Dear Grown-ups... Sincerely, Gen Z | Kimber Lybbert | TEDxSpokane

Kimber Lybbert is National Board-certified teacher at Moses Lake High school, and her students keep telling her to write a book or give a TED talk. This year, her students argumentative research projects answer the question: What is it like to be a member of the class of 2020? Topics range from the lack of mental health counseling to the emerging mercantile nature of teen sexuality. Their stories reach down inside your core, draw the contents of your chest up through your sinus cavity, and lodge the debris somewhere behind your prefrontal cortex. They are beautiful and powerful and broken and patched together in ways that allow the best light of humanity to shine through them. In her talk she urges everyone to see the strength and potential in our young people. I am a National Board-certified teacher at Moses Lake High school, and my students keep telling me I need to write a book or give a TED talk. I don’t think this is because of who I am, but because of who they are. This year, their argumentative research projects answer the question: What is it like to be a member of the class of 2020? This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@saplingheaven]

"stop treating us like infants and then expecting us to act like adults" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@phinaddict4857]

Love that quote

[@thecatonacouch9371]

Don’t use the clap emoji

[@kiwirandoms8576]

Yas qween preach

[@sofias.4447]

I was your 420 like ;)

[@saplingheaven]

@Leigha McGarrity do it

[@orppranator5230]

"My kid is doing badly in school, lets take away some of the things they like" "They are doing worse, better take them away for longer"

[@Razor-gx2dq]

A vicious cycle that we have all experienced in one way or another. The worst part about it is the hopelessness and despair knowing you won't ever live up to their expectations.

[@sasha3010]

Also: Let's throw away all their precious toys, because they are bullied in school and can't do better after moving away from everything they knew/friends. That'll teach them.

[@digitalcyclone7218]

@@sasha3010 "oh no! my kid is depressed and suicidal! must be those damn phones and social medias. lets take those aswell. they need to live with family!" "my kid commit suicide. such a shame, there was nothing we could have done"

[@andreymontag]

Good job, you just made ascetic philosopher.

[@Cowboycomando54]

Yes you take away some of the things they like (specifically those that are distractions) , then help them get better. Make time to help them with their homework.

[@chocolatemint1123]

There’s an old African proverb that I think applies to this, “if the youth are not initiated into the village, they will burn it down just to feel it’s warmth”

[@kai2315]

wait i thought it was like, "if the village is cold to the child, they will burn it down just to feel it's warmth"?

[@gonkillua14]

Reminds me of naruto

[@Roselily-sj7dd]

I thought the saying was "A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth"?

[@tuhmater2985]

Ayyy 420th like

[@jenna1130]

deeah khan

[@sophiaredwood5825]

A great quote I’ve heard- “Those who criticize this generation forget who raised it.”

[@prisonerofcapitalism]

In a similar vein, "Kids today, they have no one to look up to.... Because they're looking up to us." - Don Draper, Mad Men (s1e04).

[@cygnettegiselle7126]

This, tbh

[@bluenova4703]

true true.

[@hpb2638]

Man this hit hard

[@methylatedlysine]

On the contrary, I think it is precisely because older generations view us as a byproduct of whatever mistakes they made, it's hard for them to entirely let go of the responsibility they have of raising and shaping us. It's like how writers continually criticize their own work, except the line between WIP and publication is hella blurred.

[@enquires_state_building]

"he already knows he screwed up" THAT IS THE TEA

[@certainlynotsav54]

Omg yesss it’s like “yes. Fantastic. I knew I did a bad thing from the second I did it. I’ve been beating myself up about it plenty, trust me. You don’t need to yell at me for something that I clearly understand was wrong and that I won’t do again.”

[@jac1184]

@@certainlynotsav54 exactly! my parents don't understand how much I beat myself up all the time when I do something wrong and they make it so much worse, but when I try to tell them about it, they say I'm "talking back" and "making excuses"

[@elysius4551]

@Jay dS So true. They only want to convince you they're listening, when they've already dismissed you. They’re not looking to help as much as they are looking to punish.

[@m-pc5334]

Savannah Smith when I tell them I already know I screwed up, they yell at me saying that I don’t, because I did it anyway

[@popitybopityboo]

PERIODT!💅🏽

[@gladyschu07]

Am I the only one that hates when parents say stuff like “The adults are talking, don’t interrupt” ?

[@imaboisir7227]

Good thing this never happened to me but I should start not doing that to my younger brother

[@ScMc-pe7ez]

SO MUCH. Like. Literally. But worse, I'm saying something important, and they interrupt, then when they haven't said a word for ten seconds I try to finish and they say this.

[@ivory-songbird517]

Oml same but last time my friends and i were talking about something private and my mom came in like "what are you doing so secretively" and my friend literally said "The children are talking, don't interrupt."

[@Mimimacklin]

frr

[@ifoundthewifi6505]

@@ivory-songbird517 lmao

[@josephschubert6561]

"You can't treat us like infants and expect us to act like adults."

[@miasosa313]

Joseph Schubert once when I was 7 years old my art teacher said “I wish I wouldn’t be here when they’re older” how was I supposed to believe in myself if at a young age someone who I supposed to trust doesn’t believe in me

[@mayautumn4900]

Jeesem I felt that 😂

[@eugenelevin8314]

Yes but if you know better and choose to act like an infant ..... you are asking to be treated like an infant . So better decide how you would like to be recieved before you whine about how your are treated

[@BarbarianGod]

Sounds like the millennial experience to me, tbh

[@cressmanobal6063]

EXACTLYYYY T v T

[@d1nae]

"idk" "not question my abilities" he's a gen Z that "idk" was sarcastic

[@alexfraser4898]

Maïa yeah for us idk never means idk it’s either completely sarcastic or it just means i had to think about my answer for more than a second

[@mokang6859]

Idk (pun unintended) about anyone else but for me I feel like 'idk' is more like 'I have an opinion but I'm not sure if it's valid' or 'this is my reply but I don't know if it's the right answer'. It just goes to show the insecurity we have (assuming others are like me) in the worth of our opinions and thoughts that the culture of adults ignoring gen z has caused.

[@kayleecadeau3094]

@@mokang6859 THIS

[@heffthehecked]

This observation of yours is completely subjective lmao, gen z here.

[@AcesOfAthens]

Mo Ka Ng YES. This. 👌🏼

[@blackcat6374]

Why am I, a teenager, seen this instead of a group of adults and parents who REALLY need to hear this?

[@imaboisir7227]

To boost the algorithm

[@jeniececook8704]

I am a parent of 3 and my eldest is 17. I am here and listening.

[@giathorsen9813]

Every Google Slides presentation, or other online presentation app that is sent to a teacher, put a link to this video. Or if your parents want to see how you did, put the link on several different pages, they will be interested in what it is and why. Or even if you have a typed essay, put the link on there, then if you must, you can delete it before submitting it. I want to send this to everyone, but I am lucky to have very nice parents along with all the other kids I associate with, but still sometimes (even though it’s often rare) they doubt me or tell me about how I can do better even thought I got a B or a low A on assignments and tests. I’m not sure what my friends parents would think of this, so I would leave it up to their kids to show them, and I will show my own if I feel it’s needed. I turned 16 on February 9th and I consider to be very lucky to have as good of parents as I do, but I would definitely love for them to see my side more. I want this to be recommended to everyone like Markiplier’s Meow was not too long ago.

[@artandfiction4534]

@@jeniececook8704 That comforts me and upsets me at the same time.

[@artandfiction4534]

@@jeniececook8704 but thanks, I guess.

[@xxchesire_catxx8176]

"Unpracticed does not equate with unworthy" This hit different

[@KK-jp5fu]

XxChesire_CatxX almost 3 thousand likes and no replies wow

[@Tony-tp8yz]

@@KK-jp5fu and then you had to ruin it didn't you.

[@xxchesire_catxx8176]

Lmao

[@pluto1730]

Been working in construction for the past 3 summer's full time and I'm 17 right now. One of the new guys on the crew has been treating me like I'm worthless while doing insulation which I've never done. Started putting me and my other coworker down and said the other three on the crew would make so much more money if it was them three. Yet were the ones learning and lifting beams for you. This quote is perfect for the scenario and I might mention it to him bc it really made me want to quit after 3 summers of breaking my back for someone to say I'm not giving my part in the company bc I haven't learned how to do one thing in which I could be taught?? Sucked. I stepped on a nail yesterday and worked all week with a sprained back and neck and it pisses me off I'm ruining my body for money that goes away so fast.

