Our pets: rethinking the way we say goodbye | Jackie Campbell | TEDxSouthBank

Dr Jackie Campbell is a palliative care veterinarian, providing support and pain relief for our fluffy and furry family members in times of need. In this talk, Jackie shares how she works to help families better navigate the challenges of end of life decision making for our pets.
Dr Jackie Campbell is a veterinarian who will warm your heart. Passionate in equal measures about her patients and about the families who care for them, Jackie often becomes a lifeline for her clients during their most difficult of days. As the director of one of Queensland’s first palliative care services for pets, she manages a team of veterinarians who are working to help families better navigate the challenges of end of life decision making.
Alongside this important work, Jackie is the Brisbane clinic co-ordinator for a charity that brings together volunteer vets and nurses, in order to provide free veterinary care for pets of people experiencing homelessness in our community. The Pets in the Park initiative recognises and supports the bond that homeless people have with their pets and works to improve the health and wellbeing of these vital companions.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@ArthurMoore-ii8nn]

God really screwed up. Dogs should live until 75 and humans should have a 17 year maximum lifespan!

[@jackhill9304]

That wouldn't be fair to the dog.

[@INSINDIA1]

I strongly believe the same.....

[@flowerchild7820]

I put my best buddy of 15 years to rest yesterday and I was thinking the same thing :(

[@maileensoundso1547]

yea and than the dog sits alone in a shelter and is put down if nobody adopts it. great.

[@ThePrincessfunk]

@@flowerchild7820 I’m so sorry for the lost of your baby. Yesterday morning I lost the love of my life, my baby cat of 14 yrs Patitas and I’m numb and empty. Having to choose an urn by tomorrow morning and all I can think is how the f am I going to do that? I’m completely broken so I understand how you may feel and I’m sendings you a hug.

[@ricardoistudla8641]

For all of those who need to hear this now. I love you and I am so sorry you are going through this pain and sorrow. You are not alone. I am going down this path too with my 12 year old girl who has cancer. I suffer daily and I am trying to do the best I can for her. It's seems unbearable at times until I look into her eyes. She is the sweetest girl and has been so loved by family and I and will continue to be loved until her last minutes when I send her on her way with my loves, kisses, and hugs. We can and make it through this friends. Sending you all prayers, love, and support.

[@Gee360]

It's agonizing being in that in between of knowing what's to come. I'm there now with my 11 year old baby. She has heart failure and were taking it one day at a time. My heart is broken and I just want to know when it's time. I hope she tells me, someway, somehow. I have never felt this amount of heartache.

[@ricardoistudla8641]

@@Gee360 I am so sorry to hear that about your baby. It is truly one of the hardest things to go through. I still grieve everyday but also smile a lot when I think of her. You will make it through this, I promise. I didn't believe when someone told me I would know when it's time. I was so worried about that but somehow I knew and you will too. I pray and send you, your fur baby, and family prayers and much love to get though this. She is so loved and you can tell. You both have enjoyed a great journey together so enjoy every minute you have left. She will never leave you and will forever be part of your heart.

[@Gee360]

@ricardoistudla8641 Thank you for your prayers and words of encouragement. Means a lot. Your sweet girl is still with you, waiting to see you again one day. That is what I tell my baby during the time we still have. It won't be a goodbye, more like I'll see you soon. I know she will be waiting for me also.

[@romanstarrtattoos]

my baby girl is dying right now and has been now for a week. I have been with her every moment letting her know I love her and hoping she is ok and passes although I already miss her. She is a Bichon Frise 15 years old and has been with me her entire life. the first night home, she pee'd on my chest marking me as her human and always has a smile on her face. I have cried more this week than I have in my entire life. I will miss this little girl so much.

[@chloetaylor6339]

Lost my 8 year old baby a few weeks ago and nothing has been the same since. My house is so quiet, too quiet. I still find myself crying most nights because he’s not by my side.

[@quinndymond1749]

I lost mine on Monday.. that is exactly how I feel too. The quiet is so overwhelming

[@gratefulmusichealthylife]

Same here💔

[@jamesharrison2570]

I had a Doberman for 13 years. She died 36 years ago. I’m still grieve

[@jamesharrison2570]

I’m 70. I found out I have leukemia. I will be with her soon

[@yuvonnstarks10]

GOD BLESS YOU, HUNNY. I PRAY THAT U HAVE FOUND ANOTHER FURBABY TO FILL UR HEART AND DAYS.GOD BLESS

[@jimd310]

The hardest words I've ever spoken? It's okay, puppy. You can go now.

[@faybelle2991]

rip

[@jimd310]

Buster was eleven years old, but I would call him puppy.

[@Samantha-hv8ft]

I called my 7 year old pug “puppy” until the end too ❤️

[@marc3095]

@@jimd310 they’re always puppies :’)

[@SuzanneDeniseB]

sighs. My old girl is not well. Its so hard to say goodbye.

[@valkhorn]

Very good talk. This is much better than a lot of the delusional stuff that's out there about coping with the loss of a pet. I recently lost my pet of almost 13 years, and in my vulnerability it would have been easy to fall into a lot of unhealthy traps and unhealthy thinking instead of dealing with grief in a sensible and respectful manner. It's difficult to say goodbye, and it's incredibly hard to make the decision to let them go. It was insanely difficult for me. But, I feel at peace knowing she's at peace, she's not in any pain, and even though I have no idea about the afterlife and what lies ahead, I do know that her life here on Earth was as good as I could make it, and she gave me as much love as she possibly could. That helps me not to worry about the next steps when we die. It helps me to focus on life now. Finally, it only helps me to appreciate the love and the life of my dog more than I ever have before. Sorrow is the price we pay for allowing so much love in our life, and as hard as it is, it's really a small price to pay for all that love.

[@sandralujan1199]

Im having to make the painful decision to put my 12yr old rescue down. Seizures have taken over and its time. Im on here looking for some sort of relief. Your message of the pain is well worth the large amount of love being worth it. Is helping me a lot. Thank you for that.

[@rubychurch3466]

I think valkhorn, you’ve written the most eloquent and true passage I’ve ever read. RIP to your pet.

[@tonyportillo1120]

@valkhorn, Reading you has helped me a lot. From the deepest of my heart, your thought Just showed up in the moment I needed the most

[@magali.bazzano]

Thank you for your last sentence. It is so profound.

[@kellilien1736]

My parents were pet lovers and I grew up with several. I can honestly say I am most grateful for having pets, beyond everything else. I remember how they died and, in many instances, it was traumatic for me. I loved them so much. Today I am a senior citizen, still loving animals as I do, and am mindful on a daily basis how much I love our little dog, Stella. She is so important to our family. If I get to heaven someday, I am going to look for my pets first. That would truly be "heaven" for me.

[@yuvonnstarks10]

I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY!!! I'VE BEEN ALIVE LONG ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT ANIMALS ARE MUCH BETTER THAN PEOPLE FOR UR HEART AND SOUL. I TOO AM LOOKING FOR MY FURBABIES FIRST...BUT PRAY MY MOMMA N DADDY ARE STANDING THERE WITH THEM.

