TAMING THE TONGUE | James 3:1-12

Words are powerful. Proverbs 18:21 tells us LIFE and DEATH are in the power of the tongue. It is a small part of the body, yet it can bring about tremendous impact - either for good or for bad.
Last week I spoke on James 3:1-12 for my church's high school youth group, which is a passage all about taming the tongue. I learned SO much from the time I spent prepping this message and wanted to share it with you all here as well. 💛 Comment what stood out to you from this video down below! ✨
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“From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so." | James 3:10

[@kacinicole]

Ah James 3 is SO good! What stood out to you most from this passage? 💛

[@KarenEstfny]

Don't be reactive.

[@alexandrazarycka7224]

I loved the analogy you used. Good topic and always love your videos!

[@son_of_hiskingdom5092]

oh wow, such a great topic. HARDLY ANYONE TALKS ABOUT IT. for me it is, what you say you steer your ship straight into. That can a blessing or a disaster. Even to a point of tying God's hands so to speak.

[@user-wf5my5il9c]

I call it spiritual duct tape. I loved the analogy of fire. It can be used for good or destruction. For today I will speak life over myself and others. Thank you.

[@paulmartin7053]

Working on those areas in my faith I do watch less curse movies more faith content and glorifying our creator amen together amen ✝️☦️🥱✝️🙏🌅✝️🔥🔥

[@CateOtanes]

This is soooo convicting. As someone who talks a lot without thinking about what I'm about to say, this is very challenging and encouraging. You are so good at communicating this passage well, Kaci. Keep going. Hope your time with the youth went well

[@graceleska3195]

James 3- First thing I thought about is how the tongue Is like a wild fire

[@kacinicole]

Yes such a good analogy for it! 🙌🏼

[@joshuajames9625]

I've been praying for almost two years for a specific blessing and every time I finish a fasting day or a week and realize that what I've been praying for has been delayed, my faith takes a hit and also my words become more negative. Made me realize that Blessing and cursing is in the power of the tongue and I ought to bridle my tongue, so God can work in me life. Thank you for sharing this!

[@carolynbohannon4602]

That word perfect in James in greek means mature. I have a 91 year old lady friend i have know for 30 years. And all those years i have never heard her speak one word about another and i have never heard her complain. There are men and women that are mature in Christ. And i thank God every day that she has been in my life. She lives her very love and fear of God. By his grace she has taught me so much. I always say to her.. Just think we have know each other 30 years and then we will be spending eternity together. Thank Lord Jesus. This was a wonder to the point teaching from Gods precious word

[@gabriellebarbir7039]

This was AMAZING! I couldn’t look away. I’ve been a Christian for a long time but I needed this reminder and I learned some new things too! So many great correlations straight from Scripture to every day life. Thanks for making the Word of God come alive!!

[@gonaw4476]

*This is ISLAM for you. The church is changing their sermons because they hear our Islamic sermons. I don't mind sharing good. More the better. But be honest & say that Quran empathizes CONTROL THY TONGUE a 100x more*

[@rosieroberts6738]

I am a NEW SUBSCRIBER!!! Taming the TONGUE is something that I need to focus on daily. ✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️

[@michaelazariah73]

I like her explaination on James chapter 3 very lovely 😍 👌 👍 🥰 ☺️

[@mariaverde7516]

You’re AMAZING!! I could be your mother and here you are teaching me something I never realized. Thank you lovely young lady. Your parents I know are very proud of you. God bless. 🙏✝️

[@anessarodriguez1320]

I was actually just quoting James 3:1 earlier, how James warns that not many should become teachers as they will receive a stricter judgment. The power of the tongue can easily cause one to stumble, even a teacher. It really convicts and warns us to practice what we preach/teach! Not just in possibility of stumbling in words while teaching, but even outside of teaching! I love James. It really puts into perspective how we should apply the word in our lives and not just be hearers only 🙏

[@jameselam8263]

What a great message! This is just one of those things we are all guilty of doing in some way at some point. I almost felt scold by your message but it was in such a kind motherly way. For me its complaining or saying something negative when its better just to let it go. Which is something i've dealt with recently. I really like the book of James. Thank you so much for this message!

