3 ways to resolve a conflict | Dorothy Walker | TED Institute

Anybody can help resolve a conflict, says project manager Dorothy Walker. With three simple steps, she shares how you can use positive energy to solve conflicts between friends, coworkers, strangers, kids and beyond.
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[@iceice8327]

Step one = 3:50 Step two = 5:27 Step three = 7:23

[@apollo1651]

Thhxxxx

[@julianacorral3773]

Ifucking love u

[@aylen9639]

tanhks

[@tiamthembu]

School brought me here, thanks for saving my time.

[@fabiolamm5477]

💟

[@pankajhello]

Folks she is my colleague and we worked together for same assignment last year very closely. She is very positive, dude! She mean every bit of what she is speaking here

[@annsparta2222]

❤❤❤

[@celinapolos2203]

Wow she has such a beautiful calming energy, her message is so powerful, in just 8 minutes! Really gave great value to my day! Beautiful woman and personality

[@teodosiygeorgiev2966]

stop the cap bruh no wonder why her marriage didnt work out....

[@pacha_157]

Resolve is the fuel to discipline. I just wanted to say this video is granting me the power within myself to start working out, making a name for myself, and strive to be a better person. When I have internal conflicts like if I don't want to do something for example, I observe listen and dissolve the emotion while at an appropriate state of mind in order to come to a resolve. Through this resolving method I thank you.

[@spencerleek]

This advise truly helped in a mediation that I just facilitated. Thank you!

[@mikecamacho1934]

Most conflicts come from implied expectations. And not having definitive agreements. Seneca(4BC-65AD) Talks about how unmet expectations, is the cause of anger.

[@iRideuWatch]

So true. Why do people so often assume both or all parties have understood and agreed to the expectations?

[@keimaari]

oh... this is a word.

[@colinellesmere]

I agree. Agreements are so important. I am in a situation where agreements have been broken. I am displaying negative energy. Bht its hard to shift that based on things that have happened. But it would be great to shift it with positive energy. My mind state definitely does not help at all.

[@jp9707]

@@colinellesmere I hope things have gotten better for you since you wrote your comment

[@colinellesmere]

They got better then worse and I was leaving the situation and got pushed before resigning. But my mental states are better now I am out of that situation. The comment by Seneca about understanding expectations and pinning them down is so important. It is where so much conflict comes from.

[@Etmanuel88]

I 100% agree with you. I've created my own process that is similar to yours. The "Energy transference" has helped both myself and whoever I'm speaking with to remain calm and focus on the facts AND a realistic solution. When dealing with a company - always ask for formal documentation of XYZ (this makes them soooo much more agreeable)!

[@karenbenjamin7165]

Delivery was on point. The steps are realistic and actionable. Thank you

[@khaiahmann9192]

This was good. ✨ And asking if all parties want to actually work the issue out, is key for sure.

[@pepesapo3277]

How do i kick all 3 of my roomates butts at once? THEY do not get along ☹

[@shasha6982]

This was great information. Thank you

[@chrisshackelford4385]

That was awesome. I took notes the whole time!!!😂

[@austinthaijam7009]

helpful. thank you Dorothy

[@faithjerielmacauley3356]

Thanks veryfor that good presentation.

[@sights3103]

who else got this as a English class assignment

[@YVNG_SHAQUAN]

I got in for a Life Orientation Project

[@TamTam-bd5qw]

Management class.

[@the25thfan58]

Health class

[@NomsLoots]

@@YVNG_SHAQUANyou South African?

[@YVNG_SHAQUAN]

@@NomsLoots yes I am

[@marshall886]

I don't think how you can talk about conflict without talking about justice. I don't think you can reduce it to energy exchange. Yes, having people in emotional state where they can listen actively to the other party but it is just defines desirable terms to which to hear each other.

[@habbosim100]

I love her outfit and make-up btw

[@josh-sv1hq]

Cool story bro

[@josh-sv1hq]

What if something fake is being forced in front of you and you describe why it's not true and people get mad? I am not sure what else to do...

