Why Everyone Should Talk About Pet Death | E. B. Bartels | TEDxWellesleyCollege

[@the_glitter_is]

My beloved 18 year old boy went to Heaven a few days ago. The grief is unbearable. Much love to anyone in the same boat ❤

[@micmor517]

I lost bubba on march 30th , I feel your pain and anguish.

[@marcialcardenas6643]

​@micmor517 Just had to put down our 20 yr old baby boy yesterday, we also nicknamed him bubba lol

[@josephbarr4468]

Bless you my friend

[@josephbarr4468]

Bless you my friend

[@DenTn30]

I just lost my dog today and I am trying to find ways to cope. She has always been there for 7 years. She loved me unconditionally until her last breath. I will always miss and love her. It feels like i am missing a huge chunk of my life.

[@TheHowardski]

See below...I lost my beloved Henry 3 weeks ago, he was my beautiful weimaraner and his loss has left me with a huge hole in my life. However awful it might be, as mentioned below it is NOT the end but the return home. You will meet again

[@rachelr8837]

So sorry for your loss...I had to put my sweet dog down (17 years) just this past March. I'm still crying and in deep pain. We will get through it. Thankful for resources and knowledge like this video. Thank you, TED talks for bringing it out in the open. Sharing is important!

[@TheHowardski]

@@rachelr8837 wishing you love and positive thoughts, were gonna miss our dogs for sure. It’s just Au Revoir, not goodbye, Although we might have to wait a while! ❤️

[@rachelr8837]

@@TheHowardski Thank you so much. Your words mean a lot...so sorry for the loss of your sweet dog as well. It's see you later...yes...💜

[@TheHowardski]

@@rachelr8837 Take care ❤️

[@bettysback6560]

For 19 years I reached over and you would put your paw on my hand in the middle of the night. It’s been two weeks I still reach for you. So sad without you Sade 😢

[@TheVoiceInYourHeadd]

Just lost my best friend for 14 years. Now I am telling strangers about it on the internet. I am in pain and it is very hard getting used to not seeing her in the house.

[@minttumaria10]

I lost my 14 year old dog yesterday. My heart is so heavy and everything reminds me of him💔 Sending love your way!

[@bevedwards2461]

12:20 pm. Yes the pain is excruciating.

[@TheVoiceInYourHeadd]

@@bevedwards2461I hope time heals you soon. Had no idea so many others are going through this right now

[@gracefulgirl8153]

Pet loss brings an unbearable grief, and it's true that not everyone understands the depth of our sorrow. Yes, we are strangers, but we are connected in a very unique, if sorrowful, way. I'm very sorry for the loss of your best friend. Hang in there, and go easy because this grief journey takes time. 💔🙏

[@SharonTaylor-g5l]

We just lost our dog 3 days ago. So grateful we didn't have to make that decision because he died in my husband's arms. He was a daddy's boy so he couldn't have passed in a better way. As heartbreaking and devastating that is for us, it also brought us comfort. I know that one day I'll see him again, along with my other 2 who has passed. My heart goes out to all of you who are also hurting from the loss of your fur babies.

[@christinekng7435]

When my vet told my that my dog was suffering from kidney failure and we had just a few days left, I texted my boss asking if I could work from home that week so I could spend her last days with her. My boss replied by giving me the week off entirely. I am still so grateful for all the quality time I got to spend with her during that week.

[@albertrodriguez4190]

Good boss sad for the passing of your kitty 😺

[@MSlate-y3j]

It feels the same as when anyone else you love dies. But it's not treated the same.

[@angelalu5260]

Exactly. And sometimes you'd have to act like it's not big deal because the other person doesn't understand and you don't want to make the situation awkward. So sad.

[@kimathis]

Just had to put one of my furry best friend down after 17 years. I love you always Pal

[@doca2891]

I just lost my best friend of 12 years very suddenly to a heart attack. I lost another dog that I rescued from a traumatic situation less than 3 weeks prior to this one. My heart is shattered in a million pieces. Only some people truly understand. The pain is real and deep. My beloved Georgie and Ruby I have also lost others along this life journey and I am connected and loved each one. Lost many pieces to my heart.

[@clown.r00mz]

I just lost my precious cockatiel Alba, she was not just a pet she was like a daughter to me. When I had asked for the day off at work which I also did a couple days prior for a vet visit I was told I may get a write up, no condolences offered and not a care. She ended up passing in my hands that morning and I went to work an hour later and many of my coworkers said to just get another one and it's just a bird. That day I realized as soon as I leave that place I will cut ties with every single person there. I miss her so dearly and not a day goes by where I don't hold her feathers and cry and wait for the day we can cuddle again

[@antsan1098]

I hope that you have found some healing since the posting of your comment. I'm even more sorry that you did not find comfort from some people around you. This kind of pain is deep and vast. Yes, for some, it can be like losing a child. The loss is unbearable. Your feelings are valid. This is a real thing. I'm so sorry for your loss. Again, I hope time has brought you some relief.

[@Christina-ys9rb]

I just lost my baby suddenly 3 days ago and the devastation I’m feeling is indescribable. She was only 5; she went to lay down in the shade after running around the yard and just didn’t get back up. Everywhere I look I see her shadow.

[@banaweekidane2630]

I'm so sorry for what your going through, I lost my cat today after 13 years and I feel like my heart and soul are gone.....I hope you feel better ❤

[@holocene2164]

​@banaweekidane2630 I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I lost was baby girl Micha 3 months ago and it's still difficult. She too was 13. My thoughts are with you. Take care dear 🫂

[@jasnajulija]

So sorry for your loss 😭😭 I feel your pain 💔

[@Terry-kd8zl]

I just lost My sweety only 5 years old.. Thursday night after I came from work.. my boss let me go 2 hours early.. arrived home at 8:30.. my sweety came out.. I picked her up.. and realized she was dieing… she died in my arms as I held her for the last 20 minutes of her life gasping her last breaths….( what a heartbreaking and helpless feeling …🙏

[@manyplanets]

I don’t speak about it. It different than any other grief. It’s more personal.

