Taylor Swift Sang About My Breakup | Tay Therapy

[@ithitsdiffpod]

what songs in Taylor Swift's collection have helped you in your life? let us know your stories in the comments! we'd love to create more videos like this and include YOUR stories if you like this style of content. for ryan, it's "You're Losing Me" as she discusses in this video in a super vulnerable way. the song has helped her process a current breakup she's going through.

[@MusicCityMere]

Love that idea! Thanks for sharing and opening up 🫶

[@irene2hansen241]

can you do analyze the summary poem of ttpd next (with TS IG post)Ryan, i m sorry you are hurting, hope you will feel better soon :)

[@marycarolbuck1527]

The line, “Old habits die screaming!” From The Black Dog. So true. Hits home with me. 67 year old Swiftie here.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

the way "scrEAAAAAAMIIIIIn" hits so hard

[@NinjaBooKitty]

Not only that, but some of her songs have absolutely nothing to do with my life and she can still make me feel it and cry! But my Taylor song is 'You're On Your Own Kid'. At 58, I have come to a place that I accept I am all I have or need. I can enjoy people for short periods ('so make the friendship bracelets'), but when it comes to it, I can only rely on myself, so that's who I expend my energy on. I'm the ony one who deserves it. Certainly not wasting time on relationships. Love is just a construct.

[@jackiegabbard2692]

"You're Losing Me" helped me realize I needed to leave my toxic job that I was losing my whole self to

[@MEM1066]

Hi girls. I’m 58 years old. My son was born in 1989. I’ve literally watched Taylor grow up. I’ve followed her career and always loved her music. I didn’t really get emotionally invested involved though. Until….watching the Eras tour. The first time I watched her sing All to well I just cried throughout. I could relate to lyrics about my own last relationship. In that moment I suddenly realised that as two grown women we had experienced the same feelings as I know many of us have. Music is so powerful and healing. 🥰❤️❤️❤️

[@YC1969]

55 here & 💜 Taylor!

[@shmamycakes]

I'm 57 and a Swiftie since the very beginning, hearing Taylor's song Tim McGraw; I was hooked! The Era's Tour was life-changing! Gen-X Swifties!!! 🫶🫶🫶

[@MEM1066]

@@shmamycakes 😁😁😁🥰

[@JeanneBalaoing]

@MEM1066 I'm 66 and have had the same experience. Watched her grow and mature. Wasn't following her before the last couple of years, but now I do, especially with this tour. Wish I could attend and wish I had attendees previous concerts. Boy, her lyrics hit and cover so many subjects in our lives.

[@shaelynluketich4401]

@MEM1066 I am turning 58 next month. My daughter was born in 1989. Have followed her career since day 1.

[@KatsObsession]

Your losing me broke my heart when I first heard it and it continued for a good year to be my anthem of how I felt in my marriage. One day I asked my husband to listen to it and we had so many serious conversations. We’re finally in a good place now and I listened to it again, I can finally say I don’t feel those same feelings but it’s still such a heartbreaking song. “My endless empathy” makes my eyes leak. The heartbeats in the song, and how it suddenly stops. Her sighs and breaths. I picture her singing it and now I’m just so happy she’s no longer in that. MORE TAY THERAPY!

[@ithitsdiffpod]

that's incredible that y'all worked through everything, especially that the conversation was sparked by You're Losing Me! so happy you're happy now ❤️

[@kathleenbigford3160]

"Mad Woman" hit me as I stopped denying the tactics of my narcissist husband of 50 years. I have so much admiration for this songwriter half my age that captures classic human emotions in beautiful ways. As I came out of denial there was Taylor affirming my sanity. I'm so glad to be discovering Taylor's lyrics born of her experiences that somehow parallel those of so many. Love Tay Therapy

[@ithitsdiffpod]

"taylor affirming my sanity" really cuts deep and couldn't be more true. sometimes you need that reassurance to affirm all of your internal struggles and to remind you that you're not alone or crazy for choosing a different path. sending you so much love and healing ❤️

[@kristimcswain4439]

