The Edge of Compassion | Françoise Mathieu | TEDxQueensU

[@nicolaspage739]

Francoise you are a beacon of inspiration to everyone around you. Great talk.

[@DeniseEggertwaterlily]

I saw Françoise Mathieu at the 2018 Bivonia Northeast Summit for law enforcement, prosecutors, counselors, forensic examiners, victim advocates, and parole officers . It was at the very end of April 2018. She gave several talks. Absolutely awesome!

[@lolitatorrress]

Super informative! Really useful in this social climate, I have been struggling to explain how I feel and this video really helped me, thank you.

[@fergon609]

Golden!! Gratitude 🙏🏼

[@Star-vg7ix]

Yes, yes,yes!!

[@homebody61]

Excellent video

[@JoseGranny]

The downvoted are people in long distance relationships.

[@thelibrarian894]

😂 yeah for sure

[@garyjohnston6921]

I think that the "sweet spot" can be tiring enough. I'm compassion fatigued to the gills..and I still dont wanna pay you to come tell me about a sweet spot. I appreciate the sentiment however.

[@bethdilucente8916]

Your cat knows too, but she doesn't care! Ha!! Great presentation thanks :)

[@jameslipke354]

No, there really isn't a "sweet spot". That is based solely on my personal life's experiences. Compassion is part of our character; it's part of our very root, the core to our soul if you will. I say that as someone that worked in the medical field for over 20 years. Being a care giver, protector, is a calling, no different than someone is called to become a clergy member. It is, quite literally, WHO we are as people, not WHAT job/professions we chose to do/did for a living. Compassion can only be learned to a very small degree. Even that depends on if a person has the tiniest amount of compassion at their root. Generally speaking, as a species, mankind is self absorbed, selfish living in the "what about me" or "me first world", and it shows. Sadly. Again, this is my own perspective based solely upon my own personal life's experiences at this point and time. ~APRIL LIPKE

[@lamwilshangdhi612]

james- as a Buddhist i would say" Compassion" I believe is a genetic, in our Buddhist Culture and Religion, we are taught from our early age, "me" is NOT IMPORTANT,"They or People are important" We dont pray saying "please help me" we pray please help ALL THE SENTIENT BEINGS" ,the day we start to pray for myself, it wont bear any fruit or wont be successful.

[@Grace4ever22]

Wait a sec? Did I miss something or did she really NOT SHARE how to practice equanimity in everyday life?

[@DeniseEggertwaterlily]

She gave this talk along with an entire 2 days of presentations on this subject. She included those of us who deal with trauma and victims of crime on a daily basis. She states to draw back and avoid as much exposure of repeated details concerning the trauma and crimes as much as possible. She discusses a moment of preparation between your workplace and entering your home or personal life. She advocates rituals such as changing your clothes . taking a shower or bath, breathing aromatherapy. meditating. or listening to soothing music can help. We can only be humane and compassionate to others when we are humane and compassionate to ourselves. When I held a caregiver's retreat weekend for professional and personal caregivers, one of the presenters was a minister, author, and professional presenter. He said that it was non- negotiable- each one of us must carve out a sacred space in our day , even if it is only 15 minutes. We should mediate and pray if that is our tradition.

[@JosephineMarch7]

Denise Eggert Thank you so much for writing this down for us. I appreciate it a lot. Thank you.

[@ilanabanana69]

She has no compassion to begin with. I say this as someone extremely well positioned to comment on this. 🥺 Don't take my word for it. Nobody ever does.

[@georgiamanning4408]

@@DeniseEggertwaterlily id love details of the retreat :)

[@jameslipke354]

@@ilanabanana69 At 1:00, she very clearly said, "the truth is, we're all compassionate in a different way. Some of us have a huge pool of compassion; we're the go-to for our loved one and friends. Some of us have quite a small tank of compassion and most people don't maybe go to us." She did not say, or even suggest, that she is the most compassionate person on the planet. Listen to what she is actually saying and not what you thought you heard. She is not you, a lot more in this video should make sense after that. ❤️ ~ APRIL LIPKE