Tales From Regretful Parents | TikTok Childfree By Choice Commentary

[@cosmicpolitan]

Every single time I was told that I would change my mind about not wanting children was a good example of “Misery loves company”

[@SS-cp7sl]

This! 👏👏

[@KathleenFulton-u1x]

I had 3 children. My husband was useless. I asked to hire help cleaning and he said no. He would lounge around all evenings and weekends watching TV. Even when I worked, my husband was insistent that I do all the cooking and cleaning. Also, he criticized everything, as if he knew anything about it.

[@jennifergraceh]

I feel this so much. ❤ I’m in this situation currently; not with 3, but with 1. I work full time and am in school full time. I do everything around the house, for the most part, despite him promising to do all the cooking and helping me out with other stuff. I also work at a job where it is extremely emotionally taxing-I’m a counselor, where I periodically lose clients in tragic circumstances like su1cide or overdose. I actually just had one of my closest clients who I worked with for a year every day in an intensive outpatient basis die-I found out on Tuesday-I think she took her own life. And then on Wednesday, someone I was supposed to have an intake with overdosed. I am so overwhelmed I am just sitting here crying. 😢I can’t do it. The worst part, he’s in the field and I thought he would be emotionally supportive but it’s so disappointing. I’m so tired.

[@pastelmoon9118]

men seek women to take care of him when men say " someone need to take care of women " they mean opposite

[@kiki-xl9jc]

💩💩💩

[@INFJ_9]

This sounds absolutely horrible and abusive. In this day and age a husband can’t expect a WORKING wife to carry out all the “traditional” gender roles like our mothers and previous generations did, times have changed. Worse he refuses for you to hire help. I’m sorry you have a very toxic patriarchal husband. I truly empathize with you! I’m just shocked and disgusted for the total disregard of your well being as a working mother. It’s sickening!

[@littleblizzard7591]

I’m so sorry, my heart is broken for these women. I hope they can get the help they need and find joy in their lives.

[@bananarama480]

"We'll see"?! 😳 Creepy husband behaviour. 😰

[@Neon_Medusa]

For real, that made my skin crawl. And it just got worse.

[@x77punk77x]

What a creep. S.o.b. belongs back in the Fifties…

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I would have left him for saying something like that. I'm sure it's not his first time talking and acting like that. He doesn't deserve a wife and kid.

[@ritaanderson819]

Thank you so much for sharing ❤❤ I’m 37 and childfree and all these honest stories online have helped me make my decision !

[@fl_snorkeldork]

This is partner regret. This is what happens when you settle.

[@egl3369]

These stories remind me so much of my health issues. When I am flaring, my weight drops. People congratulate me! Yet I am sick and feel awful. It's like no one cares about the truth behind anything. So long as those boxes got ticked. Having kids is like that. You could be suffering with PPD but congratulations on having a baby!

[@ecclairmayo4153]

That first story was heartbreaking💔. Her last line about everyone around her knowing that her concerns about motherhood werent unfounded is so upsetting. I bet she feels a lot of resentment against all of those people.

[@Drifter.Dreams]

Good lord, the story about the woman who was pursued and assaulted at the gas station. I don't think it's unfair at all for her to be honest with herself and her feelings. She does *not* need to feel "grateful for the experience" she's endured.

[@lynnepaquette4124]

1st story is really sad. I would break down crying so hard if my partner said those things to me if I had a baby. I'm 43 and very fortunate I'm not living like that.

[@pastelmoon9118]

then people wonder from CF women " b-but why you wont have kids? " not really the kids.. it is what happens AFTER the kid is around..men wont appreciate the sacrifice and abuse the shit out of you to boost his income not giving shit about your health either... why bother lol

[@georginahatch3244]

Parenting is not for all❤ and it is ok

[@x77punk77x]

Aaaa-men…and women!

[@weradorkable350]

A lot of this feels like partner regret more than anything

[@jackiestringer361]

Prayers and empathy 😊❤ it's not easy. No true blueprint.

[@BrownEyedPhillyGirl]

These stories break my heart. So many awful men. I think [some of] the experiences would be a lot different with more supportive partners in their lives 😞 I never felt the call to be a parent or have children. Definitely something my husband wanted more than me. I have a 7 month old son now and love him to pieces. But I'm very honest about pregnancy, post partum and motherhood; whenever anyone asks me questions. I won't sugarcoat things. Like everything in life, you can love some parts of it while disliking others

[@INFJ_9]

5 minutes into this video and I’m already like yikes!!! 😢

[@RosetteAckesson]

So we are victimblaming now? The comments are so toxic and weird.

[@freeinghumanitynow]

Nobody is blaming the children. Those are the victims of poor parenting and poor life choices made by clueless adults.

[@pastelmoon9118]

@@freeinghumanitynow yep people get married way too young... basically kids having kids when they are not ready

[@honoreejennings1998]

I love your videos! Thank you!

