Love Alone isn’t Enough: 5 Lessons on Intercultural Dating | Rezia Usman | TEDxWoosongUniversity

[@jaai3927]

Mixed marriage, 3 years together, married, 1 child. We've lived together for 2 and a half years. Indian and caucasian agnostic. Couldn't be happier. ❤

[@ItsmeeeeeeXD]

I just ended my multi cultural relationship of years. It felt like I couldn't talk to them or be myself due to all of the differences and we didn't have a lot in common. I wanted it to work out so it was a lot of pain but I've realized I'm not brave enough for the discomforts of a multicultural relationship, I treasure security much more.

[@sasuke.7251]

How are you doing now? Mine ended aswell :(

[@Nagy2kan]

I’m in one on the way out. My partner is the one who thinks he feel the same way as you. I can’t say I blame him, but it also sucks a lot, because I’m the one who would need to change the most, and yet it doesn’t matter if I’m willing to or not. The very faith in the future is shaken by not having the same culture to begin with

[@n.m6249]

I feel all your pain, I'm in a multicultural relationship and I'm having major doubts. We are planning on marrying but I'm terrified I'll be miserable. It's really hard being in this relationship

[@n.m6249]

Can I ask what nationalities you and your partners were and what were the major barriers

[@anytactics]

Same it has been a constant struggle trying to keep hope for the future.

[@theresiamartono7126]

Rezia....extraordinary wonderful speech ! I am very very proud of you ! I feel so blessed to have seen your great performance ! The MARGIE SCHOOL in Surabaya is very very proud of you ! May God bless you always ! Lots and lots of ❤ from all of us : The Margie School Family in Surabaya !

[@ATALive2]

Learned a great deal of a lesson... Thanks Rezia, well done!

[@kseniakolopenko4290]

A great piece of advice that you wrapped in a nice and touching speech. Should we use it during the OT? If I were a young wonderer I would love to listen to smth like this before diving into a dating world )))

[@StreetfighterU]

I’ve been struggling with dating and finding a partner for like 2 years now. It’s really difficult if you’re someone who has a complicated cultural background. I feel like no one can understand me. And as a man, the dating scene in the West is just so confusing and difficult. I’m afraid that I won’t find a partner before I graduate which is terrifying and makes me genuinely depressed. It’s very difficult to date for ethnic minorities nowadays because of cultural conflicts. Love is nothing like what they show in movies.

[@zoubirhricha4617]

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[@edwardpark7169]

Hi Rezia, it's so impressive and touching speech!

[@d-m.n_--2]

Fantastic talk, but oh so quiet. Needs a volume boost.

[@jessicagautam5883]

I have been with my husband for seven years. I have two children from two different men. My husband is Nepali and I am Mexican American. the mix of culture is not as bad as I thought it would be. It is just the way his parents don't know out us. we have been married for two of these seven years. I know he could face being disowned by his parents. I am so lost on what to do. If his parents dont want to meet me, I will be devastated.

[@elysium76]

He is a simp to involve with a women with children from two different men, I hope he wise up and leave

[@hnmpu8303]

@@elysium76 you know nothing about meaningful relationships or love

[@lafasanagnuhd4098]

As a Nepali myself, I understand the struggle of your relationship. It is not easy for south Asian families to let go of the tradition of having their children marry someone outside their culture. They are afraid that the woman would leave their son. That you will crush his heart one day. The thing is Nepali families don't have such a high breakup and divorce rate because we learn at an early age that sometimes it's better to tolerate each other then fight till the end of the relationship. But that doesn't guarantee you will be happy. Neither does it say that you won't find someone outside your culture who will stick till the end but in a happy and positive way. There is no guarantee you will be happy with a Nepali wife nor is there a guarantee of being unhappy and fall into divorce with a non-Nepali wife... this is my current struggle and I don't know what to do about it. What I can say to you is, if you are deeply committed to him and will stay by his side no matter what, he will alwayse have your back. Even against his own parents but only if he feels like you are truly committed...

[@AuthetiQLOVEAcademy-1]

She broke it down very plain.

[@CraftyShawn]

Great presentation

[@hildaelkomala1156]

Well done Rezia... well explained 😊

[@hanneengan7318]

This is so good

[@Not-Ap]

I don't know about this. The her father just sounds like a traditional Indian parent. If he married another Indian he might have done exactly the same thing. Although yes it was probably done from a place of love.

[@n.m6249]

Great talk

[@rehanasinarbulan2114]

chukahamnda...🤗🤗🤗😋😋😋chotha sista😀😀😀

[@anetakocisova1123]

That’s totally not about culture but about compatibility and attachment style. Time wasted on this talk.

[@bejita08]

Maybe if you read the talk title first, you wouldn't waste time. It literally says lessons about intercultural dating. Lessons can be anything, not just culture.

[@cmarie394]

I agree. I felt like the challenge was mostly communication style and not about culture

[@EggyImp_03]

Well written critical analysis of the video, thank you.

[@katerinaricciardi3909]

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