Ten Things Every Widow Should Know 🌻

[@suedavis4017]

I just lost my husband 5 weeks ago and your words of encouragement are uplifting and very helpful. I never knew that pain like this existed until now.

[@JudyStoneGoldman]

I also lost my husband 5 weeks ago. Who knew there could be such pain? Wishing you comfort and strength in this long journey.

[@paulabjorkman7779]

So sorry for your loss!! I lost my husband and I now your pain ❤

[@cameronheinz3659]

Thank you for the encouragement.

[@breezygreen306]

My husband of 16 years passed in February of this year at 60 years old and the pain at times is almost unbearable. He was my best friend, biggest supporter and my world. The coming home from work to an empty apartment is hardest part. Listening to you has given me hope that I'm going to be ok eventually but not yet. I know he would want me to keep fighting and keep going which I'm doing day by day sometimes hour by hour. Thank you!!!!!!

[@fmds2115]

You ll be oke. Just hang in there. I have been there as well. I pray for you.

[@benedetteukamaka6093]

Thanks so much for sharing this amazing relief

[@annarebecca3384]

My precious husband died suddenly 9 weeks ago, and I cried all through your video. So many truths... thank you.

[@Cary-pr6vw]

Number 8. The guilt thank you for # 8. Today is 30 days with my husband being gone. #8 makes me see I do have to improve and not feel guilty about getting healthy. Thank you

[@blanchesaxa7760]

My husband died 27 years ago this October. He and I were 50. My three children were young adults.. 2 married and one still with me . … then that son married 2 years later. Now alone …. But life was filled with 9 blessed grandchildren and a full time job …loneliness was masked with love for them. But now ~~~ all are grown and leading their own journeys ~~~ I now feel more alone and sad in my widowhood. It’s hit me very hard … maybe I never dealt with it at all . ….. Glad to have found this on u tube .

[@pennyglass420]

All I can say is a big THANK YOU. It's so painful, and your videos are comforting me.

[@patriciawagstaff6302]

I know people, including my adult children, do not understand my grief . It has been 2.5 years now. It is like Richard passed away just today... I know that my grief is just so EVIL. I have been having panic attacks again. . It is so painful. As I miss Richard so much n I love him so... There are days and weeks that I do not go outside. Here in Michigan -USA this winter has been so strange, weird and dreary. I even take vitamin D3 to equal 50 IU's a week. As a RN of 37 years. I worked on a cardiac unit so I know vitamin D 3 is essential for my body - heart . Thank you...

[@rosebaker1104]

Thank you for sharing this. It helped me tremendously today. I’m at 26 months and thought I was doing really well, but the last couple of days I have felt so melancholy sad. Not sure if it’s the weather or the fact that his birthday is coming up. I don’t really have anyone to share my true feelings with, but listening to you I now know my feelings are valid , that this is an ongoing process and I’m not going nuts or backwards... Rose 🥀

[@jeroldfinan1999]

I have watched a lot of podcast in KZbin. You are the first one who's hit the nail on the head just about with all your words. Thank you. I am so grateful that I found your site. 😢

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I'm so glad you found me. Sending much love xx

[@LynneViandante]

Huge thank you only a couple of months into my journey feeling so lost and alone your videos are helping me get through each day❤😊

[@lindalanning9376]

Oh how wonderful to find your channel. My husband of 57 years died suddenly at home 10 weeks ago and I have been saying to friends and family I'm fine, I'm okay but of course I'm not. I'm undergoing chemo for breast cancer and coming home to an empty house has me sad beyond word. I'm missing him making me a cup of tea and telling me to rest and it will be alright, I'll get well. Some days I don't want to get better , I want to stop my treatment. Why bother when he won't be with me to share the future? But your words have encouraged me and given me heart. Thankyou so much🧓

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Ah Linda i'm so sorry to hear this, you are going through so much. I'm sending you so much love. please do check out my website www.karensutton.co.uk I have some wonderful communities offering so much support, free and paid options so please do come and join us in one of them. would love to see you there. Karen 💛

[@silverowlthrifter]

I lost my husband to a sudden massive heart attack on our 35th wedding anniversary. May 13th this year. He was 63. It hasnt even been 4 weeks....He had just retired and we had moved to our dream lake house to be near our granddaughter and daughter and family. The emptiness and loss are overwhelming at times. I truly feel I have lost a part of myself. We had a great marriage. He was such a great man, husband, father. Thank you for your words of encouragment and hope.