[@xxchesire_catxx8176]

@@pluto1730 I'm sorry no one appreciates you at your job. You seem to work very hard and it's unfair how those guys are treating you. Also, 3 summers? God damn you're hella resilient. If it was me I would've quick the moment the first summer was over.

[@k_lee_ms]

"Stop telling me to try harder when i'm already at my limit."

[@princesscathrynannaliseeli4979]

"Stop being so dramatic your life"s not bad so stop saying your hurting and depressed when i know your not"

[@blackcat6374]

This hurts so bad.

[@kyoza5069]

​@@princesscathrynannaliseeli4979 This, literally this. I have a lot of mental health concerns that are invisible to basically everyone but me, a select few around me who know the extent of what I've gone through, and my therapist (she's amazing, and I admire all therapists for having the mental fortitude to be able to help the people who come to their door so substantially). When people say that (or similar) to me or others, it hurts because they just can't see through the fence and see the person on the inside who's hurting. Sorry that was kinda long i needed to get it out haha

[@Hstat910]

“Don’t tell me how my students are lazy, cowardly, or soft unless you want to sit down and discuss how to strengthen them.” I love this so much!

[@pablo2495]

Also known as constructive criticism.

[@Hstat910]

Pablo the Commando ur kinda missing the point

[@pablo2495]

Not really. Discussing why somebody is bad instead of saying somebody is bad is constructive criticism.

[@riririri100]

Telling it how it is, doesn't necessarily mean it's that person's job to strengthen them. People criticise me and don't help. Either ignore haters or take their criticism, with a grain of salt.

[@edwardhunia6315]

Im not trying to be a socialist here, but i do advocate respect not wholesale discounting of peoples value. i.e. simple respect carries a financial and psychological burden.

[@katiereed4373]

Someone who drowns in 3 feet of water is just as dead as someone who drowns in 20. Just because you believe your problems are worse than someone else's, doesn't make their pain go away. Something my mom always said was, If everyone threw their problems in a pile, you would want to take yours back. You have no idea the daily struggle that people go through. Just because you go to work everyday, does not make me going to school any easier. Just because you have pay the bills, doesn't mean my math homework gets easier. I try to have a conversation, see your side of the argument and you tell me I'm talking back. Of course I'm talking back, that's how conversations work. All I ask is to be sincerely listened to, and I would give the same respect back. Respect is earned not granted to all whom are older than me.

[@SavageBear_YT]

I feel this. It's exactly how life was with my mother. I can't even count the number of times she reminded me that I have a roof over my head and food in my stomach. But that didn't make my childhood depression any less dangerous. Your opening sentence is inspired and captures an idea that I've never had words for. Well, I've had words, but your sentence is concise and they say "brevity is the soul of wit".

[@somebody-xu4mz]

I know I'm missing the point here but "Don't talk back to me" "But that's how conversations work tho..." Is fully a comeback that I'm going to use.

[@farihazubayer2244]

Im Just gonna write a song inspired by your comment. Totally feel you dude.

[@mollyballantyne6281]

You could not have put how I feel into any better words. Thank you.

[@blueeruio9370]

This is exactly what I'm going through. Everytime I say anything that mildly hurts their pride it's like I just started a war or when I make a small mistake like tripping or opening the door too loud they'd say I do everything wrong.

[@Dunrig]

The fact that "I wanna die" is humor to us gen Zers is probably an issue. But you know im still gonna find it funny.

[@nicholasavasthi9879]

Hey, if we already want to die we have nothing to fear for the future, in a sense. I mean what’s the worst they’re gonna do? Kill us? That’s kinda the standard threat right?

[@suffering-everyday]

I'm blue da ba dee da ba dy no more breathe i want die

[@doodlepaper6236]

@@suffering-everyday lol

[@TheColourfulSidetwitch]

@@suffering-everyday OMG IVE NEVER RELATED TO A BOP MORE

[@nuhaakmel663]

@@suffering-everyday lol

[@Smoothjazz001]

My mom said last week “You’re still a child!!” I’m 16. Child or not don’t all humans deserve respect?

[@jebacpis869]

I was taught by my teachers (not my parents tho) That children doesn't deserve respect

[@berrysantics2342]

My mom said that when I was telling her my opinion on a topic... I’m 17 :/

[@sierraa.bryant9322]

When on earth did she say that she didnt respect you?

[@Smoothjazz001]

Discra Huro She has never said it outright, but she makes it clear in our interactions that I’m lesser-than since I’m younger. (Edit: punctuation)

[@sierraa.bryant9322]

@@Smoothjazz001 No, she hasn't lmao It has nothing to do with your age, it's your incompetence

[@amaryllisbellinder5201]

Pro life boomers: “that baby’s life matters” Also them: “you’re just being dramatic you aren’t suicidal”

[@anemoneviolet5449]

What they refuse to understand will hit them hard when they finally decide to

[@abigailhill1280]

@Taylor Nicole agreed!

[@kimberlyhovis5864]

Seriously?! Who says the latter? That's horrible! If you are suicidal, please get help. 😢

[@kimberlyhovis5864]

​@Taylor Nicole , that's too bad. I'm a pro-life millennial who cares about both. Those outside of the womb are just as important as those who are inside of it.

[@skysmindgarden]

If we send this to our parents they'll just consider it "talking back"

[@johnkostakis4973]

Yes thats how it works

[@hacky_sackin]

Facts

[@neptune9199]

yeah fr tho

[@kailiak4271]

Unfortunately. Because this is exactly what I want them to know but I would get in some hot trouble if I ever said they were parenting me wrong.

[@kynleegraham683]

fr

[@mallorys.3694]

"an idea should not be invalidated by the age of its creator." woah

[@78anurag]

Children like me get discriminated alot just because we are young they always say "You're too young for that" or "You wouldn't understand" or "You don't deserve respect because you are small". I mean we're humans also right? We deserve respect but all we get is hate. Boomers destroyed nature and now they are saying "Protect Earth, It's in danger." Like our Generation is literally making solar cars but Boomers are saying "Why are you destroying Earth, stop doing that!" It is like they threw is in a fire and now they're laughing at us for being in the fire. Oh wait a minute I just wrote so much bye,bye. - 11 year old :)

[@goldenwolfae]

this is sort of why most teens retreat to friends instead of talking to parents, which in turn confuses adults even though they probably did the same thing

[@ggundercover3681]

me rn. I've stopped talking to them completely about my mental health and personal issues. I've cried so much in my room alone and they don't know a thing. They hurt me emotionally so much more by their unwillingness to change or acknowledge my issues. It's a hard balance (that I'm trying to figure out) to still keep a relationship with them and not resent and hate them but keeping a distance from them so that I don't get emotionally hurt anymore. Thank God I managed to find friends I can talk to. Otherwise I would've been in full on depression now

[@maddisonnotrae7568]

one, go to a party, although you'd probably have a meltdown. but you will probably get adopted by cool extroverts.

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

The day I came out and heard my parents tell me I’m wrong to my face was the day I decided they don’t deserve my respect, and I resorted to my friends, who respect me and understand me.

[@kyoza5069]

@@EvanNeedsTherapy Honestly. I came out as trans to my aunt (legal guardian, long story) literally years ago now and she loves to bring it up randomly and harass me about it, and we have other issues. She probably wonders why I don't talk to her about what goes on in my head, because if that's how she treats me when I bring up things that I genuinely care about, why would I trust her with the rest? My friends have always (more or less) respected me enough to call me what I prefer to go by and understand me, so I respect them.

[@wtfimcrying]

thats just adolescence in general.

[@mai-ya-hee]

I feel like a lot of the problem is the fact that our parents treat us like kids until we’re 17 and the second we’re 18 they do a 180 and push us out

[@Vaydore]

too true

[@renumbr6171]

Sometimes yea. I definetely felt a shift there, but they still treat me like im 12

[@jaydenparrott3055]

I got kind of the opposite. I am the oldest sibling and the oldest cousin and I've had responsibilities shoved on me from a young age. I was never allowed to be a kid. Now I look back and feel like I missed out on a huge part of my life; the part of life my parents constantly told me to stop and enjoy while simultaneously forcing me to speed through it.

[@kristalfisher7304]

Literally omfg 😒

[@Clara-jz3yv]

YES.

