anime girl in vrchat talks about abandoning her sister

[@syrmor]

hello here's a late night video for you to study and relax to 😎 follow me at twitter.com/SyrmorS how's your weekend going?

[@rei-lf3di]

How do we get in your videos or can we?

[@l0ad_0f_barnacles29]

can't wait to watch the video :) my weekend his going alright, and i hope yours is too.

[@lynx4686]

4th wow 🤩 o

[@futuredesires]

Strwabewwy send him an email

[@madmangomundo9433]

do you ever talk to the people you interview just regular?

[@CameroniMusic]

I like how winnie the pooh is always there to just make people feel better

[@gh0st6762]

He's like a spirit animal at this point

[@drakenpage777]

@@gh0st6762 I am the dark/kinda light winniy the poo

[@karunasku]

Ya but u have to admit it's creapy sometimes

[@karunasku]

@@gh0st6762 spirot yes creapy af sometimes

[@CeleryCarrots]

Except for what he thinks about soulmates, that was pretty weird

[@Bokatisha1234]

Sounds like her sister was desperate for the positive attention she never got from their parents... Sending your child away instead of finding out why they're acting out and helping them is peak shitty parenting.

[@Redd_Nebula]

Ehhhh being ignored by your parents is better than what a lot of us went through. She just seems like a selfish brat tbh

[@heliosspecialistarrogant7031]

@@Redd_Nebula heeee just to say their a adage that say "behind every bitch's and hoe's hide a bad parrent and probably a std". sure the parents might not be a "bad" person but was for sure a shity parents with good intentions and all mighty and rightful the intention are if your/ them (parent in general) self can't even achieve that level and force their kid to be better than something them self can't be, if they where to explain to their daughter that she was just fukin in puberty and that was why she was horny she might not have turn a psyco slut but just a standard slut.

[@brainsnez]

redback209 She got sent away. That’s pretty different than being ignored.

[@duhbooey4057]

@@brainsnez how is being sent away different from being ignored? It's literally moving the problem elsewhere so you don't have to deal with it

[@catb6195]

Child developmental psychology tells us again and again that authoritarian parenting just leads to higher cases of delinquency. The sister is fully responsible for her own actions. However, we can't ignore that sending your child away and being much stricter to one child than the other isn't bad parenting. Stricter parenting doesn't give you a better child, it gives you a better liar.

[@TheGleely]

I hope there's more of these interviews of people's stories. Not because it's a crazy story, but because it's a normal person, and hearing their story

[@destroyerofnice]

That's the majority of his videos man.

[@asingleclap3452]

Lucky you, that's the majority if his channel! Look forward to that, I guess.

[@e2f0x13]

TheGleely that’s his channel

[@drunkenvampire4179]

Watching this really makes me miss my sister, she recently moved away to Florida and I miss her everyday because she was my best friend. She calmed me down whenever my parents would argue with each other. Sadly she had to do her life, and I don’t blame her because she wanted to be with her boyfriend. I’m glad she’s happy and I really hope she’s doing alright over there. Sending love to you sis if you ever get to read this comment 💕

[@naemorry]

hey!! thank you so much, i hope you and your sister are doing well!! it means the world reading this

[@IceBreak23]

me too, i miss my cousin so much he was literally my only friend we played games since we were kids but now he is living in Japan with his grandparents and got a kid, he achieve something that i was dreaming about, going to Japan but i don't think it's going to happen because of the university and stuff, i wish i can talk to him one day but... time changes and also timezone sucks lol, well everything is fine but i wish i can play more games with him, i miss those old times with nothing to worry about, the only comment i can give is: Enjoy while you can because memory is going to stay forever, stay positive and move on

[@HapPawhere]

@@IceBreak23 If you have his/her contact, you can do something together with him/her like VRchat or other online games. Or you can meet him someday

[@IceBreak23]

@@HapPawhere nah we cant, full time job never give time and also he's doing fine, i just miss the old days and also he gotta a kid

[@vort3xoboi512]

Souichi I have the same life but different my big sis doesn’t have a bf she didn’t move but she is ALWAYS there for me because my step-mom just hates me my step-bro hates me too he always lies and says I did something I didn’t do but I’m over it my biological mom is actually an angel that ascended from heaven she’s sooooo kind because she isn’t really like ok with money she’s kinda short on money but she still always buys me gift cards and always buys me toys even though I don’t want toys and she keeps insisting but I don’t want so. I hope when I grow up I can pay her back all the money she could have kept and got a better house and not short on money as much My 1st thing I will do when I grow up and get a job or smthn is to pay back my mom all the money she gave me. Ps. This is half the stuff that happens to me

[@JayofLemuria]

This is the story of someone who suffered as a child, was abandoned for it, and has continued to perpetuate cycles of abuse. Being lied to and sent somewhere else by your parents, even if it’s for a good reason (like they decided that they were unable to care for her, or that they were worried she would hurt someone), IS abandonment. The person being interviewed here isn’t at fault, she didn’t neglect her sister, she was a small child that couldn’t have done any different. But her sister’s toxic and abusive behaviours come out of pain and heartache, not being a bad person or trying to annoy anyone. Self-destructive behaviours are the result of abuse, period.

