Who decides what you think? Not you... | Staffan Ehde | TEDxYouth@Helsingborg

Why do some people get things their way and why do some people never get anything done? In Staffan's talk you will find out.
Staffan Ehde, a former film producer for 25 years and with many awards with him he reinvented himself and became an innovation facilitator. Out of the blue his wife decided they would go sailing on the oceans for 3 years, and this led to some amazing journeys and experiences.
Again promoted to his own incompetence, the inner dialogue unfolds. Why do some people get things their way and why do some never get anything done? In Staffan Ehde’s talk, you will find out who really decides what you think.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@jasonfirewalker3595]

Took 30 years to deprogram. Then I moved to AK, lost 100 lbs camping, hiking and panning for gold. Bought a liveaboard 24ft MK2 and sailed to Seattle where I lived at anchor for 2 years. You can accomplish whatever you desire. "What one man can do, another can do." - Anthony Hopkins

[@gmb12philly88]

Wow, sounds interesting you should write a book about your life

[@rainbowinthedark453]

When you say deprogram, what do you think you believed that held you back the most, and what happened to make you actually act on your dreams? I agree with the other comment you sound like you’ve lived a very interesting experience that would be worth telling In a boom if you were interested in doing so.

[@Kyle_Warweave]

That's very nice for and of you, Sir Anthony Hopkins. But what about your personal experiences, Jason Firewalker ? Are you going to present the 27 thumbs 👍🏻 to Anthony ? Or are you gonna keep 'em for yourself ?

[@Kyle_Warweave]

@@rainbowinthedark453 ...

[@jonathansturm4163]

Odd thing when I was teaching the power of positive self-talk in job clubs, the more _educated_ the participants were, the more sceptical they were. The supposedly less intelligent participants just did what I suggested and in a short while found either jobs, or at the very least a better self-image and outlook on life. I found it very rewarding.

[@growbydoing7290]

Education is the mental gymnastics Olympics of the mind. Trains endlessly nonstop nonsense to dwell upon instead of doing a thing.

[@alihussain2181]

I’ve seen a number of different TED talks now. I’ve found a few so incredibly inspirational. I’ve seen talks where the whole crowd is moved and you can sense it from their applause. Wondrous. But then what happens? I just forget about them and move on, maybe incorporating one peripheral thing from them into my life. In this talk, from outward appearances, this crowd did not seem to be all that engaged. Is that the reality, or were they perhaps too busy already envisioning the possibilities to more actively participate? For me, this might truly be the best TED talk I’ve seen yet. Just by listening to his method to reprogram my brain, I already know it’s going to work. You know when you just know? This is exactly the practical tool I need, that many of you probably need too. This one talk will enable me to be the person I’ve always wanted to be, and will put me in a much better position to act.

[@ericrounce8181]

This is a truly excellent review and I therefore agree with what you have written. The presenter is not a native speaker of English. His pronunciation is poor. His grammer poor. He seldom speaks in complete English sentence or thought pattern. He is not a polished presenter. All true. But...... He is able to connect with the audience through commonalities. He engages the audience into their own thoughts from the start. When he talks of his experience his audience relives it as their own. In that method his message becomes the message shared within the minds of the audience. My take away is he has deeply studied skills to allow him to overcome negative self talk. If it is a skill he can learn, everyone can learn the skills also.

[@blitebeats]

hey just seeing this video now. how is it going for you? Have you noticed anything?

[@growbydoing7290]

Well gents, you reprogram yourselves?

[@danishiqbalhashmi]

I am a handsome, confident, problem solver, positive thinker, lucky, loved and respected person.

[@donmiller2908]

And modest too

[@sagarshrestha5800]

Good listener

[@growbydoing7290]

I agree, you’re all those things gents.

[@catchytunes4000]

I quit alcohol on 1st Jan 2018 and I keep up my promise.

