7 Years As A Widow: How My Grief Has Changed | One Happy Widow

[@OneHappyWidow]

Has your grief changed over time?

[@susanmereau8939]

As I again sit here again with tears rolling down my face after losing my husband of 53 years, I am feeling everything you are sharing, but it is getting harder not easier! Thank you for being you and letting us know what we are going through is normal! God bless you.

[@almacristinaroman507]

My life and priorities are different but I feel 90% of what you described. It’s been 6 months without my husband and it gets worse and worse, not only in the way I feel but how the life around me is changing.

[@almacristinaroman507]

@@susanmereau8939I feel the same, harder for me and I feel people around me start pulling out

[@JudiKerestan]

The worst thing about losing my husband 2 weeks ago was someone saying that now you are single , you fulfilled your vows.,No way I am still married ,, only my husband is up there and Im down here but he will always be my husband...

[@OneHappyWidow]

Sometimes people say the dumbest things! Of course you still feel married, and in some way you might always. And that’s ok!

[@encouragingword1172]

I understand. Wore my wedding ring for 3 yrs after my husband died, then the diamond fell out and l never found it. I was devastated! Now l wear a silver ring of costume jewelry on that finger and my wedding ring is in the jewelry box. I never look at it. Pictures that used to bring me such joy only make me cry now, so l don’t look at those either. I still feel married also, over 4 yrs after Jim’s death. He’s just not in the house.

[@mom4peace919]

My month is November and it will be 8 years this November. My husband was 47, I was 54. I'm 62 now. and retired from the school system. I've followed you for awhile and appreciate your honesty. Thank you for sharing and being real. I feel like I've watched every video, listened to every podcast and read every book on being a widow over the last 7 years and what I've noticed is that almost all people speaking out are remarried. While I can appreciate that the loss and grief never go away, I also think there is a significant difference in widowed when we've made the choice to not seek out another partner. There is a real finality in checking the "widow" box forever. A whole different set of challenges are creaated on top of the loss and grief...like no support, not feeling understood, loneliness., having to do EVERYTHING on your own, growing old alone, being a single parent (albiet to grown children) and the list goes on. There is feeling lonely and actually being alone most of the time, and they are completely different. I've wondered why more people who have "chosen " the widow life don't speak out and I think it's because society is way less patient and unwilling to hear about the loneliness, whereas stories of remarriage are more hopeful and filled with people being resilient and these stories are just easier to hear and more socially acceptable. Remarried widows are considered strong and resilient and provide stories of hope, whereas widows who don't remarry are considered weak and pathetic. And of course this just adds to the isolation. Just another perspective. Thank you for sharing your story and allowing others to do the same.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your perspective from someone who has chosen a different path in this journey. I can certainly appreciate that there are other aspects of the long-term grief for someone who does not find (or choose to find) love again. It’s always a double-edged sword, as there are many people who don’t think I have the right to speak about widowhood since I have remarried. I do enjoy hearing the different ways that people handle their life after loss, so thank you for taking the time to shed some light on some different ways that people grieve!

[@gracehillgranny5445]

I understand exactly what you're saying. I've not remarried either. It's been almost 10 years. Married friends are now more like acquaintances. Living lonely is different than living alone. We don't fit the expectations of what others think we should do/be. But, keep being you. It takes a strong minded and determined person to embrace life without a partner. Yes, we have our struggles, but we aren't weak.

[@terrilynch5435]

I don’t believe ANY widow is EVER weak or pathetic. Remarriage is statistically difficult for widows AND divorced women purely considering that there are so many more widows than widowers. (Numerically men die earlier ). Let’s just embrace that life is hard. Being a successful woman while widowed or divorced or single or MARRIED is challenging. Life/God may or may not give you another opportunity to marry. One is not more hopeful or sad. I’m inspired by many widows I see and know who are transparent about learning and growing & living.