[@rahmadrenaldi2624]

sending your dogs to a daycare is also count as abandonment.

[@NeyahDaCommie]

Rahmad Renaldi no.. completely different

[@iceman4094]

Rahmad Renaldi only if your sending your dogs away for acting out of line and for 5 years while a very young age

[@imgonnakate]

@@rahmadrenaldi2624 if you send your dog to a daycare and leave them there for five years, then yes, it is abandonment.

[@HiyuMarten]

She learned to lie because her parents did it to her, and because she had to do so in order to protect herself from them.

[@saltest]

Poor fish Edit: Poor turtles

[@AGooeyMass]

I was looking for a comment related to this. F for turtles. ;~;

[@dominicpicone7087]

@@AGooeyMass F

[@kabnoot]

lol

[@not7170]

Globby The Goo F

[@angelvu]

I know right imagine being poor AND a turtle

[@cmdrcharles6284]

Really hope her sister can find peace in her life with her Tennessee man.

[@lynx4686]

CMDR Charles really hope so

[@nowhereman6019]

Nah, it won't happen.

[@DoopyJulio]

I hope she does but I’m having doubts because she’s cheated on two men and has lied to her fiancé

[@medyelice6882]

I think she is a lost cause...

[@L16htW4rr10r]

She is going to therapist for her issues, so I hope she could get better eventually.

[@roadtriiip]

parents: "you aren't behaving the way we want you to so we're just gonna ship you off to a different country lol" this girl's sister, years later: "yeah i can't invite you guys to my wedding, it's not good for my mental condition" parents: "WhY nOt????"

[@Mimi-hq8zn]

Peasant Scrublord her sister is laughing at her the whole time in this video.

[@alyssaromero265]

But why does this explain my situation bruh

[@thekuan7002]

Typical pinoy parents

[@chill3282]

@@Mimi-hq8zn I felt for the sister more tbh.

[@mohshuvuu9076]

She still stole from her little sister as an adult

[@Aphy]

I just love how even if it's a sad story and something terrible happened Winnie is always smiling.

[@HapPawhere]

Thats why i love him

[@randomcloverr]

@ratty mc fatty immaculate*

[@catb6195]

Childhood developmental psychology tells us again and again that authoritarian parenting just leads to higher cases of delinquency. The sister is fully responsible for her own actions. However, we can't ignore that sending your child away and being much stricter to one child than the other isn't bad parenting. Stricter parenting doesn't give you a better child, it gives you a better liar.

[@user-vc6]

are you nuts?? You think kids could pull the stuff they get away with now in the 1900s or any past point? Sorry but kids in authoritarian parenting days wouldn’t fukin dream of increasing misbehaviour ….. meanwhile the new soft parents kids have insane issues never seen before with illegal drugs addiction overdosing, legal drugs like Prozac, porn addiction gambling committing suicide, having mental illnesses , cutting themselves and body parts off, etc it’s all increasing year over year.. unless you just stopped following the numbers in the 90s you must know what’s going on right? Do yourself a favour and talk to some teachers about the current generations behaviour ie 1/10 teachers were assaulted last year ,

[@jackthecommenter2768]

Dang she dated the dating app guy, and she didn't invite her SISTER to the wedding? bro what the hell man this is some sad stuff..

[@trrebi981]

You’ve never met a Filipino family before have you. Speaking from experience, if the sister were there, the parents would have forced there presence. And that would not have been a good time for anyone. Oh yeah, and as a Filipino-American I gotta say this. Fuck the Filipino tradition of sending problem children off to the Philippines for a time. It never works. Stop doing it, you massive idiotic parents. You make it worse, you wonder why they resent you after, and are surprised when they don’t trust or want you in their lives anymore.

