Talking 2 A Man | IWU | Tony Gaskins

[@sylviasalcedo8569]

Tony, I know you don't have a daughter but hear this, you have many daughters out here that you have inspired, motivated, have created quantum change in countless women that will go from generation to generation. Thank you for being real and dedicated to being a servant. God bless you and your family.

[@syrethashirley]

Amen sis! I am definately one of the daughters lol. I call him a virtual dad.

[@starrababy3788]

I am too

[@mssimone7147]

Well said 🙂

[@SL-xf5re]

Amen!

[@NatashallDunbar]

I am as well 🙏🏾

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“You get to that place...by making up in your mind, that you are not looking for a man, a man is looking for you.” TG

[@tiffanyp1416]

Gems after gems 💎

[@Jess-wi3re]

Love THIS this comment

[@overcomerbtboj]

Yes yes amen! Stay in peace and the one who is for you will find you ❤️🌈

[@ishanasweetncool]

after more than a year of watching you, I finally feel like I am the prize. I no longer speak as much as I used to , feel self assured. Don't feel the need to post any provocative pictures, don't interact with men that don't resonate with my energy and I am able to do this while preserving my natural bubbly girl persona. I am single , and I know my husband is out there and this version of me that is at peace will find him, and he will be the one to reach out to mel

[@Bibi_xoxoo]

Great job!! May you be blessed with what you desire to be with

[@productofaprayingmom]

Same here 🙏🏾

[@bridgetesiamoo785]

May your prayers be answered speedily! 🙏🙏🙏 God bless you!

[@tiffanysimms4454]

I completely agree!

[@eileendom5858]

This is beautiful

[@Jazz.Ministry]

“Whoever listens the most has the most influence” 🗣

[@jaybae7315]

Facts!

[@tiffanysimms4454]

I love this comment right here!

[@gracemorua2553]

It’s amazing the power of listening and also helps to see if you really want them in your circle.

[@lucindamerrill1259]

Hi Tony, yes, you used the word edgewise correctly. I think you know deep down inside that unfamiliar words you use are on point because you are super in telligent, you probably look up some words and you listen to God who will never misdirect you.

[@katrinabrown7871]

"You not looking for no man.....he is looking for you" - TG

[@DimpledNatural]

Yes!!

[@kristijjones1087]

FACTS

[@Rachel-rt6yd]

"The more you listen the more he falls in love". -TG

[@katrinabrown7871]

I cry in my car...only when I'm listening to gospel music and the holy spirit is moving.... not about no man...lol

[@traumamom4338]

Yesss

[@ashleyrolle2214]

Amen sista! Same!

[@ericacrayton8615]

Yes katrina what u said..

[@tiffanysimms4454]

Come on thru Katrina! Men, nooooo but my Papa from whom all blessing flow, absolutely 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@pooh4025]

Me to...I can't listen to Marvin Sapp he takes me out at the red light 😅

[@KrystleLaughter]

I think this applies to marriage too. I noticed when I started to love myself and stopped pursuing him. The relationship totally changed for the better.

[@karenchandler4717]

Good to know 👌🏾

[@angelamurray2826]

So true

[@lynnjones644]

It’s on HIM to attract YOU! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@overcomerbtboj]

Yes amen girl 💯

[@NekeishaWise]

"Yeen have no apartment to cry at" 😅😂😂😂 "Drivin n Cryin" 😭😭

[@SeekingGod4life]

Listennnnn 😩😩I hollered when he said that...I can’t stand him 😂😂😂😂 he know he funny

[@NekeishaWise]

@@SeekingGod4life Giirll. I messed around and played this at work, and hollerrred. Do u hear me 🤣🤣🤣 He is Super Funny 😭

[@TakishaDanet]

👏🏾😝

[@cassandrafreeman5813]

😂😂😂

[@summerdeshai]

I swear I stop everything I’m doing when I get notifications from tony !!!😂

[@donmariethatsme]

Me too!

[@mirchld]

Same here!! My notifications are always on

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

Same!!!

[@katrinabrown7871]

Not to mention checking my phone when I don't get one 😂😂😂

[@TakishaDanet]

“ the more you LISTEN the more he falls in love.” 👏🏾😩 wish I would’ve known this sooner Tony

[@tonyahill3814]

Looking for a Man can be like looking for a job. Operate like you have one already so you don’t react out of desperation and devalue what you have to offer. Being your authentic self allows him to clearly realize your value! Negotiate up from there.

[@mwashington6]

💯

[@wonderfullyrenee]

I know I'm late, but this is a great analogy!