[@smokeseer8633]

Teenagers are treated like adults without the freedoms. Maybe that’s why so many adults act like teenagers. I’m tired of all these stereotypes that all teenagers are just depressed screenaholics with greasy hair and faces that thrive of off rebellion and controversy. We are NOT all like that; in fact, that’s probably less than one percent of teens. And there are adults like that too! So stop acting like it. ‘I’m older and smarter than you.’ ‘I don’t want to hear your opinion.’ ‘Don’t give me attitude or I’ll take away your phone, because that’s CLEARLY all that matters to you.’ Gen Z is the first generation to grow up with widespread and easily accessible tech, with phones and iPads and AirPods. This is gonna sound stereotypical, but most adults DON’T understand and don’t make efforts to. We promote not treating people differently if they’re old, but what about young people? Why are you all so surprised that we reject the world when the world rejects us? Why do you teach us to not listen to stereotypes if that’s all you treat us as? Why is any concern we raise invalidated due to our youth and treated like nothing? Why do you teach the future keepers of the world that our entire personality can be summarized into one eight letter word that I now despise? ‘Ugh. T-E-E-N-A-G-E-R-S.’

[@phinaddict4857]

b a n a n a r a m a perfectly describes my life

[@vivianriver6450]

You can always guess than whenever a high school age person is being addressed as "Young Man" or "Young Lady" that whatever follows is going to be patronizing and unpleasant.

[@sierraa.bryant9322]

If you wouldn’t use tech so much and constantly stare at a screen it wouldn’t be a stereotype

[@firebal6129]

@@sierraa.bryant9322 Thanks for adding fuel to the fire...*insert eyeroll here* Seriously, why -.-

[@phoenixwing5133]

@@sierraa.bryant9322 Well as of right now we don't have much of a choice do we? 😂

[@camistar3468]

"Teenagers have a 6th sense of hypocrisy." Facts.

[@ishitasingh2044]

i agree

[@ijusthitthearianagrandenot9144]

I didn't understand

[@chromebooktest1128]

@William Thomas lmao

[@chromebooktest1128]

this tends to be local phenomenon

[@amandashafer7002]

I loved the part of “stop crying weak when they cry for help”. This world is so uncertain and it takes a lot of strength to ask for help in the first place. To call someone weak or to make them feel like their need for help makes them less than is the same as turning a blind eye. All kids and students need the most support we teachers are capable of.

[@moistheathen148]

It's why I stopped crying for help. It never got me help; it just got adults to cry "weak," so I stopped crying for help because I thought they didn't care, and I knew it wouldn't get me anywhere.

[@fairy5668]

I purposely shut off my ability to cry for years because I thought crying and any sensitivity was a sign of weakness and had to be hidden and bottled up. I cried in front of my mum for the first time in years this year and I think it scared her to remember that I had feelings aha. I'm so glad our generation invites conversation about feelings and mental health because we have learned from past generations that trying to seem tough all the time only makes you hard on the outside and is not cathartic.

[@theQuestion626]

I would also like to point out that America has a very sick obsession with competition. And social Darwinism. Teen suicide is a very real problem just as much is teen substance abuse yet America still adheres to its fanatical obsession with survival of the fittest yet scratches its collective head when kids shoot up their classmates or hang themselves in closets or become alcoholics before they are even of legal age to drink.

[@maggots7131]

I have a real fear of asking for any help because every time I reach out it’s met with negativity

[@schnitzelberry]

I actually kinda agree. The only thing I find weak, is when they let death take over. That's ultimate defeat. I think it should be a global goal to empower eachother and rise up against our common enemy, Negativity. We're all warriors. Those that fail to realize that, need hugs.

[@kai_posts9041]

“Those who criticize this generation forget who raised it.” "stop treating us like infants and then expecting us to act like adults" "an idea should not be invalidated by the age of its creator." “ Stop blaiming the technology about your child's problems just because you dont want to see that you are the problem”

[@ianowens1905]

I like the quotes but you didn’t actually quote anyone

[@kai_posts9041]

@@ianowens1905 they were from the video and from the comment section :)

[@g4l4ctic78]

That's right tell them

[@wtfimcrying]

the technology is definitely the problem lol. letting instant stimulus raise your child is horrible.

[@chromebooktest1128]

"an idea should not be invalidated by the age of its creator." inverse of "authority" argument... which states that an idea should not be validated by any quality, other than the idea itself. consider that the next time you want to use the phrase "all scientists agree," in any context. which is not nearly as often the case as it might seem, as data requires interpretation. perhaps it isnt so much "the age" of the person, but that those who lack experience have such a high tendency to be wrong. this projection of sorts, seems to me, to be just as much of a parenting issue as anything. personally, i was never treated like this particular factor was reason i wasnt being agreed with... and this is an important distinction to make. disagreement is not invalidation. fortunately for me, my parents had no issues explaining to me why they thought what they did and i was taught to ask question and not to be afraid what people think. i force people to explain themselves so that i understand them and can properly judge if it makes sense to me. i was never that one who rebelled against the opinions of the more experienced "because" i felt misunderstood. afterall, theyve been there and are more often than not, in my experience, trying to help. this isnt entirely altruistic, and should therefore necessarily be considered with suspicion, however, you should always consider the motivations of others... emotionally, helping the younglings in this way, can feel like a sort of reconciliation with choices they regret. its ok to be disagreeable. its not ok to force others to agree with you.

[@silverbackwrites]

Hey KZbin, do is this one favour, just this one: Recommend this video to everyone, no matter their age, race, gender, regardless of all demographics or even if your algorithm thinks they'd be interested or not, and keep recommending it until they've watched it.

[@PokeMageTech]

pip jam No. No murder.

[@PokeMageTech]

Fandom Is Awesome Well... if they clearly don’t know English, there’s no point...

[@4zdr456]

KZbin did it with me. It was in my recommendation for like a month or so. It is possible that you made a difference with your comment, but I don't think it's plausible.

[@Forestpupoozzle]

Worked for me! This video has been recommended to me about five times in the past month, I never see something more than once or twice unless it's by someone I've seen quite a few videos from.

[@izm6835]

Hey, this worked wonders. Seriously recommended it to me for weeks on end and here I am. Great video, glad I watched it!

[@npc6817]

we didn't start the fire, you just tossed us straight in it and started laughing

[@lovebirddraws8475]

They tossed us in then condemned us for burning

[@johnracy2871]

Preach. Also awesome song!

[@ddandymann]

Coming from a millennial who's been wading through the fire for a while now, it doesn't get easier. However that doesn't mean you should stop trying. Our Generations were fed all sorts of nonsense like 'do what you love' and 'you can achieve anything you put your mind to', yet there is just a grain of truth in that. If you put constant work into self improvement then you can do alright, not great, but alright. Don't search for utopia, don't search for perfection because you won't get them. Just do the best you can everyday with the situation you've been dealt and hope to find meaning in that. Finally, and I know I can't speak for everyone here, but your parents do try. I know it feels like they don't understand you, and you're probably right, but they do their best and you'll miss them when they're gone. Take that one from experience.

[@switchblade.saints]

why did i read this to the tune of we didnt start the fire

[@mo0njelly]

NPC POP after all, it was always burning since the worlds been turning.

[@jadez.2476]

"She's so lazy." "Come here dear you have to study harder to get a good job because you won't be able to live. You are lazy and you can't do anything so study hard so you can pay people" Words my parents tell me that hurts but there are other things they say to me that hurts more.

[@vladaling219]

it would be better to show sympathy and go "I understand it's hard- let's take a day off, do whatever you want get the courage, and go tear those exams and score the greatest grade you are possible to score" good university or bad you will still get the qualification

[@hi-sn1pw]

" you are so annoying " ..... It's not just my parents who say it but still I feel scared that there will be more people who say it , it hurts because I am the one they come to when they need something but when I need something nobody is there , when I say I can't help them they say I am selfish , I can't even defend myself because if I do I am disrespecting them .

[@sarabintereza2022]

When its a letter for grown ups from gen z but most of the people watching are gen z

[@YoshisaurUnderscore]

Facts. I bet most non-Gen Z ppl just saw the title and kept scrolling.

[@IneptArtist]

I'm a gen x watching so I can support my son. We are here and you are being heard. Best wishes for you.

[@horsegirlb7120]

Millennials binge TEDx at 3am too

[@justAman548]

It’s because some grownups are filled with so much pride and so much of that ‘back in my day I did a, b, c, and d’ others don’t want to understand. But there are many others who want to understand and want to help. But as she said in the video, they are kids what do they know about being a grown up

[@KodasGarden]

I think we wanted to see if we were heard.

[@fiona_6714]

I think all adults should hear this.

[@rye1065]

I think everyone should hear this

[@davthemillionth]

Well most adults are too busy being scared of the internet to learn from it, and thus them being scared of the future leads o there not being one.

