Taking time for self care & being mindful of our mental health

[@MorganSolo]

We all gotta take some time for ourselves to be mindful and just focus on us, and we can never feel bad about it! What are some of your favorite mindful practices when you're feeling overwhelmed? Mine is definitely writing!

[@StefanieFlaxman]

Writing is such a great go-to activity when you’re feeling overwhelmed because it allows you to take time for yourself while processing your thoughts (which makes you feel productive). A different type of anxiety definitely creeps in when we do take time for ourselves. Rather than the stress of work or daily responsibilities, “down-time anxiety” often highlights a fear of happiness or how we don’t feel worthy of simply relaxing and enjoying a day. Once I realized how uncomfortable I feel when I take time off, I started just sitting with myself and observing the anxiety without judging it. Also makes for a good mindfulness journal prompt. 🤓

[@franim4368]

I find your words to be so comforting and soothing and just what I needed to hear today. I have been feeling like a robotic work machine and tired in so many ways. Self-care really is important. Giving myself permission to take some time to feel better, more centered and less broken down, is needed. Sometimes, there isn't really a reason, at least at the surface, as to why someone can feel not okay. Thank you, Morgan. Your insight and wisdom and bravery for bringing this all up is quite remarkable. The thing is, what you are talking about can apply to people of all ages and walks of life. Take good care of you, too. Your new channel is really powerful and thought provoking. I love it.

[@haleyramey583]

As a mom, I understand that it’s important to just think for myself. A mom isn’t a good mom unless she takes care of herself too. I feel like the “mom guilt” got to me a lot at first but I’ve learned I have to take care of myself too. Don’t feel bad mommas! ❤️

[@bellaangus1213]

Thank you sooo much and agree with all of your video. My husband died unexpectedly and I’ve been lost. Truth ~ married at 22 and I just turned 59 years young. This has been so enlightening and helpful! I’ve got two ginormous dogs. They were and still continue to be my purpose. One is Great Dane/ Black Lab and the young one is Husky/Pyrenees. Love your love and the love y’all have for your fur babies. Love Stephi and found you through her. Life is better and still trying. Please no weirdos allowed and love your Southern Mom Born and raised in Atlanta. Love your love of the Falcons and Whoo hoo Braves ~ sorry 😞 Hawks. I’m in North North Georgia Mountains and no one come for me. I know TMI but this actually was so helpful and I do have Dogs, ( I will always protect them first) Family, friends and weapons and no hate for anyone. I just always try better and be better.

[@catloverKD]

I needed this one. Even when I'm miserably sick, I'll beat myself up for calling off even when I KNOW it was the right decision. I linked it to trauma. Growing up with an undiagnosed invisible disability, I was constantly told I was lazy, immature, irresponsible, just not trying hard enough, the list goes on. And I was constantly questioned about why I did certain things or why I did them a certain way, or straight up criticized. So, even now, my brain seeks validation that my perfectly reasonable, rational decisions that I'm making as an adult, are justified. With literally EVERYTHING, my brain will repeat it to me, like it's justifying itself waiting to be reassured. Especially since I decided to quit my job on Tuesday, I've slipped and it's weighing on me because I'll have to stay at this job until I find another one, and even my days off will be spent doing interviews so I can't use them the way I need to to recover. I should use some of my paid sick time before I put in my 2 weeks and it's no longer paid.

[@isawyourghosttonight5541]

I would definitely take advantage of that, you earned those paid hours and you deserve to use them. And whoever said that is stuck in the old ways of life like morgan mentioned. I know of people that fake disability to get a check every month, those are the people who should be put down, not you. Good luck with everything I hope the job works out but always put yourself first a job can be replaced you and your mental health can't be ❤

[@laurbill8774]

Funny timing here. I was just struggling with the whole “beating myself up in my head” aspect. We have fall fridays at work where we can take a half day if our work schedule allows for it. Today I wanted to take advantage of it. I was sitting outside having lunch and was feeling great. It’s such a nice day out. But I kept thinking about other things I could be doing. I should go work out or I should go finish more work or clean. Took me a bit but I was finally able to realize that I will benefit the most actually if I just keep spending time relaxing outside. It’s exactly what I need and my body knows it. Also, it was funny you mentioned the whole thing about parents saying “well you can’t be sad when you’re working” I had never heard that but I learned it myself and I actually (very destructively) purposely would harness depression as a means to make me study more when I was studying for the CPA. Thankfully I’ve gotten the help I needed after and talked with a therapist and she helped me realize what I had done and how to try to fix it. I know this was a long comment and I hardly make ‘em but hey! I’m having a self care moment myself and part of that was sharing this 😝 Loving your video chats!