[@desereeme5084]

That's a really good point. I didn't realize WHY we tell them what we want. It is because we don't trust men to step up.

[@Dlovely516]

We don't. We plan, hint, out right say whats gonna happen. I have STOPPED. I want a Man to be a MAN and I will let him. SHOW me the money!! Its a muscle that we have to strengthen!!

[@followsummer]

Just be yourself, who cares....the right one won't take their eyes off you...never!!!!!

[@DeeDee-no7bb]

Be you! learn to listen! Never give away your play book!

[@kristenhartsfield1493]

My ex husband hated to be questioned about ANYTHING...for obvious reasons 🤦🏻‍♀️so it got to the point where I wouldn’t ask any questions at all. So I’m gonna have to retrain my brain to ask questions again. Thanks Tony for the constant content. It’s so helpful. We appreciate you and your wife for being so open.

[@prettibrowneyez2u]

My ex husband was the same way, it seemed like a mind conditioning

[@norelle8705ify]

"Interior designer start feeling himself" 🤣🤣

[@blacksongbird100]

😂😂😂 Right! I love boutique hotels bc of that. Lol

[@missmarymack3457]

Lol

[@bcallhoum7269]

Thank you for continuing to remind women not to "show all their hands." This has got to be one of the deepest revelations I am coming to terms with in my spirit. It sounds fairly simple and it is one of those things I think it easy to pass off due to pride which is hidden from ourselves. Most of us women like to believe we pretty much know what is appropriate and wise to disclose, BUT WE OFTEN DON'T. There are many times I thought I was disclosing something harmless and now I cringe thinking back at it. It takes foresight to understand what makes a man look at us less than & what might come around to haunt us. Plus self-control, discipline, and awareness. Sadly, by a woman doing most of the talking and disclosing foolishly, a man will have more of his dignity--at least in the relationship--than the woman even if he has no self-respect (sleeps around and cheats) and it also inverts the gender roles negatively. I totally agree that a man should be the one who does most of the talking and sharing of himself vulnerably. It forces him to be more of a man instead of let the woman do all the emotional work and degrade herself. As I reconcile this understanding of disclosure more and more in my spirit, I see why keeping your hands to yourself is so incredibly SERIOUS: if you don't, it makes you an easy prey for fornication, attract abuse, and suffer from long-term emotional scars. Women need to imagine the scenarios played out, like the "for nothing" gift one you brought up. It is true that you could forget what you shared would 'woo' you, a man will do just that, and you fall into temptation. I believe women need to approach being with a man like a military strategist (not in a manipulating way, but with the intention to preserve their dignity, power, their spiritual vessel, their energy, and sometimes their life). To anyone reading this comment, may you rely on God's strength!

[@eileendom5858]

Very well said.

[@calmarie9175]

All of this

[@overcomerbtboj]

💯👍

[@UnapologeticallyKay25]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@derikamiller4911]

Tony starts out the gate with the comedy! 😂🤣

[@lyfesaquarium]

Lord do i need it these days lol

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

Ladies, Tony said he’s shy, but yet, he is funny as all get out. I can’t imagine him if he wasn’t shy. I probably couldn’t handle it🤣😂! Tony, I’m much older than you, but you are like my cousin who is showing the game of grown boys. Thank you brother!! Appreciate you so much!!!!

[@valdraemiddleton853]

You are so hilarious but so real🤣🤣 I love it! I don't even watch any other videos. Since I came across your channel, I've been binge watching your videos. Your words are so powerful. It's like you're the big brother that I've never had, that's giving his little sister the game lol. Thank you so much for your videos because they're much needed. You're definitely a gift from God🙏🏾❤

[@dolethawelch6873]

Big Brother giving little sister game. PERiODT!!

[@stefanyhanson4713]

❤

[@DimpledNatural]

I catch myself saying "block" throughout the day

[@Badgirlkoree]

😂

[@DimpledNatural]

@@Badgirlkoree lol he has it ingrained on my head. BLOCK lol

[@SheCaresBeauty]

And “ghatttt to go” 😂😂😂

[@DimpledNatural]

@@SheCaresBeauty yes!!! Lol

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Keep it up! 😆

[@jenniferthompson5146]

I went on a first date with a guy that just asked question after question so that I started to feel interrogated. But when he talked it was shallow; just dry facts. No opinions or hint of vulnerability on his end. Like why am I going into where I am spiritually when this man is clearly not eager to express his side?? When you start to feel this way, is when you know you are doing too much.

