Talking To Autistic People (7 Things YOU should Consider)

Talking to autistic people? Remember to consider these 7 essential things when speaking to an autistic person. FREE AUTISM WEBCLASS 👉🏼 www.theaspieworld.com/freeaut...
1. Eye Contact
Don’t get too pushy with eye contact, people on the autism spectrum may not be able to make long eye contact so please do not pressure them or comment on this.
2. Repeating Conversation
Autistic people may find it hard to keep flow of the conversation and in lots of cases may not register what you have just said so do not be alarmed if you are asked to repeat a part of the conversation.
3. Personal Space
People on the autism spectrum may not understand personal space. This means when you are talking with an autistic individual do not be shocked if they cannot understand your personal space.
4. Conversation Boundaries
There is a potential problem with many autistic individuals where they do not have any filter process or conversation boundaries to say things that may be perceived rude or inappropriate. Rest assured this isn’t their intention to upset or shock you.
5. Turn To Talk
Autistic people may not understand when it is their turn to talk or when they should stop talking for their part. This could included abrupt interruptions in you talking part (talking over you).
6. Body language
Lots of Autistc people do not understand or find it hard to understand body language and hang gestures so please be aware of this and do not worry if they are not understanding hand or body language.
7 Have Patience
Above all else, please just have a little more patience
People on the inspection of the difficulty with communication that’s why talking to autistic people should be something to think about when I wanted to talk to someone with autism.
A lot of autistic people are non-verbal so this has to be taken to help also but there is a large amount of autistic people who are vaguely able to speak and have a good vocabulary.
In this video I am outlining nine of the most important things you should know before talking to someone with an autism spectrum condition so you don’t offend attempt the conversation badly
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[@stormynights6678]

When you got to filters, my son said we're not Instagram we don't come with filters.

[@jacobjakus]

I’ve never met a girl like my girlfriend before, I know in order for us to work I have to learn everything autism has to offer, learn how to best communicate, because simply I don’t want to lose her. Not educating myself would’ve led it to that I’m sure. I can control what I can control, so learning everything about autism will put us in the best spot to work out. She’s the sweetest person in the world. She’s incredible.

[@mason6556]

Dude I need you lol. I'm talking to a girl and I just have no idea where I stand or how to get to know her better. I'm trying to learn. She told me I ask to many questions and gave me some articles on it, but I'm having a hard time.

[@babsbunny_]

I wish my family had your attitude

[@ingznricky472]

I often see parents of autistic kids say things in groups like: "help, my kid won't make eye contact, what can I do?" It always makes me think: "gee I don't know. Have you considered a psychologist? We can't help you with your desperate need for eyecontact"

[@chusoskever2649]

xD good one

[@gretagutensohn6728]

Lol

[@minchai2943]

In an austistic people perspective of not giving eye contact is because in our logic when we are talking we only use our mouth not our eyes that is why look around, you know actually using our eyes for looking around

[@enasbitch6988]

Meta moment; perhaps they feel that they are incompetent or have failed as a parent if their kid can’t do what they see as part of human basic behaviors. It’s out of worry, and out of ignorance at best, if not out of a need for perfection and control at worset

[@MsPopo81]

Too many neurotypical, narcissistic parents who want all eyes and attention on them perhaps? 😂

[@jodieoneill8305]

I am autistic. One of my special interests is researching about it

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh wow that’s amaZing!! I have a free autism webclass that would be super usful. You can watch it here: www.theaspieworld.com/freeautismwebclass/

[@hunternocedaclawthorn]

Same

[@patriciastewart2537]

A very appropriate 'special interest'! I think we are geneticly mutated to be a better human being. Nearsighted Honest Not a liar/ cheat.

[@ruthdavis4551]

@@patriciastewart2537 nearsightedness is a autism trait?? I am very nearsighted and wear glasses but I didn't know it had anything to do with autism.

[@Cerebrum123]

@@ruthdavis4551 I didn't either, I am going to research to see if there really is a link. Edit. It looks like there is a link, but nearsightedness is also common in those who are "neurotypical". I can't find any stats other than that it is "common" among those with autism along with other vision problems.

[@barbarasunday3514]

My girl went to meet two male friends she knows from gaming. Both of them are also on the spectrum.They communicate very well online, and have for years. They went to dinner together, she said, it was very quiet ,no one made eye contact, and none of them seemed to mind.This was important though, because one of those young men began to pick up on her ASD traits.

[@footyfan101ful]

Was she diagnosed? Females tend to get diagnosed later. I'm 29 in a few days I'm going to get tested.