[@h.amz.a2262]

I quit smoking today. And im writing this at night so 1 day is gone. I keep up my promise... wish you long happy life brother

[@panda59043]

Remember children live without drinking or smoking- they don’t need to count days? No one was born to drink 🍷

[@jetetarro]

Nurdin Kühnel you don’t drink any alcohol at al!?!! And you sell organic alcohol 😟

[@rehamshouman8402]

hope u still keep it up GOD with u

[@juanpedro4083]

I am smart, smart, smart

[@kevinblaha6287]

This guy is a genius, shame the crowd wasn't feeling it. Someone should put an applause and laughter edit along side his talk :)

[@yoppindia]

they don't trust him, because he is old🧓

[@imagine9033]

No way

[@stephaniec8816]

@@jenjenijenjen Applause isn't for yourself, it is for the entertainer/speaker to show appreciation or interaction. They are two different scenarios.

[@---nobody---]

Jennifer Sunshine I did laugh out loud. This guys is funny and insightful.

[@---nobody---]

Stephanie Nunyabizness exactly.

[@GurdeepSinghDyal]

KeyIdea : Think about what you are not good at. Write 10 things you want to be good at. Prioritize them and make affirmation about top 3 in present moment. Example : i eat healthy food. I love myself totally.) Write them, Record them in phone and listen to them two times a day while doing brushing or eating (fix it with some habit you do everyday, other wise you will forget it.) Keep doing it for 2 months, you will change eventually.

[@owentomos2306]

Thanks for the summary.

[@ec614]

Best Ted talk ever

[@Sleeperknot]

One of the best TED talks. Never mind the audience, they were too busy envisaging how this is going to positively work for them.

[@johnton6488]

That silence was so loud

[@vinaykuchara7328]

Muje iska Hindi translat version mil skta hay kya

[@rasleena2259]

How can it has less than million views..one of the practically applicable Ted video

[@laurenkeyes1677]

This is brilliant!!!! Anger management and generational therapy all in one! The whole WORLD needs to be exposed to this! How will YOU deliver?!

[@juanpedro4083]

I am smart, smart, smart

[@growbydoing7290]

I’ll watch you deliver, I’m retired.

[@beakeman9531]

This works soooo gooood. been using this the latest year and it have changed my life like night and day.

[@jetetarro]

I am disciplined. I am on time. I am Latino but not on Latino time. I get to work 15 minutes earlier everyday (instead of 15 minutes late.. god bles you boss for being understanding of my horrible excuses)

[@growbydoing7290]

I am early, I am diligent and I’m blessed. Try that instead.

[@jetetarro]

@@growbydoing7290 I will definitely try this!!! Thank you.

[@growbydoing7290]

@@jetetarro Most welcome my friend.

[@chennasrikaveti1764]

Reminds me of lacrosse practice. We would get tired, and instead of yelling at us, the coach would ask us: "how do you feel?" we would reply "I feel great!" as loudly as we could and magically, the pain disappeared.

[@eleanor4759]

Very interesting!

[@hilderwanjiku6269]

I grew up hearing No, Don't, Can't, and people think i have issues..... But at least it helped me relax a bit with my kids, thanks to this video, I'll reprogram even more

[@soulmechanics7946]

Hilder Wanjiku I did not receive inputnin my childhood. I programmed myself in my late teens.

[@growbydoing7290]

Well how’d the reprogramming go?

[@LeoBurca]

I can attest that this works. I've used it for years and it really changes how I perceive life and what I consider myself capable of. However I use it in the form of questions. Like "Why am I doing such a good job at work?" "Why am I enjoying such a happy relationship with x?" And I found that this is more powerful than affirmations (what he talked about) because it prompts your mind to find responses to these questions, and sometimes they are simple and uplifting, and sometimes they are practical. But I agree with him, if I wouldn't have had it recorded on my phone and part of my morning routine, I wouldn't have been consistent. Why are you so pro-active in uplifting your life? (see what I did there?)

[@kevina620]

Who was your music teacher? I will fight them. Unfortunately, this is a common trend among music teachers, and it's one that, as a music teacher myself, makes me quite upset. There are very few people that don't have a musical bone in their body. Singing is fun, and it pains me to hear that other teachers are punishing those who enjoy it by telling them to not do it. Oh, that infuriating phrase. I am hoping as a music teacher, I can program in kids' minds - "I CAN sing! I believe in my own abilities!" Great video!

[@VideoLeakPolice]

I was my own teacher. I made all my music only for me on multiple instruments. Making music for the fundamental reason and not to please, not to become famous or become rich but to express who ai am what I experience without as much as possible outside element that come corrupted. Imagine the freedom of expression.

[@suga9470]

This man nailed it ! One of the best Ted talks ever !

