have, and i wasnt even an adult yet. So if you want your daughters relying on strange men instead of you, just know God dont see it that way. Thats still your kid and youre still responsible and you will pay for every struggle that they go through. Dont forget the man you gotta answer to.

[@johnnamurray-rr1kf]

You are the best kind of momma

[@raquelflechero2250]

This reminded me of my beautiful mom. My senior year I worked and went to school and even thought my room was never this trashy she would do my laundry and sweep and mop my bedroom. Now that she has passed and I am a mother myself I feel very grateful for having such awesome parents

[@cordinavillasenor2610]

The room wasn't TRASHY AT ALL! but that's nice of your mother

[@Mimi-ko8pn]

Hopefully he will appreciate his own room and have the energy and the want to keep his room cleaned

[@theminecraftskillz832]

I would've hated my mother if she did this to me

[@JaxLittles]

The dude's best friend died and he was having a rough 2 years (they explained in the comments). They also explained they have a good relationship. So that's why he's happy she helped him and was grateful.

[@kirstycollerson9100]

😭this makes me wanna tidy my room so bad

[@myataturner2512]

I love what mom said about not pushing your children out of the nest too early! We have to do better to help our children adjust. They can’t be a kid at 17 and wake up as an adult in their 18th birthday. A little more help on the front end of their lives can save them so many major setbacks

[@odeanlawrence196]

Exactly, it takes time and a lot of support. I mean, how are they going to know about taxes, billing, shopping sensibly, budgeting, how a mortgage works, data protection etc. It all takes time to learn

[@00z85]

At 18, gets a job, he pays rent, does his own laundry. That helps him when he’s ready to move out.

[@oskarmorton-race6375]

You are a great mother to your children keep up the loving work

[@cherieeads9282]

I already know "MOM WHY DID YOU CLEAN I DON'T KNOW WHERE ANYTHING ISSSSSSS"

[@clairbby5436]

cleaning your kid’s room can be such a weight off their shoulders, my mom used to pick up my slack when i was having a hard time keeping up. bless you

[@lindalove7193]

Weight off of what? Playing ball, at the hamburger hut? McDonald's, playing ball? Pah-leez!

[@clairbby5436]

@@lindalove7193 i was suffering with severe depression and panic disorder at the age of 11. stfu.

[@AmberLovesMystery]

You are an amazing momma! You are doing a GREAT job and I hope you know that! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, knowledge, and tips!! Blessings to you and yours ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@linetteking4666]

I do agree with you. You're a good mother..

[@snafu841]

Him days later “Mom I’m going to move out”

[@NightlyRavens]

If my mom went into my room as a teenager I would've felt SOOOOOO violated.. nevermind posting it on the internet. I'm in my 30s and she knocks and just cracks it open to talk to me, she hasn't been IN my room without an invite in years because she knows how much my privacy is important to me...

[@Jade-gi1vp]

YES! but also, this family likely has a different relationship with each other and privacy. Not to mention it isn't his room yet, it's his and his brother's

[@hawihawi9260]

Why u still with ur parents at 30?

[@ryleekelly4479]

​@@hawihawi9260 extenuating circumstances happen. I don't think people plan to move back in with their parents after they've moved out. My sister got divorced and retired from the army and moved back in with us, she just graduated from surgical tech school and works fulltime as a OB certified surgical tech, and is searching for a home to buy. shit happens. don't shit on other people bc you think it won't happen to you.

[@dayzey40]

That's why moms need to make it a every once in while thing, early on, so that the child doesn't feel like its an intrusion and they know it can be searched...that's how you know as a parent, what the child is into, which is every parents job...I would pick up my daughter's rooms once in a while. They never had a problem with it...and they both came out OK. And yes sometimes I would find questionable things, but we would talk about it, yell about it...and we moved on. Its a parents job.