[@RayClark-i8w]

I am broken after I lost my 8 month old kitten. I loved him and he was my world and not the other way around. I was so proud of him and how intelligent he was. He suddenly became ill short of breath. I got him the best care possible and was told he had a congenital heart condition and it was end-stage. That was a Saturday. I brought him home that day. He quickly decompensated and I spent the day with him on the Monday. I sang to him (sunshine on my shoulder makes me happy!) I told him in our way of talking that I felt that his gasps for air and struggles were not fair to him, and since this was all about him, I told him I will not be selfish. I told him I would part with him to end his suffering. He looked at me meowed and crawl into my arms as if to say "yes Daddy that's what I need, thank you". I got a taxi and brought him wrapped in a towel to the vet for his final journey..I had shared with him about the rainbow bridge and told him there you will be whole again you will be healthy like you never experienced here on earth. The vet had said to me that he was a whole bunch smarter than we thought. He would hide in the bathtub sometimes, under the bed, he would play and abruptly stop and rest and resume playing again after a few minutes. The vet said he managed his condition, and she said that shows he loved you😂 I just let all the tears come. She sedated him and I held him in my arms again and sang to him swing low sweet chariot coming for to carry me home. The vet had left us alone and when she checked in I had said everything that could be said with my words. The vet asked if I wanted to be present. I said this can not happen any other way. I leaned over him, his paw on one hos his favourite mouse toys, I said to him Daddy is right here, as she started to inject the final drug, I then said I love you, I will always love and cherish you, your will to be a part of my life and the love that you gave me, I reminded him his big brother is probably waiting for him on the rainbow bridge. I told him one day, one very special day we will be together the three of us and we can love each other all over again. The following day sitting in a park, the blades of grass blew side-to-side, in that moment I knew it was him, he was sharing that he was indeed healthy and happy, and from alternate universe I could sense him now really energetic and wanting to play with me. When I camee home at night I would think he was coming to the door, had to stop myself. Then I realized don't push those thought of he's coming because that's his presence there to comfort me. Even in death his unconditional love was always here with me. For any of you who feel broken like me, remember these friends, lovers, confidants they find space in our hearts and we let them claim it. I wish all of you much love remember you are not alone. Written in memory of: Babies- Sunrise January 2024-Sunset September 9, 2024. Love your Daddy❤

[@Ash-x9m]

It’s your fault

[@Ӝ̵̨̄-р6з]

i lost my kitten today, kiwi. he was the most sweetest, adorable , curious and mischievious kitten. he was always exploring every part of my house. he was attacked and killed by a group of stray, street dogs. when i found him, he was curled up into a sleeping position but he was no more. he was so innocent, he didnt even know what danger lurked beyond our gates. he probably thought those monstrous dogs were his playmates. i am having a hard time dealing with his death. i hope he is running around in paradise enjoying and exploring every bit of god's house. when i die, i hope i can meet him and ask for forgiveness. i love you so much kiwi.

[@donnawhittaker5197]

I just lost my beloved almost 19-year-old tabby boy two days ago. We had to give him a soft goodbye in the patio where he loved to hang out. I am so very sad and don’t know what to do with this emotional pain. Hugs to all the people in these comments who have also lost their beloved furry companions.

[@banaweekidane2630]

I feel the same way, I lost my cat today, I don't know what to do with the overwhelming emotional pain

[@sykler2]

Hugs

[@MiguelPaolo-AR]

I lost my cat yesterday, i feel miserable i can’t even explain how sad i am, i blame myself and i have so many what if’s in my mind. I love my cat so much.

[@jaxzxmine]

me too, I also blame myself and I'm still confused about things concerning his death. how are you doing now?

[@okaykoda]

I lost my cat today. He was only 3 years old and has never been sick before. There was nothing I could do for him. I love him so much. I told him everyday, that he is my favorite. I'm missing him.

[@littlesusieofficial]

Losing my dogs 3.5 years ago were the most devastating part of my life. I cried more for my pets than when my folks died. And I still do cry once in a while when I think about them.😭

[@RohanChoppin]

Me too. You are not alone.

[@sawsansalim2447]

The same here. I don't know what to do

@@RohanChoppin Me, too. Someone says it takes at least 7 years.😭

[@samuelpancake4084]

My grandfather told me the best way to get over a pet loss is to get a new one to love on .

[@macraghnaill3553]

@@samuelpancake4084 Yes, that is the best way, not to replace the pet but to keep the continuity in your life. If it's a dog and you feel you can't get another, try doing Dog Sitting as that keeps your routine

[@rachshaw3672]

I lost my boy a month ago. Ive lost weight and sleep has been messed up. I can still picture him. When walking my other dogs, i imagine him walking with us still. I miss him so much. I have his mum and he was with me since birth. Ive been on auto pilot for work with my company but feel depressed. He was called akh as he was the 9th puppy born. The 9th aspect of your soul is the spark of your soul; akh. He died on bonfire night. There was lots of sparks for him. He was a special boy, different then any other dog ive had. I hope we get to meet again one day. Akh 5-11-2024 ❤

[@ticker6027]

I am grieving the loss of my little Fergie. She died 3 days ago. She was a 16 year old Pomeranian. I got her at 8 weeks. I have such a hole in my heart. I woke this morning with the thought that she needed something. My heart was stabbed with her loss. I was so blessed to be her person. She helped me through so much. I became a widow 3 years ago. I don’t know how I could have survived that without her. I loved her so much. She always loved me to the moon and it showed even in her old age. She lost her hearing and eyesight but her nose still worked very well. She knew when I got home from work and came looking for me. 😢 Thanks so much for this talk. ❤

[@JK-hm8qd]

Awe, me too pomeranian. They are so devoted, pleasers so deserving. Mine was 16 too. He just died 5weeks ago. Thank you 💞

[@Galaxie7230]

Just lost my cat yesterday and it was so heartbreaking.