[@angelakay8518]

Oh my goodness! When you described the bible as a mirror that reflects the things we need help fixing...🤯That blew my mind! I often read the bible and feel this guilt because "I'm not doing this right," or "I could certainly improve here." But it's not meant to be taken that way. Wow, thank you so much for sharing this! God bless you!

[@iamzionrainey]

Big sister in Christ 🙏🏾

[@kacinicole]

Yay sisters in Christ! 😊

[@KeithFleming-qs2kh]

Well done sister that's the thing about the word of the lord it's active living sharper than any 2 edged sword

[@loucorlis9001]

Hi, I am 81. I came to know Jesus, January 30th 1966. This is the best message on taming the tongue I have heard in my lifetime. Thank you so much.👍🏼✨️✨️

[@amber23ledoux]

Talk about conviction!! I was thinkin about the words I was speaking today and how I was ashamed and then this pops up

[@candacegoldvlogs]

I watch your videos every morning. You explain things so well, I just love this video so much too. It is something that we all struggle with. I used to burst out in rage and say whatever came to mind (hurting the other person). Recently I started praying about this, I didn’t want to be that person anymore. And I noticed that I don’t talk back anymore. I keep quiet as is someone is holding my tongue. My mind started telling me that I’ve become weak and the other person has control over me however after watching this, I realized that this is somewhat the answer to my prayers. That I don’t react out of anger and I sit quietly to think first before responding.. I am more calm now than ever.

[@natalielynn7512]

Thank you so much for seeking Jesus and sharing what you find in His Word! I just found your channel and it is already such a blessing to me! Keep going, girl! You are impacting God's Kingdom in such a beautiful, fruitful way! My biggest take away is refusing to misrepresent someone's character. I am not God so I do not know the heart or intentions of another person. By gossiping, I am playing the role of the judge, and that is not my place. Gossiping is misrepresenting people. By refusing to gossip, I am honoring people the way I want them to honor me!

[@mariad3011]

Great message! So hard to NOT gossip with friends and family!

[@modelingmotherhood]

You have such a gift for sharing the gospel. Your youth are so lucky that you speak into them with these verses and discussion. How I wish I would have had such a role model in my early life. Would have avoided many mistakes and sins ! God bless you and thank you for sharing your wisdom on KZbin.

[@theworldistheworld]

Thank you for this video, I've read this passage from James before in the bible. I've never seen someone describe it this well before and explain the reasoning for example lying, boasting, spreading gossip and not keeping my tongue in check. I've been battling with drug addiction all my life and I've used my tongue in bad ways, just to get my next fix.

[@ignatiussilveira4257]

Your teaching is of biblical truth & full of inspiration. Thank you Kaci Nicole. May God bless you & your family & may all those listening be blessed with your teaching.😊

[@vassooramanjooloo5001]

Amen !! Praise GOD !! Beautifully put together 👍 So much clarity and understanding in your sayings My Friend .. Yes, HIS HOLY SPIRIT alone can help us to subdue our tongues,only by speaking in tongues ... And as HIS Righteousness Too in our lives,will empower us to bridle our tongues .. The bible says " I will guard my ways,lest I sin with my tongues..I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle,while The Wicked Are before me " ( Psalms 39:1 ) GOD Bless You.. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🔥🔥

[@eliasgonzalez8730]

16 All Scripture is inspired by God, and useful to teach, to reprove, to correct, to instruct in righteousness, 17 That the man of God may be perfect, fully prepared for every good work.

