The hidden power of pain | Xenia Tchoumi | TEDxHSG

Xenia Tchoumi is a digital fashion entrepreneur with a degree in economics. Through her speaking engagements, including a UN speech and two TEDx talks on women’s empowerment and how to overcome prejudice through the internet, she has highlighted the importance of advocacy for women’s rights. Xenia has seven million followers on social media. The Londoner is one of the leading digital influencers in Europe and USA ​and constantly works with numerous fashion brands. She's also a writer and a digital branding consultant.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@grosrr]

Pain is subjective. As someone from a third world country and was homeless in high school with no food, the pain she went through in her life sounds really 'easy' - - but pain is subjective at the end of the day; what matters is how we use the pain.

[@richarossgruninger7706]

That’s a very humble statement, glad you didn’t grow bitter 😃

[@budapestangel7798]

Totally true.... But given her position as speaker of an event which is broadcasted worldwide, it would add credibility if the examples are relatable (by bigger audience). People pay to attend these events so the organizers should pick most suitable topic on the qualification of the speaker.

[@agnearm3280]

People who are not able to read between the lines should not listen to these talks, because it has no point.

[@emergingemeraldslawncare1610]

Overcoming unfavorable circumstances is never a beautiful thing yet always an extraordinary turnout. I applaud all who has found their wings to rise above those unfavorable circumstances.

[@Killer10JoSe]

You all people who criticize her speech, I don't understand what is all the hate about, she did a great speach, 1st of all I'm sure it's not easy to do and prepare a speach in front of that amount of people, 2nd yes she gives examples from her own life experience, but it helps to understand the message , and 3rd considering that she is not being paid for that, I think the least we have to do is respect her.

[@Maria-mv5rw]

Poor talk, superficial and pointless.

[@BigBabaBrand]

María She‘s an influencer. What did you expect? ;)

[@RidwanHassimCreatingMagic]

Xenia, thank you so much for this insight. I have been struggling with the pain and the grief for the last 850 days of having had zero contact with my Daughters because of a custody battle. This talk has given me great insight to not only my situation but also with my Daughters. I love your TedX talks Xenia, they are incredibly helpful and full of wisdom. This talk about growth and channelling pain to harness the energy to transform is invaluable. This TedX talk is exactly what i needed in this very dark period where I have been searching for a path to overcome this pain. This TedX talk is very practical, I loved the analytical paper exercise about overcoming pain and using it positively to create the plan and then take the leap forward with action. I am a huge fan of yours, you are an awesome role model! God Bless you Xenia! Thank You for sharing your wisdom with us. You are my Muse as a storyteller and film maker. Hope to work with you one day soon on a feature film that I am writing (and will direct) specifically with you in mind as the protagonist. Like you stated in your conclusion Xenia, 'life should be about thriving; use pain as a powerful tool to go to the next level'. I am channelling the pain of my absence from my Daughters lives, like what you have experienced with your Father, inspired by you as my Muse, into that story written for you as an actor and as the gift for my Daughters for when we are reconnected again. I believe tat this will happen. I will write a masterpiece feature screenplay inspired by you. Thank You Xenia!

[@goranpav6808]

Stunningly beautiful, intelligent, elegant, inspiring woman and brilliant speaker! I adore to listening and watching every her speech

[@ruthfannin9990]

I'd like to hear her again in thirty to forty years when she has experienced pain.

[@cornelesmokodompit1683]

Name corneles mokodompit from indonesia asking

[@jimj2683]

She will hide when her looks have faded.

[@m_turbolover8]

@@jimj2683 oh, nailed it!

[@agnearm3280]

Real beauty never fades. Jealous people are not beautiful.

[@m_turbolover8]

@@agnearm3280 dare to say something today: it is a hate or jealousy and NOPE. Facts are facts. Also, it was about knowing real fn pain vs. a minor nothing. And today she is using her "looks", while there are people living through REAL PAIN. You did not understand that - either

[@daddiojones238]

Wait, your pain is your father didn't answer the phone?!!!!

[@tinorosmg9374]

daddio jones 😂😂

[@aj37ful]

This is extremely poor. I could, actually I will, stand up on a TEDx stage and tell the world how pain can be turned into power. Physical, emotional and mental.

[@Luisa-cs2pd]

I would like to hear your story. I stumbled upon this Ted talk because of the title. I have endured pain (body and soul) and, long story short, I´ve worked with patients that have had chronic pain. I was just thinking, right before reading your comment, that I might listen to influential people what they have to say, when they bring up others. Others that never ever have a chance to stand in front of a crowd and talk about their life. That is deep. If I one day have a great economy, my dream is to actually bring forward the non-celebrities, and the non (apparent) influencers and the ones that are not economically rich. For me these are rich people. Full of life wisdom. They live the real life, day to day. I see people around me (but not enough) who´s life one cannot even imagine they even survived. We cannot compare. Still, we, who are able to read this, are probably very privileged. The ones suffering for real, are clinging to just surviving this minute. God bless you Alex J, and I hope to, one day, hear your story and it does´t have to be on a TEDx stage. Take care!