[@Beth-iv4lj]

When people are also on the spectrum. I think a lot of the social issues that Neurotypical people find very hard work, disappear imo

[@annalundin9205]

Hi! 👋😊 I'm swedish and I was diagnosed at 15 (currently 19 yo) and the thing I related to the most in this video was how to know when it's my turn to talk. I often find it very difficult to read the flow of the conversation (especially in group conversations) which often leads to me being quiet the whole time or just straight up interrupting people, and then of course being told off for it. It's not that I'm trying to be rude or I think that what I have to say is more important, it's just really difficult to tell when it's potentially my turn to say something. But anyway thank you for making this video and using your channel to talk about this stuff and I hope you have a nice day 😊

[@Nipponing]

Hej. Skulle gärna vilja prata med dig som svensk autistisk. ._.

[@freddiesbycicle3876]

Same! I'm Swedish too (17 years old) and when I'm in a group conversation and want to say something I either end up interrupting someone or not saying it because of not finding a gap on the conversation. I probably come of as either rude or very shy, when that actually isn't what I am.

[@skooflefloofandfriends4557]

It also doesn't help when some people literally never give you a chance to speak....

[@mathilda6763]

Oh I know that problem. I have a really hard time not interrupting people. it's difficult to know when they're done and until then O probably forgot what I wanted to say anyway. I work having to talk to people and have done for years and it's still hard. Practise can make you get better but it's still not coming to me natural.

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@mathilda6763 Thats my daughters issue. Came home in tears after Drama practice. She couldnt tell if some of her classmates wanted her in a little circle or not.

[@srijita7358]

having aspergers ( similar to autism ) : tired of being called shy and weird

[@AoifeFriary]

kim_iko _iko i have aspergers too ( I’m a girl) but I love being called weird but only in a nice way ..

[@rdmgamester8932]

Don’t worry your not alone 😉 I get called shy and weird all the time your just doing your thing .

[@allthingsharbor]

I have been called shy and weird all my life. I am not anywhere on the autism spectrum. Some of us are just different. Learn to embrace that difference.

[@twisted-xh6066]

@@allthingsharbor I want to say it's a standard for us but it's not. It's aggravating having that act becoming an assumption. i.e. be the ground floor of your IQ. Speaking from someone who is or might not be on the spectrum. Haven't been rechecked for 30yrs

[@jadelouisetidman7400]

Is the (similar to autism) because you’re from a different country to me? I’m high functioning but it was diagnosed as autism and I’m told to call it that.

[@eisdamme]

I am late diagnosed (31 & 47) autistic. I watch and share a lot of videos in order to get information out there to make my own life easier as well as others' lives. A few of my real life friends are also pursuing diagnosis because of this.

[@kingrizz9737]

I was diagnosed with aspergers at 6 years old and have always felt something was wrong. My entire life was molded by it and I hated it. Through your videos I went to the doctor and he concluded I was misdiagnosed. I realised I don't have any of the traits anymore. Thanks Dan :)

[@jvance6]

That's really interesting.

[@f1zzg1g_47]

Jessica Vance yeah I’ve never heard of someone being misdiagnosed with autism. I’ve been misdiagnosed with an astronomical amount of things and never felt any of them fit until I came across a female KZbinr with autism and thought omg that’s me! Went to a neuropsychologist, had very extensive appts that lasted hours on end and was finally diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder at 27 years old. They were actually really confused why I wasn’t diagnosed as a kid especially since I had a counselor as young as 6 years old and a psychiatrist when I was only 11.

[@camellia8625]

Maybe you are extremely good at masking

[@AutomaticDuck300]

I’m not sure if it’s a case of not having the traits anymore. If you don’t have them naturally, you don’t have them. Although I do know what you mean and I understand your experience. I’m diagnosed with autism but I don’t fit most of the key criteria. After my diagnosis, my whole life was shaped around the diagnosis. Learning mindsets and coping strategies and social skills and better ways of doing things. But I watch these videos of signs you may have autism, and I don’t relate to most of them. It’s entirely possible to be misdiagnosed when actually you have ADHD or something else.

[@zoeismycat]

When I meet new people, I tell them that I'm autistic and that I need them to be honest with me and tell me when I'm being annoying or if I rub them the wrong way.

[@anniella29]

That’s one of the huge advantages of having the diagnosis. I’m 64 and have struggled my whole life communicating with people. But just people think I’m weird. I score really high on self assessment tests for autism but can’t really say that to people I meet. That would be weird too!

