How to lead with radical candor | Kim Scott | TEDxPortland

[@NROS2012]

This is parenting advice, teaching advice, business advice, relationships advice... human advice of the highest quality.

[@adriannonyelu]

"Unchallenged beliefs become prejudices" that right there struck a chord with me, having been both on the receiving and giving end of this!!

[@shawnsbookbabees922]

This information was absolutely amazing, HELPFUL and RESOURCEFUL!!! Thank u so much you dropped some dope gems!!!

[@StorytellingHeadshots]

This talk is ESPECIALLY on point in Portland, Oregon. The MOST passive destructively non-confrontational place I have ever lived. They will “alex” people every time. They think of themselves as “being nice” but really it’s just that they have zero tools to communicate until they blindside you with something huge like this (firing, etc).

[@pab1381]

That’s how it is here in Chicago well oak park and oddly enough I just got promoted to essentially assistant manager and my manager asked me to watch this lol and give her feedback and notes on what I thought.

[@conormurphy4328]

Radical Candor is my favourite Star Wars character

[@owlson2527]

Finally an actually funny comment 🎉

[@ijaurajewska3223]

😊😊😊😊😊Rf9😊😊😊r😊😊😊a 4😊

[@ericwilson590]

I remember learning this in college. OPENED MY EYES!Psych Major - MSW ‘94

[@jacksoncalame495]

Super true! You will indeed have better relationships, however, you will also eliminate and lose a lot of fake relationships.

[@HaiNguyenLandNhaTrang]

Great speech. Thanks.

[@conniemak1455]

Ill admit I have the book and didn't finish reading because I got distracted but her animation on the graphic to demonstrate how relationships progress or regress really helped visualize and bring it home for me

[@salauyusufolatunji9764]

Fantastic presentation 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@Sea97]

I wish this was taught at my Organizational behavior course at the university.

[@maocharlisme]

ps a friend of mine lives in Portland and he struggles a lot with the culture there. He has great talents, mindset, skills and a professional eagerness to build healthy and authentic community. After having seen this speech I am really wondering that Kim Scott and him might be a great professional match! So Kim Scott, if you're reading this and you are curious to get to know this young man with great potential then reach out to me and I will bring the two of you into contact with one another! 😉👍🏼

[@traviswadezinn]

Very useful - thank you

[@koushalyag3608]

I like the graph!

[@8nansky528]

I ADORE READING

[@Not____Applicable]

I like how she basically just taught business only thinking people how to be a better person in a systematic way. First person I’ve ever seen try to lit a fire in a cold heart lmao

[@maocharlisme]

Man, you need something light in your life, bro 😅 I understand you but you are having a serious case of doomer, ngl 😛 Maybe watch a feel-good movie that actually cheers you up! Trust me: you need some happiness... eheheheheh

[@AileenSerrantes-ol8qk]

Thank you

[@liviasirghi2824]

That’s incredibly related to my work environment as well😮

[@nikunjkmehta]

Nice insights

[@chrizzzly_hh]

Love the talk and the book, though I think it differs quiet based on your country. Afaik, it felt way different working with americans, german and japanese people, since they have different ways of communicating their needs, feedback, etc. (sometimes it might feel rude, sometimes exaggeratively nice)

[@Who_s_mykr]

Good performance

[@simplysunmoon]

Nicely explained :) ❤️☀️🌙

[@kauchand]

This is assuming that the person you are dealing with also comes from a position of Radical Candor. If they are just on the lower quadrants and cynical at the same time, then Radical Candor may not work well.I I liked this video.

[@kendrasita]

Any content in Spanish that I could share with some of my colleagues?

[@jeepsishumate2021]

management is not sometning i learned .....it was something i just did therefore i learned everything

[@addictedfoolgamer1970]

He may have had ADHD. He resonates with me. Life of the party. Creative. Impatient. Seeking dopamine highs - drugs. Wanting people to like him. He may not have realised this. Of course he may not have had but I think it would be interesting if anyone else with ADHD hearing about Alex recognises the situation. You may have fired someone with a disability that needed help and will continue to struggle without help.