[@MaiaBrown]

Just lost my baby on Friday. I am soo heartbroken. He was the best pup I could ask for. It had been a long 13 years. 😢💕

[@SteviReads]

Maia Brown I’m so sorry for your loss, they are in a better place now ❤️

[@ThePrincessfunk]

I know the crazy surreal feeling I lost my 14 yrs old baby cat yesterday morning and I’m lost, everything is a blur and nothing matters anymore. Sending you a hug

[@Lionforaday]

@@ThePrincessfunk Same today. I fell your pain, or something very like it. Today I'm lost. I can only hope that this feeling doesn't last forever.

[@ThePrincessfunk]

@@Lionforaday I’m very sorry for your lost and I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. I felt myself detaching from the situation in the vets room because it was too much to handle and since then I’m just blocked and I can’t go to that place where I can grieve. I can’t explain it and I hope you don’t think I’m crazy but I know is him Patitas my cat protecting me. There’s moments here n there when I feel he’s allowing to miss him but I know he doesn’t want me to. The bond I had with him is beyond this world and my beliefs are different then most people and he knows it and use it to communicate with me all the time thru music and electronic devices. He’s always with me as your beloved one is with you too. Closed your eyes talk to him with your heart and listen. Pay attention to all your surroundings as messages can come in any form. We’re not alone my friend and our babies are watching us so we can’t let them down, we have to make them proud and they are for sure helping us from the ether. Much love my friend, take care and if u need to talk I’m here 😸🐶💖

[@Lionforaday]

@@ThePrincessfunk I can't thank you enough for that incredibly kind and helpful message. Like you, I too detached in the vet's office - it's the first time I've ever dissociated from a situation in my life, but now I know what that means. I'm ashamed to say this, but I need to tell someone and so perhaps it's best that it's not family and friends, who might judge me - I can't believe this, but the vet asked me if I wanted to hold her in those final moments, and I said yes, but then I just didn't pick her up. Why didn't I? I'm haunted by the realization that she wasn't in my arms when she left this world. I had my arms around her on the table, but I didn't scoop her up and hold her safely in my arms. I feel dreadful guilt about this, and honestly, if I had it to do over again? I'd have asked them to take out the catheter, and whisked her away with me back home. I know her time was coming, but it didn't have to be that day - and not that way. Like you, I have to block-out this memory for now - when I think about it, I feel a pain in my chest and it feels like I can't breathe. I'm so glad that your friend has been able to return to communicate with you. This must bring you tremendous comfort, as well as hope. I haven't felt anything from Miss Bea :( Perhaps with time.

[@paulhume8083]

I have never experienced anything like the pain as the loss of a dog. It's been 18 months and I still can't handle it.

[@mischapiru9514]

I am sorry for your great loss. Unfortunately I understand your pain, you are not alone.

[@rosaspinosa85]

Just lost my souldog the other day. She was a huge part of my life, of our family. She was in pain, even with cannabinoids, cortisone and tramadol, she was crying with pain and unable to get up to have a drink or to make herself comfortable. Even on her wheelchair she was in pain. On her bed. Everywhere. I know it was the right choice to let her go, but I still feel guilty that I couldn't do more. I told her she was the best dog in the world, that I loved her, that I'm sorry I can't help more and that it was okay to go, that she can rest now. She is gone, and she took a large piece of my heart and soul with her.

[@tigerspiritjourney]

@@rosaspinosa85 I'm going through exactly this, right now....Take good care of yourself...🙏

[@rosaspinosa85]

@@tigerspiritjourney I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. It's unbearable. It's been two weeks and the wound is still fresh, I still cry every day, and my two year old constantly asks where she is then gets upset when she remembers that she's not coming back. My husband came home from work crying the other day because he found some dog hair in his car on the way home. We're all just so broken at the moment, but we know we did the right thing and it will get better, even though we will always miss her. You hang on in there, I'll be thinking of you and your darling dog.

[@tigerspiritjourney]

@@rosaspinosa85 Thank you so much for your kind words...My husband is also devastated, cannot eat or even sleep much.. I still have our Paco's blanket that he passed away on, on the sofa and stop to breathe in his scent many times during the day, talk to him...Other times I feel like I can't breathe at all...I take great comfort and solace knowing he is not in any more pain, but the sorrow will probably never go away completely. I'm thinking of you and your family, and send lots of hugs from Sweden...💕

[@jonjon8051]

I was at work when my cat died, I didn’t get to say goodbye to him, I wish I had, I regret a lot of things. I grieve every time I think of him, whoever got the chance to say goodbye to your best friend, trust me, there is nothing else more painful than not saying one last goodbye to your pet.

[@larrymarcus3176]

I had to put down my wire fox terrier on July 5. She was in great pain and all I could do was get her to emergency vet for her end of pain. She didn’t know us she just wanted the pain to end. We ended it peacefully and humanly. The loss of our north star our family member our beloved hurts. There are no words to articulate what a broken heart feels like. Your pets death would not have been any less painful if you were there. We like to think of losing our family all gathered around and supporting each other and although this is nice, the sting of loss is the same. Your pets last thoughts I’m sure was if you. That was their comfort. I wasn’t present for any of my other dogs passing. Just couldn’t do it. For her I had to and it wasn’t any easier. It was actually harder seeing her life leave her as fast as a breeze. The only respite was her pain ended-mine began. Don’t beat yourself up for not physically being there your heart was within

[@250r6]

On the 9th my 3 year old cat died at 8 am just a few minutes after i woke up his death stare still haunts me

[@janetslicer3637]

I am so sorry. That had and is the most difficult thing. I know how devastated I would be if I was not home. My heart goes out to you. ♥️🙏😢

[@macymarquez160]

⁠@@larrymarcus3176thank you for your story. I just put down my dog of 11 years and I am in extreme pain. Your words make me feel a bit better.

[@sixclocks]

I know I gave my dog the best life I could and I loved her dearly. When I had to put Mongo down it was then that I realized how deeply I truly loved her. It was a week ago and I cry every day.

[@johnnycrash3270]

I lost my best friend of 18 years I never had any children so 'KITTY' was my baby the last few months I had made kitty's home a palliative care environment for her and I really believe she knew that in her final days that she was LOVED SOO MUCH kitty continued to try to purr and to try to groom herself but the morning of Sunday May 10/2020 I knew it was time and so did KITTY I was just about to take her on her last journey but when I held her something very strong came through her little body and I Layed her down on the grass out in the little yard that she loved so much sat down beside kitty and she passed away very peacefully with the person that she loved and trusted for 18 years . we will meet again some day KITTY R.I.P.

[@jakobaljaz705]

i cried reading this, you are an amazing human being. The ones we love never die, r.i.p. Kitty

[@johnnycrash3270]

@@jakobaljaz705 Thank you Jakob ps: she was never in any pain the veterinarian gave me and showed me how to adminster a introvenus mild pain sedative to keep KITTY comfortable in her final days 😂

[@kite6864]

@@johnnycrash3270 sounds like a good vet...that's sweet she was able to rest in a favorite spot. sometimes it's just easier to let them go naturally when possible

[@candiwalker2448]

I too am crying for you and the loss of your beloved "Kitty" You WILL be reunited one day and the best of her in spirit is still present

[@markbauer3937]

Dogs are some of the most human beings I've ever encountered. Their love is steadfast and unconditional. It is a timeless, unbreakable bond between man and his best friend. They provides us with the happiest days and times of our lives. They also provide us with one of the saddest days a human can ever experience during their lifetime. Dogs are what humans should aspire to be like in terms of love, loyalty, friendship, trust, dedication, and a deep lifelong connection. Dogs are man's best friend and they remain our guardian angels after they're gone. Their love is more powerful and words can describe. In most cases, I'd pick dogs over people any day every day. God Bless them all.