[@jimenacarrasco8719]

Loved this video! First of all, I want to say that you explained this wonderfully and the video was amazing. It made me realize how powerful words can be and the story you said about the feathers and how the kid wasn't going to be able to pick them all up, that just hit me because you don't know the damage your words can do and how other people may interpret them. You don't know what everyone is going through and you won't always know if what you said affected someone else or not so you can't fix it.

[@baus7]

Same and I am so guilty. 😔 I have so much to work on.

[@hwaiting713]

Thank you so much kaci! This was much needed for me .. it was an eye opener ... Keep doing this good work! Praise to god ✨

[@laurenmoquette]

The fire and wild animal analogies are literally so good because I like to keep those analogies in my mind when something happens I can imagine myself literally turning down a fire lol

[@lauraramosdelgado]

Thank you for your teachings Kaci. I appreciate them so much because you speak in a way that connects with a younger audience. I've been reading the bible lately and trying to put away some time for God because when I do I feel better, more at peace, less hectic, more grounded. Loving your channel! Keep up the good work.

[@Bleu-en2bf]

Thank you, I will write this out 100x. 'Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; ' James 1:19

[@bekeludesta2225]

Be blessed

[@Mikelafication]

Great examples and anecdotes!

[@eldhosempeter3971]

Thank you so much

[@JessicaClaireWaller]

I really needed this video, thank you Kaci xx

[@shelbiemegan199]

Love these kinds of videos! You are such an encouragement and amazing role model! ❤️

[@mrskraut1975]

Thank you for the video. God bless you.

[@JonathanDirmann]

Love the book of James!!! SO good!!! 🙌🏻

[@jamesdeckard6130]

Loved your video and your message! Thank you.

[@yadirarivera7029]

God bless love this video great job

[@evep766]

Loved it 💕

[@kaylahenkeman2078]

Kaci, you presented this lesson so well. Thank you 🌼

[@kaitlynnespivey5189]

loveeee ur channel

[@tanyaprince1647]

Love these videos. Make more please.

[@KarenEstfny]

I learned a lot!! This Bible Study was a blessing! Thank you 💖

[@londiyanimanda2817]

Thank you so much I really needed this 🙏🏾

[@mehsodpaw4063]

We've missed you. Thanks for your new video. 🤍

[@VictorTreasure]

Thank you

[@janmcwilliams4910]

So well explained...thank you ❣️

[@kacinicole]

Ah I’m so glad it was helpful! 🙌🏼

[@MichaelMorehead711]

A Prayer for Mental Peace Almighty and Everlasting God, countless people are struggling in the recesses of their minds. The stress and anxiety of a consumeristic life have left many of Your children mentally scarred. Once someone has descended into their pit, it is so difficult to claw back out. Father, descend to them. Rescue them from the hopeless pit of mental anguish. Purify their minds and give them a hope that transcends all things. For You, O Lord, are gracious beyond measure. Amen Shalom Hallelujah.

[@andreajaramillo8025]

To be kind and always be the best person when spreading the word of god

[@sandyduet2049]

Thank you for sharing GODs word!! ❤️❤️

[@THESWORFAMILY]

Very helpful. A daily struggle for me. Thank you so much!!❤️❤️

[@lexiebrasher470]

loved this message!!

[@faitholateju6590]

LOVE THE MIRROR ANALOGY- BROUGHT DEEP UNDERSTANDING 😊

[@bonganialtidorekgogwane]

Amen ❤ powerful word

[@a.k.4085]

I wish I would have listened to this a lot earlier today because I messed up.

[@olaworlddd._]

This was amazing, I learned so much!! Thank you so much for taking your time to share it with us, God bless you ✨✨🙏🏻

[@kathmayer]

So much wisdom Kaci! Always loved your bible study vids. Thanks for making one on this topic! super important

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

i'm so happy i came across your channel 🙏🏽🤍 love your bible study videos

[@kacinicole]

Aw thank you so much - I'm so glad you like them and so happy to have you here!