[@corithekid8491]

As someone who has ADHD, it's no one's problem but mine. Kudos to her for recognizing she could have done better in this scenario and teaching others how to learn from her mistakes. But at the end of the day, she was responsible for the team. Not Alex. You can't set an entire team on fire to keep one person warm.

[@addictedfoolgamer1970]

@@corithekid8491 you’re not wrong. But she is also responsible for Alex as part of that team. The outcome may have not been any different but the journey may have been better. I don’t believe anyone is asking for a team to be set on fire to suit Alex.

[@nanettej9760]

I thought that too but he needs to have alot of support and therapy outside of the work place and then he can ask for suitable support within a business so he probably was not ready to be able to benefit from slight changes at work he'd need to do alot more work on himself, emotional regulation and tools to deal with the difficulties of ADHD. And then he can advocate for his needs but it appears he wasn't aware of what he needed to advocate for.

[@celestialcircledance]

I hope that Alex is doing okay . She should have just started on square one and given him a fair chance to redeem himself and while it's true that a lot of time had passed , that wasn't his fault .

[@cocoswizzle]

I would love to hear this framework in action from a BIPOC femme perspective

[@Alphacentauri819]

This works for any frame…the human frame. You are human, the people you interact with are human.

[@ericwilson590]

About people everywhere

[@CorneliaKarlslund]

Very interesting concept. Although, I find Scott's story about Alex very interesting in more than one way. Scott says that she learned a lesson from Alex regarding feedback, and that's great. However, it seems to me that it's clear that Alex knew he was underperforming the entire time and he shifted this blame onto his boss when he finally reaped the consequences of his lacking job performance. Very manipulative!

[@Quackquackla]

I was just telling my friend last night I would rather work for a tyrant with an iron fist than a negligent boss

[@josemiguelriquelmeterres1467]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 🤔 Kim Scott discusses the concept of radical candor, which emphasizes both caring personally and challenging directly in communication. 🛑 Obnoxious aggression occurs when there's a lack of personal care in communication, leading to hurt feelings and inefficiency. 😔 Ruinous empathy, characterized by excessive care but inadequate challenge, can hinder personal and professional growth. 💔 Scott shares a personal story illustrating the pitfalls of ruinous empathy, where failing to provide honest feedback led to detrimental consequences for both the individual and the team. 🔄 Moving from ruinous empathy to radical candor requires a willingness to challenge directly while still showing genuine care for others. 🤝 Radical candor fosters better relationships, improves workplace culture, and contributes to societal cohesion by encouraging respectful dialogue and feedback exchange. 📈 Scott presents an "order of operations" for radical candor, emphasizing the importance of soliciting feedback, giving genuine praise, and effectively gauging the impact of communication on others. 🚀 By embracing radical candor, individuals can cultivate stronger interpersonal connections, enhance workplace dynamics, and contribute positively to broader social interactions. Made with HARPA AI

[@noneofurbusiness5223]

So did you get sued?

[@guitarfumar]

Yall need a competent sound guy? 😁

[@Thagomizer-U235]

Her high pitched voice is shrill. And I mean that in a radically candid way.

[@SaJaDkHaN_44]

I don't understand why all the speakers are in a hurry to speak quickly and not slow the voice to understand the message what they want to deliver🧐🤨

[@maocharlisme]

That's because TED has a bit of an elitism problem. They tend to be a bit to stuck-up to give types like _Kim, the manager at your local office_ the time she needs and deserves to properly present her idea and method. They'd rather give all the extra time to the guru-like types with larger-than-life auras even if they often really need less time to bring across their ideas just so the latter have all the time to speak in hypnotic manner and pause a lot for dramatic effect.

