Tara Brach on Self Forgiveness with RAIN

Tara Brach on Self Forgiveness with RAIN [2022-05-18]
Our inability to forgive ourselves blocks healing and freedom. As we explore in this talk, the habit of judging and blaming ourselves traps us in fears, prevents intimacy with our world and veils over the goodness and mystery of who we are. This talk includes several reflections that can support us as we cultivate a wise and forgiving heart.
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[@___utterfolk]

I cried at “blankets of forgiveness” thank you Tara

[@monica_.]

Me too, every single time. Such a beautiful story. 🙏🏻

[@Nina-sp1js]

Me too!

[@laurabraeunig1007]

Yes. It is beautiful.

[@judeskingsbury5549]

BIG tears!!🥰

[@crystal13594]

Thank you..I appreciate you.

[@AlfaroClan]

Thank you for posting. This message was for me and my family. I am waking up from a trance of unworthiness. the area I need to focus on is self-forgiveness the talk supplied me with the language and format I need to stick with the pain, aguinsh, disappointment and shame. This has given me hope that I am on the right path.

[@gabykappscomposermariagabr749]

Tara, listening to you is like resting on a very soft, velvety blanket. It's so enlightening. And so conciliatory.

[@mckaymckay5168]

Tara you are full of compassion and love and it makes me so happy for humanity. Thank you 👍🏽

[@julieking6070]

Thank you Tara. I have never commented before but this talk spoke directly to my heart. It is one of the most sincere, liberating and deeply. loving talks I have ever heard. I have spent a lifetime blaming myself - even as a young child I blamed myself for my parent’s unhappy marriage - and prayed at night that I would be ‘good’ forever if that would make them happy. Of course I was destined to fail, and continued to blame and deprive myself of many t things, believing that I must be bad. I carried that into other areas of my life, and now at the age of 60, I still find it so difficult to forgive myself for many things. I experienced the possibility of deep healing with your words and practices, and now I carry the aspiration for forgiveness. Heartfelt thanks, and love to to all those struggling with similar issues. Love Julie ❤️

[@RCRB444]

❤️

[@richardsmith6083]

Hope you are doing well Julie!

[@eileenroberts9529]

'Perfection is the Prerequisite for Pain' so profound and a good phrase to meditate upon.

[@shormarl]

"(17:41) If you were different, if you were better, what would that do for you? What would it give you?" - a powerful question, Tara, thank you! My answer is approval of others.

[@jeannined7532]

Beautiful, human Tara...thank you so much for sharing this self forgiveness talk with so much vulnerability. I see the post modern world that we live in as one which has put away the whips, chains, and barbed wire in exchange for the more convenient and efficient way to assault humanity...through shame, blame, trauma and unworthiness. It takes so much awareness and wisdom to cope with this life. I really needed to hear your voice today, and will come back to this talk when the world is "too much with me."

[@kristacarnahan9745]

Blankets are forgiveness. ❤❤ Thank you for sharing that story.

[@therealatine]

May you always be safe and protected Tara

[@marysykes3143]

I just fell upon this today and found it’s timing was so perfect…I love the total honesty Tara spoke of with how our deeply held beliefs about forgiveness make it seem as though it is for others and not for oneself. The 2 stories were so heart touching that they gave this hardened heart of mine hope that I too can forgive myself. I know very deeply that this is key to the freedom from all my own sufferings and I look forward to returning to this practice again and again till there is no more hardness in my heart towards myself and towards others…thank you Tara💜🙏💜🙏

[@CarolinaChickadee1]

I needed this so badly. So cathartic, I wept. I will continue this practice of self forgiveness with the goal of living in the light of my true nature. Thank you so much, Tara ❤️

[@christaputt4041]

❤

[@Acreative4s]

I'm so grateful for this right this moment!!!! Than you Tara Brach!

[@paperprincess1050]

A lot of people need this and would benefit from this, a great talk thank you

[@monica_.]

