Personally I think the biggest lie in this industry is actually the idea that healing can happen in isolation. That you can heal yourself out of needing people. In my experience, that lie seems more pervasive than the “no contrast” thing
@queengoblin2 жыл бұрын
I definitely see the no contrast thing more than healing in isolation. People who think you can heal in isolation are usually avoidant personality types, not everyone is avoidant. I've had people straight up abandon me because I focus on shadow work not love and light, and I accept contrast. They're always posting nature selfies and green juice pics and happy quotes meanwhile their lives are chaotic.
@koalaed2 жыл бұрын
@@queengoblin can you explain a bit more about the point you’re making? I feel like it resonates with me but I’m also not clear on what you’re saying. I’ve had people upset we with me because I’ve been so focused on shadow work. I was in dark night of the soul for the last few years. Now I’m out but there’s still work to do, trauma work. I have definitely contacted people less, I feel bad for it but I had to do what I’ve felt I had to do. I didn’t contact because I didn’t always know what was happening to me/what it all meant.
@queengoblin2 жыл бұрын
@@koalaed I'm making the same point as Teal, so I'm not sure what is confusing? It seems like you get it! :) If you're asking what happened, I mean because I don't deny the shadow, I've had people leave me... I talk about hard topics and reality and truth and healing and a lot of love and light people are uncomfortable with that because they're fundamentally in survival mode and refuse to see reality, so seeing it makes them uncomfortable. I'm a life coach and my industry tends to attract a lot of love and light people who just want to "fix" themselves and deny reality, rather than embracing the reality of the world, which is grey - not white light love.
@shellymyers842 жыл бұрын
@@queengoblin Define chaos. You can find chaos all around you if you look hard enough. Can you live with the chaos and not find fault with it?
@cm-yu6gu2 жыл бұрын
I definitely think this is extremely pervasive. I'm still figuring out if it's true or not. If you can reach a state of healing where you're truly unbothered and unable to be hurt by others because you're so whole and secure in yourself. At the same time from a higher perspective, you are truly not whole or healed unless EVERYTHING and EVERYONE is. Because all is one. Your pain is my pain.
@lucymziri11302 жыл бұрын
Thank you for existing❤️🙏🏻
@blueangel95442 жыл бұрын
I second this.
@kaziimtiazahammad19282 жыл бұрын
Hello
@kaziimtiazahammad19282 жыл бұрын
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@nicholekristine2 жыл бұрын
Ditto 💖
@carolinelaronda45232 жыл бұрын
Teal is the best 💜
@Jaaaackjack2 жыл бұрын
Light & dark, pleasure & pain, joy & sadness, success and failure - this is human life and you can’t tease apart the good from the bad, we get the whole experience
@shaftofwisdom2 жыл бұрын
Yet there are people who's problems are literally jokes while others suffer unimaginably
@Being_Katherine2 жыл бұрын
Oh woman, I appreciate this video. I was blinding myself with “endless happiness” & resisting the naturalness of contrast, wondering what is wrong with me. 😭💀 Thank you, I appreciate the clarity in knowing that allowing contrast does not mean that I am “allowing bad things into my life,” I am allowing the fun of expansion as contrast always is natural & inevitable. 👍♥️
@pedrokoury13522 жыл бұрын
Hell yea! May we surf life differently than before ✌️
@ChidumOsobalu2 жыл бұрын
Heaven and Hell technically is not a place, rather a "state of being or mind". And as pain and pleasure are contrast, so is heaven and hell.
@rashmi4112 жыл бұрын
A lot of people are overcoming trauma, they don’t know what’s normal.