[@aguywhodoesstuff1116]

Dogs arent human beings but they are morally much better than us and don't deserve such short lives. If only they had more time. Dogs are better than humans and that is a FACT.

[@honkhonk1555]

@@aguywhodoesstuff1116 I agree, but I think a lot of that has to do with them not being able to understand the things we can, and become jaded. Same goes for very young children IMHO.

[@mischapiru9514]

I can say the same about cats.

[@mischapiru9514]

@@honkhonk1555here comes the scientist

[@honkhonk1555]

@@mischapiru9514 tRuSt ThE sOyEnCe

[@michellenorwood5846]

I lost my lab rott today at 12 noon. She had cancer and it was throughout her body. ZOEY was her name. I will miss her forever. I love you my fur baby.

[@annetteallen6521]

I lost my beautiful 2 yr old cat from Tick Fever a week ago.I raised her from a kitten. My other cat and I are in mourning. She calls out to her all day and night. If anyone tries to tell me that they don't feel grief, I will punch them. The vet and his staff were terrible. He needs to watch this video.

[@cathrynmclean7624]

I lost my dog a week ago. he was 17, deaf, partially sighted, cataracts, and suffering what seemed to be dementia and memory loss. At the end of his life he was not knowing fully aware of where he was. It was very sad to see him decline. He was unable to climb steps or stairs or walk far. I had carried him up and down stairs to bed with me for the past three months. I knew it was time to let him go when after carrying him downstairs in the morning he didnt know how to get outside and I had to carry him out into the garden too. I made an appointment at the end of the day when it was quiet and near closing. As part of his normal care and duties the vet was at all times empathetic, considerate gentle soft voiced and kind..understanding my dogs feelings and mine. There was no suffering to my boy and minimal to me. The vet had about 40 years experience. The vet came out to the car when I arrived and in a very calm manner gave him an injection to put him into a deep sleep in my arms he left us alone to say goodbye. Once asleep I carried him into the prepared surgery room for the euthanasia. I laid him on a bed on the table he was in a very deep sleep. The vet gave him the euthanasia and left us alone again. For as long as we wanted to say goodbye. Of course I broke down later at home but remained calm and together for my dog. I didnt want any drama or sad feelings projecting onto him. It was well managed and I felt very lucky to have had this kind of care and consideration at this time. I believe it takes life experience to understand this part of veterinary care process and should be only carried out by very experienced vets preferably at home or in very familiar surroundings in peace and tranquility.

[@andydufresne5297]

Thank you for posting this, Cathryn. My dog is almost 16 and is edging steadily closer to what you described in your first couple of sentences. I think it will be his time soon. I wish I could just have a vet come to my home, but at least you gave me a good idea of how to approach this with the vet when the time comes. It's really sad to see your faithful friend suddenly not recognizing you anymore and kind of hobbling around like the little old man that he is, not seeing or hearing or walking well... Riley and I have been on a journey for 16 years together, just the two of us, and now it's coming to an end, and it's hard to see him already moving on, knowing that I won't be following, that I'll still be here. At times like this, I wish I were religious, so I could take comfort in the idea that this is all part of god's divine plan, but I'm not a believer.

[@violet9853]

@@andydufresne5297 you don't have to be religious to feel God's love all around you when you are with your beloved pet. When my best friend left this world, I asked him to let me know when he got to the other side. When he went into that deep sleep, it was only about 5 min when I heard him greet me and my son, he said, "I'm so happy, I'm running all over the place." I cried for joy. When I"m sad cause I miss him so, he says. "I'm still here, mom!" Listen, they will speak to you. ❤

[@fabiocaetanofigueiredo1353]

I wish my doctor was able to do for me what your vet did to your dog, when my time comes. We humans should have such right, in my opinion.

[@sceneAMERIKA]

@@andydufresne5297 look it up online and see what's in your area but you can have them do it at home. My baby was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer and they say I probably have two or three months left with him. I'm already setting up with a place called Lap of Love and they offer hospice if you want it and at home euthanasia. They will also take the body if you want them to and they can either have it cremated privately and return the Ashes to you or they do community cremation with other pets and spread their ashes at a local Farm. I hope this helps. I can't bear to force my baby to get into the car that scares him to go to a vet's office that scares him make him lay down on a metal table and get handled by a stranger that scares him and then poked with needles that hurt and scare him. Thank God that my last gift to him will be to go to sleep peacefully at home where he feels safe and loved.

[@andydufresne5297]

​@@sceneAMERIKA ​Thank you for replying, Shannon. I'm sorry for what you're going through now. I'm glad you are setting up a plan. Riley passed away September 21, 2019, 2 months shy of age 16. Though I could not have him euthanized at home, I live about 8 minutes from the vet, who opened his office earlier than normal that morning just for me. The vet also helped me bring Riley inside. It was quiet; the vet, his wife, and I were the only ones there. Afterward they took care of having the private cremation done, as you mentioned. He's a kind vet, and I'm satisfied I did the best I could under the circumstances. After that day, I did a lot of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to help get myself through the first couple of weeks. I HIGHLY recommend it.

[@alittlewheiser521]

The Last Battle If it should be that I grow frail and weak And pain should keep me from my sleep, Then will you do what must be done, For this - the last battle - can't be won. You will be sad I understand, But don't let grief then stay your hand, For on this day, more than the rest, Your love and friendship must stand the test. We have had so many happy years, You wouldn't want me to suffer so. When the time comes, please, let me go. Take me to where to my needs they'll tend, Only, stay with me till the end And hold me firm and speak to me Until my eyes no longer see. I know in time you will agree It is a kindness you do to me. Although my tail its last has waved, From pain and suffering I have been saved. Don't grieve that it must be you Who has to decide this thing to do; We've been so close - we two - these years, Don't let your heart hold any tears. - Unknown

[@reneeraw6927]

A Little Wheiser thank you for sharing those beautiful words.❤️❤️🐾❤️❤️

[@lesliehughesRN96]

I keep crying and feeling so guilty because I was not properly educated educated on how to handle him in his last few hours. He died after 5pm and of course they were already closed. I still feel so guilty. He was gasping for air. His heartbeat was the last to go. I feel so traumatized by his death. We were together fir 13 years and I can’t seem to move on from his recent death.

[@absgarcia6911]

@@lesliehughesRN96 forgive yourself, our babies love is unconditional, you didn’t know when the right time was, your poor heart Lundy heart to make that choice either., I am struggling with my baby and his terminal illnesses ( he has three ) I’ve taken him to reg vets (3 ) , holistic vets, cardiologists , and second opinions. Our babies want to stay with us & we can’t bear to let them go. do not blame yourself, you did all you could. He’s in a.better pace now. Hold onto the good memories, not his last day here with you. You are a good mommy ♥️🐾

[@alittlewheiser521]

@Kube Dog Is Back how odd....people have read it and commented.

[@Mike-gd4zd]

I cried reading that. Beautiful and just what I needed. I had to put my beautiful five year old and long-haired Shih Tzu ‘Mia’ to sleep last week. She unexpectedly lost the use of her hind legs within two days and then we had to make the heartbreaking decision due to the extreme financial and pain threshold costs for her. She was also a registered therapy pet for nursing homes, hospitals and special need schools. Our neighbours called her ‘little madamé. She was so precious, and I’ve taken the grief of losing her very heavily.