[@lillystryker8570]

The best advice I ever heard when it comes to my anxiety and “beating myself up” is to talk to myself the way I would a friend. Would you talk to a friend the way you’re talking to yourself? Every time I catch myself being overly critical, I make it a point to look in the mirror and praise myself. It really helps take the tension off.

[@laurbill8774]

@@lillystryker8570 I love this advice! I most definitely need to practice that more. I’ve never tried looking at myself in the mirror but I feel like I’ve heard it enough times that I need to at least give it a shot

[@saraschutz812]

Thank you for addressing this hidden problem. I poured my heart and soul into my job as a nursing assistant. I loved my people! But was overall ignoring myself and ended up with a Vulva cancer diagnosis. For the past two years, I have been forced to slow down and focus on myself wholeheartedly. I am currently a stay at home mom in between my surgeries. I have a list of daily household chores I tackle after I take care of myself. Big lists wait for when I have the energy or a helper. My husband doesn't complain, it will eventually get done. Daily naps are always on the list. Also, very thankful for my fur babies. I fully believe they know more when I am stressed than I do myself. They force me to stop, slow down, and pay attention to them. Those 10-15 minutes can change your whole feeling and thinking. Covid sucked for the social standpoint but I was blessed to "meet" other Cancer Warriors via Facebook and by Zoom meetings. Those were the highlight of my week! My world stopped, phone was off, and my focus was fully on my new found friends. I am loving your new videos, keep up the great work! 💜

[@lillystryker8570]

I still work the 9-5 in an office…. but the difference from previous jobs I’ve had is that they value mental and physical health so if I can’t be there, they cover me and remind me that health comes first. That’s a real career.

[@gizzbeth]

Thank you so much. You don’t know how much I needed to be reminded of this. I honestly feel like I sometimes forget that I’m a living breathing person and not just something that is here to carry out someone else’s to-do list. I’m important too.

[@Brandi.65]

Love to see this side of you. The true you 🤗

[@amandanorrie2942]

Some days I wake up and I feel like I can’t move, and I will take a sick day, but when I do.. I am judged my coworkers, that don’t have mental health issues, and see me as not strong enough, so I have to lie and say I’m “sick” which makes me feel even worse, it’s a vicious cycle, without a real break being those days I do stay home because of anxiety and depression episodes I feel the guilt and anxiety of doing so. Very relatable, especially when dealing with trauma which this year has been full of, it’s dangerous not to deal with your emotions, in the moment society doesn’t see that. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@sharonasselta5309]

I struggle really bad with seasonal depression (and non seasonal depression lol) I feel it creeping up as the season changes. Thanks so much for this- needed to feel understood in that ❤️

[@sukijohnson5398]

I needed to hear this today...You are such a good speaker- I think you've found your true calling! 🦋🌈💜

[@jordyn87]

The peeps that disliked this video obviously don't struggle with mental health issues... lucky them!!! Im really digging this new channel!

[@michelledodge6739]

Morgan, thank you for posting this. Just Thank You.

[@atlanteanenergy9513]

Thank you 🌻

[@Brandi.65]

That's the way I am, because of all I'm carrying on my shoulders. Between the health issues I have, my Son being sick, Grandson healing from his past abuse. I'm drained, tired and waking up knowing. I gotta go again. It's very emotionally draining. I wake up and just don't want to do that day. Then you feel guilty for resting. 💞🤗 But there's times we need to take time to rest, and give us time... Great video! 🤗🤗

[@Angela-1974]

Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏🤗

[@emilyluke6496]

Thanks for sharing! Loving your new style of videos. Your bravery is helping people ❤️

[@huffledale420]

This is a very helpful video thank you morgan !! It's very relatable.

[@jaky411]

Thanks for sharing this🙏🏽 I grew up in a traditional south Asian immigrant community and the one statement that I hate from some of the family friends that I grew up with is their approach of comforting/reassuring someone of their life’s adversity is they don’t have a choice but to push through at all costs for their family.

[@robinrupert1805]

I needed this today, thank you for sharing!