@koalaed2 жыл бұрын
👌🏻💖
@mordaciousfilms2 жыл бұрын
The paradox is that so many people tell me I can't expect people to "make me happy" when much of my trauma stems from feeling unloved and unappreciated by... PEOPLE. Am I responsible to help myself, yes! But why is there this insistance I make myself an island, when it's that very "in this alone" mindset that's hurting me to begin with? I NEED PEOPLE. My greatest desire is just to feel included, loved, seen and appreciated and to be close to others who appreciate who I really am and not just my gifts or what I can do for them. This whole obsessive "DIY" thing has been hurting more than helping, because I've begun SHAMING my own "Vortex" - my inner being and entire mindset KNOWS I thrive when in good company, when I feel engaged. I learn so much by interacting with others. So, to ask me with my trauma brain to "fix myself" is like asking someone to hold themselves up in midair. I've also punished myself for not always being happy, not being grateful... for basically being human> that's what spirituality has done, made me ashamed to be a human and not "infinite oneness" because *sarcasm* apparently we're wrong and bad if we're not floating in a cloud embodying pure light...
@kelliel70222 жыл бұрын
I relate to this so hard. You put words to something I couldn't.
@sassysaradomin777 Жыл бұрын
Spirituality and loa has honestly turned my anxiety into paranoia to where I feel like I’m being watched
@RicciolieTeina Жыл бұрын
I send much love 🫂
@SW-jg7yh Жыл бұрын
Yessssss this
@jordansaintemarie2 жыл бұрын
In regards to the ocean/wave analogy, I think what the “seekers” are seeking is not an ocean without waves but to be constantly riding the crest-which is impossible. You’re right that the goal of spiritual work is to get good at riding the waves but I also think that the ocean seems to calm down quite a lot in general as well.
@Mr.Honest2472 жыл бұрын
I don’t think you can make great art without that contrast either! Just like you can’t have a great movie without drama or a great song.. The contrast is required!!!
@OllieSmiless2 жыл бұрын
I feel like this video was made for me in my current state. I fell into the trap of " if I don't have this thing in my life = I'm out of alignment = there is something wrong with me and/or my beliefs/thoughts. I've been struggling so much with this and chasing alignment so these things can manifest so I can feel enough and good about myself and where I am in life as I'm feeling behind like "I should have had this thing by now, what am I doing wrong?!!". This video is yet another reminder I need to rethink my approach and understanding of this whole spiritual thing.
@arothimi2 жыл бұрын
i believed that too!
@Mr.Honest2472 жыл бұрын
It was made for everyone in this state. You’re not the only one!!!
@alessandrasalituri25022 жыл бұрын
I’m going through this too
@red97292 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU! Such a good message. Since I am someone who fears happiness because I was trained to "wait for the other shoe to drop" this video actually helps me. Being ok with happiness AND holding that "negative" things just happen (not because I am being "punished" as I grew up learning. This is a good reminder (I also find the self/help and spiritual communities too often filled with toxic positivity and gaslighting.
@flybabyskybaby2 жыл бұрын
I relate so much to this comment, bless you dear, I could only imagine what you went through ❤️
@karnageartist2 жыл бұрын
This!! I just got engaged and have been having horrific nightmares because I’m waiting for “the other shoe to drop” as I was taught in childhood. It’s a weight lifted off to learn that life isn’t a punisher. Life just is.
@JinxMarie19852 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this comment. It somewhat validates what I go through or have gone through.
@FablesDen2 жыл бұрын
Called out with the shadow work thing 💀 I am constantly grappling with the idea that "I don't want to suffer anymore. I just want things to be perfect." And I get caught up with the "so that" for sure. Thank you for this video 🙏 it was just what I needed 💖
@tinamancusi8094 Жыл бұрын
This is so on point with a realization I recently had. My definition of happiness has changed to being in a space of acceptance - meaning, all I want is the ability to be where I am, in whatever situation I am in, to be in the present moment without wishing or thinking I should be somewhere else. A state of acceptance or non resistance IS ease, IS happiness. Thank you for being the mirror Teal ❤
@orderoftheangels77512 жыл бұрын
You give me so much strength
@LutherAEvans2 жыл бұрын
Unwanted things will always happen. It's how you react to these experiences that matters. The goal for me is heaven on Earth, but I don't view it how Teal describes it in the video. I recognize that there will never be an end point or an end to contrast. There will always be more ways to learn, grow, improve, and progress. It's about enjoying the journey along the way and persevering despite upsets. Contrast informs you of what is wanted in your life, so you can go in that direction while acknowledging that there will be more contrast to come.