[@doowi3219]

@@trrebi981 Yeah, I agree, that's why there children because they just abandon them :/

[@sakura9959]

Tristan Bigornia Yea I was having a hard time trying to not get mad at either the sister(the one talking) or the parents because even tho the other sister is not good they still did something very fucked up to her

[@RyuGamis]

@@trrebi981 oh...so that'"s a sort of tradition because in my mind i was like : "so the dumbfuck was the father all along....what an idiot" but that makes sense now x)

[@coffee593]

Not really if I didn’t live with my family for 5 years in my developmental years I wouldn’t invite them either.

[@coblue]

can’t believe she was surprised that the younger sibling had less rules to follow

[@ragnar97]

Very true, the older sibling usually opens up the path for the younger ones. It's almost a law of nature at this point lol

[@Lov3lyDay]

RagnarTheRed I’m the younger child with way more rules to follow than my older brother did at my age. He could stay up all he wanted on a school night, never had to clean or do other chores. It’s always annoying when he’s over for dinner because he doesn’t put up his plate. He also has problems being independent now that he’s an adult. I guess my mom learned and my sister and I have way more responsibilities.

[@DreamDear]

As a younger child, I do have less rules than what my sisters had at my age but I also learned what not to do from my older sisters. For my mom, she believes that being responsible earns us more privileges. In the beginning she was just as strict with me but as I started doing things more often she became more lenient with the rules when I started trying to push the boundaries. My dad just goes along with what my mom says tho even though he may not agree lol.

[@jinglebells3323]

I feel bad for her sister... I don't hear that being related to

[@MagicKamek]

i find amazing how honest and truthfull and empathetic people can be in vrchat and its so dificult to find on real life

[@jiffylou98]

two guys go into a private room with a girl several years younger than them with mics and cameras- how's that look?

[@revolvingworld2676]

@@jiffylou98 True its not something that can be done in real life.

[@AB-py6jl]

@@jiffylou98 😏

[@avrilsilverio7868]

The moment I heard the girl say her sister was sent back to their home country, I was like: "Please not the Philippines." And just goddamn it-

[@anim1111]

some small continent literally drove her insane

[@lordscrambles4602]

@@anim1111 can confirm, although there are some geninuely nice people here, the amount of people trying to fuck with you or fuck you off would really question your morals

[@areare3990]

Litterally an "ohh shiiit" moment, I was wondering what country would be that depressing and after hearing it.. it was understandable

[@BasedRanger]

I've heard a number of stories of immigrant parents who feel their American children need more discipline sending their children back to the homeland in the middle east. Sadly, for girls, that often comes with them being married off very young.

[@xotwod3254]

@@anim1111 Asia isn't a small continent lmao

[@TheOtakuArtist]

Damn, what a sad life that sister of hers had. I hope that she gets help and gets her life together, but I can't help but think that she would have had a better life had those parents not sent her away.

[@naemorry]

she’s being treated and i’m still there for her when she calls or texts me, no worries!

[@lilylavae321]

She definitely would've had a better life, given that she probably would've had a more stable life during those 5 years and wouldn't have been sexually abused.

[@sobersplash6172]

@@naemorry that's definitely good to hear, wish you both the best

[@DeerKoden]

There's a point when lying to everybody else crosses the line and becomes lying to yourself. With that said, how can you even think of sending your daughter back to your home country for years...with all that happened within the time span too.

[@Vesperitis]

it comes from the culture. this sort of thing is acceptable in some Asian societies, and the older generations don't get how damaging it is to their children.

[@KoolKyurem25]

As someone with a Filipino parent(mom), yeah it's kinda weird. Ok so basically a lot of Filipino parents, to my understanding, are the stereotypical strict asian parent. Love is more "oh that's good," or "you did good." I got a good bit of "why can't you do better?" so if that's how her parents were like to her older sister, as a kid that can be really taxing mentally. Also, the Philippines really isn't a place you want to live for a while. It's a beautiful country but it's got issues, Mosquitoes are pretty bad over there with Malaria and dengue. Also tagalog, the filipino language, is kinda tricky. I understand very little of it. Lots of one and two letter words. Like I can understand both sides to her story. As a kid, my parents fought a lot and I didn't understand at all what was happening so family conflicts at a young age really make it so you struggle with trusting your family. I'm not saying that her parents are bad. Just that it can be very difficult to live with people you don't trust and here it worked both ways.

[@HiyuMarten]

Her parents are bad, her parents are awful. I have a Chinese-Malaysian parent and I thought I got off easy. Talking to native Swedes now that I live in Sweden, HOLY SHIT was my parent awful and strict and abusive. I have trauma, I literally can't go back to visit them without my body freaking out.