Hi ladies, long story; I’m 52 years old my and daughter has grown up with Taylor and is a huge Swiftie.. Back story-My daughter moved to NYC from Florida in 2021 to get her Masters degree at NYU,in sound engineering (she did graduate in 2023) My husband and I moved to Kansas City from Florida in 2022. In February of 2023 my husband and I were visiting my Daughter (Allie) in NYC when she had her first seizure, starting her epilepsy journey…She was 24 at the time, she was working on her thesis, working multiple sound jobs around NYC, as well as working at NYU…This was a very scary time, I didn’t want to leave her. So basically my daughter and flew back and forth to KC and NYC living weeks at a time in the different locations. She had got floor seats to the Eras tour at Met Life…( In the meantime she is playing Taylor a lot and she made me watch Reputation on Netflix). Meanwhile she was still having a seizure every month up until June…She saw Taylor at Met Life in Jersey,( she didn’t have a ticket for me), she graduated from NYU and was seeing a neurologist to try and get things figured out. She had to make the hardest decision of her life, her lease was up at the end of May and with much hesitation she decided for her safety it would be best for her to move to KC with us until we got things figured out. Allie has been seizure free since June 2023. Moving away from NYC and leaving her dreams broke our hearts. In this time frame I went from listening-to some of Taylor’s music and being somewhat of a fan to a full blown Swiftie. We went and saw Taylor on the Eras tour here in KC. (July 2023) Yes the concert Travis was at. Taylor has helped me through this very difficult time through her poems, through her lyrics, through her music. Taylor has helped because she brought and brings so much joy to my daughter.. Taylor will never know what she means to me…But she has helped me through some of the darkest days of my life.❤️❤️❤️

[@JeanneBalaoing]

"You're Losing Me" is amazing, and I've pretty much lived it a while ago. I know so many women who have had this same experience. Love the heartbeat use in the chorus.

[@barbietrink4984]

I have a lot of compassion for you. This happened to me 15 years ago. Her songs made me heal now, better late than never. A 67 year old lady. ❤ from Canada 🇨🇦

[@fronat]

Broke up with my BF of 6 years at christmas last year… it was a slow slow dying relationship with a very very good man, but we just werent in the same page for a while…. and he didnt notice my efforts for him to do something… and ohhh man, Your are Losing me, Champagne Problems, The 1 and now Peter and So Long London, became the soundtrack of my breakup recovery…. She lived my relationship on those songs and it hits ssooooooooooo close to home! she is amazing and i cant thank her enough for helping me so much ♥️

[@ithitsdiffpod]

i relate to this on a deep level 🥲 sometimes making the decision to leave can be the hardest step, especially if that person was once everything you wanted. sending you lots of love and hope you're doing okay.

[@GOTGames]

You absolute sweethearts 😢 and Ryan, sorry to hear that you sadly related so mcuh to a song like that, but I'm happy you're in a much better place. Much love to you both ❤

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you so much Luke!! 🤍 we still can't wait for your reaction video to "You're Losing Me" !!!!

[@deirdremcguirk1165]

Oh beautiful, witty, charismatic Ryan, I’m so sorry you’ve endured a painful end -of-relationship and breakup. How generous of you to share how the song impacted you. But it makes me happy to think you will no doubt have far better things in your near future, and that you have such a wonderful friend in Molly. And you’re young - some of us who are decades older than you also find Taylor’s sad songs more relatable than we would like.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you so much for the kind words 🥹 grateful for this community and sad songs that cut deep while healing old wounds

[@debbiesmith-b2x]

Hi girls! I am 66 years old and I can still remember what breakups were like. All I can say is that good things will happen when you least expect it and I just want to also say that Carol King was the Taylor Swift of my day!

[@MusicalMiranda82]

TTPD describes a relationship I had with a guy I'd first met almost 10 years before. We never got to really date the first time so I got back with him after a 6 year marriage (2009 and Fearless was out, "You Belong With Me" was the song I associated with him"). The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived will be his song now. :-) Sorry for the break-up! I'm glad Taylor's been there for you. :-)

[@ithitsdiffpod]

Oof, from You Belong With Me to The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived 🥲

[@MusicalMiranda82]

@ithitsdiffpod Right? I would also like to add that that relationship ended in 2010 (Didn't last long the second time lol), but it's just NOW I have TTPD to put to it, lol. I've been happily married for 9 years now. :-D Life, man. 🤣

[@auntietara]

