Tea Consent

[@depressednae3193]

if they're underage dont offer them tea

[@MouseGoat]

wait what? XD

[@Tjalve70]

@@MouseGoat The caffeine in tea is not good for someone who is under age. I know that in times gone by, it was common to give tea (and coffee) to young children. But fortunately we have evolved as a society, and such a thing is now considered barbaric. Kids under a certain age can't consent to tea drinking anyway. So just don't do it. Btw, I'm not sure if we're still using it as a metaphor, but I think it's quite suitable either way.

[@MixedChaosCF]

@@Tjalve70 but what about sweet tea. A nice big glass of southern sweat tea. Yeaaaa

[@NoobsDudes]

Oh noes

[@jeesedm]

@@Tjalve70 Better that I give them some tea than if they go down to the corner store and get their own

[@a-3502]

just because you interpret their clothes as fit for a tea party doesn’t mean they want tea

[@alyssapinon9670]

I wish more people could understand this! “But they shouldn’t have worn clothes fit for a tea party if they didn’t want tea. Some tea makers just can’t help themselves and want to give tea to anyone who looks like they’re seeking out tea.” That should help people realize how ridiculous it sounds to victim blame. My response to that: “That’s true that some people know and don’t care that people don’t want tea. But as a society we should put the blame on them for being a pushy host rather than the person who probably just wants to feel their best by wearing nice clothes. We should make the tea party association punish bad tea hosts more harshly and take tea accusations more seriously. And sometimes bad tea hosts will make people drink tea even if they’re wearing every day non tea clothes. Plus everyone’s definition of tea clothes varies so we can’t keep playing this stupid game.”

[@aprillee7555]

oh my fucking god yes, this is perfect

[@JrIcify]

To be fair some places aren't meant for tea parties, like offices or schools. It can be really disruptive to a non tea focused environment which is something we should be considering in this new world where men and women are working alongside each other.

[@a-3502]

@@JrIcify ok there are several things wrong with this comment, but i get what you’re trying to say. first of all, “new world with women and men working together” wth??? people can dress how they want and shouldn’t have to worry about creeps . and while i understand that in some professional circumstances there might be a reasonable dress code, but people should have the right to express themselves. also, circling back to the “men and women working together thing” , you 100% ignored the mean who don’t like women and the women who don’t like men?? and while no person of any sexuality of any kind should be sexualizing/creeping on any other person, i just thought the fact that you only mentioned a hetero dynamic should be mentioned. actually, gender and sexuality shouldn’t have been brought into it at all. those things don’t matter when it comes to sexual harassment. we shouldn’t expect men to creep on women because while it is unfortunately common it SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING. the men that harass women need to be called out and not excused by phrases such as “boys will be boys” ugh sorry for the long comment i don’t intend to be rude or start an argument i just needed to say that.

[@a-3502]

@@alyssapinon9670 thank you for this 🙌 perfect explanation and response

[@Ultinuc]

And when you want to make tea, but the other person doesn't want any, just drink your own tea

[@Svndsoftime]

round of applause

[@naeness]

XDDDD

[@chachapasta6060]

JRMCNEA Or you can masturbate you don’t. Gotta. There’s still the option of drinking your own tea you don’t HAVE to give it to someone else. You can, yeah, and it’s not bad if you do but like. You don’t gotta.

[@tsunamio7750]

Drink your own fluids? Okey!

[@JRMCNEA]

@@chachapasta6060 "and it's not bad if you do"... Spoken like a virgin... It not only is not bad if you do. The average giving your tea to someone is better than 90% of drinking your own tea...

[@twitchyllama8094]

And remember, don't give kids tea. Kids don't want tea. Even if they think they want tea, they don't.

[@FlamingGolem]

Cap i want tea

[@EscapesAndRemoves]

@@FlamingGolem You just said you wanted sex...

[@Villager6883]

Children never have consent which is good

[@Villager6883]

Imagine one kid which actually likes tea

[@hexagonal69]

@@Villager6883 Yeah, except that kids are too young to understand what "drinking tea" actually entails, and when they do find out they might’ve wished they never "had tea" in the first place.

[@MsBunnyBrains]

If you want and have accepted the offering of tea, make sure to use a tea bag.

[@klevin5501]

haha yes.

[@rubypichay2042]

Otherwise the tea leaves are stuck in your body forever. Unless it's special tea, you don't want that.

[@MsBunnyBrains]

@Ruby Pichay I don't get it...

[@rubypichay2042]

Special tea like the person you give consent to. And tea leaves like a baby. For 18 years.

[@MsBunnyBrains]

@Ruby Pichay Ohh, right, haha! :)

[@magiciansarcana]

Remember kids UNCONCIOUS PEOPLE DON'T WANT TEA.

[@iammonkeygirl4632]

My friend says that at every opportunity. It's beautiful 😂

[@SavCorp]

Same with dead people

[@t6amygdala]

SavCorp and animals and children

[@tarickw]

unless of course when explicitly stated by both parties that they are fine with having their tea while unconscious

[@tarickw]

Also don't forget to be safe and don't pour piping hot tea down someone's throat as that is dangerous.

[@g.m.1821]

And if you make tea with interesting or strange creamers and add-ins in it, always tell the person beforehand and make sure they are okay with that.

[@lisamartin9831]

Consent in every way ;)

[@elizabethburns-gundel1052]

Good idea. They could have an allergy. You don't know.

[@abbyrudy167]

It's also important to ask about their preferences/intolerances when it comes to milk and sugar. Some people have allergies, some are on diets, and some people like a certain flavour/type over another. You wouldn't want to put cow's milk into tea you're giving to a person with lactose intolerance.

[@mayaisabelle4889]

@Ethan Rumbold why what?

[@victoriajanelle6414]

Yes what if they’re allergic to dairy and you’ve put milk in it???

[@briestoll]

Don't ever ask someone who didn't want your tea "what are you? Into coffee? “

[@sweetbunny6198]

Gosh I need to send this to half a dozen girls back in highschool

[@chrome8418]

LMFAO this is so underrated WTFF

[@obliviouz]

Why not? If everyone else is being offered a beverage, it'd be rude not to ask them what they'd like instead.

[@cherrylime2660]

@@obliviouz But you know, if you aren't able to make them coffee, then what's the purpose of asking? Maybe they don't like talking about beverages

[@obliviouz]

@@cherrylime2660 So you can get some for next time? I think it's just considerate to take an interest in your friends' preferences.

[@SaphireRoseAcorn]

i find it hilarious how everyone is speaking in metaphors here lmao

[@ThePumpkinFly]

Same 😂

[@GrahamChapman]

Try to explain, in your own words, what a metaphor and an allegory are without resorting to metaphors or allegories in order to clarify your explanation. After you've done that, I want you to tell me another word for "synonymous."

[@nuggystan9128]

GrahamChapman ok english teacher, op was pointing out how everyone is speaking in metaphors, not on how everyone is stupid because theyre speaking in metaphors

[@GrahamChapman]

@@nuggystan9128 I never implied, intentionally or otherwise, anything of the sort. Seriously, don't be so cynical and serious about it, just enjoy how comically difficult it is to try and explain what a metaphor or allegory is without resorting to metaphors or allegories, and how few words there are that are synonymous with the word "synonymous."

[@nuggystan9128]

GrahamChapman oh sorry then, your first reply sounded like you looked down on everyone else and thought you were better than everyone

[@stellabarrett8141]

And most importantly: If someone asks for a certain type of tea, and you bring them a different type of tea without saying anything, they're perfectly in the right to not want the tea. People like to know what type of tea they're getting because certain people don't like certain types of tea, and that's okay.

[@taerikee]

You're being really teaphobic right now

[@asperRader]

@@taerikee W-what? They're talking about stuff like condoms and kinks.

[@ninjaman815]

No no no. Never ask for consent, give them all the tea you have. Force it down their throats if you want too

[@ninjaman815]

Nightmares Wonderland I was just playing.

