How to Friends with Benefits: Lessons Learned in College

[@Capt.57]

* *Important Note* * These are stories of my past when I had a lot of learning and growing to do. No one is perfect and I certainly am willing to own up to the fact that I've made a lot of poor decisions in my life; however, I have gotten the chance to learn from them and hopefully they'll help you avoid making the same mistakes. All the love. xx P.S. Sorry to #TheGathering for lying to y'all this morning about when this would be up lol. I accidentally scheduled it for tomorrow instead of today hahahaha oops. Livestreams are happening irregularly so hit that bell and come join our late night cult where we just chat and have a good time.

[@andylieu9661]

How dare! 😂 Nah... Always looking forward for more content. See ya in next stream.

[@johann5633]

Jesus christ on a unicycle, you're life is fucking complicated. I've never analyzed my numerous lifetime friendships or relationships like you; a real soap opera. I'm older than you & at your age I was busting blue collar work, so much different paths were experienced. Love hearing you talk though, you're destined for a career in sales.

[@TrailBlazer46]

Thanks for sharing your personal stories as always Taylor. Even though I’m older they still help me because I came out so late in life and basically my learning about myself as a gay man is probably about where you are mentally and emotionally. I myself am an emotional person as well and keeping feelings back can be difficult. Having a couple somewhat successful FWB has helped me though to a degree with this. I agree with pretty much everything you said but with the possible exception of one thing. We are obviously all emotional beings. And whether we like it or not, even when in a FWB relationship our emotions, no matter who we are, are bound to come out in different ways. Even if it’s just caring for the other person as just a good friend. So wondering if you, or others on the channel, can explain in more detail how you can keep that emotional separation. For me, I’d love to have a monogamous anything, lol. But especially with FWB I don’t think that would help with keeping your emotions from getting attached to the other. Anyway, appreciate comments from you or anyone else and thank you all in advance. Also, also very good to see you maturing and gain8g self confidence and everything else in life. Good man Taylor!

[@mtkaxtreme]

I've never been into drama which may have protected me from much of the so called "gay" drama. I'm still friends with most all of my exes and fwb even tho the b has ended. I think it's partly because we always had and still have respect for each other. Thanks for expressing your experience so well. Cheers

[@atwoo0079]

Authentic learning and growing up, my job is done here on to the next crisis :)

[@drew28551]

Just a note: EMOTIONS are not always controllable and you are not able to control another's emotions.

[@Democracy10]

I've listened to this entire conversation and what I'm taking away from this is that you're growing up. Have a good day.

[@mcmanpa]

Mr. Hahn COMMENTATOR+ I had a different takeaway: I think he's trying to live his life on train tracks.

[@dragonball7454]

It's called F buddies. Not friends with benefits. I don't know how you can be friends with someone and not build feelings.

[@gabe8743]

"Friends with Benefits" should be based more on friendship rather than the benefits. You should go out as friends. And, if being intimate happens, it happens. If not, that is good too! Too many young people are "Horny" all the time and want sex 24/7 and end up hurting people as well as themselves. Too many lessons learned!

[@mikelmontoya2965]

I think I'd rather be friends with benefits with a close friend I can share emotional and intimate moments with rather than with an acquaintance who I don't feel as comfortable with.

[@tsering7079]

I think it has something to do with their life stage, being in school is really tricky, because you never know where you will end up in the future. It sounds like they both love each other in this story, but too afraid to define that friendship/relationship. But I also kinda wished if they would develop a short but real relationship. Life is too short, it is not easy to find somebody you can connect with, even that love is temporary, please learn to enjoy every moment you had.

[@darrinlindsey]

When I was your age, I made the mistake of claiming EVERYONE that I came into contact with were friends. I refused to call anyone an acquaintance. This caused huge problems in my life. So, good for you! I admire you for that.

[@tenorprimo]

I wish I had a friend like you when I was coming out. You are the best at explaining things and sharing your experiences. Thank you.

[@ScottRedstone]

Sex often leads to stronger feelings. It's the way it is. Wanting a monogamous FWB arrangement is rather silly. Desiring monogamy means you actually want a relationship.