Aw hon, this sucks. Been there, done that, over and over again. At age 52 I married my “So High School.” We’ve been married for 14 years and he’s STILL my “So High School,” so it’s never too late! Before that it was always “You’re Losing Me.” Auntie advice: (It doesn’t matter that I’m not your Auntie … it’s all the same.) 🥰 1. Don’t push it. If you’re looking for love, you’ll excuse poor behavior and imagine things that aren’t true. Being alone and living your best life, learning and growing on your own, is WAY better than being in a half-assed relationship. 2. Men do NOT have potential! If you don’t like him exactly how he is, he’s not the one. Waiting for him to figure it out means you’re wasting your time. 3. Don’t give hoping to receive. If he doesn’t get you, move the f*** on. 4. Pay attention to what you’re really grieving. It may be more about grieving the dream of what you wanted it to be than actually grieving the actual relationship. 5. Take some time to regroup and remember who you are. Any man who can’t handle the full-on, strong, competent Ryan is a hard pass. You don’t need to compromise. Sending bunches of Auntie hugs! You’re an amazing woman, and I know you’ll come out of this better than you went in. 🥰🥰🥰

[@ithitsdiffpod]

this advice resonates SO much and is exactly what i needed to hear. thank you 🥹❤️

[@auntietara]

@@ithitsdiffpod I’m happy to have been helpful! 🥰 Please do keep us updated as you feel moved to do so, but no pressure. I’m not into prying, but I know I’m not the only one who cares. 🤗

[@heatherwilson9717]

Tolerate It killed me after my divorce. Never Grow up when my (then little) Swiftie would listen to it. (She was like 5 and I would pick her up and dance with her to it. Taylor is wise beyond her years. She is a phenomenal therapist!

[@ithitsdiffpod]

Tolerate It is the divorce anthem we didn't ask for, but exactly what we needed

[@kmac67999]

Ryan, you’ve got this girl! You’re young and beautiful. He was so not worth it for you! I’m a mom who is grieving, and my 26 year marriage has been horrible for years. Praying I can end a toxic situation and start fresh. Hang in there Ryan, you will meet who is meant for you. I have total faith in you! ❤

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you ❤️❤️ the same goes to you!! i'm so sorry you're going through this, but you're a mom, which must mean you're strong and capable of absolutely anything. sending love and strength to a fellow badass. you've got this!!

[@kmac67999]

@@ithitsdiffpod you’re such a doll! Chin up, shoulders back! With your awesome tats I so know you’ve got moxie! Also hello…You’re a swiftie, you’re gonna rock this right into new and better! ❤️

[@jillwelch8180]

Basically, ALL of her music makes me emotional. Sometimes it is the lyrics, often it is simply the melody. Guaranteed to ugly cry to Marjorie, Never Grow Up, Long Live. However, when I’m feeling bad ass on the treadmill, it is Ready for It? on repeat until I can’t run anymore.

[@tj6930]

I want to say, that I love you guys’ relationship so much! You guys have each other’s best interest and undying support. ❤

[@hkbdude]

You’re on your own, kid hits home for me. When I went through tough times at work with people back stabbing me, look what you made me do, who’s afraid of little old me became my anthems, just to name a couple

[@donnaj9769]

I’m all there for Tay Therapy. Hang in there Ryan we’re all on your side. LOML was/is the killer song for me. I’m in my late 60’s & that one still resonates with me. It’s a killer of a song that breaks me every time.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you ❤️❤️

[@KatsObsession]

Your losing me broke my heart when I first heard it and it continued for a good year to be my anthem of how I felt in my marriage. One day I asked my husband to listen to it and we had so many serious conversations. We’re finally in a good place now and I listened to it again, I can finally say I don’t feel those same feelings but it’s still such a heartbreaking song. “My endless empathy” makes my eyes leak. The heartbeats in the song, and how it suddenly stops. Her sighs and breaths. I picture her singing it and now I’m just so happy she’s no longer in that. No one should feel that way. Sending love your way ❤their loss!

[@melanieglazener9738]

Thank you for sharing and caring!