[@James-bj1jy]

Sounds a bit like white and black tea

[@chulol7935]

and if you ask them if they want tea over and over and over again and threaten to reveal their deepest darkest secrets if they don't drink the tea, and _then_ they agree, you're basically still forcing it down their throat

[@sarahg3530]

Sounds like you may have had a personal experience with this, and if that is the case I am sorry. I hope you know there are people out there that know how to respect people's boundaries, and will not betray your trust in such an inexcusable way. Stand up for yourself!! ^.^ This random internet goer believes in you ~

[@reysquadron7820]

Yeah, isn't that like blackmail? Amazing how uncomfortable a situation that would be with a cup of tea, like what is wrong with you weirdo?

[@SimplyMyLife509]

called coercion, not consent

[@foxy2pointo]

@@sarahg3530 yes I’m sure they have had horrible experiences with kinky cat suits and force fed tea

[@sarabengtsson5741]

You know my ex?

[@camillamortensen1216]

Also, if someone say that they prefer coffee don’t force them to drink your tea saying they will love it if they try it

[@msjkramey]

"But you just haven't had the right tea yet! You probably don't even really like coffee, do you??"

[@The_Andromeda_Galaxy]

"You're teaphobic!"

[@rogthelegend6987]

Just make them coffee instead simple.

[@obliviouz]

I think people should be open to new experiences. I used to only drink coffee but I found that black tea has a pretty strong caffeine kick too.

[@aprillee7555]

@@obliviouz You understand the metaphor of the video in the first place?? And if you do, it's obvious what it's the point of the comment, if someone don't want to try something new, DON'T FORCE THEM, just because you like *trying different types of teas* , doesn't mean that everyone will love it too, some people will find that type of *tea* uncomfortable or even disgusting, an that's totally okay, everyone is different and deserve respect in what they want and like and what they don't, as long as they aren't harming someone

[@AdamAdver]

My health teacher showed us this video and everyone burst out laughing when the guy said ｏｈ　ｍｙ　ｇｏｄ　ｆｕｃｋ　ｙｅs　Ｉ　ｗｏｕｌｄ　ｆｕｃｋｉｎｇ　ｌｏｖｅ　ａ　ｃｕｐ　ｏｆ　ｔｅａ

[@idkwhattocallthis5504]

Same happened to me 😂😂😂

[@t6amygdala]

Adamations Adver what are you 12? why are people laughing about hearing cuss words in school

[@AdamAdver]

Nah it’s just how out of nowhere that response was that made us laugh

[@Edited_Comment]

@@t6amygdala bruh chill why are you getting so offended about someone laughing,

[@chickennuggets1990]

@@Edited_Comment some ppl dont use any tampons and just use toilet paper, while some just use pads, while some just dont even use anything at all and just let it bleed and some ppl just wear period-proof shorts

[@iamrandalltier]

"On that note, I'm going to go make myself a cup of tea." O k 😳

[@aikidude]

solo tea is boring though 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@rwicerino]

@@aikidude not if you do it right

[@IngvarMar]

@@aikidude it's still the safest tea out there. You won't get a poison in your tea

[@samwellman697]

i was looking for this😂😂

[@jaspermullock8497]

hmmm tea

[@feordedid9113]

Yea sex is cool, but have you tried tea?

[@beauswan6531]

is there a difference

[@AlisterBerb]

No I'm a tea virgin.

[@applesong01]

Have you tried cake

[@Sirvaria]

Strong ace energy here

[@pissapocalypse]

Yeah sex is pretty cool but have you ever woken up to your alarm, turned it off, and then went back to sleep because you don't have any plans that day?

[@bee-rx7fh]

this is also important; if someone LOVES tea and is generally known for always wanting tea, do not assume they want your tea. ask them if they want your tea first. also, do not offer children tea.

[@matthewcornell4978]

my therapist had me watch this after i was assaulted because i was having trouble coping and understanding i didnt give consent, as i was asleep and had let him pet my hair. this really helps victims thank you

[@dishariroy4315]

Glad to know it helped you. Hope you are doing okay. 💚

[@fearlessfozzy749]

Very true, I’m have a similar situation to yours and I blamed myself because I gave him permission just to touch me(hands) and he went all the way and I thought it was my fault for telling him he couldn’t touch me and it just really helps to know that there’s someone else like me out there.

[@emoshit-w7c]

Im so sorry that happened, I'm glad it helped you and I'm glad u could understand.

[@emoshit-w7c]

@@fearlessfozzy749 I'm so sorry, he had no right to do that, just because u gave him consent for one thing doesn't mean he could do all of that. I'm glad knowing someone out there helos, and there are so many more people sadly. You are never alone.

[@btbaw3630]

@@dishariroy4315 dnf 💚💙

[@jjaa_joyjoyartist]

Also, if someone seems strangely irrational or drunk, even if they want to drink tea they might choke on it, or wake up with a stomach ache wondering why they wanted tea so badly in the first place.

[@Shortwarreports]

Propaganda. Tea is safe for drunk people. In fact it is even recommended for them as alcohol dehydrate them.

[@issabellamerie7139]

@Mikko if one of you is drunk and the other is not then it is wrong. If both are drunk then yea.

[@3racha399]

If u are intoxicated and the other is not, then it is considered sexual abuse because the intoxicated person can not give consent

[@Shortwarreports]

@@3racha399 Offering tea is not sexual abuse calm down.

[@Shortwarreports]

@KakashiLee we are talking about tea consent.

[@GrahamChapman]

"But she was dressed for a tea party!"

[@imjusttired1906]

May I know where your profile picture is from?

[@GrahamChapman]

@@imjusttired1906 Sure, it's a photo of late comedian Graham Chapman from Monty Python that I shamelessly ripped directly from his wikipedia page some 10 years ago or so.

[@DaveWAMWLeon]

Golden

[@jessicacontext3805]

Even when you think a person is dressed for a tea party, u are not the one to deside. Don't ever make the person tea, based on how they are dressed. Always ask them do you want tea, (with words!... never actions)

[@lizgoldstein4256]

👍 exactly. Or it could have been a coffee party, but the tea party always thinks it’s about tea and that everyone wants tea. Because they want tea.

[@alyssaturcotte9209]

it never ceases to amaze me that even when we boil it down (pun intended) to this simple of a level, some people still don’t get it.

[@alyssapinon9670]

I swear some tea makers are just a lost cause. Hopefully they don’t have tea with someone until they learn how to be better hosts

[@obliviouz]

My doctor said to feed my gf honey tea when she was sick in bed with Covid - for the sore throat, should I not have done that?

[@bigboysdotcom745]

Almost like people know what consent is but still don't care, so videos like this are pointless. "Yeah after I saw that tea video I realized raping is bad"

[@gaslighter2814]

I think they completely understand but just don't care

[@loreta4665]

They get it, they don't care.

[@sreejithpro]

If someone wears a T-Shirt saying, 'I Love Tea'. It doesn't mean that they want tea all the time. . .

[@terijomarie]

No. They just love tea when they consent to tea and only then.

[@Someguy-my3he]

And certainly not from everyone, especially not from every random incel they meet who feels like whipping out a "cup".

[@Someguy-my3he]

You have the right to give them tea IF THEY WANT TEA FROM YOU. So at most you have the right to ask (initially), but nothing else.

[@xendertheking4719]

If someone wears a T-Shirt saying “I Love Tea” and I have the option (for example if I have a cup of hot water), I will surely make them them tea, even if they don’t drink it afterwards:P

[@yraco1232]

@@Someguy-my3he They didn't want to make tea for a filthy femoid slave anyway...

[@JulieGraceImmink]

This video could also include that even if this person has had lots of tea with lots of other people they can still say no to tea with you. Casual tea drinking with other people does not mean they want tea with you.

[@punnedit3620]

Wow! I've seen this lots of times and never even noticed that was missing. You are brilliant!!

[@ZachariahPvP]

To be honest I think it's covered by 'would you like a cup of tea?' 'no thank you!'. But I get your point :) The biggest omission might actually be 'can really really drunk people consent to tea even if they're still conscious?'

[@corinnetomsett2498]

"casual tea drinking" I love it

[@mbtbd]

Thing is, sex is not as simple as tea. People often don't verbally decide on things. And also, the fact is, many women give mixed messages, sometimes intentionally. The may not be stronger then men, but they know how to play with minds. That's reality that any experienced man who has been around knows -- not nice theory.

[@brianmacker1288]

There is much more missing than that. So much so that it actually makes one wonder how stupid the video makers are. I understand that doesn't reflect well on you either, but sometimes the truth hurts.