[@daybreak_eclipse7516]

especially toxic adults

[@sleepysundew9544]

@@daybreak_eclipse7516 alright sure. But what good is it doing calling adults out when they can call us out too? For you to determine who's toxic and who isn't is toxic itself. How about we don't.

[@PokeMageTech]

Silenced_Rain Common sense dictates who should be considered toxic. Are they intentionally inflammatory? Are they seemingly incapable of compassion for the other side, and are being inflammatory whether or not they intend to? Are they being bigoted?

[@iamkrazy19]

“Your supposed to raise your kids, not lower them into depression.” -Someone

[@zohrabaig397]

Unfortunately not all adults are as open minded as this

[@nutellachickeee1251]

thank you. for your existence, for your understanding, for your voice. on behalf of gen z, thank you so much.

[@lunatheluma3804]

nutella chickeee also on behalf on that weird awkward area where it's not quite gen z but not quite millennial

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

dagamerguyofawesome gen Z is 1997-2012... so that “awkward area” people talk about, that’s gen z. People think gen z is the “Jake Paul” generation or whatever but that’s mostly gen alpha.

[@sasha3010]

Thanks from me as well. - I'm Gen Y ('83) and this hits close to home as well. No one is perfect. Or was. - Not even you boomer reading this maybe. Our economy doesn't work that way anymore. Looking forward to the change some of the Gen Z will make. And I am looking forward to the changes my Gen Z siblings will make. (I have two. And they're very social and hardworking individuals.) Life isn't always fair. As she said. But give a chance to the "rebels/different thinking/creative" and the "silent readers/softspoken". They can shape society.

[@carlinkag2525]

Your profile pic gives me life😆💖 it's small and a tad blurry, but I know the batfam when I see them! 👀

[@HobbesHobbiton]

Parents: Accuse me Me: Respectfully defend myself Parents: Are you *_aRgUiNg_* with me?!?!

[@Mimimacklin]

frrr

[@Thebigcoffee]

Mine would always get mad and go with the phrase that "I always have something to say" when I defend myself in argument

[@ravenwolf2220]

This is infuriating and also universal I think... If I ever have kids, I swear I will listen to them properly and not shoot them down for being less experienced

[@jules6578]

@@Thebigcoffee yeah. i tell them that I do have something to say, write it down and walk away. have fun yelling at a piece of paper

[@takudzwachibage2632]

My mom: (shouting)answer me am talking to you Me : explaining The same mom:don't talk back at me you're now a lied huh

[@burp9609]

Before you lecture a teenager don't forget you were one too.

[@lanaehughes6341]

yeah but then they use the line "I know I did it but that doesn't mean you get to do it" or something of the sort.

[@e1901]

it doesnt really matter though, cause they were teens in different times, so their views are different

[@eow4317]

Please remove that comma

[@burp9609]

Eater of Essence oh

[@ADLNC73]

But I can say to my teenagers, "I went down that road when I was a teen and it didn't end well. I urge you not to."

[@thomasbohlen1138]

i’m trying so hard to figure out how to send this to my dad without him taking it as an attack like he does every time i try to start a conversation.

[@mjp7671]

just send him, like 4 other ones with it 😂

[@morpho2097]

Post it somewhere

[@RooftopRose079]

Tell me about it. Every time I try to bring up something he thinks it's an attack on him. Then again, both of my parents are convinced that any characters I create for the stories I write are reflections of how much I despise them. At those times I just want to throw back that rant my father likes giving me when I bring up a concern I have and he's all "You need to learn this world doesn't revolve around you!" Well, my world doesn't revolve around you either father, I have other people in it that influence me and thanks for smacking my hand away when I bought into the "we'll always be here for you" talk you gave throughout my childhood. Nice to know when I needed help and reached out to you for it you were just looking for a reason to call me selfish and you actually had no intentions of being there for me.

[@marialne736]

@@RooftopRose079 I think it's best to speak your mind during these conversations. You have some valid points you can use. Also, if you respond calmly and with confidence about what you're saying it's more likely you'll be heard. Try to show them their flawed way of thinking and that sometimes you just want to communicate with them.

[@bud64]

I feel this on a personal level

[@nicop6951]

my teacher actually asked to quote me on this and im kinda proud “if someone feels like they’re not being heard, they’re going to stop talking.” - Me

[@nicop6951]

(for context i was a 13yo and a freshman which is why im kinda proud)

[@camrynkaercher66]

@@nicop6951 Off topic but I love Pjo! Today is actually Nicos bday!

[@elyzionite]

@@camrynkaercher66 Same uwu

[@rose.k5104]

This honestly hit so hard it made me cry

[@adijabehera6893]

and then they ask why are you not talking, if u are not gonna listen to me just because my views are different from yours why should I waste the toxic air that I breathe in...idk I'm livid rn

[@lidiabaker4074]

how do i send this to my parents without sending it to them

[@skye.s2515]

Lidia Baker - dude just send it, you’ve got a right to so do it. It’s your voice so use it.

[@lilywillette6369]

I so wanna send this to my parents too... but I’m slightly terrified of the response

[@skye.s2515]

Lily Willette - I mean if your in a safe position then why not. Plz don’t risk ur safety tho

[@lilywillette6369]

I’m fine. I just don’t want my parents to think I’m ungrateful. 🙃

[@ARandomDonut]

Contact KZbin and tell them to put it everywhere on faceboomer

[@JohnSmith-kj2od]

Imagine growing up hearing "You can be whatever you want" and when you do what you want you get laughed at

[@lesliesnow3791]

As a gen Z myself this hit me hard I legit cried watching this cause I feel the pain that my generation has gone through, the wars we've been through doesn't define who we are, we are strong yet you treat us like children but in the times we need you the most you treat us as a grown-up that should know what to do, to the older generations what are we to you?

[@phinaddict4857]

Leslie Snow yea I agree with all of that. I just started watching ted talk Thank god I found this.

[@studiessection2447]

Same I cried too

[@lillianaustin4453]

Me too. I was really close to crying the entire time.

[@Jfhsjdhbej]

I have a couple years to I liked her if we are gonna destroy people and take the goverment over spare her

[@toybonniesfm]

they threat you like children because u are their son, daughter or whatever the other genders are. They raised you and helped you become who you are today, they feed you and give you shelter and a roof to sleep under. they are trying to make you a better person, even if it doesn't seem like it

[@RockstarWolfie]

“You and what army?” The entirety of Gen Z: *us*

[@Superbatmanbro]

💪👏🏿👏🏿😎 Gen Z

[@jules6578]

like- we got anonymous on our side.

[@mya6014]

avengers assemble

[@L.a.77]

@@mya6014 😂😂

[@laurensutch509]

Not to mention half of us don’t care wether we live or die so we will fight to the death for our cause

[@lexi6859]

Stop blaiming the technology about your child's problems just because you dont want to see that you are the problem

[@theentirecastof_eeef]

PREACHHHHHHHHH myparents take my phone and my computer when my lights are on at night. They think its because I was on technology instead of getting excersise so im not tired. its because I saw a demon watching me in the gorner of my eye and now im panicking. taking any way to contact my friends who understand that doesnt help, it makes me have an anxiety attack.

[@sheppy9231]

the most underrated comment i have ever seen

[@luuuuux_]

Right?!? My parents blame TV and books(I read a lot) for all my problems. Like, you must have done something wrong too and I must have too. You can’t just ignore it and throw the blame on stuff that have influenced me positively.

[@judedgreenbriar]

preachhhhhhh

[@purvishriya8849]

i can relate to tht to an extent i can't explain in words

[@Oddity2994]

i want to have a conversation where my parents can't talk.

[@white_haired_deer]

Same but sadly I can't speak about my emotions because I know no one will listen to the only one who listen is my cousin but sometimes I wonder does she even care.....

[@nerdgeekcosplay909]

I wish I could tell my mom and dad “ I hate living in a religiously divided household. Don’t you realize how confused I get? I’m supposed to honor and respect you both but how can I do that when you both have different views of religion? It’s not fair to me.”

[@carissa9796]

Me to bc whenever I try my mom starts yelling then says get out my face and doesnt let me talk

[@takudzwachibage2632]

Same like

[@L.a.77]

@@white_haired_deer do you want to talk sweetie

[@sadieputnam4803]

What a great message. I was raised treated as a PERSON and not a child and it makes a huge difference. All my friends were treated and are still treated like children and they don’t have the relationship I have with my parents.

[@Razor-gx2dq]

I don't have a good relationship with my parents because of that.