[@AlexanderGut]

The best thing on Taylor‘s songs: they are relatable for a lot of people and in different situations. And even if she mostly writes from her perspective, her songs are relatable for men too. I have started very late really listening to Taylor’s music - she got me with “Champaign Problems” as Evermore was released. Just flip the story and try to see it with the eyes of that guy! Then it was “All to Well” - a lot parts of it are relatable too. Then “Exile” - what man cannot relate to “I never learned to read your mind”? I mean, we all can say: “It's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me”. And of course “You are losing me” - it hits (differently). And Taylor always can look in peoples -windows- souls. My current “mirrorball”-song is “I Hate It Here” - the bridge could be my status message for a long time: I'm lonely but I'm good, I'm bitter but I swear I'm fine, I'll save all my romanticism for my inner life and I'll get lost on purpose… And Taylor has songs to build me up again. It could be “YOYOK”: Everything you lose is a step you take. So make the friendship bracelets, take the moment and taste it. You've got no reason to be afraid. or some another upbeat song. Listening to her music just helps to come through all good and bad times.

[@LukaLemons]

a song for me. is thanK you aIMee. as i have my own 'aIMee''s in my life.

[@Sadielady1978]

TTPD is about an Aries Avoidant and I found it interesting that I shared the deep meaning of the album with my Aries whom I thought was a wonderful man. The end of July, after a small first fight, he broke it off and ghosted me and my children....separated my family from his 6 year old twin children 😢. I lost my best friend, my future husband, and 2 beautiful children out of the clear blue! LOML, My Boy Only Breaks His Favorite Toys, The Black Dog, The Prophecy are amongst the songs that hit and hurt the most.

[@Prettykittychimi]

What a loser. At least he showed his true colors early on. You don’t need a man to complete you. ❤

[@ithitsdiffpod]

so, so sorry for what happened to you!! when you're ready, boost yourself up with I Bet You Think About Me, You're Not Sorry, Better Man and Picture to Burn. sending you all of our love ❤️

[@Sadielady1978]

@ithitsdiffpod thank you my dears!

[@jasonivy9705]

Hey Ryan, while breakups are horrible to go through, you will be fine. What you might consider doing is going to a Chiefs home game and find a seat underneath where Taylor's suite is. You could watch a game and stalk your girl at the same time. Also, you're beautiful and will be fine after your breakup. There will be plenty of guys out there that would be overjoyed to have you in their life. Just stay away from the super players and find a guy who is looking for something real. Now he might not check every box that you have, but if he's a family oriented man with a huge heart, is smart and good looking and in shape and funny and charming and makes ok money and would adore you and likes your podcast and loves Taylor Swift and is a life long Chiefs fan looking for his own Travis and Taylor style relationship, then that might be the type of guy that you're looking for. If only you could find a guy like that. Who, knows, maybe he's closer than you think. Maybe he's writing you a message right now and would love to get to know you better. Btw, you don't live in the Kansas City area, do you? Because I know a guy just like this that completely fits the bill ;)

[@melissadavis4981]

So Long, London... at first I couldn't really relate and didn't really appreciate it as much... but my husband and I were going through a rough few months and I was listening to that song when I broke down crying. Another song is Seven from Folklore... when I realized what that song was about and really listened to it... I no joke cried for 3 days straight thinking about the friends that I had growing up that I loved SO much, we talked about naming our kids after each other, we promised to be friends forever, etc and I can barely remember their faces or what their voices sounded like... it's so fucking sad.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

it doesn't get more cathartic than crying to taylor's music ❤️

[@joycebuck7324]

This is a great idea, hard but great! I’m in my mid 60’s, hate to tell you guys, I’m in the same places! Keep being a Phoenix!!!❤️💔🌷😻

[@stargirlofantares9053]

This is all so meaningful & relatable. I can’t even describe. I’m new & haven’t heard all her old music yet, so I can’t say what hits me most, but from TTPD, loml, the black dog, who’s afraid of little old me. I love these songs & feel I’ve loved them at different times in my life. I’m 54 & trying to break up with 51 years of mental illness, now that they got my meds right. I know it can’t TOTALLY happen. I do live in reality, but Lavender Haze is where I want to be. I also have always loved Love Story. Still waiting for mine. I wish I understood more about her songs, like what WAS happening at that time in her life? I’m slowly learning. I wish she’d write a book. I guess her music is her literary voice though, which is amazing! Her lyrics are so powerful. So much emotion in them. Anyway, I’m sorry I’m a day late. Would love to hear more from Ryan about her feelings with her guy or girl & how Taylor’s songs helped/hurt/were cathartic etc. Love you girls! ♥️ Jess

[@shmamycakes]

I jave been divorced for 8 years, but when TTPD came out, omg, so many lyrics hit hard. As far as songs, "The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived" rang closest to me, even this many years since that relationship.