[@evan]

Tea can't be too hot either. Gotta take it slow

[@heco53]

Or if someone wants to have biscuits but no tea that's fine (Cuddles and kisses but no sex)

[@knedy]

Evan Edinger I'm pretty sure "cold tea" is reserved for necrophiliacs in this analogy, son.

[@CyanideSun94]

Evan Edinger Omg, hi Evan!

[@hannah-vw2mi]

Ayy Evan

[@moktadir4]

Mady Bro Would biscuits with tea count as intimacy or sex toys?

[@tylercandler4627]

if they say they want tea with no sugar, but then you add sugar without telling them, that's bad. they didn't consent to tea with sugar.

[@anshumanagrawal346]

I'm sorry for being dumb but could you explain what you're referring to

[@tylercandler4627]

@@anshumanagrawal346 drugging girls

[@fmcgucket3076]

@@anshumanagrawal346 I'm assuming "stealthing" but also perhaps kinks. Once I had a hookup who started low-key choking me during sex because he legitimately thought everybody was into that.

[@imthebossmermaid3648]

@@anshumanagrawal346 Also having sex with someone under false pretenses.

[@charemchavrutah]

Also, if they take a sip of your tea, or drink half of it, but then set the cup down and say that they don't want it anymore, don't force the rest of it down their throat. If they say they don't like this kind of tea, then you can ask if they want a different kind. However, under no circumstances should you ever forcibly pour tea, of any kind, down someone's throat.

[@terijomarie]

Or make people feel obligated into having tea even though they no longer want tea or no longer seem into your tea. It's okay if people stop wanting tea.

[@jonathanthomas2306]

Lol That's not how it works. You can't give back the tea when your half way done drinking it.

[@littlenerd1834]

@@jonathanthomas2306 Yes, you can. It's your body, if you no longer want the tea, you're not obligated to finish it. If you're forced to, that's tea rape.

[@molly_404]

*makes tea runs to sister and shoves the cup down her throat*

[@Puerco-Potter]

@@jonathanthomas2306 you can give it back and it will be annoying to the other person, but you can stop drinking it whenever you want. The person that make the tea can then stop talking to you because of it, that's their right... But should never make you drink it by force. No one owes tea to no one. No one owes friendship, attention or a relationship to someone that don't wants their tea.

[@anzaia2164]

Also, if they say they want green tea, but you make some black tea, don't expect them to drink that either.

[@JRMCNEA]

Or better if you ask for green tea and they give you black tea, don't say you were violated after you blindly gobble it up. A lot of tea is about pushing limits and playfulness. If you end up with a thunb in your um- Tea, don't claim you were violated. Be more careful next time. But whats good for the goose is good for the gander. Protect those tea holes chaps!

[@purplewine7362]

you tea-racist

[@martinawolf2983]

@@JRMCNEA Of course they were violated if you didn't give them the tea they asked for! If it was only a misunderstanding then talk and agree about what tea you want and they ask for. But if you both agree preparing about one tea and then you intentionally give them something else then you're a tea-abusive person! Same is the opposite.

[@libertyadams5961]

@@martinawolf2983 well yh if you give them something else, the person has the right to refuse especially since you've already gone over the tea you like.

[@Widdekuu91]

@@JRMCNEA If someone says they don't want tea with milk, because of lactose intolerance and it hurts them, but you like to give people milk anyway, you're in the wrong. Find someone that wants thumbs in their bums and if they don't want it, then don't do it. Playfullness is consensual, when someone says; '"Ááh I said NO! Stop it!' then that's not playing. Get the hint dude.

[@Spiritx1992]

And when you’re in a relationship with someone and you offer them tea but they’re not in the mood for tea just don’t make them tea. Don’t throw accusations at them like “you must be having tea with someone else behind my back.” Or “you must secretly like coffee instead.” They’re just not in the mood for tea and being in a relationship doesn’t mean they’re obligated to have tea with you all the time.

[@obliviouz]

Why can't I make tea just in case they want it later? Or even just bring it to them as I'm getting myself a cup of tea?

[@doro5026]

@@obliviouz Why would you drink tea you didn't want? maybe you're full from tea or you just don't want to drink it? the other person can have tea but they don't need to bring you it because that's a waste of tea and time.

[@obliviouz]

@@doro5026 But I can bring a normal person tea just in case, can't I?

[@doro5026]

@@obliviouz why would you waste that time and effort on purpose?

[@obliviouz]

@@doro5026 That's not the question - I *can* if I wanted to.

[@purpleissupeirior]

Remember that if someone has never wanted tea before in their entire life, don’t think they’re weird for not wanting tea. And if someone wants to know someone before getting tea for them, respect their boundaries of giving tea. If they want to smell the tea or just see the tea, that’s fine too. They don’t have to drink it.

[@stuff31]

I love all the metaphors in this comments section, but I'd just like to state my appreciation for this one. Great way of explaining ace and demi peeps with the tea metaphor! :)

[@purpleissupeirior]

@@stuff31 thank you! That’s honestly what I was going for with this metaphor

[@Netherdrop]

This made my lil demi heart very happy lol Thanks for this :)

[@LAUREN-dp7vx]

Love this

[@whatdoimakemyusername]

ace and demi people mentioned

[@morsonproductions]

"I'm going to go make myself a cup of tea" WAIT A SECOND Edit: it's healthy to drink your own tea instead of forcing tea down someone's throat!

[@sourapplerings]

OH THANK GOD IM NOT THE ONLY ONE

[@skye-qn5fs]

You’ll never be able to look at the word ‘tea’ the same ever again

[@allys744]

It’s a good thing I don’t drink tea

[@tinglingchickenwing1547]

WAIT I DON'T GET IT

[@amystic4131]

He is basically saying he’s going to “f*ck himself”. Idk don’t take this personally lol

[@mia-gz5cj]

And if you constantly ask them if they would like tea, and they finally say yes just to stop you from asking, they don't really want tea.

[@raze2012_]

Yup, that's why I stopped talking to people. Can't annoy them if I never approach

[@jetmcgee4218]

@@raze2012_ or don't annoy them by asking the same question over and over expecting a different answer

[@dmvmeu7140]

@Jet McGee oh god i just realised this guy is a really angry troll after seeing other comments from them, try not to take them seriously

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

@@dmvmeu7140 yeah, don’t take seriously anyone who dares diagree with you.

[@zeumi7063]

That doesn't make it a violation of consent

[@xxsniperkittykatxx]

"On that note, I'm going to go make myself a cup of tea." Mhmm

[@francescagolden1061]

welp

[@martinawolf2983]

@@JRMCNEA Yes. Just like I killed a man because I drove while drunk/high doesn't esent you from jail.

[@martinawolf2983]

@@JRMCNEA Still a crime.

[@dragonsember]

@@JRMCNEA I mean you're making it for yourself so Ask yourself

[@than217]

Gross.

[@NellieJKG]

The only thing I feel is missing is coercion; “don’t try to convince them to drink tea. don’t pressure them to drink the tea. if they don’t want tea don’t make them feel bad for not wanting tea. they may change their mind later on their own and ask for tea. they may not. don’t keep asking to make them tea.”

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

How often in your entire life you asked a man for tea? What about your friends?

[@thefinalfrontear]

@@НикитаКовальчук-к3б My friend why are you angry

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

@@thefinalfrontear how do you know if I’m angry or not?

[@gandalfthegrey2592]

How the fuck is convincing somebody to change their mind coercion? Words losing their meaning every day I swear.

[@michaelmitchel3471]

​@@gandalfthegrey2592people assume pressure is threatening with an ultimatum or something, pressure is as simple as "yo, you want a cup?"

[@hell-si8432]

"What are you brewing, step-brother?"

[@Isabel_online]

HJSTYUKGgSzAdhjy WAIT- WHAT?

[@fluffyspooder1299]

*cocks gun*

[@awesomesaucepk]

JAILLLL

[@teamivy289]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@limecooki9129]

💀💀💀

[@adadawa]

AND THATS THE TEA SIS

[@celia1818]

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHH! I have done it! I have achieved my goal of finding the greatest reference ever!!!!!

[@loisroulson9238]

Illymasion?