[@dali2989]

@@HiyuMarten I can relate, when you're an immigrant you really don't realize that stuff. My parents are from a small muslim ethnic minority in Russia and I also felt like I got a lot of freedom compared to others kids in the motherland but when I would talk about my family with my French friends they were always shocked with the restrictions and our education It's kinda hard because I love them and I KNOW why they act like this (culturally and historically) and I don't want to be one of those immigrants who shit on their parents and culture but I know that my life will always be unhappy if I stay here

[@GFHCyan]

seeing the comments above me makes me think that a change of environment would really help many people reevaluate their previous disposition. im glad these guys are getting a view of more than one culture to help them reflect. as for me, i dont think ill be able to get out of the Philippines in a long while and being an early 20s bum really isnt helping, my view of bad things here seems to be a normal thing now and it's surely taking a toll on my mentality, that's why most of us here are toxic. cheers to you people who have a better view of everything, you guys make me hope for the best.

[@2ezlopez689]

Wait, you find Tagalog hard?

[@Tah-.]

I have a Filipino parents which is my dad and he some times like to speak Tagalog to make it so we can’t understand him but I have family in the Philippines that I love to hang out with but my parents decided to not allow me to visit them until I can move out and stuff like that which sucks oh and my dad won’t help me learn how to speak Tagalog so if I ever do get to see my Filipino family it’ll be hard to converse

[@lililidududu7896]

This episode actually made me cry... Because I was the sister. I was the EXACT same. But I was lucky to have parents and a sister who were actually there for me when I needed them the most, and I am even more thankful for that after watching this video.

[@Mimi-hq8zn]

THIS. The sister’s family are shit

[@hamburglr1]

You was thottin?

[@charlienot-my-real-name3123]

I have a very similar relationship with my sister, it's hard feeling like you're neglecting your sibling but also not wanting to communicate because of arguments etc

[@theworldborder]

I’m honestly surprised at her sister being so mad she punch a fishtank and break it. Jokes aside, it seems like she never got the support that she needs from her parents, I wish them the best and hope her sister’s better now.

[@Vesperitis]

considering she was cutting herself later, punching the fish tank was just the first sign of her trauma.

[@sissywizard1764]

I feel really bad for both you and your sister, she clearly had alot of issues that got put on you, at such a young age.. I wish you (edit: Both) the absolute best of luck.

[@naemorry]

yeah it's been pretty rough but i don't blame her as i said everything's in the past now, what matters now is that she's constantly been trying her best to find happiness and whatever makes her happy i'll support her!! thank you so much

[@jayrock12333]

"*sad exhale*" I felt that

[@Rahochusosu]

I FELT that

[@kabnoot]

oof

[@escool1701]

This cuts deep. I had a family member just like this and he ended up... ending.

[@florac.6784]

Man, I’m really sorry for your loss.

[@escool1701]

@@florac.6784 thanks for reading. The stigmatization of mental health issues is silly and I blamed a lot of things and wondered if things would've been different if we had sought proper help, yet still in my head, I've mentally "recovered" from it, it's still a defining moment of my life. We still don't talk about the truth of everything within the family.

[@jtetsuya]

Man, I had a feeling it was the Philippines. *Sigh* I hope your sister is in a better place in life and that you're not too hard on yourself. And as always thanks to Pooh and Syrmor 😆

[@Closer2Zero]

The reason That this girl 'turned out better' than her sister is because it sounds like her sister was mistreated, abused, and neglected to the point of completely losing it. You dont just become like that, you get abused into that. The sister is a mess cause she's traumatized and needs some serious help. At least from what ive heard. Its not on this girl to do any of that for her sister, but the sister is a victim that has made her own victims unfortunately

[@rahmadrenaldi2624]

if the parents are truly abusing her they wouldn't take her back.

[@Closer2Zero]

@@rahmadrenaldi2624 Nonsense, there many types of abuse, including ones where youd gladly take your victim back. Hell, even if its just shitty parenting, thats still abuse because of much it affected the sister.

[@luknepo]

Completely agree. It's the cycle of abuse (and neglect).

[@hamburglr1]

@@rahmadrenaldi2624 you don't know what abuse is then. Consider yourself lucky

[@Nelski11401]

living in the Philippines myself, i can tell you that most parents here (esp mine) don't seem to grasp how important mental health can be hope her sister gets the help she needs edit: i'm glad she goes to a psychiatrist

[@augustuslunasol10thapostle]

Most parents here don't even deserve to be parents considering how little most understand the mind

[@dirtbikeman496]

I really feel like 80% of the problems come from the parents being absolute terrible humans, 10% is the vr girl not being more understanding of this young girls trauma, and 10% is the traumatized girl perpetuating the cycle of abuse she was raised in. I really feel for the girl and wish I could tell her how proud of her I am and how far she’s come. We’ve all got a part of her in us, we just have to find it and admit it.

