You Don't Find Happiness, You Create It | Katarina Blom | TEDxGöteborg

[@onceuponatime.podcast]

TED Talks is a great place for people learning English , for listening skill. Thanks

[@huongoan2840]

bạn còn biết kênh nào hay không ạ

[@hsabbir71]

Exactly, its a such kind of platform that anyone can easily learn English language.

[@oumardiouf5340]

Hà Hoàng you read m'y mind

[@mohdshahnawaz9144]

I listen only for this

[@jjnw4910]

Plus u will get a lesson about life and other things.

[@54tutu8]

2:20 it's not just about positive thinking 4:20 we have a better chance at controlling our actions 6:44 diary study: negative effect of a setback was more than twice as strong as the positive effect of a success 8:00 negativity bias 9:20 happiness is a skill that we all can work on 10:58 exercise: [send] appreciative gratitude text to someone that you care for 12:24 harvard study: happiness doesn't come from wealth, fame or working hard [but] relationships

[@mercury4104]

THANK YOU I HAVE TO WATCH THIS FOR SCHOOL AND ANSWER QUESTIONS YOU ARE AMAZING

[@jba4946]

Thank you for the summary 🙏🏿

[@halimairfan9959]

Yeah, Thanks a lot! This can come in handy for my project.

[@Aritul]

Thank you so much.

[@omarcosve]

thanks buddy

[@royahashimi6272]

who has come here to boost their English like me?

[@lovelycreator616]

Me

[@FirdevsErsin]

I am trying:)) Did you boost your English?

[@royahashimi6272]

@@FirdevsErsin of course It takes time with constancy commitment hardworking

[@sayfulislam3135]

mee

[@FirdevsErsin]

How long does it take?

[@bluesssss4843]

To anyone who searched this video up hoping to be happier with the life you're currently living I wish you the best days of your life after watching this. Smile and be rest assured that the happiness that you've been looking for has always been within you and it will take time to master the habit of truly being satisfied with where you are in life. You watching this video already proves you're willing to try to be better and that alone deserves an applause. I'm proud of you❤

[@marksheraton5953]

It is the people in these Ted Talks videos that have got me through the past 5 years. I do not have anyone in my life to sit and share who i am with, but i know if i was to talk to these people they would understand. That is good enough for me . xx

[@jania-childofgod]

I’m sending you lots of love and light ✨❤️

[@simplyme166]

Be my friend if you want,I'll be around

[@samramajeed5315]

Sending you love and prayers ❤️❤️🙏

[@samramajeed5315]

@@simplyme166 Hey 👋😊

[@marksheraton5953]

@@samramajeed5315 X

[@PiyushKumar-lg9is]

Had me in tears towards the end. For whoever needs to hear this, just hang in there, this too shall pass

[@aluisious]

Everything will pass. You'll be dead at the end. Don't take it too seriously and watch your own life like a movie.

[@alegna444]

"your brain is concerned that you survive throughout this day, it's less concerned that you're a happy survivor".

[@boogieman907s5]

This stuck out to me the most.

[@jania-childofgod]

Wow

[@Kusum234Chhetri]

Anybody watching in 2024 ??

[@anvarkaraevich]

Yeees

[@ourislam8300]

yes

[@tracingwithHasan]

Yes

[@evertonoliveira3999]

Yes

[@saihtetaung1995]

Of course

[@miltonjunior5173]

Two things: first, happiness is inner, is not a destination, but how you walk along the way. Second , replacing bad habits with good ones takes time and discipline and focus on only one at a time. And don’t forget to celebrate all the tiny achievements.

[@marcingruszka4414]

Happiness is inner but there are always people around you who have a huge impact on your life and sometimes they destroy your good feelings.

[@bentorodrigues4397]

@@marcingruszka4414 when u let them then they affect you. otherwise it's not possible cus they don't have how to access inside of u, ur soul just u and God knows.

[@TheMcRicker]

@@bentorodrigues4397 how can you not.let them if they are your mother and father which you have learned the bad behaviors from birth

[@bentorodrigues4397]

@@TheMcRicker even if they're our parents we can go through this storm and leave on the other side completely recovered. I dunno exactly how it would be like cos my patents were nice with me long my life. However, if they didn't,i would have probably leave my home earlier and lived on my own cos in that case death would be kindness!

[@meridaphoenix4036]

you seem enlightened!!

[@irisreteach5915]

Thanks to her I know I'm happy though I'm single, unemployed for almost one year. Because I have family, friends always ready to back me up. Thank you so much.

[@josepablobolanos]

I'm a Psychologist, too. And, of all the talks on happiness I've listened to, this is probably the best one yet. At least for my high school students.

[@patrickjayerum2259]

You are psychologist. What if the mention happiness i don't find it? i just want to eat and sleep.

[@zeynep2614]

@@patrickjayerum2259me too 🥺

[@OneAdam12Adam]

@@patrickjayerum2259 What? That makes no sense what you wrote. Please explain.

