HAVING A BABY WAS HARD ON OUR MARRIAGE

[@lolafairchild88]

Not the bonnet 😂! Having our son definitely threw my husband and I for a loop, but our boy is 5 now and our relationship is stronger than ever ❤. Communication really IS key!

[@tatoandvira]

He won’t give me back my bonnet 😂

[@queenreg7]

Tell him to get his own! A blue one!

[@kuroe-chan5190]

😂😂😂 he looks so relaxed like it’s just natural. Vira your family is beautiful and love yalls good vibes

[@erincooper7765]

I said the same thing! NOT the bonnet!! LOL!!! 😂😂😂

[@josephiengoitia3459]

Hi sweeties. I am now 65. I had postnatal depression 42 years ago. I had to be hospitalised when my twins were 8 months old. It is very hard. It took me a couple of years to recuperate. And since then when things get too stressful i have to go to therapy to recover. I have now my kids, grandkids and greatgrandkids. I hope no one will underestimate this type of depression.

[@GospelEars]

I pray things get better

[@chelsieromero4874]

Depression of any kind is not to be underestimated, but as a Catholic who used to be depressed and still living with my perpetrator keeping a close relationship with God helps a lot. As a matter of fact whether depression is caused by pregnancy, trauma, chronic stress, grief etc the main reason is that there are spirits of despair. Depression is not a mental illness it's a spiritual disorder 😊

[@mameserwaaboagye1441]

God protect your marriage. He is the One who created marriage.

[@feliciawright9446]

There is NOTHING wrong with getting therapy! It’s the best form of SELF LOVE!!!

[@winniejohnson5559]

it can be good. everyone doesn't need therapy in the sense of going to. see someone in the medical field.

[@nahoooli]

Why are Enzo’s eyes and head movements indicating he understands and is reflecting on what his parents are saying 😂 I can’t with the cuteness ❤

[@tatoandvira]

He’s the star of the show 😂

[@jane_ughe]

😂😂😂😂

[@zaria_time1]

He’s mimicking his parents! His Father nods his head and his Mother moved her eyes. Enzo is so smart

[@carlacavalier3014]

This is the BUSINESS. Thanking Enzo's parental unit❤

[@heatheryearwood9199]

Baby my foot. Thats no baby it's a spook disguised as a baby ..he has come to destroy you 😂😂😂😂he keeps laughing 😅😅😅he's having somuch fun ❤❤❤you have to keep your eye on this little Devil

[@maths_monkey]

Tato and Vira watching your videos is so incredibly heart warming. The fact that you share the reality of relationships just speaks volumes to the quality of individuals you are. Vira would've totally been my bestie if I knew her personally - a real queen. Watching a mature REAL relationship on KZbin is so refreshing. I will forever support you guys and congratulations for getting a sponsorship deal with Betterhelp!!! Sending you both so much love, and love to Enzo!!! From your sister in South Africa!!!

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you so much! This made my day 😭♥️

[@gerdachristophe3953]

It's not easy. I went from 9 months pregnant to C-section,by myself, doctor's appointment by myself, I used to live in the 4th floor apartment, no elevator. I used to cry every day. If you know what I mean. Now my son is 19 in his second year college .wow

[@linacertified-baddie569]

Having a kid is not easyyyy I applaud and admire you so deeply! Much respect you did that for your baby 🥺

[@gerdachristophe3953]

@@linacertified-baddie569 yes ,thank you

[@gracefulcharm55]

You’re an amazing woman and I’m so happy your son is doing great

[@nca4794]

*"He's a good man Savannah"* Whether it's menstruation, pregnancy, perimenopause or menopause, a woman's hormonal balance changes so drastically. My friends and I often say birth is a miracle every time, but parenthood is also a miracle. It's a blessing to have a partner, especially one that prioritizes and affirms you. That's the true joy of marriage, having somebody that's on your team and works for your betterment. I'm so glad you all have found a healthy new, normal. May God continue to bless and keep you and your beautiful family. ❤❤❤

[@audreneedwards5277]

Thank y’all for the transparency! So many things are romanticized and then when reality hits, people feel resentful or disappointed! Having a man that loves and have compassion is AMAZING! Thank you!