[@cameronheinz3659]

My beautiful husband of 39 years passed away 6 days ago unexpected and quickly. We did everything together. Even showered together, shopping, everything! My heart has a whole in it.

[@patwarren2530]

Now widowed...I have to decide whether to live with family ...or alone. The generation gap can be problematic.....living alone has it's advantages...and of course its disadvantages. But if in good health....a widow has to make that decision.....taking into account family dynamics.

[@patwarren2530]

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[@Cat-qt3gk]

I lost my husband of 35 years just 7 weeks ago, finding your pod cast has been a blessing and encouragement to me. I though there was something wrong with me for grieving so deeply for him. All I am told by family is to take off the rings and move on, or what did you expect him to live for ever. My husband was my rock and was always there for me even as sick as he was. I am now facing being totally alone for the first time in my life. I have loss both my parents and a brother that I was very close to, but I have to say that the loss of my husband has been a kick in the gut that I can't get over, I have never felt this kid of pain before. The Bible states that a couple becomes one when they get married, that is so true I feel as if I lost part of myself. You Pod Cast are helping me move through the pain day by day even just one hour at a time. Keep it up THANK YOU.

[@terrigodfrey8260]

Hi Karen. I am 7 months into the loss of my prince of 50 years. We had a solid love and an extraordinary ordinary life and like your Simon, my man appeared robust and healthy up until the moment he died. It's been a journey of all the things you speak about and I love how articulate you are in expressing that here. The majority of my time is spent in constructive ways, becoming self sufficient and even finding the joys in reinventing myself. Some moments I am overcome with the loss, the absence of his presence and caring and how different my reality has come to be. I don't run away from those moments but allow myself to feel them. But I also know that this is my one and only life and I am the one writing my story, no one else. I still have dreams inside of me, things I am interested in, a part time job, creativity that uses my mind and heart. I always followed my bliss and will continue to do that especially now. Self fulfilment is exciting. Following my curiosity in life has become a great tool moving through this grieving process. Thank you for your channel and how well you express what grieving people need to hear. I'm sorry for your loss. I imagine that helping others helps you too. All the best. Terri

[@drchrisgrayson2042]

My condolences 💐.. How are you doing today and your weather condition like today?

[@barbarahoon9321]

Thank you so much for sharing. My husband passed 2 years ago. I am struggling to figure out how to move forward to create something for my life. I feel stuck and have no idea what goals to set. Feeling lost.

[@julie-annehansen741]

I am treating you as 'my friend who holds my hand'....I am 70 my husband passed 3 months ago...we had moved countries-had barely settled in a rental. My husband died suddenly the day after my father died. We were flying to see him in yet another country...I am alone in a new country. My daughter and her partner and my grandchildren are here...my solace and focus now. My husband was not my daughters' father and they were not close. My son passed of cancer 10 years ago...I have been trying to live with that. I love the image of the grief being something that dosen't diminish, rather we live expanded lives around it . I have been working on that ...

[@pattymelton2680]

I’m almost 23 yrs down the widow road. It never goes away it just changes and you change with it. You have to value yourself and talk to people who understand. This lady knows and she helps people. I have been able to help other grieving souls because I have been on this road a long time. That is an education I never wanted but it has been helpful at odd times! Met a grieving Mom playing slots and I think about her often. Listen and be kind🥰

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Thank you for this Patty, You're so right in all that you say and I can resonate with it hugely. Sending love xx

[@miltonvann646]