[@dalekdx]

My laptop's background image is a 12 year old photo of me walking my eight dogs that I had at the time. Out of the eight dogs I used to have, only one is still alive. Jasmine is 15 1/2 years old now and she isn't long for the world. I used to be devastated when I would lose a dog (or cat) and it would take months to recover from it. But, my dog Sooner changed how I handle the loss of someone or something doing that. that I love. I rescued Sooner about a decade earlier and my friend and neighbor behind me adopted him and took care of him for seven years. After my friend died, I adopted Sooner. Every photo I have a Sooner shows him with a big smile on his face. His purpose in life was to bring joy to others and he never missed a day doing that. Nobody could have asked for a better dog than Sooner. I was naturally upset the day Sooner died and when I started to cry about it, I envisioned Sooner being there and trying to cheer me up. I realized the last thing in world Sooner would want is for anyone to be unhappy. From that moment forward when I lose a pet (or person) I think about what I loved about them and feel lucky to have spent time with them.

[@auberjean6873]

Dale Blake this is exactly the gratitude that makes life a joy. You inspire.

[@ainefitzgerald9205]

thank you for this post - so helpful :-)

[@jeanellematthews5177]

Thank you.

[@SarahNotSara]

Thank you for your words.

[@annemarshall844]

@@jeanellematthews5177That really touched my heart. Beautifully said. 😻💕

[@bamhamer]

Almost 4 weeks ago i lost my Meggie... I am completely broken. She was my best friend for so long... I don't know how deal with the fact that she's gone and will never come back... It's the worst feeling i have ever experienced

[@GO-xs8pj]

I have seen veterinarians recommend crazy intrusive treatments for animals that were in their twilight years. I'm endlessly shocked at what some veterinarians will do if someone is willing to pay. The palliative treatment plan is much more sensible in so many situations. It is also kinder to the pet.

[@NoMoreTears64]

All of that SOUNDS so good, kind, and wonderful, HOWEVER we all know that it ALWAYS boils down to money. If you don't have the money, then your special family member gets less than the best. My 14 year old cat got the very best that I could give him even in his last days. I syringe fed him, carried him to the litter box, stayed up day and night making sure he had his multiple meds at the correct time and dose. He was combed every day. He loved that so much! I bought him treats even though some Vets would have said "no treats". He had never had treats before. I took him outside on my deck so he could sniff flowers and breathe fresh air. I got out my cool gel ice pack a couple of times when he seemed to have a fever from infection and he layed on it twice. I lifted him up onto the couch when he couldn't jump so he could be near me. All he EVER wanted was to be near me. The one thing I could not do was watch him breathe his last. I didn't want him to know it was his last. I told him I loved him, that he was a good boy, that I would take care of his brother, and I kissed and petted him. He had tried to get up, but my voice calmed him. I whispered goodbye and left so he would not see me fall apart and vomit from the agonizing grief I felt. 💔 I love you Carmel😢 7-31-23.

[@ToniThompson-rl3mp]

YEP!!’ I just lost my baby a week ago why? BECAUSE I COULDNT AFFORD THE DAM $3,500 for the surgery, she was only two years old and I LOVED HER WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING!! I come home to a quiet cold still house, I have six cats and I move them but my sugar I loved too, I would get up at 5 every morning and give her a two hour walk and the dog park, it is KILLING ME I COULDNT FIND HELP!!! So yes mostly about the friggin money!!!

[@NoMoreTears64]

@@ToniThompson-rl3mp I am so sorry for the pain and emptiness you feel right now. After I wrote this last July, I lost my only son who was 29 and 3 days later, I had to say goodbye to Carmel's brother Mocha who was so very sick. I am no stranger to grief and I can feel your pain and anger in your words. A month after all of my losses, I adopted my son's 2 cats who were living in a cold and lonely garage. They are helping me through grief as I am helping them. I pray that you will find comfort in your other animals. We never forget those we ❤️ love.

[@ToniThompson-rl3mp]

@@NoMoreTears64 wow, I never realized how much help it is for others to give comfort who have been there, I couldn’t imagine your loss, thank you so much for your kind words, you have helped more than you will ever know!!

[@annemarshall844]

We lost our gorgeous, funny Teddy a couple of years ago suddenly following an anaesthetic just 14 months after losing my beloved husband. The 3 cats we had all reacted differently but Teddy always seemed to know what to do to help me through that first awful year of crippling grief so to lose him too and so unexpectedly at just 6 years old was such a shock, one I will never get over. He just had something special about him but unfortunately he also had heart problems and apparently his heart gave out. His brother was so depressed for months while the other cat has become very clingy and needy since my husband died. He’s now nearly 18 and unwell. I’m doing my best to make sure however long I have left with both of them is as comfortable and happy as possible. Animals give us so much pleasure and happiness and deserve the best life and death we can provide for them.

[@shmackedmuffins7948]

Growing up my pup needed vet care but we were too poor to afford it. That memory has always stuck with me because he died because we didn't have the money to give him the best care.

[@fancykitty7245]

I miss my Shelby still and don't think my heart will ever be the same. She went a week ago on my lap. She gave me s ok much love, happiness, and joy in 14.5 years.

[@caseybent-callaghan6659]

My parents did not like pets and I never knew the love of a pet until I was 35. This dumpster kitty became my animal soulmate and since then I have had several dogs. In late 2021, we had to help our 15 year old Lab and 15 year old chihuahua cross the rainbow bridge. As horrible and sad as it was, having some palliative care and paying a little more for at home euthanasia. Our sweet Lab was able to be outside on a beautiful 70 degree sunny day, laying on her favorite blanket with us holding her. Same for my chihuahua, except we had to be inside due to it being November. It was so peaceful...sad, yes, but so much more peaceful than the stress of being in a vet's office and the vet who came out to help us was so kind and helpful. For the unconditional love animals give us, it's the least we can do.

[@hipocampelofantocame]

As a old dog owner, I've been here a number of times. and as a retired pediatrician, I'm well aware of grief. Euthanasia is best done at home, by the pet's best friend, if possible, with a funeral to follow. No animal or person should have to die away from their favorite surroundings. I'm including a quote from Chief Crowfoot. "From nowhere we come; into nowhere we go. What is life? It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime. It is as the little shadow that runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset."

[@nw7696]

Thank you! 3 weeks ago I lost my 12 year old boy due to an internal bleed that I suspect was caused by long term piroxicam use. I still shed tears when I look at pictures of him, they truly are children their whole lives. I need to start being more grateful for the time we had together opposed to feeling guilty for his passing. Grief, what a complex and devastating battle.

[@Docinaplane]

Malcolm MacLeod - I have been with my pets (dog, cat, and horse) during their deaths. I was able to comfort them with my hands on them talking to them as they passed naturally. They are all buried in the yard. I had to have the horse's grave dug by a tractor, but I dug the other two.None were expected. It was very tough and intense for me, but it is a promise I made. The cat and dog lived a normal lifespan. Although, the horse was in his 40th year. Vet said he was the oldest horse he'd ever seen.