[@Upload-video-terserah-gue]

Enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Ada makanan 2. Fisik sehat 3. Panjang umur 4. Punya keluarga 5. Ada tempat tinggal bagus 6. Manusia Jujur 7. Saling toleransi 8. Masuk surga 9. Dapat rezeki. 10. Damai dengan orang. 11. Mempunyai pemimpin yang mendukung rakyat. Dll Tidak enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Kelaparan 2. Kadang merasakan sakit , ada yang berkebutuhan khusus ( tidak bisa melihat, tidak bisa mendengar, tidak bisa berbicara ), ada yang sakit berat = stroke , kanker , dll , ada yang kehilangan anggota tubuh . 3. Suatu hari meninggal 4. Ada yang tidak punya keluarga 5. Ada yang tidak punya tempat tinggal atau tempat tinggal jelek 6. Ditipu orang 7. Rasis SARA ( suku , agama, ras dan budaya) , Rasis yang lain. 8. Masuk neraka 9. Harus bekerja kalau mau punya harta 10. Di hina orang 11. Mempunyai pemimpin Tidak mendukung rakyat Dll. Maka dari itu saya memutuskan tidak punya anak. Ada gak enaknya jadi manusia. Mungkin anak saya mengalami hal buruk tersebut . Ya walaupun ada enaknya jadi manusia, saya tetap tidak punya anak. ( Indonesia language)

[@x77punk77x]

We are from different continents but I relate to much of this. Women will always be reduced to roles like childbearing and devalued overall as long as there are awful men (and their female allies) with too much power in this world.

[@queenbee7749]

@x77punk77x Woman are NOT reduced to roles like child bearing. It is the greatest gift and power a woman can have. It's people like you that try to diminish motherhood, simply because it's not what YOU want. Pathetic.

[@casandrabanks7212]

What is the name of the First Lady’s podcast trying to find her since TikTok is deleted

[@lalaishappyyy]

this world is so evil

[@adoramae5436]

I- Listen.... I'm not saying it would be *right*....but if she ended up on the news, I would understand.

[@GospoicaMarijica]

Sounds like a husband problem, not a baby problem.

[@bananarama480]

The husband's a nightmare. Doesn't mean that the whole issue though. She never should have been pressured.

[@Jendian]

@@GospoicaMarijica 100 percent agree

[@freeinghumanitynow]

@@GospoicaMarijica She picked him, though.

[@lindasharp8523]

Some of today's babied adults have no idea how to patent a child cos they were spoiled.

[@videofan1010]

The literacy level of your comment...

[@gr8babyshay]

@@videofan1010lol I literally had to read that comment 4 times before I understood it.

[@Jendian]

These stories are so sad. Motherhood is very difficult but it is also very fulfilling. Both things are simultaneously true. The common thread here seems to be how lonely and unsupported these moms are. That and the identity crisis once baby gets here which is very common. It has nothing to do with the baby and everything to do with them and their surrounding circumstances. I hope they can get the support they need and see their babies for what they are: a beautiful gift despite the huge responsibility ❤

[@durrr1007]

So no, it’s not fulfilling for everyone. No matter what you do not everyone will be happy they had kids. See the thing is if you don’t have kids and you later regret it there’s only one victim of that choice.

[@Jendian]

@@durrr1007 i guess it’s the same of everything in life. It’s about perspective. Some people like working and find it fulfilling others don’t, some people like working out some don’t, some like driving others don’t, etc. I understand people are inclined to different things but that doesn’t mean that the stories shared here about women in miserable circumstances and most of it is not their kids it’s their partners and family. Rewatch and see

[@Jendian]

@@durrr1007it may not be fulfilling for everyone but rewatch the video. Almost all of these women are in terrible situations and have zero support from their partners and family. That’s the main issue. I’m willing to bet at least half would feel differently if they had the support they needed. They don’t have the opportunity to enjoy motherhood bc they are completely alone in raising their child(ren) and that’s very tough 😕

[@durrr1007]

@@Jendian not necessarily. Of course it’s good to support women but this video is about the fact that women do regret having children. You can say “if only they had xyz” but the reality is that no one ever will have everything that would make them love motherhood. That’s not the world we live in. And so deferring to being childfree is a smarter choice for everyone including yourself considering the current state of the world not the utopia you want to exist. Defaulting to having kids because that’s what we’re told we should do is not good. It should be the other way around.

[@durrr1007]

@@Jendian

[@queenbee7749]

I don't recall anyone ever saying how easy motherhhod was. I truly believe all these women are just clueless, didn't babysit or care for younger siblings. Then they are stunned about how difficult being a parent is. I feel sad for any woman who regrets becoming a mother. I just hope you dont share that with your children. Also, the greatest lie ever told to all women is that you can have it all. You can in fact, not have all. Sacrifices will always have to be made in some area of life.

[@x77punk77x]

I wonder what other kinds of women you have cold words for.

[@queenbee7749]

@x77punk77x no cold, just truth. I am not sure what else you're grasping at?