[@adadawa]

Loisxx90 TheLimelight :’))

[@ryana.7102]

෴ How is your name the way that it is what

[@brownperson3256]

And the worst comment award goes too...

[@sleepyravenous]

"What if you run out of tea and you want more." ~One of my classmates 2017

[@Kanthir]

Then you go to the store and buy more.

[@YouNoob573]

better to chill out and wait for your tea bags(balls) to recharge

[@romaniesophie5035]

There are tea houses for that

[@sugarkane1571]

Then you politely ask for more tea. If they don't have more tea, then don't force them to make tea.

[@YouNoob573]

@@sugarkane1571 no shit sherlock don't rape people ? i'm too stupid wouldn't have come up with that myself if you didn't tell me

[@mvd3775]

And remember kids, it's okay to not want to drink tea without a tea bag, don't be silly; wrap your tea cup.

[@desireevasquez2752]

Also, if someone wants tea, and you give it to them, and they take a few sips and change their mind, you have to take the tea away, as much as its kinda annoying

[@dexterjettster8875]

I might just make tea for myself next time.

[@lunarfilms_bricolage]

Or just pay someone else to sip the tea

[@tori4770]

I was looking for this comment

[@jordyngeorgia565]

@Josiah Ramdeen ummm?!? Cousin?

[@aprillee7555]

@Josiah Ramdeen Excuse me wtf

[@TeganThrussell]

This became a running joke in my school, after the seniors were shown it. In grade 11, every student is shown it, and it becomes an inside joke. We reference tea when talking about things we shouldn't talk about at school, or sometimes put of context quote that wonderful line, "unconscious people don't like tea." Just to confuse the lower grades. It was a glorious time.

[@dreamybombstudios724]

I need to attend your school

[@lunarfilms_bricolage]

That's a lil teaphobic

[@cloaker7237]

My school has to ban tea references because it got so bad

[@daviesdavies538]

I missed out on this video at my school...but tbh with all the sexual assault rates by private school boys, I wonder if the message is even getting through at all

[@lizzyrose4029]

That’s disgusting

[@lg4president728]

And if they drink your tea and it's actually really bad, then they don't have to finish it. It's kind of rude, but maybe you just need to work on your tea-making skills.

[@Shortwarreports]

If it's bad, just ask for cream, it'll improve the taste.

[@Tjalve70]

@@Shortwarreports If they ask for vodka to mask the bad taste, you should consider not giving them your tea. And as @Lang Gibson said, work on your tea-making skills.

[@philbill5712]

remember kids, they can't say the tea is bad if they're deceased. till next time

[@megumin4564]

@Josiah Ramdeen huh

[@deborahprice3411]

This is basically what I came to say. There are different reasons they may have changed their mind, maybe they're just not in the mood anymore, or maybe your tea was gross. But they're allowed to change their mind

[@OliviaErin-i9v]

0:12 wait I don’t remember this part from the video 😭 😭

[@desmondschneider5397]

Same, lol. There’s both a Clean version by the same people and a Clean version by Thames Valley Police, you may have seen the TVP one. I know I did in my 9th grade health class.

[@wolfystudios2936]

Person: want a cup a tea? High schooler: *sips aggressively*

[@cyriljrmansueto2108]

high schoolers think having tea is everything because of the sudden hormones change HAHAHA

[@diane5893]

Relatable lol

[@daviesdavies538]

*high school BOYS

[@alyssapinon9670]

They want that caffeine rush

[@elenafriese891]

@@cyriljrmansueto2108 as seen by some of the weirdos trolling the comments!

[@pathosfear6290]

Also, you shouldn't make a cup of tea, go out at night and force someone to drink your tea just because you think they look like they want tea, or deserve tea, or whatever. Don't force anyone to drink your tea, under any circumstances. Ever.

[@owlnemo]

PathosFear If they are wearing a bowler hat, a T-shirt "I

[@Fercurix]

owlnemo And what if they wear shirts saying I want tea while shouting I want tea, and asking you for tae and everytime you make them a cup they dont want it anymore. You know what it is called? a teas ...

[@christiany7492]

PathosFear Oh nice, you just found the way to stop all rapists! No one is going to rape ever again when we show your text to them! Nobel peace prize material.

[@DGuily]

What if they are too shy to drink tea themself ? It's a good idea to help.

[@owlnemo]

Jean Roche Nope. You can ask them if they want help. If they smile and say yes, okay, they were to shy, you can help them. If they look even more embarassed, they probably don't want tea right now, because they are not ready. Maybe they just accept the tea because they know it'll please you, and that's not a good thing, because they are going to regret it.

[@alkaiosvonhabsburg9613]

And for Gods sake, don't tell people you'll hate them if they dont want your tea. If you not wanting a cup of tea is enough for them to stop trusting you, you shouldn't even be in a position where they're offering you tea.

[@JRMCNEA]

This is horrible advise. Tell them that. That way they know you are not someone you want tea from to begin with. But as an aside. Don't pretend like "just have a sip" is the same as "They're all gonna laugh at you!".

[@Shortwarreports]

This is an horrible advice. My advice is: DON'T TRUST PEOPLE NOT DRINKING TEA. They are bad persons and you need to avoid them, tea is very good for health.

[@martinawolf2983]

@@Shortwarreports Nah, not having tea is cool too :/

[@dekippiesip]

@@Shortwarreports some people just never get offered tea by anyone, and no one wants to drink tea with them. They can only make themselves tea. You can't blame them.

[@Sera-F1nn]

@@Shortwarreports Are you actually serious ? That is a very dangerous thing to say.

[@dummydummy1493]

Toxic Relationship = When you drink the tea, however, it tasted really bad but you didn’t want to hurt the person who made the tea’s feelings.

[@deathbyseatoast8854]

grandma's forcefully feeding their grandchildren are like: *C O N S E N T? W H A T S T H A T?*

[@jeffreyou19]

i really hope you're just talking about tea

[@awesomeindependence9435]

In this context that’s really bad

[@littlemonster6939]

@@awesomeindependence9435 I don't why it's bad can you please tell me ;-;

[@awesomeindependence9435]

@Lynn Perez Makes it sound like they’re forcing people to do inappropriate stuff

[@sarahg3530]

Lol I totally get what you're saying. The grandmother guilt trip is real. They make the food, you're eating the food.... Although I do hope that is not a reflection of what may have happened with them behind closed doors with tea related matters... Okay enough of that

[@eemajunt]

My teacher showed us this in class (clean) and at the end of the day..people kept walking around saying "you want some tea?" 😂😂

[@tamibrown2651]

Tedisah Campbell my teacher played THIS one and the whole class screamed of laugher

[@lopeo2324]

Same here.

[@vanilladanila986]

Tedisah Campbell bruh same

[@luvvy69]

Tedisah Campbell me to

[@rivereveritt7311]

Same in my school 😂😂😂

[@jamiewilkerson6554]

What I like about this is that it's easy to understand for kids and also, most importantly, it's gender neutral. It doesn't say "Don't make a woman a cup of tea if she doesn't want it" and as far as I've seen, not only boys have to watch it in school, but girls do too, meaning it's telling *everyone* that they need consent from their partner, whether they're male or female.

[@JRMCNEA]

It should also tell people don't say yes to tea to make people like you. And don't say yes to tea, then later claim you said no. Or don't say you could try some then claim you were pressured into it.

[@thatrantinggirl7376]

@@JRMCNEA Are you ok?

[@JRMCNEA]

@@thatrantinggirl7376 NO! Tea is amazing. And Im tired of people trying to use Tea as a sign of deviancy or a power fantasy... Tea is good just for the tea. Stop pretending like everyone who likes to offer tea are equivalent to people pouring whole pots of piping hot tea on people... Oh I only drank the tea because I was young and dumb and tricked. No You drank that tea because you where hot and ready like Little Ceasar's pizza. Embrace your love for tea! stop trying to use tea as a means to getting resources and power over people!

[@christopherbrown2706]

@Cutiepie14 conservatives have made many good points. Don't stick yourself on them. 😉

[@ximaxwellix]

While that is true... it's sad that it has to be true... It shouln'd HAVE to be gender neutral to prove a point. But sadly, today... people just don't wanna think anymore D: PS: And yes I also know that it's sad that this video serves a point in the first place... it should also be common sense - but again, people don't wanna think anymore

[@hades1706]

And if they sell tea, don’t walk into their tea shop and expect free tea.