[@ericswain4177]

Knowledge, control, responsibility. With the proper application of force and intelligence, one can do anything.

[@cocobeebunnied7371]

I’ve been looking for a talk to use for an assignment I need one for so the last few days I’ve been watching a ton of talks over the same general topic and while I haven’t disliked or been bored by any to my memory this is one of my favorites. I think the audience must have simply reflecting to much to participate because he sure was going in a captivating way

[@bircruz555]

He is right! Individuals ought to program, reinforce and affirm themselves according to their needs, gifts, inclinations and personalities. It works well. But it all amounts to a pointless exercise if individuals fail to plug the competing, more powerful and constant conditioning society floods them with Every Day. It defeats the effort. You get it from the movies, the commercials, the pulpit, peer groups, pop culture, peddlers of -isms and a thousand other sources. Find yourself and ignore all other voices. It works like a charm (from experience).

[@ANOLDMASTERJUKZ]

Every day, every second, every breath, as we type here as we share this video to social media, we are conquering the world for the better.

[@bowenfarm1]

I always keep my new year resolution by working on it all year.

[@guelo757]

Great speaker and good info. Couldn't help notice how the crowd was sooooo dull.

[@shrimpysquad5821]

And how powerful is that? To gain compliments to yourself based on something you believe to already be doing rather than just "wanna" be doing, magnificent. I can actually see how this can apply. My inner dialogue would start to adjust and I would gain this slow build of confidence just by reciting the creed of the NCO and look for such things as mentoring opportunities more, for instance.

[@ramongeorge6501]

Very informative speech and practical solution! It makes sense what Staffan says. I think we all can benefit from the method he suggests and give it a shot. A few weeks of positive statements on specific times of our routine activities and then... it becomes our new program. let's do it!

[@masterphotog4131]

Thank you for this great message Staffan Ehde, keep up the good work!

[@johnstauffer8772]

The primary reason the human race rarely makes progress, socially, is because all first born are raised by parents who are new at the job and the learning curve is too long, so by the time the parents ever learn the good ways of parenting, if they ever do learn, the damage is already done. This pattern is repeated millennium after millennium!

[@---nobody---]

I agree. But that’s why we should be reparenting and reprogramming ourselves as adults.

[@karmageddon9136]

It's getting worse at a quicker rate as more and more people think that government can do a better job at parenting than the real parents.

[@jimmorrison4291]

Nah, surely not, because the context is far too narrow. What about societies that practice communal parenting? I thought that was common in history, perhaps less so in modern Western societies

[@lauraluca8378]

One of the best tedex speach! Bravo!

[@dragonstaye4557]

The real problem is that most children are not Called Into Being. They are accidents rather than Wanted children. Unwanted children means unprepared parents, making for a stressful situation for everybody involved. It is not parenting classes we need. Instead, we need education as to what it means to take loving responsibility for another Soul - for at least 18 years. And a confident freedom to say , "I am not ready yet for this responsibility." Human parenting is a most important "job" not to be taken lightly💜

[@rayofcreation3996]

DRAGONSTAYE Absolutely. I totally agree with you.

[@abcdxx1059]

Lol most ??

[@reem_ice]

Neuro linguistic programming is a complete area all changing the prorgrams in the brain. Modelling and adopting success.

[@growbydoing7290]

Nope NLP doesn’t work unless one does it themselves daily. Otherwise it’s like saying I shouldn’t instead of I don’t.

[@reem_ice]

@@growbydoing7290 unfortunately cant agree with that. I've reprogrammed child conditioning from clients and they experienced the mother love they didnt felt before for example and that lead to a lasting breakthrough

[@growbydoing7290]

@@reem_ice Prove it.

[@USGR281]

@@reem_ice This is incredible! How it works?

[@gilbertlujan1220]

Words reduce reality to something the human mind can grasp which isn’t very much !

[@sheraklassen4163]

I’m excited about doing this! Going to write my affirmations right now! Thank you!

[@simpleravenraven6358]

This is a very good talk....

[@zahra-cx3xx]

great lecture

[@ElectronicsGuy666]

This is how Cognitive Behavioral Therapy works. It identifies your self-doubt, fears, and what affects your self esteem. Then gets back to your childhood and finds out who created those feelings and thoughts in you, and shows you why that thinking is flawed and you are really NOT those things you think about yourself. It changes people's lives.