[@daniellec7592]

Isn't it crazy how emotionally and physically HARD it is to have a baby but yet after some time we still want another one!? 😅

[@kuroe-chan5190]

I never understood that lol. When my husband and I first got together 20 yrs ago we wanted 4….fast forward after extreme fertility struggles …we are totally fine with 1-2. But we are going to evaluate after we experience so time with our first. Kinda scary sometime people keep doing it over and over

[@TWForeeever]

The brain often represses trauma, so this is not surprising at all

[@irenegaruba48]

What a gentle baby. I can’t help but notice how good he is! Very well behaved.

[@jwalt8019]

This what true partnership looks like. God bless you three.💜

[@tatoandvira]

You are so kind

[@remabutta1011]

Such a beautiful family 🙏🏾🖤 Amen

[@mimi241990]

Why do I genuinely smile when I see this family? I pray God continues to bless your journey as a family. Thank you for being real

[@sheilalofton2145]

Gurrrl he got the bonnet on ,lol.....your man is definitely comfortable with his manhood ! Yes you guys make it look so much fun, but in reality, you do have to figure it out. I'm glad you did this video because when you're transparent there's someone who's going through the same thing, and wondering what happened ? Just keep working on your relationship and stay friends, you'll be fine 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you so much ♥️

[@ellea6461]

I ONLY ever watch the shorts, but this was the most beautiful, transparent, raw, honest, sincere video. I also applaud you all on speaking about therapy. I'm a true advocate for it. It's so taboo to reveal to others. I also had a hard time connecting initially due to postpartum. I was so scared we'd never connect. My son and I are sooo close now, I'm almost tempted to say we're besties🤭😊. Therapy, routine and support got me to a better place. I love how y'all kept it real. I definitely can relate. It also feels good to see people who don't only post the perfect and prim, but also not posting drama for views. You all are such a good vibe and I wish you all the best. May God bless you all's family 🙏🏽❣️

[@nejo3427]

This is so beautiful that you are talking about the challenges during the post-partum period. You are helping so many people more than you can imagine. Much love for your family❤!

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you ♥️♥️♥️

[@PaigeHigginsVlogs]

I think it’s so important to remember that when your baby is born, you two are strangers. You have to get to know each other and the love grows. I think people just have unrealistic expectations of what becoming a mother SHOULD be like

[@Sams-explorations]

The newborn stage is so incredibly hard but supporting each other and self care is the best medicine. God bless you both ❤

[@Ninaaa614]

Y’all are so cute! As a single mom just embrace it! One step at a time. I have a 2 year old. I never took maternity leave. I had my son all alone at 1 month. I worked with a few days old baby on my lap. You would never know this looking at my son, I’ve cried every single night I pray every single night and my son is so extremely happy you would never be able to tell what his parents went through. You guys are an awesome couple. Take one step at a time and just make sure you continue to smile for that baby!!!!

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you for sharing that ♥️

[@elijahalcia7762]

Congrats Tato, for being the man God designed you to b e. Leading, caring, understanding, communicating and believing in the marriage you committed to. God bless you man!!!🙌🙌💕💕

[@lozeeylo838]

This whole conversation is deeep 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@miacblue5669]

You guys are awesome to share your truth, Pregnancy, post birth, relationship tension moments, and your triumphs.

[@avenabolarinwa4126]

Babies feel your pain and frustration and discomfort and it makes them feel the same way and that is why they cry and you cannot bond with them the way you want to until you learn how to calm down and relax, I’m glad to see you have got the master over your feelings and you guys are moving forward beautifully good health to you, my dear wonderful husband Tato has been👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾❤️

[@tatoandvira]

I wish I knew this when I was going through it 😢 but you live and you learn thank you ♥️

[@lilisan1968]

Oh real people on socials speaking facts I love it 😍

[@andreen596]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 very very very important conversation to have. I know this was a difficult and vulnerable thing to share. People typically share the best moments of their lives on social media so when others see that but they themselves are struggling, it can feel very isolating. You guys sharing your story is helping so many people feel like they are not alone, and there is light at the end a very difficult tunnel.