[@terrilynch5435]

I don’t believe ANY widow is EVER weak or pathetic. Remarriage is statistically difficult for widows AND divorced women purely considering that there are so many more widows than widowers. (Numerically men die earlier ). Let’s just embrace that life is hard. Being a successful woman while widowed or divorced or single or MARRIED is challenging. Life/God may or may not give you another opportunity to marry. One is not more hopeful or sad. I’m inspired by many widows I see and know who are transparent about learning and growing & living.

[@user-ei8rb7sj6c]

My month is March and it was 9 years for me this year. From what you’ve said in your comment, all I know is that you’ve decided you don’t want to remarry. There could be many reasons for that, but none make me think you are weak and/or pathetic. As widows, we may have some feelings and experiences in common, but our histories and circumstances are all different. I hope you will be as kind and loving with yourself as you would be with your best friend. While being a widow has its problems and challenges, such as those you mentioned, remarrying would have problems and challenges, too. At 71, I don’t know if I’ll remarry or not. If I were to meet and fall in love with a fine gentleman who knows what might happen? None of us knows what the future holds. All we can do is live one day at a time, and look forward to what surprises tomorrow may bring! Wishing you all the best!

[@reneemartin9041]

I lost my husband 25 days ago… every morning realizing he is gone is so hard.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry, you are certainly in the fresh grief stage!

[@patricec7675]

I found your channel, and I appreciate you doing this for others. I lost my husband 2 months ago today. He was murdered in a completely senseless killing at his office space while he returned home for a few days to work before rejoining us on vacation. We have an adult daughter (29) and an 11 and 13 year old at home. I was informed of his murder while at vacation, 4 hours away. This is the most difficult time I can imagine for all of us. Seeing that I am not alone in this pain has helped. I am unable to sleep. I cannot think properly. I have to deal with police and court. I said goodbye to him on Monday afternoon and on Tuesday morning was told he was gone. I miss him immensely. He is my best friend. I don't know how to be without him. It has been a struggle. I appreciate your videos. I feel validated in my feelings. Thank you.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I am so sorry you are in this traumatic grief right now! It’s so tough to grieve our spouse and still maintain a life for our children, who are also grieving in a much different way. I have several videos about solo parenting that might be a good resource for you.

[@teresapaliwoda]

It's so tough especially when menopause hits. I've been a widow twice. Once when I was 40 my husband died of leukemia. Then I remarried 4 years later. Then 16 years later my husband died of a massive heart attack in his chair during the night. I understand about the hair. I did the same. My mother died last year and my weight has blossomed. I try to be as loving to myself as I am to others who are struggling. Be kind to yourself. Thanks for putting yourself out there for us.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback #widfam

[@antonellatotino2794]

Thankyou for bringing up this topic. I'm at the 6 1/2 year mark of living my husband. Noone talks about it anymore. Grief changes, but what a journey!!!! Still heartbroken, picking up my pieces and for my children. Yes, sooo hard trying to help your children. Thankyou. God's strength!

[@antonellatotino2794]

Spelling error. Losing my husband

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your support #widfam

[@lauramiller6294]

I just passed the 2 year mark. My life has definitely changed. Over the last 2 years I have made my house mine. There is no one to share it with other than grandkids and now great grands. I do what I want when I want and I don't care what anyone thinks. Yes I do miss my husband every day. I suspect I always will. I meet with a group of friends twice a month. I don't mind doing things by myself. I have had to learn how to keep up with repairs on house. The most difficult part of that is finding right person for job. Overall I figured out I had to take care of myself. Nobody is going to do it for me.

[@OneHappyWidow]

You sound like you have embraced your independence, I’m proud of you!

[@annamaegrout8159]

Well I lost my husband 6 years ago and I miss him so so much. I also do most everything alone. I use to say I won't go out to eat alone well that changed. I go alone or don't go. Your life changes so much.