[@seer1623]

Thank you to all the bereft pet owners commenting here who've loved and lost. Just lost my kitty a week ago, and it was more devastating than the loss of both parents and a sibling combined. You gave love and a safe home to these wonderful creatures and good on you for it. I hope you can recover and bring another little furry (feathered?) friend into your hearts and homes. They need it so much.

[@banaweekidane2630]

I lost my cat today, I know what you mean. My cat was 13 years old and I tried to prepare myself but it's easily 10x worse than I imagined, devastating is the right term like a hurricane

[@christinadodd5780]

I'm so sorry for your loss! It's so hard losing a pet.💔💔🌈🌈🐾🐾@@banaweekidane2630

[@gavipositano4774]

This makes so much sense. I’ve heard in spiritual ways our pets exist with parts of our own souls even before we die. Soul families are a thing. Grateful for animals.

[@abigailmelo3558]

I hope this is true. Because it does feel like a piece of me left with her. 😢

[@DCDCWizard]

I lost my dog yesterday. Had to euthanize her. She was 11 and her health was declining so quickly. Thank you for your Ted talk.

[@zTheChosenOne]

I just had to put my almost 13 year old pup down yesterday. Sweetest girl ever. She’s been with me through so many memories. Start of a relationship, start of my career, moving out of my parents house, getting married. She was there for it all. I just feel so out of it, I don’t want to think about never being able to see her wagging her tail as I walk in the door from work. I just want to turn a corner and find her sitting there like she never left.

[@sawsansalim2447]

You have described my feelings exactly

[@Josh.19]

@@sawsansalim2447same here.

[@TobydeCorgi]

Yesterday I had put my shihtzu down😢 She was 14 years old always by my side…. I was 16 years old when I have her. I have the same story as you. It hurts so much 😢I only feel sadness and I cry the whole day…

[@zTheChosenOne]

@@TobydeCorgi I’m very sorry for your loss. It is not easy at all. I still tear up months later thinking about my dog. But you do start to feel better. We adopted another dog a few weeks after her passing. He has been great and has brought a lot of joy to our lives. He will never replace her but I don’t expect him to. They’re each their own little beings with their own personalities and I’m ok with that. If you decide to get another dog at some point I’m sure you’ll find that out to! Good luck!

[@TobydeCorgi]

@@zTheChosenOne Thank you for your reaction. Good that you have found a place ❤️ You have a lot of love to give. So I get why people get a new animal. I have 1 dog left now. And for now it’s enough for me. But also my other dog is quiet now. Together we try to cope with the situation 😞

[@SusanPowers-e2j]

This was helpful to watch. I had to put my dog, Bailey down on Tuesday b/c he had cancer which I didn't even know. It has been a very rough week. He's only been gone 4 days and I feel like he's been gone forever. I really miss him.

[@Hindia]

just lot my cat for four years last night. she’s a beatiful, sweet angel. brought so much joy into me and my partner’s life. trying to navigate through the grief now.

[@TheYazmanian]

Not everyone will understand even if they had a pet of their own. My boss had a cat that she had to put down yet when my dog passed away and I couldn't come into work the next day she literally said "it's just a dog". I quit that week

[@ProcyonAlpha]

Good, glad you quit. Some people aren't capable of bonding with an animal and to them it's just a pet. But for others like you and myself , it is a companion, a friend even a child that we love dearly. It's the most pure relationship, unconditional love with no judgement just love. I'll never be the same after losing my 15 yr old kitty last week. I hope you are doing ok.

[@TheYazmanian]

@@ProcyonAlpha thank you💔 I'm so sorry for your loss. We recently said goodbye to our 14 yr old German Shepherd as well and I am deep in the grief. You are correct. For many of us, it is like losing a child. I hope you find healing and peace soon. I'm here if you want to chat 💛🙏

[@ProcyonAlpha]

@@TheYazmanian So sorry about your dog . The pain of losing a pet as close as this is immeasurable, even worse than losing my father. Thanks for the offer , my inbox is always open for a chat also. I have found some good pet loss support groups on Facebook, it always helps sharing with people are have experienced the same ❤️

[@TheYazmanian]

@@ProcyonAlpha you absolutely said it. My father passed away in 24 years ago and it was absolutely the worst grief. Losing Trey and Ralphy was on par with that and in some ways even worse. Which groups on FB are you in?

[@ProcyonAlpha]

@@TheYazmanian Hey buddy, sorry about your father ❤️ I think it's because we have a parent relationship with our fur babies and they can't communicate with us so we're unable to have final words with them. I think I'm still in shock as my wife has found me calling my little girls name and doing things as if she is still here with me, I think my brain has locked the reality away as I don't want to face it. The support group is called The Ralph Site Pet Loss Support Group. It was setup by a vet surgeon and is really helpful. Hope you find peace soon my friend

[@viewfromthemoon]

My 14 year old bull terrier passed away 3 days ago. She was my pride and joy, my best friend, the sweetest. Even in her senior years she was giving us all she had. Zoomies around the yard up until the last week, just so full of love. There was a rapid decline the last 2 days of her life. We knew her time was coming soon and did everything to make her last days as loving as possible, but it's still a shock. She was like my shadow, the silence in the house is devastating I can't stop crying. We are picking up her ashes this week, we picked out a beautiful urn and will create a shrine for her. She was like my baby. She helped me grieve through the loss of my brother, kept me sane during the pandemic and now I don't know I feel so lost.

[@rjay7019]

I hope your feeling better 😢 I lost my Aussie Dave on 2/13/24. I got him from the shelter just 2 months before my husband died in 2009. I don't know for sure how old he was. But he was by my side for 15 years. I live alone now except for the cats and even they are missing him. Devastated is exactly how I feel 💔 I have been trying to make myself get busy and trying not to be sad but I feel empty 😢

[@viewfromthemoon]

So sorry for your loss, pets are more important to us than we think and it's when they leave that it's the hardest. I'm still grieving and I know this grief will remain, it will evolve into something else and one day it will hurt less. Time heals a bit I guess.@@rjay7019

[@bhavnak909]

I was feeding a street dog from past 4 years, he vanished from my area and then suddenly when he appeared near my stairs he was suffering very badly. I took him to SPCA, got him hospitalized and was going to meet him everyday. I didn't went to meet him yesterday and today I was going to meet him, I got the news that he is no more and they buried him. I didn't get a chance to meet him a last time. Never in my heart I knew he came to say goodbye.

