Millennial Leadership: Stop Complaining, Start Coaching | Danita Bye | TEDxBismarck

Millennial Leadership: Stop Complaining, Start Coaching | Danita Bye | TEDxBismarck
Danita speaks about how millennials want a coach and a mentor rather than a boss. She asks the questions “What are the coaching and mentoring micro-moves that we can make that will have a major lifetime empire state building impact on our millenials?" and "Will YOU be that domino difference?" Danita Bye, M.A. is a leadership and sales development expert. She is the founder of Sales Growth Specialists and has gained valuable leadership experience as a sales leader for Xerox Corporation and in private equity ownership.
Danita served on the boards of private Christian universities. She currently serves on the North Dakota Economic Development Foundation, as well as the North Dakota Petroleum Council. She is a member of the Forbes Coaches Council and is a sales coach for Harvard Business School MBA students. Her headquarters are in North Dakota, but Danita works digitally and her business operates on a global scale.
Danita grew up on The Triple T Ranch in Stanley, North Dakota. Her parents continue to make a huge imprint on her life. They are entrepreneurs who figured out how to not only survive but thrive in homestead country. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@nickwallace96]

What a great and powerful message!

[@ShocktoRock]

Awesome talk really need of hour

[@drcunda1]

See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness. 🕊️ Eckhart Tolle

[@thunderaga]

Beautifully written. You certainly feel that domino effect at the end.

[@elsafourie8142]

Who is the Millennial in my life that needs my encouragement? Thanks for reminding us to be intentional in seeking the opportunities to mentor and share our experience.

[@danitabye1327]

Great question, Elsa! I confess that I'm often prone to focus elsewhere....people and places that seems more fun. However, if we are thinking about Steven Covey's 4 quadrants, the Millennial initiative fits in the Important and Non-Urgent quadrant. And, that's where leaders live.

[@paulcronin867]

Growing the next level of leaders is essential in Scaling Up a business. It is also the primary reason why companies get stuck and hit the ceiling. Danita Bye's work on Millennial makes perfect sense. It is good for all parties involved, the mentee, the mentor and the company.Danita thank you for your work on this.

[@danitabye1327]

Paul, this is constant drumbeat message I hear everyday from leaders. They KNOW that tapping their expertise is critical - and are asking for practical, rubber-meets-the road help on how to do it. That's one of the key reasons I wrote Millennials Matter.

[@danitabye]

Thank you, Paul. It's so true - to scale our companies, we need to build a strong culture that taps the expertise and wisdom of senior leaders AND taps the fresh creativity of emerging leaders who operating naturally in our technology-based culture.

[@williamharveyscottjr.6040]

This video was so helpful for me. I have superstar teammate that has had trouble getting results from other team members. Coaching has come up as a way to mitigate the disconnect. Your video spoke directly to us. I have shared it with my team. Thank for your passionate committment. We are right next to the Atlanta airport. We would love to meet you sometime.

[@karawayne8745]

This is a great reminder that by pressing "pause" to share our insights and experience, we achieve more than by simply forging ahead, solo. Thanks, Danita.

[@danitabye]

I like your pressing "pause" visual, Kara. In our crazy-busy world, we often forget the tremendous power of connecting - really connecting - with others.

[@danitabye1327]

Thanks, Kara. I like the way that you word this - pressing "pause." We all need to do this, don't we? It's so easy to get wrapped up in ToDo List and we don't "pause" to reflect on what's important and where we should be investing. I appreciate your joining the movement and keeping this conversation alive!

[@Linda-pg3pp]

What a passionate presentation! I hope many Business Leaders watch this video, AND implement the coaching suggestions for Millennials in the Workplace.

[@danitabye1327]

Thanks, Linda, for all your work in helping this message come alive :-)

[@lhuinker]

I LOVE this talk! And I am so proud to be a fellow Minnesotan! Thank you!

[@danitabye1327]

I'm so humbled! An amazing Millennial (I checked out your Linkedin profile :-) LOVES my Tedx Talk - yay! The world is in desperate need of leaders like yourself, Lita. Keep being "light" in your world...and our world. Keep passing the Good News along!

[@stephenwardleworth2555]

I found Danita Bye’ talk on Millennials Matter an inspiring thought, I truly believe that many baby boomers need to take heed, and start walking along side the next generation of leadership, otherwise the private owners legacy could well be lost, and the corporate leader loosing their shareholder wealth. This is a case of win win for both today’s and tomorrow’s leaders. Thank Danita for forfronting this topic

[@danitabye1327]

Great point, Steve. We need to start "walking alongside." We didn't get to be the leaders that we are with a snap of the fingers. Neither will they. However, we can do our part to help them on the journey. Or, we will have no one to transition our businesses to. Thanks!

[@danitabye]

It seems like I have this discussion every day with business owners. It is indeed a win-win negotiation!

[@appliedsystems2497]

Excellent and Extra ordinary contribution

[@danitabye1327]

Thanks for your two-thumbs up! 63% of Millennials salespeople report being dis-engaged at work. And, 71% of Sales Leaders report being frustrated. So, it is indeed a timely topic.

[@connectmuraly]

An outstanding talk on a need of the hour issue. Well done Ms Danita.