[@卢军宏台长心灵法-u3d]

When we succeed, we must not forget our past. When we fail, we must remember there is still tomorrow. When the path leads to nowhere, we can always take another path. We can make a diversion.

[@nenginggrifitriya5154]

Wow amazing speech!👏🏻 I think this video is so suitable for young people in their 20s, including myself, who are in the early stages of quarter life crisis. In this phase we begin to question what goals and achievements we should get in our life. One of them is happiness. We wonder "where can I find happiness?", "how to find happiness?". It's all about "finding happiness". Whereas happiness is a skill that we all can work on. I’ve heard many people say that "happiness is created from ourselves, not be sought", I never believed that sentence until I finally did it myself. We should control our action not just about our positive thinking to create happiness, because if we only worrying our thought about how to be happy, it won't change anything. Let’s start an action to creating happiness by ourselves for a better life.

[@jawharagaas7434]

Wow 😳 amazing 😉 talked about happiness ❤❤

[@MominulIslam-vd2yy]

I will feel happiness only when you will perceive the meaning og life for what you have been created and what you should do and then..... Follow the order of tje creator.

[@caroltian9957]

It’s better to control our action, rather than our thoughts. The quality of relationship matters more. Really amazing speech! To create happiness from now on. Let’s begin!

[@jania-childofgod]

I love this comment!

[@jawharagaas7434]

Happiness to be own life ❤❤❤❤❤ happiness to same your mom happiness Allah to be❤❤happiness ❤❤

[@fabiograppasonno1495]

Controlling our action rather than our thoughts is better, and it also is easier! So it suits us. Let's begin to create happiness from ourselves and we will all live better.

[@JonathanAkiraFreudman]

@@jawharagaas7434 I left islam. Im alt happier now

[@victoriapalmer5146]

I try to nurture my friendships. I try to let my friends know how grateful I am for them. But the sad thing about recent years it's not a given take I never hear anything nice in return nobody is putting the effort in anymore to building and keeping friendships. I believe that is a big key to happiness is friendships.

[@c.ntripathi3947]

Which country belong to you

[@Roselove1991]

Weil said. I feel the Same. People are so Cold. They don't appreciate your friendship.

[@daiishi_kinyoubi]

well you should tell them straight foward how you feel that's what real friendships are about, being able to be vulnerable in front each other

[@nvmffs]

You must be my soulmate. I have the same problem. I hold friendship in highest regard but no one else seems to feel the same. I'm prepared to give my life for my friends but when I lost my father I didn't receive as much support from my friends as I had hoped. Everyone seems to be preoccupied with themselves and their monotonous life.

[@MichaelMuryn]

I'm personally valuing friendship a lot. However, chance are I won't always say/demonstrate-it "actively" (I say a lot of positive things thought when I think about it, but I can also be isolated for long, not talking to some people I value because I just have nothing to say, etc. and they might "feel X" without knowing or forgetting how much I care about them... some others have no issues with that and we can not talk for 1+ year and next time we talk it is like 10 years ago when we were talking daily, same acquired respect... but I can also just not say all I think or feel awkward or whatever... and that won't mean I don't care even if someone might feel like it). I am not saying everyone care, far from this, some don't give a F... But we should not assume something we don't know that easily. We, humans, are very good to create negative scenarios in our head. Don't conclude on them too easily. It is OK to wonder, but if you can have multiple hypothesis, don't conclude on them, like, you can think people don't care or they care AND just don't say it. Who know? That being said, don't stop to being a good person! There are a lot of good people that care out there too. :)

[@titaaracelya9588]

The way the speaker gave the talk so clearly allowed me to understand it well. This video helped me realize that in order to achieve happiness, it is also necessary to act not only with positive thoughts. I also still have trouble controlling my thoughts and emotions which makes me sometimes uncontrollable and makes my mood messy. The speaker also informed about the idea of a "psychological gym" introduced to train happiness skills. This video highlights the importance of building good habits, especially in relationships, for lasting happiness. I am very grateful to the speaker for sharing information that can be useful for all of us to create our own happiness. Thank you

[@naiematussakinah5975]

I learn to improve my English while watching ted talk. And. After one year, im able to speak fluently in english,i guess if i retake my muet exam, i could possibly get band 4. That's what i called systematic 😎

[@DuyenLe-dd4xk]

MandakSabahanVlog how did you do that? I really love learning English from Tedtalk videos.

[@yousefallam3531]

Naiematus Sakinah how is you in the English now

[@ilhamalwi9575]

Idola. If it doesn't bother you, mind sharing your tips along the way. Coz I'm trying to do this method for months and felt like overwhelmed.

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[@nimishapal6402]

she brings a lot of positivity in her talk and how beautifully and calmly connected as evident in the second time exercise of clapping..it makes us realise how even in such short interval we could connect and make people believe in you...