@LutherAEvans2 жыл бұрын
@Angel Alexi The way I view it is it's a state of being, a bliss state. You can't expect to be there 100% of the time, but that's where you go towards and aim for. And I think you're right in the sense of things like emotional management. For example, when something unwanted comes up, yes, you may still get angry, for example, but if you work on it and keep working on it, you will get to a point where you don't stay there as long when you do get angry. You don't dwell or reside in the negative states as you climb the latter up to heaven/ emotional wellbeing.
@Katlyn24062 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. It really explain the dead end feeling that I am having. Often times I caught myself thinking about what exactly i was trying to achieve while constantly staying on the dark side of the moon. I feel like I missed out a lot of things and fear of commitment to anything remotely human. It is in a way like an endless cycle of a running hamster wheel. As I am writing these lines, it brought tears to my eyes.
@kristenr93982 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I have been struggling my whole entire life with this! I was so frustrated because i have been seeking spirituality and been practicing what i thought would put an end to my complicated blueprint and I can’t believe it took me this long to realize how counterproductive that was to my expansion! I was always wondering why no matter what i did or how good i was why the contrast was always there! I thought for sure i was doing something wrong and how i must be failing at life somehow so i tried harder to figure it out and wondered why i am always drained from it. I really needed this video today. So much has been going on in my life and I couldn’t understand what i was doing wrong. You’re right teal, that a lot of the spiritual community has it wrong. The way they think is no different from religious beliefs with the whole you must be doing something wrong to have contrast. And that to get to heaven you have to do all of these things correctly. So many of us are here to learn so that’s impossible to do. Thank you again! I will be listening to this every so often to remind myself that contrast Will always be on this plane, no matter what we do, and it’s needed to expand,because without it expansion stops! 🙏🏻🌹
@annikabirgittanordlander68872 жыл бұрын
"No real positive and effective change can come to a person, from a person who does not relate to them deeply enough to understand their perspective and subsequently needs". Teal Swan (Compassion and how to cultivate compassion) Thank you Teal 🌎
@freshstrt31402 жыл бұрын
Dang... thank you Current situation 🙏🏽 thank you
@anttiaalto812 жыл бұрын
I've taken a back seat to watching my life happen since I was very young, and this is my main contention with myself, to get to a point where I feel my feet going forward, where I no longer restrict the impulse to live and copy behaviors that aren't authentically mine. These patterns lead to resentment. My way out is authentic self-expression, with its positives and negatives. But it takes practice to allow that and stay with myself.
@lovefool16162 жыл бұрын
One of your best videos so far Teal. Please keep sharing your thoughts with us. Thank you!
@npurewal3332 жыл бұрын
What I like the most about teal, and the very thing that keeps me going back to her teachings…. Is her sense of humor 🤣 she cracks me up.
@scottkuno45802 жыл бұрын
If you didn't have positive and negative or contrast you would never know both sides and never learn the experience that you came here to learn thank you Teal !!!
@oneuniversesol17902 жыл бұрын
I really needed to hear this. I just know the universe has conspired you to make this video for people who are going through some similar such as myself! I thank you and I thank the universe for your existence ❣️
@LaZaritasjourney2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Ms. Swan Teal for breaking it down so tastefully. Good to know the normality, nature of life and acceptance. My baby sister always tells me not to turn what I have learned to a religion. Because you see, I left religion 34 years ago when I was 28 years young. And it feels still today, like if it was just the other day. Damn!
@flyeagl2 ай бұрын
It's so liberating to listen to you, Teal. Just so awesome. Balance is key. I love contrast. I loathe to be stagnant. Life is exciting, come what may.
@jaynebarry56582 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you are addressing and explaining this. My gratitude is overflowing.
