Sweet Bobby: How I found out my fiancé wasn't real

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@TimG-lq1pe 3 ай бұрын

I mean... At some point you have to consider the possibility that you're allowing yourself to be fooled.

@clearspira 3 ай бұрын

It makes me laugh that they always claim to be "logical, rational, intelligent people" that were "taken in". Lol. Every single time.

@maddychurchhouse4556 3 ай бұрын

@clearspira Correct, because they are. Abusers are good at catching even the most sensible and successful people when they are vulnerable - that's the whole point.

@clearspira 3 ай бұрын

@@maddychurchhouse4556 Logical rational sensible people do not fall in love with someone that they have never actually met.

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

@@clearspirahappens all the time. Don't think that you're the exception. You can also be fooled.

@selinamccallum 2 ай бұрын

@@clearspira I get that, but the Netflix show Love is Blind is successful so maybe people do and can? Lol

@erinf6415 3 ай бұрын

Unpopular opinion. Individual accountability is important. If you’re chatting online with someone and they won’t meet you in person or do a live video call “proof of life”, then there is some level of willful ignorance. With that being said, her cousin is evil.

@spodoinklehorse 3 ай бұрын

Right?? This woman must be thick as a plank

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

Yeah it seems she asking everyone to verify his identity (the 59 other fake profiles) but didn't ask for a video chat? Very odd. There is obviously a lot of mental/ emotional abuse she had endure during this fake relationship and i believe she was already used to being manipulated from her previous relationship

@Honeybear0488 2 ай бұрын

Exactly .. if he refused or made excuses to not be seen, I’d block this person and report account before they harass me . 🤦🏻‍♀️

@CleverCatCooking76 2 ай бұрын

Totally agree, but people like to be victims and be patted on the head.

@Maly_a Ай бұрын

🎯

@megaloschemos9113 3 ай бұрын

How do you get engaged to someone you have NEVER interacted with in the flesh? You haven't seen their body language, their behavioural habits. How they behave around other people and in different circumstances? Also not hearing their voice?! I wonder if both this woman and her cousin have psychological problems

@beewest5704 3 ай бұрын

There definitely is some psychological issues with both. It's sad that Kirat shows no introspection into what role she played in this situation. She was a victim its not her fault she just needs to recognize her vulnerabilities & weaknesses that led to her being a compliant victim. If she does not she will find herself in a similar situation. I hope she gets therapy & have a long successful fulfilling life of her choosing.

@Adam_K14 2 ай бұрын

100 % mentally cookoo

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

You'll be surprised how many people do in long distance relationships.... however they've at least done video / proper voice chats.

@THEremiXFACTOR Ай бұрын

Exactly. It's normal for people to meet online, but at least they do voice calls, video calls, send voice messages etc etc. This was nothing but Facebook messages for nine years 😅

@Miettes-ti2oj Ай бұрын

I don't know... I have a (male) friend who just WILL NOT STOP with the Russian/Ukrainian/Moldovan, etc. 'mail order brides.' Years and years and years of watching him 'totally in luuuuuuuvvv' w/ these gorgeous women who are completely out of his league who everyone else knows are just stringing him (and probably 10 other guys) along, and as soon as one burns him he starts over with another one. At this point I (and his family) have just given up, he will NEVER learn, poor guy. And always just photos, emails, and chats... video calls and computers/phones that can make them are 'too expensive' in Moldova. When he plans a trip to Russia there's always a reason it can't happen... He can't fly to Ukraine, too dangerous! But he can certainly wire money! Years of being strung along by just photos and texts. It's sad.

@entropyachieved750 3 ай бұрын

She had never met him yet got engaged... It's a sad story for sure and I feel sorry for her but to have never met after 9 years...

@Adam_K14 2 ай бұрын

it's not a sad story its just simple she really really mentally unwell and dumb

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

I think that can be common in their culture but i know of people that got engaged never meeting in person but obviously still did video / voice chats

@muskanshikha8860 2 ай бұрын

@@LovePeacehappiness2 Nah it's not common in the Indian culture to get engaged to someone you've not met. Maybe 30 years ago but absolutely not anymore.