[@gracehillgranny5445]

Your video just popped up in my feed. I almost didn't tune in. I was widowed at age 51. Our 3 youngest were in college, our oldest were married with babies and small children. Two weeks before he passed, our 3rd son became a 1st time Daddy. She was born 2 weeks early. He passed on her due date. Even then, the Lord blessed us with her arrival. It will be 10 yrs this December. Almost everything you've shared, I can identify with. (Except) I've not dated nor remarried, so blending a family hasn't been my journey. The journey has been tough on my heart and our children, but we're all doing well, most of the time. My beloved was also a military career Soldier. Retired SFC/E7, he never got that option to experience retirement, though. Being a widowed grandmother has many aches and growing pains. I can't afford the things we used to offer our oldest grandblessings. But, if not for our grandblessings, I'm not sure I'd have come this far. 10yrs ... seems like yesterday and a thousand years at the same time. Christ Jesus has been faithful through it all. I'll be tuning in as you share. I'm glad I clicked play.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m glad you clicked too! Thanks for watching, and sharing your feedback.

[@beatricefrask5230]

Being a young widow with a kid to raise on my own cost me my health. She was 2. Now that she is 19, I am starting to catch my breath.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Raising grieving children is probably the hardest part of being a widow, in my opinion!

[@elaineplowman9621]

I lost my husband 11 months ago but I am older than most of you. It is hard but gets easier. However your life is changed forever and will never be the same again! The World refers to you as single which to me hurts because I didn’t choose this life. I am still adjusting but I do attend a Grief Share group which helps some.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m glad you found a group that helps you. Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback #widfam

[@marshagaspard6239]

This video is so relatable. Thanks for sharing it. I became a widow 2.5 years ago. As you said, grief is a different journey for everyone, but the whole time that I was watching, I noticed that I was constantly shaking my head, "yes". I explained it to another recent widow like this: It is the most unique, strangest, unpredictable, difficult journey that you will ever go on, but you will make it with faith.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, all of this! It is so hard to explain it to someone who hasn't lost a spouse, and almost no need to explain it to someone who has. We just "get it" in some sort of way. Thanks for watching, and sharing your feedback #widfam

[@lindaallen7283]

Thank you so very much for sharing your experience. You are a great example of navigating life after losing a spouse. We are 2 months shy of 5 years after losing my husband of 45 years, and the pain has become tolerable but will never be gone. I miss him daily. I am grateful for the way you describe finding a new routine through life. Two years ago the older of our 2 children decided to become estranged from all family; I’m finding that very difficult, but I will continue finding the comfort and peace through faith.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. Our oldest daughter who lives in CA has also gone no-contact with us also. She left her son with his dad and she moved across the country as far away from us as she could get. I pray daily that she will return to her family one day, but her brain will have to be in a different place before that can happen.

[@DonWright-w9e]

I so understand, when we hard time with weight, then my hair not right, it is a hard day! Enjoy your content! You are a beautiful soul! Keep on keeping on. North Carolina! The best of 3

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching

[@annegiarratana7744]

Our loved ones are always around as spirits they see everything especially they never miss big occasions

[@OneHappyWidow]

We don’t actually believe this, but there’s no way to know who is right…thanks for watching!

[@liaalbo9108]

I lost my husband 2 years ago. I stopped crying every day, but the pain doesn't leave. I function, but the pain doesn't leave. ❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

I understand how that goes

[@lynhead52]

I am glad you are back- I am 1 1/2 yrs out - it is still very hard. It helps to understand what all others go through. We were married almost 48 yrs, I haven't found that 'new normal'.

[@OneHappyWidow]

It take a while to rescue true your whole life, and we do it reluctantly, so that takes even more time. Go at your own pace, and be kind to yourself!