@anjalimujumdar84802 жыл бұрын
Love you Teal ❤️
@TheNora_2 жыл бұрын
Mindblown!! Will need some months (or a lifetime) to ponder on this…
@TealSwanOfficial2 жыл бұрын
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/biggest-lie/
@Mahogui.2 жыл бұрын
15:29 This is what 6 years ago self-hating me needed to hear. What a time to be alive on the same time as Teal.
@XxDjoSlaxX2 жыл бұрын
So true!
@angelp97792 жыл бұрын
This is the best video you’ve ever made Teal.
@Ozgipsy2 жыл бұрын
Nah, I’m here because of the very powerful advice I’ve seen you give for women. I have a daughter and I’m at sea trying to work out how to advise her in the modern world.
@PkmnMasterHolly2 жыл бұрын
she's spitting straight facts
@stephenallpress31662 жыл бұрын
Everything is energy, energy is a waveform, all waves have peaks and troughs, you cannot ride peaks forever. Inevitably you will hit troughs, can you integrate the lessons from the troughs, especially if they're really tough, thanks for sharing Teal, have a blessed day 💚🙏
Doing self-growth work allows me to be present and accept suffering as a part of life
@lindaanne81882 жыл бұрын
In Buddhism it was originally taught that desire leads to suffering and must be eliminated…later teachings determined desire and suffering are necessary for enlightenment and that enlightenment is that cycle of continued growth you mention.
@flyeagl2 ай бұрын
Live in the moment. There is no other way. That is what makes life so fascinating.
@rolasefri Жыл бұрын
What I love most about your videos is that your messages are what we need to hear, not what we want to hear. It may be challenging at times when something within is triggered, but at the other end it's the best way to a better balanced life, thank you 🙏❤️
@christersmith54707 ай бұрын
This life is realizing what brings you joy and what does not.
@freethinker95242 жыл бұрын
You are beauty and bold lady. Bravo young lady.
@The.Wholistic.Wildflower2 жыл бұрын
I was just teaching this to a couple of guys who are regulars at the bar I work at. I told them to Choose your hard & that there is always contrast in life & pain/hardships but which difficulties are worth the struggle? Choose your hard really struck with him & he’s ending a 9 yr relationship but bc its for the best. It’s beautifully synchronistic that this video came out today. 💕💕💕🙏🏼💝✨🌹
@tapashyarasaily13732 жыл бұрын
The prettiest spiritual teacher out there...❤️
@karinamurison15372 жыл бұрын
This!! I've felt this way for a while. Everytime I go up a level the challenges get increasingly difficult. We need contrast to appreciate. This video feels very good to watch. Thankyou for explaining it so eloquently and passionately 🥰❤️
@jelloonicakearchivechallen39952 жыл бұрын
Suddenly! 🎶 🎵 🤗 Thank you for waking me up today.
@beckhamseven102 жыл бұрын
Amazing! I feel this could be arguably one of the most important videos you've dropped, because sooo many people misunderstand this whole topic and hold themselves and eachother to a standard that can't be reached. Teal is a Genius in today's world.
@kathiareeve46932 жыл бұрын
That was me , so true Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
@Droggarth2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Teal for shedding light on this. I've seen/sensed this error in mainstream spiritual industry for a long while now myself but as usual I'm not as good at putting stuff into words
@dramendiana3732 жыл бұрын
Thank you Teal, love this, it actually feels like a relief to be conscious about contrast that way, instead of resisting it. It's interesting, I already thought that contrast was inherent to life experience but I'm sure some inner aspects of mine kept the expectation of finding somehow a way to ending contrast because I felt that relief, like, "ok, that's not going to happen, now I'll focus on playing this game instead of trying to change the game" it also feels exciting. Is like having permission to fail... In a good way, I know mistakes are part of the learning process but my inner perfectionist kinda holds the burden of thinking mistakes are unforgivable, and even if I consciously know that is not the objective truth, to that aspect, it feels that way and watching this video felt like removing a big weight over their shoulders. 💖🙌🏻✨
@tlafleur8433 Жыл бұрын
Life is wonderful including the necessity of negative occurences. It would be uninteresting without them. We need dynamics. Contrast gives life vibrancy. Stasis is death. The law of contrast is evident in great works of art-it causes a tension and release as in a moving aria, or a stunning painting. Ebb and flow, sadness and joy...