Lost my husband of 51 years 3 months ago. My best friend and number one fan. Through out the last days of his declining health I was in denial and thought, thanks to my ego, I could keep him with me forever. Although he tried to prepare me the lost was over whelming.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I don't think we can ever be fully prepared for this loss, it's huge. Sending you love and strength. 💛I have a free facebook Support group 'Widows rising' if you'd like some support from people who get it xx

[@julie-annehansen741]

I did the same with my son, who passed of cancer,....My husband passed suddenly 7 weeks ago I have spoken to other widows about this ..We could only see life not death...I think its a coping mechanism ...I went through much guilt with my son ..I am not going to do this with my husband...it was'' as it was 'and the alternative may have been much worse. sending you love and compassion . We loved them and we are human

[@tr8cyg]

Thank you. I’m 9 days in. Everything you said Every point is how I’m feeling. Hoping this channel will help.

[@clairebarley753]

Thank you Karen. Your advice has helped me. My husband died 2 months ago leaving me with our 8 year old son. I'm feeling lost and grieving for the future we cannot have with all the uncertainty that brings and the overwhelming anxiety of how I will cope with everything and missing Matt so very much. I know I am young and strong but at this moment in time your words are what I needed to give me confidence. It is 2am in the morning and I cannot sleep so grateful that KZbin and you can help in the darkest of hours.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Claire I am so very sorry to hear about your husband, it is such a difficult road to travel and so much to think about. I am sending you much love and strength 💛 Karen xx PS I have a free Facebook support group "Widowed and Rising' If you wanted to come and join us. xx

[@kiwianagirl7522]

Thank you, your words are such comfort. I lost my husband of 24 years 2 weeks ago. People tell me how well I am coping, I know inside I am anything but. This is the first time I have ever been alone in my entire life. I am so grateful to have my furbaby Poppy with me.

[@carolynwheeler8475]

One of the most helpful videos I have listened too. I lost my husband of 53 years in January. I am a very private person and find it hard to share my pain with others but I am learning. Your video is very, very helpful and sincere.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Ah Carolyn, I am so sorry to hear about your husband and i am thrilled you have found my video helpful. Sending you love and strength and if you ever feel ready I have more support available for you 💛

[@JonasWilliams-sx6te]

I don’t normally do this but i feel you are a very nice,i would love to know more about you and share more ideas with you and sorry for your loss

[@carolynwheeler8475]

@@JonasWilliams-sx6te. How one heals is very private but also shared with humanity in a way that we are all human. I look for sincerity. Many things available on utube does not fit the bill. One must be able to read what is being said. One must find the common thread that is part of all of us.

[@carolynwheeler8475]

@@karensuttonwidowcoach. Secondary losses. Yes they keep coming and you keep evolving without your other half.

[@ginastyler320]

Thank you, your words are what I needed to hear. I just lost my husband 18 days ago and it is so hard. I’ll listen to this when I need to to remind me how to deal with grief little by little. I’m glad I found you.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

These are always here for you to draw strength from xxx

[@richardscott8349]

Hello beautiful ❤️❤️

[@richardscott8349]

How are you doing today

[@glorialacasse8093]

Thank you for sharing. It helped me get through a dark day of missing my husband.

[@kimberlybegonia2869]

Thank you so much 🌺

[@janetbrooks3287]

Thank you so very much for all your words of understanding and empowerment . Two months into year two and your words really do help

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Sending you much love 💛

[@calvert747]

Please be strong, I'm with you in prayers @Janet Brooks 🌸🌹🌺🌷🍀

[@calvert747]

How are you today ❔

[@robertabickford5246]

Just found your channel. I’m at the 10 month timeline in my journey. I especially liked your comments about taking “your person” along in my journey. This gave me relief and comfort that he will be my “witness”

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I'm so glad you found me. sending you love and strength. Karen xx

[@drchrisgrayson2042]

Hi 👋, Beautiful Lady 🌹..how are you and your weather condition like today?