[@ayatisaa728]

for just talking about happiness, that makes me smile throughout watching video, along our psychological study, we've learned that positive thinking is the main source of happiness and achievement, but indeed positive actions more logical and practical to gain happiness, due to more easy to control our behaviors than our thoughts. katarina you're the best psychology talker I've ever heard

[@butterfly-b9t]

Couldn’t agree more with this video! Happiness isn’t something that just happens; it’s built through small, intentional steps. Sometimes, talking to someone who gets it can make all the difference. If offline doesn’t work for you, look online, there are platforms like Unikon and others that make it easier to connect.

[@DaniyaalKhan-i3p]

YES I AGREE!

[@yannieleung9924]

Happiness is a skill that we all can train and work on. I was afraid of uncertainty even I knew that the situation would not be improved nevertheless I kept on worrying. After watching this powerful speech, I learnt that happiness can be created because it comes within. It is true that positive thinking bring us a better life. Therefore, all of us should cultivate happiness by befriending our brain.

[@JGDcarol]

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[@rudeegruenberg9184]

it doesnt work

[@aqibzafar4275]

One of the way how get happiness is talk like this lady, speaking peacefully. It creates softness in listening too.

[@Erickaosoad]

She is amazing! She speaks so peacefully and helpful! I would love spend a lot of time talking to her! Great TedTalks!

[@katelynneverett1658]

Upset that she didn’t mention meditation, a lot of people are uncomfortable with sitting with themselves but I promise when you get over the uncomfortable feelings meditation is the biggest thing to do to learn to live in the moment. ❤️

[@dr.sambudd3759]

Meditation is only beneficial to refresh & to escape from reality. If you really want an ever lasting peace, you should live every moment mindful of surrounding and of your interactions with the world.

[@katelynneverett1658]

@@dr.sambudd3759 I respect your opinion and thanks for the comment, but I really believe meditation teaches us to be more mindful! Merry Christmas :)

[@chrisparker9094]

Hello

[@philbraddick2753]

Thank you Only in the stillness of the mind do we come to realize True Happiness. Happiness is the center of All.Happiness is feeling without difference, feeling before the search for Happiness

[@bhaskarmysore5296]

After 63 years running and achiving many things inlife When i look back we were so happy when we were 8 children stay together with parents withoot any luxries of life

[@ninavino2344]

Everyday, i watch Ted talk for improve my english, especially listening skill, and increase my vocab. Great talk

[@katefindley19]

Great idea! I am going to start doing this.

[@Elinsinba]

I think there are different levels of happiness and the highest level is to make peace with your mind and the rest of the world.

[@rechelmaningding2943]

I do agree with you..

[@shellyt556]

I like that

[@ashwinjain100]

Wow...She places her words so beautifully...

[@bnipmnaa]

Yep, Scandinavian diction with British English pronunciation is a great combination :-)

[@tiannebo]

I know right? I find her accent quite beautiful actually.

[@deepthak25]

"you can turn this talk into action" by being more understanding and caring not just towards others, but also towards yourself ,i think that others will follow your example. 👏👏

[@robertbelosic1874]

Yes you must your love yourself first

[@tarunsohail4940]

ted talk is one the organisation’s which are really helping the people and are making genuine efforts to make world a better place

[@sarwatsheikh8278]

You are teaching codependency! I did this since so many years and yet I come here to find TRUE happiness.

[@wallacehowery6414]

I think for the most part people are social animals and are happier when they have some healthy relationships and frequent social interactions.

[@beautyandgrace6288]

I don't think it's codependency. She pointed out that it's the quality of relationships, not just having them. I don't have the best friends and this Tedtalk made me realize I need to get rid of the people who don't care for me.

[@architectMd]

Katarina Blom is a stunning psychologist for sure with wonderful study and teaching on the most need of all humankind; happiness! Listen, Love and Live with happiness! God Almighty Bless her and all seeking inspiration and Practicng to be flourishing all around our active zones, places, people with happiness and gifting it to generations that follow. Sorry!

[@user-sl8yn2xi1r]

This is really good i often feel so sick sick to my stomach from past mistakes please pray for me ❤️🙏if u r reading this to forgive myself and have success

[@tiannebo]

You’ll be fine dear. You’re definitely not alone.

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[@heathernissaragonese9787]

I am praying for you. Also know that every moment is an opportunity for a new beginning. I took on being the kindest most compassionate person I am able to be about 8 years ago. I am far from perfect though I have so much forgiveness for myself and others now. I believe that every thought, action and feeling we have has a huge impact on ourselves and the world we live in. Taking this into account I strive to create a world worth living into. Obviously this may be a bit extreme for some people. Still just loving yourself enough to forgive yourself is so valuable to who you are being to yourself and others. It is powerful and you deserve forgiveness, we all do. Forgiveness will permeate into your words and actions. You will more than make up for any regret you are currently suffering. Please consider you are a valuable contribution to this planet and move forward with certainty 💗

[@janedoe8566]

Me too

[@afshinseraj2000]

We would have done better, if we knew better. And what we knew, was inherited to us, educated to us, given to us, by our parents, society, and our DNA. So these are the things to blame, if any, not ourselves.