[@tatoandvira]

I felt isolated myself so we’re happy to share what we went through so anyone that went through this knows that they are not alone

[@crystalrechelle]

I love how she listens. I love how he instructs. You need to talk about it out else you're going to resent me. ❤️ Taking turns rescuing each other. ❤️

[@Tee-kc3pn]

Children are very hard on relationships.....My husband and I didn't have any big disagreements until we became parents. We were together 9yrs before having our 1st child

[@Tee-kc3pn]

I forgot to mention we're on yr 20 together and our 4th child was born 1/25/2022

[@sophiamensa9570]

Yes same for us; kids are blessings but they do change everything in marriage

[@zelajocelyn2069]

Enzo adores his Mom... look at how he looked up into your face at times when you are talking... and then he placed his hand on yours. Well he looked up at Dad too but not as often 😅. You seek the help you need. Life isn't easy .Great to see both of you working hard to make your marriage work 😊

[@winniejohnson5559]

of course she has the food. LOL

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you 😊♥️

[@essence8432]

This was a amazing dialogue! Mental health wellness is so important ❤

[@maryannm196]

Vira's smirking always kills me lol, ya'll are so cute

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you 😂♥️

[@maryannm196]

I love that y'all are always laughing and playing around@@tatoandvira

[@isareid478]

​@@maryannm196I love that too you all help me to be More lovely with may husban, God keep blessing your famaly

[@jesseniavargas6969]

💜SUCH A LOVING MARRIAGE ALSO A REALISTIC ONE IT'S BEAUTIFUL.💜

[@ciadaclark9110]

I'm so happy I came across their channel such a beautiful family

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you 🙏🏾♥️

[@neenadumas5210]

This is why you all are loved. Thank you for the transparency❤❤❤

[@gwennethpayne537]

People feel when you get married it going to be all bells and roses but you have to put in the work and be there for each other, find time for each other and communication is important , and never go to sleep angry at each other, it will never be perfect but work out your differences together and say how you feel

[@lueveniapettiford2626]

Enzo is so alert and smart. Smart baby. So cute. He looks like he understands both your conversations. Amazing

[@navybeans17]

Having a kid is no joke..hard work...not to be taken lightly...it definitely helps when u have a partner who understands and helps out...yall are beautiful ❤

[@lindaappiah2125]

Having a newborn is the most sweetest and hardest

[@trscopp734]

I love you guys you continue to put God first in your marriage. God is always first in your marriage. Pray to him for every little thing that you’re going through whenever you’re going through something just pray to him and always keep him first and read the Bible together and why are you guys doing this on a daily basis you guys will last your whole lifetimes. Beautiful baby and your beautiful family. Keep it strong remember, keep it strong and always keep God first

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you. We pray everyday 🙏🏾♥️

[@d.till21]

Love this real conversation, love the bonnet🤭🤭, and love seeing baby Enzo in his own world 🫶🏾

[@gailm3188]

Great job guys. I love that you have recognized that sacrifice and communication is the key to a great relationship ❤ Keep reaching for the stars and continue supporting and loving each other. Take care 🇹🇹

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you will do 🙏🏾♥️

[@TheDliciousD]

Therapy is self care, self care is self love and it’s nothing wrong with needing help we all do, I love that you both support each other at all times in your relationship! The bloopers made me laugh so much I love you guys awww baby Enzo has grown so nicely and is so cute 🥰💙

[@Mokoena-123]

Loved Tato's wisdom ❤️ 👏 Vira's honesty ❤❤ Loved the whole convo😊😊❤❤ Asking myself how the hell women survived in ancient times because there wasn't such info or any context clues helping parents Really appreciate you guys❤❤❤ Love from South Africa fell in love with your funny side guys and kinda like your real side too❤❤❤

[@chebyhocutt9055]

Enzo is so cute and such a good boy! You guys are great parents!