[@TooLongDoNotRead]

I always really struggle knowing when to talk in groups. One on one I do well, but it feels like groups are a free for all and there is never a quiet moment. Because the quiet moments are when a voice can speak right? In groups, I am never heard or often I am spoken over. I wish there was some kind of fairness to group conversation, like passing a baton, but that was a social norm.

[@rebieroo99]

i physically cant give eye contact, i think i am but my eyes dont go with my brain.

[@Dancestar1981]

We process info differently we have to look away to process that info too much eye contact interferes with that

[@BigChonkeyBoyeee]

I have a friend I met 2 years ago in a private school,I never noticed he was autistic until we were in year 12,I hang out with him and jam to his music everytime we get a chance to go outside during break,he considers me as his best friend and I feel bad for him cause I wanna make him happy so I became his best friend and we got to know each other more and got close,he really is a special friend that I needed around

[@justahuman8502]

My older brother has autism and our relationship is sometimes there, sometimes not. I’ve had a bit problems understanding what in his behaviour rly comes from autism and this video acc helped me. One point important for me is the being “mean” part and how you shouldn’t take it too seriously. My brother made me feel bad, dumb a lot of times and i often hated him for it. He also caused many problems in my family and made our life harder. Maybe it’s important to mention he’s only been diagnosed for like a year. I didn’t expect that much but i think this did help me being more accepted and tolerant with him.

[@babsbunny_]

If he was causing problems in your family life but your parents didn’t help with psychological treatment/diagnosis ever then your anger should be placed with your parents, not your brother. He’s the child of them.

[@Maggie-yv7qq]

Good listening, I've worked alongside autism, ADHD, etc for most of my adult life, studied, trained,diplomas, you name it I've tried to get it and try to understand, then out of the blue I managed to have an absolutely beautiful grandson, yes he's on the spectrum...I know he loves me and yes he had no filter that's ok. You have taught me so much no diploma's can teach me Thank you .....

[@kirstyatwell344]

The personal space one is awkward... I have Asperger's and am very sensitive to people being in my space, I don't like physical contact much, but I have had several schoolfriends (probably also on the spectrum) who had no concept of personal space and kept hugging me when I wasn't expecting it... it made me uncomfortable, but I know they couldn't help it so I just put up with it ☺

[@jclyntoledo]

Yikes reminds me of that scene in Mr. robot. I'm glad you're okay with it but I would still mention it to them.

[@zoeismycat]

Even now, my stepsister tells me to grow up when I say or do something that's not socially acceptable.

[@milkshakeflake]

Sounds like hard work. I used to get that from my parents too... Along with why are you being so sensitive, grow up and stop being so soft...

[@myimperfectlife2023]

She sounds terrible.

[@Dancestar1981]

Milkshake Flake that drives me nuts

[@zoeismycat]

My younger sister always had to explain to my mom, other sisters, relatives, and friends my thought process and how and why I said or did something before someone yelled at me.

[@ruthdavis4551]

@@zoeismycat I'm so sorry

[@joannakieran9373]

I am a mum to 3y8m old boy on the spectrum. He is absolute joy. He loves teasing people and has a great laugh. I have ADHD myself so I am not a very strict mum. We have very close bond as he is sensory seeker so likes his hugs. Me and my hubby do RDI therapy at home with him which is just so natural and each day he comes with new discovery and ideas. I read and watched about autism at the very begining so we never forced him to do eye contact etc. It just comes naturaly when he is really into something which is cars, especially Land Rovers! His first word was car. So we don't watch kids cartoons on TV, we watch Land Rover Annual Party in Spain! (We are from UK). I though him how to draw circles and shapes by drawing cars together. Songs, numbers etc again through cars. Just letting him to be a child, not overloading with activities and meeting his sensory needs created a safe space for him where he thrives. I know it might become more difficult when he starts school but we learn new things each day. Your channel is great as it gives a good perspective. Thanks for your time making all these videos!

[@dmanh5144]

You have done an awesome job just making Autism seem like less of a condition than a trait, and that really helps. Like another viewer said, I am also tired of being called shy and weird. Knowing that so many other people were born this way and also must learn to live with it, makes the condition feel less about me than it used to. That was a great relief.

[@stevenl1706]

Yes, my experience is very similar. Before my diagnosis at age 31, I always made it completely about myself and thought that I was just more intelligent than everyone else or I was born differently (which actually was the truth) but it was a very inward thing before the diagnosis.

[@gamer546lg5]

People start treating autism like your whole personality and your only trait. People arent becoming more intelligent on the matter the more "aware" they are, theyre becoming dumber and dumber. They will ignore everything you say or feel because apparently the diagnosis in a piece of paper made by someone that doesnt even know how you truly are is more true about you than you.