[@elainewong499]

When school was open our form class would listen to one of these every Wednesday and I never realized that me surrounded by all those people would bring me happiness and now I realise how much I really miss and appreciate their smiles, laughs and personalities just been feeling a bit down lately 😔

[@dungdoan1910]

Key to have a happiness life -Investing sharing, caring to your close relationship nearby you -Eating healthy food And keep positive thinking

[@Happipath]

This talk was incredibly insightful and inspiring. Katarina Blom's personal story of overcoming adversity and her practical advice on cultivating happiness resonated deeply with me. I particularly appreciated the emphasis on the power of positive action over positive thinking. It's a powerful reminder that true happiness comes from intentional choices and consistent effort. I'm motivated to implement the strategies she shared, such as practicing gratitude and investing in relationships. Thank you for sharing this valuable message!

[@j.e4735]

"Brain is not always on your side" Can relate to that for sure

[@futurettechniques8186]

I think one of the important aspect of happiness is to understand the purpose of us being here in this life.

[@medlementa7575]

and what's the purpose

[@corebelle]

But Nobody knows the purpose

[@daniel-stopsurvivingstartl589]

Other times, I face an unbearable situation. I begin thinking ‘It won't work anyway.’ ‘They will all hate me.’ ‘I will only be humiliated.’ Then I think about the situations I have been avoiding. Meeting with people that make me feel uncomfortable. Work that stresses me out. Things I have been procrastinating for a while. Try to identify the actions that you have been resisting.

[@carolyndelvalle9387]

One thing that keeps me from being negative is removing but from my vocabulary and replacing it with And or although. It has kept me in a more positive state of mind.

[@JohnSmith-ky4hx]

I totally agree with her standpoint. Happiness is all around you, you just need to adopt the right vision to see it. I also recommend Eisner Fjord's book "Simple ways to find happiness", he has similar approach there.

[@vitthaljadhav1628]

Happiness is a state of mind...."being positive and satisfied with life without having any ego with whatever you have" makes you happy from inner heart.

[@TherapyToThePoint]

So true!

[@최인선-f9i]

You let me know my brain has it's own life. I've never thought like that. Thank you. From now l will make movements.

[@심심해-r2o]

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[@JGDcarol]

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[@skatergrl13]

Read the Power of Now by Ekkhert Tolle. It goes deep into this. WE are not our brains. Your brain often works against you. It's fascinating stuff really

[@bluesssss4843]

1. Take positive action as its difficult to most times have positive thoughts 2. Happiness is created. U are responsible for your own happiness. 3. Celebrate your wins. Try not to focus so much on the negative that happens each day 4. Create good relationships with your loved ones. They help to make you a happier person. Start by texting someone you care about each day until it becomes a habit

[@Williamb612]

sometimes you create it, sometimes it creates you, sometimes you find it, sometimes it finds you, and sometimes it is not about happiness at all but rather Joy which is comprised of happy and sad moments over time which leads to higher sense of being and giving

[@lifeawakeningwithdr.l.n.mishra]

Marvellous. Happiness is subjective. Mind is complex and we are not designed to be happy all the time. Life needs expansion so need to be happy

[@sobialaghari225]

Happiness is indeed a choice. You can see the blessings God has given. The beauty of every single thing, of the nature, of your relationships, the sounds of the water. You just have to have the willingness to pursue these little things to see them as blessing. You have to be open to see the magic of life. The goodness, the power of the goodness. Appreciate whatever created this all, whatever caused you. Whatever power it was, that caused you to be here. Caused you to be alive,along with so many blessings. Thank that power, appreciate it. We didn't ask for anything, we got everything as a gift. So everything is a gift, WE are a gift.

[@rachanaadusumilli686]

One of the best TED talks ever

[@efkarozluk]

İn türkish: " Gelmiş geçmiş en iyi TED konuşması" Thanks

[@spiritualfellowship3964]

Creating Happiness @ Spiritual Fellowship - !Thank You TedX Talks! - Everyone Be Well.

[@Allaboutteaching]

Wow happiness is a skill. That means I can learn too

[@dr.sambudd3759]

As long as you try, happiness runs away from you. Only honest acceptance is the beginning to happiness.

[@Mushroom321-]

😮🎉🎉

[@иванпиётп]

Wow... out of the blue I text friends to tell them how much I love them and what they mean to me. I am constantly building bonds between me and some 10-15 friends. I have always had an amazing circle of friends who I appreciate and care for. I have always thought of myself as someone who is always upbeat and happy and people often tell me that. But I still appreciated this talk.