[@sadieputnam4803]

Razor that really sucks I’m sorry :(

[@fizzletea6743]

That used to be true for me. And then one day I sat down with my mom and told her how I felt, and she heard me. My relationship with my parents has never been better.

[@kiroonsmoon]

Sadie Putnam Yeah, I’m being raised by parents who treat me as a person. I see all these stories about kids my age who aren’t treated as people by their parents and it honestly baffles me. I feel extremely lucky that I have the parents I do, and it shouldn’t be that way.

[@moonscar5636]

Same here, I know very few people who were treated as people by their parents, coming from a fellow Gen Z kid

[@youtuberebel7317]

YO that's my english teacher!! I've been waiting for this video

[@alexzanderroberts995]

I call b.s.

[@youtuberebel7317]

@@alexzanderroberts995 yea!! Her name is mrs.lybbart

[@alexzanderroberts995]

@@youtuberebel7317 ok I believe you

[@alexzanderroberts995]

@@youtuberebel7317 you got a great teacher, or had

[@youtuberebel7317]

@@alexzanderroberts995 hey thank you, she is super cool. I'm in her AP english class

[@emilyjoye4602]

I'm 15, sitting in my room, crying. I never realized how much I needed to know that someone realizes this about us

[@SavageBear_YT]

I'm 24, I have the highest hopes for Gen Z. I have no doubt that your generation will be smarter, and more compassionate than those who came before. I look forward to seeing what you guys do with this world. It has to be better than what we inherited. No pressure haha.

[@emilyjoye4602]

Sophie Shepherd Thank you!! That means so much to me and the rest of my generation!!!

[@sophiaredwood5825]

@@SavageBear_YT Just turned sixteen last week... I wanna say I’m so grateful for this comment. Your hope for us means so much 💞

[@amateur_apple9435]

Me too except I'm 14

[@jadynrowland1156]

yeah i am crying too

[@sleepysundew9544]

You don't need to ask me " What's your problem " when I'm struggling A hug would do. Not words of fear. Not words of hate. Not even words.

[@artificialgoodness]

Your comment is so underrated. I wrote the exact same thing but in like 200 words. Just...perfect and to the point. I love it.

[@sleepysundew9544]

@@artificialgoodness aw thanks, that really means alot! ^w^// also NANI I have 35 likes?! thank you all :')

[@artificialgoodness]

@@sleepysundew9544 Question. Are you japanese?? I'm just asking because of the NANI you wrote

[@vindric8330]

True, sometimes I just want to feel someone's still there and I'll be fine.

[@sleepysundew9544]

@@artificialgoodness no hehe I’m not 😂 it’s actually funny you ask that because face to face I get asked the same dang thing

[@birdylady3332]

Once my I got grounded for 2 weeks for wearing a “boys button up shirt” the only difference between that and a “girls” button up shirt is the buttons are on opposite side I Told her that and was called sassy like bro chill I made a valid point against you and now you salty I asked for some “boy” jeans because the pockets are big and I like the way they fit and then my mom was like “no ❤️“ I’m rather peeved

[@abyss6484]

Bruh that's literally so weird that your mom did that

[@birdylady3332]

@@abyss6484 ikr

[@waywardspire]

my mother won't let me cut my hair because short hair "isn't a 'respectable' length for a girl"

[@adefinitivelyrealpigeon]

@@waywardspire I’m a male with hair down to my shoulders, but I was fortunate enough to have parents who gave me freedom

[@NAME-yg8sl]

@@waywardspire my hair is short and my parents don't care

[@jennytaylor3986]

It's bizarre to see the same kind of talks about gen z that used to come up about my generation. I can only hope my own generation does better at looking at future generations as people and don't too soon forget how older generations looked at us. I have faith in Gen Z. Y'all are wicked smart and there's so much you can do to make the world a better place. Let no one tell you you're useless. We need you.

[@jarvis5552]

Thank you.

[@ElfQuestComicDubFamily]

We appreciate it!

[@themynahswithinternetaccess]

that means a lot to us

[@lillygreen6122]

we don't need you to need us. we need everyone to stop making excuses and help us, we aren't at fault for most of what's happening around us and it's suffocating having everyone else's waste piled upon us. You don't need us. As much as I appreciate the incentive, we *need* the older generations we can't fix this by ourselves and most of you aren't willing to help and it hurts. Please don't put your hope on us, place your hope on yourself and be the change.

[@jenniferclayton1976]

Thank you❤

[@lataluzziegang]

I remember one time in 7th grade. I'd gotten my algebra test back and saw that I'd score an A question. I was so happy because I usually do really bad on all math tests, barely even passing them but when I told my mom about it all she said was "that's great but you could've done better". I think I just gave up on math after that... What's the point in trying if I'm never good enough?

[@jadapisanilee1976]

Ayyyyy same! *virtual highfive*

[@lataluzziegang]

@@jadapisanilee1976 this is the saddest high five I've ever done

[@arch5063]

Exactly.

[@Alex-vz8tx]

Heyy, don't listen to your parents. You did awesome! :)

[@lizbetnoble8988]

I know right? Ever since I got out of elementary school, it hasn't been "I'm proud of you for getting an A!", it's been "ok whatever you'd better be getting good grades" or "why is your grade so low?!"

[@alanahcoyne6003]

"Love me for who I am, not who YOU think I should be."

[@thatonekid8261]

I've never commented on anything ever, but this just felt different to me. I love my parents, and I'm especially close to my mom, but sometimes I feel like I have no one to open up to. My solution to deppression and suicidal thoughts was always just making it into a joke, or tell myself that I'm being overdramatic, but in the end, my pain is just as real as anyone's. I know that my parents have had rough childhoods and that their loves have not been easy, but this does not mean that my life is. Even if my problems may be much more internal it does not mean they don't exist, and my parents have a very clear and "happy" vision for my life, but I'm not sure it would be MY life. I want to be happy for myself, not for others. So that means that if I'm 14 and bi my parents should love me for it, even if it isn't exactly what they envisioned for me. Everyone deserves respect and love. No matter who you are, or what you are going through, YOU, personally, deserve love and respect and I wish you the best. There is someone out there who will love the real you. Strive to find people like that, and find your own happiness.

[@alanahcoyne6003]

@@thatonekid8261 Thank you for sharing your feelings. I wish that I could say that changing peoples visions for you is easy, however most of the time it takes time, effort and sadly some disagreements. I hope that your parents realise that their dream is not your dream. Know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, it may just be the you need to find a different track first. However it is there. never be ashamed of who you are. You are beautiful, amazing and wonderful. never ever let anyone make you think otherwise. May love guide you to a happier place. :)

[@thatonekid8261]

Thank you! You seem like an honestly amazing person and I wish you the best. My journey may just be at it's beginning, but I really appreciate those who are supportive and kind because they are getting harder and harder to find. It's so refreshing to find gems in daily life, and your comment truly made my day, I hope you have an incredible day and life!

[@aaradhyaneti320]

E X A C T L Y

[@jidoorifalcon]

The only one who will love you like this with unconditional love is your Lord Jesus Christ. He died for us while we were yet sinners ❤

[@corvid0]

My gosh I hope this woman knows how amazing she is. She speaks for all of generation Z, bless her. Thank you for not agreeing with everyone calling us failures and weak edit: I really hope you check the comments and read this

[@kulsy]

This woman............God, just bless her. I am so deeply touched, I can't speak.

[@MegaDixen]

your just as week and strong as any other generation. right now the boomer generation is steel holding all the power atleat in America. and they don't wonna let it go.

[@TheChickenRiceBowl]

@@kulsy Nah, Boomers are definitely the weakest of any modern generation. Both their parents and their kids agree, and that's saying a lot when you can get grandparents and grandkids to both agree that you're the worst.

[@kulsy]

@@TheChickenRiceBowl Nah, I wouldn't be so hard on them :) we simply want them to stop thinking the worst of us, rather than turn the knife on them. I like to think we're better than that, don't you agree? Also, your username has me craving chicken and rice now haha

[@TheChickenRiceBowl]

@@kulsy Sure, that's nice in theory, but that's implying that there isn't a clear victim and a clear perpetrator. Their incompetence and machiavellianism has real world consequences that has and will continue to negatively impact generations upon generations of all life on earth even long after they're gone. If it were simply a difference of view points between generations that'd be one thing. But, on a very general scale, they are fairly terrible. It'd be nice if it were so simple that I'd feel comfortable with agreeing to turn the other cheek. But, unfortunately it isn't. They have cannibalized their own children and grandchildren for their own personal gain. Personally, that is unforgivable. I can still appreciate your viewpoint though.