[@johnmoon3848]

Very wisely said, Scott!

[@Capt.57]

Scott R. I don’t agree with either of those statements. My desire for monogamy came out of concern for my own sexual health & safety, which obviously becomes a bigger risk the more people you/your fwb are involved with. It was not the need to be the only one involved with a dude. Sex is also not always a major form of intimacy or connection for some people, but to each their own.

[@ReadtoFilth]

Taylor Robbins but if you practice safe sex shouldn’t it matter? Shouldn’t you trust the other person to practice safe sex too? If you are concern about sexual health then I guess you shouldn’t hook up around that much

[@AMVrecords]

@@ReadtoFilth sometimes having safe sex isn't enough, and STDs don't always show immediately even with testing

[@nareushardin8990]

@@ReadtoFilth are you being annoying on purpose or did u miss the ongoing Aids crisis in the lgbt(but ESPECIALLY gay) community......if "protection" always worked we wouldn t have the problem. And no you cant always trust people, even celebrities have been cuaght giving partners stds so how do expect a college student who might not even always have money for condoms to be any better?

[@ktdoty9921]

How many other gay guys out there are like almost done with college or perhaps on their way to mid twenties and never gotten action?

[@dragonball7454]

There is nothing wrong with having friends with benefits and falling for each other as long as you both are on the same level. You never know. That relationship could turn into the best life long thing.

[@dereknewbury163]

Great video, intelligent and honest. From the other end of the age spectrum, I can say you seem already to have nailed what took me years to discover. It is all about reciprocity and respect as you suggest. FWB only work when both partners have a clear idea of what they can expect of one another. Personally, I do not find one can keep emotions and feelings out of such relationships. The question becomes how can one manage the limits set. That gets easier if you learn from experience including the mistakes you made

[@Rizerr96]

I've got a FWB right now. He was also the first to take my virginity so that's cool. He's pretty great, we meld together well, he gives me a lot of advice and experience (I'm 19, hes in his 30s) and he satisfies that need for intimacy that i've been deprived of since I was little. I mean, the sex is great. Like, mind-blowingly great. But its the cuddling, the talking, the closeness and the safety of eachothers presence that I value most. Its going over for the night after a rough week and just being content in the feeling that we can enjoy eachother and relax without having to worry about the heavy stakes of a more serious relationship. That being said, there is a thin line between FWB and Emotionally Invested that really needs to be maintained lest someone hurts themselves.

[@gregghanson6095]

very cool. You'rer a mature 19! Getting hurt is sometimes just not possible to avoid. We miss a lot if we're terrified of being hurt. I think it's more important to learn how to deal with being hurt than it is to shut down to it. Not that that is what you're doing.... Good luck!!

[@user-tm1oy6ck4t]

Ari, this is just... fantastic!

[@marcopolo-xj4yw]

Once u have sex with another man you will always have sex with that person. FWB doesn’t work long term. The gay man will always develop feelings.

[@INOBT100]

19 on 30? Is it even legal?

[@brucecoleman5379]

One thing I LOVE about your story telling is there is very little FAT. You are direct and just stay with the fact. You move forward like a shark. And you don't say 'LIKE" every three words. I REALLY appreciate that. Some KZbinrs on here throw 'LIKE' around so much I cannot pay attention to what they are saying. And your adorable.

[@johnedwardjones999]

Good advice...Had several friends with benefits college through 25. Learned a lot in many ways.. Lot of love and respect but not emotionally involved. It can work if both are open and honest.

[@tenderTboy]

yo! we got the same OM symbol tattoo! brush strokes and everything! mine is on my forearm. thanks for sharing man, i value shared college experiences very much. i’m a college student myself navigating new interactions and all.

[@alexg7254]

I an probably the most introverted person I know, extremely in touch with all my feelings, very empathetic to the feelings of others. I never understand why people talk about "controlling" your emotions in a FWB situation. Life would be so much easier for me if I could just flick emotions on or off like a switch. I can only either repress or express feelings of any sort. And repressing just leads me into expressing a bunch of misplaced anger.