[@mustafizurrahman2765]

Whenever, I feel exhausted I come here for listening these types of speech to grow up my spirit and inner strength. Really, it makes me happy and refresh my mind Love so much❤️❤️❤️

[@vladlenaaaa]

Such truly words about our thoughts. This is always hard to control them, and we can’t just get over our negative and obsessive thoughts, but we can overcome our desire to do nothing. We are all human and our main goal is to create meaningful connections between each other, to create trusting relationships, sharing our love, emotions and feelings with each other, because happiness doesn’t exist if it isn’t shared. I wish everyone to find the right person with whom you will truly happy and with whom this amazing feeling will be shared

[@tusharkashyap8688]

I love her voice and her way of speaking... So inspirational 💖

[@najouazaza6388]

Happiness is a skill that a person should work on . That' s true. .quality of relationships,having peace with yourself, turning knowledge into actions, modesty and satisfaction, doing things that please you , music .phsical training, avoiding all what cause negative energy . So amazing and peacful speech . Thank you so much .

[@noulafrantz8589]

Happiness is when you understand who you are and your mission for this planet and be thankful for what you have

[@shanmugasundaramdurairaj1232]

Thank you so much Katarina..... I'll cultivate happiness and spread around....I think your speech will change my life because I'm a Moody person who often expect happiness outside instead cultivating it..... Thank you so much once again....

[@fratishaday6753]

The best Ted talk I’ve ever watched.

[@mesmes25]

Yeah, me too

[@buntybenipal1789]

Fratisha Day x

[@noura-alnawwarah]

I believe that happiness needs reasons, & its temporary. What lasts is our satisfaction. & all it needs is fully appreciating what's good in our lives while accepting the unchangable things we don't like. 🌺

[@Angira77]

Pleasure is temporary but happiness is parmanent.

[@lamismustafa6076]

This video shows that having happiness mentally can really help with controlling your actions and adding to them so you can feel happy inside and out. It’ll make you realize that we stress over somethings that don’t need to be stressed over but we aren’t conscious enough to notice

[@phuongvyly979]

Well my opinion is happiness come from both of that. First of all, we have to seek happiness, pursuit happiness to know what make us happy and satisfied. Which way? Test, expriences, operate,... After all, we literally know what is our happiness so that we possibly create it.

[@СайераХошимова]

Самый лучший ted talk ,для меня и для всех 😊

[@Unctions]

Happiness comes from within yourself, not from anybody or anything. So work on you and love yourself 💛

[@UyenTraan]

Every morning we were born again. learning how to improve our personal lives, our skills. so Happiness comes from inner, positive thoughts is the main key

[@omri794]

One of the best speeches in Ted Talk! May we all have a healthy new year and love for each other!

[@hoshyarabdulsamad2360]

Thank you for your great lecture.Iam from Kurdistan which lies in the north of Iraq Iam self study and study English at home. I feel like to listen to all of your lectures.

[@Traderstownn]

9:44 her expression just amazing. Thanks for these ted. I try to make my self more pricious as i can. Thanx to katarina for such wonderfull thoughts 👍

[@gocuabalan2861]

She s got a really warm touching voice and her speech is like from the bottom of her heart for better lives to happen and thereby a better world. My sincere thanks.

[@krishnakanukollu7695]

" how to be happy all life " made simple. Thank you Ma'am.

[@piapinkat6723]

We are not just the physical, it is important to act happy physically, but to also reprogram our minds to think a lot of positive thoughts. Although this physical is important. Good take on this!

[@ucnongvan8427]

i have learnt english for a year and my happiness comes when t understand what the people say

[@nguyenthibinh7467]

Mee too, you are same me, happiness comes when I can understand what they say without sub. I wanna improve my E and iam finding a friend to learn with me, so do you want to practice E with me? Iam a Vietnam girl, tq

[@ucnongvan8427]

@@nguyenthibinh7467 it such a nice opportunity to talk with you .I'm a second year undergraduate and i'm struggling to get a 800 toeic score .my level now is about 600 .i'm on my go but it's boring . would you like to care ?

[@nguyenthibinh7467]

Of course. I am so grateful. Nice to know you!!

[@nguyenthibinh7467]

How can I contact with you?

[@sixth4038]

And your love story begins

[@jastineericho1833]

I was once a psych student, but now I have been thinking if I gonna pursue this course. Btw, this video was very amazing and powerful, her thoughts as a Psychology has been give a huge real impact towards of the individual person. It's true that our "action" comes from the emotion first, because we can't do something we want if we didn't think it first and for us to do this we should apply the positive thoughts in our mind to give the positive outcomes towards in our action. Okay? Oki!!

[@digitalconsultant6347]

I really got goosebumps by watching this woman speaking peacefully.. I am gonna create my happiness from now on to stay calm and collective on each good and bad moments..

[@aksharaaadhira7976]

I love her speech. I learn to English here but she teach what is happiness beyond English

[@ahmedwaleed6054]

I can easily describe this video as live changing. Taking happiness from a mental prospective and acquiring it in action. This amazing. I am so glad and happy that i watch this video.