[@freeinghumanitynow]

😂 Everything you said is spot on but also controversial. People hate hearing the truth. The truth is that most parents really shouldn't be parents.

[@huntforberries]

💯

[@KangelofEcho]

I've babysat kids and babies in my family and I'd hate to be forced to have kids. Also, wanting to have help is not "wanting to have it all"

[@nuxxy_]

Well I hope these people have what it takes to join the cool nihilist club. After all that it's not just we shouldn't have kids. There is clearly no point to the universe or life in it.

[@omghee5294]

so you chose a bad partner, didn't have enough spine to justify your desire to not have kids, and then blame the baby and other parents for choices you made? parenting is DEFINITELY not for people who have a lack of maturity/the ability to make good choices.

[@x77punk77x]

And yet the irrational social & cultural pressures that harm children brought into such situations still plague our supposedly first-world country. Educated women, women who want freedom - we’re undervalued in favor of parents regularly in America.

[@omghee5294]

@@x77punk77x the entire purpose of the human race, or any species on earth really, is to reproduce. also educated women =/= child-free women. there's an obvious correlation with women who have mental illness/abusive tendencies/bad tempers/immaturity not wanting children.

[@omghee5294]

@@x77punk77x also having kids doesn't mean you lose your freedom- it just means you can't run around like an idiot, drinking, smoking, partying. you have to grow up. there's another person to care for.

[@x77punk77x]

@@omghee5294 Overpopulation has been destroying the climate, genius. What inane arguments.

[@x77punk77x]

What are you a forced-birther? Your first comment misled me - I didn’t realize you were one of those scary go-forth-and-choke-the-planet-with-humans natalist types. Adolescent writing style x Trump-friendly views. Red-pilled sticky-handed 4chan cringe, ew 🤣

[@ineedhoez]

Honestly... I get why being a narcissistic parent is the best way to go. The kids are not the center of the universe, you prioritize yourself, and don't let outside noise impact what you do!!!! As long as the kids and safe, fed, and care for, keep living your life.

[@x77punk77x]

@@mjesns77 I’m with you. What a doozy of a sh!t-take that was. This country is so backwards about child welfare and children’s rights.

[@Nwakaego_]

@@mjesns77I agree with you. I don’t see how this commenter wrote this. Narcs cause so much abuse and trauma to kids, who grow up into hurt adults.

[@clamar111]

With a narcissistic mother, I was her target. I was the oldest and as soon as I started working she made me give her 90% of my income til I finally was able to move out thanks to some good friends help. What a stupid and uneducated comment to promote that behavior!!

[@ineedhoez]

@clamar111 just because your parent is narcissistic doesn't mean that you have to suffer abuse. Abuse is abuse. Abuse can occur, even if the parent is not a narc.

[@clamar111]

@@ineedhoez so why did you say being a narcissistic parent is the way to go? Because it definitely is not! I as a survivor will do better for my children. I love them to death and have an amazing spouse doing the same. We choose not to continue the abusive path. We are building something better. We won’t be perfect of course, but being a narcissistic parent is not the way to go as you wrote on your first comment.

[@thesprinklebox4841]

People have no balls and no grit. This generation has lost the ability to overcome obstacles and look outside themselves for two full seconds. I'm so sick of listening to these disgusting stories about how people are weak and don't know how to ask for help.

[@bananarama480]

Then guess what? Don't listen to it! Earlier generations might have raised their kids, but often times in horrible, neglective ways. Now claiming that everybody who wants to do it right is weak. Go somewhere else. Go where only the hard and resilient parents go who never were exhausted or full of doubt.

[@alptraum7644]

dont click on things you know will trigger you. simple as that 🤷‍♂

[@thesprinklebox4841]

@@alptraum7644 it's everywhere Hun. We live in a world full of professional victims. It's about time people use all pointless therapy and overcome some sh*t.

[@bananarama480]

​@@thesprinklebox4841Speaking of pointless: Why are you going around searching for videos about people regretting parenthood if you despise them so much? Just let them be and mind your own business.

[@thesprinklebox4841]

@@bananarama480 no one searches for these losers. They pop up. Why are you commenting on my opposing opinion?

[@parrotjunglecolada8270]

All these examples are about BAD HUSBANDS, not babies, having a baby is the best feeling in the world, the love the cuteness the purpose in life is incomparable

[@MlleSha-p7v]

Children become adults. Adults are not cute

[@MlleSha-p7v]

Teenagers are not cute.

[@parrotjunglecolada8270]

@@MlleSha-p7vwell if you love your children then even as adults you’ll find them cute, or at least still love them, I don’t know what your point is here? You have teens and you hate them?

[@MarxMuru]

@@parrotjunglecolada8270 Sounds like a really poor reason to have kids.

[@fireandsugar2625]

Yeah, it's not something to brag about, that you needed to have a baby, in order to feel like you have a purpose in this life. That's just really sad.