@joshy03692 жыл бұрын
Once again you surprise me with your genuine connection and intuition, your emotional intelligence is uncommonly reasonable and sensitive
@kimberlycunningham70622 жыл бұрын
Thank you for always keeping it real Teal❤️
@vickycooper5502 Жыл бұрын
You will never know how much you have helped me, thank you xx❤
@brunildamarrero20952 жыл бұрын
Finally I get to hear what I always felt so right on point thank you so much Teal for this excellent video♥️⭐️💐
@digitalbrand29302 жыл бұрын
Thank you from Taos, New Mexico!
@steficapuz2 жыл бұрын
This assured me so much. Every time something unwanted or bad happens, I feel like it's my fault somehow. This made me really embrace whatever is happening and bringing change about it then.
@entelechyrealized76062 жыл бұрын
You Are A Fresh Breeze Of Magically Magnificent Breathe Of Air My Friend! Thank You For All You Do!! Be Still! Go With In! Inhale Deeply! Exhale Completely! Your Truth, Joy, Love & Peace You Will Find!!
@ThomasBuchwinkler4872 жыл бұрын
I would be happy if I had an appropriate response to the unwanted, rather than just standing there and watching it happen.
@theresaredmon77232 жыл бұрын
RAIN meditation by Tara Brach has helped me ❤
@ThomasBuchwinkler4872 жыл бұрын
@@theresaredmon7723 Thank you, i try it ! 👍
@margaretyoung64232 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of the videos that Teal was putting out 7 or 8 years ago. This is the first video I have seen, in a long time, where Teal doesn’t rush through her dialogue. She actually looked like she enjoyed making this video. Hope she can keep it up!! Also, love the hair!
@vivg76792 жыл бұрын
People don’t have a clue because they don’t let themselves feel anything. There is a contrast and it’s necessary as in “perpetual motion” towards desires and yet people don’t cherish it like a gift when they get there. If there wasn’t contrast, we wouldn’t know happiness or sadness or anything. We would just exist not knowing what pleases us individually. I can totally relate to this video.
@EveningTV2 жыл бұрын
This is a much needed message. Thank you for making it. 💕
@user-uk6yz1my8h2 жыл бұрын
Without the rain there is no rainbow...I'll take the rainbow thanks. Comes down to how one chooses to respond to a situation.
@cosmicharmony13212 жыл бұрын
A big thank you Teal for bringing clarity to this. This helps in ending the zero-sum-game that we put ourselves into. Really appreciated
@eebraa2 жыл бұрын
What I like about you is how you can manage to keep concepts super clear and balanced. This is a great video ! Thank You 🙏🏻❤
@anik59452 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you so much!! I had been beating myself up lately about some of this ...
@suchi4free2 жыл бұрын
"im get so good at surfing that the waves will stop coming" that is an excellent metaphor i think I'll ruminate on that for a few days
@brentduanefoster2 жыл бұрын
I could not agree more! It’s basically the human ego at work. We don’t LIKE when things aren’t easy. We don’t LIKE when times are hard. We could even take this a little deeper with words. We don’t words like “lose” or “failure” because they have a perceived negative connotation. We are in this human experience to grow and learn, and oftentimes, the lesson comes during or after our perceived negative experiences.