[@positivevibes4p]

2:22 nice

[@privategirl4716]

True total happiness always comes from our loving, giving, caring, and positively uplifting hearts. Seriously, oh yeah. No lie.

[@gabriellehanna4201]

It also doesn't mean how many friends you have or how many commitment with your partner, but it is about the quality of your relationship

[@sultanabegum927]

The speech was outstanding. I impressed she's all talked.I am over the moon.

[@yoolifeofficial]

TRANSCRIPT: Hello, everyone. I would like us to begin with a short exercise. So can everybody place their hands like this? Reach out your hands. Thank you and I will count to three. And when I say three, I want you to clap your hands, OK? 1…2…3… So, I did this to show you that we don’t always do, as other people tell us to do. We rather do as other people do. And this is important when it comes to creating wellbeing in ourselves and in others. I’m a psychologist, and I train organizations, teams and individuals in creating happiness and well-being. And a couple of years back, I co-authored a book on the Science of Happiness. But when the book was published, I was actually in the middle of a life-crisis. I’d just broken up with the person who I thought I’d spend my life with. I had no place to live, and no job. And I think this is a very common human experience. We all face problems. We end up in crisis, sometimes, and we struggle. But at the same time, I think most of us we long for that other the kind of life that entails meaning and connection and happiness. But it’s kind of difficult to live this life to always be there in this happy place. And today, I want to show you why your brain is not always on your side when it comes to creating happiness. But also, what we can do to counter this. And it’s not going to be by just positive thinking. This takes positive action. Because happiness is a skill. We all can train and work on. I want us to start here: how it’s not just about positive thinking? So let’s begin with this. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’re really worried about something and you kept worrying even though you knew that worrying won’t change the situation or help the situation anyway? And nevertheless, you just kept on worrying. Hands up. Right? We’re all doing this. And if we could have total mind power, and just switched over toward these happy thoughts, we’d just have done that and get on with our lives. But that doesn’t really happen. That’s it And did you know that, about half of the time that you’ve been listening to this speech, your mind has probably been wandering off thinking about other things? According to a study by Daniel Gilbert and Matthew Killingsworth: our minds wander 46.9% of the time we spend awake. So our thoughts are automatic, they have a life of their own. And to create happiness by just controlled positive thinking. I think it’s hard, if not even possible, impossible.

[@yoolifeofficial]

And I think it’s time that we start talking more about this: How can we take positive action, actually making the change in our lives? Because if I would ask you to keep your focus on your breath, don’t think about anything else for five minutes, I doubt that anyone in this room would be able to do that. But if I would ask you to please raise your hand like this for five minutes, I think we all would be better able to achieve this. So it’s really difficult to control our thoughts, and we have a better chance of controlling our actions, our behavior. Therefore, wellbeing is better built by positive action and not positive thinking. Also, we tend to look at ourselves as if we’re these objective, rational beings that perceive situations in this objective manner and we process information, almost like a computer. We just take information in. But in reality, we’re far from objective. And that’s actually a good thing. Because if we would truly be able to process and perceive reality in all its nuanced complexity, we would be rather lost, it would be an overwhelming experience. So therefore, our brains have evolved several cognitive biases that helps us categorize and prioritize and sort information, making it more easy for us to navigate. But these cognitive biases, this sorting and prioritizing is really affecting how we perceive life, how we perceive different situations. And I’d like us to explore this further in a little thought experiment. So, I invite you all to think back at the last time that you had evaluated conversation with your boss or manager. And I’m quite sure that you got to hear a lot of good things, things like how you contribute to the workplace. But I’m also quite sure that you got to hear something that you can improve with yourself, with your performance. And once you leave this conversation, what do you think that your brain thinks is the most prioritized information? All the things that you’re really good? Or the one thing that you should be improving? Well, if you’re somewhat like me, it would definitely be the latter. And this doesn’t really have anything to do with how my brain works. This is actually a pattern that’s been shown among people.

[@yoolifeofficial]

For example, Teresa Amabile is a professor at Harvard Business School. She did a diary study where she got to read people’s diaries to explore how they experience everyday life. And she saw a pattern that the negative effect of a setback was more than twice as strong as the positive effect of a success. And the same thing goes with money, that we feel way worse about losing an amount of money than we feel happy about gaining the same amount. And if you would receive a compliment from a co-worker, and then a complaint from another coworker, these two comments don’t neutralize each other. The complaint would definitely leave a stronger emotional mark. So now we need to ask ourselves, why? WHY DO WE CARRY THIS EMOTIONAL ASYMMETRY? Why do we have this preparedness to experience unpleasant and negative emotions? And to understand that we need to understand the context, the environment where our brain has been evolving for so many years. Today, several studies say that we have evolved a negativity bias, which helps our attention to be drawn to unpleasant or possibly threatening information. And this was really good back then and there, when we were at the savannah, fighting for survival every day. But today, here and now, this definitely affects how we perceive our life, how we perceive our relations, our workplace, our own performance, and ourselves. So to simplify this a bit, one could almost say that your brain is concerned that you survive throughout this day. It’s less concerned that you’re a happy survivor. So by now we can understand that it’s not strange that all of us sometimes feel anxious or tense, or we worry. In one sense, we were built for this. But most of us, we long for this other kind of life with the meaning and the connection and the happiness.