[@nathaliebazinga]

A pointer. Make sure your child is fine with you just going through their stuff. It's a big breach of privacy regardless of how old they are and whether it's your house or not. I hated this always. I hated people going through my stuff even though I am not hiding anything, just because I have a special place for every single thing and once it's moved It gets extremely frustrating. I will never forgive my mum for goijg through my stuff when I was in college trying to "reorganize my wardrobe". Since then I wasn't able to find some of my clothes, they just vanished... And the essential ones... It really makes me furious to this day. Order is very important to some no matter how much you think their room is cluttered or not.

[@charliehue]

NEVER forgive her? 😅 Isn't that too shallow reason for you to NEVER forgive your mom, and still gets FURIOUS up to this day? Apologies but it's just really so surprising.. Those words you used are just too heavy as a reaction to merely "organizing your wardrobe".

[@nathaliebazinga]

@@charliehue let's not play semantics, you know what I meant...I don't have to love every single thing she does in order to love her as a person. You also have to set boundaries in life and you're allowed to have your own thoughts, feelings and pet peeves. Basic human privacy though is such a crucial thing that I don't understand how you don't understand it. I guess you're also one of those nosey people that have the audacity to pick apart every single thing someone says in order to manipulate a conversation to make themselves look holier than thou, or think you have a right to snoop through people's things, ey? :) I can tell you now, no matter how mad you think it is, many people do HATE IT and find it incredibly annoying and disrespectful when you go through their stuff without asking, for whatever reason...I am otherwise the easiest person to live with. Have lived with a huge family, roommates, now fiance...no issues...we set boundaries and we work like a well oiled up machine. I don't appreciate though when someone, on purpose, displaces my things without asking. If they ask, I will give them anything and everything. If they don't, I will never forgive them nor forget their acts of disrespect. I don't bring it up in a general conversation with them anymore, but I do tend to lose trust in them and become highly suspicious of what their character is like. I think I am as clear as a day. I like to have control over my things and I know where all of my things are. When something is lost it's not because I misplaced it, it's because someone else touched it. I've almost never lost anything in my life. and I pay great attention to my things because they are all meaningful. If someone just came and rearranged my room without asking I would probably just move out immediately. It's such a disrespectful thing to do.

[@nylsaacosta1987]

Yes ,good at 18 u don know anything I'm so happy u help him,he will never forget, blessings for u and kids

[@corazonkimber4747]

My 9 year old sweeps and mops. Takes out the trash and is starting to cook.

[@peacefaith560]

Exactly!! These women are ruining these boys

[@kidzrrelevant2593]

Love this post. Training children to become future adults is not abusive. Sweeping, mopping, laundry, doing the dishes, etc., is preparation for their independent lives. No one is going to live life for our children. It does not mean we don't love them just like this woman. It means we're raising them to go into the world and make a good life for themselves.

[@kidzrrelevant2593]

@@peacefaith560 This younger generation is already the "gimme" generation. In our hearts as parents, we want to keep them but we cannot and we should not. They deserve to move on and give life a go for themselves.

[@wingspan7679]

Dear Mom, you 'hit the nail on the head' with this one. Even if he's a messy teen, he HOME and I bet he loves, loves, loves being there.

[@Vi0l3t_13Gam3s]

Part 2 here kzbin.infos3XWSf30XMs?feature=share

[@Twg15]

Thx

[@Skibiditoilrtrizzelerrrrr]

THANK YOUUUU BIBBLE APPROVES 😀😀

[@The-islam-ch]

Thx

[@coffekingjac943]

THX

[@Hearts4444himmmm]

THANK YOU SO MUCH

[@nkenda5157]

Mama. I relate so much with you!

[@yT579]

You sound like a good mom. I told a lot of flak when I didn't shove my boys out if the house at 18. It did give them a better chance to further their education - I'm the proud mom of 2 medical doctors now!

[@ekaterinas8796]

Yea, you gotta teach him to look after himself before having him moving out. WoW!

[@CannabrannaLammer]

By cleaning up his messy ass room? 🙄

[@donuts2239]

I agree

[@ZeketheZombXD]

Just remember he could have mental health issues you insensitive assholes

[@donuts2239]

@@ZeketheZombXD Uhhh hes not the asshole. And just because he has health issues isn't an excuse why he can't clean his room bro. Or he's just to sorry to do it his self.