[@Ellie-jx5wc]

Lets not lie now you weren't recommend this, you searched it

[@noelhann5262]

Ellie no someone posted a link to it and I was curious.

[@mashaniii]

I searched it👀

[@itrex2438]

I watch it every now and then to remind myself not to give tea to unconscious people 😃

[@Ellie-jx5wc]

@@itrex2438 LMAO

[@brandonmorrell4340]

I never even knew this existed until we were shown it as part of our Basic Training in the Canadian Armed Forces back in 2015. They're open and clear they in no way own any rights to this, but it's still part of our Anti-Harassment training, because it's so dumb-foundingly simple that ANYONE can understand it, which is the point. From Enlisted Cook to Pilots and Intelligence Officers; Everyone can understand consent from this video.

[@isabeanie81]

Also, just because you’re married, it does not mean that when you want tea, your spouse also wants tea. Don’t assume, ask. And if they don’t want tea, don’t force them to drink the tea!

[@arisgreek8697]

Absolutely! Just offer your tea to someone else! You have every right to do so! Haha

[@doro5026]

@@arisgreek8697 if you wanted a blow up doll to drink your tea all the time then why would you marry? did you assume that your spouse would be willing to drink your tea even if they didn't want it?

[@arisgreek8697]

@@doro5026 no problems darling. As i said (i suppose you are clever enough to get it), i will offer my tea to someone else. It is just a cup of tea. Once or twice. Got it?

[@doro5026]

@@arisgreek8697 if you were looking for an open relationship, maybe don't lie to your s/o? if you wanted a way to drink tea but your spouse wasn't willing,maybe try communicating with them that you're looking for an open relationship??? don't try and normalise infidelity.

[@jonathanv5171]

If you are in a relationship, you can expect the other to want sex

[@alisonlaett9625]

And just because someone is dressed like the English Queen does not give you the right to force tea down their throats.

[@victory4966]

Alison Laett you sure about that sir?

[@shannons3419]

Yes

[@yanivproselkov4555]

*British Queen.

[@quintiniusverginix7827]

Ok but she's English too

[@VincentPride1986]

It does

[@metademetra]

Side note: You should ask before making a new flavor of tea. They may be allergic to the ingredients, or have a caffeine intolerance, or just don't like fruit teas. On top of that, your partner may want to try different teas, and then decide they taste awful. This is perfectly fine. My partner particularly hates Thai milk tea, for example, while I dislike apple cider vinegar tea. Don't get mad at your partner for giving the tea a shot and then not liking it.

[@MickeyValenz]

They should have just shown this video in court for the Stanford trials

[@torrencewroblewski5601]

Mickey Valenz this comment floored me hahahahahaha

[@squareplayn]

How is this comment 1 year old, and super related today? :o

[@OhtheHughmanity]

Or to bill Cosby

[@tess9468]

bahahah

[@patrickobrien6251]

If you want to have tea with someone, you are allowed to ask them. Asking is not wrong. But if you ask 3 times, and each time they say no, then it is a good idea to stop asking. People don't like peer pressure. Also, there is a time and a place to ask for tea. People who are busy right now don't want tea. People who don't know you don't usually want tea. The workplace is an inappropriate place to ask someone if they would like tea. If a person seems like they don't want tea, don't ask them. Sometimes, people will tell you that they don't want tea. That doesn't mean that they are being rude. If they enjoy tea and have it frequently, don't make them feel bad about it. If they have lots of tea but don't want tea with you, that doesn't mean that they are rude.

[@Dice-Z]

"The workplace is an inappropriate place to ask someone if they would like tea" Hey, not everyone drinks coffee.

[@Ghalb-O.Plenty]

awesome coment

[@danielpersing4106]

We all watched the same video fam

[@endrabot]

"the workplace is an inappropriate place to ask someone if they would like tea" what if i work at a cafe? lots of people want tea at the cafe

[@rond4868]

Agree. Probably a good follow on video.

[@SoftTangerineDreams]

They showed us this in Sex Ed class. Everyone had a good laugh and it was a very good way of teaching people what consent is. Really great video!

[@YouNoob573]

"teaching people what consent is" i don't understand how you people are that stupid "teaching people what gravity is" as if some thinks that if he jumps he's gonna fly off into space "Really great video" baffling

[@jazzz8427]

SAME NOW EVERYONE YELLS UNCONCONIS PEOPLE DONT WANT TEA😂😂😂😂

[@kataascardis1710]

@@YouNoob573 the fact that you do not know what something is does not make you stupid. teaching someone what consent is would be giving it a word and a better meaning. its not telling them what yes and no means

[@YouNoob573]

@@kataascardis1710 what ? can you phrase your comment in a different way because i honestly don't know what youre talking about

[@kataascardis1710]

@@YouNoob573 someone can know that yes means yes and no means no but that doesn't mean they know what consent is.

[@cameronhodgetts920]

Also remember, if someone says yes to tea but they're drunk, don't make them tea, because by the time they sober up they will realise that they would not have said yes to tea if they knew what they were doing.

[@obliviouz]

Nah my premed friend says tea is good for hangovers, even better than water, so if your friend is drunk you should give them tea. They'll feel better in the morning.

[@lizsmith2798]

@@obliviouz lol I'm pretty sure comment op wasn't being literal

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

what if you both were drunk and had some tea? Who is guilty?

[@cameronhodgetts920]

@@НикитаКовальчук-к3б according to the law, still you. Voluntary intoxication is not sufficient to negate intention.

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

@@cameronhodgetts920 how do you know that it was me who initiated sex? Maybe she was using me. I had sex with more than 100 girls, with some of them - many times. Nobody ever asked a verbal (or any other) consent from me. So I assume i was violated thousands times?

[@jasmineday6691]

I watched this in sex education in college. At the end, my male teacher said “Any one up for a cup of tea?” And then he soon realised how wrong it was

[@alyssapinon9670]

Omg that’s amazing 😂

[@jordyngeorgia565]

Ohhh noooo 😂 Your poor teacher!

[@albertbecerra]

Sounds like a funny teacher

[@unvergebeneid]

No come on, he did not!

[@ThePorteouspuhapicka]

Can you imagine how long he lies awake at night thinking about that moment. 😂😂

[@goktimusprime]

I think wine would've been a better metaphor, since you need to be at a legal age to consume it or offer it to someone. :)

[@jed2055]

No, because many 16yo haven't partaken of alcohol. they may replace tea with coffee but if it was wine or a beer they may feel it isn't about them. And then there's the sub 16yo kids who let's face it may not have had either coffee, tea or alcohol (16 in Oz).

[@SchokiKatze]

Beides that, the whole Boiling metaphor would Fall apart

[@JRMCNEA]

@@jed2055 I guess this person didn't hear the stories about the kids shoving alcohol soaked tampons up their vaginas and asses to get drunk... Or the story of the young girls offering anal to "preserve" their virginity. People like to talk about sex as if it is this thing that under aged kids don't know about or think about or partake in. And if they are partaking in it, making a video about something they are supposed to drink like wine would make them keep secret when they drank the wine or had the wine forced down their throats.

[@SheCriesRed]

Consent doesn't discriminate by age. It can happen at any age. Predators are predators and they prey on anyone they think they can overpower. So wine, tea, cookies, milkshake, pizza... Whatever example used consent is consent.

[@JRMCNEA]

@@SheCriesRed That is true. But the society we currently live in has stated that for your consent to be held as true, you have to be of legal consenting age. Although there are millions of underage people who give their consent. Like people are fighting for adults, That consent can be taken away and regarded as not given. Statutory rape was not created because people were convincing children that they wanted tea. It was to tell those children no matter how much you wanted the tea. They were not allowed to give it to you. Yes it is legal laziness. But never the less it is the law. And you have three options. Follow it, Fight it, Or break it and hope you don't get caught. On the term of predators. A predator devours it's prey. And it has nothing to do with overpowering. The weak can prey on the strong and the strong can prey on the weak. The old can prey on the young. And the young can prey on the old. Predatory behavior is a mindset of gaining an unfair advantage to be abused.