[@Drankovich]

I always had a sense I was different even though I'd now consider myself high-functioning on the spectrum, often struggling with maintaining communication & social aspects a lot, faltering in academics and being very detail oriented (strong lean toward creativity). Recently I applied for an nhs assessment as I'm hoping it can at least give me some clarity or some kind of official affirmation but given the waiting list is so long I'm told it'll be 6 years to be seen. I'm 28 now. This channel has been a life line helping me rationalize myself and enhance my understanding of the why and how to approach life as neurodiverse, so I thank you for that Dan! Have to watch this again to digest the information more lol

[@mxtchaboba]

My sister has autism! This channel has really inspired her to be her best self! Thank you so much for helping her through tough times in her life!

[@cwimberley76]

Is mumbling common? Or talking too quiet? I’ve had the problem my whole life

[@magi.c]

Same, I think it might be ^

[@Hewhowalksbehindtherows]

I live with my grandfather and he often jokes, "I'm gonna start calling you 'mumbles'" so I know exactly what you mean.

[@jvance6]

Do you think it's a confidence thing?

[@nydcat]

I mumble to myself, from what I understand verbalizing our thoughts can help think. I tend to repeat a sentence I just said very quietly when I'm uncomfortable.

[@lemurkirsche7891]

Defenitely. I always get told I should speak up, even so for me my voice sounds already like I would scream.

[@justmeek]

I'm a mum to a 4 yr old autistic boy. He hates eye contact but he will with me. Anyone else he doesn't. He has made progress with his father by daddy holding something up infront of his eyes so he looks close enough to eye contact. He too has no filter, and boy god do I love him for it cos he's hilarious but he certainly has put me in some funny situations. He repeats a hell of a lot of phrases too which comes up at some weird moments but it is just him and that's what makes him him. He's certainly had me laugh more times than crying. And I love how simple he is about everything, brings me back down to earth. Also is obsessed with numbers and long maths sums that I have to use my fingers to count on meanwhile he does the sums in his head while he taps his feet and hums 😂 he honestly taught me the meaning of life from his world and it's made me a better person!

[@jesusfirst1825]

i watch your vids primarily because i like someone who is also autistic and i have this strong feeling that he is my soulmate or my match that's why i'm preparing myself to understand him but even if let's he is not my the one, it's just nice to understand other people particularly those who are ND.

[@natalia_vlatka]

I think I have asperger, still trying to figure out how it all works. Never thought I had a mental ilness before, I thought that I was just different (or better) than everyone, but now things are making a lot more sense.

[@Dancestar1981]

It’s not a mental illness it’s a neurological difference which develops in the womb during the first trimester of pregnancy

[@andreathrasher5879]

My fiancé got his diagnosis as being under the spectrum yesterday. I’m really glad to have came across your channel. I’ve already learned several things in one video! Thank you so much and I look forward to your future vids! I have lots of binging to get to!

[@Dumbpuppet101]

Thank you sincerely this has really helped me understand my friend in conversation & helps me realise that tolerance love and understanding should really be prioritised over these stupid social norms I was taught to “value” as a kid growing up. I hate that I’d get confused at no eye contact or talking over me etc but glad folks like you have increased my understanding and awareness ❤

[@logancase7251]

Hello from Arizona! I’m a 23-year-old self discovering that I am and have been on the spectrum for my whole life. I knew I have always been different. I have struggled my whole life with making friends and simply communicating with everyday faces. As a teenager I self discovered that I had OCD and ADHD, and now as a fully developed adult I am now 99.9% sure that I have high-function autism or Asperger’s syndrome. Watching videos like yours and meeting other people online with Aspie’s has been very helpful to me and I want to thank you for sharing this knowledge with myself and others, and for helping me along my journey of self-discovery!

[@heatherpsyd]

I'm a clinical/forensic psychologist, and I just watched your VI live stream, so I wanted to check out your channel. While I'm familiar with ASDs from a professional sense, I don't know what life looks like everywhere else, and I want to learn more. This was a great video, thank you for sharing!! :)

[@alexgardner8016]

I'm 15 and have high functioning autism and I got diagnosed around like 6months ago, your videos rlly helped me understand my diagnosis and feel comfortable :)

[@missblue4778]

I’ve been wondering for the past 3 months if I’m autistic. I ended up joining some groups for autistic women and talking to many others and now I know for sure I am! I can’t tell you how relieved I am right now. I can’t wait to finish my proper assessment with my dr!