[@xxitactical_8723]

The parents sound like the crazy ones. Sending their kid to their home country, for 5 years, maybe try this cool thing called *discipline*

[@sjtv6565]

Or this crazy new invention called "parenting"

[@Vesperitis]

There's also this newfangled breakthrough technique called 'Listening to your children and working with them'

[@xotwod3254]

@@sjtv6565 Child abuse isn't a new thing lmao

[@polishmyknob]

Her: "she got sent home to our home country." Me: *"hmmm Philippines?"* LOL YUP!

[@sorcierenoire8651]

@tangent0420 as an Asian whose trying to learn French, I just gave up on trying to speak their language and just focused on trying to understand what theyre saying cuz of Nasal Accents.

[@Bryian1125]

Im filipino and i can confirm its pretty shitty here

[@O-san4]

I really do find it quite annoying how people are fixated on relationships

[@ambergong7201]

I did not even guess it from her accent? I guess it because of this is such a real first gen Asian experience. Like either people are really put together, or they just completely fucked up their lives.

[@BrokeTheInterweb]

I knew it was PH because she kept calling her sister “he” lol

[@justsayin2085]

sending the sister away when she have that condition was not a good idea.

[@moderatelyseriousracoon2254]

These interviews are the ted talks of youtube

[@skwid7770]

This channel is working wonders. Changing lives for the better. Syrmor, plz keep doin what you do. You are a hero

[@cheriedavidson4704]

There is a lot of things going on with my family and we are falling apart and I really needed that piece of advice at the end

[@TheDarkness1020]

Man, her talking bout feeling bad for being pissed at her instead of sympathetic. That hit home with me. I have a bro with pretty bad drug problems that I had a lot of problems with when he lived with me. So I feel ya, sister. 😔

[@martinch0]

Really good video, love it when people from different countries talk about themselves.

[@elekumama]

I really relate to this video. I have a sister who growing up caused a lot of mischief for my parents. I would constantly get into fights with her and she'd threaten me a lot and hit me. She would run away a lot and got sent to juvey at one point. Things got so bad for my family that my parents sent her to foster care for awhile, because she would constantly attack them physically. Her grades were so bad my parents sent her to this program that was basically boot camp to earn extra credit. I vividly remember her even having a seizure in front of me, because of a suicide attempt. I don't remember a lot of my childhood just because I blocked most of it out. I can only hope this girl's sister gets the help she needs and becomes a better person. My sister is a mom now and I talk to her frequently. It's weird to think that we're close. She's improved so much to the point where I genuinely respect her. It freaks me out knowing this could have been me and her where I don't see her or talk to her, so I'm just happy knowing she had the resources to find help. ;-;

[@jkcudia]

Oof I can relate to Philippine parents. My mom asked me "what's wrong with you" and got pissed off at my hospital bill when I was sent to a psych ward.

[@bimimimi]

yess, i don’t have filipino parents but southeast asian parents and my mom had the same reaction as well

[@Vesperitis]

I had a really good friend who had psych bills and a drinking problem at age 26 because of her mother. It was hard watching her constantly sliding back, so I hope you're doing ok.

[@D_YellowMadness]

Your mom seems like a pro at answering her own questions.

[@dakaodo]

@Syrmor It's strange to think about this role you've built on KZbin. You're an accidental therapist, we're voyeurs listening in, and most of the interviewees who comment have expressed being hopeful for the chance to share their experiences and possibly help someone else out there. I want to thank you for your work and all the people who have laid their issues and feelings bare. How do you, Syrmor, handle listening to so many people's lives and problems? Be happy and be well in the new year!

[@zer0chill241]

I couldn't imagine going through all this. I'd lose my mind if I had to witness my sibling do all this shit. I don't think I could stand by and not put my foot down. I just wanna have a conversation with her sister.

[@CALL_MATE]

Who knew abandoning your child to a different country would have long term mental effects

[@scripterhastogotosleepb7139]

This video gave me the courage to finally come out to my sister. I come from a half-filipino family, so I can relate to a lot of what this girl says about her strict parents and wanting to run away. My relationship with my family is really tense right now, and it started to make me feel like running away too. I'm scared of them because of their political beliefs and the way they talk about gay/trans people like me. I don't want to hate them, but the constant misunderstandings between me and my filipino mom make it hard. Watching this video made me realize how thankful I should be that I have a good relationship with my sister. I called her today and told her everything, and she was so loving and understanding about it. I still don't know when I'll have the courage to come out to my parents, but I'm glad my sister is at least there to support me. Thank you for this video, Syrmor. I needed this today.