I agree. Such a potent, wonderful, much needed message. 🙏🏻

[@birgitkraus2764]

Thank you Tara Brach a true gift to our world Deep gratitude 🙏🏼

[@theta4387]

Endless Gratitude & Star Blessings to you Dear Tara ✨🌟⭐️💫☀️

[@4_seagull]

You are amazing. I could feel my heart heal. With enough work it will continue to heal

[@SusannahPerri]

Tara, I wish I had time to really respond to this, but I have to leave for work. Simply put, I woke up and listened to this video and it was exactly what I needed to hear.. Thank you.

[@bronsonmcdonald5473]

This is so beautiful 💕 I will try to keep using this video to support my healing and self- forgiveness. Thanks Tara

[@user-ef1tp5nf4i]

❤

[@sharynfoster3255]

Thank you for helping me forgive my mistakes, understand who I am and commit to love today.

[@aaronyork3995]

After 4 years of zen practice: I was ready the hear you teacher. Hapchang

[@JimHohl]

Thank you for this, Tara. I needed this today and I’ll be coming back to it often. I’ve heard you many times on Dan Harris’ podcast and like him always thought the “hand on the heart” was schmaltzy. But I tried it this time and it helped me start to release something very painful. Not quite there yet but much closer than I was an hour ago. Thank you. Thank you. 🙏

[@MrMrscoffey]

We have a solution that requires we realize we cannot make ourselves out of our own righteousness

[@kwaipu]

Dear Tara, Thank you. I realise I need a welcoming blanket to return into the fold. I hope I get one. 🌺

[@Lykke_stardust]

Thank you. Your teachings means so much to me and always opens up my heart.

[@justfeelit-andersmeditieren]

Min 26:52 … I laughed and cried at the same time! Thanks from the bottom of my heart, Tara, for what do for us!🦋

[@lorenzavillavaalberu5982]

Tara: So much gratitude emanates from my heart towards you after this talk and meditation…at first I couldn’t find what to forgive, but after some moments it became very clear. Your guidance is a loving power that frees my heart. May you be forever blessed!

[@mariapolanco9652]

What a powerful message Tara! Years ago I reached for the "blanket of forgiveness" but I did not receive it. My chest ached in pain when you asked that I place my hand on my heart - the tears kept pouring down my face, I felt such a deep sadness.

[@ShaunHolden]

Have you managed to forgive yourself now?

[@ckqueen]

Great topic for me. Self hatred and forgiveness...so beautiful! Thank You Tara !

[@fionagallagher9974]

18:08 What would it do for me to be better? Be a better mother. Be a loving, compassionate, nurturing mother. Not hurt my son and keep him down.

[@monica_.]

Thank you Tara. This talk is life-giving. 🙏🏻❤️

[@ABunnik]

Thankyou 💜💜🙏🏼

[@c7eye]

Beautiful. Give a blanket accept a blanket❤

[@SharonRiver]

*Tears* The blankets touched me deeply. I love love love stories of forgiveness. Always.

[@mohsinkazi1531]

I am struggling with self forgiveness. I am being brutal to myself. It's a painful place to be.

[@ShaunHolden]

Are you ok?

[@s4briba101]

Thank you so much for this dear Tara. This helped me to find connection with my spiritual heart and I feel much calmer now. I see that all my suffering comes from this sense of being wrong. It is so good to see. It is already forgiven. Thank you mirroring this truth 🙏

[@suzannephelpschambers8648]

So beautiful. Your words are deeply healing and nourishing, Tara.

[@happinessyogateacher]

Thank you for this self-acceptance message that I so needed to hear today. Thank you! :-)

[@wethemedicine3204]

You are amazing Tara thank you for all you share

[@cdurand1022]

Wow! This a game changer! Thank you!💜

[@leahcortez8685]

😅 I adore your teaching style. It's a beautiful sway between moving deep sorrow and deep hilarity.

[@danabsolon6108]

Thank you Tara. This made me cry and I will practice it every day

[@ShaunHolden]

Good luck Dan

[@elizabethwatson4209]

What a truly wonderful talk thank you Tara.

[@leonahearted2585]

Thank you Tara so much for posting this video

[@giancarlaaddison7034]

Thank you for showing me a way to start letting go of my judgements and shame. I know what happened to me wasn’t my fault and that how I react to strong emotions is years worth of a coping mechanism to survive. I have a long way to go but today, my heart is open. Thank you.