[@TheHowardski]

Thats really beautiful ❤

[@bhavnak909]

@@TheHowardski I held some sort of deep connection with him. I really love him. May he be happy, pain free and return with a longer life. A same color dog came to meet me after the incident happened.

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

16:50 "I'll always be grateful to my fellow humans who get what it's like to love and lose a pet." Thanks to everyone here for sharing your stories. It helps to know that this is widely shared ❤

[@michellemu9094]

My Maddy passed away last Friday, she was the sweetest girl I have ever known. She was an extension of myself, and partly of me died with her. I miss her every day and I love her forever. Maddy, I will be strong just like you until we meet again.

[@jorjaysmith5571]

Lost my 16 or 17 year old girl Tengo a month ago yesterday, I had her since she was small enough to fit in my hand. She was such a beautiful and sweet cat. Was the hardest thing I have ever had to do putting her down, but cancer would not let her live in peace, and I couldn’t watch her suffer anymore. The hardest part is trying not to break down in tears every time I think about her.

[@PassBluntBoss]

He was my best friend he lost a battle to cancer. It was yesterday I'm so sad and depressed he helped me get through a hard battle with PTSD he was always there for me and I cant be thankful enough for his love and life Rest in Peace buddy I'll never forget you

[@banaweekidane2630]

I'm sorry for your loss, I had to euthanize my cat today after 13 years she got me through alot, the pain is surreal

[@PassBluntBoss]

​@@banaweekidane2630thanks for the condolences and same to you

[@michaelquillen2679]

Over the years, I've had to say farewell to several animal companions. Yes, I cried over the loss of each one. Why? Because I loved each one. With the loss of each one, I always told myself, “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened” (Dr. Seuss?). Nevertheless, I still cried at first, but found such great comfort in thinking back to all the joy each of them gave me and how good they were for me. My screensaver on my computer is now a rolling photo album of my last two dogs. I love seeing the photos on the screen and fondly think back to all the good times. After the loss of my last dog, I told myself I didn't want any more dogs. Within a month and a half, I adopted a little guy from an unwanted litter. Not to replace my former dog, but to fill the void in my life. My current 67 lbs. of brown and white canine companion goes everywhere with me. He completes my life.

[@christinadodd5780]

I bawled for a month when my dog passed away. He died 13 years ago and still think of him daily. I think of all my passed dogs. I never grieved for humans like I did for my pets.💔😭

[@dianestevens2659]

My dear dog Honey died nearly 3 mths ago aged 9. Very suddenly. I am devastated, blaming myself because I should have seen she was sick. The house is so empty. I just cry on and off all day, feel so sad I will never get over it. I try and listen to other stories that say if you talk to your pet they will send a sign they are ok, I have been praying for this but nothing happens. I feel my life is on hold and I cant see myself getting better. I hope I see her again.

[@sawsansalim2447]

You have just described what I feel right now.

[@dianestevens2659]

@@sawsansalim2447 I hope things will get better for us both and we will see our pets again, best wishes from Qld Australia😢

[@sawsansalim2447]

@@dianestevens2659 thank you so much. God bless you

[@Incrediblestruggle]

I wish we could just sit together and cry and talk about how beloved our dogs were.

[@Roxy_8]

I just lost my 16 year old kitty Simba on 11/27/23. I am thankful he went on his own naturally. I can’t cope with his loss, I miss him too much.

[@samuelpancake4084]

I lost my service dog early he was 6 and i noticed he started drinking alot of water and not eating and took him to the vet and got told his pancreas and liver and kidneys were all shutting down and there was nothing they could do and i had to make the decision to put him down on the spot . This was last week . He loved me till the very end and fell asleep while his head on my lap . I have children and all but the love that dog gave me was almost unbelievable. Im a mess. It doesnt help i jave a 36 year old African gray that is mourning as well and calls for him every few mins

[@nadinabbott3991]

My condolences. We had to put down my boy, also a service dog, last Tuesday. It was an act of love, but it still hurts.

[@silver_crone]

For everyone who commented - thank you. Your vulnerability is helping those of us grieving, years later, as we look for comfort and others who understand. Sharing your stories has made me feel not so all alone, after my Petunia passed suddenly 5 days ago. ❤‍🩹

[@abbykoop5363]

I find that even people who have had pets pass often haven't dealt with their own grief, so if you share your own loss they will often brush it aside so they don't have to feel their own loss again. Or you get the boss who flat out says that the loss of your dog is no excuse to miss a day of work. I've shared my life with 76 pets so far. I currently have 3. That is a TON of loss to carry around.....

[@lauraraneri4250]

Yeah after losing my sweet German shepherd on April 30, 2024 I've been so devastated cuz he had been my constant companion especially after my divorce in 2018. 🥺

[@nikolagajic7522]

I had to put my 10 year old husky to sleep coz of his illness , he died 6 months after my father died from mesothelioma cancer , i wach my father suffered for months at home i cud not wach him suffer too , my father loved him very much and now there are together , when is my time to go i hope he will be there with my father waiting for me . I'm looking forward to see them both again . don't get me wrong i'm not suicidal i just don't view life and death the same way . God forgive me i did not cry when my father died cuz his suffering was ending , but i cried like a little baby for my husky malamute mix . Nothing will help you with the pain , the more you loved your pet the more you are gonna feel pain , Just take comfort in knowing that you are not the only one with that pain and that one day you will see them again .

[@shayt543]

I'm so truly sorry❤❤❤

[@lukec6108]

I lost my Sasha girl today. She was only 5 years old, she developed lymphoma. Its been a tough day, its been a tough couple weeks. All of you in the comments make me feel some comfort knowing that im not alone. Its like a piece of you leaves your soul. it really hurts.