[@serenitybee9665]

So thankful for this channel 🙏 I lost my husband 2 months ago😭💔 Our son in an accident in 2020😭Miss them both so much . 🙏

[@OneHappyWidow]

I'm so sorry for your compounded loss and grief. Prayers for you #widfam

[@tammymarsden4852]

Welcome back what a treat , your videos are amazing they help so much in 1 month my husband will be gone 3 yrs time flies but stands still if that makes sense. Same here anything patriotic gets my heart he was in the Navy and qhen u say some gave all oh yeah I know what u mean. Nice to see u Leo and so happy ur back take care and give yourself grace ur amazing ❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback #widfam

[@toniwaugh1823]

Hi Leo, so happy that you're back on KZbin. You look great! 👍 Thank you for sharing with us your grief journey over the past 7 years . I am almost 2.5 years into my grief journey after losing my wonderful husband. I find it hard realizing that he will never come home to me. 😢 Looking forward to your future videos. 😊

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback #widfam

[@lalaaa6019]

Widowed for 9 years with 9 yr old twins😢 widowed at 27

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry #widfam

[@encouragingword1172]

Oh my goodness! The roller coaster of emotions and events you must have endured! May God Bless you so much! Hope you and your twins are doing ok.

[@MrSscutch]

Almost 3 years out...remarried for 6 months... I still get the wind knocked out of me when i see his items and have to make a decision about what to do with his belongings and then I need a day to cry....my new husband had lost his wife as well so he understands...

[@OneHappyWidow]

You are both lucky to have each other.

[@suefanning2067]

Leo I was thinking you look great!! Good to see you.☺️

[@OneHappyWidow]

Aww thanks, #widfam

[@MM-yi9zn]

The loss is permanent especially in a very long marriage. You just have to plod on day by day.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, this is true!

[@maryd8393]

My hubby has passed three yrs three months ago 4/30/24. All I did was cry during this whole video. My hubby was in the military for twenty yrs. So I feel all the feels like you do.

[@irenemojocoa]

Sorry for your loss. My husband was in the military for 20 years too! He passed too young only 50, on November 2022. Miss him every second 😭

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry you are feeling n this journey, my friend

[@OneHappyWidow]

Those patriotic holidays are triggering, aren’t they?

[@TheReneepruitt]

Well, I feel like shit. My husband died August 26. The only saving grace that I can say is it at least he was here to hold my hand when I lost my son because if I had lost my son after my husband, I don’t think I could’ve done it without My husband.. My husband has been my rock for 33 yrs. I was worried about him anyways but he kept saying nothing is wrong but he had a heart attack right in front of me. I tried CPR and nothing.. I was afraid this would happen. But I am still in shock and I am lost. He has been the one who gave me a life that was worth living. And now I don’t even have him to tell about my day. I hate waking up.. I hate coming home and not seeing him sitting in his garage waiting on me to get home. I hate feeling like I am in constant verge of vomiting. So I have been grieving my son who was only 23 to now, my husband. How can I go on? Why do I want to? No I am not contemplating on unloving myself but I ask what is the point now? I feel despair and I keep praying and I am praying God will talk to me

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry widfam. I can tell you that it does get easier over time, but you’ll have to be the one to find what brings you joy again when you are ready. Or maybe eye you’re just tired of being sad all the time. I pray you reach that phase soon, with Gods help.

[@merrildegroot7862]

Hello. Yes, it is rather sh...y. My husband of 33 years passed just 10 days ago. I hate when it gets to 6pm, the nights are the worst. The grief, sadness and loss are so overwhelming. What the he.. do I do now? We were best buddies and did everything together. The loss of a child and spouse is one of life's harshest journeys. God will carry you, me and many more through this period. God Bless us all.

[@TheJillyrabbit]

I was just thinking about you the other day and wondering if you were MIA...nice to have you back

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you for thinking of me, yes I'm officially BACK! I had to take a mental health break- just needed to rest my brain, body, heart...all the things!