@654ujala 2 ай бұрын

@@LovePeacehappiness2yeah, no. From the same culture, this woman is using the love of family and culture to explain a way her mental deficits.

@SRR0247 2 ай бұрын

I watched the whole documentary and NONE of this 'catfish' would've been possible had she not just allowed it, but actually facilitated it. Her deep DESPERATION for a man/to get married enabled her to ignore all the RED FLAGS, all the signs, and even lack common sense. I mean how TF can someone be sooo gullible?!? From believing he was in witness protection in NY, to accepting a PROPOSAL via FB messenger with a DRAWN ring?!? It took her grandmother's FUNERAL to get her fed up. This woman got bamboozled because she more than ALLOWED it, she FACILITATED it.

@mcprincess2000 2 ай бұрын

great job victim blaming. have some empathy. what's done is done there's no point bashing her.

@LillaArtist 3 ай бұрын

I actually watched this on Netflix last night. I felt so sad for you Kirat, I admire your courage and strength. To find out it was your cousin it's incredibly disgusting. You have to be really mentally disturbed for her to violate your emotions and your feelings. I hope you get a lot of support from close friends and family. 9 years it's such a long time. I felt your pain. Terrible that she did this to you. I hope your pain over time will ease a little bit. 💞💞

@HabitualLine-Stepper 3 ай бұрын

He was never your "fiancé"... I have a closer relationship with my NHS GP...

@outlawJosieFox 3 ай бұрын

Yeah and I bet you feel very lucky when you get to see them in person 😮 I haven't seen a doctor in years,since way before the pandemic. My surgery regularly sends out messages saying don't call us, and we won't call you, we are very busy. Busy doing what, I am not sure.

@Raindrops4eva 2 ай бұрын

@@outlawJosieFoxsomething tells me it's simran sat there making alot of accounts and being horrible

@scruffyo4460 2 ай бұрын

@@Raindrops4evawith accounts that are four and 11 years old? Really?

@karina8965 Ай бұрын

@@scruffyo4460 yes, really. she's been making fake accounts for quite some time. maybe you are a fake account too

@karina8965 Ай бұрын

@@scruffyo4460 yes, really. she is making fake accounts for quite some time. maybe you are a fake account too

@MRT1601 3 ай бұрын

I understand that people are vulnerable but to fall in love and get “engaged” to someone you have never met, never video called and barely heard speak, for the best part of a decade is ludicrous, someone from her family should have given her head a wobble. I’m not one to victim blame but I do think she needs to accept responsibility for her part in this and understand why the public aren’t going to demonstrate much in the way of sympathy.

@Maly_a Ай бұрын

Yup, as adults, we have to be accountable for the situations we put ourselves in. Simple. She wasn't being held hostage, she could have blocked him at any pointed and gone no contact.

@AromaX11 3 ай бұрын

This was mad.But him not meeting her was a massive red flag…

@chillout1109 3 ай бұрын

I don't feel sorry for her. She looks like an intelligent, logical person. So, how did she start a long term relationship with a stranger for years in this day and age of technology and social media without meeting him? Not a single call? Not a single video chat? Not even a single visit? Nah. She had this coming.

@LillaArtist 3 ай бұрын

What if this happened to you?? how would you would have dealt with it|?? put yourself in your shoes for 2 seonds.

@chillout1109 3 ай бұрын

@@LillaArtist Why would I even put myself in such a position in the first place? If I start chatting with someone online and they refuse to call, video call or visit after a maximum of two weeks, then I dump them. Talking to a stranger for 9 years and then agreeing to get engaged to them is just utterly unforgivable. Come on now.

@murphysrevenge9650 3 ай бұрын

@LillaArtist it wouldn't happen to me... I'm not that naive, gullable, or desperate

@juneflowers5056 3 ай бұрын

@chillout1109 There must have been something seriously wrong if she allowed herself to believe this was real - maybe she was comfortable with the distance and not having a real relationship and only wanted the intimacy and emotional side of it. Either way, no way is that a healthy relationship - it's 9 years of nothing.