[@yoolifeofficial]

And I’m not sure that we can have one thing without the other. But there are definitely things and ways how we can cultivate happiness and build wellbeing. But this comes with good news, and bad. The good news is that happiness is not something you find outside of yourself, and it’s not something you have or don’t have. It’s a skill that we all can work on. But the problem is that we just don’t do it. And this definitely applies for myself. This is the worst part of having written a book on happiness, because whenever I’m having a bad day, there’s always someone who can do like: haven’t you read your own book, Katarina, you should know better. So I’ve learned that not even experts on happiness know how to turn knowledge into action. And this is one of the reasons why me and a friend, we started a psychological gym, where organizations and the teams and individuals could come and train these skills in order to create more happiness and wellbeing. Because we want to make psychological training as common as physical training. Because today, we know so many things about how to eat properly and how to exercise to sustain a physical health. But what would be the psychological version of a green smoothie? Or of doing 50 sit-ups? Is there really such a thing? And I would say, yes, definitely. There are a lot of different exercises and things we can do, building healthy habits for ourselves. And I would like to present an example of this. So once you finished listening to this speech, when you’re leaving this room later tonight, I’d like you to bring out your smartphone and text a kind, appreciative gratitude text to someone that you care for. And maybe you can just notice how that fits. And this is a good example of an exercise that I often do with leaders and teams. And just a couple of weeks back, I did this at the two day leadership conference. And later, I found out that one of the participants had texted his wife, writing: I love you very, very, very much, which made the wife think: What are you doing at that leadership conference? And just texting one person at one time won’t change the world in any way. But turning this into a healthy habit over time can have a large impact. And to dedicate this habit to caring for your relationships might be one of the most powerful actions that you can take when it comes to happiness. So this might be the green smoothie that you’ve all been waiting for.

[@yoolifeofficial]

According to several studies, having functioning relationships is as important if not even more important, as exercising well and having a good diet. And this can even help us live longer. In a study from Harvard University, which began already back in 1938, researchers followed over 700 people to understand what it is that makes us flourished as people. So they followed these participants for decades. And in 2012, the results came. The researchers found that happiness doesn’t come from wealth, doesn’t come from fame or working hard. It comes from relationships. And it’s not about the number of friends that you have, or whether or not you’re in a committed relationship with a partner. They found that it’s the quality of the relationship that counts, being able to be vulnerable, listening and sharing what’s close to your heart. That’s what matters. And by now, we know that forming good healthy habits when it comes to physical training or having a good diet, it takes dedication, it takes commitment. And I think we should approach psychological habits in the same way, and especially when it comes to relationships. So by now, we know that the brain has this tendency to highlight the negative, and that this is really tricky to revoke just by positive thinking. It takes positive action. But some actions are more powerful than others, when it comes to happiness. And investing your time and heart into the relationships around you, no matter if it’s at work or with neighbors or with family or friends, this might be one of the most powerful things that you can do for yourself. And I’d like us to do this one more time. So can everyone reach out their hands? And I’m going to count to three. And when I say three, I want you to clap your hands. Okay. 1…2…3…. Yay. Great. So, we learn by watching others’ behavior. You’ve just seen me do this two times, and already so many people change their behavior. So the more you can turn this talk interaction by being more understanding and caring, not just towards others, but also towards yourself, I think that others will follow your example and do as you do. And the people outside of this building, they won’t know what just happened. They won’t know what changed. But we know that it was here, in this talk, that everything started. Thank you.

[@XGretta-cz7no]

It is a nice video. At first, i wanted to search about the happiness of learning a language, and i found this video. It inspired me that well-being is better built by positive actions than positive thoughts. Because our brain is set in the pattern that we always feel more about the negative things. Although we live in a safe world now, we still intend to worry about survival. The brain evloved from the period of savanah still effect us. And we need to evlove more.

[@smyrnasstory]

“I am your God, the One teaching you to benefit yourself, the One guiding you in the way you should walk.”

[@meera.9404]

Thanks

[@TEDx]

Thank you!

[@crizelleignacio9014]

"Happiness comes from relationships" I agree with that. Thank you for this talk. It helps me a lot.

[@genjishinzuki]

No. If your happiness depends on relationship, you handover the key to your happiness to others.

[@dreamthedream8929]

@@genjishinzuki yes thats the reality and thats how it is. its true that our happiness depends on relationships, health and many other things

[@kattyjacome24]

He is explaining to us how there are people who do not achieve happiness so easily we have to learn to know that we are not the only ones who do not harm being unhappy and we have to realize that we have to value what we are not to give importance to other people

[@saulenriqueguayasamin6614]

You are right we must seek happiness and our well-being since we cannot be sad all the time.