[@marvortman2328]

I’m a new widower. You were very helpful! Thank you! Love your accent. Keep up the good work!😊

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

So sorry to hear this Marv, Sending love and strength 🌻

[@paulabjorkman7779]

Thank you 🙏 ❤

[@jochildress5003]

Absolutely spot on! Thanks.❤

[@karensutton7905]

My pleasure, sending love xx

[@mjadd]

Your insight regarding secondary losses was huge for me. Thank you. Then I found myself somewhat excusing my conversation of missing my husband ( died one year ago) today to a friend. I assured her that I am not wallowing. I am not depressed. i just wish I could call him and arrive home to him. It's just what it is. I do not see that loss disappearing. He was my partner for more than 40 years. We were partners in daily life, partners in business, golf partners and the very best of friends. I am utterly alone, except for my dogs and cat. Thank God for them and my work.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

It is still such early days for you, of course you miss him, there's so much we miss when they're gone. You are not wallowing, this is your reality, keep sharing and keep talking, without saying sorry. I have a free facebook support group Widows Rising if you'd like to come and join us. It's a very supportive and safe space and i'd love you to join us. xx

[@dolphie1977]

I lost my 50 year old husband 11 days ago. I feel so broken. Thank you for your podcast. 😢

[@richardscott8349]

Hello beautiful

[@richardscott8349]

How are you doing today

[@JonasWilliams-sx6te]

Sorry for your loss lady hope you don't find my message Abusive .

[@patriciawagstaff6302]

❤

[@WondersNeverCease]

Very helpful and true. If you are a Widow Coach, I’m curious why you say “person” instead of husband?

[@lvpho8554]

I lost my husband of 34 years 5 months ago. I'm still having a hard time believing that he's not coming back anymore. He's my world.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I am so sorry for you, five months it's still such early days, i was still in shock at that point. Be gentle with yourself and please feel free to come and join my free Facebook support group Widows Rising. Much love, Karen x

[@drchrisgrayson2042]

Hi 👋, Beautiful Lady 🌹.. my condolences take heart. were are you from and how is your weather condition like today?

[@jCREATESj]

you made me laugh 3 times: 1. I had the heart attack also, twice; 2. I also had the brain aneurism; 3. I, too, was not aware that my brain is still working nor how much I'm capable of--I even changed a water pump in my trailer! I am two years out and find I am still highly distractible and am too exhausted to explain myself or even define what help I need. Except for money. I lost 2/3 of my/our income when Jeff died. I'm thinking about starting a GoFundMe page so I can buy milk and coffee. But as my therapist says, thankfully it wasn't my sense of humor didn't die. Good thing, too! I do know this: my mother has been a widow for 30 years and it still hurts beyond words, but she has lived on. I will, too. (Say that again, Julie, with conviction!)

[@keithbrian7129]

Fifteen months into losing my wife of thirty six years to cancer and your words really resonated for me and what I’ve been experiencing. Thank you. The pandemic and its restrictions limiting social interaction in this time have greatly complicated the grieving process for so many of us and I would appreciate your insight into dealing with that. Regards.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Hi Keith, thank you so much for your message though I am so sorry to hear about your wife. It's such a difficult journey to travel, and you're right the pandemic has greatly impacted that for so many. I have a private facebook support group if you would like to come and join us, it's a wonderfully supportive community of people who get it. Widows Rising. Karen 🌻

[@teresaf221]

I really felt so many positive ideas and thoughts. Thank you.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Ah i'm so glad, Thank you. 🌻

[@scatling2065]

Very helpful, thank you

[@jpowell2603]

Thank you for your message I needed to hear this after losing my wife of 24yrs to breast cancer 2 months ago. We have 4 children and we taking it one day at a time.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I am sending you so much love and strength. be gentle with yourself and like you say, one step at a time 🌻

[@julie-annehansen741]

Oh my dear man ...my heart goes out to you . I lost my husband of 25yrs less than 2 months ago {I don't like thinking of time]...I miss him terribly ..he was a kind and gentleman for him it was sudden . I also lost my 32 yr old son to a brain tumour 10 years ago ....I know grief!...as you say 'one day at a time'

[@monicaj3023]

spot on !