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

I can guarantee you've been fooled and hurt in your life. I hope no heartless person told you that you deserved it.

@Mariclairy 3 ай бұрын

“I was trying to verify things as I was going along” but you never thought to ask for a photo or a video. Even a simple one saying your name.

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

"He" had a full profile with pictures on it.

@Mariclairy 2 ай бұрын

@@camicoz so??

@Mariclairy 2 ай бұрын

@@camicoz anyone could take photos off someone else’s page If you’re talking to someone you ask to see their face whilst they’re talking to you. It’s not that hard.

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

You said she never asked for a picture. She had pictures. That was the point. You can calm TF down.

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

@@MariclairyYou're the only idiot here. Getting all upset over people that you don't even know. You are unhinged and should probably focus on your own life.

@654ujala 2 ай бұрын

After listening to the podcast, documentary, and listening to her interviews, I have concluded that she was a victim, she’s living in a victim mentality, and has absolutely no insight as to why this happened to her. she needs to be diagnosed by a team of psychologists or psychiatrists and I think someone should give her an IQ test. A diagnosis and an IQ score would explain a lot.

@Miettes-ti2oj Ай бұрын

What stuns me is that in so many of the interviews when she starts talking about something that 'happened' in the past (which of course didn't actually happen) she gets all worked up and animated saying things like 'WE (she, his 'cousin' who didn't exist and his 'friend' who didn't exist) were talking to his medical team in New York (no you WERE NOT!) trying to get them to adjust his....' Woman, you were TALKING TO NO ONE! THESE PEOPLE NEVER EXISTED! It really seems like a part of Kirat still believes this stuff actually happened, to this very day. With all the evidence to the contrary. Fascinating and sad...

@karina8965 Ай бұрын

seems like you're obsessed...

@serenity8145 26 күн бұрын

“Witness protection’ should have been a serious wake up call!

@juneflowers5056 3 ай бұрын

How can someone who you have never met be your fiancè?

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

Ever heard of arranged marriages?

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

It's common in their culture, arranged marriages etc. But also in this day and age, I've heard of lots of long distance couples getting engaged prior to meeting in person

@Miettes-ti2oj Ай бұрын

Well, they're Indian. I have many, many Indian colleagues and used to live in a suburb of the SF Bay Area that is about half Indian. I can totally believe it. Especially b/c she thinks his family 'knows' her family since they're both from the Kenyan community, so that would totally seal the deal. So much of this is just an INDIAN STORY that makes no sense to outsiders.

@VoiceofSarawak 3 ай бұрын

This must be the best advert for one night stands I have ever come across

@beewest5704 3 ай бұрын

Lol

@kavita9368 Ай бұрын

You were led on, I hope you recover. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

@Ladybeks1 3 ай бұрын

Stop striking up these fake relationships

@ChayongWu 2 ай бұрын

When desperation collided with obsession and pyschopathy

@ariro8359 3 ай бұрын

If your reading this, I wish things grow better in your life from all this. Lots of comments wondering why be engaged to someone you haven't met but that might be related to coming from a background where arrange marriages were once a norm? And I don't think this was about love, it was about hope . That connection probably helped you get by in life when nothing else felt fulfilled . May a fulfilled life rise from these ashes 🙏🏽

@Miettes-ti2oj Ай бұрын

That kind of sounds like what her cousin, the perpetrator, said in her 'apology letter.' "Both of us were in a bad place and I felt like I was helping you AND me... what's the problem?"

@ariro8359 Ай бұрын

Yeah I see what you mean . The lies were messed up and what I said doesn't excuse that at all.

@Baigum.Shifaa 2 ай бұрын

Most of the comment section is missing the main point, Catfishing awareness is what Kirat's story is about. Here is a woman who lost her chance to have a baby because someone was playing mind games with her.

@Dancediva240 2 ай бұрын

but she said on another podcast that she treated Bobby's son as her own cos she knew she couldnt have kids. So I dunno, her story changes a lot.