[@DaddyAbbadon99]

This is gold.😂They played this in class.

[@yesthbnks2004]

Same dude, they played this in sex Ed today and omg everyone was laughing it was amazing, I just had to find it

[@udokafintelmann6803]

Same

[@aislynnparnell7236]

I read that as chess. “They played this in chess”, and so I was like “oh, like a chess tournament? Well that’s weird. Whatever teaches the people...” Then I realized you wrote class and so I was like, “yeah! Okay, mine did too.” Just figured you should know. ...professional chess tournaments are a thing, right?

[@prodguardian]

yup

[@invalid-user7335]

Same, it was an accident. 😂

[@ericam3212]

As a MFT that works with children; this video would be perfect if it also talks about offering "tea" to a person who is unaware or too young to understand what "tea" is or how its made or why they cant talk about the tea.

[@n.c.435]

and if someone says, “i wanna make you tea so badly, i would love yo make you tea, im gonna die if i can’t make you tea, i need to make you tea, it’s physically hurting me how much i want to make you tea,” and then asks if you want them to make you tea, that’s a lot different than saying “hey, i want to make you tea. would you like some?” and *waiting for their answer* before telling them how much you want to make them tea.

[@ultimobile]

OMG if I can't make you tea I'm gonna have a jug full of boiled water going to waste !

[@deupsonym4612]

Thanks

[@carelessdreamer]

Asexuals be like: Nah I’ll just take the water. Maybe make myself some tea if I really want some.

[@dexterjettster8875]

That's what this video makes me think. It aint worth the risk.

[@maryakage5197]

As an asexual who's favourite drink is water this feels very appropriate

[@mrfaker-xe2kf]

with a side of garlic bread

[@GrahamChapman]

@@mrfaker-xe2kf Water and garlic bread...? Dude, you're missing out if you don't at least make yourself some instant soup... also, I have no idea if we've both gone off the rails with this metaphor or not, but I'm just talking about food at this point.

[@JeppeBeier]

@Shalyn Uselmann garlic bread

[@jay9759]

It’s ok if they want tea and decide not to have tea while drinking it.

[@chairwithoutwheels9148]

Lol u saw shoe0nhead right

[@DoritoStyle]

It is definitely OK to decide you don't want any more at any point. It will never be cool to force feed them the leftover tea.

[@carntmax8952]

Lady_KZbin yeah I worked in a café and if customers left half a mug I didn’t chase them down the street forcing them to drink the rest of their tea

[@changesomthing9874]

Jay yes

[@obliviouz]

I mean, it's pretty rude to ask for tea, get someone to make it for you, and then not drink it.

[@onmmyway]

How much better it would be if we applied "enthusiastic" to "consent". I have consumed my fair share of tea, but I was rarely enthusiastic about it. So many cups of tea I drank so my boyfriend wouldn't get pissy. Imagine if the yardstick was not just "consent" but "enthusiastic consent." Like if we actually followed moral standards that superceded basic laws. Like caring that the other person really wants the tea versus just not saying "no tea."

[@blackparademistress1]

That sounds like coercion 😢 which is a form of SA. I’ve been there too 😞

[@gandalfthegrey2592]

sex workers feel no enthusiasm, and neither does "asexuals". Your meaning doesn't work. And people can express enthusiasm differently. I think ur a confused youngster about the concept of morality. Part of morality is wanting to please your partner, as long as ofc, you're in a position to do so, doesn't justify force and coercion, which would be something bad done in response to something bad.

[@gandalfthegrey2592]

@@blackparademistress1 no its not coercion? Coercion actually has a meaning, wanting to keep your partner happy, is not coercion on their part.

[@onmmyway]

@@gandalfthegrey2592 you show you have little understanding of what sex is like for women. 1 in 3 experience *pain* when having sex. Yet they still have it. If that isn't coercion, I don't know what is.

[@gandalfthegrey2592]

​@@onmmyway There are lots of issues with this comment, and I suggest you verify your sources because that's an absurd and dangerous statement that needs strong support. Firstly, don't women actually want sex? You yourself mentioned that you have a boyfriend. Painting sex as something unilaterally demanded by men with women having no interest in it, is quite silly and contrary to how people actually work, while that may be you specifically, you're only projecting your opinions onto others. Considering that one of the key aspects of feminism is to have sex with as many and whoever you like without judgment and to embrace it. If women detested sex since it caused them too much pain, feminism would advocate for the exact opposite. Since feminism is primarily concerned with furthering women's "interests" or more accurately, the freedom to do what they wish, why would it advocate for something they don't wish to do? Secondly, no, doing something painful is not coercion if you consented to do it. From your description, your boyfriend _is_ coercive. And frankly, I don't see why ur staying with him if he can not fix his misbehavior towards you, no one is coercing you no? I'll tell you what coercion is, doing something under threat of safety, betrayal, threat, _actual violence_ (not the meme word the internet has it into), deprived of their ability to choose properly, or force. _Wanting_ to do something for someone you care for, even at the cost of pain *is not* coercion. To give a rather extreme example that fortunately society could still sympathize with, if a parent _decides_ to sacrifice their life for their child, _that's not coercion_, even if it is painful. Now if someone held that parent at gunpoint, or threatened them in any other manner, etc., and to prevent such blackmailing from happening. Or for a less example, even with the negative symptoms associated with donating blood, if someone decides to do it, they're not coerced even if they feel the symptoms of losing lots of blood. If someone held them at gunpoint, that would be coercion. And lastly, sex doesn't have to be painful. It's a natural act that is necessary for the continuation of the species and is actively desired by both genders because both enjoy it. If someone has pain during sex, they need to go to the doctor, it's not natural, nor do men have an interest in causing their women pain during sex. Don't be ludicrous.

[@FortunePathVenerable]

2020 Hookup secret code . Netflix and chill?✖️ You want a cup of tea?✔️

[@EdgyShooter]

Barista accused of sexual harassment

[@carelessdreamer]

Let’s also remember that just because someone has a connection with you and goes to tea parties with you sometimes doesn’t mean that they’ll always like tea just because it’s you. Even if they seem prepared, it’s still important to ask. Many physical responses to tea don’t always mean the mind is also consenting. Always ask if they want tea. If they seem like they don’t want all of it, don’t force them to take all of it. They may have only wanted some.

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

How many times in your entire life you asked someone for a cup of tea? Especially for the first one with this person.

[@oliverqueen5883]

And remember, tea is for adults only.

[@andrewliscio251]

nah

[@cloudlily8835]

@@andrewliscio251 Yes. Tea has caffeine which should never be consumed by kids 12 and younger.

[@andrewliscio251]

Cloudlily i’m talking abt like 15+

[@olijovelmacdonald]

@@andrewliscio251 i think they mean children can't say yes to tea with an adult.

[@andrewhailstorm4081]

@@cloudlily8835 I’ve been drinking it since I was 7- (btw I’m talking about actual tea)

[@klarrebarre8173]

And remember, being in a relationship doesn’t equal permission to shove tea down their throat whenever you feel like having a tea party.

[@PrincessFelicie]

Also people, even if people wear a shirt with a cup of tea printed on it, as well as a monocle and a top hat, frequently using language such as "yes quite" and "riveting", that still isn't asking for it. Consent is through talk exclusively.

[@walrushashbrown9794]

If someone runs away from you screaming does that mean the person does want to have "tea" and if they beg you to make them "tea" does that mean they don't want any tea. Sure telling someone is a good way to for them to know you want "tea" but it's not exclusive, body language and a relationship with a person are also quite adequate forms of asking for "tea".

[@whatdidyouzay5688]

+Walrushashbrown absolutely what I was thinking consent is with body language and verbal confirmation.

[@whatdidyouzay5688]

+Walrushashbrown absolutely what I was thinking consent is with body language and verbal confirmation.

[@PrincessFelicie]

Izaiah Clinton Body language is no consent.

[@walrushashbrown9794]

Ryoga Hibiki except it is.

[@DenaL112]

Unconscious people do not want a cup of tea. LMBO. That floored me!

[@punnedit3620]

Yes. A young fellow just got 6 months in jail because he didn't understand that there was anything wrong with raping an unconscious woman. Sad that it has to be said.