[@allthingsharbor]

I find your videos helpful in dealing with certain aspect of my partner's life, as he is autism spectrum. But I think we also need a "non-autism-spectrum" course for those ON the spectrum, on how to better communicate and understand people who are not autistic. Communication, after all, is a two way street. Instruction from someone on the spectrum would surely be more palatable or possibly less like "just another lecture" from non-spectrum persons.

[@TheDuddelle]

I feel like all I do is try to communicate so non autistic people will understand me, but that doesn’t make a difference. We fail most of the time when we are trying our best to be aware and considerate of others. It is very exhausting to do that for others to the point we can’t help but fail after trying for even just a little while. It is depressing and isolating. At least I have a husband and therapist I like and animals. Everyone else is a struggle to communicate with. I have to verify what they are saying a lot because I don’t understand or I disagree often and I can see them getting annoyed and impatient. People start talking to me like, if I only put in the work, I wouldn’t be wasting their time asking them these rude dumb questions. They ask me why am I acting so suspicious which surprises me, because I’m sincerely asking a lot of questions because I’m trying to understand even after studying hard before. I’m sure your husband already feels like a failure. Since you’re asking for instruction, I can tell you that I would want someone to say it to me like this, “I know this is hard for you, but could you say or do this when we do this. It helps me with this.” It might take a while for him to get it, but keep it short and sweet. He probably needs you repeat what you said as if he didn’t hear it the first time but that’s just what it takes to get it. When he does that thing you don’t want again, you could say, “this is what I meant when I said... “ if he still keeps doing that thing you don’t like, it might be time to accept the limitation. If he does improve, that’s a big deal. It will be one of a few memories of true connection he’ll ever have.

[@hspoiala]

I'm in Canada and my son was diagnosed as having high functioning autism. I work as a DSW (with individuals with higher needs) and tend to want to treat my son as having higher needs. I enjoy your videos because it helps me recognize his traits without lumping him in the same group as the individuals I work with. You also help me to have faith that it will all work out and how he can be independent in the future. Thank-you!!!!

[@marzkilljoy731]

My boyfriend has been been struggling for years and he has all the bullet points you went over and its so refreshing to see someone talk about something he's never had any help with. Thank you so much. He knows what steps he can take now to get appropriate help.

[@vanessak.2353]

How did you become so self aware? I tried to get my husband to watch your videos, because he doesn't believe he's Autistic. He just says " I don't do that" , "that's not me", "I don't talk alot ", etc. It's sooooo frustrating.

[@peggysterling57]

Yes my husband doesn't talk alot. Very quiet, wondering if that's a symptom...

[@asylicate2701]

I have a new coworker at my work place and she openly stated she was on the spectrum to me, trying to make sure I was aware of that. I tend to be sarcastic and make jokes with everyone else in the workplace but sometimes I make one with her and she seems really stumbled. I feel really bad that I make these mistakes. But definitely want to make sure she feels comfortable in the work place and I would really like to be her friend.

[@footyfan101ful]

I'm an undiagnosed autistic (looking for a place to get tested) and I hate when people stand to close to me or too far from me. Makes me really nervous and anxious.

[@samanthalyn13]

i’m autistic and i want to say thank you for making videos and educating people who aren’t. there’s so so so many things neurotypical people don’t seem to understand about us and i hope they can someday.

[@patrickbourke2385]

This is super helpful as I started a new job a couple weeks ago. I consider myself mildly on the spectrum but there is a guy there who very clearly displays a lot of autistic symptoms. I find that I get on with him better than most people do because I kinda know how his brain operates to an extent so this video is just really useful to get some more info/ideas on how best to communicate with him. The whole lack of eye contact thing finally makes sense to me coming from the perspective of the neurotypical person. Speaking with my colleague, I sometimes feel that he isn't interested with what I say or that he just isn't engaged. I now realise that's how I must come off when I do this to other people. Turns out that it's just a bit overwhelming to maintain eye contact all the time.

[@kimhaughey9161]

I am not Autistic but the video was suggested from looking more into Autism. I have worked supporting children in a school for many years and am always searching for more information about Autism, ADHD, Aspergers amongst many other areas of interest so that we can be the best communicators and providers of support where we can. This video is fabulous. It's clear. Concise. Made me chuckle often throughout where you animate the examples you are talking about. I am off to check out the other vids :) Thanks for sharing.

[@linaleia]

Omg the clarification thing. I always repeat things back to people to clarify that I understood it the way they meant it. NTs can be incredibly vague when giving instructions, adding in all these weird little signals which I can’t read, I’m like ‘nope, you need to say the WORDS...’