@Bea_bee15 2 ай бұрын

She works In marketing Also In a radio station Something very fishy and dots don't connect How can any person be naive for 10 years,? It's make beleive relationship Relationship Is when 2 people meet and are real She is likley making so much money selling this story

@Miettes-ti2oj Ай бұрын

I believe it really happened, but I also believe she is making a ton of money from selling this story. I mean, she'd better... what else can she do with her life in her culture now? She's too old to have children, so her value in that culture is pretty much gone. Better to make some money for the family, at least...

@elisa7881 3 ай бұрын

"He took a decade..."; she gave him (her) a decade of her life!

@michellew4637 Ай бұрын

When you spend nearly 10 years with no video call or even voice call.... Kirat has to accept she *allowed* this

@elenasalvatore6733 3 ай бұрын

something is just not adding up… 3 years in a relationship and you’ve never facetimed him? Did you not do anything to prove it was actually him? you were settled by just his voice all those years and didn’t think something was not right? there was fakes made up by her cousin but did no one find or come across bobby’s actual account. Your whole family and friends knew him like how did no one find out the real accounts.

@beewest5704 3 ай бұрын

That's the weirdest part. Im sure she could get swept up in the fantasy but how did her parents, sister, friends, collegues not smell a rat. When you are in thing you can often not see the woods for the trees but why did they not? Was that left out?

@Miettes-ti2oj Ай бұрын

@@beewest5704 RIght? From my understanding her family didn't 'know' him, but knew who his family was and should have known that the family had a son named Bobby who was an ocular surgeon (not a cardiologist) in Brighton, was married, NOT divorced (the Indian community would have been abuzz if he got divorced, believe me), and had a son, and had NOT disappeared from Kenya into the USA's 'Witness Protection Program.' It's made clear that Kirat's father was kept in the dark, but her MOTHER knew. Maybe her mother just wanted to get Kirat married so badly that she was also just delusional and ignored all the signs.

@R1M4LM 2 ай бұрын

Why did she think she got engaged to a man she knew was already married? How did "Bobby" propose if she'd never seen him?

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

He was apparently separated at that point and lots of people get engaged without meeting. It's strange, i wouldn't but i think she came from a really culturally community.

@Honeybear0488 2 ай бұрын

@@LovePeacehappiness2then she should have been more careful. Arranged marriages parents meet and do background checks before letting their kids meet each other .

@Honeybear0488 2 ай бұрын

She’s seriously delusional . Letting herself believe that nonsense. He proposed to her by drawing a ring ? Please .. popping the question doesn’t have to be in a large crowd with flash dance but at least people who propose take their partner on a date and ask there . They’d also go and ask her parents permission to marry her. He never met her ! He never met her parents ! You know she’s delulu 😢

@Dancediva240 2 ай бұрын

worse is he was supposedly in witness protection and told Kirat that he was gonna have a baby with Sanj lol

@meo8256 2 ай бұрын

Don't believe it someone you just know from online just like that. Always be careful and be alert.

@yudonna 3 ай бұрын

Indulgence in ones fantasy rather it be a fantastical romance or the desire to assert control over others are all delusions these two - the victim and perpetrator indulged in. Unless you are under aged or mentally challenged, you must take some accountability.

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

I am trying to see it from a different angle now, it still doesn't make sense to me but I think she was just heavily manipulated, emotional abuse is just as damaging , it can really do a number on you. I think she was already used to a toxic relationship with her ex and her cousin would have known what to say to manipulate the situation. It seemed like everyone in her family were fb friends with fake bobby and they all spoke to him too and believed it too.

@एकोनारायणा 2 ай бұрын

I have heard of people, like men masquerading as women and vice versa online, stalking specific people to get some information or money, but this story... doesn't make sense, what did Simran want from her cousin Kirat, can someone tell me?

@654ujala 2 ай бұрын

She warned her cousin and was concerned about her cousin not getting entangled in all of it, but then she goes and gets involved in something that has nothing to do with her! Lol! The irony of it all! So so delulu!

@sadafabdi2422 Ай бұрын

How did she find out that it was her cousin??

@karabartley Ай бұрын

Kirat showed up at the real guys house and it was a big thing, I wanna say her cousin confessed in the chaos.