[@chuckk847]

Malcolm MacLeod Z

[@Cineraria99]

@malcolmmacleod we can't come from nowhere....because nothing can't produce something there has to be something to produce something

[@karenmcardle142]

Beautiful. Thank you ♥️

[@aryaman2063]

Just lost my boy the day before yesterday It was heartbreaking, my mind still hasn't accepted the fact that he's gone I just feels unreal Simba - you we're a good boy and i will never forget about you Until we meet again R.I.P

[@logitech4365]

SHEPPA! I miss you and love you. 😢

[@ARasputinaFan]

Sometimes a pet's death is experienced more intensely than normal because the owner is also processing buried feelings from other pet or human losses; having a therapist on staff is an amazing idea! I admire that you can do house calls as well: it's horrific dragging a dying animal to a noisy clinic via a traumatic car ride and waiting 30 minutes to an hour to begin the euthanasia process.

[@vitaandreyo5949]

I totally agree. Home is the best place. Both of our cats passed away at home - one with the help of a vet, another one - naturally. There's no way I would have taken them to the clinic in the condition they were in. It just wouldn't be fair.

[@jeanblaaa]

Oh I so agree. The pet is probably uncomfortable and I’m uncomfortable with other dog smells or dogs barking. And being around unfamiliar people. It makes so much more sense to offer more at home practices

[@robertbeckham3091]

I had to put my 11 year old boxer bull dog down last week, she was the most beautiful and precious dog in the world. She was a perfectly healthy dog up until five months ago when she started getting masses that grew extremely fast. We had one of the masses surgically removed but as soon as it was gone the other two masses grew too fast. I brought her to the emergency veterinarian five times in the last month but we had to wait for surgery. I brought her in for surgery last Tuesday with hopes it would be a simple procedure, but a few hours later I received a call from the surgeon and he told me it didn’t look good. They could either amputate her back leg and maybe she lived one to six months, or put her to sleep. I tired everything I could up to the last minute, even backed out putting her to sleep the night before hoping that I could get a second opinion. The next day everyone was too booked, and my dog was suffering. I had to make the decision that day, I couldn’t amputate her back leg just to remove the masses, and then watch the other masses take over. She had one growing in her neck and a few others on her body, they told me as soon as we removed her masses and leg, the others would grow extremely fast. In the end the only thing I could do was put her to sleep, she died in my arms last Thursday at 8pm. It makes you realize how much you take for granted, one day I think she’s getting surgery and two days later I’m driving home with her in a card board box, I buried her in my back yard. 😕

[@user-ly4qx1ee4g]

I am mourning...the loss of my baby girl right now. She is gone I hope no pain she running happy pain free I feel so much guilt She was my 1st dog. If I decide too adopt another dog down the Rd. I learned fr my ignorance I will not make the same mistake I did with the love of my life Writing this 💯 it helping me mourn...and heal...the loss of my dog Jez I put down she was 20+ Pug I miss her so much Broken heart Happy she is in heaven No pain Running around

[@priyamvadaparihar9479]

Have lost my little labrador pup who was 4 months old to parvo virus 3 days back... I'm all into tears and it warms my heart to see people here with the same emotion, I'm not alone❤️

[@Annette-yw5oc]

Thank you Jackie I wish there were more caring souls like you. Our pets are family, to many of us, the only family we have. Thank you for recognising their importance, the special and unbreakable bond and love we share, and the indescribable pain and suffering which ultimately follows. I lost my beautiful girl of 14.5 years, almost 5 weeks ago. I cannot believe I have survived. The longest we'd ever been apart prior was 4 nights. These weeks have been a blur of pain, numbness, denial, grief and rumination. Thank you for acknowledging to the world the depth of love we have for our dear fur babies, and the irreplaceable and immeasurable love they give us in return.

[@alankelly-hamm2702]

As I watch this my 17 year old Labradoodle is at my feet. He lives with congestive heart issues, spinal arthritis, and has hearing and vision loss. We take him for monthly accupuncture, and spinal adjustments. He is on heart meds for the fluid build up. Our vets listen to us and to him. At 17 each new season is another milestone he has made it through. He needs help getting in and out of the car and guidance going down steps. Yet Jaz in his elder years is still happy and alive and takes long walks along the beach nearly every day. His appetite for life and love is still strong and as long as he has good quality of life we will continue as outlined. I will miss him terribly when that day comes, but I know that he has had a good life with us and his companion Bridgette.

[@nicetomeetme5150]

I am tearing up.. I miss my dog. He was an amazing 1. I wish i had taken more pictures.

[@debbieshaw9018]

Nice Tomeetme @I'm so sorry for your loss as I feel for every pet owner for the loss of a family member. My sweet Lab Molly passed little over a mth. ago, she was close to 15 yrs. I feel guilt over her death as I thought she was going through what I called a spell that she had been through before and Molly and I had been through a lot over two yrs of her health issues that was a gradual to worse and I could see it but think we as people block that out as we don't want them to leave us. I was tired from caring for her as it was just her and I as my husband passed along the way. The evening she passed she was on her bed after I got her back inside as when she had the spell she was outside and I had to help get her back in as she was having trouble walking with her back legs. When I got her in I got her on her bed and I layed by her on my daybed and I was tired from so much stress of caring for her and at one time she raised up and I held her by leaning over the bed and held her in my arms and then it was a like something came over me and I told her to shut the F.... up and leave me alone that I was tired and drifted into a very restless sleep, and I had never told her that before as we had been through so much and never once did I ever turn my back on her even at times of staying up all night with her, so when I got up the poor dog who was in so much pain, and I gave her one of her pain pills as the vet who I called instructed, but she had passed away and I couldn't believe it as we had been through it before. When I called the vet he was also shocked and though she had a stroke. I know that was not really me turning my back on her as I loved and took care of her to no end. I just have to find it in my heart to forgive myself. I took quite a few pic's and videos on my phone of her and I watch a certain video everyday so I can see her again. Since you don't have that close your eyes and think of the good times you had with your pet and you'll be with her again as nothing can take the memories away from us. And someday we'll be with them again💕 🐾🐶🐾💕

[@jumpercable20]

I had my dog "Bear" put down 12/06/19. He was bleeding internally and had spleen cancer. I have never been more miserable. I have hundreds of pictures. Every one of them brings tears to my eyes. The best way to make sure your loved pet never dies is to always keep them in your heart, that way they will be immortal. God bless you and really feel your pain.

[@logitech4365]

I grieve with you. My dog Sheppa is gone. I miss her so.

[@kristinlee9485]

Gosh this is SO important! I just lost the love of my life, my orange cat Wendall to cancer. When they're in their last stages, car rides to the vet are SO stressful, it robs them of life quality. I was just saying the other day how much I wish we had more mobile clinics. This idea if palliative care plans for pets is not only wonderful, but should be a no brainier at every single vet office.

[@trueriver1950]

i wish i had had this kind of support when my dog passed on bless you and your work

[@stevenng007]

True River I feel the same way. Just had to let our’s go last night.

[@pierreodendaal6519]

I also deeply want it. I think I am at that point I need it. Buried my precious cutie pie chihuahua Chino 34 hours ago after we euthanased him two hours before that. We put a cross, his leash, and a big heart shaped card with sentences of love, a Bible verse and a small picture drawn on it. His name was written big and in bold in the middle. We wrapped him in his baby blanket that we got from our aunt when he was born. The other dogs also woefully said goodbye in the two hours before went to bury him. Right now I'm regretting that I didn't keep some of his fur before we buried him and also that we never put something from the other dogs in there as well. I miss him so much that I'm starting to do or say weird things. I really need someone to help me.