[@sarahflynnsabala3820]

I'm a care provider n my client is autism n I never work with this disability before so I'm here to understand there point of view n better understanding

[@beatieswanepoel3004]

Hi, I am from South Africa and have a 3yr old autistic grandson. ❤

[@emilyberry508]

I am in a relationship with a partner that is most likely on the spectrum. I find it hard at times to communicate and have personal intimacy with him. I love him and am wanting to learn what I can to meet him where he is at.

[@keixcruick90]

I'm on the spectrum, and I'm always interested in the information you have to share since it's super helpful for me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@clarenceandlilaw]

#5 is where I have most of my problems. It's been my biggest issue my entire life and it's gotten me in trouble, made people look at me in a negative way, and has over all has made the biggest impact in my day to day life.

[@SouthLightFX]

Thank you Dan. If only everyone (who's not on the spectrum) could realise what it is ACTUALLY like to live with Aspergers... if they could, I'm sure the world would be a much more understanding place. Thanks for helping to make the world THAT more understanding place.

[@sarahramsey289]

i was officially diagnosed with high functioning autism when i was really young and it really infuriates me when loads of people tell me that i don't look/act like an autistic person and people would bully me to point where i'd skip class to cry alone and it ended up giving me really severe depression that i still experience to this day but that all changed when i met my best friend who've I've known since 3rd grade and she makes my days so much better also i hate making eye contact because i'm shy so alot of the time i'll get spoken over or get told to speak up which i can't really do because it makes me uncomfortable so i'm better at one on one conversations to people i'm really close to (family or close friends)

[@314Carmel_Autistic_]

I have autism myself and I love your videos. Your videos are a safe haven for our community.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hero!! 🔥✌🏼

[@SuperGingernutz]

As always, spot-on, Dan! I relate to all of these situations and the pain and frustration it brought and still brings. Also, I wish that neurotypical people would also have some charity and respect for people with Autism, too.

[@tanningandtarot]

I’m so grateful for this channel. I can’t believe how much I’ve learned this is incredible.

[@andrewmorton395]

Yes I tend to say things, that mite up set people.

[@wilderbeest773]

I beg your pardon, sir! LOL ;)

[@cassyb9587]

From Michigan, USA. I love your channel so please keep doing what you are doing! I work in a school and interact with so many different people all with unique circumstances. Hopefully by increasing my awareness and understanding I can help in encouraging inclusivity.

[@cruelcumber5317]

I'm currently exploring the possibility that I may be autistic (really bad time for this to happen considering the quarentine), and this video was really helpful in describing more clearly what some of the behaviors that an autistic person might have in conversation looks like in practice. Main example being that I had heard the "not knowing when it's their turn to talk" thing, but never really understood what that meant until it was detailed here and I was able to relate it to how I end up going through conversations often times.

[@juliam1721]

I love this. I just found out abt ASD this year so before that I knew I struggled but didn’t know why and had no clue what I needed to ask for. Now I do.

[@emmaohr3821]

Hi! Thank you for your videos. I live in Sweden and I just got out from a week in an mental institution (?) My English isn’t great so I am sorry if I use wrong terms and have bad grammar. But I am angry. The young man next to my room have autism. The nurses and interns/patients all treated him like a child. Never gave him the chanse to even answer questions. In his own time. But I believe he and I made a connection. Because I talked to him like a person. And waited. No pressure. And the answers I got was very smart, thoughtfull and gave me something to think about. I value our conversations more than any other. And the smile I got from him makes me smile still. Wish I could meet him again. Lovely person!

[@pyrotvfun]

My mother kept this a secret from me for 20yrs and wasn't until recently I started coming to terms with it since she told me a year ago. As a 29yr old I have noticed many things that have kept me back because I don't understand it nor people understand me. Your videos are helping me understand myself as a person and hopefully learn tricks to better myself. Thank you and keep going with the videos

[@camellia8625]

I had my diagnosis withheld from me for some decades as well. I resent the fact I didn’t get the support or protections I needed.

[@stefanialeonova9134]

My condition has been called numerous things by different people. High functioning autism, Asperger's, ASD, Autism, to name a few. Official name is Autism level one. Not many knows, in fact only my family and my best friends family do, but I often tell my best friend what to do. Write properly, no interruptions, patience, and so on. And lots of affection, since I suffer from severe depression as well.

[@sandcat66]

Hi Dan, my 11 year old ASD son is Homeschooled and constantly gets people saying "oh you have the day off today "? My son is so shy he just says yes and I answer for him. Sometimes he starts flapping his hands if he is nervous and isn't sure what to say. He is getting much better at communicating with people and answering people that talk to him. Thankyou Dan I love your videos.