[@victoriastewart1523]

Preaaaaach girl! You are so amazing and I am so happy that I found your channel. 🤍

[@shirleyismail708]

Thanks for sharing this encouraging teaching which is so convicting. Stay blessed 🧡

[@valmandz]

Thank you Kaci. This was what i needed today. And perhaps everday. I've saved this to my playlist for when i need you to give me a boost. Glad i stumbled into your channel few months ago. More content like this please 🙏 ❤️

[@madewithpurposeyt]

you just have such wonderful a way of teaching!! God seriously speaks through you in all of your videos! such a light! also, this topic is so important and not talked about enough! thank you for addressing it!💛

[@joycemobley3189]

God bless you

[@evetted21]

Thanks kaci for another great topic of book of James 3 taming the tongue and the remember points to passages in what to do about are tongue . Amen 🙏

[@DanielaaLovessYouu]

Wow!!! God put it on my heart these past few weeks to pray about taming my tongue & then i see this video, thank you Kaci 💖💖💖🥳🥳 God bless you!!!!!

[@inthisseasonoffaith9903]

Convicted me Jesus!!!!

[@katyaoleynichenko6953]

Something that I took away from this video and was convicted about us to not talk about others because I used to do that with one person in my church and hopefully know I won’t do it even though it just bugs me how much and how rude the person was toward me several times

[@justlillian__]

Sooo good!! I definitely need to do better. Thank you for this!

[@Shan-2024]

This was powerful and so meaningful

[@TK-jo9tv]

You are speaking so much truth, I love this, you gained a subscriber, thank you!

[@sweetruzzelaquino6344]

yes more of this. im also a sunday school teacher and your video really helps me thankyouuuu

[@lolasimmons9152]

Thank you for addressing this problem. I certainly hope that I can learn to tame my own tongue. God bless you from Kingston, Ontario, Canada

[@oliviajohnson6549]

Thank you so much for sharing this! I am actually teaching my youth group on this passage this coming Sunday as well. :)

[@naomikungu148]

This is so convicting 😢

[@NasEllis]

The entire book of James is always super convicting for me, I love how well explained this was Kaci, all the best for your presentation :)) also quick question, I notice your guitar in the background, can you play?

[@CateOtanes]

I've always wanted to ask Kaci that :)

[@NasEllis]

@@CateOtanes Haha same and I'm especially curious because I just started learning how to play lol :)

[@rachelg.2593]

Thank you so much for sharing. I wish youtube was just filled with good things like this.

[@Kittycat777cat]

This is so crazy I was reading these verses on my own this morning and thinking about taming my tongue, then this video came up after I’ve been asking God for very clear cut directions. I thought that was clear already but then you mentioned Abigail and Abby which is my name and it couldn’t be more clear that I needed to hear this and pray on this 🤍 thank you for this lesson

[@elgiejohnson5480]

Great teaching. Thank you. God bless..

[@selenagomez12358]

Beautifully said, my sister in Christ. I am going to share this on FB. ❤

[@thangopapheya9057]

Thank you soo much🙏 I still remember this short proverbs that reads "words kills, words give life, whether fruition or poision you choose." Sometimes there are situation that i just wanna spit out and boom in their face. But, i question myself 'do this satisfy?' and i keep it for myself. To be beautiful is having a broken heart. I'm pursuing my Theological journey since last two years, I've two more years to go. Please remember me in your prayers. And yes, wishing you a Happy New year to you and your love ones. God bless you🙏

[@michealobele7180]

Bless u

[@anne.8830]

My biggest take away from what I just watched was that, as christians and followers of Christ, our words are to make people and not to break them, our words are to bring them to God and not drive them away from God Thanks Kaci❤️

[@adonijah2190]