[@almacristinaroman507]

Thank you for this video and for all the work you do around this topic. Although I don’t resonate with everything you talk about here as my life is different and I am a different type of person, I feel 90% of what you described and I retained 2 things. First is that our husbands would give anything to live smaller or bigger things that for us don’t bring any joy or meaning and we should find those. Second is that it gets easier in time, because although the situation and the pain are there it’s us who change and find ways to cope with all that. How do you find reasons and purpose and strength to continue living that kind of life? Where half of you crushed and in constant pain? I find it very hard to go on like that for the rest of my life

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. As for how we go on, I try to take it one day at a time. There are good days and bad days, and I have to remember that neither will stay the same for long. I make lists, and set new goals so that I have a purpose and things I’m working towards.

[@lauriearcher7939]

Leo! I have missed you! I am so glad you’re back and I think you look fabulous! I am looking forward to your live session. I’m going on 3 years and am finally realizing this is my life now and it is nothing like I thought it would be at this age. Being a widow sucks!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, it totally does!

[@neoncoyote2008]

Leo, your videos have been a touchstone for me in the six months since my husband died. I appreciate you, your intent to help, and your no-nonsense and forthcoming delivery more than I can say. I hear you on the frustration of menopause - please find a health care provider well-versed in HRT to see if you might be a candidate...it can be life-changing, including addressing the seemingly endless weight gain. I also understand your thoughts on not feeling your best on camera; but I want to assure you that I'm seeing the same generous, helpful spirit and person I saw in all the other videos, and I have nothing but positive thoughts towards your appearance. We're all in the same struggle with that, same as this widows' club. I so appreciate everything you do. Looking forward to your future content.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you for all your kind words! I did mention to my doctor at my last appt about HRT, and she sort of blew me off, saying that the side effects can sometimes be worse than the original symptoms, so unless I'm truly suffering, it's not time yet. Since I started eating better, the hot flashes have gotten better, but this weight and low-energy is for the birds!!!

[@iccee571]

I am so glad I watched this. It has been 8 years since I lost my husband. I still grief to a certain extent. This grief is one you dont get over but it gets easier. I glad these are normal feelings....

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, totally normal!

[@cherihermans9118]

Thank you for your video. My husband of 50 years passed away this February. He was very ill for 8 years. Now I am navigating and finding a new path. I miss him terribly. ❤ The first year is hard we lost our oldest son in a motor vehicle accident over 20 years ago so I know all the “firsts “ are hard.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you for watching and sharing some of your story with us. Prayers to you #widfam

[@terrilynch5435]

I’ve missed you Leo! Please know how much you are loved. I’m approaching 6 years as a widow. You’ve helped me so much. I say “me too” to everything you share. I still cry too. Every day we keep growing stronger. ❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks so much for your feedback! I appreciate you #widfam

[@robincivitello4473]

Hello, I just watched your video for the first time, the video when you talked about your late husband's diagnosis. My struggle is with my son.... He was diagnosed with glioblastoma and given 1to 2 yrs. to live. This was 15 mos. ago. I grieve everyday. He had a clinical trial last September, he was sick most of the winter from this trial but it gave him more time . Right now he has bad days and good days. He had been excepted for phase 2 of the trial. This week he had a scan and the tumor has grown from the last scan. The phase 2 is not until January.😢 This type of cancer is very aggressive and incurable..... January is 61/2 mos. Away. Now I find myself pacing the floor because I'm terrified he won't make it to the trial date! So I understand what it's like to grieve before any passing. I can't believe I'm loosing a child....he is 43 and 1 of 5....thank you for your videos. Robin

[@piligarcia4771]

Refering to menopause , I spent like 10 yrs with this problem and hot flushes ,especially if I was stressed ..and being a wifow didn,t help..and someone told me to try leaving all dairy and anything made with wheat flour..like normal bread and cakes biscuits ect..and within a week I started to feel much better and the hot flushes stopped..unless I have a fright..or I eat wheat..then in 15 mins I have a hot flush...I have been controling these two ingredients for about 6 months and my blood work came out perfect and I feel totaly different...I also have hot ginger drink for brealfast and a couple of rounds of pineapple first..and my weight has stabilized .