[@syrethashirley]

Some women are small peices of a lot of these things. Personally I am introverted and shy sometimes. But then when im around family and people I am close to I get goofy/silly/ and pick up my former accent from back home. Hopefully men are able to see that women aren't just one personality/feeling/mood all the time. But I definately have seen women do the most and seem very fake about themselves. But I guess as long as I know im being authentic thats all that matters lol. Thanks for the insight :)

[@juanitairvin5649]

Mr.Gaskins I truly believe that you could be a Christian comedian . A lot of women cry a lot because of what they are going through . You would be the perfect person to keep them laughing instead of crying so much . You have a natural gift for this . We appreciate all of the laughs .

[@he6153]

I am generally a talkative person because where I grew up, people are very friendly and talkative. Today I have learnt to be authentic but not tell all my business 🙃. Thanks Tony.

[@tlashai9902]

Tony your right, I'm naturally myself, and so many men try to figure me out and what it is they need to do to get next to me. Some pretend like they're into God, etc and living holy, but I can see through them.

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Wow, you sound like me hahahahaha. Can see RIGHT ON THRU THEM. Smh

[@kweeniindilife9623]

Lol it is something that some of us struggle with...I think sometimes it’s between being shy, trying to protect yourself, being gullible, and trying to please lol. Like you said, it really needs to be natural interaction:)🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@islandboyz9072]

True they be mirroring the dudes personality. Take off your mask baby girl and be true to yourself❤

[@TR-lk2ts]

“The interior designer start feeling they self.... got marble on the walls.” 😂

[@CrownedxKay]

Right on time, just grabbed my Notebook 📝 Update: Aunthenticity is key...As a woman, we do operate in extremities at times...I think we overthink it trying to impress someone we like, when the best thing you do is to be is yourself❣

[@evocentricpodcast1643]

You ain’t gotta lie to kick it 😂... just be yaself. Either they’ll love it or save you the wasted time.

[@maryphillips3686]

💯💯

[@marilynking527]

Period!!!!

[@michellebarnum8465]

Right

[@lesliehill555]

Hello Tony. I just want to say hello and hit the Like button because all of your content is life. Hello everyone🙏

[@bethanynabors4635]

I can admit that I can overthink sometimes because of past hurts..but I'm getting the knowledge to become a better me.

[@victoriamomina8022]

You just doin you & being you !! Let the man be attracted to that !

[@sharonhumphrey3137]

Don't be false... Be you... the comfortable you... calm cool and collective you. The You that comes naturally. Be blessed

[@falishak6765]

I do over think and talk a lot. So I've to tone it down and not talk a lot to men. And get out my head. I'm work in progress. So I'll definitely listen more, bc I just did this talk but not let him say too much.

[@EtheReal3laine]

He is literally reading us and teaching us simultaneously💯🙏🏾💕👑✔️ Truth hurts.. but this is Life changing💕

[@lisawhite4204]

Hello Tony! I am 65 years old and you have helped me so much. Married twice and divorced twice in abusive relationships, you have truly helped to open my eyes to the truth about myself as well as grown boys. Hard to believe at my age there are still grown boys. I thank God for you and Him blessing me to find your channel. Thank you for taking the time to impart wisdom for relationships to all who listen. You have a beautiful family. Keep on your path for God’s plan for your life. Blessings!

[@shellyi8922]

I loved what you said Tony about the man being a hunter and not the woman. Thank you for the REAL TALK :)

[@Pam_ela]

Just what a girl needs with all this news on the TV😃 Hey Tony!

[@Ashley08888]

Lorrddt! I laughed the whole doggone video, particularly because I know exactly what you talking about. I was the super quiet girl, awe man-- I used to be so insecure about that. It had so much to do with experience and self confidence/assurance. Lord, im glad for your growth and helping me evolve into myself. Theres a major difference between being attractive and knowing you're the prize . Now, I know silence is golden AND have the art of conversation, coupled with the expertise of being myself! Lethal! Lol this video is hilarious and truthful. Tony tells no lies!

[@mariadaskalakis9317]

The thing is sometimes a person loses themselves for a minute ...we’ve got so much going especially us ladies that a person forgets they can just slow it down and just be for a few, remember who we are rather than falling all over ourselves for no reason other than being a people pleaser....one day a time though, we come back to centre. Confident, classy , centering ourselves around God’s will, working on ourselves daily. The best thing I did was record myself during my workouts...even that helped. I learn about myself playing it back . Great message coach. Timely too.

[@Khadijah_respectfully]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣"if a man did those things, he could have anything from me." Ayoooo dfl

[@mariadaskalakis9317]

28:54 😂😂😂😂😂😩😩😩😩 “why the hotel didn’t think about that with these walls”

[@phinesseriley7561]

Lord these videos are my new hobby!