[@axserwz5022]

VR has taught me a lot about relationships, I love hearing a lot of the mistakes people make, cause it shows me some things I shouldn't do. Of course I will still make mistakes but I feel better equipped to deal with realtionships or even just finding someone to be in a relationship with because of Syrmor's Videos

[@Vesperitis]

"Which country did she get sent back to?" "Philippines." *Me:* I was going to say India, but that makes sense too.

[@MongoGamer]

learned at a young age that lying and manipulation is the best way to get what you want, and it becomes a habit. i feel bad for the sister, she is out of control with who she is, i feel bad for the parents, everyone is just trying their best with their broken selves. love the message to the world

[@TehPompkinHead]

love the "what would you tell everybody?" bit at the end of all of these, it def is, choice

[@DenpaKei]

What i like about this channel is you are literally grabbing people out of the air and having them share their story. It's really cool and i wish i could own the audio on a physical format

[@RegGamerGames]

RIP Turtle who died 😭

[@shwackedshmeat6519]

Of love how this channel makes us sad for the people he encounters but also making us more thankful for the lives we have now

[@thomaswaisberg3169]

I don't even know what to think about this, its just sad

[@BaccaGx]

This story reminds me of a friend I had. There aren’t too many similarities between stories, but they’re there, and I just couldn’t help but think of ‘em when I heard this. Good vid btw

[@unclefine]

This actually remind me a lot of my older brother, not all of it, but pretty much it's the same story of sexual harassment at a young age and mental illness with suicide attempts, so yeah my biggest brother it's almost a foreign person to me now, but i still talk to him some times, it's really weird and i don't like it, but all my family (except my other older brother) seems to think that i should still speak to him.

[@TektoniusPrime]

That situation was literally me and my brother and will still be, my parents always praised me. Things never really changed and I don't hope it will. Love these videos Syrmor! Hope to see more! Cheers! :D

[@gracechan3039]

You do need to focus on the past to see what went wrong and repair the damage. The sister is walking around with a stab wound in the heart and the knife is still there. Sister was basically given an unrealistic standard of acceptable behaviors and when she didn’t meet them she was emotionally told she’s not loved. Well she couldn’t meet that standard and said, it’s too painful to not be loved by my parents so I’ll look for love from these guys. Sister doesn’t love herself either because kids think how their parents treat them is a reflection of the kids self worth so she believes she’s not worthy of love. Hence the lies. Thinking “if my husband really knew me then he wouldn’t love me anymore, because I inherently am not worthy of love. So it’s better to be loved while pretending to be someone else.”

[@maxinespirit6215]

Man my heart goes out to her and her family...

[@flrnce]

I think Winnie's leg is going through something. Those twitches tell a story

[@joester610]

I'm really glad you do what you do. People need this.

[@howardking8082]

I'm at 4:46 in the vid but, rn my impression is that the streets weren't fun for the sister.

[@PabAng]

Her sister reminds me so much of my brother, always playing victim, lying, and stealing; incredibly selfish and self-centered and makes it harder for my parents and I. My parents gave us everything we have ever needed and wanted and he still says to them that whenever they wanna get something for themselves they are selfish because they aren't thinking of him.

[@antoniomedina6377]

Sent to the Philippines. That must of sucked ass. My freind goes to the Philippines because he has family there and it's just bad over there

[@sadlife8495]

the last final advice people should really take to heart more, i hate when my dad just goes "woe is me this happened in the past and im going to make it affect me right now and yell at everyone"

[@AB-py6jl]

So basically immigrant parents 😂

[@markoholic_]

When she said "home country" a lot of times I just knew where it was lol

[@connektthed0ts]

philippines!

[@spencerreed2165]

Excited to see every new upload, Syrmor. I just love this content, and I don't really know why. I really hope her sister finds peace.

[@shifu1219]

This is a good video, Oreo would be proud

[@XxBrickxX]

These videos give really good insight on less fortunate people and it’s good to let other people know like hey were here

[@kimokarecords2060]

Oh I thought she was white until she said she was Filipino I was like ohhhh

[@Vizimech]

Very happy to see everyone in the comments recognizing the sister's behavior is/was a product of abuse by the parents

[@BassMaster.454]

I love how winnie the poo was just pitting his shirt the whole time

[@TheOneETG]

Man, I'd love to get on and talk about some stuff with you guys. Got things to talk about with regards to schizophrenia and parents and the like. This seems like such a calming medium to talk about these types of things through

[@mayowhip2200]

Sometimes I have to sing the outro alone

[@aftersunset63]

I really resonate with this person's experiences with their older sister. Stay strong, sometimes you gotta make your own sisters and your bio sis will never be perfect but she will always be there... I wish we could chat cos we have a lot of similarities 😔

[@dumbassfoo8700]

Are you planning on making another documentary type video.?I loved the older ones.