@LoveQuestWithLisaConcepcion2 жыл бұрын
Mark Passio talks about this and goes deeeeep. His channel opened me up and elevated me. Highly recommend his content. It's all about confronting our darkness, shadow work, admitting that we were being programmed by an evil entity whose mission is to enslave humanity. Understanding the occult helps me raise my own consciousness and live in accordance with Natural Law. Teal, you sound like you're very familiar with Natural Law
@sarahdgreatday Жыл бұрын
My heaven would be hell without contrast, boundaries, free will, resistance, and opposition. I take from my religious endoctrination that which continues to ring true. I do the same with your wisdom. I appreciate your wisdom! I admire your courage, willingness, and ability to articulate complex ideas with clarity and grace. Make it a great day, Teal! You help me make mine great for me. Then, ❤I am better able to help encourage others to do the same.
@SammyVideoPlex2 жыл бұрын
Teal I believe just about everything you say I still feel you are the best videos on youtube. I grew up believing in God and heaven watching pastors and churches talk about how rich they are. And I got no where believing in God, in the short time I been manifesting I have went further. I don't believe in heaven or God, what I'm saying is you can live the best life worship a God no one ever seen or will and still die poor and never having. Thank you for each and every upload I hope one day I can see one of your life meetings. Best wishes ❤
@aleksk1610 Жыл бұрын
This video popped up on my feed at the exact right moment, thank you❤ I with more people would talk on this subject.
@romanavecerova95362 жыл бұрын
WOW Teal - IT IS ABSOLUTELY CORE TRUE...Thank you for everythink what you DO alltime...Thank YOU!!!!!!!! 🙂
@owenchang22902 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video, Teal. The dichotomy of the positive and the negative in life is something I've recently embraced as an overall good thing. It seems that in order to ever feel good, there needs to be it's opposite of feeling bad. Otherwise, if everything is only "positive" without contrast, it may not be long before we go numb, and end up feeling nothing at all. Then again, I could be wrong.
@ellenik74072 жыл бұрын
This is so true and really takes the pressure off. I love that the message was to have a better relationship with the contrast. Thank you! ❤
@holocronlibraryfox11872 жыл бұрын
It is always such a joy to watch Teal have such obvious joy in doing her work. ❤
@cloud63182 жыл бұрын
This is very truthful I tried doing that and getting to the happiest state but I’m a human
@eeffiis15542 жыл бұрын
Absolute Gospel As Long as One Is Still Serching Through all this Fancy Concepts/Practices/Teachers Books,Etc Etc You Beloved are Still in A Dream 💭 Because you Serching For Yourself Outwardness Into the Glamorous World of Appearances,Into the ocean 🌊 Of Samsara/Thought/Things Name & Shapes No One Know Yourself Only Yourself
@Danceofenergy2 жыл бұрын
This is the truth-negative &positive are force of creation. Thank you 🙏
@Kormac802 жыл бұрын
I do audio work so I’m very attuned to voice, Teal has a truly beautiful sounding voice. It’s interesting to ponder the unconscious bias we have to accept the message from a voice depending on its aural qualities.
@pinasie48712 жыл бұрын
Are you saying the quality of her voice has a big impact on how her teaching is received and whether or not her message is accepted?
@Kormac802 жыл бұрын
@@pinasie4871 Unconscious bias is a very real thing. Apparently you aren't very familiar with it, otherwise you wouldn't ask that question. Research the topic, it's very worthwhile since the unconscious is where all the important stuff happens.
@pinasie48712 жыл бұрын
@@Kormac80 It sounds fascinating to me and already sounds like something that will resonate with me as I'm aware of how much more our unconscious is receiving and processing compared to our conscious.
@Kormac802 жыл бұрын
@@pinasie4871 Sounds excellent. btw - Pina Bausch shares your name and she's a true genius. I imagine you know of her. Oh and if you want to engage with the unconscious, I'd recommend Ayahuasca. It grants the best access I know of, and i've done pretty extensive traveling in that realm.
@GypsyEyes2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Teal
@pnc2009crmumaw2 жыл бұрын
The contrast exists and you can reach a point where the negative side no longer is upsetting.