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

11:20 "Opening up is really scary but when you do find someone who gets it, it can feel good" You do you and take the time to mourn as needed. Other animal lovers will get this, here and everywhere ❤

[@miken2kol4u]

A month ago yesterday my family lost our beloved cockatiel Sunshine. His passing came at a shock and surprise to my family. He was honestly the goodest boy even when he was chanting "Am I good boy?!" while he was getting into some kind of mischief around the house. I got him for my wife as we were not having any luck getting pregnant and seeing her want a baby and us having no luck I thought maybe if we were unable to have a baby we had our baby bird. Fast forward we finally got pregnant with twins the end of 2022. Our twins were due at the end of July but were born 13 weeks early in May. Their whole NICU stay was the hardest to watch my wife go through with our twins needing blood transfusions, fighting to breath, eye surgery, getting so sick and needing to be intubated, unable to hold our children until they were DAYS old, she was pumping around the clock and having to drive back and forth and spend most of her day/night at the NICU with our twins. He was her companion in this whole ordeal, he stayed with us exactly 2 months after our twins were brought home. We envisioned the twins and him growing up together since he would have been 2 years old at the end of Novemeber. I am glad he got to meet the twins and get promoted to "big brother", but there is not a day that goes by that we do not miss him dearly.

[@joshjosh8301]

Just lost my Callie girl. I have not been this devastated over loss, since I lost my grandmother when I was 11.

[@MrThekingb]

I just lost my Scrappy that was with us for over 13 years. It has torn my heart and soul in ways i never knew. As he was also a bridge to my son that passed away in the same month 2 years ago. Now he is in heaven with my son. I truly feel a deep loss and will cheeish ever single memory with him. He will always be in my heart and soul. It is truly a beautiful feeling for his unconditional love that i have felt over the years. RIP Scrappy. I Love & Miss You So Much!

[@420dlo65]

My life changed so drastically 21 days ago when my 17 year old baby girl died. My heart hurts constantly.

[@Flyfish325]

My Vet Pennfield Animal Hospital accidentally overprescribed metronidazole an antibiotic to my dog Cooper for 30 days. I asked him any side effects, he said no. 21 days later he couldn't walk, first vet at emergency hospital told me he a back sprain. Two days later Cooper was having seizures, drooling, eye twitching and couldn't stand, I took him back to emergency hospital, second vet said he was a brain issue. I asked both emergency vets could it be toxic, they said no. I had him euthanized. Three days later my local vet called and said he overprescribed metronidazole and for too long, he said Coopers symptoms were caused by the drug reaction, he didn’t have a back sprain or brain issue. The metronidazole could have been stopped and he probably would have been okay. I've been crying for 3 weeks. I don't trust vets anymore. My best friend is gone.

[@boricknight]

Brother this happened wid my pet also but the medicines affected him in 2 days and every thing happened same n he died in pets its very difficult to find the cure so they always give normal medicine without being sure what has happened

[@ProcyonAlpha]

Lost mu little sweet baby girl kitty Cleo last Thursday. She was 15 , long battle with kidney disease but succumbed to heart failure. I am still absolutely devastated, I feel like i have lost a child, we wwre inseparable for 15 years. Im a 39 yr old man and totally broken.

[@kirishima2370]

I lost my 14 year old beagle yesterday. I knew it was coming, I was prepared....except I wasn't, I am overcome with grief. Great waves of it roll in and hit me again and again and I can't hold back the tears. The first time in my 50 years that grief has been so painful I can feel physical pain.

[@nikolagajic7522]

I had to put my 10 year old husky to sleep coz of his illness , he died 6 months after my father died from mesothelioma cancer , i wach my father suffered for months at home i cud not wach him suffer too , my father loved him very much and now there are together , when is my time to go i hope he will be there with my father waiting for me . I'm looking forward to see them both again . don't get me wrong i'm not suicidal i just don't view life and death the same way . God forgive me i did not cry when my father died cuz his suffering was ending , but i cried like a little baby for my husky malamute mix . Nothing will help you with the pain , the more you loved your pet the more you are gonna feel pain , Just take comfort in knowing that you are not the only one with that pain and that one day you will see them again .

[@viewlesscheese]

Experiencing my dog's euthanasia was the most traumatic thing I have ever experienced. I knew she had led a good life and was old and logically it was was time but a part of me still cannot accept it regardless of how illogical it seems. I have lost relatives and friends but nothing has ever hit me as hard as my dog's death - she was at my side for 10 years, going to work and holidays, my wingman and practically my shadow . It's been 8 months and I still cry and think about her daily. I'm known as a big tough guy and my family and friends don't understand it. It's got to the point where I cannot talk about her around people anymore because even though they were understanding in the beginning I know they have had enough. Life just seems so pointless now. I miss you Athena and cannot wait to see you again.

[@jojo-345-z4e]

I just experienced a dog's death at home. I am beating myself up for NOT having her euthanized, because she spent a whole day struggling to breathe. She was old, and she had started having seizures. I had 3 other dogs euthanized in the past. Believe me, it is much better to send them on their way than to watch them suffer, even if it's for a short while. I understand the pointless aspect of it, because your whole routine is broken. But after 8 months, it should be better. Having lost 5 dogs, I understand that the pain lingers forever, but it lessens over time. You might consider talking to a professional a couple times. Best wishes to you.

[@nikolagajic7522]

I had to put my 10 year old husky to sleep coz of his illness , he died 6 months after my father died from mesothelioma cancer , i wach my father suffered for months at home i cud not wach him suffer too , my father loved him very much and now there are together , when is my time to go i hope he will be there with my father waiting for me . I'm looking forward to see them both again . don't get me wrong i'm not suicidal i just don't view life and death the same way . God forgive me i did not cry when my father died cuz his suffering was ending , but i cried like a little baby for my husky malamute mix . Nothing will help you with the pain , the more you loved your pet the more you are gonna feel pain , Just take comfort in knowing that you are not the only one with that pain and that one day you will see them again .