[@shannonjohnson5367]

😂😂😂”The metaphysics of the metabolical cynicism!”

[@nikkirowland]

😩😂😂😂

[@ssSoblessed]

😂😂😂

[@gigibrown_wright]

😂🤣😂🤣

[@productofaprayingmom]

😂 in the words of T.I.

[@yanicketienne1464]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@grlwnder1317]

These IWU episodes are on POINT!

[@aliasalias7270]

I just want to say don’t apologize so much for being so raw on your videos. You really do tell it like it is and I appreciate that because a lot of what you say I’m finding has been the truth. I honestly didn’t know any better, I was never taught these things, I have no relationship with my father or had any sort of mail guidance growing up, so being out here blind I’ve gotten played a lot. Listening to you has really put perspective in to the things that I’ve been through and I really feel moving forward now that I can do better. And I just want to reiterate I appreciate you telling it like it is! It really makes things click!

[@lialia8073]

Let's get it in Tony.....class is in session!

[@bosslady325ilme]

I’m not looking for a man a man is looking for me! 🙌🏽 Amen that’ll preach!

[@jsmotherearth7]

Greetings and thank you for being here to help us to do better.

[@MrsLC-tp8oj]

Mr.Gaskins I’m here ready for class thank u for taking your time

[@n.Lenice]

Someone wanting to tell someone they love the same story for the 100th time is soothing and affirming for the "storyteller" - when it's received with love and patience. :) Another great video and message!

[@joi5787]

🤣🤣🤣 “That was my third aunts outfit”🤣🤣🤣 A lesson and a laugh... thanks for all you do Tony!!!

[@LadyFay88]

Edgewise: to succeed in entering a conversation or expressing one's opinion in spite of competition or opposition. You're on point Tony! Lol

[@mstijuni]

So as ladies we have to be confident. Confident in our self and talk to him. Converse with him. Got it!

[@AmberOJohnson]

TG is ALWAYS on point!🎯🙌🏼

[@JesusisKing1285]

😂😂😂 don't be mad at the interior decorator

[@Sepie918]

Tony I have shared your link with young ladies because you are the Real Real. Thanks for allowing God to work through you to help women under the ways of men and grown boys . So they can recognize the difference and chose the man not the grown boy.

[@bosslady874]

Lol the humor always brings extra value to the wisdom 💯

[@desereeme5084]

That was hilarious 🤣 "all of my current clients are perfectly fine" lololol

[@askalicensedcosmetologist2517]

Tony I know you are from Florida because of the way you tell your stories😂😂😂😂😂. I know you are really trying to help us get the lesson but you are so comical. Yes I am a Floridian and I just enjoy your videos. I watched your videos when I was single 5 years ago and I still watch now married. Please keep being the light that you are, God bless you and your household.

[@NaniCrawford]

Notification gang🥳🥳 God bless you Tony! Excited to receive your message tonight.

[@ginafromdabronx9333]

WE are sooooo good...at making excuses!! Ssttooppppp!!! FOR EVERYTHING!!!! he is busy..he isnt calling ..he is with his kids...he hasnt called...he is on vacation with his family...he isnt calling. Honey..he isnt calling bc he isnt into u. Sstttoopppp with the excuses!!! We are busy making excuses that is why we AREN'T LISTENING!!!! LISTEN!!!!!

[@blah843]

That PART

[@OnlyQueenE]

Omg!! Tony had me cracking up when he said, if he see a man crying in traffic he might wreck his car. Lord! This man naturally funny. Thos was such a good word. I loved this chat! Tony you are the big brother I never had. God bless you and your beautiful family!!

[@amiralove342]

Edgewise is a thing😂😂 I looked it up Definition: Get a word in edgewise, to succeed in entering a conversation or expressing one's opinion in spite of competition or opposition: There were so many people talking at once that I couldn't get a word in edgewise.

[@amykbarnes]

Always be yourself and the right man will love you for who you are!😊

[@gemmerouge8828]

I needed to laugh today! I mean seriously, people laugh at me because of how much I quote and stan Mr. Gaskins but I swear I learn SO much from Tony. And yet he’s so funny. Painfully true but highly entertaining. Thank you for another great video!

[@blacksongbird100]

But sometimes that's how I authentically feel. Like "get out of my face". 😂😂

[@marilynking527]

Me too 😂😂😂😂

[@blacksongbird100]

I authentically felt that while I was watching this video bc I got a text from a guy that made me roll my eyes. 🙄😄

[@jazzybeca7593]

Same 🤣😂😂

[@GoodGrief101]

Message was received. I am definitely sharing this. I was laughing the whole time. You’re something else! Thank you, stay safe and be blessed.