[@impactfully5714]

I love this conversation. Transparency is so important. We had a similar experience when our son was born, and we struggled a bit but got therapy. We are so happy we did. We are so solid today and grateful we chose self-care and each other every day. Lots of love to your family 💕

[@Missiuniqk]

Awe your baby fully adores you both he is a cuteee

[@sincerely5906]

I’m so glad y’all are talking about this. I’m six weeks postpartum with a healthy baby boy and my husband and I are also experiencing growing pains in our relationship as we nurture this new life. It can be easy to feel discouraged when you see curated forms of postpartum life but it’s encouraging to hear the realities of what can occur after baby is here.

[@indicajane4721]

Thank you so much for talking about the connection being weird and not always fitting what society tell moms motherhood is supposed to feel like. Thank you for making it okay to share how hard emotions are and how unprepared we can be to handle all the feelings that come with birth on our bodies. We deserve more research and support with having babies. It’s not as simple as society can present it to be. All the best to you two and little man. 💜

[@michelleamatulle6378]

I appreciate this honesty. Ppl should know how hard having a baby can be on a couple. If u don’t have a tight bond, it can rip ppl apart or you can come out on the other side a stronger couple. It’s stressful!!! Men need to be incredibly patient and understanding during that newborn phase.

[@bakerfamily4642]

Hey guys 😊 thank you so much for sharing this with us, alot of parents go through this when having a newborn child. But I just wanted to add a tip for mum, when a parent or mother are going through depression or postpartum our little ones can sense our emotions and can make them unsettled that's why baby boy was bonding with dad, he just knew that mummy was feeling something and they well always go to the opposite side. Don't beat yourself up mumma bear no one is perfect but you are doing an amazing job with your son. His lucky to have you as his mother 🥰🙏🏾💗

[@boldandglamorous1749]

I love how real your relationship is and Tato should just start doing stand up comedy😂😂😂😂

[@lozeeylo838]

I love tatos facial expressions 😂💜

[@sukeeta1100]

I love yall realness. A lot of times you may know you need someone to talk to but need to find the right person because some people can't relate. Also it's hard to admit that you need your mental health taking care of. But in these days lots of people need help🙏🏽🙏🏽.

[@indicajane4721]

This 💜

[@josephgreene4174]

Not Tato with the bonnet!! This is why I LOVE this couple~ Great vid!!

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you 😂♥️

[@GodsWon]

This has been beautiful to watch. Seeing the HUMAN side of it all is VERY refreshing, informative and i feel like you just helped prepare me for my upcoming marriage and pregnancy/child birth. Thank you for being awesome people.

[@dianafarrington6105]

Dude you're killing me with this Bonnet😅 guys marriage is a union and it takes two people to work out that Union together with the grace of God there is nothing you guys cannot do put God in your marriage and you will see how wonderful that will work out communication is the key of that Union God bless 🙏

[@twix3799]

Look at Enzo admiring his parents 🥺❤

[@alesiayoung2160]

This is off topic but I came across your channel and subscribed because you two have the kind of relationship and respect for one another that really resonates with me as well as laughter which is a must in any relationship! I still have hope at 58 that I will find a man that loves me respects me and makes me laugh every day ! Or at least every other day!😂

[@racheloshaksmusic]

The baby is so cute ❤and I love that you guys have built your communication! It's vital in a marriage and to read the room/person. It's true, marriage is hard work. When you both can overcome a tough season, it's so worth it and you both come out stronger and closer which was God's purpose for marriage, to become ONE and to love better.

[@silmaalleyne7471]

Vera you’re a natural. 👏🏽👏🏽❤️❤️ Good luck with future advertising work. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@GigglingHamster]

Enzo is an absolute dream of a baby. Look at him sitting there so sweet and snuggly

[@anesusakuringwa4627]

I am happy they are couples who tell the truth because some made it seem like it’s amazing life experience 🥺 when deep down it’s the rest of your life 🥴

[@tatoandvira]

I think it’s different for everyone 😊

[@nickab2691]

Postpartum depression, anxiety are so so real‼️ So glad you’re doing better than before.