[@rachshaw3672]

My boy passed a month ago and can relate to the pointless feeling. I've lost weight and sleep pattern is a mess. Trying to focus on my company in auto pilot. I miss him so much. Akh 5-11-2024 ❤

[@viewlesscheese]

@@rachshaw3672 I went through the same thing, lost weight, couldn't sleep, pointlessness of life. No one truly understand the loss of a dog if they don't understand the love a person has for their dog. 💕

[@rachshaw3672]

@viewlesscheese yeah I value animals hugely. They are better then most people. Pure souls. I hope we get to see them again one day💗 my other dogs and business are pushing me on but it's really hard still.

[@angelalu5260]

This is my biggest fear right now, it's when that day comes, people just gonna tell me this time will pass and I shouldn't be so sad when all I want to do is talk about how much I miss my good girl and that someone will listen to me and understand.

[@rywolf]

Had to get my amazing cavoodle of 14 years put down today f@:k cancer! I hadn’t seen her in 5 months and I feel terrible, I’ve known her half my life. I’m glad there is videos like this out there, RIP Darcy ❤

[@christinadodd5780]

I live alone with my 2 dogs. I don't have kids or a partner, and I'm not close to family or friends. My dogs mean everything to me and are the reasons I want to keep living. ❤❤🐾🐾

[@RyuNekohime]

Last loss happened two days ago. I took in two senior Hamsters in February, knowing I had no way of knowing how long I’d have them, knowing I’d lose them sooner than I’d like. The female, who just passed, was a lively and fast little lady who would slap her cage wall to be held or let out for a run in a running ball meant for rats so she could speed victory laps around our apartment. She didn’t at all act or seem her age, heck, she was more spry than her nephew - who is half her age! I thought the male would pass first, honestly, because he’s a bit raggedy and thin, he’s slow and obviously showing his age but very loving and gentle. I guess it’s a tortoise and the hare thing… I knew she’d go out blazing, which she did, but it still hurts a lot. I still love and miss her, of course; and I would/will do it all again.

[@luii606]

I just lost my mojo, my son of 14 years and he loved me unconditionally, I can’t stop crying

[@nikolagajic7522]

I had to put my 10 year old husky to sleep coz of his illness , he died 6 months after my father died from mesothelioma cancer , i wach my father suffered for months at home i cud not wach him suffer too , my father loved him very much and now there are together , when is my time to go i hope he will be there with my father waiting for me . I'm looking forward to see them both again . don't get me wrong i'm not suicidal i just don't view life and death the same way . God forgive me i did not cry when my father died cuz his suffering was ending , but i cried like a little baby for my husky malamute mix . Nothing will help you with the pain , the more you loved your pet the more you are gonna feel pain , Just take comfort in knowing that you are not the only one with that pain and that one day you will see them again .

[@levskib4272]

I lost my dog yesterday , he was dying in my home and I live him, he died in my lap I know he will die but I never expect that it was yesterday. I am still crying until now I lost my emotional bond friend

[@laytinkor]

I lost my mini Dachshund Rascal 2 months ago. Rascal was 19 years 4 months when she got her wings. She adopted us at 3 months old. We where inseparable during those years. Each day has Rascal moments . We miss her terribly.

[@SCFLEUR]

I had to put my cat to sleep on 10/21 😔. Still so sad I miss my Kitty. She gave me 16 years of joy. 🌈🐈

[@kirakiszka]

i just unexpectedly lost my baby girl izzy yesterday after having her for 6 years, where she helped me heal and become who i am now, nothing could ever have compared to the love and kindness she showed me throughout those years, and i know, even now, she will be by my side for the remaining time i have left in this life, i pray, and i hope, to see her again some day, for now, i know she will guide me to a pet, that she knows i will love as much as i love her, and that i will be able to feel her love through them.

[@carolynnmathisen8754]

Thank you so much! What a great perspective. I lost my beloved mare in 2017 and still can’t get over her

[@annebijo]

I just lost my 17 year old tabby cat my first baby boy I’ve had for nearly 2/3rd of my life gone all of a sudden I don’t wish this pain of pet loss on my worst enemy I’m so broken 😞

[@TheHowardski]

Very sorry to hear this but It's not the end, just the return to oneness....Nothing with a consciousness dies we just leave our earth bodies to rejoin the light.

[@annebijo]

@@TheHowardski thank u for this ❤️ it really gave me comfort

[@tanK7528]

My 17 year old cat went to heaven on Friday and I feel the same 😞 broken, shattered, lost… it really is such a brutal pain and my only comfort is the hope that he is in heaven. I’ve never thought about heaven until my cat died and I just want heaven to be real for him cos he deserves the best and an eternity of happiness like he gave me 🩵

[@golin3760]

I just lost my cat Johnny yesterday. I'm devastated. I've never felt pain like this. It is brutal.

[@annebijo]

@@golin3760 I know how you feel I can’t believe it’s been 2 weeks already but still feels like yesterday. I miss mine so much too but just remember the good times you’ve had with your beloved cat, he knows that he’s been loved and cared for all his life and that’s what matters the most. Think about the happy memories he’s brought you to your life and the love and joy. He knows he’s been cared for and he’s lived a happy life with you. You did all you could but just know that he doesn’t have to suffer anymore and his soul is at peace in heaven waiting for you.

[@Xxxxkejti]

I miss you so much Kredka. I hate it here without you babygirl. 😥🌈🐰

[@COLLETTETHOMAS]

I had to send my 14 year old Peekapoo Sugie to the Rainbow Bridge yesterday. I had her since she was 3 months old. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do. I was with her every day practically for all those 14 years. I never felt that loneliness I felt after my husband died 21 years ago. She kept it at bay. She was my best friend, my constant companion, my fur baby. She has sent me signs so I know she's okay. Still, the devastation I feel makes me glad I'm old at 77 and won't have as many years to spend without her here. I look forward to being with her again at the Rainbow Bridge. I made sure she had a good passing with my local vet. I held her, kissed her, sang to her and made sure the last words she heard was my voice telling her I love you Sugie. She died from acute renal failure, and though I tried, nothing anyone could do to save her.