[@benjamintanner4991]

I love you man (not in weird way or anything) your just so hilarious and straight forward and don’t care what anybody things so keep on doing you man

[@michaelkline6374]

Benjamin Tanner Ben you can love another dude in a non sexual way. I love Taylors honesty and presentation, but I don’t ‘love’ him

[@TheMikester307]

Thanks for being so honest! I was in a FWB my last two years in college and a couple of years later when a buddy of mine found out we were both Bi. He and I didn't expect to fall for each other but we did! It didn't last but it was wonderful while it did!

[@d.j.7069]

Because of human chemicals, it's hard not to develop deeper feelings for someone you're have in sex with. It's all chemistry! For that reason, it shouldn't be taken too seriously. Breaking it off in one way or another seems like a good idea!

[@BrianThrives]

Thanks for the personal stories! My thoughts below. Friend 1: "Luke" Sometimes feeling develop on their own, and you can't help it. It's always a possibility. Telling myself to keep my feelings compartmentalized hasn't worked out so well. :P BUT I would've done the same thing you did. Cut it off (at least for a time) to let his feelings cool off. It's the more compassionate thing to do, rather than let someone torture themselves (which I think most people would willingly do, so as to be around their person as much as possible).

[@chazgurrero3090]

Just enjoy yourself. While it lasts. You never know how awsome life can become. So just savor your moments of youth.

[@TheSmilecamera]

Taylor, I love your positive story-time teaching videos. Please know that you are a well-organized and very well presented orator. ❤️👠👠

[@Houdini_Bob]

do you believe that FWB can "love" each other or one toward the other BUT NOT BE IN LOVE. there is a difference in loving someone and being in love with them.

[@pfs5812]

Excellent observations and a great learning experience - thank you!

[@DonKhushiiYoshi]

This is fine and all I'm glad you enjoyed exploring this type of relationship but idk asking your friend with benefits to sleep with only you seems a bit contradictory and defeats the purpose of a real "friends with benefits" type of relationship. I mean, ya'll are just friends and they aren't obligated to settle down with you, especially if its not a real romantic/monogamous relationship...asking for a monogamous FWB just sounds like a regular monogamous relationship lol and it seems like you treated it more as romantic relationships rather than a normal friends with benefits type of relationship. Not hate here, just giving my thoughts.

[@ronhessman8720]

Thanks for your personal stories, helps others to learn and understand.

[@david345878]

This notification made me grin, this should be interesting. #TsGathering 😂😇 Update: I have taken notes 😩👌

[@benw9949]

If I had a "friends with benefits" where the friend started having feelings for me, it might be worth figuring out if I also had feelings for him developing. If I was the one getting those feelings and he was still in the "just friends" stage towards me, maybe a good friend would want to stick around and figure out if he also had feelings for me, if it could work. The problem is that one or both people may not have those feelings for each other to start with, and yet they like each other and want the benefits (sex); or that one may start to have feelings for the other, but the other does not. A relationship where you are best friends and also in love and sexually attracted, well, hey, isn't that what they call a marriage / partnership? Or at least a steady dating relationship, boyfriends? -- But I have never had a "friends with benefits." I have had times, back in my teens, when I developed feelings for guy friends, including one best friend. And dang, I wish they had felt the same. If they did, I never knew about it, but oh, I was conflicted and naive back then. So I am done to like some friends, but not others, in that way. If a friend developed feelings for me and I liked him back, oh, that'd be ideal. Yeah, I've never really had much luck in this part of my life. So many years as a teen and young adult where I was too conflicted, wanted a friend and wanted a gay relationship, but always stayed blocked or somehow things never got of the ground or never got anywhere, doomed crushes, fumbling mishaps, things like that. So.... I don't know. Some of us are slow or have bad luck or have trouble figuring out how to make this part of life work out. I wish I had been able to reach out better or some friend had been able to reach me somehow, but I don't know how they would have. I wasn't homophobic about other guys, friends, but I was confused and scared about myself and being accepted, while at the same time, deeply wanting a friend and someone to try things out with, a boyfriend / partner, though at the time, I couldn't see how I or he could eeer have the word "boyfriend" attached. It seemed too impossible. But oh, yeah, I was gay all along, I just had trouble accepting myself and others accepting me as gay. I eventually came out after my parents were gone. Years later, I still feel like I am learning / unlearning so much, and I still feel like my life is too blocked in terms of being gay, having a relationship, a boyfriend or partner. And I don't get it. How can I still not have had that? Why didn't I have that earlier, in my teens or 20's, and why not after I came out? S...yeah, I don't now, I wish it would work out. I used to think friends with benefits was a crazy thing. I used to think waiting to have sex until you knew it was the right guy was th right thing. Heck, I used to think a lot of picky things. LOL, now, the old biological clock is still ticking, and I feel like I missed so much I should not have. I don't know why it didn't work out with some friend back then. I her stories from guys about gay friends, benefits, fooling around, or boyfriends, or partnerships working out. So how come I had so little of that? I don't know, and yeah, I. am frustrated and wishing I could work it out. I don't expect some random guy online will be that answer, either. I still want it to be a good friend and love and yeah, good sex. Who knows? But Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now have not landed on my doorstep or in my lap or under my Christmas tree, ever. :-/ So...dang, ,now I'm frustrated and I thought somehow I was going to have something good to say. Nuts.