[@danitabye1327]

Thank you so much! It is a need-of-the-hour issue! I'm preparing for two webinars. The first is "Managing Millennials & Surviving Boomer Bosses" that's dealing with the Generational Gap in the Workplace. The second is a Sales Growth Webinar Series. The question is: "Frustrated Managing Millennial and Next-Gen Salespeople?" We're covering the 3 most common places managers cry help - Motivating, Coaching and Raising the Bar (Accountability)

[@Jasin1939]

This is the focus difference- and yes, it was a focus I learned in 1980 from my mentor. She said, as she looked at me- "You will make aa Difference, you hold such promise!" For over 35 years my speaking messages were that message. I was not a millennial but I knew how to stop. look, listen and smile at those I ran into, spoke to, found in business, saw in schools and yes, Danita- your message is NEEDED AND MUST BE DELIVERED.

[@sulekhachandra7066]

Thank you so much🙏

[@Override.Health]

Have you considered being a coach?

[@angiehowell9751]

Great message here, one to put into play in our daily lives both in the workplace and outside of it in an effort to bridge generational differences. I love the domino energy effect and feel this analogy is so valid when it comes to coaching and mentoring our millennial workers (and vice versa). Millennials absolutely matter and I look forward to implementing the reminders and suggestions you so eloquently brought forth!

[@danitabye]

You're on track with the "vice versa," Angie. There's much they can learn from us....and vice versa.

[@danitabye]

Thanks for your encouragement, Angie. My "professional experts" have invited me NOT to use the domino idea - it's over-used and not distinct enough. However, I believe it's a great illustration - and reminder - of the tremendous impact we have on those around us.

[@danitabye1327]

Thanks, Angie, for your words of encouragement. I also spent some time this past week talking with the youth group about suicide prevention and depression. That's when I learned from Cheyenne that 90% of our serotonin is produced in our gut flora! So, the learning goes both ways. Both you and her are doing good work! And, I appreciate your sharing this message and passing along!

[@scorpiusjones5436]

Well said, interesting and engaging. I'm going to keep the theme and info from this in mind, thank you. 👏🏻

[@danitabye1327]

I'm so encouraged, Scopius. Keep believing in those around you!

[@jacobjacob6154]

Outstanding insight. Thank you ma'am.

[@timdillow4889]

Fantastic talk, Danita. And when you really get down to brass tacks (to borrow a phrase from "our" generation), didn't we all want what Millennials want? They are just doing such a better job of expressing it...of course, it helps when someone (like you!) interprets it :)

[@danitabye]

So true, Tim. In fact, I'm just preparing a Millennials Minute on this truth.

[@danitabye1327]

So true! On a radio interview this afternoon, we talked about the work-life balance. We all want it, don't we? We all want to be a good dad, a good husband, to have great friends to hang with and enjoy life with. It's interesting to think (for many of us) that our seasons of life are measured by key relationships.

[@drlepora1]

Awesome. I like the message...

[@westinbye]

So important to not let all you have learned retire when you do. People want to learn, teach them. Share this video and important idea.

[@danitabye1327]

I hear this from every industry I'm involved with - they are so concerned about the loss of expertise and knowledge. Yet, my experience is that people WANT to learn. So, mentors - let's rise to the challenge.

[@Patrice_Lynn]

Powerful message! Thank you for your inspiration to me as an also aging baby boomer who is a phenomenal coach!! The world needs our love and wisdom!!

[@pauldgreat2009]

very informative!

[@Override.Health]

What did you think?

[@SalesProInsider]

Micro-moments to build...works for millennials and everyone else too!

[@danitabye1327]

It does work for everyone, doesn't it, Nancy? We will need a word of encouragement. It seems like we can get hit with negativity from every direction. We can to the words of encouragement to help strengthen our resolve to move forward in the midst of obstacles!

[@danitabye]

Right on, Nancy. It works for all of us - and we often forget to do it. We get too focused on our ToDo Lists, sometimes.

[@NoName-oy2km]

When they put in the work to deliver value, they can take value., until then not many people apart from their parents will be investing in these people. Please tell me, why invest more value than they are willing to deliver?

[@NoName-oy2km]

A millenial convinced his mother to do a ted talk to tell the world to invest more in millenials just because (they matter). We all matter, although not all are acting so deserving of others time, care and attention.

[@nataliaonaire]

Hi. Millennial looking for a coach here.

[@anavaderduo7548]

Just your friendly reminder that Gen X still exists.

[@NoName-oy2km]

Manipulate your mum to advocate your entitlement and you too could potentially have a Ted talk.

[@tedstahl7188]

This is some shallow analysis. Empty ideas. No one has a problem motivating younger people to do what they are passionate about. The problem is getting them to do work that needs to be done but they are not passionate about. They burn out easily. How do you get them to endure periods of hard work without immediate gratification.

[@caramelcocoa234]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@zaraa9990]

Doesn’t it apply to everyone? Not just millennials. I see no difference. Every human being needs to be respected and listened to. Everyone needs to know their talents to shine in life!

[@yadielreyes536]

ducktales

[@jobloggs7400]

Yawn