[@morsecode5078]

I truly feel that our pets are waiting for us in Heaven. I’m sorry for your loss. I’m experiencing a similar loss as well.

[@jessicakoch2331]

I just lost my best friend Nico yesterday. It was so sudden, I am so grateful that I have my friends who have let me vent and cry to them. He was my everything and I wish I could spend more than the 15.5 years with him. It isn’t fair that they don’t live as long, I’d give everything to bring my soul pup back. Nico I love you.

[@j87waldo]

Big fur baby hugs from me to you ours had to go away on Tuesday cancer and old age

[@snehlatasingh6901]

I lost my pet a month ago. She was like my child. She died because of overdose of injections. I feel guilty for taking her state veterinary hospital. She died because of my wrong choices. She was just 5year 11 month old. I miss her so much. I messed up everything. Nothing feels same anymore. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to live anymore.

[@kimathis]

Don’t give up. You didn’t do this intentionally

[@DougieForlano]

Just lost our Yorkie and cried throughout this talk she was my baby girl! Athena is an Angel love how her ting would hang out and how she would frolic in the field. Not having here here hurts bad. I’m sad but happy I got to have a slice of life with her ❤

[@nikolagajic7522]

I had to put my 10 year old husky to sleep coz of his illness , he died 6 months after my father died from mesothelioma cancer , i wach my father suffered for months at home i cud not wach him suffer too , my father loved him very much and now there are together , when is my time to go i hope he will be there with my father waiting for me . I'm looking forward to see them both again . don't get me wrong i'm not suicidal i just don't view life and death the same way . God forgive me i did not cry when my father died cuz his suffering was ending , but i cried like a little baby for my husky malamute mix . Nothing will help you with the pain , the more you loved your pet the more you are gonna feel pain , Just take comfort in knowing that you are not the only one with that pain and that one day you will see them again .

[@crissycattuzzo1460]

We lost our precious angel, Yoshi a few days ago when 2 big dogs came onto our property and brutally killed him. Yoshi was a miniature schnauzer and he was my best friend, the love of my life, my true soul mate and i feel like I’m dying of a broken heart! Anyone that knew us would laugh and make fun of me for baby talking him 24/7. That was our language. Always telling him how beautiful, sweet, and loving he is. NOW WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? He’s IRREPLACEABLE! I feel so alone and haven’t slept since Tues, it’s now Friday! Death would be easier! 🥹🥲💔

[@clarsschannel9129]

I feel you but we must move forward, we will meet our fur babies again in heaven at the right time.

[@teresahiggs4896]

I lost my 15 year old cat, Phugazy…..diabetes, disgestive disorders, and kidney failure . We we tried so hard , the vet and I over months,…I spent thousands hoping we could get his problems resolved and he could have a good quality life….but he kept getting worse and worse and developing more and more issues. . But he couldn’t keep anything down , so his blood sugar would go crazy… And he went from seeing the vet once a month, to once a week , with Emergency vet visits them almost every day he would have a crisis and have to go to he vet….and he HATED and was so scared at the vet . I just couldn’t keep,putting him through all that , just so I wouid t loose him. I had to let him go. He passed away in my arms…. He knew he was loved, so loved! ……I’m bawling as I type this ….I miss him so much! Poor baby had so many healthy issues over the years and he had a severe anxiety disorder all his life , but he was such a wonderful, special cat . I’ll miss him forever. I’ve lost so many cats and dogs over the years…I still grieve for them all.

[@lauraapplehoff2267]

I hope you are not so nervous in the future because you are sending such a beautiful message to us all and I thank you!! Stop being nervous and realize that you are doing a great service to humanity!! .... So much love to you!! Be Confidant in your path please!! :)

[@ashleybellerose7104]

My eyes hurt from my crying. My nose hurts from my nose running. My beautiful boy died today

[@shayt543]

I am truly sorry❤❤❤❤

[@JoanneDavies-k8w]

I’m so sorry, I know what you’re going through, I had to have both my 15 yr old dog and 19 yr old cat put to sleep last Tuesday. I feel heartbroken and can’t stop crying. I dread coming home to silence and cry every time I have to walk through the door. Sending you hugs ❤😢

[@DaveBussell-v9z]

We are going to lose our wonderful male cat Rags in a few hours. He has been the greatest cat ever, a beautiful gray and white boy with large paws. Our other cats respected him as the elder statesman. We believe he is close to 20 years old. He has been so durable and loving. I will never forget him. He showed up on our front porch with his best friend Rocky all those years ago. Rags fur was matted. That is why we called him Rags or Raggy but once we brushed and untangled his fur he was an extremely handsome boy. We lost Rocky a few years ago. We will bury Rags by his side. I would give just about anything to have both of them with me forever.

[@marion-v6o]

It's been a month since I lost my dog of 18 years and it still hurts. I hope she's running through grass fields and snacking on her favourite treats all day.

[@Verbsdescribeus]

Actually, everyone should talk about the benefits of caring for a pet with all the responsibilities involved. With all the neglect cases I see at my vet in this decade, I truly believe that not all people are meant to have a pet. Neglecting an animal until he or she becomes sick and dies at the vet it is a crime!

[@jimonalimb]

Great and helpful talk in my time of loss. I wish that TEDx was able to fix the abrupt cut off. Thank you!

[@gracefulgirl8153]

Thank you, EB, for this immensely sensitive, true, and beautifully presented talk. Your words really helped me. My grief over the loss of my senior pet is very deep, and my heart is broken beyond repair right now. I do have friends that understand and "get it", but this grief journey is going to take time. I'm crushed, but I adored my little one, treated him with love, devotion, and respect, loved spoiling him and know he loved his life as much as I dearly loved him. ❤🙏 Peace and love to my little love, and to everyone here. ❤️🌈🐾❤️🐾

[@TheVoiceInYourHeadd]

We are with you in our pain. Hope you are recovering well

[@gracefulgirl8153]

@@TheVoiceInYourHeadd Thank you so much. Your kind words are very comforting. ❤️

[@TheVoiceInYourHeadd]

@@gracefulgirl8153 I understand all too well dear. We made it past the first few days. That is the toughest part. Know that you were a great pet parent and that you shared a beautiful love that many will never know or understand. That is a beautiful gift to be cherished forever. I don't like to ruin surprises but you will see your boy again. Keep the faith and find your strength to make it through

[@Verbsdescribeus]

as a pet owner for life, i am convinced that their pure love stay with us forever :)

[@RohanChoppin]

Lost my doggie soul mate last night. Thank you for the video.