[@charlesabdh5813]

Hannngggg on a second.... Is this the same guy that was like I don't want to be used, I don't want someone to just want me for my body blah blah blah?

[@ip3485]

Yeag

[@kentonjones806]

Ok!,,,,, I was empathizing and really feeling bonded over some thing similar in my gay history. I followed or Subscribed because i wanted to know that he was doing better,,,feeling better. Well I guess he is. Side note I came out late and went through it all, trying to find my way. Now I'n not saying this guy did,,,,,but what I tried to do was never be like those who hurt me. I'm older now,,,,wiser,a little less innocent,,,,,,but I still am mostly monogamist ,I have never cheated while in a relation ship and if you think about it and you're honest,,,,FRIENDS with BENEFITS,,,,isn't a real thing and never works. One person always likes the other more,,,, and when you're young you think you can win them by being there. NEVER WORKS

[@kentonjones806]

@Jordan Reynolds it was a fools errand. I used to hate when people told me it would make sense when you're older,,,,,BUT''''' Think about it,there are always exceptions but mainly, when people think back on these type issues,,,,they are no longer friends with the person. That is your proof,,,,,alll these stories end, someone will feel deeper, some one will feel, rejected ,,,,that makes for awkwardness.....Friend ship ,,,,,,,,,,sank'

[@kentonjones806]

@Jordan Reynolds Exactly'

[@Scar-jg4bn]

This is what happens with most gay men, it sucks when they get used but they're fine using others. It's the circle of life, lol.

[@puppet022]

Taylor, I liked this video a lot and have two questions. Was there a pole between your light and you? There's a shadow in the middle of the screen...? When you watch this after you finish shooting and are editing out pauses, do you ever feel like the pace of your speaking is too fast? I really like how you're able to convey so much information... and here's my very small suggestion/critique:. If there is something you want to emphasize, it would have a greater impact to simply slow down, only slightly! I think you're a great speaker! Really enjoy your topics. Keep up the great work!

[@okimlistening2u]

Taylor, I look for patterns of behavior and solutions to issues. In my view, a person cannot mix friendship with sex and think there will not be consequences. Thanks, man.....Ray

[@darrens254]

Just subscribing to your channel and I'm loving your topics, I've tried friends with benefits only because relationships are hard and difficult, but you shouldn't need that, you're attractive and I Don't mean to offend you I really don't! you should never need friends with benefits your have so much to offer any man.

[@scubawrestler]

I'm glad to see you are doing well.