[@briannawilson431]

Love your podcast !!! I'm pulling for you Ryan 🙏 Your Travy has not found you yet

[@ithitsdiffpod]

he's out there somewhere 😊❤️

[@MusicCityMere]

So sorry you have similar luck as lots of us ladies! I'm so many years removed from my past traumatic relationships, that the lyrics are more reflective for me vs feeling it because I'm currently going through it. I'm still single, mostly by choice as I've decided to focus on my son, but at 43 I'm still wondering if The Prophecy will ever be fulfilled for me. I'm so happy focusing on myself, friends and family; but still yearn for the partner that I've longed for.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you for sharing!! your person is out there somewhere. in the meantime, i'm so glad that you're choosing to prioritize yourself and your own happiness. people tend to show up in our lives when we least expect it. ❤️

[@DianaDavis-o8u]

Hey there! 🌟 I don’t really use social media much these days, so your channel has been a lifesaver for keeping up with her career and celebrating her successes. As a newer Swiftie, I absolutely love how informative and fun your content is. Music has this incredible way of healing, and I feel like we can all heal together through it. Right now, I’m in a sassy phase of my life, so “Vigilante Shit” has been my anthem for the past two weeks! 🎶 I’d love to see more song breakdowns and content that helps us explore and connect even more. Keep up the amazing work! 💖

[@ithitsdiffpod]

glad to hear you like the song breakdowns! we'd love to do more of these and keep trying new types of content, thankful for viewers like you who are open to us trying new things :) also - vigilante shit phase, let's gooooooo 🔥

[@DianaDavis-o8u]

@@ithitsdiffpod it also might be real cool to have your viewers send you letters about how certain songs “hit them differently” for you to read or talk about on your podcast. I have been thoroughly enjoying reading the comments of others but a more detailed letter might be fun.

[@tilTaya_]

It's scary how we are "living the same life". I got divorced in July/2023 and was totally cool with it, in my head I was detached from this relationship for a year+, so... When TTPD came out, it hurt so bad because it forced me to mourn, the worst of them all is The Prophecy, because I can relate SO much with it. Can't thank Taylor enough for this album.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

i can completely relate to the mind trick of detachment and thinking you're okay. sometimes we don't even realize we're compartmentalizing until something triggers all of the emotions we've been suppressing. so happy you're able to heal through taylor's music. ❤️❤️

[@mybhl]

We need a feature of clowning for your new relationship.

[@irene2hansen241]

I enjoy this serie, where you talk a little about your self & your struggles & also your happyness

[@daniellewylie6187]

All Too Well, You Belong With Me & Picture To Burn helped me with lost love!

[@ithitsdiffpod]

great songs 🫶

[@rosieclindist373]

I can do it with a broken heart .Come for my job . While moving .

[@ithitsdiffpod]

brilliant idea!! will report back in a few months

[@AMoniqueOcampo]

One memory I have is listening to "Forever and Always" in college and feeling like it reminded me of a relationship I had in high school.

[@ALee-xf2vm]

So many of the lyrics in her songs speak to me about different times in my life. I'm in my mid-fifties, so I've had a lot more experiences than many Swifties, but I'm here to tell you that you'll continue to relate to different songs at different times. I can listen to her song Fifteen and reminisce about my young girlhood days and yes, life was like she said in the song. And on and on. I've had the love-bombing Smallest Man Who Ever Lived, and I've even lived Guilty as Sin a few times in my life, as it's so true that when we see the end of a relationship is near, we tend to romanticize the past relationships that got away and think that we're still in love with them, when in reality, they NEED to stay in the past. Righ now, today, I'm feeling 22. I've gone through some medical issues and went through a period when I was feeling 82. Feeling like my best days are over. But I've come through them and am feeling better than I have in 15 years, so youthful and energetic, that I sing that song at the top of my lungs! :D

[@ithitsdiffpod]

❤️❤️❤️

[@lexymich22]

I've been sort of afraid to say this bc I don't want the swifties to come for me as the kids say. However you gave me an opening. In the Zane Lowe interview for "Folklore" and "Evermore" she said, "Joe and I love sad songs." The was a GINORMOUS red flag for me. I think it's probably just bc I was looking at it from a pulled back perspective. In my head I'm hearing "how much sad did you think I had in me?". Putting together Joe was an introvert and she was an extrovert I did not think that would be a forever relationship. I think I have said I live in one hotel room with my introverted mother and I'm a Sagittarius as well and I read that we are extreme extroverts, not that I needed to read that to know lol. It's very hard. You add in that she's Narcissistic and that makes it worse. Joe literally was gorgeous so I wanted it to work out but when she said that, I was pretty sure the relationship wouldn't last much longer.