[@colecianciola847]

Alex J alright buddy let’s see u try 😂

[@aj37ful]

@KoiFlow 20x value

[@bhavyamittal1127]

@@Luisa-cs2pd this is powerful! what xenia said about writing in columns. my question to that is how to learn from pain? everybody says pain teaches you something but how to learn from it? please help.

[@MrYB1497]

So basically. For your boss to value you more you had to be beautiful enough to do miss Switzerland ?

[@stayinghealthy5311]

Thanks so much.

[@julymilo9038]

Wow it’s really great speech! Bravo Ksenia!!! 🌹🥰🥰🥰😍😍

[@User_-ec9ot]

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[@adammichalczyk2909]

Thank you

[@istvankiss6581]

You speak really well! I fully agree with you. Pain can give you motivation, passion for your life. That’s all about how you solve your problems, how you destroy the obstacles. You’re truly inspirational!

[@anomimeso7009]

spoken like someone who has never suffered chronic, _PHYSICAL_ pain...

[@zeeshan.qureshi]

Horrible ted talk.

[@nicolasbarba9715]

Well, first of all I would like to say I admire you because you are one of the few social influencer who doesnt sexualize your image. But I would like to add something for you to reflect on, and I think its one of the reasons that has brought success to me besides growing up outside my comfort zone. I think that one thing you should include is thinking of the bigger picture instead of the immediate reward or the immediate positive feedback. You see, I think one of the main reasons that society has gone the wrong way is that people want it all, and they want i right now. People don´t plan ahead or invest, their, time, money etc, in a bigger future rewar. Well, just something to think about. Hope you read it someday.

[@juanpabloq.c.6595]

Wow Xenia 👍. Me coloco de pie, para aplaudirte 👏👏👏, sabias palabras de autoconfianza, superación y constancia. Felicidades por todo lo que has logrado y sigue adelante con todos tus proyectos sigan floreciendo 👍👍... Dios te bendiga siempre Xenia. Éxitos.

[@beardhut2934]

I was looking to see what her pain was so i could get deeply motivated but all i got was she hated he first job and here dad worked a lot. Well a part of me was hoping to unlock super powers so i was hear for all the wrong reason to start with.

[@florenttharsis3767]

Hâte d'assister à la suite

[@ilariareda5588]

I'm surprised it's possible to go and talk at Ted's bringing such a poor insight and ability of explain.

[@BigBabaBrand]

Ilaria Reda It‘s not an official TED talk. It‘s just TED franchising(?) if you wanns say so. There have been quite a few influencers who held those unofficial TED talks. Check out Micha Janiec’ and Anja Zeidler‘s unofficial TED talks if you wanna kill a few brain cells.

[@ilariareda5588]

@@BigBabaBrand thanks for the suggestion, I will sure give it a try!!

[@bsx121]

She's eye candy not mind candy

[@MiTZaDrogba]

Did u just give jesus as an example???? To prove a scientific link between pain and growth?

[@AndrewMann205]

What is the definition of success as this word can mean many things? If the speaker defined this term to include successful people as compared to unsuccessful people that could alienate members of her audience.

[@damuzzai6796]

your're very inspiring Xenia, I love your accent and the way you articulate your words. Its a great message of upliftment you are sending to the people of the world. Thanks you for the motivation.🌹🌻❤❤❤

[@ProjectGenie]

Nice expression of the principle that environmental or psychological pressure forces movement. Not sure how much anyone can look forward to pain but when it's there it's good to have the mantra in mind that pain leads to change.

[@shaynov]

Looking good but not good lecturer

[@tylitty7125]

Very moving and inspirational Xenia, you have made a very interesting connection with using pain as a sort of stepping stone to propel onesself into success or as a motivation tool, it is easier said than done in some cases but i will try to stay optimistic as you seem to, such a deep topic Xenia i still need more time to further analyze what you just said but thank you i love this i always gain so much from listening to your speeches they are always so helpful and uplifting such an angel wish u were my life coach lol it seems you have many amazing solutions to many problems never give up xoxo

[@FedericoNavarrete]

Muchas gracias por el speech :).

[@cornelesmokodompit1683]

Name corneles mokodompit from indonesia asking

[@LulisisMeldor]

Excelente! gracias!

[@B1Entertainment]

Great talk. Interestingly insightful. Really resonated with me today. Thank you Xenia!

[@giorgichikhladze6552]

Вот настаяши генерал в жизне какои красиви и умни настаяши генералша вот так

[@susanflowers1195]

🌺❤😘 well spoken

[@bmbetrinationalbanktrust7602]

thank you madam

[@michaell.7708]

2:45 dozens of interviews? But all you got offered was an internship which they offer to almost anyone, since it is unpaid. Then you declined and to this day are using that as an ego-boost and consider it experience that you didn't work at a job?