[@tuantranluuquoc2910]

Man I gotta say, whoever made this interview, whether Syrmor or the Cameraman, they are all very good interviewers !

[@spangoolie]

this is the literal definition of “she belongs to the streets”

[@lalalalaaAa123]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but you are not obligated to people who are toxic. That includes friends you've known forever, lovers, and family. If you can cut them out of your life forever, DO IT and don't feel guilty! Take care of yourself first!

[@kaiceecrane3884]

I agree with you, but I feel people ought to know what the means. It is important to talk about love. Love is a commitment, if you can't commitment to someone, to be their for them and with them, you don't actually love them. This is particularly important for people who at one point you did love, such as close family members, giving up and them is to no longer love them. You are obligated to do anything, but any and every action has consequences both good and bad. If you love someone you stay, you help them, you listen to them, you are their for them and that is what family is supposed to be. No, not every family is like that, but at that point it becomes questionable if they are even your family. Family is those who love you. Sometimes family members get hurt and sometimes they hurt you, in both cases there is an issue if not multiple issues that need to be addressed and solved if you truly love them. You don't abandon people you love, you don't give up on them, that would be to no longer love them. The question then is, are you willing to live with those consequences. This isn't a moral or ethical argument, I'm not here to say what action you take is good or bad, that is for you to decide. I'm just here saying there is nuance to these decisions and aspects of them that need to be discussed. Personally, I have been in the position where I've had to take of myself and abandon those I once loved, and it is hard and not by any means of light choice I had to make. It was a choice I only made when I felt there was nothing left to give. In doing so I hurt them, I gave up and abandoned them, that is the nature of leaving people, but sometimes it is worth it (in my opinion) to protect yourself and continue being able to live. Hurting others is hard, especially people you once loved, to stop loving someone is hard thing to do.

[@vrpnblstr3441]

It is ok to cut yourself from people when you feel you can't be there for them or if it hurts too much but just considering them as "uuhg toxic gtfo my life" is a really selfish point of view. I rly don't like this "toxic" term because I feel like it emphasises the responsibility of the person you consider toxic in their own behavior. In this case, and in a lot of others, people that are qualified as toxic are mostly hurt themselves and some of the time engage in self destructive behaviour by actively burning bridges between them and others. There is a reason why they are "toxic" and it is ok if you can't handle them to cut them off but holding grief and erasing them completely from your life without hopes of second chance (unless they are tied up to some deep trauma of yourself and even the thought of them makes your life miserable) feels selfish and a bit dumb.

[@lalalalaaAa123]

Verpine Blaster If it’s selfish to cut someone out of your life who is only doing you harm, I encourage everyone on this planet to be selfish. 😬 It’s okay if you disagree, but I can’t imagine living your life... Do you really keep people around who make you unhappy? Why? There are other ways to help people in need without being bullied, for example I work with special needs children. They need me to have boundless positive energy every day, and having (let me say it again) TOXIC people in my circle would detract from that.

[@decafdankdoge]

I called the cops one time when I was calling and hanging up on the 3rd ring until they said 911 w-

[@Leonlion0305]

I like the interviewee didn't get influenced by her sister for her sister's poor behavior. I also hope both the sister and the interviewee don't pass down that crappy parenting skill. Sending a kid away during teenage year (speculating) against their will is a really bad move. Not only will you not able to guide them, but also take away the love they need. If kids feel like nobody love them, and to "avenge" their parents by going self-destructive isn't uncommon. Good for the sister finally settling down and that the interviewee is doing ok

[@ninjajay26]

Syrmor really the goat

[@lilmango1853]

as someone with depression, multiple suicide attempts, been to a psych ward a few times, and a little sibling it hurts to see how much it hurts them

[@gilleygulley]

bruh I feel like I'm in the matrix, is this girl me? Me and my sister were almost in an identical situation.

[@ClydeOnPluto]

I just came to checkout your channel and wasn’t expecting such a video. This made me feel less lonely. It must’ve been so hard to go through such a thing. I cannot even imagine how tough her sister’s life was. I hope they’re both doing okay. Thank you for this wonderful video

[@crispycarrots9330]

I’ve always wondered how syrmor finds these people

[@warhawk9566]

I relate to this girl so heavily, I have a similar relationship with my brother and it gets to a point where you just don't give a shit about them anymore

[@chloebangco3752]

Hey there, kababayan. I'm a Filipino, and I just wanted to say that kami'y nandirito para sa iyo. Mag-ingat ka, at God bless.