[@fran791]

+Punned It A lot of people think that there's nothing wrong crazy people

[@brianmacker1288]

But I do want a cup of tea sometimes when I'm unconscious, or drunk, or stoned. What's wrong with me consenting to tea under these situations? I like to be drinking tea as I'm sleeping. I usually ask my partner to try and not wake me while serving me tea in my sleep Then in my dream I get to drink tea with Loni Anderson, Rachel Welsh, or Cleopatra. Sometimes I'm drinking tea with an entire group in Wonderland and my partner is Alice. So I get to experience things I'd be unlikely to do in reality. Sometimes I wake up in the middle and that's fine too, and I'm awake having tea with my partner but really turned on because I was just having tea with the Queen of England in my sleep. Having tea while drunk is great because it lowers my inhibitions and also makes my tea partner look fabulous. It becomes a more giddy tea party. I also tend to enjoy my tea longer and my partner enjoys the tea party lasting much longer too. We both also have impaired judgment and will have a much wilder tea party than normal. The next day we are like, "I can't believe we finally tried that. Boy was that great." I have known women who say having tea while stoned is just like being awake while having sex with Alice from Wonderland while half being there. I've known women who want to be stoned every single time they do it. But their seems to be a quandary. They want this experience and yet some people argue that a stoned person does not have the capacity to consent to tea, which would make it a crime. But if you think about it more they women are actually wanting to consent to being victimized like this. But wait. If you consent to being victimized with tea while stoned then is it victimization any more? The reality of the kind of tea parties I have is that usually we are both providing tea to each other simultaneously. This is impossible when both of us are unconscious. However, sometimes we both like to be drunk, stoned, or drunk & stoned to the point where we couldn't drive, sign a will, or make an important financial decision. Blasted to the point were we couldn't consent to purchase an annuity. Yet we serve each other tea anyway. We like it and we don't regret it the next day either. So are we both guilty of serving tea to someone else without their consent. Should we both be dragged off to jail for six month prison sentences like the Stanford rapist or even worse? So many questions. Tea drinking really isn't that simple after all. Is it?

[@fran791]

***** not true

[@brianmacker1288]

***** Isn't that obvious. Goes for any kind of sexual activity.

[@katkatkatkat463]

Screaming for help, throwing the cup in the tea-assailant’s face and running away should not be necessary either to escape the tea or to prove that the tea was not wanted. Freezing in fear or acquiescing out of politeness are also common responses to persistent tea badgering, and do not mean that the tea was wanted.

[@GrahamChapman]

Also, a person wearing posh clothes and using language like "yes, quite" and "bolly good" does not mean they're asking for tea.

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

Yeah, it shoud be enough just to point at smbd you don’t like and say: “he tried to force me drinking tea!” - and tgey should immidiately catch him and put in jail. Cause you are a victim, how dare we don’t believe a victim, what are we, victim blamers?!

[@stuff31]

@@НикитаКовальчук-к3б are you some kind of troll? this is the second comment I've found from you painting SA victims as liars. stop.

[@НикитаКовальчук-к3б]

@@stuff31 are you some kind of an ignorant child? First of all, what you call SA in most cases is a normar and natural behaviour. Does a cat or a bull ask for a permission to penetrate? So they all are violating poor victims? Then If you say you’ve met a Yeti, not necessarily i’ve got to belive you, you need to prove everything. I think normal punishment for what you call a elrape would be a fine, like $500.

[@J0seph_Mother]

It's crazy this internet video did a better job at teaching consent then a 4 million dollar video from the Australian government

[@ecgameplayer]

They showed us this in police academy when talking about domestic violence.

[@carsonpores4753]

w h a t ?

[@EdgyShooter]

They showed it to us in the Royal Navy as well, it's a light-hearted way of broaching a series subject, and can lean to some pretty open discussions

[@obliviouz]

Wait what. You can say Yes to Domestic Violence? I didn't know that.

[@ecgameplayer]

@@obliviouz domestic violence in a broader field, there's dating violence, family violence, household violence, and this was during dating violence and sexual assault investigation.

[@lucasknutsen6210]

When he said “now I’m gonna make myself a cup of tea” I felt that

[@dexterjettster8875]

Its almost like, "fuck this consent thing its too risky and not worth it". Let me just do it myself.

[@QuietFries]

Fine I'll do it myself

[@theemperorstarwarslegends8075]

gotta vpn for those tea videos.

[@cyriljrmansueto2108]

The Emperor [Star Wars Legend's] or tea making tutorials if you will

[@laurenballou1615]

So the peer leader senior kids were talking about consent in my freshman Advisory today, and they turned on this video. 0:10 came on and they freaked out and turned it off and ran around the room frantically going "Wrong video wrong video turn it off!!!" And then they played the clean one and they could not stop apologizing. It was literally the greatest thing I've seen happen in highschool so far

[@Hisalt32]

This happened to Me today, Everyone was laughing including me while the teacher looked shocker and Immediately ran to the Board to stop the video, i was still laughing and so was everyone laughing else😂

[@jaybonn5973]

And remember. If you drink your tea faster than they do or they to you. That's OK. As long as both consenting parties finish their tea and enjoy the experience. There's always more tea to make.

[@bluesyogini]

To add to the metaphor... If you ask someone if they want tea and they reply with, "I'll just have some hot water, thanks." Don't try to slip a tea bag in there. Sometimes people just want hot water. Vice versa, if you want tea. Say you want tea. Don't say "hot water", that just confuses people. Hot water is hot water, tea is tea. Yes, hot water can sometimes turn into tea. Fact still remains that the person still has to say that they want a tea bag thrown in the mix.

[@carultch]

Yeah, a practical example of this in a person's sex life. You just want to get to second base with your partner and are not prepared for sex in its complete form. Possibly because you know that neither of you have protection, and for you, that is a mandatory requirement. When the two of you get to second base, your partner wants to go all the way, and will not take no for an answer.

[@dominicward45]

My girlfriend told me to drink my own tea!

[@actorswitchpilt4621]

Lol She sounds like a great girl. :)

[@doroteaivankovic3134]

Who is here because of Illymation? 💕

[@aughhhhh8304]

Dorotea Ivanković me💞💞💞

[@JosieAreSee]

Yup!

[@aikohayes8762]

me

[@molly_404]

mwah

[@thyironfist]

Yes!

[@compa6251]

"I'm going to make myself a cup of tea" Is this... an allegory?

[@miinkke]

what if the tea goes cold, then what do i just leave

[@watchspringdayibighitmv7507]

drink the tea yourself

[@watchspringdayibighitmv7507]

drink the tea yourself

[@miinkke]

lizbett Gerardo but cold tea is gross

[@eveningdim7167]

If it's frigid, don't drink it.

[@isaacs8783]

Put it in the microwave and heat it up and either drink it yourself or ask them later if they want the tea from earlier.

[@MsVamPireChic]

Better than BuzzFeed's $5 version.

[@margitp7464]

true

[@themmefatale]

MsVamPireChic that's actually based off a series of tweets

[@staybeautifulx285]

No it's from the uk police department

[@hannahsargent5905]

MsVamPireChic yeh

[@Starmadien2019]

MsVamPireChic wow they did that, figures they are shit stains

[@ML-bz7jj]

Dear teachers, if you are showing this video to your students, that's awesome. Don't leave it there!! keep the conversation going!! Don't expect students to understand that consent is important by only showing them one video. Keep reinforcing the idea that consent is important and necessary.

[@obliviouz]

Feels like you're telling teachers to force-feed students the idea even if they might not want it.

[@fmcgucket3076]

@@obliviouz they don't want to learn pre-algebra either. Doesn't mean they don't need to understand the concept.

[@GhostOfNevermore]

And if someone says that they don't like tea or coffee, don't _ask_ them what's wrong with them. If someone doesn't like tea or coffee, and never wants to drink it, they don't owe you an explanation. Don't ask if they're sure, or if they've been scalded by tea before, or if they just don't like the taste. And especially don't imply or say that they _must_ have a medical condition, are _lying_ about their beverage preferences, or that their parents must not have loved them. They are _still_ human! And they just don't like tea or coffee.

[@EatMyPancreasPlease]

omg ace positivity in the wild?? very true and im glad at least one person mentioned it here

[@LittleRedHenFilmsLondon]

Gives the phrase 'teabagging' new depth.