@lizzien5846 3 ай бұрын

It’s a cautionary tale for sure!

@susanwatts5543 2 ай бұрын

Good luck I wish you all the best for your future happiness & health

@hotel_yugoslavia 3 ай бұрын

I think it's unfair to blame someone who's a victim in this. A well-meaning person would believe a lot of it, and once you're in love it's really hard to let go, especially if the other party does exactly what's needed to give hope to you. It's horrible. It's so easy to say many things, but it's such an elaborate scheme she fallen for. Something needs to change, all sorts of identity scams are happenning and they won't go away, and while technology advances - we don't we're the same humans. Regulations need to be created. Kirat, I wish you the best, none of it is your fault, you're great!

@Honeybear0488 2 ай бұрын

Unfair ?? Please .. yes it’s unfortunate she fell for it but how can you go further and waste 9 years of life for a person who you never met ??

@deltaechomusicnh555 2 ай бұрын

00:17 catchfishin is not a crime.

@LovePeacehappiness2 2 ай бұрын

She didn't just fool Kirat but her whole family, they were all fake bobby's fb friends aswell. I can see why she would have initially trusted "him" but there is a time where you do ask to share a live picture or video etc. She's learnt her lesson for sure by now.

@rickycohen585 3 ай бұрын

Sounds like this lady escaped reality pretty hard for quiet a while and finally snapped out of it after almost 9 years... I kind of see how she was victimised and not that any one should care about my opinion at all but laws should be created against this kind of thing just for the sake of the people getting cat fished, You cant judge to harshly its rather unfair to as every ones mind works differently, there is no justice these days in situations such as this one, I mean I know there is more awareness now about it that's for sure especially due to cases like this being shown on Netflix and the TV show Catfish as well👍

@beewest5704 3 ай бұрын

Simran should have been sentenced to a mental institution for some years or something. She is obviously profoundly ill & I doubt Kirat was her 1st & only victim. This could have ended very badly. Our laws stay behind on stalking & technology driven crimes.

@AnnaAnna-uc2ff 3 ай бұрын

.Thank you.

@gracegrace8387 3 ай бұрын

I watched it on Netflix😢😢...

@item6931 3 ай бұрын

Just the title of the thumbnail put me off. Gross. Did not listen to the story lol

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

But yet you stayed to comment like anyone needed your hot take.

@item6931 2 ай бұрын

@@camicoz Yes. Yes I did 🙂

@Kenny-ep2nf 24 күн бұрын

@@camicoz It's true

@camicoz 2 ай бұрын

It's interesting how so many people in these comments are convinced that they could never fall for this. Y'all fall for things every single day. I bet the majority of you are being cheated on as you watch this video. Everyone can be fooled.

@Maly_a Ай бұрын

Partially agree, but 'thinking' you're in a 'relationship' with someone you've never met, dated, talked regularly on phone, spent time together???? Nah. That's just plain delulu. How long? How long before one wakes up ? There is defi plenty of catfish, fake scammers and married dudes on the dating apps, but if someone can't talk, face time within a few days and meet IRL, you don't waste time. She ignored EVERY red flag.

@dam0ryan 3 ай бұрын

Twit :D

@rere6899 3 ай бұрын

Only in India lol

@Maly_a Ай бұрын

She wasn't in India. UK

@rere6899 Ай бұрын

@@Maly_a She's Indian and everyone else involved is Indian.

@Maly_a Ай бұрын

@rere6899 fully aware. Not the same as being "in" India.

@Kenny-ep2nf 24 күн бұрын

True

@seharawan903 3 ай бұрын

My 💔💔

@76ToneCrome 3 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, men have to lie, just to get a romantic foot in the door. Not to this extent, obviously. But an ordinary guy just doesn't cut it anymore.

@robbiekop7 3 ай бұрын

Have you seen 👀 the Gob on that Girl 👧 I don't think so 😳 .Moral of the story...Don't trust *anyone* who you haven't met in real life

@beewest5704 3 ай бұрын

You cannot keep it up so what is the use. If she cannot accept the real version of you she is not the woman for you.