[@annekevandeven4895]

So true! Thanks Karen. Struggeling in the 17th month. Love from the Netherlands.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I have a private facebook support group if you would like to come and join us, it's a wonderfully supportive community of people who get it. Widows Rising 🌻Sending you much love xx

[@shulamitenwaoze4298]

Thank you so much, my husband died on 25 December last year in church am so so thinking that this is not me, but am so encourage

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Sending you love and strength 💛

[@jerrywestphal1081]

Spot on!

[@runningsewandsew]

Absolutely excellent. All subscribed on KZbin and Google Podcasts. Your first point is excellent, going for a run to réaliste . I’m a few years ahead of you ..... 14 years this year. I started a KZbin channel to channel my energies ..... again excellent t xxx

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Thank you so much for your kind words, that means a lot. Sending you love xx

[@Witchykaren.]

100% correct ❤

[@pamcornelius9122]

My husband of 41 years died at home very suddenly and unexpectedly in August. We were high school sweethearts, together since I was 15 years old. The retirement we planned together was snatched away. I feel so guilty about not having been able to help him. I am so scared and lost without him. Your videos and podcasts are a brief respite for me.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Ah Pam, i'm sending you so much love. Guilt is huge in grief, I have just done a podcast on that alone. I have a free facebook support group Widows Rising if you would like to come and join us. It is a wonderfully supportive and kind place to be, with people who get it. xx

[@heathertaylor4979]

Same here! Married since 17 and married 53 years and he passed last August!

[@peggymaggio657]

I am just starting the 5th year of my no hope grief journey. We were together 34 wonderful years and now life is nothing. I had so many secondary losses (lost my home, my career, my things), that I doubt I can come back from all the devastating loss. I truly believe my life is over and now it's just about survival and getting through endless days of loneliness and boredom. I do not believe that everyone gets to thrive after they lose the love of their life. I know that's simply not realistic. Every widow podcast states things will be okay. Sadly, they just aren't for some of us.

[@T.Pink.]

I am so sorry for the many losses that you’ve experienced. I have found the secondary losses to also prevent me from moving out of the survival state & to prevent me from experiencing happier days. The secondary losses are devastating on top of the devastation that we already experienced from the death of our husbands. Very few people/therapists speak about the secondary losses- I wish there were more.

[@georgegarsea4404]

Thank you so much for your encouragement and kindness I needed to hear all ten points you shared. It will be 2 yrs since I lost the love of my life, George. My heart is still broken, my arms are still empty and the tears still fall. My faith in God has kept me from going mad and fall into depression. I have a long way to go, I may never get there God bless you for sharing such an inspiring and insightful message.

[@MsLettucelady]

Thank you so much. This helps. The 22nd will be 9 months since my husband passed.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I'm so sorry to hear this, it's so very hard. I'm glad you found me and I hope the podcast offers you some hope for the future 🌻

[@r.mieding3925]

Thank you for sharing these items. I think hearing that I will always grieve helps me to know that I will miss my husband until we meet again in Heave, but that he would want me to move forward in my life. Still...the loss of a wonderful relationship is deep and felt daily.

[@gracemccourt7868]

This is so true. I am 6 week's in. Its awful

[@Willowgrey31]

Oh wow - you are really speaking to me here…

[@JonasWilliams-sx6te]

Hi am sorry for the introduction in your comment but I find you attractive and interesting I don't know if I could be your friend so we can get to know each other more and thank you

[@bobvocal100]

It will be our golden wedding next year, over 50 years of married life to a widow you never forget and still love the memory of the love you shared but she no longer grieves for her husband and she was happily married , to him for 5 and a half years and was left with two babies under 2 years old when he died suddenly at 27 years of age from a brain hemorrhage , which I adopted and who are now over 50 years of age , but she says without being disloyal to him she loves me with all her heart and we love each other even more today everyone is different

[@janetslicer3637]