[@architectMd]

Katarina Blom is a stunning psychologist for sure with wonderful study and teaching on the most need of all humankind; happiness! Listen, Love and Live with happiness! God Almighty Bless her and all seeking inspiration and Practicng to be flourishing all around our active zones, places, people with happiness and gifting it to generations that follow.

[@صوت_قلم]

The thing I marveled at the most was the fact that happiness comes from good relationships

[@andrewaupositivepsychology]

Thank you TEDx Talks for organizing this and Katarina for sharing interesting studies on happiness and your recommendation of building quality relationships. Let us not find but create happiness together as a human race in spite of the challenges brought by the current pandemic. BE (VERY) BLESSED!

[@lydiaspicer8157]

I can't believe how I got some much knowledge and insight I got from watching this whole video than reading the bible all my life. Thank you for making this video I finally feel at peace with my self . ⭐👍

[@taremwaelijah6364]

I've found more peace reading the bible

[@simuekam304]

really nice... we just work mentally by applying affirmative words than actions. action of positive works is the best part in this speech

[@namasaya9873]

I am learning English with this channel. A good channel to learn English.

[@FabioMartins-bo5ty]

The best Ted talk I've ever seen! Perfect presentation.

[@tatiamardaleishvili8151]

Happiness is a skill we all can train and work on 🙌

[@phhafff]

The best talk for my current struggling situations. Thanks Katarina Blom and TEDx Talks for bringing a great talk 💕💕

[@anvothithanh2525]

I agree with this video, because with me happy is skill not feel. I live 26 years and almost times feel unhappy, i blame to everyone or every situation made that. I never think one times actually i made my unhappy life. Because my parent don't rich, my country not rich, my education not efective, my job not good for me,...Now i realized if i feel unhappy it made by me no one made that for me. And happy is enjoy my life every moment. So love you and wish best thing with you.❤❤

[@danielm.4346]

Hello, thank you for your message (/ comment). I do not want to change what you were saying in this comment, but for (the sake of) expressing some things better, and correctly in English, it would be better to write some things differently. Meaning that it would be better to use some different sentence constructions for properly expressing some of these ideas in English. So, with all due respect, for example, for a start, here: "I live 26 years, and almost all time feel unhappy". I have lived for 26 years, and during a whole lot of this time, I have felt unhappy. So, there is more than one way of expressing this, but I thought that this was the best translation for the meaning that I think you meant to convey. "During a lot of this time" "During much of this time" "For much of the time during those years" ...

[@anvothithanh2525]

@@danielm.4346 Thank you so much.❤

[@KumarRamanand]

One of the question always haunted me was, what is true source of happiness? Seeing lot many conversation from lot many people and sources I can say I was lost. Your thoughts and reasoning go along with my inner belief.

[@belamaity]

If you focus on the things you have (good positive things)with no regrets you are happy. If you focus on the things you don't have or negative things you feel unhappy.

[@Onlineintrovert]

Those who believe (in the Oneness of Allah - Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah, Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

Tbh it's perspective. Some people will say it's from your core when you expect and are okay with everything you have then you can be happy some will say loving yourself is the key. But the truth is it varies from person to person. I used to call myself the happiest person on earth back in 2011 when I was in 6th grade, back then it's not that I didn't have any bad days but I was happy cause everything was how I wanted them to be. And now when I hear ppl say be satisfied with what you have well I am satisfied and I really tried to take that advice but it never worked then I told myself let's imagine you are happy so how do you see things and I discovered there are certain things that are there. See what's the point is it's not always being satisfied with what you have or when you have what you want but it's both and it always varies for individual. Only you can determine how you can be happy

[@stvbrsn]

war w yes, but you don’t actually believe that this drive to compete over social status began (roughly) 10 years ago with the advent of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, do you? In the words of Morpheus, “you think that’s air you’re breathing? Hmm.”

[@dantellor1024]

I've noticed a lot of people turn only inwards, towards themselves when thinking about this stuff (which is only natural), but try to seek happiness in the people and relationships around you, too. Start by opening up to people, helping them, visiting and supporting loved ones etc. You might be surprised by how much of an effect it can have on your happiness when you try to find it not only for yourself but for the people around you too! (Edit: spacing)

[@shahinnandina]

Tedx works fine for me, for developing my English listening skill and for a good motivational mind. 👌

[@xusniyaxurramova4353]

One of the best speech . It helps me to increase my listening band✨

[@faridaahmadova9314]

👏🌝

[@vandam1592]

Exactly what it the original course of Concentration by Rada Russkikh is, it has changed my life as many others'. Thanks for bringing it up.

[@erichuang8097]

It’s the quality of relationship that matters

[@normastafford9716]

Life is what we make it .. happiness is of our own doing :: live a simple life , have a best friend and life will be ok .. it’s just our mindset that makes us who we are ::

[@jorgeromera3861]

This video deserves way more thumbs up!