[@pamelaklippel4845]

@@pierreodendaal6519 dear Pierre it is my prayer that in this past six months since the passing, that your pain has reduced greatly.

[@createone100]

Each time I have lost a dear pet, my grief is compounded by the memories of the deaths that went before. I don’t think this is recognized nearly enough.

[@centurygarage]

If you could only appreciate this: The Pets in the Park initiative recognizes and supports the bond that homeless people have with their pets and works to improve the health and wellbeing of these vital companions.

[@notaperson9831]

That is amazing ❤️

[@saraswatkin9226]

I still cry for Ben my eighteen year old Yorkshire terrier who was euthanize without my consent. He had an identification chip, the vet did not even check to make sure about correct ownership of Ben. Vets need to accept more accountability for their conduct.

[@kuhu50]

Saras Watkin that is outrageous, I'm so so sorry, Sarah.

[@JosephBC69]

He's not a vet, but a brute posing as a veterinarian!

[@soplim8632]

Saras Watkin should of gone back to the vet and put the veterinarian to sleep. I recommend a 44

[@jeanninefourtwenty]

I'm sorry that happened. Sadly it's not the first time I've heard this kind of thing. Makes me angry. I mean wtf, it takes 2 seconds to give a final fatal shot, versus a day or twos time to find out if the pet has someone who cares for it. Is their time not worth the animals life and the owners feelings? Honestly I don't understand how these things happen. I thought vets were all supposed to be like her.

[@glamdolly30]

GASP! That is terrible! That vet must be struck cff. Hugs 2 U. XXX

[@jonnewman6332]

"Into the years of quietening". What a beautiful phrase. I lost my beautiful boy last week. My blond shadow. He saved my life in the bad times. A lovely friend described him as the Don of Doggo. He died in my arms, staring at me, being told what a good boy he is, after a massive stroke or heart failure. I'm utterly bereft. But I want to add that the vet and staff were wonderful when I brought him in. Myerscough in North West England: thank you. I'll be picking up his ashes tomorrow.

[@banaweekidane2630]

I just lost my cat 2 days ago after 13 years, the pain is absolutely unbearable, I'm no longer afraid of losing my parents because nothing can be worse than this 💔

[@VTboys1220]

I lost both my parents and I thought that was the hardest thing. I was wrong.. my baby of 10 years crossed over and I am just ruined.. I no longer have the love of my life.

[@teashark9878]

I just lost my hospice foster dog, Solstice. She was diagnosed with stage 3 kidney failure December 2021 & lived until May 2022. She was a good girl, a blue AmBully with just so much love to give. I wish I had saved her from her previous owners so much sooner and was able to give her a longer span of happiness. I miss her. Fly high, Solstice, fly high

[@bethhiggins2233]

I lost my 2 year old dachshund tragically last week. I don't think I've ever been so devastated 😞

[@msay4596]

My family has always called animals family and throughout my life, I've lost many and I remember them all. Just lost my 13 yo lab mix. It was sudden and unexpected. I miss him. Sobbing between grocery store trips today so I can walk in without tears streaming down my face. I don't want to do anything, but life must go on and the kids need to eat. I know from past experiences it will slowly get easier, but right now it's hard.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

losing a pet hurts. never truly heals and it just scabs over. and occasionally the scab comes off.

[@niccoleleo]

EVELYN HENDERSON I am going through this grief right now. I just said goodbye to my cat of 15.5 years Jerry. He had been with me through everything! I decided to let him go after kidney disease, and it was the hardest decision. We used Lap of Love to help him over to Rainbow Bridge. I cherish that I could be with him in my arms at home. I have his little paw print, lock of fur and box of ashes. Your comment is so true to how we grieve. Thank you.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

@@niccoleleo welcome. One downside to owning a pet.

[@marydevonshire4655]

Watching this video today kind of picked that scab. I tell people that I don't want to lead the wild life anymore, because if God is real and there's a heaven, my dog is there and I want to see him again.

[@Daisy-tl2lh]

grieving for our beloved pet friends is something we more or less do on our own and in silence because our relationship with them is so simple the loss is often the most profound

[@robynrains7252]

Great talk thank you so much 🥲❤❤

[@anitahamlin2411]

Bless Jackie for her insight! I so wish someone like her had helped me let a couple of my pets go. It was just as painful if not more so than family members. They were in my home, my bed, and my life every day for a couple of decades in some cases. I hope this inspires more vets to care for the final stages of pets lives more like Jackie!

[@528freq8]

There's a company called gentle goodbyes in Boise Idaho that will come to your home and or their favorite Park or place. There was a nice little Park that me and my little boy enjoyed laying together in and smelling the grass. That's where I had him leave this world on his last day

[@junefoster5191]

Thank you so much for this talk. I recently had to put my best friend down because of cancer. It was the Hardest day in my life. I made her last days the best she could ever want. I miss her something terrible.

[@paolabenavides8637]

Thank you! This was precious ! I hope and intend to see a a rise in palliative care. I would say, that my love for my dog gave him 4 more years than his expected lifespan, Their joy and our joy plays an important part in their well-being! Be happy around ur dog don’t go to them with all ur problems and suffering cus they pick up on it and it effects them too. So be happy make sure they are happy, and that love will overflow into their health.

[@fae137]

I wish my cat had known you. The grief is overwhelming

[@sheilastrachan]

I have tremendous admiration for the way you do your work. Congratulations. You make the world a better place for all your patients and their families.

[@ivycody8559]

After just going through this with a 4 1/2 year old bulldog with brain cancer, I feel like this is a topic often reserved for humans. Our pets deserve to live out their final days with dignity and as much peace as possible! Hugs to all of you that have to make the hard choices but it's a love you will never forget. ❤💔❤💔

[@kalayne6713]

Thank you so much. In memory of all the pets I have had to farewell, those I held in my arms as the light left their eyes, and those who disappeared, dying death on their own terms. How precious you all were to me. How different it could have been with these ideas in place. Thank you again.

[@lynnallen1315]

I'm staying home from work today because one of my 12 year old Chihuahuas, blind and diabetic, ate something that made her sick and has barfed too much to take her insulin and meds. Thanks for caring.

[@morcoroni]

my sweet cat Boots passed just yesterday morning in my arms. 4.17.20. her decline was very quick and rough. a week prior to her passing she was completely fine, and then she stopped eating, drinking, walking... I spent her last night with her, and she passed as the sun rose at 5:00. i wish i had taken her out just one more time, held her close in a hug just one more time, etc. it’s incredibly hard without her here. crying alone used to mean that she was never far behind from coming to cuddle and comfort me, but now there’s no one there. i miss her more than words can properly describe. i don’t know how i’ll manage without her.