[@cornelesmokodompit1683]

Name: corneles mokodompit from indonesia asking

[@claringtondeleveax9785]

life's experiences can be used to get to the next level

[@saidvelasquez5805]

Wow

[@pavelkrstev8207]

Hi . Xenia, I admiere You should speaks also in russian, Yours originalz people also need Your wisdom. And I wanna learn Your language.

[@CrisjuvanBruce]

Muito bom minha vida amei muito bom

[@andreamet]

Super interesting speech! Highly Recommended for everybody! A

[@randommess6667]

She is pretty i want her hair colour

[@adamdavis5622]

No pain no gain

[@nathanbraungardt9140]

I felt a lot of pain two weeks ago coming back from Milwaukee casino broke, then tried in Chicago casino last weekend to come home broke! Third column says stay out of casino and just work the rest of my life the hard way!!! Cheers to success in a hopeful state of mind

[@NotAdamSnider]

You'll hit it big at the casino one day. Never give up.

[@araphbernal]

Proud to see this cara amica

[@yuliyg.3904]

при правильной непредательской жизни появляется в окружении и достойная женщина

[@juliaflit8189]

Well spoken!

[@anasshah11]

Amazing very inspiring no pain no gain.

[@roliana8789]

👍👍

[@aleksandrapetrovska7765]

Thank you Xenia!!!!

[@m_turbolover8]

"to work as a personality"????? I cannot even finish this puppet's videos Talk to me, when U know of REAL CRISES

[@DavonS.Looknanan]

Sorry, about the failed book deal, maybe you can publish something new for readers

[@anthonybaines1069]

Brilliant blog Xenia 👌👌👌💐

[@Surfing_with_the_alien]

really special person

[@kenblockx2010]

GREAT SPEECH XENIA, IT WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE END !

[@lucasalexandre3480]

EU QUERO VER VOCÊ ESTÁ BEM

[@michaelbendavid9120]

Women deserve pain, especially during childbirth. Perfect Speech, Xenia! Well done, can't wait for your next forum on self-sustaining environments and government rule.

[@cornelesmokodompit1683]

Name corneles mokodompit from indonesia asking

[@meetpingpong]

Love you more

[@cornelesmokodompit1683]

Name: corneles mokodompit from indonesia asking

[@LuisLopez-qm5yo]

Hello Xenia Tchoumitcheva I just want you to see that I say your great for me to love so .

[@klaudiadelmer1064]

Superficial talk... heartbreak from what? She tries to create a story out of thin air...

[@lucasalexandre3480]

EM QUÉM VOCÊ PEMSOU EU PENSEI NA XENIA ELEGÂNCIA E EFICIÊNCIA ACISTA TIRE AS DÚVIDAS E I MÁXIMO XENIA MAURÍCIO GUALBERTO

[@LucianoGentilethaysealpoint]

Xeniaaaaaaaaa foreverrrrrrrrrrr

[@frcfun8328]

Baby life guru riding the woo woo motivation wave, soon on OF, stay tuned peeps 🤣🙈

[@irenegeorgiou4285]

Thank you so much for sharing this... Xx 😊👌❤️

[@lucasalexandre3480]

XENIA A MINHA DÚVIDA É TÃO GRANDE QUANTO VOCÊ PÔR VOCÊ TÊM ESSE CIDADÃO QUE NÃO SAÍ U DEIXA VOCÊ VIVER COM VOCÊ QUER NÃO SEI OQUE FAZER PÔR FAVOR XENIA ME AJUDA ME FALA AGORA

[@abhishekpratapsingh9272]

right ,no pain,no gain

[@giorgichikhladze6552]

❤❤❤❤вот ета вам

[@saidvelasquez7984]

If she was you girlfriend what would lif be like

[@ТОСТроицаШабанов]

с праздником!

[@Yun-jn9sf]

Oy bom à noit XENIA é Cris Batista Aqui fad tudo bem coração 🤠🧞‍♂️

[@cornelesmokodompit1683]

Name corneles mokodompit from indonesia asking

[@GEMOLOGUE]

Go girl

[@dazblack9993]

truly inspirational xenia

[@mohamedlaminebachir]

she is a beautiful girl

[@italianpizza7001]

Xenia un vero modello per le nuove generazioni❤

[@randommess6667]

xenia i like the name my brothers girlfriends name i really like it an her hair an clothes lol

[@melesioregalado2636]

Gracias igual

[@traderjedi9002]

She has more views when she twerk

[@Mohammdalshqar]

What a poor experiences to stand up and talk 😂

[@edwardbaggett8287]

another Melania ?

[@mcbucksstunt3842]

Very intellectual make more videos