@faysmith72482 жыл бұрын
I remember listening to your video about the recovery trap too. That actually changed my perspective. Thanks for the video ❤️
@iankenney66022 жыл бұрын
Your title hooked me, my dear. I have felt the strong skepticism of many old KZbin channels lately, but I did notice an aversion to acknowledging the ugly a while ago. To me it feels like they will be unknowingly trapped in a box for the rest of their happy but shallow lives. I love it when I get this kind of confirmation of the subtle wisdom feelings I play with at the time. Teal, you are always an appreciated, valuable voice. Anytime I creep your channels videos I want to share them with certain loved ones that I am either unable or not supposed to be a teacher or guide for them.
@lacc98412 жыл бұрын
@Teal , thanks so much for your videos. Most likely I must misunderstood your video, because as far as I encountered on my recent path to meditation and on increasing my higher energy, between the groups I have search, none of them preach what you said it is the general expectation. In fact, quite the opposite. Bad / Negative things will always be present, but the way the person reacts, or better not to react and just observed thoughts, emotions in a way that whatever is happening externally, does not dictate how the person feels about him/her self, therefore happiness comes from within. This does not change negatively in any way the goals, aspirations and interaction with society. Thanks again for sharing your views
@prestonwoodard33022 жыл бұрын
Thank you miss Teal , this was wonderful to know. I did hear Esther Hicks discuss this same issue a year ago. She did say there is no endeness to contrast as well. I remember hearing her say, if you aren't happy where you live, move to a cave, but you will still have contrast. You will see a great big bug that you don't like crawling on the wall. In the last 3 years I've had 23 teachers such as you. You were the last one, and found you a year ago. Love your teachings.
@karaoke54792 жыл бұрын
This also applies to some forms of psychotherapy. "When I will fix x, y, z from my past I will be healed and my life will transform as a consequence". Then you see people who just live through their pain, maybe even making huge mistakes, and are not trying that hard to fix their pain, their past, their life, and they end up happy, while you are getting more and more miserable by "working on yourself". I finally see, after a handful of years stuck in this mindset, that there are literally no rewards for "working on yourself". Engaging with life and the unwanted, even chaotically, is way more likely to be conducive to wanted stuff/expansion rather than trying to control anything (including yourself). The "fix yourself first and then your life will begin" attitude is just repackaged avoidance at best and aggressive marketing at worst.
@Blue_225112 жыл бұрын
Well said
@blankearth58402 жыл бұрын
I think this is a bit of a biased perspective. I believe we should never stop working on ourselves and at the same time that work can also be putting ourselves out there to be challenged and tested. But we shouldn’t get into things in which we are not ready for, especially relationships
@Katyayanibetha2 жыл бұрын
Omg, you are so right on the head with this one. Thank you SO much for putting this so clearly. I have been plagued by people who think this way! and they are ALWAYS people that have been born with some kind of material privilege that has shielded them from a lot of the things I have had no choice but to go through. I probably volunteered to take on the health challenges I did before incarnating (my Eastern astrology says this much also) so that I could learn all this massive amount of knowledge firsthand and to be able to help all the people that I help, but some people prefer to look at me as dirty and stupid and inferior because of the intense health challenges I faced - even though they come from a genetic predisposition from some factory poisoning my great-grandmother's water supply with mercury long before I was ever born. It doesn't matter how disciplined I am, how health conscious I am, how knowledgeable I am, or how diligent I am with my health, just for the sake of facing challenges with it, I get looked down upon by these people. They judge me by what's happened to me rather than what I make happen to others. It's so ridiculous. I plan to overcome my challenges and am working on resolving them every day. It's not like I accept them and just resolve to allow them to dominate me. I had to leave a women's group that I loved after I got ill the last time because I was so stigmatized after everyone found out I was ill. They kept trying to get me to see what I must be doing or thinking to have attracted that illness into my life, as if, as you say, we aren't supposed to face any challenges at all whatsoever or there's something wrong with us. They worship their own little bliss bubbles. It's so ridiculous. I'm glad more people are waking up to the ridiculousness of it though. Our challenges shape and form us into who we are and help guide us to our life's purpose. They can help us develop our life's work. We should embrace them, do the best we can for ourselves and each other, and face the challenges together, rather than rejecting anyone who isn't materially privileged enough to just spend whatever money is needed to overcome them immediately. I feel sorry for those who are shielded from their challenges. Those are the people with no character and sometimes not even any sense.