[@growbydoing7290]

Except it doesn’t work as who cares where it came from. That’s allowing a excuse to not put in the effort to change.

[@growbydoing7290]

@davy boy Worse than that my friend, they’re designed to traumatize yourself, dwell upon the past and make yourself a victim. To then have you as a “patient” for decades with zero hope of improving. False promises and fake concern maybe tossed in as a freebie. No, the past doesn’t matter neither does knowing the source of a issue matter. Tools, habits, and practical applied are ALL THATS NEEDED. I can 100% guarantee that.

[@growbydoing7290]

@davy boy I knew people in therapy for 80 plus years, in hospice dying and still “dealing” with “issues” real or imagined from childhood. It’s quite the money making racket.

[@onlineeducationnepal7842]

This talk made me change self negativity from my thoughts 💬💭 🙏🙏🙏

[@darshanats1481]

This is how our brains are programmed, so now we are here in life at this point

[@user-fs5fc1vv7y]

damn good talk. i noticed beforehand what he says about writing in presence and also talking in presence it does something to you. It is like your much more comfortable. This is also why i believe rap and poetry are very powerful to do cause it incorporates a lot of thinking about yourself in the presence

[@soulmechanics7946]

lars Si. Gotta place yourself on the scale to balance. Forge yourself in the furnace of life.

[@hackerhesays731]

great ted talk, this guy seemed genuine and wise. love it !

[@ericl2733]

I am giving this method a shot. It reminds me of Dr Norman Vincent Peale's technique in The Power of Positive Thinking (which I never attempted).

[@sealisa1398]

Eric L...my mother used to listen to his radio broadcast on Sunday nights and his book was a missal in our house. Thanks for the memory.

[@waltataengwa]

Great talk Staffan. Thank you

[@li9366]

I like your sense of humour combined with wisdom.

[@sigonna9018]

i like this guy , great presentation

[@sanah6933]

I feel like a new person after listening to this 😊😊😊😊😊

[@TommyFamous]

This is Brilliant! I totally get it an it reinforces so many other teachings I’ve studied but this is simpler! 💜 Thank You

[@rawbe958]

This is nutty....this guy is bad

[@lifeofmaha]

one of the best speaches ever!

[@himanshubaluni524]

an excellent talk.....

[@juanpedro4083]

I am smart, smart, smart

[@lensmanjain]

Love it.. Much love & gratitude for sharing.. God bless..

[@persistentviolinnoob126]

Thank you for this talk.

[@brida5038]

I love this speech well done!!

[@artemovsergey1989]

Great speech!

[@zhumagulmyrzaeva8167]

An amazing speech! Thank you!!! You have inspired me to do more!!!

[@vinaykuchara7328]

Iska Hindi translation milega kya?

[@kurtpiket6739]

By asking who am I and what am I, I am inventing myself any time again in a new way by intelligence. Intellect confirms the old being.

[@mastring1966]

the XO of a ship is responsible for gathering all the information, making the minor decisions and anything that's bigger passing it to the captain, while keeping the captain fully informed of everything. The thing is...if the captain has to be seen to take action about something, there's a limited number of things he can do, few of them good. It's a game of good cop bad cop. The Captain is the big hammer. If you draw his ire you will pay the price.

[@lucid9817]

I WANT TO GOOOO SAILINGGGG

[@johnstauffer8772]

Maybe I was lucky, after all? My parents rarely ever talked to me!

[@stephaniehardin7329]

Love this guys talk! Its perfect!

[@SwnkyTiger]

I imagine one of the most common lines we program for ourselves is that "I don't have time for_______"

[@cuickoo1085]

SwnkyTiger Benny Harvey R.I.P.

[@erikandresgarciavillarroel3005]

great! thank you for this!

[@wynlewis5357]

Very emotional guy, but a powerful message. Thank you for the speech.

[@cwsi]

Very helpful and amazing.. I have learnt something today that will change me, thank you!

[@jamesblunt006]

Has it changed you?

[@ruppedogg]

Thank your Mr. Ehde.

[@themacocko6311]

He basically just read us the book "What to say when you talk to yourself".

[@againplease1]

Great, feeling he have high positive power and strong energy to conquer the world for the better!