[@brendenharrison530]

Hi Taylor Hope u had Awesome Tuesday 😀😀😀

[@devonteblair9059]

So glad you learned from all of these situations and stayed an awesome person 😀😀💗💗💗

[@jreggy9505]

Hi Taylor, I'm not sure how people can turn off feelings as such. By definition being mates with someone mean that you must have some feelings to start with. I did have a friend with benefits many years ago. He would call up and we would hang out and do our thing. He did have a girlfriend who was mainly a cover story for him. (to a large extent we were both in the closet). but that could have changed easily, he kept asking me to move in with him ( he would dump the GF), but I had expectations of me and responsibilities that meant I just couldn't do that. not that I didn't want to, but it wasn't what others expected of me, ( i'm one of those good boys, that always does whats expected). I was so WRONG. Any way things happened and we drifted apart. Years later I was at a party when I saw a mutual friend, He told this guy had died. he was apparently talking to this mutual friend and just dropped dead instantly. It turned out something is his brain just exploded. Apparently it was so fast he would not have even known. I was so wrong, I wasted all those years I could have had with him. He loved me and I love him, but nobody knew so I didn't even get told till years later. I have never gotten over this. I have not been with anyone since. He was only in his late 20's. Don't make the same mistake I did, it hurts too much. Its now been more than 12 years since I have been with anyone.

[@BruceInFlorida]

How have you accumulated such a vast amount of life experience at such a young age?

[@thomasrokos5433]

Creeper Alert

[@Brad_808]

Awesome koi art in the background!

[@ehhjeep]

Glad to know that I am not the only one to ever make that mistake. ; D I learned the hard way about FWB. No relationship, no sack time.

[@okanalagoz6328]

Taylor is looking cute like always💕💕💫🌻

[@h2h1zzz]

Always

[@peterpanos7170]

My advice is travel learn new experiences countries place’s people & special people is necessary xx 😘😘🥰🥰❤️❤️

[@user-tm1oy6ck4t]

If FWB serve the purpose of preparing one emotionally (learning give-and-take and compromise) and physically (you only get good at sex if you've had it) for the meaningful relationships to come then it would seem to me they have value.

[@edward_revenous]

Always enjoy watching your videos I know as much as I I don't necessarily agree with friends with benefits, but I'm a very open minded person. I just probably have a different take on it but it was nice to see that you were able to turn your experiences and share them into it an educational and a more positive experience for others. 👍😎👍

[@f2_ly547]

Other than the GPA , Nothing also should be taken serious when you're still in college. Just have fun with everything else. No string attached

[@daneadams2808]

Actually though.

[@MalcomMalediction]

I’m glad u apologized for the mistake u made with ur 1st friend with benefits

[@francomancini3401]

Great videos. Learnt alot from your videos. Have an amazing day.

[@quinvincentsy5462]

Love your content. Sending regards from the Philippines 😘😊

[@andrewkirk8278]

Do you think that what this all means is that there’s an inextricable for some people between sexual intimacy and emotional attachment? For others maybe not for some maybe? In conclusion for some it may work for others it may not. Depends on the two people involved.

[@michaelkline6374]

Great healthy advice! Good for younger AND us older folks ;)

[@INOBT100]

I have my final years of f#₪&_-g school before me now, and it's really a stressfull time, being stuck there, learning all year for my exams (I'm eighteen and got three more years to get my highschool diploma), and memoring all those classes I'm not gonna do anything with them in the future. And if that's not enough, I checked into an acting school which hasnt even started yet due to covid. In parallel to this and to my nervous breakdowns caused by it, I really need something more to calm me down either than music. Unfortunately I have no idea where could I possibly find a lover. 😵😢🤢

[@dragdude2]

Wish I knew people like you when I was in college. I never had the guts to be open about my sexuality

[@CanadaKeith]

Nothing wrong with having feelings for someone. How will you ever meet 'the one' if you don't. Maybe Friends with Benefit #1 might have been 'the one' now, or maybe later. If you're still sowing wild oats, it's probably best to wait until your ready and 'the one' as well.

[@wilson9574]

I always enjoy your videos. I can't always watch when you live stream and those videos are not available after the live stream ends. Are patreons able to see past live streams?

[@leoancherani2223]

TAYLOR, VERY HELPFUL VIDEO, TO ALLOF US, THANK YOU FOR YOUR OPINIONS AND SHARING ALLOF YOUR FEELINGS WITH ALL OF US.😍❤️👍👊🏻✋🏼🤘🏻👏🏻🙏👏😇👅

[@ShaneDocPuff]

So I have a question for you, at this time who are the KZbinrs that you enjoy following, is it just blogs like yours, or do you like to watch channels that teach you hobbies? I always call KZbin (KZbin University) due to what you can learn on here.