[@cindybeernink4203]

You have a beautiful friendship.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you 😊🫶

[@YC1969]

Definitely! My ex husband is "The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived" and then I had an Amazing boyfriend pass, "Brighter Than The Whole Sky" 💜😍

[@thewanderingorphan]

This is so raw and relatable. Ryan, I hope you're ok, hon. You're stunning. It won't take long for the right guy to come running after you❤

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you 🥹

[@jenniferwistey7323]

Such a great podcast! You are both so insightful. Thank you both, especially Ryan, for sharing.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you for watching 🤍🤍

[@rosieclindist373]

RYAN start listening to I can do it with a broken heart.

[@amieepoole3768]

I had a boyfriend die in 2021 Bigger than the whole Sky reminds me of of him. He also liked blank space. I also had a rough break up after and My Boy only breaks his favorite Toys reminds me of that relationship. I’m queen of castles he destroyed. I tried so much to salvage the relationship but was a losing battle, so I understand that feeling. Oh and I had a woulda, coulda, shoulda situation in my past. I enjoy your videos!

[@ithitsdiffpod]

we are so sorry for your loss, that is so hard. thankful we have taylor's music to help us through 🤍 would've could've should've is one of my top taylor songs too!

[@Prettykittychimi]

You’re Losing Me came out a couple days after I broke up with this awful guy I never actually liked (caught him cheating) but since he’s a perpetual people pleaser I kept him around to get things repaired in my house. I had zero sad emotions over that song even though I should have. Truly showed how much I hated that guy and I made the right decision to cut him loose after he installed the greenhouse fan. Anyway. I don’t date anymore, never will. I’m done. Why go through all the inevitable pain over a cheating lying man when you can collect more cats and hire a handyman instead? Now if The Prophecy came out 3 years earlier I wouldn’t have survived.

[@katvz857]

Love this idea! Thanks for sharing - life is challenging and beautiful and painful, and TS captures many of life’s feelings so accurately. Love me some Tay therapy. I’m in my early 40s and a friend who was like a brother to me throughout my 20s recently committed suicide. I can’t find a TS song that captures the feelings of devastation, the regret of not being there, but lines in Cardigan like “I knew you dancing in your Levi’s drunk under a streetlight” and “and when I felt like I was an old cardigan under someone’s bed, you put me on and said I was your favorite” capture the adoration and nostalgia we had for each other, “This is me trying” makes me think about his perspective and the weight of addiction and PTSD he carried, and “Bigger Than the Whole Sky” is a good one to sob to.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

i am so, so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. it is so hard to live with that grief. if you haven't listened to 'Forever Winter' from the Red vault tracks yet, it was written about a similar situation for Taylor. how lucky we are to have her music to help us process these difficult emotions. sending love and comfort your way 🤍

[@katvz857]

Wow thank you for that recommendation! I’m a bit floored that TS actually does in fact have a song that captures some of these thoughts and feelings. I so appreciate your channel and the joy and positivity you share. Thanks again.♥️

[@ithitsdiffpod]

adding...not a Taylor song, but a Taylor-recommended artist...Ashe has a song called Ryne's Song about her brother who lost his life to addiction struggles years ago. it's raw and tragic but sometimes those songs can be the most healing as you're working through the pain. ❤️

[@fionacharrington7709]

Love you two & your channel ❤😊 Thank you 😊

[@lexymich22]

Yes I love this. Like I've said many times I am probably an elderly person to you bc I will be 54 this year. I quit on relationships when I was engaged to a guy I had been dating for 7 years and he all of a sudden became bi polar. He couldn't talk to me enough for 2 weeks then I could literally have stood in front of him with a knife to my throat and he couldnt have cared less. So yeah for two weeks YLM would have upset him, but the other two he wouldn't have cared.