[@ShaunHolden]

How are you getting on now?

[@deborahmeyers551]

Thank you Tara 🙏

[@gypsystar5884]

Thank You Tara🙏🌟💕Love this SO much💜

[@sereneboon4890]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@saibhungkaurkhalsa6803]

oh Tara, Om Tara... thank you...

[@certola]

Thank you ❤️

[@NoraGermain]

Thank you. ❤️🌍

[@MrMrscoffey]

I have so many deep areas… even though I have confessed… feeling reconciled is truly truly the journey it cost god all to make us right with new blood…. To make us all one blood ONLY THE ONE

[@tialonka9839]

Thank you saving me today. Now i feel i could get back on track❤️

[@good2will2hunting]

30:55 thank you for reminding

[@padmapatel7141]

Thank you👃

[@NYDaughter1972]

Wonderful!

[@patricia753]

So Beautiful Tara! Thank you ❤🙏🌈...

[@amandamatles9712]

Namaste 😊

[@hormetichealth4102]

Self-forgiveness feels impossible. I hurt my ex partner and will always regret losing my best friend.

[@evelynmircevski1891]

Thankyou for being so kind

[@mollyking949]

Thank you Tara ❤️‍🩹❤️☮️✡️☪️

[@lindamilne3166]

❤️❣️🦋thank You Tara!

[@denisehabib8123]

Thank you Tara this helps me

[@Sacredrose88]

wow. I really love any asprct of this video... Iwill share with others. Thank you so much

[@patriciabourke1930]

So touched❤

[@ushanarain6717]

Namaste Tara🙏

[@edwardgolonka-jd4sc]

True Dat!! 🙏🙏

[@gsburek4345]

Would contracting polio at two and a half be considered trauma?

[@CatherineKay-qs7dn]

❤

[@ichbin4071]

9:28 start

[@Poco555]

What is wrong with feeling bad or lonely or distant and not a part of if we can address the feelings as feelings and not the truth, to tenderly hold and breathe through the feelings and at the same time drop any story line and know that these feelings are not facts and need our absolute attention and compassion and love because which only we can give ourselves in those times? I was screaming at God some months ago and demanding why I had to love myself for a bit but then move out of myself into the world and I got the answer in a flash, like when there is a storm and lightning strikes so that the whole front yard lights up and you can see things you couldn't see before and something from my soul replied BECAUSE YOU KNOW BETTER At what point do we surrender to choosing life and not getting stuck and indulging in our story because, by now, we know better. I pray what I just said makes sense, because at some point we do know better And we no longer try to be different because we have been being different and now we are the same as before the trauma and shame I may sound like a crazy person and, well, I probably am a bit crazy. I'm just not different anymore. I'm more like the same...the same as perhaps I am meant to be Always Jo

[@myralhf]

At about 20s on vid, I am confused...you mention that perhaps, letting go, or doing differently, could mean that I am bad? Seems counter intuitive, for me...what am I missing? 😳🙏

[@ShaunHolden]

Have you managed to resolve this issue now?

[@roseparade_]

15:51

[@Poco555]

The division, the separate-Ness in ourselves. Accepting and forgiving IS the prerequisite to freedom I sense that people may understand the words of self forgiveness, but have a damned time getting what that really means, and are we Willing to be at peace. Can we, are we willing to be in a moment, to be that moment with no judgment. Are we willing, on a cellular level, to literally tolerate the willingness...and I don't mean willing like willing to take out the trash, but willing like the grass is to grow or the branches of the trees to reach for the sun, but willing in our DNA . What would we do for aggravation and I'm not being shallow. Who would we be if we thought we were different or better? We can't because we would never believe it and feel we no longer have control We would have to give up being special because of our badness and our unforgivable selves and give up being special even if we think we have forgiven ourselves. We would have to love being ordinary. We would have to learn to value feeling fine if we did nothing and make mistakes and choices based in shame and fear Can we not feel homecoming and connection if we accept ourselves unconditionally? What a great ride it is...this life Always Jo 34:20