[@mattbarrett7707]

I'm 39 and believe I have undiagnosed autism. Watching your videos is very useful and helping me come to terms with things

[@unconditionallovehomeschoo1830]

Thank you. I showed this to my oldest daughter to help her understand her siblings. My husband and I love your videos.

[@bradydefelice2944]

The Autism community appreciates all you’re doing, thank you

[@b18powwr]

Hi from Sweden! I love watching you to learn more about Autism, as I have Aspergers Syndrome

[@louisethompson5891]

I work with autistic people. This is a great resource. Thank you

[@TheAspieWorld]

Awesome!! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@michelebriere9569]

For me, eye contact is caught up in my problem of multitasking. I can look, listen, or talk, but not at the same time. Trying to do so makes my brain do more than one thing at a time. Multitasking.

[@freddieleejonesiii1892]

My 5yr old has high functioning Autism. So thanks for these videos. I'm learning a lot!

[@AH-qb1hw]

I’m on the spectrum, have Aspergers and Add and I really like your videos😄 they help me and are helpful when I don’t know how to explain something 😄

[@jeangrigsby7925]

My Sister gets so mad at me if I don't answer her quickly. She thinks I am not listening to her. I don't know how to explain it to her. Sometimes it takes me longer I think because I don't want her to misunderstand! I would really love your opinion Dan. I always appreciate your input. You have helped me immensely, and for that I sincerely thank you!

[@zoeismycat]

I'm autistic and was diagnosed with it last fall when I was 34. I also have a learning disability (slow processing speed, math computation and working memory). My daughter has Asperger's and my youngest sister is also autistic. Both of them were diagnosed when they were toddlers. Bluntness is our gift. Even when we don't mean to be rude.

[@Dancestar1981]

It is possible to have other deficits with ASD I have difficulty with complex maths fine motor coordination I also have sensory sensitivities to light, sound and touch

[@clairegiles964]

Hi, I’m an employment coach and work with young people with many disabilities but mainly autism. I’m always looking to learn new techniques. Thank you for your video.

[@Realalbertcrowley]

I like it when you reenact the situation it's funny especially when you was talking about taking turns talking which I also have trouble with but when you was playing out the situation it reminded me of one scene from father ted where ted asks father jack for his idea on what to do about something in the episode but father jack tries to say his idea but keeps forgetting it

[@bradleycomer4183]

Thank you for the video. You have said everything I have not been able to communicate for over 30yrs. I am sure those around me as few, well anyway, Many Many Thanks!

[@jadecobra5530]

I have aspergers syndrome but it super mild and usualy most people cant tell im on the spectrum. However eye contact is easy but i am super sensitive to noise. I never really ask people to repeat things. I dont see boundarys at all in conversation. I hate being touched so i tend to stay away unless im close to a person. I still have a hard time shuting up when i get started talking. Body language kinda helps but i need to see facial expressions to understand. Anyway thanks so much for posting this is a huge help to me and has helping me to use my quirks as i call them to my advantage.

[@roysmith7087]

Conversation boundaries. I either say exactly what's on my mind, or break into other people's conversation and insert myself in their topics. It's like my mouth is on autopilot. I get talked over or cut off. I do talk across people and I don't mean to be like that.

[@Lee-ic2yn]

Stop it then

[@Stype84]

My partner was just diagnosed with autism, she’s 25, I’m here to learn to be a better partner to her. Thanks for the content

[@aspiemepoetrybanks6819]

All what you said is totally true. It's a challenge in so many ways

[@thejessejamesofcars6965]

I'm on the spectrum...i do my own channel ...not talking that much about autism but just vlogging my day... 1. I Hate eye contact. 2. I always ask " what do you mean?" 3. People are always telling my I'm being rude. 4. I like the 6 foot rule. 😆 5. I can actually listen to you and talk at the same time. People hate it and I have issues understanding I'm doing it. 7. I don't have the issue with hand movements. I do not seem to understand facial expressions and body language. (Social Cues) I have watched you grow on KZbin and helping others. It inspires me to start my own Vlog channel. I think just filming helps me go out in public better. I feel like the world is filtered and I'm behind the filter.

[@elijahmakesmusic5862]

I love your channel. It’s so helpful for us with our son.

[@SoberOKMoments]

Thanks for another great video. I'm learning a lot that will help me with two of my grandchildren who have aspergers.

[@heatherwebber9747]

I am now 73 yrs and never diagnosed but all those things except the last one are my challenges. I am loving Lockdown as I don’t have to interact and feel tense and anxious because people of my age think I’m weird or rude or stupid.