[@morolayofashakin5330]

I have enjoyed this video!!! I really appreciate the transparency and vulnerability of both of you. I can see how much you both love Enzo and each other! Marriage is glamourised as it should be as it's an achievement! But it is and can be hard and sometimes I don't think we understand the road bumps that can occur during marriage. Having children changes the dynamics of any relationship/ marriage. Im glad your both in a good place and are still choosing one another! Lots of love. Sending you all lots of positive, good energy xxx❤❤❤❤❤ God Bless

[@SarahiBela]

This was such a wholesome video..I appreciate you guys talking about it..marriage is hard work as it is and having a kid adds extra stress to an already hard life as a couple..if you aren’t ready to deal with the stresses of life with someone by your side please don’t enter marriage thinking it’s going to be a happily ever after because if that’s your understanding of marriage you’re gonna be up for a surprise and life will slap you in your face before you know it

[@massagesfrombeyond8498]

I love how you guys are up front and honest about parenthood I feel like everyone always tries to glorify and make it seam like it’s this harmonious thing all the time it and it’s not always like that

[@nahoooli]

Signing up now! Thanks for the link and candid convo. You guys are one of my favorite families on KZbin and I’m cheering for your continued happiness.

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you for the support ♥️

[@fbloy2]

Enzo watching Tato and empathizing with Vira is beyond beautiful 😍❤❤ Thank you for being so honest and sharing your journey with us. You’re helping so many couples just by being real about what it takes.

[@MakedaBenjamin]

This was a great video! Very honest and allows people to think about the unexpected and also know they are not alone in their feelings or experiences. Thanks for sharing 😊💜

[@MutedSins26]

You guys are such a sweet couple. The content is light and it just feels good to watch the growth of you both and y’all’s family. Peace and prosperity 🤗

[@pamelaferebee3648]

Having a baby is hard for some couples. It takes a lot of some women. I also had 2 C-section and it was rough. You are doing excellent. You have a husband that really love and supports you which really helps. Blessings to you and your family 🙏🏾

[@yvonnesmeltzer4011]

I like you two. I appreciate the truth. If you two continue to talk the love in the family will grow. Never stop talking.

[@ShayS38]

Baby enzo is so cute and alert❤

[@katlegomagolego]

Aww I loved this video so much. I’m gonna come back to it again when I’m a mom to take notes ❤️ I appreciate the honesty and I just love you guys and your content 🥹

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you so much ♥️

[@kimberlykenney4566]

Why does Tato have a bonnet on?😂. Listen, I've been married 30 yrs and I enjoy watching your skits. They are very playful and fun! Love you alls personality. This segment was important and I interesting because it made me tuned into myself as a spoiled. married woman of 30 yrs. I have a very loving husband that would do anything in his power for me and goes out of his way to make me happy. But sometimes I'm spoiled and don't appreciate his efforts . Just today he told me no other man would put up with my spoiledness. Lol . Eyy I kind of been this way. Ya know, the youngest child , we all have our faults but obviously I'm worth staying with becuase he's still here. He could have left a long time ago and so could have I, but we make it work because the love is still there mutually and yes date nights ate extremely important We definitely indulge in them. So keep doing what you guys are doing as newlyweds.Your on the right track. Forever is a long time. Keep appreciating and loving each other the way that you do. It's beautiful and refreshing to see.❤

[@elrithahewitt7594]

Thank you both for your transparency.

[@thebeautyofrecoverybysarah7712]

Wow Tato that takes incredible emotional maturity, You are truly blessed to have eachother, and Vira you are a stomng lioness power of example. Kudos to both of you.

[@amaok6106]

Wow! Well done guys! Just sat here with my cup of tea taking note. Thank you guys so much for sharing this hard truth- singles taking note 😅.

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you for watching ♥️

[@i_am_b1anca_207]

Over halfway in I just realised this man is wearing a bonnet 😂♥️♥️♥️ that’s just fantastic

[@katezituta9975]

This is so raw, transparent, vulnerable and real! I went through the exact experience, thank you for sharing and teaching.

[@argue.with.yourself]

Tato thank you for loving on Vira the way you do! This is a beautiful message to first time parents. It is such a beautiful experience, but it's a new dynamic that requires patience and understanding.❤️

[@IamCynDoll]

My favorite couple!

[@shirleyhenry-vf5ox]

Vira is the BIGGEST FLIRT with her husband👏🏿👏🏿

[@SuperNas97]

I can't see pass the bonnet on his head. 😂😂😂. They jus natural funny.