[@slave2truth4freedom]

Simple and powerful. Good stuff! Great delivery.

[@Promiseland2024]

Awesome and sooo true! I have done this and observed the change!!!!!!!! 😎

[@AlvaroNeira]

Brillliant, just brilliant!

[@wtbofnc7880]

Great Spot to Host a Ted Talk... Kromborg- The Franken Gate From the Atlantic through the Baltic to the White Sea...

[@LEMONS884]

Brilliant talk

[@qyouhazzir3993]

That was amazing to hear and watch and to relate to some extent

[@TheEbble]

absolutely loved this! and i needed it too lol

[@carolscabinas]

Spot on. Awesome.

[@susanrunyon2483]

Wow, I'm so glad my mom was native nation and my dad allowed me to take chances growing up. I rarely received those kind of messages.

[@Super-qr7wm]

Its because im in tune with myself . Im fed warm and loved . So are the kids . Some work for a living some live for a living . Y'all have a wonderfull day ;)

[@destankirimhan]

Incredibly amazing!

[@sewandomkuchu2431]

Absolutely beautiful lady

[@DiceBaseballDigest]

It is the system and we can’t change the system. It’s always about what you can’t do. It’s about making you guilty of failing to keep you quiet and compliant. It’s about separating you from everyone else. It’s keeping you from taking risks because when you do and you fail you will stop and accept you are the problem. In reality the laws and rules are created to limit people from challenging the status quo and threatening their power and privilege

[@arlinegeorge6967]

Interesting n amazing talk . Thank you, bless you . All your dreams come true.

[@williamcalfee8214]

Great work! Thanks captain

[@2245JC]

TED Talks are Great.

[@jamsheedbegum1067]

EXCELLENT 👍

[@raji6011]

Thank you sir . Amazing talk!

[@countinmecrow2252]

Great. Definitely not a waste of time.

[@HR352ANICO]

well done Staffan

[@tsm7964]

Programming your brain: it is much better to speak it out loud to yourself daily than to just listen to an audio recording every day. I know this by education and experience.

[@diegobelfiore9119]

He is a great speaker! Why the crowd's so bored?

[@almostnowhere915]

Great way of more technically explaining the power of attraction/manifestation :)

[@JoeNoshow27]

Genes and the DNA within them embodies the vast majority of our programming. Most of our individual programming has to do with epigenetics, which control which genes get turned on and off. Epigenetics can change over time, primarily from early life experiences, but they can also be passed down from parent to child to up to 3 generations. Thoughts and behavior can somewhat modulate epigenetics, but the older you get the more locked in they get. Most of your primary epigenetic changes will occur as an infant. If your thoughts and behavior are enough to reprogram yourself for the better, then you're fortunate. A lot of maladaptive epigenetic configurations can't be altered. And so you end up with millions suffering from chronic or recurring illness, self-destructive emotional responses and attributes or traits that are deleterious to quality of life. Cognitive-behavioral therapy can't help everyone.

[@charbeltannios546]

We are conquer the world for the bettre . 👍👍👍

[@chrismarklowitz1001]

Although I would agree that our brain comes programmed to only survive and reproduce. Survival is not only fighting,running, and eating. In fact, it is also cooperating, being competent, aquiring knowledge. You say that different societies morality will be different this shows morality is subjective. I say that within a social group our morality changes given the conditions. However, there will always be some aspect of mercy, empathy, mutualism. As without it a social order would be impossible to begin with.

[@dinhoantonio5529]

Great video!!!! "Who decides what do u think ?Not u...!" I wonder if the guy who wrote down(the video's title)this had decided to post and write down the title. 🍵🍵🍵

[@Anna_kandy]

Thank u I feel stuck and I know it's because of my dad's over protective parenting skills. This I will put into practice. I just watched thud video and wrote down my list already.

[@franciscoquarto2151]

one of the best teds

[@nacomadre3846]

Best advice ever

[@anoopparmar3544]

This is that I want to listen thanks

[@marianwhit]

This is awesome!

[@kuldipbinning1989]

Good to hear all the self learning, when l was an amway distributor.

[@ashwinilaxmi886]

The best one tq sir

[@agamdeepsingh6339]

that "is" really really helpful.

[@blackpearl1t]

this is great