[@LilacLioness98]

This was great and helpful 👍🏻❤️

[@foxy19681904]

All this is well and good, but when your government puts guns in the hands of the population it is clearly not supporting conflict resolution by negotiation. It is clearly supporting violence as the next step after conflict occurs. The government as the acting parent of the country should be doing all it can to help its population to make good decisions by not giving its population guns and making it clear that violence is never the answer to conflict. Then knowledge like this TED Talk might mean something.

[@sachinks229]

Not everyone lives in America So it's still helpful And honestly I don't think guns is the reason It's just that people who can be easily provoked shouldn't have a gun in the first place Just like any other countries u can get a knife in pretty much everywhere it's deadly too But sure not as convenient but the root cause isn't the gun it's the mentality to not listen and run on the rail directly It happens in everywhere so no need to say that 5jis isn't useful this is highly useful where u can actually stop people

[@foxy19681904]

@@sachinks229 That is what I am saying. The second amendments advice that guns and violence are the solution to a problem leads the population to use that same reasoning for any conflict or problem they have. Basically though "Guns don't kill people. People kill people. So don't give people guns.".

[@nathaliem9597]

Brilliant!

[@lucian1607]

Solid walkthrough. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

[@shawnaT456]

I wanted to do this with my partner but he thought it was stupid and basically the same as just hashing it out in the moment...

[@willmen08]

What happened to the bungee jumping girl? How was that resolved? Wish she would have walked us through one situation instead of 3 different half stories.

[@mohamedismailmohamedazath6944]

Nice points

[@patchesohoulihan2009]

Is KZbin just filtering out all the negative comments?

[@sukumarbarman6905]

সত্য সুন্দর প্রকৃতির শক্তি সৃষ্টির সেরা বীজ মন্ত্র জীবন তৈরির মহামূল্যবান সূত্র চিন্তা চেতনার বিকাশ সাধন।সব সত্য প্রকাশে স্বাধীনতা ইতিহাস সৃষ্টি সত্য প্রকাশে দশন শান্তি আলোচনা মূল্যবান সম্পদ অনুসন্ধানে কর্মকর্তা।

[@ccwalker050]

Nice! Very Nice!!

[@Birdman117]

I agree with 95 percent of this

[@varunbarma2067]

Nice

[@mikecamacho1934]

Step one is actually, do you want to work it out lol

[@k.8521]

Lmao my teacher mad at me now the whole class hates me :')

[@ianlondon2888]

There is no where to go except court when a side has contempt for the other side.

[@mirandarandolph8240]

5:08 ain’t nobody about to do that

[@heikika6078]

♥️

[@JustinBurns-xw7cd]

This was uploaded on april 1st, therefore it must not be true

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Слава Україні! 🇺🇦)

[@vatsaj]

someone: its fine, but what you said is wrong speaker: i think you did not understand what I said someone: no you did not understand other than talking smooth ........conflict starts..............PhD gone to streets

[@theviewschor919]

Aur lalit.. Comment mat pdh

[@br2266]

Speaking of energy, where is hers? lol nice speech though

[@LiljanaWood]

Lol the speech was perfect

[@OGAngie]

Calm and thoughtful energy is still energy.

[@jameelahkelly995]

The energy she means doesn’t actually mean fully charged and bouncing off walls. She just means what she says positive and negative energy.

[@teodosiygeorgiev2966]

Use me as dislike button

[@Birdman117]

U lost me at give some time to allow emotions to settle, such a female comment

[@zapatalasvegas]

such a male response

[@lalaheart76]

@@zapatalasvegas I concur

[@thesandman8669]

@@zapatalasvegas @birdman5684 now that y’all have had some time for emotions to settle, let’s grab a glass of cold water and meditate before we move onto the next step

[@pharmclare]

Great insights. Thank you 😊