[@seemabyusuf616]

I lost my cat today I have never felt this kind of pain

[@dm9860]

Important video, we all have a hole in our hearts after our beloved dog and cat and pets die. 🕯️☹️💔🐾🐾💔☹️🕯️

[@larryp4995]

we just buried part of our family TODAY ..LOLA.. I'm very HEART BROKEN she will be missed

[@clarsschannel9129]

I lost my 3 months old puppy and my lovely kitten in just a day. It's been 2 days and i feel so guilt and i blame myself coz my dog was got hitted by a car and he immediately died, i didn't have the courage to look my pet dead body. I lock my room when i hear the bad news and cried. I'm so sad to think that i lost them both and i have negligence why it happen. I hope i will be okay someday. It hurts so much thinking that he's the best gift i've received this year but i lost him :< missing my baby everyday

[@albertrodriguez4190]

I lost my 8yr old shepherd today RIP Chief

[@Mimi-Mimi668]

The downside of love is grief

[@siat11]

I had to put my dog of 14 years Woody down yesterday. The decision and pain of losing him is brutal and devastating!

[@j87waldo]

Our 13 year old 7 pound Chihuahua had to leave earth side the 2nd we are so sad 😭

[@dcavfactory]

So thankful for this. Thank you

[@madtrapper6186]

Put my 11 year old maltipoo down 4 days ago. Digestive issues. Tried lots over the summer with different medicine, but wasn't working. He couldn't keep weight on and food would just go through him. Spent about $1,100 on vet bills trying to fix it, but nothing was working. Miss how he'd hop up on my lap and put his front paws on my chest and stare into my eyes and lick my nose. I'd scratch his ears and kiss him back. I miss him lots, but I know it was the right decision to make.

[@jennyli7780]

We lost our dog- Casper last night . It is really really sad…

[@bellab4be]

lost mine last night as well. i’m going through the worst emotions

[@carolglover3582]

Ohhh I’m sorry

[@romaineknepp6620]

Thank you for sharing this talk with us.

[@shayt543]

I just had my dog put down today from mouth cancer, I cannot Express my sadness 😭😭😭😭😭

[@KiraLou06]

😢

[@shayt543]

She had to pass, I couldn't see her going through pain, she had throat and mouth cancer, she didn't deserve to suffer! It's only been two days and I'm heartbroken, and in a dark hole 😭😭😭she was my baby girl!

[@amiinamo]

I just lost my cat almost 3 hours ago. I feel.. extremely sad

[@rudyrude8542]

I so sorry for your loss. My 13 year old dog passed away on Monday October 16. My heart is broken and my life will never be the same.

[@amiinamo]

@@rudyrude8542 I’m so sorry for your loss aswell😞 Hope you’ll heal soon and may they rest in peace🩷

[@jaredwhitaker2795]

Lost my dog tonight. Walked into a house covered in blood. The two males fought over a female in heat and my boy Taz died. Blood everywhere. Had to bury him at 1 am. Its not 4 am. I am so lost. I am so numb. I just want to cry but i cant. It sucks. I just want to mourn but ive got so many coping mechanisms for trauma from a young age. I just want to cry. It doesnt seem real.

[@rachshaw3672]

Aw thats so sad

[@tonyyero7231]

Thank You for sharing ❤

[@GenerationJones-zq6sg]

I just lost my little grrl kitty, yesterday. I'm shattered.

[@silvaadourian3185]

Me too I’m a mess I don’t want to live 😢😢😢😢😢

[@daze4341]

​@@silvaadourian3185I didn't either even though I have a fiance and physical earthly possessions , it didn't matter . I will live to keep her memory alive in my heart and behave/ live in ways she can look down on me and be proud of her cat daddy .

[@MaryannWaterfield]

I love my Max. He passed away with dressed cancer and sad. He was always with me he love me and I loved him. Always love my Max my pet. Thank you. My name is Maryann.❤

[@nerd9347.]

They always start as pets. They become your family.

[@warmbloodydew]

Thank you for this. I just loss my soul 13 kitty with an accident. She had metastasized cancer but still doing good. I failed her

[@TheHowardski]

You haven't failed, It was her time to go. Life is Eternal. She is one of Gods creations. You will see her again, one day.❤

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

I'm so sorry for your loss 😢. Your kitty knows that you loved her and wouldn't do anything to harm her. She knows it was an accident. My deepest condolences, and take care ❤

[@warmbloodydew]

@@Here4TheHeckOfIt thank you for your kind word

[@warmbloodydew]

@@TheHowardski ❤️

[@DivineStar37]

My dog passed 5 months ago and it feels like a million life times and my heart is so broken :(

[@spencerwise2256]

I’m here after losing my cat of 16 years and I’m shattered. I can’t believe how much it hurts. Does it get easier? I know it’s a selfish question but this is so hard.

[@828enigma6]

We had to put down our 18 yo Jack Chi , Daisy, that we had since her birth. Today, 14 months later, I am tearing up as I write of her. Don't know if I'll ever get over our loss. We were blessed not to have lost a child . Don't know if if Daisy's death would be any worse or easier than the loss of a child. Perhaps having to euthanize her made it worse.

[@maluisatorres8784]

my two beloved dog died a year a ago I still miss them so much even though I have a new dog now I still miss my two darlings chichi (6yrs old) soonyang (7yrs old)😢

[@Verbsdescribeus]

whoa... why so young? my dog is 11 and the other was was 16 when she passed away...