[@reneeraw6927]

Morcoroni I am so sorry you lost Sweet Boots. My Mom had a pet named Boots as a little girl. My Vanna (little dog) died just one day before on 4.16.20. The pain is really difficult to get through, but we both will. I also have a beautiful cat (Skipper) who was just diagnosed with bladder cancer and he will be passing soon so I will have more grief to come. We will get through this. Boots would want you to heal and smile again. Please look up Marianne Soucy and her work with “Healing Pet Loss”. I have just started getting her newsletter and listening to her podcasts. I find it comforting. Her words are helping to ease the pain. Sending you love and wishing you peace. ❤️❤️🐾🐈❤️❤️

[@LavorLuc]

For four years me and my family needed a vet like you, but unfortunately where I live, veterinarians cares for pets are starting to be a thing since a few years. We did the best we can, we made mistakes and tried to remedy. Today we've said goodbye to our beloved dog, and we're devastated.

[@kat420365]

I’ve lost both my parents and losing my baby girl was soooo different,

[@fae137]

Completely different isn't it :'(

[@carrieoff]

My 14 year old terrier was in so much pain that euthanasia at the vets whilst I held her was a blessing.

[@esmeraldaflores65]

Same here, 🙏💚

[@flowerchild7820]

Sorry for you loss. My bud of 15 years is in peace. Doesn’t help my sadness much tho. I miss him so

[@globalcat]

This was suggested to me by YT just now .. days after I said goodbye to my beloved pet. Thanks YT :(. We need this kind of care in North America. My vets failed in smoothing the process.

[@missourigal]

there is an excellent TED talk by vet Dr. Sarah Hoggan which is 15 min and really really helpful regarding pet loss/grief. Since I'm Christian I'm not with her regarding the rainbow bridge and I do know where I am going and for now believe that it's highly likely God will honor my request to see my beloved dog again. I have to have him put to sleep today and am so sad but as someone said a small price to pay for 12 yrs of unconditional love and for me being able to be a part of hundreds and hundreds of smiles from people that met him.

[@motorcyclescene]

Thank you.

[@laurenseltzer1634]

You are an amazing gift to this world. Thank you for the ways you love and honor our pets. I'm thankful to know doctors like you are here to support our most cherished fur babies.

[@sarahbarker9801]

I have just lost my cat after 20yrs of loyal companionship. The decision for his death was rushed & I felt pressured to euthanize to end his suffering there and then. We had the option to keep him going but in the same breath, told we would just be prolonging the inevitable. I have been struggling with this as I feel my pet wasn't ready. I had just been through palliative care for my father before his passing and wondered why this wasn't offered for my pet. The only conversation at the vet clinic during the last couple of years were, let's try to keep him comfortable but if you want to make that decision you can bring him in any time. I think it's about time we began to offer palliative care for our pets. To have that discussion with our vet, for them to be able to offer to hand us over to a palliative care specialist. Thank you for this ted talk.

[@richsadowsky8580]

I lost my doggy soulmate at the beginning of the month. Then tonight we came home after a few hours out and our sweet kitty had passed away peacefully. Dec 2022 has been a difficult month in terms of loss. But we focus on the joy and wonderful life we gave and got from our fur babies. I like the type of care you are speaking about.

[@DougKoper]

Thank you for your passion.

[@pamclare6222]

I am grateful for my vet who practiced palliative and then hospice care for my dogs who were failing together. I'm fortunate that she was my vet because losing my dogs is impossibly painful and without this type of care I can't imagine... I hope more vets learn.

[@sallymorgan7097]

This is crucially important information for all pet guardians--thank you for sharing this so clearly and articulately. There are a few vets in the USA at the forefront of this movement as well.

[@sanamakhdoom9805]

Thank you so much for such wonderful vet ted talks. Had I known my Poca Luz was sick I would have gotten her this care. But I had no idea... and she deteriorated so quickly and suddenly. It has been one month and the pain isn't going anywhere. I love and miss you Poca!!!!!!!

[@documentaryaddict]

A wonderful perspective Dr. Campbell. Turbo was fortunate to have had such wonderful care. (Viewer in State of Maine, USA).

[@Darci3333]

The only time pets break our hearts...is when they leave us...💔😿

[@luismendoza2618]

I lost my 2 years old puppy ☹️ I’m really broken. Never expected this to happen so early. I can’t stop crying :(((

[@DesireeTV]

Wish I knew all of this before we put my sweet dog down. I didn't even know this type of vet and vet care existed.

[@AgusSJati]

Watching this broke my heart. It reminded me of my 12yr old dog who passed away in my hug 2 yrs ago. Cancer beat her. In her 12, not many medical options to treat cancer.

[@hipocampelofantocame]

Agus Jati: Dying in your arms was the best gift you ever gave her. She lived in your eyes, died in your arms, and is buried in your heart.

[@properties4200]

Thank you for your speech, the encourage and the love. Our collie is expecting his 1st palliative care tomorrow afternoon, we will ensure his last day will be the best.

[@roxannr]

Beautiful , hopeful and much needed at the most difficult time for fur children's families and friends . I can't say enough of the importance of this amazing care and thank you from the bottom of my heart 🐾🐾🐾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Thank you for the peace and letting us know its ok to be pieced with saddness and the best way we can help experience the joy and the overwhelming grief to help us take care of home care with immense grief. Thank you as you are an angel!!!!!!

[@vernishagarrett9282]

Roxann Riskin photo

[@n2daair23]

Fur children?

[@aeromaton]

God bless you

[@witneyskye5556]

My fur-baby passed away on October 25th. We are devastated.

[@truecynic1270]

Yes, thank you. I have spent the last two years both loving, always, and crying with sadness on frequent days, knowing that my Cooper, GSD, is experiencing middle stage of DM and verifiable hearing loss. The decision I must make is just over the next hill. Hard to accept.I have to make a finite decision for the best living being I have had the privilege of knowing. I realize I am very, very lucky to have had this experience but the grief, the heartbreak and hole in my heart and life is tremendous

[@ulisesfuentes7384]

I miss you luka 🐈‍⬛🥺❤️😭😭😞😞😞😞😞my little soul

[@nate4732]

I lost my best friend Arnold last Friday. He was the best doggo in the world and I am so desperate to feel that he still exists somewhere.

[@margietucker1719]

He does, Nate. And he will wait for you ♥

[@OriginalRyan]

8 year old pup. Addison's crisis. Over two days, he was gone, leaving a family and his best pup friend behind. Truly devastating.

[@kezsovreign]

My baby just got sick one day, stopped eating and then died a week later. I feel so fkn guilty, i am.riddled and so so sorry 😭 i still cant believe you are gone Wairua 💔

[@kevingold1091]

A wonderful video delivered, by a wonderful woman. I am in awe.

[@sabinekoch3448]

I just had to put my wonderful little grey girl ( in my icon) asleep today - kidney failure and possible tumour. She was 19 yrs old and the time had come for her to go to a place of peace. You are doing a fantastic job - can’t be easy, as you’re so young. My other cat is asking me where she is. Very difficult.

[@wildey015]

I lost my dog yesterday morning. He was in a fight with other dogs and died for a fatal injury. I found him in a pool of blood and as soon as I saw him he frantically tried to breath. He died in my arms and I felt a complete failure. I am now trying to deal with guilt, even tho people try to convince me there was really nothing to do. I like to think that he died following his instinct . He was 10 yrs old but super healthy and proud, even tho he was only a poodle. I try to say that to myself but it’s just so hard. I have another dog and two cats and my family of 4 was perfect . Now there is just this void in everything that surrounds me, and I just feel lost and unbalanced and wish I could just go back in time and be again that person I was on Tuesday evening but I’ll never be that person again. I have so many questions. My spiritual world collapsed on itself in these days . I don’t know if to believe he is in another realm, or if he reincarnated, or if he is ‘with god’ . What if he feels alone? What if he misses us and doesn’t want to be where he is now? . Everything I do right now feels like I am disrespecting him. Again and again like being not able to save him wasn’t enough. I know these thoughts are bad and I shouldn’t be talking like this. But they come, every second, these thoughts are in my head. And that image, of him, white as a cloud in his own pool of blood haunts me at night. My other dog is confused, he is looking for him and he looks as lost as me. It gets better I know, it’s already doing. But it’s so heavy, it’s unbearable.