[@Thesecretlifeof_swift1e]

For me it’s yoyok and you’re losing me ❤❤ hope everyone is okay and Tay can help us ❤😊my favourite lyric from you’re losing me is “ how can you say you love someone who you can’t tell is dying” 😊 never been in a relationship though 😅 but also happy songs help with sadness (if anyone wants to know why I will say but if u don’t idc) ❤️

[@M.E.Merkel-Tubbs]

I love this video... I definitely think that I would love for you guys to do more videos like this... I know I definitely can relate to a lot of what is being said by Ryan and Taylor for that matter... I also think that this is something that Is universal... If you can't relate like Molly said she can because she understands Ryan's situation... I have friends that are happily married and haven't gone through what I've been through but yet can be sympathetic towards my situations... I love the fact that lyrics can say so much to an individual that we are able to interpret these for our own lives... I know that's why music is so important in my life... That's why Taylor's music is so important in my life... Thank you ladies I truly do appreciate this video and I look forward to seeing more of them... 🥰🥰🥰 Also, real quick Ryan You are a beautiful amazing young woman and you're Travis is there waiting for you; you'll find them I have faith in that... 💜💜💜

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you so much for watching and for the kind words!! we're so happy y'all want more tay therapy! stay tuned ❤️

[@andreafuzzi9484]

She asks for compassionate LULLABY of Hunger games soundtrack

[@bettyo8417]

I Almost Do is the one for me. I mean who doesn’t wonder if an old boyfriend ever thinks about you, 😂

[@jacquiem7737]

I cant stop listening to The Prophecy 😢It’s my anthem❤

[@ithitsdiffpod]

pleeeeaaase i've been on my kneeeeessss change the propheccyyyyy 😭😭😭

[@AmandaWspoon]

I have had a complicated not quite platonic friendship/situationsip spaning 22 years now. I have a 60-song Taylor playlist dedicated to us and our history. It's been quite healing making it. (It's on my KZbin). Even if some songs are a stretch. Here are some telling songs in chronological order from the first time she annoyed me in 7th grade algebra, through her terrible taste in men, to the two years since her arrest (because she stayed with the dickhead everyone hated): I'm Only Me When I'm With You, Dancing with our Hands Tied, I Can Fix Him, You're Loosing Me, Cardigan, Right Where You Left Me, Out of the Woods. The bookends are Suburban Legends and The 1. I haven't written her in months; I feel detatched, even though we were already dying, if he was away it felt like old times then he'd come and cast a dark shadow over everything. Her oldest is 15 now and I help her mom(who has custody) by driving him from school and babysitting on bridge days if they aren't in school, etc. You're Loosing Me broke me and came after the arrest. I tried to get her to leave him. But I had to 'Tolerate It', or risk loosing her and my surgate niece and nephew. He was so deep in her head, abusive to her and the kids...Do something, choose something. Even the 'I wouldn't marry me either' (I am asexual she is mostly straight) because I loved her. I obviously hate him because my unrequited love for her...my denial. I was having panic attacks almost calling CPS and not being able to do it. I kept seeing him trying to be better and plenty of people have called them already, I would just make things worse. I was realizing he had coroded everything but I couldn't just leave her. She would wake up we'd have a sleepover watch comfort tv and eat like we're teenagers then we'll be fine again. I just have to be around to reach out to for when she did leave. But it took her getting arrested and being removed for him to realize he was the worst kind of POS ever. I resented her but tried to be loving and understanding in how I was saying he was shit, everyone else was trying tough love. I can write more but it's just muddled. You're Loosing Me, wrecked a lot of us, even my not quite platonic friendship, fit perfectly my feelings about the last 3 years she was with him.

[@mikedebruyn]

Listening to you two talking about songs in the stages of grief that Taylor posted it seems we have different explanations of them. To me Lover is still a love song only for Taylor when she wrote it she was in Denial. I am a bit confused now.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

everyone can have their own interpretations! for me, honestly ever since i first heard the song Lover, I always felt there was something a bit off about it. like the person is trying to convince themselves that their relationship is great on the surface but underneath is actually worried about it not being able to go the distance. a lot of people see it as a love song though and have used it for their weddings for example! to each their own! -Molly

[@mikedebruyn]

@@ithitsdiffpod Oh I might have not worded it right then because your answer is exactly what i was not looking for :) sorry! I am talking about the playlist and the songs that Taylor placed in them and used Lover as an example. That we can interpret a song however we want is a given. It is more of a general question, do people see a song once it gets placed in one of those 5 playlists as A This is Taylor's interpretation of where the song fits on those 5 stages B This is the stage Taylor was in when she wrote that song.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

I think people have different opinions on that as well! For lover, I think both A and B are true but in general with the playlists I think it was meant to be B or at least she’s realizing that now upon reflection

[@carlap3933]

LFG!