[@brianlewis9659]

Totally ground rules are best, thank you for for sharing Taylor buds are buds.

[@brianlewis9659]

Aww so terribly sorry Taylor damned predictive text changed your name on me my sisters girlfriend is Tyler, any who love your posts live is so fun have a great day! Mwah mwah from New Zealand

[@sasamarceta6053]

Hey handsome i see that you learn a lot from yours experience and that is great you looks so strong and i'm glad 🤗 We all have a bad and good decision and that is life, from that we learn a lot and become stronger 💪💪💪💪

[@andyrattan7796]

I love the OM on your arm

[@darrinlindsey]

Wow! You've "grown up" a lot in the last 8 months. You sound like you are so completely secure with yourself, compared to what you portrayed in the video about the army guy and the AirBNB.

[@defiantsisko]

Repetitive sexual encounters with the same partner will lead to feelings developing. It isn’t natural to not develop feelings under those circumstances. It isn’t called sexual intimacy for nothing.

[@dustpal]

I wish I figured this out sooner. I caught feelings for a FWB, so now we are just friends. Kinda miss the benefits, lol, but it’s nice to have a friend to talk to about anything, including sex. Would always recommend FWB. Heck, even FB are nice, but based on you videos, guessing you are probably not a fan or just not for you in general.

[@kevinkunzmann8782]

Love Taylor!

[@bobbytaylor8122]

Hi taylor I am concerned as I hear alot of tornados etc around your state ,are you safe ?hope all is OK where you are

[@wilsonsantiago8122]

This was definitely a classic text book growing pain. Glad you have moved on and considering a settle down mode after college. You are a cutie by the way, just saying. I appreciate a beautiful person...not necessarily a sexual innuendo..

[@calvindavis3641]

Taylor, you seem to grapple with sex in general. Friends with benefits doesn't mean a person will be tied down to having sex with just one person. You seemed to not understand that. As cutw as I find you, if i met you, I'd seriously hesitate hooking up. Because these things with you cones with too many emotions when it shouldn't. This is something you really should work on and an area that needs your attention. You get yourself into situations and tgen feel bad about them later. It's not fair to the person you had actual consent with.

[@gregghanson6095]

Not possible to make yourself NOT develop feelings for someone. Not how it works.

[@darrylmclain2964]

"Benefriends" is what I dub them. Can have a gazillion meanings. These related are useful at ANY age so long as the boundaries are clear-cut. 💯〰️❗

[@pauldunn7965]

Thanks for sharing all that.

[@kevinh811]

Did FWB one time...lasted 2 months...before we agreed to ditch the FWB and became boyfriends. I eventually realized I always wanted to be his boyfriend from the very beginning. And he admitted that was true for him too. So I don’t know if I would try FWB again. I’d think I will just date the guy and see where it goes.

[@mykebryan8299]

Tay, bro, all of the FWB situations you just explained are boyfriends lol.

[@iamseanmikhaildesign]

Beautiful! I love your eyes!

[@jacko5565]

In my point of view I don't agree on Friends with benefits. At first you both have no feelings towards each other and so you just have sex.But somewhere down the road one or both of you might develop feelings. If it's just one of you developed a feeling and the other one doesn't that's a mess. But if it's mutual well you need to talk.

[@LeonPettyjohn]

I appreciate you very much 💕! You're a good Man! My heart was broken hearing how Men used you 💔. You were devastated 🤬😞. My heart pours out for you because you don't deserve it I treasure you very much ❤️. I'm here for you it would be my pleasure to have you as my friend 💕. Love..... Leon Wayne Pettyjohn

[@charleswalker1185]

I have FWB, theirs, not mine?

[@charleswalker1185]

Not?, ! Is the cap

[@jpippijj]

I have a crush on a friend who I think is straight and I want to tell him so I can get it over with, he was okay when I told him I'm gay and has never dated a girl I'm also aware this doesn't really mean anything but does anyone have some advice?