[@reneeraw6927]

wildey 01 you have my very deepest sympathy. Please read/listen to “Marianne Soucy”. Her work is, “Healing Pet Loss”. You can look her up on Google. I lost my Sweet Vanna (a little dog) just 4 weeks ago. Her death was sudden and I am going through the grieving process. We also have a cat (Skipper), who was just diagnosed with bladder cancer and does not have long to live. I have found Marianne Soucy’s podcasts, newsletter and books to be very helpful in healing from this extreme pain. I hope your heart will heal too. Your dog would want that for you.❤️❤️🐾🐶❤️❤️

[@wildey015]

@@reneeraw6927 thank you so much for your kind words and support, i have looked up Marianne Soucy's work and I definetly resonate with what she's saying and that calmed me a bit. The void my Neve left is never going away, but I can and will fill it with love day by day . I am sanding prays and positive energy for you and your pet Skipper which actually is my cat's name as well !!

[@reecec2265]

Just lost my dog yesterday 19 may 22 he had kidney failure. He was 8. Such a loyal dog gave me so much love and comfort. And he got me trough my toxic relationship and break up. I'm heartbroken and don't know how to cope

[@margietucker1719]

I'm in the same place, Reece. Lost my precious Luna on June 1st. She was 13. I am completely heartbroken too, and having a really hard time as well. Struggling to cope with it.

[@Tardisbabe92]

I lost my 17yr old cat Midnight in October 2022. The pain of the loss is unreal. I am happy i was able to have an at home euthanasia service come in and ease her pain though. That was the least I could do for her. I miss her so much though.

[@elizb8421]

Oh how I wish you were nearby! I said goodbye to my sweet boy moose yesterday! He was only seven years old the most beautiful chocolate lab you ever saw , with beautiful brown eyes! He had a mass on his liver and went very quickly! I would have given anything to keep him here healthy but it wasn’t to be! Palative Care wasn’t an option! You are an Angel!thank you for the work you do! No handbook on how to move on without your best friend and family member! 😇😢

[@dmwi1549]

Our vet was willing to come out to our van on our Saint Bernard’s final day. This was the vehicle our dog had frequent rides in and was not associated with stress or anxiety. He was comfortable. We did not have to use a stretcher for his 175lb weight and we were not inside a cold, sterile environment, having to walk past other patients afterwards. And having his sister Saint there I felt helped both. They were calmer and there was no question she realized what was wrong and that he had passed. Once we collected ourselves we went straight to our pet crematorium for a private cremation and by the end of the day we had our boy’s ashes in a box on the shelf with those that went before him. I would much rather comfort our companions at home until the end and I am not a believer in euthanasia. But in his case his epileptic seizures that normally stopped and allowed him to recover, didn’t. I know this may not be possible following an accident or emergency passing, but if you can plan this out ahead of time, with your vet and significant others, it really helps all involved.

[@catherineblair550]

I had to put my dog down today and it went really well. She was relaxing enjoying being stroked until the vet came. The vet(as per my instruction) came in very quickly, gave her a shot. ran out again, and I rushed back in to resume petting. That whole thing took like 30 seconds. I continued stroking Taffy till she fell into a deep sleep which took about 5mins. Then the mobile vet came back in and gave her the final shot and she was gone. It was really peaceful. I think It's best for them to fall asleep with just you and your family there and, no other strangers around, just do life as usual for them. If I had to do a cat(and I will in the future) I'd cover their eyes for that 30 seconds or so and tell the vet to tiptoe in. I am glad it's finally over but feel quite empty. She took a part of me with her.

[@LadyMarigoldWithers]

I would have given everything to have my boy Badger (gsd) put to sleep at home with me but he needed a double dose and vets are only allowed to travel with one apparently. So instead I sat on the vets floor with him as he fell across my lap and I held him til he was properly gone. Hardest day and months of my life. 8 years ago and I still miss that legend but know we loved him to pieces and gave him the best life we could. RIP Badger ❤

[@user-ly4qx1ee4g]

I agree!!!!! My vet never prepared me...for too put her down The money And no money could fix her She had cancer and aged In pain

[@gailbird100]

I lost my Timber Wolf a few months ago, I still see Cody laying by my bed, I see Cody running through the woods with me stopping to get a drink from a creek, I see Cody waiting for me at the top of the stairs when I get home from work with his shiny auburn eyes smiling and his bushy tail wagging, I still hear his awesome howl when he can't find me, but Cody is not here. I miss him so much, I feel like I don't belong on earth anymore.

[@DavidThompson-tk5ou]

Dave on the Goldcoast here , Ive just had to put my two little ones down 5 weeks apart.... the first little fella at a vet clinic at 2 in the morning and my little girl 5 weeks later in the comfort of our home with love and compassion with the help of "The Rainbow Vet " Dr Caroline who is a palliative Care vet. I dont want to rubbish my little fellas passing experience at the vet surgery, but the home Palliative Care Vets are the real deal, and having my girl at home with us with the help of Dr Caroline was one of the best experiences we could have hoped for

[@antiqueexcavator9403]

At home euthanasia is a compassionate and caring way to let your friends cross over while surrounded by everyone and everything they love. I’ve been lucky and unlucky enough to have done it several times. I miss my little family members every day.

[@Brightsunnydaze]

I’ve used this type of care with my pets. It’s amazing. When you know the end is near, you can give your pet a good death. The service I used came to my home, and my pets got to die in their beds, with their human and dog families by their sides. We got to take last photos, and play their favorite music and they got to drift off to sleep peacefully. Afterward a local funeral home took care of all end of arrangements, including obituaries.

[@Baalx3]

i lost my dog feb 17 2020 she had liver cancer she wouldnt eat much and she ended up turning into a skeleton and she couldnt hold her bathroom urges and she ended up going to the bathroom alot in the house....... we knew it was time.

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

My 11 year old shih tzu went from fine last Saturday, to having bowel control issues on Sunday to unable to walk on Monday morning to no longer breathing at 6pm (3 hours after a vet visit where they said he has a neurological problem that I could only throw money at if I wished.) He had just helped me through a long marital separation and I was happy he could enjoy his new puppy sister as well for many years to come. He died quickly, but way too soon for me to see it as a blessing.

[@miriamkellner3524]

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[@a147]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My 11 year old cat passed away in a very similar fashion a week ago; was just fine the night before, then suddenly started acting strange and drooling. We took him to the ER and there was a sudden rupture in his bowels; they said nothing could be done as he couldn't handle the anesthesia. It's ripping me apart, but I truly believe I'll see him again when I go. I know you'll see your boy too. You're in my thoughts.

[@kathyaudreegenemorris3659]

I have 3 beautiful Gogs and a cat, they are like my kids. I know we have to be strong and brave