@Katyayanibetha2 жыл бұрын
@Angel Alexi Yep, exactly, but having grown up in one of the most monetarily poor counties in the US, and then lived for many years in the 3rd wealthiest county in the US as an adult, those with more money can definitely maintain their bliss-bubble for long enough periods of time to look down on and scorn anyone experiencing any of the challenges that come with NOT having enough money to deal with health issues at all, or many of the other things that come with having a lack of resources. I've seen it a lot. They can be so far removed from reality, you can literally be dying, and they'll start telling you that you need to change your "story" and think differently. They will put the maintenance of their bliss bubble above their own humanity. Not everyone, of course, but I've seen it far too much.
@easternstar72052 жыл бұрын
Perfectly said. Thanks for sharing. I love your content. I'm all about the realness you bring to the table.
@courtneycross85932 жыл бұрын
Learning that my way to find what really matters to me and gives me joy is through the hard stuff, my children! So triggering for my nervous system but if I slow down find presence it’s so worth it. Also exercise I have health anxiety so I don’t love to exercise but when I push through fear my body loves it. God dam iv been searching all my life and literally it is everytime through discomfort I find joy
@beautemask31492 жыл бұрын
Thank you Teal, I grew up a lot listening to you
@pallmallninjak2 жыл бұрын
I agree. Also many people forget about a aspect of duality which ultimately plays a very large role in all things regardless of our thoughts and beliefs. It is absurd to think or believe anything represents only good or positive or bad and wrong. it’s about a percentage of good and bad that is impossible to know the actual percentage of due to our inconsistent and contradicting thoughts and actions. opposite and counterbalancing aspects are apart of all things and we learn from the good as much as we learn from the bad. we recognize it and still prefer one over the other or deny one completely. Thanks to our ego it’s a tough pill to swallow depending on how strong your belief is in something. I paused the video and gave my opinion right before she gave a definition to contrast strangely enough.
@corithefrugalflower2 жыл бұрын
This analogy is soo profoundly brilliant that it's striking...✨️✨️✨️🙏🙏🙏
@apcxpo2 жыл бұрын
This is the kind of truth we need!
@freespirit-1112 жыл бұрын
There will always be conflict. Night/ day. Self- help made me feel like I was always getting in my own way, self sabotaging. I gave up, because if there’s such a place, I’ll never get there. 😢 There’s no such place anyway.
@justagirljean11112 жыл бұрын
So well said. It’s a matter of learning better skills on dealing with ‘contrast’ not avoiding contrast. 🙏🏼
@mimstar3332 жыл бұрын
I just realized a lot of these things these days which were in this video but I needed an explanation like that because I couldn't explain what I realized. I think many of us who follow a very similar path and collectively finding out things at the same time. This is definitely a benefit of this industry is that someone somewhere catch up on the same energy as you.
I am choosing to go back to my rral self being alone but never lonely! Done with people forever! I was SO HAPPY when I was ALONE. Solitude saved me so many times! Letting people in my life killed all my joy! I do what works for me not for YOU!
@Shasta-sOracle2 жыл бұрын
This is making so much sence! When i was in a unhappy place i thought that i needed a life with no or barely negative emotions/experiences in order to be happy. But as i was self educating myself and doing selfhelp, i apparentely did a few things right cause all of a sudden i realized what i actually needed. I feel really happy noweven tough i still work through painfull emotions. I just experience the pain differently. I allow it, even welcome it. I dont see it as a bad thing anymore. I feel protected and safe from within. And that is what i used to lack.
@stav11112 жыл бұрын
That 'have a good week' giggle says it all 😇👹 Thank you 🤍
@carlinlandis88372 жыл бұрын
That last statement. There's no difference slaving to create an endedness after death or before.