[@hewhositsuponfroggychair5722]

I remember when I was younger, I was cleaning the house with my mother. I accidentally dropped a large, dusty mat on the floor and it threw dust everywhere. The problem is, I had already moved it out of the way and was reaching for a vacuum before my mother started screaming. EDIT: Another funny thing is that, before writing this, I thought: "What if my mother sees it? She'll be so angry". Because I already don't expect a guardian to recognize their own mistakes. I expect them to cover it up and make me the bad guy.

[@olive_sprout2171]

That reminds me about the time I tried my best to clean up spilled detergent. (Which was fine for the time being since I managed to clean up most of it before my mom came in and caught me) My mom came in and yelled at me for being so clumsy and didn’t even acknowledge the fact that I tried to clean it up myself. Like, this is what they wanted me to do, yet when I do it they just point out the mistake I made before it. She didn’t have to clean it up and blames me for adding jobs for her to do even when I didn’t even ask her to help me. I get where you’re coming from. 👌

[@blakek.bailey5995]

This reminded me when one time I was sick and threw up knocking on my parents door, and instead of helping me they yelled at me, and made me clean it up, and then after that I was in trouble.

[@NazzyDragon]

@@blakek.bailey5995 Millenial here, had a similar experience that I vividly remember as a TODDLER. Minus the cleaning it myself part. Some parents do not deserve kids. I feel you. Don't get me started on how my mother made me drink wine as a toddler to "ruin" my taste for alcohol :^)

[@haikjwnwhahaiowkwjan1949]

I’m so so sorry this is very off-topic but your Revali pfp makes me happy

[@hewhositsuponfroggychair5722]

@@haikjwnwhahaiowkwjan1949 Ravioli

[@beetlemichael7790]

This woman has my utmost respect.

[@ChaoticRoses]

Absolutely, we need more people like her.

[@rootedreinvention]

"We must not cry weak when they cry help. We cannot write off as attention-seeking those who are simply lost for direction."

[@demosxn6722]

We aren't going to listen if we aren't being heard.

[@sweatyfeeties24]

Lemme just pin this in my head real quick

[@shawolroha4045]

i need this to get stamped on my head brb

[@kgesch6833]

Now thats not right... What about this? "To be a friend is to be a friend" or "To be a parent is to be a parent". Think about that plz

[@jayconnolly5676]

@@kgesch6833 you missed the point they aren’t repeating the same phrase like you are they’re saying if you want us to listen then start listening to us too

[@Thebigcoffee]

I agree with the statement

[@cheesebananas2876]

This is for the older generations in the comments here: All we want is for you to not look down on us. Trust us. We dont want over protective parents. We just parents that will listen and be there. We dont want to feel like we have to hid everything from you. Dont just instantly get mad at us. Try to talk to us. See what's going thru our head. Sure we dont like to talk much but that's because you all have made it feel like we cant trust anyone. You've made us feel like our best will never be good enough. Please. Just listen to us and have some trust. Please ~from a 13 year old

[@gallonhealer782]

"We can still bill him for damages. We can still revoke driving privileges, but we must not do is revoke his self-respect." ...damn

[@totallyjokers]

Haha... Too late for some... 🤣😂😅😓😭

[@stephie1949]

lol my parents wouldn’t even watch this, they would just tell me i shouldn’t be on my phone so much and ‘just get a job’

[@emmieauf]

same here. we're in the middle of a pandemic, and my dad was just complaining a few hours ago because i don't have a job

[@leiaxy5794]

@@emmieauf Same here. My parents want me to get a job, so that I can pay for my future projects.

[@thatoneweirdgal8469]

My parents get angry because I am apparently "rude at parties" and just a total hermit and how I should "go out more" when they literally lock me in my house for months with cameras inside and out. Like, you don't even let me speak to the neighbor let alone go buy the milk and you get mad at me when I don't know how to talk to other people or don't like to go to your grandmas sisters' friend wedding with a bunch of strangers.

[@a-bird-lover]

if I sent this to my parents I would get my phone taken away for not studying or doing my homework instead

[@colbymcarthur7871]

Emmie Aufderheide i relate- my dad is like “you can’t go in public rn (which i totally agree with btw) and then complains about how i don’t have plans for a job this summer. like... how am i supposed to get a good-paying job if i can’t leave the house?

[@purplecupboards]

I love how this video is for older people to understand us as gen z but all the comments are gen z, why arent the adults in our lives here???

[@otakus1216]

Exactly

[@SgwiggleMonSquiggles]

the boomer's feeble brains can't figure out "how to open the KZbin internet app site or whatever"

[@lolalinchen5403]

I´m kind of in the middle. As a Millenium Child and a mother of my 10 year old daughter. I personally have the same problems with my family as you guys have. I´ve tried to change my parents for 30 years. Only last year I realized that change can only come from within. Also our parents have experiences that shaped them the way they are today. They had to survive a cruel world and when you have to "survive" something, these features are extremely hard to change because they are the reason you made it this far in life. Your savety net. What the Gen Z is doing extremely right is to look at these Videos and make the future better. This is what I decided for myself and I see the fruits of this change when speaking to my little humans in class :)

[@hainleysimpson1507]

You honestly believe most old people without an agenda actually care about us? Look how they treat each other what do you think they believe about us?

[@枠]

They call us millennials

[@christycollins2785]

Blessed this teacher. I've always told my mom to let me figure things out when I fail. But its always her way or the high way. I'm an artist and the one time I was proud of a drawing, she told me it was too dark and weird and that it needed more color and happiness. Now she gets mad when I refuse to show her what I make. She thinks I'm a bad kid even tho I never have done drugs or touched a cigarette like most teens in my school. There will be times she comes home and complains that it's too warm or there's a dish in the sink. I told her (nicely) that she should be grateful there's someone at home making the mess, eating meals with you, and turning up the heat. It beats coming home to an empty only shell of a house. I've accepted she won't change at this point. She won't hear my cries for love and affection. I shut my emotions off around her to avoid conflict and pain on both ends. She thinks I'm rude and inconsiderate now. I've learned to accept it. Bless this teacher. I'm glad she understands.

[@sophiaredwood5825]

I have a strained relationship (if you can even say I have one) with my mom and a lot of this rings true for me as well. Hang in there and find people who will love and appreciate you for who you are. 💞

[@faerieofthelake4733]

I bet you art is beautiful because you made it, and I hope you are able to find people that will listen and support you in life.

[@violetblack6046]

Same. My dad and I have such a strained relationship that he will no longer believe anything I do for him that shows my affection is “genuine” I’m not even allowed to call him dad.

[@violetblack6046]

And I’m also an artist but I’m way too unmotivated and depressed to do art regularly enough so my dad whenever watching a movie and an artist is there or something he says”oh yeah drawing . You wouldn’t know what that is” so I just stopped showing him my work altogether . Same happened with singing. I always loved to sing. And even tho he’s tone deaf he would say “if u did that on the street ppl would pay u to shut up” so I stopped singing in front of people completely, to the point where I can’t Rembrandt the last time I sung at all.

[@donnahighstar504]

when we tell adults something factual they call it disrespect because they dont want to admit that its true.

[@mason2870]

I'm an upper years electrical engineering student. I tutor kids on the side for cash. Im not much older.than them, 22 versus 15-18. These kids don't need understanding of the math, they need validation in their abilities. My Job became more about inspiring confidence in their abilities than teaching them material and preparing them. I never gained the confidence in my abilities until a few year in university when I became independant. These kids are no different.

[@caseyramey4911]

I also tutor on the side as a college student, and watching my student not quite understand geometry, but growing in problem solving abilities and reading skills proves to her that she has the capability to succeed.

[@Memorex996]

I've tutored in the past and one thing I noticed is that I never talked down to whoever I tutored. As a result I got a compliment from one of them. "It just makes sense when you explain it." If they make a mistake i push them back on the right path and explain why it's wrong and they go on their way again. Most of the time they just need validation and guidance because they convinced themselves they're bad at math, when most of the time they grasp it so easily.

[@sierraa.bryant9322]

Literally how can you go into engineering without knowing math?

[@elieveuvu6823]

Discra Huro maybe if what you want to study is about that way to go but math is not really your best subject. Idk, sometimes it feels like you are interested in something that you are not the best at. Although practice is the only way to get better... Sorry if my English is bad.

[@smilewidestudios8589]

Boomers: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.

[@raemora8776]

The saddest thing is I’ve only seen Gen Z in the comment section, the only boomers/gen X I’ve seen are being really hostile and defensive. It’s upsetting that the people who really need to see this either aren’t watching it, or desperately defending their poor parenting skills.