[@riyamu4221]

maraming salamat, it means a lot

[@NA-vz9ko]

I hope her sister sees this. Hope they talk now.

[@fuzzybuzzy3159]

If I ever get VRchat I would like to be interviewed...

[@4717-b7j]

Thank you Syrmor for giving all these amazing people a platform to tell there stories just found the channel and I love it so much.

[@TheOtherOne7isBlueMaid]

Oof I really hope these girls end up ok

[@Reavenk]

They way you take this silly VR program and turn it into this serious channel for human stories is amazing.

[@averagejoessb3110]

I have seven siblings and not much of a relationship with any of them :).

[@lagroad]

I guess condoms are a foreign concept lmao

[@averagejoessb3110]

@@lagroad ? Foreign to which country? I live in America and most people don't have this many siblings, my parents just decided not to stop lmao.

[@lagroad]

CTG_AverageJoe “Foreign concept” a concept someone is not familiar with or can’t relate to. In this case, condoms are a foreign concept to your parents. Another example, waking up early on a Saturday may be a foreign concept to someone who usually wakes up at noon. But that’s funny, hopefully they made enough to provide for you, mate.

[@averagejoessb3110]

@@lagroad oh ok sorry maybe I'm just dumb I've never heard that expression, or foreign used in that way. Yeah fortunately we have enough to have food on the table, a roof over our head, shoes on our feet, etc.

[@lagroad]

CTG_AverageJoe It’s okay, it’s how we learn. I’m glad to hear you’re doing okay then.

[@yerinbaekscandlelight]

I feel so bad for the sister in question because she reminds me of myself. I also often have bad experiences with close relationships (never cheating though) and I also have s***idal tendencies. Whenever this person slandered her sister, it felt like she was talking about me, which hurt a lot. This is coming from someone who suffers from depression and anxiety. What the sister really needed was love and support and people showing that they cared. I don't think the parents did the right thing. Sending the sister in question to another country for multiple years to 'get properly disciplined' is not the answer. It will never be the answer. If someone is destructive, they must get help before it's too late. No wonder the daughter didn't want them in her life afterwards. And the person who is talking doesn't seem very supportive, either. If I had a sister who always expected the worst out of me, I also wouldn't have a happy ending. Also, when the person said 'she did this to herself', I felt so angry and annoyed. The sister tried to K1*L herself by taking pills. Who says 'you brought this on yourself' after a near death situation? I understand why she was angry, but I would never give up on a loved one when they need me the most. I need people to support me, or of course I'll want to d*e. Edit: I do think that the 35K stealing is messed up, though. I'm talking about before that. Stealing money is obviously wrong.

[@hamburglr1]

Ya the girl telling the story is definitely not the best person either

[@Pi-Face]

"Philippines" I KNEW IT, IT'S THEM AGAIN

[@drake5054]

I have the same kinda situation going on with my older brother it sucks honestly.

[@sine8811]

[" Seems like a severely abusive family. People don't just turn out like that when they have truly loving and supportive people around them. Her parents are probably quite evil. 10:20 - If your sister being sexually assaulted and then not believed is just 'drama' then that explains a whole lot. This girl is far from innocent. Neglect is severe abuse. Saying things like 'you cant turn back time' that's just an excuse. Her sister has experienced lifelong abandonment from the entire family and no matter what she did they would not listen. I pray that the sister who was sent away will have some semblance of a peaceful life... but that's pretty unlikely with a family and sister like this... hopefully she will find a therapist or friend who will give two shits about her. "]

[@AMMstudios]

Her sister would easily go to jail for identity fraud regarding that loan. Smh; guess the whole family has problems. Don't we all.

[@airi3672]

It sounds like the parents have something to do with this too. It feels like she’s missing a part of the story

[@chicogamer17]

Definitely. It's a dick move to send your child away, to another country no less, and tell them that you aren't taking them back anymore when they're already abroad. Even her relatives in the Philippines said that what they did was a mistake.

[@hahabearseathoney]

I actually feel really bad for the sister. I can’t imagine getting sent away to a different country & my parents lying to me about it not being permanent, especially with the uncle sexually assaulting her. Sounds like hell, I understand why she wouldn’t like the parents & doesn’t wanna be in contact with them

[@sillygoose3314]

Aw he didn’t use virtual birds new outro song ):

[@chieludz]

This is probably the sadness one in a long time...