This is something i needed to learn and the lord has graciously corrected like any father correct's his children that he loves dearly. There is many passages in the bible, which tell us to always speak life and never death. But in Eccelesiastes 10 verse 12- 14 says " Words from the mouth of the wise are gracious, but fools are consumed by their own lips. At the beginning their words are folly; at the end they are wicked madness - and fools multiply words. And in Eccelesiastes 10 verse 20 it says " Don't revile in king even in you're thoughts or curse the rich in you're bedroom, because a bird in the sky may carry you're words and a bird on the wing may report what you say. " We have to remember that the voices of the advisory in the courts of heaven who accuse the brethren day and night can use our own words to accuse us in front of our father. The words that the children of god speak are living prophecy, that's why we have to always speak life. If you think there are words that you have spoken that ur a convicted of repenting for, first repent in front of the lord then ask the lord who is also our "advocate" or in other words "lawyer" to have his blood which the scriptures says "speaks better words than ables blood", words like forgiveness, redemption, mercy, grace, or in other words speaks good things on our behalf to speak for you in the courts of heaven and answer any accusations that the enemy is bringing and then come into agreement with the testimony of the sprinking of the lords blood, and ask that the lord blood which is speaking for u to bring u into remembrance in front of the father, this will silence the accuser because he has no respond to the lords blood. Ask the lord like i have done to put a clamp over ur mouth so all words and thoughts come into abidance with christ, speak life and have a blessed day.😀

[@beverlymutirua1656]

Yeyyy my beautiful sister❤😊

[@kacinicole]

Aw thanks Beverly! 💛

[@caygabe5]

Love this sooo much! I was just doing a devotional on this! Love from my channel to yours! ❤️😊

[@kacinicole]

aw I love that!!! 😊

[@caygabe5]

@@kacinicole God bless you!

[@hollywashburn4124]

I love your examples (aka, spinach in the teeth) ...helps me with application of the Word as a new Christian....thank you Miss Kaci. :)

[@josephdominic9305]

Kaci I absolutely love your videos, you are a fantastic speaker and your advice is invaluable. So glad I discovered this channel and please be encouraged to keep on creating more content. From a new Christian learning the ropes!

[@eliasgonzalez8730]

Great 👍

[@rosas2657]

I work Sundays so I can help my family. I wish they would give me some Sundays off so I could go to church. I try to work and study and provide. And I have a problem with cursing 🤬 😕. It's so hard when people say mean thing and I try to shut up. Please pray for me y'all 🤦‍♀️

[@randymortensen9938]

Wonderful message Kaci! This really resonates with me because for the past 1 1/2 months, I have been having some problems with a couple co-workers who are disrespectful towards me, talk bad to and about me because they just don’t like me and have put a target on my back. I’ve done a good job at taming my tongue throughout this, despite how hard it may be, but this is a good reminder to continue to stay strong and not give into temptation.

[@Beintentionallyweird]

I feel for you. I’ve experienced the same at a former salon I worked at.

[@TimeForTola]

For me the biggest take away was point 3 - let it point you to Jesus. I think for me a lot of time when I regret my words I overplay them and dwell in the past but I have to remember that Jesus doesn't dwell in our past, he wants to change our future!

[@manojpm3325]

Excellent topic.. explained very well... Manoj from India

[@ailynl]

Thanks Kaci this serves as a reminder to myself. Passage that stood out to me is James 1:26 and James 3:9-10

[@treasure_in_a_field2629]

so good

[@kimberlywarkentin1096]

I read Matthew 5 this morning but wouldn't have made the connection with James 3. Thank you for your insight and your words of wisdom.

[@mercifullove8246]

amen

[@Dannycdrummer]

absolutely........I find that the more you read the bible and get closer to God those kind of thing mostly just go away.......

[@WhitakersWay]

John 21📖♥️

[@mehsodpaw4063]

❤

[@baus7]

Love this. Thank you so much. What is the green paint color called, please?

[@kacinicole]

Thank you! 😊 As for the paint color, I have no idea - my parents painted it years ago 🙈 sorry about that!

[@SJ-ik2xw]

Anybody else watching this again in 2020??