My Crush is in a Relationship, Now What???| Ask Neeka

[@DankiedaAfrikaner]

"Never wait around, don't take it personally. Let go".😢 my heart 😭 "Don't be blinded by your feeling." NB "Be respectful to everyone "

[@ramirenriquez6795]

Like the part where your crush's partner is also a human, can make us so foolish for being selfish without knowing it. Okay okay let it go, got it haha

[@niels1t1if]

I tried to move on for a year now. And I think I am still in the 'this is the one' phase.

[@girlwiththearchives]

Thanks for this video! Didn't know how relatable my crush problems were. Looks like I'm not the only one. I'll definitely try your advice, I needed it!

[@MissJJoan]

I don't think that's right. Not telling them is terrible advice. Being honest will bring you peace. It will be so much easier to move on, knowing that you spoke your truth. There is no "perfect moment." Just choose a day and do it, preferably in a phone convo. No matter the outcome, remember that what they say next is a reflection on them and not on you. Whenever someone tells you they like you, it is one of the best compliments anyone can ever receive, even if it isn't reciprocated. You can just say something like "I am not saying this to hurt your relationship in any way, and I respect your feelings, but I thought you should know that I think you're an amazing person and if you were single, I would've loved to have dated you. I wish you all the best." Something like that. After that, you can get back to your life and you will never again be bothered by any "what ifs?"

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m usually all for telling them, but I believe that confessing feelings to a taken person is disrespectful to their partner.

[@lessismore8533]

@@TeaLeafNeekaI don’t 100% agree. Maybe confessing feelings to a MARRIED person sure But not while someone is just dating. Whether it’s “respectful” or not depends on who the person is you’re telling. She may feel it is. Someone else may feel it isn’t. Plus it’s not like you’re forcing yourself on them..

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

@@lessismore8533 that’s good point, I’m married so I see these problems from a married context at times

[@1ael346]

I am going through this. I have feelings for a girl that put me in the friends zone. I tried to distance myself. I'm afraid of getting hurt. I was never intimate with her. This was a great video. Thank you for your advice.

[@richardle7469]

Same shit with me.. I am just a rent free roommate. Hell he fucking upstairs right now. Done with feelings for her.

[@justvibing7912]

Thank you I really needed to hear this. I caught feelings for a co-worker but through conversation I found out she has a bf. I respect her enough to not tell her how I feel and I understand it just wasn’t meant to be. It’s hard getting over her though because she really makes me feel some type of way on the inside :’)

[@daviansanchez7187]

Same

[@Lincoln_707]

Same also

[@GoodVibes-sp4ev]

What if your crush is in relationship but showing 'single' public? So, How to be confirm to move on in this situation?

[@Coolman1985]

I applaud you, finally someone lays it out how it should be said, especially for those that got their hearts crushed recently, the unlikely scenario "your ex is coming back" def wrong way, best get therapy and learn to let go

[@roaring_angels]

Wasnt expecting such great advice from a random video!

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m glad I could help! :D

[@jaylencousin]

All I did was confess my feelings just to hope to let it go because all this time I thought she was single until I saw a post on her Instagram if I got a guy. When I told her I would hope that she would change your mind but she said she understood and she still wanted to be friends. But honestly I wish you would have been honest with me and if she really didn't like me and said I gave me her number and acting like she liked me she could have just told me that she wouldn't interested or had a boyfriend. Because I literally thought she liked me till I found out another guy was talking to her

[@talktalk2412]

I keep my distance and stopped going to open mic where i met her because I saw her snogging her new bf and my heart just sunk :(

[@razustalkie2445]

What do you do if she says " i have a boyfriend " even if she doesn't have one, like it hurts when you know the truth but she makes an excuse?

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I used to use that excuse as well because I thought that that was nicer than saying flat out no. I think she maybe was trying to let you down in a nice way but that backfired since you knew the truth. Imo I’d just take it as a rejection and move on. Sorry that that happened to you!

[@bellefairydust]

What if knew your crush before they were in a relationship

[@sharannarsinginsb]

Hey.. My crush is having feelings for someone else but they are not in a relationship.. and also my crush knows that am having feelings on her and she said me that she's confused about her feelings to me.. then she said her frnd on the same same that she will not get feelings on me even after 4 years (4 years because we are in the 1st year of btech course right now) and she said she might get feelings for the guy in our class to her friends Should I give it a try? It's been just a month since we all met.. they are all my new classmates Please help me I'm really having a huge crush on her

[@Yeetus_Deletus2023]

My advice: Go cry about it 👍👍

[@Coolman1985]

😂

[@bellefairydust]

What if your doing it to free you mind? by telling them cause you feel like you’ve told everyone but them? Telling them that you used to like them before not now?

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

If you used to like them but you don’t like them anymore, then I wouldn’t tell them (especially if they’re dating someone). That’s just my opinion though, I’m not sure what the nuisances of your situation are. Good luck!

[@bellefairydust]

@@TeaLeafNeeka Its because I feel a regret of not telling him straight up that I like him in time. I feel by me telling him and explaining that my previous messages were because I liked him cause I think they were quite vague. i'm hoping that it will bring me closure and I can move on for good, with out this hanging over me?

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I want you to consider how you would feel if you were dating this guy and another person confessed their feelings to him, knowing that he was in a relationship. Would you have an issue with that?

[@bellefairydust]

TeaLeafNeeka it depends on there intentions, if there saying it in a way that they used to like him and have know intentions of doing anything it’s just to come clean and perhaps laugh about it. Then that should be ok

[@bellefairydust]

@@TeaLeafNeeka update I told him, he was actually really nice about it! To some it may me crazy but for me it was what I needed for myself to move on my intuition told me to do. I feel like I have a weight lifted off my shoulders and can move on properly. His response was really lovely but I know other people may not have as nice a response.

[@norseajax5279]

Me RN 💔😔

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

awhhh it’ll be okay 🥺

[@gnrani2388]

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[@sharannarsinginsb]

Hey.. My crush is having feelings for someone else but they are not in a relationship.. and also my crush knows that am having feelings on her and she said me that she's confused about her feelings to me.. then she said her frnd on the same same that she will not get feelings on me even after 4 years (4 years because we are in the 1st year of btech course right now) and she said she might get feelings for the guy in our class to her friends Should I give it a try? It's been just a month since we all met.. they are all my new classmates Please help me I'm really having a huge crush on her