[@ashaderry3616]

One of my favorite couples ❤

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you ♥️

[@donyarz9237]

Love love love u guys… and love little Enzo , he is sooooo cute and smart too , you can tell that he is listening even though he doesn’t understand the words but he loves hearing his mum and dad’s voice talking to each other! God bless your beautiful family ❤

[@zaidya1]

Postpartum depression is one of the worst things mentally that a new mom can go through. I had it with my first child and i thought my entire world was caving in. Vira therapy really works!! I had to seek it in order to be a better person and a mom to my child. Try it out it will have you grow stronger. Best wishes Vira ❤

[@portiawatkis4772]

I just started watching you guys. I love how honest and open you guys are. I wish you both the best marriage and life... These are talk that more new parents need to have I wish I had someone to talk to 9 years ago when I had my daughter.

[@PamelaOloyede]

Don’t normally comment on videos like this. But felt I needed to. As a psychiatric perinatal nurse, I’m happy to see couples sharing their story and thoughts. Proud of both of you.

[@tatoandvira]

Thank you 🙏🏾♥️

[@MyselfToBe]

You guys are a great couple. You two are so funny, but most of all, you are real❤😊

[@euniceolawoyin1041]

The importance of communicating, understanding and actions /reactions from well matured minds can't be underestimated in Tato and Vira's relationship is admirable. This honest conversation between you two is inspiring and impacting someone out there already ❤❤❤it . The dark times are over by his grace ,God helped you overcome that period and you can see its worth it,look at the cuteness loading in Enzo,cool and calm.May God bond this family more,love you guys🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@comfortetuk2187]

Trust me Enzo's presence here is a pep for the clip. I love his Birdy baby 🐥🍼😇🥰 voice. He seems to have matured overnight. ❤❤❤

[@icclc-fe3sy]

Enzo fully involved in the conversation observing listening~er understanding

[@zz2791z]

It’s important to always do therapy individually, The problem with therapy is that people wait until something bad happens to start. Start therapy and it doesn’t have to be every week, but it’s important to talk to someone rather than your partner or friends etc. I love y’all very much, always sending good vibes to you 3 ✨🤍.

[@cegecej]

The bloopers are hilarious. You guys are so fun and funny. And everything you mentioned is normal and so many couples go through it. A baby is so hard on the woman and her body and has the hormones all over the place - so it's very easy to become out of touch with things especially your emotions

[@sarahhannahv]

Thanks so much for sharing and being vulnerable about your struggles...all of it because it will help other young couples. I'm so proud of you Tato for putting yoyr best into loving your wife and child. So many men are so insecure that when a woman is struggling emotionally, they just get another woman so they can feel like a man again. I'm proud of you Vira for pushing through and admitting that you were struggling. I can tell you as a mom that pregnacy is rough on the body and the hormones coyrsing through our veins during pregnancy and breastfeeding is crazy literally so you're flooded with all these emotions, crying for "no reason", upset for seemingly "no reason" as well. It's alot to manage. I had little help from my ex when my daughter was born because he was dealing with his iwn inadequacies and fears which I did not help with cause as a new mother I was also dealing with my own fears and there were days I was upset with her cause I was so tired and she wasn't sleeping through the night yet. It gets better as you get to know your baby as well and build that bond which is exactly what happened with you. My reason for sharing is to let you know that you're not a bad mom because of your struggles and that you both have done really well as young parents and husband and wife 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kendrabax4528]

I love you guys! You remind me so much of my husband and I. We have a 6 month old and have very little support, it is hard especially when both parents work full-time. Thank you for your transparency 🙏🏾

[@ericapoyser6549]

Good morning guys ❤❤and a special good morning to baby Enzo 😘😘

[@nokuthulabhodoza]

I like the bonnet.I see Tato is talking just like her. You guys are just great😂😂😂😂❤

[@theresabougouneau2518]

Tarp and Vera thanks for the honesty I am so proud of you two I love you both

[@ashleyzviitei]

You all got out the other end. Amen. Baby boy is fine and mama and papa are stronger together. Tato and the bonnet😅. Love it.