[@iamdivinelyabundant777]

im married to someone who was told by a therapist that he is on the spectrum and that it seems like aspergers...I love him and i want to make sure that im being considerate of him

[@mr_weird6324]

I will pass this on to my friends hopefully it will help them to deal with me (I have high functioning autism)

[@jonasandersen5857]

I want to learn more about what it's like to be autistic, how and not to approach and talk to them

[@jco1788]

Who the heck gave thumbs down? Stumbled upon the movie and I am more informed. Sharing! Thank you, good job!

[@TheAspieWorld]

Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@luken4072]

HFA here. Yeah the no-filter trait always resonated with me. Unfortunately I came across as either rude or brutally honest. Even though now my approach is a lot more nuanced I’m still working on improving my conversational skills to this day

[@thefloorist5169]

Almost all the things you named is really relatable to me (undiagnosed autistic girl). Especially at work. Imagine having a speech impediment too (sometimes i talk too fast/soft/etc). My coworkers try their best to communicate well with me.

[@musictomoveit]

I have all those things too ♥️ thanks for posting!

[@Chucklenutz67]

I want a video on how I can talk to non autistic people as an autistic person because I am terrible at keeping conversations

[@jonquiathomas6685]

I appreciate your videos, Daniel

[@fifteenq9102]

Hi dan, I have 15q11.2 micro deletion, my daughter inherited this from me, she also has ASD, lnd, spd, extreme anxiety,social mutism, and CDD. I have some ASD traits, and have been told I am more likely to have ASD than nor. We did not find out about our condition until a couple of years ago and all the pieces cascaded into place for me. I am not a fan of social situations, avoid telephone conversations, get very very stressed at times, I have always “tickled, or stroked” my hands and fingers (is that stimming?] and don’t do well with the “grey” areas of my job.... I live in it either is or is not kind of world, and sometimes need the prompt “it was just a joke” otherwise I get quite cross at times... I’m 50 now and don’t think I have anything to gain now by a diagnosis or assessment. I am an online mathematics teacher, and love the structure and integral order of my subject. I am also a third degree blackbelt in Taekwondo and have trained alongside Olympic coaches, world champions and olympians (although that was in my youth).

[@koset]

Dan, when I'm around others on the spectrum, it's common for everyone to talk over one another and I have great difficulty with that. When someone interrupts nonstop, I lose my train of thought and my motivation to participate. I think the patience needs to go both ways. What are your thoughts?

[@snidleywhiplash3844]

Ugh I felt all of these. Esp number 2. I have an auditory processing disorder as part of my ND diagnosis (asd, adhd, severe spd/apd) and my brain struggles to tell the difference between human voices and organic or inorganic sounds. If someone is talking too fast or in an accent, I cannot perceive any actual words. I've been told that talking to me sucks because i talk super fast yet make people talk super slow when it is their turn to speak 😅

[@ladeacarr4245]

i have a junior coworker that may be on the spectrum, just want to lead with empathy, and gather tools to best support them

[@lydiaricardo2469]

Excellent Dan, very informative..

[@FxckingZeRO]

Hello! Thank you for this video, I started dating this person who is autistic, this video was extremely helpful. Thank you!

[@lyunacentral]

im autistic, and this is kinda the only vids that makes me feel understood, so thx fer keeping ur videos up

[@katherineisaacs5441]

I have autism ADD and Dyslexia and when I get real nervous I say words backwards and sometimes I can't understand what people say so I have to ask them alot of times to repeat and then sometimes I still don't understand so I get them to write it down. And if I feel comfortable with people I stand close to them and follow them around at social events. Thank you for this video I'm glad I'm not alone 😁😅

[@thatrunningirl]

dan - it would be great to see some coloured merch on the aspie world site - i'd love to buy a shirt or hoodie but colour is really important to me, it's a sensory thing so would be great to see some bright colours there like zingy green or hot pink!

[@PhantomAngelofMusic]

Allo! I'm an Autistic (previously Aspergers) AFAB genderfluid person (currently) from Colorado. I found your video the other day, as one of my neighbors apparently gave the ENTIRE building bedbugs, and I've noticed my partner (who is not on the spectrum) and I are having way more fights as we try to prepare for D-Day (heat treatment,) and I'm having more and more trouble with looping, stuttering, and yeah... there's been at least two major meltdown's on my end. So, I went looking for videos to send to my partner to see if anything could help them understand better how to communicate with me during periods of excessively high stress. ^^

[@thuggie1]

my best friend when i am with him when i meet people he gives me the rundown on what not to say to people how to act also he plans out the week and where are going before i get there. i suppose its why i feel relaxed i am not having anything random come up