[@IshanaeS]

Whoever the character is that always says he’s from the streets, takes me out every time. 😭😭😂

[@sarahmitchell4010]

There’s a man in my life, that I fell for, and we are no longer together. But Tony Gaskin’s right about communication. It’s so important! Without communication there is nothing. I love people who ask questions and care to listen, it means a lot. Thanks for clarity! Take care. Edge wise is a real word or expression : )

[@godsgift5532]

I love how you go hard for your wife, much love ❤️ Peace and blessings to you and your family!!!

[@jasminemathe663]

Tony, God bless you man!! You tell NO lies. 😊👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉

[@HEReIAM829]

Plz Jesus don't let us have diarrhea of the mouth😂😫🙊

[@1984RADIO]

Amen 🤣🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@jenniferlitanda3416]

Amen

[@joannhughes4992]

😅😭

[@CharleneB178]

Once again I am cracking up!!! I tune in to T.G more than tv..his advice is on point!

[@ladya2410]

Tony- U is a blessssssssiiinnnnnggggg!!!!!

[@DEAKAMM]

Tell ur wife thank u for allowing u to be straight out to us!!! I love it!!!

[@queenali9712]

Mr Gaskins I receive, appreciate and thank you for the message. Your delivery and humor is off the chart. Hilarious and so true!

[@sandracastro-cv7rs]

Tony Gaskins, Thank you for all your words and wisdom, they are life changing!!!!

[@donnajeffreys8252]

Always gives such good wise information with such a warm fun sense of humor 😂 I really appreciate you Tony Gaskins GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

[@officialwatchamber]

Love this line of videos Tony. Full of GEMS as usual! Thank you for continuing to encourage women to be themselves & truly get to know themselves!!

[@starznmyeyez8906]

Tony is teaching the gospel truth. We as women sometimes talk and tell too much to men we are just getting to know. Listen more. Maintain some mystery about yourself so the man won't be able to read you like an open book. Once I really learned this, my entire approach to communicating with a man changed for the better. There were even times that I learned so much in a 1st conversation with a man that I didn't have to waste any more precious time on him. Told myself...Gotta Go !!! 😃 Thanks Tony. Be Blessed.

[@FutureAttyInTheMaking]

Agreed - Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation!! Be Blessed! 🙏🏼

[@The1morningstar]

I'm new to your channel and I'm learning a lot from you sir. All I can say is I wish you were around when I was in my 20s. Thank you!

[@juanitairvin5649]

Mr. Gaskins would you tell your wife I said thank you for sharing you with us . I'm learning so much from you sir . May God continue to bless you and your family . You are truly anointed . Thanks so much for your obedience to God .

[@justlillian__]

I have watched this video b4 and i laughed like i had never seen it b4. My coach is hilarious!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭. Literally the big brother we all wish we had. Thanks for dropping gems, you're appreciated!

[@christinajesus4286]

Well Said,😁Especially The Part Wen You Mention...”Don’t Look For The MAN Let Him look For YOU! Totally Agree..❤️

[@tracyabbott339]

Hi Tony, it’s so refreshing to know how a man’s mind and heart works, I am learning thanks to you. Blessings to you

[@betterhealth1651]

Thank you Tony for always making time to make these videos for us. Thank you

[@nenasnake6375]

That part “when you understand that rn. That’s what is gonna set you free” 😂💯 love it!

[@ikramawaale5713]

Thank you Tony. All your teachings are delivered with lovely humour and deep insight. I'm so glad I came across your channel. May you and yours continue to be blessed.

[@nydeesmith153]

Thank you, Mr. Gaskins. Your videos teach us, so much. Keep on, please!

[@TrishC5280]

Tony, I watch you and I learn and laugh 🙋🏽‍♀️🤭💜 thank you!

[@VintageAfro91]

Great video! You really broke everything down on how talking too much can end badly.

[@DD-mg2se]

When he says he don't speak proper but here I am understanding it properly 😁. If you spoke another way I'm not sure I'd be able to listen. Thanks for being you. Be blessed.

[@Jusleen0403]

The beginning had me weak. He said the interior design be feeling its self 😂😂😂😂

[@holyghostfire9568]

Tony out here settin us free 😂 thanks for the videos

[@sharonhumphrey3137]

When you are at peace in your mind, that is when you are comfortable with who you are... Not trying to impress anyone. Be blessed