[@micky3049]

Mhh, I had 2 crushes on straight dudes and it’s just pain, both of them were very supportive of me being gay, and both of them liked to cuddle with me and hold my hands and shit, but I’ll be honest, it’s not worth trying with guys who you think are straight, I was lead on by them for so many years and I honestly wish I didn’t get attached in the first place, but honestly if you see HARDCORE signs he likes you, speak to him about it, but if it’s not obvious, don’t bother, you’ll get hurt.

[@jpippijj]

@@micky3049 Do you by any chance know the signs?

[@michaelkline6374]

Micky is right. As an older gay man I’ve found that those situations always caused pain and sometimes you lose that friend. Be yourself and good luck!

[@micky3049]

Annoying Guy honestly if he wants to hang with you above all other dudes, or girls, if he tries to touch you for no reason at all, if he talks about emotional stuff with you, if he always ask you to hang out, stuff like that

[@micky3049]

Annoying Guy and to add to what Michael said (which is my name too lol btw) you can lose one of your good friends for even telling him you like him, and honestly it’s up to you decide if your better off telling him you like him and getting very hurt or just staying friends and enjoying his company. I recently just stopped talking to the “straight” dude I liked because I was done with his games, and honestly it’s painful at first, but here’s what I’d do in your situation. I would just kinda look for signals from him, and if they aren’t enough or any, just try to be his friend. And if it’s too hard to be his friend slowly stray away from him nicely.

[@buffy17mike]

I hate the fact that people think having sexual experiences is “living life”. At the end of the day the amount of sex you’ve had isn’t going to do anything to who you are.

[@jasentheawesome]

You are just damaging your heart each time with these. Listen to what you say in this video. Every time you say that you are not having a relationship, you are. Each time you are withdrawing more since you "don't want to hurt him or yourself..." that's relationship talk.

[@darbyandrews4253]

Ur rlly hawt but ur personality is also amazing wtf 🤭

[@sebastianliam1485]

love what you share

[@ronnyradig6664]

It’s 10 o’clock somewhere 😉.

[@thomaswilke6312]

I am in high school now and I don’t have any boyfriend or FWB.

[@peterpanos7170]

Gain experiences new places 🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️

[@kenmhilkyong707]

Love the way you are! Godbless

[@elmerapariljr6031]

Hey, Taylor! It's your new subscriber. I just really wanted you to know that I want to be friends with you & get like benefits. Lol btw will support you all the way.

[@chansonsdamour2007]

Has anyone mentioned to you that you look like Dr. James Hamblin?

[@itsmaggo]

Thank you for sharing this! For me it is the same thing. Some fwb over the years, someone wants more the other one not and then there will be some on and off things until it's really over. And as you mentioned, the time with this friends were good and fun. But "no strings attached" means moving forward at some point.

[@justinhendrix1997]

Is their away to get a hold of you I have some questions for you want to talk to you about some stuff in private

[@detective_waffles]

You can't control if you have feelings for another person. You can continue to be FWB even with the feelings, but if the fact that you can't have that person as your partner hurts you a lot, then you should stop being FWB and take some space away from them.

[@johniii8147]

It’s not realistic expectation for a fwb is exclusive. If that’s the expectation fwb isn’t for you

[@floki6548]

I also was 21 and virgin but I had a physical issue which was keeping me unable to have sex. Anyways, I was like you and my first time wasn't great.

[@1ramises]

Nice vid well done

[@oa1986]

Come to LA!

[@rodrigomonter.8688]

Never had a fwb. But always wanted one.

[@bryjoe8025]

"don't be afraid to catch feels" - good song, bad advice

[@andyd3447]

i had a friends with benefits sitatuion but i ended up liking him too much. Welp that ended badly.

[@jameskantor0459]

But don't you develop feelings for friends?

[@andrearaimey3665]

Hi,Taylor!!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@Jazebowma594]

We are twins!Same situation!

[@SeeburgMusic]

Nobody can be this naive. This has to be an act.

[@elmerbaez6784]

FWB is complicated. So, just be friends.