[@hipstersreact3391]

+Little Red Hen Videos - Dalston hehe

[@krisztianszirtes5414]

New depth, huh?

[@goat9283]

“But you looked so thirsty”

[@ゆっきー-t4o]

Even the sex which has no agreement won't be a crime in Japan. The lady who has the courage of Japan announced a face as the name officially and reported the rape damage received from a journalist. But there is also evidence, but many Japanese men say that she's a liar. Please help. There are no female human rights in Japan. English can't be written well, but I want many people to know this thing.

[@melanieortiz712]

あい 😔😭😔

[@swordofthespirit7994]

All I can say to give you any hope is that many Americans are aware of how other countries treat women and abuse human rights and have no freedom of speech. We still have plenty of domestic abuse and rape in the U.S.A. but we as a society are trying to educate the people...while we still have freedom of speech to do so...shame of being a rape victim runs deep in our society too...hopefully American women will be the collective strong voice to lead the way to help all women of the world soon someday...Mothers teach your sons the way to treat women...It is always darkest before the dawn-don't give up hope that we will change as a species and evolve and treat each other with dignity and respect-

[@ds.nedsong]

I am not suprised to hear this. Truth to tell, ever here in the USA, there will be no conviction if no DNA evidence can be found on the victim plus evidence of trauma. You need these 2 things or it is just your word against his. Well, unless the idiot recorded it. And yes, sometimes they are that dumb. LOL!

[@tracyburnquist6513]

Please understand that you will receive no help from the people who are concerned about concent. The mistake your making is that you're failing to understand that the social justice community is concerned about looking progressive for their friends, rather than actually helping the people they claim to care about. Right now it's in fashionable to advocate for gays, transgenders, blacks and muslims. Since there is no status to be gained for people who advoctae for Asians, you will be receiving no help. Best of luck to you

[@user-ne9th7uc4n]

And remember animals can’t say if they want tea, so don’t give them tea

[@cherrylime2660]

Not only will they likely hate it, but tea can kill animals as well. Just let them share a bowl of water with another animal.

[@terminalcreature1560]

Tea for unconscious people is not safe *Confirmed*

[@catluva74]

Can I say I want tea but I'm tired. So if I fall asleep they can pour it down my throat?

[@Honey-vw4hc]

Where's the illuminati

[@connorlastname3034]

If someone is drinking a cup of tea you made and passes out, you should probably check the ingredients and call a doctor.

[@Shortwarreports]

That happen when the tea is too rough, call a doctor and offer him a cup of this tea. If the doctor pass out then you know your tea is definitely too rough, so call a 2nd doctor.

[@dortymakaloni7861]

@@Shortwarreports Why would you offer your doctor tea in the first place and why did he/she agree to drink it?!🤣😀😐🤨🤔

[@sarah9736]

There's something missing in the video about persuading people who are unsure about drinking tea. That gaslighting people into having some tea or using your position of power so the person will prefer to drink the tea even if they dont want to. Consent is not "that easy". It is not only about getting a "yes". In too many cases gaslighting of vulnerable people can lead to barely getting a "yes" but this is still sexual abuse.

[@Agirlwholovescats333]

very true! you are totally right. They should have added that.

[@kataascardis1710]

0:39

[@sarah9736]

@@kataascardis1710 it's a situation where the no is clearly established. When it's unclear, don't make tea.

[@JRMCNEA]

How do you gaslight someone into having tea? You tell them either they drink it or you give it to someone else? That is not gas lighting. That is someone who doesn't want your tea thinking they are entitled to tell you who you give your tea to. It is so strange to live in a world where the person offered the tea pretends like they have this unbearable burden because they want to control the people offering them tea. If you don't want the tea you have no right to demand they keep their tea cups available to you just because they like you. So many tea drinkers expect the offerer to be beholden to them. So much so any push back from an offerer is considered an offense. You don't want to drink the tea? don't. It is that simple. The problem is you want the right to use their tea cups to hold your shit. Preventing them from making tea for someone who would gladly drink their tea while asking them be ok with you not drinking their tea.Sexual abuse is when you make someone drink your tea. Not when someone thinks they have to drink your tea so they can dictate who you offer tea to... Maybe someone should make a video teaching people that. If you were forced to drink it you are a victim. If you agree to when you don't want to, you are not. YOU made a dumb decision. And all you have to do is not make another. And not expect other people to give YOU authority over themselves that YOU wouldn't give them over you.

[@sarah9736]

@@JRMCNEA I don't know what you are talking about. It's about manipulating people who don't really know what tea is, means, or know the consequences, making them think that drinking tea is necessary to pay something back, that you'll get in trouble if you don't drink their tea, that it is a "matrimonial duty", that "it's not so bad to endure drinking tea if I do it for them"... As long as there are no genuine feeling of wanting tea even if the victim themselves manages to rationalize the act to forget/not get in trouble/restore their mental health, there is no consent... when a lot of people say "it's not sexual abuse it's regret" they refuse to acknowledge that people manage to break free from the rationalization and find out they were not able to consent. Rationalizing a "kind" boyfriend who helps you in your daily life but threatens to break up when you don't want sex is really really easy and happens all the time ("he's too kind I don't want to lose him, I don't really know if I want to do it, if he really wants it it's not so bad if I just let him, it'll just be too exhausting standing up to him, it's not really rape if he doesn't physically force me"). It's not a dumb decision.

[@theighthsage1282]

“Unconscious people don’t want tea. Trust me on this.” Best words ever said.

[@Potencyfunction]

It is beacuse they they like Coca Cola! Different taste. Tea thread!

[@theighthsage1282]

@@Potencyfunction is Coca Cola meant to represent something?

[@Potencyfunction]

@@theighthsage1282 If you my creativty is black sperm.

[@theighthsage1282]

@@Potencyfunction that doesn’t make much sense to me… tea is supposed to represent sex so I find it strange that Coca Cola isn’t representing something similar. If Coca Cola is meant to represent black sperm, are you supposed to put it in a glass and pour it into a mouth? Because if you don’t use a glass or something then you would be forcing tea down they’re throat not Coca Cola. I might be misunderstanding you because I feel like I read it wrong.

[@awaishafeez9027]

At the end when he says "I'm going to make myself a cup of tea" makes me believe he is going to do more than that...

[@dexterjettster8875]

the tea is a metaphor for, wait nevermind

[@todorokiisbaby9721]

hahaha

[@yesiwearsocks]

And remember, no one can force you into drinking their tea! Don't feel obligated to drink tea because someone makes it for you. If someone makes you tea, but you don't want it, say "no, I would not like tea". Make sure the point is clear. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about not having the tea either, because if you don't want tea, then that's it.

[@JayTobas]

the real question is whether the dude is actually going to make a cup of tea or if he's getting laid.

[@Tjalve70]

And the answer to that is obviously Yes.

[@leadguitaristofsomething]

He said make himself a cup of tea... that means.... himself.

[@kt7935]

exactly

[@exister._.5086]

*J A C K I T*

[@obliviouz]

He didn't even ask if anyone wanted tea.

[@elijahandre6391]

if they dont want tea, dont say "just the sip"

[@sortofsollo]

if you ask if someone wants tea and they say nothing, don’t make it for them and then make them drink it. you still don’t know if they want tea.

[@annabethst]

THIS

[@kanaesbestie8545]

and that’s the tea

[@PlasmaMongoose]

In this metaphor, I just wouldn't offer to make them any tea, I just tell them that if they want something to drink, they can get it out of the fridge.

[@neilbedwell7763]

+PlasmaMongoose This kind of means 'go fuck yourself'? lol

[@diilavery4825]

"Stop, your hands are cold"

[@ratholin]

+PlasmaMongoose in this metaphor isn't tea from the fridge a necrophilia thing?

[@PlasmaMongoose]

ratholin Never heard of Iced Tea? Also who doesn't sometimes want to crack open a cold one? :P

[@Reziac]

+PlasmaMongoose Lends a new meaning to "fridging the girl" :D

[@marcelacaballero3539]

I’m in college and whenever I get in a debate about consent with a guy, I show them this video and they go •_• oh… Wow that’s perfect. So remember ladies and GENTLEMEN this video works for all ages