[@laurenapg]

Ted Talks are supposed to be limited to short period of time, i.e. 10 minutes. It is the presenter's job to simplify their idea down to the main idea.

[@MsWing-ij9nb]

Great points, but can only work successfully on the premise that said coworkers/ leaders are sincere, humane, compassionate and relatively healthy overall (mentally and emotionally). Sadly, I find such traits in workplace leaders to be rare. Many are disturbed, narcissists who thrive on manipulation and go out of their way to triangulate, degrade, silence and instill fear in workers. It is truly awful.

[@ChunkySoupfortheSoul]

At no time, did anyone in my family have relationships with Sandra or her Indian partnerships or thin blue line or the thin blue line "borrowers".

[@ritagrey3295]

I really like the theme but I just couldn’t stand her voice. Don’t know why!

[@noneofurbusiness5223]

I hope, "can you do a better job," is to shorten story. Quite vague.

[@BakingSoda4U]

You can tell'em that but if they don't feel you care about them, then it is pointless. A job is a relationship just like any other. It requires both parties investing into it. If you look at your worker as a mere dispossable asset, they're gonna resent you eventually, which in turn means lesser quality for whatever your company offers. But if you're afraid of challenging them, they might get complacent, which also leads to the same results. It's all about balance and setting boundaries.

[@noneofurbusiness5223]

@BakingSoda4U Ever been boss of a teen. Ugh!

[@BakingSoda4U]

@@noneofurbusiness5223 It's annoying, yes, but the principle being taught here is a general one that should be applied in a nuanced way depending on the maturity of each party. It'll allow all of you to grow and will also improve both the overall quality of your workplace and your workers' performance.

[@s3lfFish]

Its a nice idea, and better than the actual one, but most people would rather not have a boss, period. Companies should be run/self-managed by the workers and the rest of the people if we want them to be in the service of the greater good.

[@addictedfoolgamer1970]

Have you met most of “the workers”? Some bosses really enable peoples best versions of themselves. Would you expect a class of education system to organise their own learning?

[@MariahB1111]

Invest all your money into your own company and then return to your comment on this video 5 years later…

[@iilluminumooconfirmed1676]

There's something wrong with you.

[@addictedfoolgamer1970]

@@MariahB1111 lol fantastic idea

[@s3lfFish]

@@MariahB1111 I don't think so, I'm gonna try with others to make a self managed company where there are no bosses and where we are in control. I don't think we'll get back to you in 5 years, we'll be busy making a better world. Cheers

[@bryanshoemaker6120]

Tedx has went down hill. I'm just no longer interested in this channel. It's a shame because they're used to be some really good stuff here.

[@BakingSoda4U]

Would you care to elaborate on how this video didn't meet you expectations, to make you feel that way?

[@bryanshoemaker6120]

@@BakingSoda4U it has no relevance to the workings of the real world.

[@BakingSoda4U]

@@bryanshoemaker6120 How does that "real world" you speak of, work?

[@simplysunmoon]

This is a good one i find, i listen twice :)

[@StorytellingHeadshots]

I think you mean “gone” downhill.

[@josemiguelriquelmeterres1467]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 🌟 Radical Candor is about balancing care personally and challenge directly in feedback. 🚫 Obnoxious aggression occurs when challenge is present but care is lacking, leading to hurt and inefficiency. 😔 Ruinous empathy happens when care is high but challenge is low, hindering growth and improvement. 🤝 Radical Candor fosters respect and genuine relationships by combining care and challenge effectively. 💡 Feedback should always start with soliciting feedback and giving genuine praise. 📉 Failure to provide honest feedback can lead to incomplete communication and hinder growth. 🎯 Gauge feedback based on the recipient's emotional response to adjust care and challenge accordingly. 💬 Being radically candid fosters better one-on-one relationships, improves workplace culture, and promotes societal cohesion. Made with HARPA AI

[@signature1990]

would be good if you could hear...