I have found you and as disjointed as my mind feels right now I know I haven't been watching all your videos in the correct order. Perhaps I should start over from the beginning. But one thing I haven't heard mentioned is suicide. I think that carries another measure of grief and perhaps shame and embarrassment. My husband committed suicide possibly I think to protect my son and I from going through something he thought was possibly worst. You see without our knowledge, my husband had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and never told us. One day he walked into the back garden and killed himself. Needless to say the trauma and crisis that have resulted and then trying to research all of it has devastated the both of us. I am wondering if you have ever broached the subject of suicide in your videos. Thank you for what you do. ♥️

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Hi Janet, thank you so much for your comment and i am so sorry to hear about your loss, suicide is a very layered in grief. This isn't something I have discussed on the podcast, only on my Instagram account, however it is something I will be discussing on the podcast in the future so keep an eye out. sending you huge love, Karen xx

[@janetslicer3637]

@@karensuttonwidowcoach Thank you for responding. I will be watching.

[@bronwynshelley966]

I'm so sorry Janet. My husband died of pancreatic cancer 3 months ago. Nursing him for those 4 short months was heartbreaking and I'm devastated. 😢😢😢 I cannot imagine how coping with suicide, as an extra layer. My thoughts are with you.

[@janetslicer3637]

@@bronwynshelley966 Hello Shelley. Thank you for your sympathy and kind words. I just reached the second anniversary of my husband's death. I have been up all night crying and can't really tell if I will fall asleep or not. I am on the east coast of the US. I had just retired when it happened and it turned my world upside down. I am very sorry about your husband. It is a horrible cancer that takes our loved one's so quickly. You are probably still in shock. It took me three months just to get the certified death certificates. I have found I am old compared to many of Karen's widows. They seem so sadly young. I am 69 so I not sure where you are in your life journey. I am sure it is too early to talk about yet. But I wish you the best. I am willing to talk if you need to. We just need a way to share our private information in another forum. All my best. ♥️🙏🕯️

[@surchillaragoonath4752]

This is how I feel my husband Amos die 73 days ago and I feeling so I don't even talk to my kids I don't know how to be happy again

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband, it's so hard and it's still such early days for you. Be kind to yourself and if you want to coma and join y free Facebook support group, Widows Rising, please do, it's a lovely, supportive space xx

[@surchillaragoonath4752]

@@karensuttonwidowcoach thanks I joined a group on fb I am looking for help in anyway I can because I think I am going in a depression

[@shelaghcozens4725]

Every word u say is right, Therapists, can listen, but they can't feel what we r feeling, every one of us ,for me learning to do things I have never done before,wishing he was in bed beside me, Calling hello when he came home. Never to hear him say. I love u. U can't say these things to those who havnt felt grief,not cooking, for 2,where do we go on our own when the sun is shining,we were together 62, years mostly good but we must also say some times had times ,at my age I hope I won't live to much longer ,until then I'll getvdressed and put makeup on and smile

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

@@shelaghcozens4725 I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Shelagh, it's so very hard. I have a Facebook support group, Widowed and Rising, if you'd like to come and join us and surround yourself with people who get it 💛

[@jaelinn2876]

It’s been 7 days since my husband passed away in a car accident.

[@barbarakyser5505]

I lost my husband three weeks ago also

[@theresawetherell1597]

((((( Thank You Hugs 😘😍🥰 )))))

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Hugs to you too 💛

[@calvert747]

How are you today @Theresa wetherell🌹🌺🌷🍀

[@mariadefatima6469]

I lost my husband if 43years 3weeks ago has been hard to learn how to live to yourself

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Sending you so much love and strength, one moment at a time lovely xx

[@rosefenton3005]

How can it never impact our lives when apart from Christ, he was my life, He was also my full time carer so I’m hardly surviving. My heart is broken,

[@modupeadebiyi1868]

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[@JohnW-z4i]

Half of widowed people are men. Can we watch too?

[@nocotton]

I feel sorry for the next guy (who any widow dates, that is ALIVE!!). He'll always be 2nd or 3rd place at best. Run like hell, guys!! They're crazy!

[@MD-hb3pk]

Blahhhhh. Get on with it!

[@patriciawagstaff6302]

BLAHhhh. What ?