[@mikaela3628]

100%!!! Thank you!

[@yelvh]

I am so happy you made this video. I needed this because I am so guilty of doing this to myself and it's so hard to break the cycle

[@virgosmile]

Thank you .... SPEAK IT~ I appreciate you~ self care . Seasonal Depression Disorder.... its REAL AF

[@SunshinyDay4423]

Very relatable! 👍👍👍

[@crystalinabacteria3430]

Omg I have the poking in my brain through the day. I'm looking after my elderly dad who has a brain condition 24/7. I sometimes push myself too much but still have the poke in my head. I only force myself to relax when I'm totally pooped. Thank you for this video this is soooo helpful xx♥️

[@Tisme65]

Morgan I swear to you this is exactly what I'm going through and it is a terrible struggle thank you for talking about it

[@laurbill8774]

You’re so right on!

[@MarieRhondelle]

Just the first few sentences of this video are so me. I always feel terrible about not constantly being productive. I always feel like I am a lazy failure and everyone else is working harder and more effectively. I know that's not true factually but it's a hard mental struggle. I am still trying figure out how not to get depressed and stuck on weekends.

[@summer727]

Hey I have cystic fibrosis too! I'm 13 and very new to this whole thing, I got diagnosed in April 2021. I was wondering how you stay so positive all the time even when it gets rough. Like whenever I have to do my nebulizer I always can't be bothered to and feel like its just a burden. Thanks for making ur channel its really inspiring💜

[@happysvd]

I could listen to you talk for hours.

[@chloecheryl7058]

This video really helped, thank you x

[@prettybonkers1040]

Yes, we are our worst enemies. With depression, we have a very alive voice, telling us that we are NOT worth it.

[@nikkis7375]

Hell yea. That’s all I have to say. ❤️✌🏼

[@KIskra]

I felt attacked in the first 60 seconds. That's how I knew I needed to keep watching.

[@bhutanpine4431]

I got that seasonal low feelings, and mom guilt bad. I don't really take much time for myself... I used to read at the park in a hammock or stuff along the lines of just being outdoors. Such simple things like taking a salt/mineral bath, I have to plan out and then probably not even do, unless my partner will watch the kids, well our 1 year old... but my 5 year old can watch herself for a minute. Lol. Being a parent was so hard at first, because you are no longer something you worry or take care of much anymore. It really made me lonely with my first kid, being a single mom and on my own with a baby by myself majority of the time. 2nd kid is easier because you're already used to not existing as your own person anymore. Lmao. Sad but kinda true if you are a devoted parent. Best thing to relax is doing breathing exercises. Breathing properly can help alleviate so much mentally as well, but you know that. Lol

[@sarahcampassi]

I love the new aesthetic. The new house, the new background, the new intro, the new video style ... the new girl. 😂😉 You’re really on the up and up and it shows 🙌✨

[@supergran62]

💯

[@TraumaSurvivorCynthia]

You have to feel it to heal it!!👣 #davesandersstepdaughter

[@atlanteanenergy9513]

Now in work there is also discrimination towards people who are not jabed, and when i am the one that falls into that category, it really does not help with metal health at all. I am creating music for theater and now thinking if i even be allowed into that theater after i make that music. It sounds a bit like when black musicians where allowed to play in a concert, but if they were a spectator they would not be allowed to watch themselves play. This is madness. I do believe expressing emotions is very important too.

[@PleaseForgiveYourself]

Welcome to my reality. EVERYDAY.

[@isawyourghosttonight5541]

My mom would get so pissed at me when I'd take off work or school as a teenager for any reason. Sometimes people just need a day to breathe, that goes for adults and also children. 🤷‍♀️

[@katym15475]

. When you write a ton and then have zero energy to continue. So delete. Felt this video. And the last. And Stephi's. You guys will probably end up saving a shit ton of lives.

[@MrGigihp]

What is your star sign Morgan? I'm scorpion and this is a very upside down time. Full moon coming so beware. Emotions will still be all over. i watched something this week..it really hit home. When were in this weird space and you feel dammit I gotto do something...DO NOTHING! COZ IF YOU DO IT MAY BE MAKING A DECISION AT THE WRONG TIME. JUST TAKE THE TIME. X

[@katym15475]

✌️ raise my hand in the first 10 seconds and bow my head. Can I proceed and crawl back into bed???:/