[@carlap3933]

Great video again! Tay therapy, well, yeah, she is in our walls and our brains. For me: All ten Well - "time won't fly, it's like I'm paralyzed by it/ I'd like to be my old self/but I'm still trying to find it." - really hit when dealing with traumatic family relationships. The Archer - just all of it actually, the anxiety and anxious attachment, specifically looking for the dark side - I waited for the other shoe to drop, after 16 years together with my husband, I think, I hope, I am finally getting out of that phase. Lover - Just wanting to be close forever. ME! I am unique, I am a handful. Mirroball - I am a chameleon with an unstable sense of self. This is me trying - former gifted student, struggling with burnout and mental health issues. Anti-Hero - I cause my own problems, and yess you better believe I'd rather look at the sun than in the mirror. Mastermind - I am only Cryptic and Machiavellian because I care. And yes, no one wanted to play with me as a little kid. YOYOK I can face this. So Long London - I am just getting color back into my face. I feel like i am finally starting to live again. TSMWEL/Dear John - aids in putting the blame were it goes - You should have known, and You are what you did. So High School - just that butterfly feeling that I still feel for my husband. The Manuscript/ThanK you AiMee - realizing that all of the things in my life have lead me to where I am and that I wouldn't be the happiest I have been in a long time without going through the rough times. Holy hell, it's a revealing and vulnerable essay.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

you are so on point with these Carla!! glad you feel like you are starting to live again. keep finding ways to bring that color back to your face!!

[@volllllov]

Sometimes, Taylor hit's too hard and too real... but it's almost always a much needed smack in the face to begin healing or acknowledging that there's something just under the surface that we may be avoiding.

[@ithitsdiffpod]

so true

[@ChristinePrentice-l3h]

@christine I like your podcast, even though I am older can still relate to past experiences through her music and I love this for both of them being in CHIEFS Kingdom ❤️

[@GodsLove4Howeverlong]

Hey Gals ❤❤ Is this a song about ME... it's Country 📒Charlie Chaplin 📃🖊 (Country) You look like....... Charlie Chaplin in this light The Bowa hat and knee bend and Cane It will be your claim to fame never been seen before Hollywood need you to preform so much more Silently and make a scene on the Big Screen You look like...... Elvis Presley in this light His gyrations was that generation motivation just shake the hips and rattle there brains cause all the Gals will go insane for you he put Vegas on the map they flocked to his shows just to hear his bass tones You look like......... Eddie Hargett in this light he is a wiz with words but quite the NERD and never discovered but quite an adorer he makes the dictionary less contemporary never look at any word the same ever again carrot in the ground the Tube is were I will be found...🐨

[@the1taylorswift2fan]

ALWAYS. She never read my diary coz I never have one but she read into my souls. The worst thing are about things so devastating to my life that I've forgotten about but in her songs she came over & say nope, u got to listen to this to become a better person..& for that, I'll forever owe my life to her. I would never be who I'm today without her. I would happily donate my heart to her if she ever need another one & I'm dead serious about it 🤍🤍

[@Diana-ze8wu]

Yes to all of this 🫶🏻

[@itsmeAles]

You are so not alone in this, Ryan 😭❤‍🩹

[@Alfrodo8]

00:00 The quick answer is no, unfortunately XD, or fortunately maybe? Idk. I still love her songs tho, so I'm watching the video anyway

[@nancybudd494]

Great episode, I feel you,break ups suck so much. Taylor has written many songs that correlate with times in my life, almost all of TTPD REALLY hit me hard, but Clean is a song that some days I cannot listen to, for me it totally describes how I felt getting over a sexual assault by someone I had called a friend for many years and that total violation, it can be hard to be brought back to that, but it also saved me at that time. Love you ladies 🫶

[@ithitsdiffpod]

thank you for sharing! sending you so much love ❤️❤️

[@nancybudd494]

@ithitsdiffpod anytime, thank you both for all the fun amd respectful Taylor content, including today's video about her clearly being a busy bee, she has got shit to do, can't be at every game. Some people are wild