[@calvinjewett8216]

I'm not trying to make anyone upset here, or be callous and unfeeling. However, with that said (and remember that I'm saying this with the knowledge that this includes all 4 of my grandparents that I dearly love), the Boomers will die within like 20 years for the most part. Getting them to change is, in my opinion, not as useful to do with your time than focusing on Gen X or even Millenials.

[@endeavour1022]

I'm a 13 year old girl who just put down a razor because of this. I can't promise I won't pick it up again but now k want to try to stop. Now I want to try.

[@chimmyslayin]

i wish you all the best and send you my love and care.

[@donaldduck6943]

@@chimmyslayin 🦍

[@chimmyslayin]

@@donaldduck6943 lmao what

[@totallyjokers]

You can do it. You just need to keep your head above water. For as long as you can.💗

[@apassenger4877]

I wish you luck, please have a good day and if you think about using the razor again, don't. I don't know you but i hope you're okay, at least enough to keep going.

[@imanijohnson1340]

What hurts is that our parents make it VERY well known that they find no value in our opinions, that we don’t know what adulthood is like so we aren’t allowed to have dreams for what it should and we want it to be like. If we say something they disagree with they just tell us “we don’t have enough life experience”

[@eclipxg_moon2922]

I swear the other day I got into an argument with my mom about something and I was like my opinion matters do you think my opinion matters? and she flat out said no.

[@raywilliams5352]

"We must not mistake contempt for tough love." This hit me real hard.

[@josesparky2188]

I’ve done that thing she talked about at the beginning, but it was 60 ft. It’s called a pamper pole. Best thing I ever did, made a great connection between those of us that did it. The last girl who was afraid of heights didn’t, and the rest of the week she felt left out no matter how we tried to include her. She said she wouldn’t have felt so bad if the adults hadn’t pressured her to “try it” , and made her touch the pole and try to climb it. Every teen had tried to comfort her and encourage, but not force. The difference was in the delivery, and I think adults don’t often understand that.

[@fanofstuff1607]

Vivian Van I second this

[@OscarBoscar889]

as someone who is scared of heights ill let you in on how she was probably feeling- if i go up there, my legs will freeze, my throat tighten, my hands get sweaty, and my breathing tight. ill be in constant fear, and will probably cry. kids: you sure? if you dont want to thats okay. adults: just touch it! come on.

[@ishisri2011]

I don't think there's a person ,specially young who could have seen the video to its end without at least shedding a tear ...really great..too close to the reality

[@kulsy]

Dude I'm crying. I cried so much

[@mirmirma5824]

I’m crying so hard, and I’m supposed to be doing homework...

[@cheykearsley4398]

I cried at the end. We try to say what she said, but because we are young, they take it as complaining, ungrateful, and like we don't also take responsibility for our screwups. This lady should be broadcasted to the whole world, especially since right now most of us are forced to spend all day with just our family

[@Couple_Cans]

I don’t cry

[@lilianadejesus6486]

Robert Gray you should crying is good for you. It’s not good to stop yourself or bottle it up if you need someone to talk to I’m here

[@malenaizquierdosalvado1828]

I´m 14, I didn´t stop cying the whole video, I feel this is just so true and accurate. I really wish my parents speak eanglish so i could show this to them and tell them how i feel

[@yingka626]

What language ur parent speak, i may know someone to interpreted ♥️♥️💐💐🙏💝❤️. U got such a kind heart ♥, take care 💝💝💝❤️🙏🙏💐💐💐

[@vicib.2326]

Yoooo same 😀

[@Wizardraveger]

I’m 17 about to be 18 in a couple months I completely agree with you about this

[@darianaalfaro39]

@@yingka626 hey! if u still available, i want to show this to my mom and she speaks spanish!

[@jidoorifalcon]

I’m so sorry for the generational burden you have to carry. The Lord sees you

[@sunglixitysomething248]

'Some of them are broken' I STARTED CRYING

[@lisilsayaart]

"...but they are also patched together in ways that allow the best light of humanity to shine through them."

[@theeleventh805gamer7]

I have been that straight A kid my entire life. And to me all I see are just people who see me for being “the smart kid” my really close friends only really know what I do other than study. So to me, when adults actually get interested in things I like such as this one time I was at work and was watching anime and they said, “Hey, that’s best girl right there.” Always makes my days a lot better. I know a lot of adults who understand me. Heck sometimes better than parents. When teachers look down and see me playing my switch during free time? Those who understood us would ask us and be curious. I totally agree with everything this speaker said.

[@CrescentPaws5000]

How’s does this not have more views

[@redpencil1409]

coz most of the subscribers are old people and they think this is pointless and they think they know everything.. I bet u most of the viewers are Gen Z

[@makrauchenia1]

Too sophisticated vocabulary for non native English viewers might be a reason.

[@LeviAckerman-tn4zj]

parents dont care

[@CrescentPaws5000]

This the most likes a commet I’ve ever seen true tho

[@sadiewhite1064]

When parents say "oh well, [insert reasons why your feelings aren't valid here] I think they forget that this is some of the worst pain we've ever felt. because guess what WE AREN'T 45 YEARS OLD!!! we have not lived as long as you. Sure, you might've had a rough upbringing. sure, i might be ungrateful. this breakup is still hard for me because they were my first boyfriend. This ob is still really stressful because it's my first job. trying to balance my scheduel is still really hard, because i've never had this much going on. I haven't had to balance work, cooking, cleaning, and two screaming toddlers, but having to juggle a job, seven classes + homework and soccer practice is really rough. Parents, please take time to listen and validate your child

[@hyena_theshyvampire]

"We feel like the older generations dont trust us, we dont even know if trust ourselves." This hit me so hard like- It took my words away I can even explain it- 17:10

[@brigiemurphy6424]

I told my mum that i was feeling really depressed and that i didnt want to be on earth anymore. She told me that i belong on a stage because i was being dramatic and attention seeking

[@SgwiggleMonSquiggles]

I hope you're ok, I don't know you but I'm sure you're amazing, beautiful, and deserve basic human rights like everyone else, and I hope you can be happier :>

[@leviackerman5870]

I was told to say sorry to god and repent when I was a 11 and super suicidal. Parents are weird.

[@danielaspurtacz9109]

I've tried to bring this topic up with my parents, but every time I do, it just ends up as a discussion: -why do you always act as if we are attacking you? Besides, we've read many books that explain who you are and why you do stuff. -Well... maby because I feel attacked? And besides, I think I know better why I did something.

[@phinaddict4857]

Daniela Spuurtacz my damn parents everytim

[@xmoonilyx2977]

Honestly, parents shouldn't just rely on books they should actually TALK to us not just 'read' then get mad and you for something THEY read. Like c'mon parents educate yourself firsthand.

[@uscgspawn2298]

Next time they bring up this "book" nonsense, tell them this: "When you finally get around to reading that book I wrote about myself, then we'll talk."

[@emberfilledsky7253]

Hey, try bringing up this conversation again, but this time refute their argument of they know better than you because they have read books on the subject with "Aren't we always taught in school that first hand accounts take priority over second hand retellings?"

[@danielaspurtacz9109]

@@emberfilledsky7253 I've mostly learned to deal with it. I still find it annoying, but I try to not react to much. I can't change my parents, but I can change my behavior.

[@Kuraimo]

Dad: "You need to be more independent." 'Can I walk 5 meters out the door?' Dad: "Absolutely not. Do you know how hard I work? You are so ungrateful." 'Uhm- I just asked to leave the house for once in my life-'

[@sorath1396]

Watching this video, the first thing that comes to mind is this really sweet guy I knew through elementary into high school. Super nice, but not always the sharpest tool in the shed. For context, my high school chem class had simple molecule models dangling from the ceiling. We weren't supposed to touch them because they were very old and replacing them was kinda a pain. However, this guy was really fascinated by the water and CO2 molecules dangling from the ceiling. He really wanted to make them swing and fly around like a cat plays with a feather on a stick, and I can totally understand both him and the proverbial cat (it's fun playing with things dangling from the ceiling I've done it so many times). I think the smartest thing I ever heard from him was his excuse for why the molecules were swinging around: "They're turning into a gas, Miss." I don't think anyone in that class saw him quite the same after that.

[@themickeysquad5121]

How can we trust ourselves or have hope for our own future if those that raise us don’t even have trust or hope for us.

[@karukatoki3271]

if i send my mother this she will cut the wifi

[@Superbatmanbro]

That’s ruff

[@nakamuraMao]

FELT

[@angelsmith7468]

That sounds about right. I once asked my mom to stop yelling at me while I was crying, so she yelled louder that I was just doing this to myself

[@roshnisoni1864]

I feel like almost all the parents that need to see this will do that

[@redheartsunglasses]

do it anyway

[@arrow6301]

I just want my mom’s hug to feel warm again. I don’t want it if I can’t feel it.

[@hollycook5724]

Wow...this comment hit me hard. I know that exact same feeling :(

[@dandelions_are_cool]

Why is this so relatable?

[@alawnmower3895]

Damn… that hit me like a truck

[@ClosetDemon]

my parents "your generation is a bunch of snowflakes" * me fighting for my rights to exist on this planet * "uhm, no. we were born into a world that hates us and we are retaliating, not being snowflakes"

[@j.d.cunegan302]

Besides, you get enough snowflakes and it turns into an avalanche.

[@nicholasavasthi9879]

@@j.d.cunegan302 You mind if I use this?

[@j.d.cunegan302]

@@nicholasavasthi9879 It's not my quote, so... lol. I forget where I originally saw it, but I can't claim credit for it.

[@KhluKhlu]

Some of us leech on to the internet and spend all our time on it because that’s all we have, when our adults disappoint us and refuse to listen.

[@otakus1216]

The internet raised me, not my parents that sheltered me from the outside world.

[@xraye_]

I feel my social issues and low self esteem stems from my parents complaining and yelling at me whenever I messed up. I remember vividly one time I forgot to tell them I was staying late out to go to dinner with friends so when they came to pick me up I got yelled at and my mum was in a mood with me for a week. I'm always afraid to speak up for myself and when I try to I burst into tears since I'm afraid of what the other party will say back to me.

[@D_4_N_]

on behalf of the generation you're representing. thank you. from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[@ambarvizcarra9656]

Go to any high school and see 15-18 year olds treated like inmate babies and then the second they graduate they’re expected to be grown smh

[@alexmedford8734]

Exactly! I graduate in a week, and I know next to nothing about how to survive in the real world.

[@SantiagoTPC]

Yeah, its like the schools didn't teach you anything of resource. Parents may be teaching you life lessons, but they don't teach you the ways to get by in life. What am I supposed to do with Algebra when the job I want has nothing to do with algebra. How about teaching us things that will help us.

[@sophiaredwood5825]

The fact that this is reality is why I, a high schooler, want to teach high school someday. I see how the kids are treated and it breaks my heart. How can an industry set children up to fail and then expect success?

[@bubblepegasus3550]

Honestly Gen Z has gone through so much and I am so thankful for this strong bond we share, though it was made through pain.. we can get through this together as a unified generation.

[@jessdoritowhale]

Everything this lady has said was true. Im 16 and i have around 10 or so people that come to me for advice, their insecurities, and ask how they can improve their skills because their parents simply dont want to use their 30+ years of experience to just sit down with them and fill them with knowledge and the advice they need. My parents where the perfect balance for this, my mother being the one to push me and help me to my limits and my dad who had so much wisdom to share, and after being bullied, and after my mom passing away from cancer, i can say that ive been through everything and I want to help people as my parents helped me. Because of the advice ive given, i feel fuller, i feel like im a genuinely good person without a care in the world. I hope the next generation of kids have parents that use their wisdom to the fullest exstent, treat their children’s ideas with an open mind and see that after a while you will end up with genius, humble, and emotionally intelligent people who now have the knowledge to take on every situation with a great attitude.

[@anamewoah5336]

I thought I was overreacting. Reading this I realize the reality. I’m not alone! Stand strong!

[@drewreignbalan7470]

I’m 20 and this all still applies to young 20 year olds !!! not just teens !!! 😊😊 loved this

[@kulsy]

I know, right? I feel so touched, I'm crying. This woman understands.

[@nickisalizzoni6026]

Gen z started in like 1996

[@drewreignbalan7470]

nicki salizzoni I know :) i don’t know if she knows that or disregarded that for this speech.

[@kulsy]

@@drewreignbalan7470 I know, I'm 20 myself and it really touched me cause it applies so well

[@drewreignbalan7470]

nicki salizzoni That’s why I said what I said 🥴😂

[@matlnl2064]

"He already know he screwed up" thank you for saying this! It's very true but parents can't help but empasize what a mess I/any teenager has done rather than discussing with us why are how to repair it.

[@ARandomDonut]

I wish the federal government would leave the age of autonomy up to the states. The country of Argentina allows people to be autonomous at 16 but gives them the choice to wait until 18. We need to follow in their footsteps.

[@ddandymann]

Remember that once you enter the 'real world' there is not going back. The grass is not greener on the other side.

[@THENOOBLEGACYTEAM]

Im from argentina and this is just a leway for populist politicians to get free votes. Dont fall for it, your problem is diferent than ours.

[@pagolainaki7175]

@@THENOOBLEGACYTEAM honestly yes.

[@sunaahmad8606]

It would be nice. I am almost 16 and I hate living at home. I've been threatened to be killed by my own dad smh

[@adriappelt8186]

I usually don’t comment on videos, but I feel like I need to for this one. I’m an 18 year old girl finishing out senior year. It’s seldom to have a teacher who listens to you, and who really cares, especially in the huge high schools most of us attend. I got super sick in my sophomore year, both physically and mentally. We couldn’t figure it out for a long time and I began to loose hope. I ended up missing a lot of school and cutting myself off from my friends and family. After the Valentine’s Day school shooting in Florida I didn’t go back to the school. If I had a teacher who listened and checked in on me at the time I might have stayed and done better that year. I spiraled mentally and almost gave up completely. I ended up in a small charter high school. I became a person in a community rather than a number. I’m about to graduate high school, the ceremony is pushed back because of covid but I’ll still be able to walk in my graduation. I was balling my eyes out by the end of the video. I see this all of the time. This message is one that I wish reached more people, especially adults who work with or around kids and teens. So many of my friends and classmates come from families where they aren’t listened to or aren’t able to have real discussions. Thank you so much for sharing the message that isn’t heard when coming from us.

[@bringmethatcoffee5235]

Ahh, I want her to be my teacher. And I'm 28. She's made me appreciate the kids and teens with just this text. Amazing.

[@Emily-vn5ts]

Messages like this make me consider becoming a teacher when I’m older. I know how much of a difference a good teacher that truly puts the time and effort in to allow you to understand and to also acknowledge both your strengths and weaknesses and knows that life happens whether you want it to or not. Every person, every student needs that encouragement because sometimes they can’t get from anyone else in their lives, not even themselves. Someone simply saying, “I’m proud of you,” can make someone’s day 100 times better because you don’t know what they had to go through that day. Every person in that hallway has something they’re dealing with that you don’t know about.

[@ellien8934]

"our teenagers do not need more likes. they need the flesh and blood humans they admire most... look individuals in the eye, take them by the hand and reassure them that they are of immeasurable worth... that there is no mistake or life circumstance from which they cannot recover, that their ideas matter." this part 15:17 really got to me. if listened to, this line could change the lives of so many people.

[@jordan-tg6nx]

as a gen z-er, i wish i had the freedom to be average, even below average once in a while

[@JovaniaGeorge]

Fax

[@s29nv1sr1]

That text had me in tears of laughter! Also, this lady is amazing. Never have I had someone articulate my thoughts about my parents so clearly. It’s like she took the things I didn’t know how to say and put them into the proper words. Awesome!

[@s29nv1sr1]

@@snowlck Aww, thanks!

[@sophiaredwood5825]

👏

[@galeforce3192]

I get the feeling that most people watching this are Gen Z’ers and millennials on the cusp.

[@gammarayneutrino8413]

Well, the other ones are pretty young. If gen Z started from 2000, gen Z'ers on the cusp are like 15+. The younger gen Z'ers might not be as interested in Ted talks.

[@mirandaw.4944]

i’m 20, so i’m not sure where that puts me.

[@nicholasavasthi9879]

@@mirandaw.4944 Gen Z starts in ‘97, so ur Gen z. By 3 years.

[@lynnp1841]

@@gammarayneutrino8413 Well I'm 12

[@someoneprobably]

A young gen z here in the natural habitat of blanket fort.

[@alextheloser]

i could show this to my parents and they would tell me this woman is wrong and that i'm just a hormonal and rebellious teenager. *yeah, mom i'm gonna rebel more if you continue to belittle me.*

[@colleens9332]

I wish everyone would hear this. I'm not even a teenager anymore, but I see this long beyond the age of 18. Thank you.