[@OneHappyWidow]

Than you for the advice! I have cut out all gluten and flour for several months, and my hot flashes also went away. Of course my cycle returned also lol. I do believe that nutrition is the key to so much healing, without all the nasty side effects of medication. I have been on keto/carnivore mix for about a year. I haven't lost any weight, but my health is actually better (bloodwork, etc) than it has been in a long time.

[@lindaness7002]

Lonely vs loneliness...complex. coming up on the 3rd anniversary of my husband's death..August 19th.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@orthodudeness]

One and a half years for me now. The grief is changing. Now it is sometimes very sharp. Seems to not be waves anymore, more like a circle. Linda was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2019. Looking back over the past 5 years, I can see the changes in her from about 2014. Didn't know what it was all about, what was happening. Lewy Body is that way. The sharp pian is back from time to time. I see it, I won't push it away, but I know to not let it take over. That is tough. Main point of that is, she would not want me to just give up. She would want me to live. 2020, tough year, as you point out, for everyone. Linda was regressed to the point of not knowing what was happening at all. Covid, and then there was a fire here. 173,000 acres of forest. 400 homes lost. We were lucky, it just burned all the forest around us. We were evacuated for 2 weeks. Highway was closed for 47 miles. We live at mile 24. Anyhow, thing I remember the most right now is my thoughts from 2020 to 2023 when she died, 3/19.2023. I remember giving up our horses and donkeys to a great rescue place, all in great homes now. That happened in 2020 as caring for Linda and all of them became too much. Weird thing I remember the most is helping her up from her recliner every night, walking her to bed, tucking her in, I love you dear. I would do this walk with her, thinking "How long am I going to have to do this?". Maybe because she always healed from all her ills so well. Strange thing is looking back at that and realizing I never thought that those walks would end because she was going to die. It took 2 and a half years of those walks till she died at home. I am still amazed that thought of her death never crossed my mind during those walks. Although I did know she was terminal as are all with dementia. Anticipatory grief was very real for me then. Maybe it was just that it lasted for 5 years till she died. We have no children. I still live in the same house. 24 miles from town. I have a few friends up here, mostly alone now. I am getting out, forcing myself sometimes to stay mobile and not just sit and waste away. Acceptance and grief got better at the beginning of this year, easier to handle. At this moment it is tough again. Tough times are getting further apart. I can see that, but I wish the tough would end. Trying not to make grief the focus of my life and not push it away either. It is smoothing out. My job is helpful. I have my own business for 44 years now. Started working in the field in 1969, 55 years ago. Seems like it might just pan out ok. The guilt for having a happy time or day is tough but I am finding it less difficult as time goes on. I just keep telling myself, reminding myself, Linda would want me to go on. As I would want her to go on if it went that way. We did discuss this point years ago. Everyone, be sure to cover this point now, not later, with your family. Thanks for the opportunity to ramble on here. Be well.💖

[@susanlira6331]

Thanks for your brutal honesty. I understand most of what you are saying. Your testimony is helpful.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching

[@orthodudeness]

This helped me along..... I have something here to share. I have tried to copy and paste the original, youtube doesn't allow that in a reply post. So, I have written out a copy here. Use this and do something like this. I found it tucked away in my wife's jewelry box after she passed from dementia on 3/19/2023. Took me to my knees when I found it. It's from 7/25/2007. She kept it all those years. I wondered did she know how much I loved her??/= Did I love here enough? Got my answer when I found this. We were together for 37 years. Here it is.... I work at home, way to many hours as my boss is the toughest around. My week starts on Sunday, sometimes goes till Sunday. My hours are long, my choice as well. I'm sitting working my tail off last Sunday. in comes Linda. She had been out in the pasture fooling with the horses. Huge smile, glowing eyes, COMES INTO MY WORK, to tell me about all the butterflies in the pasture. So numerous at one point she said she could feel the wind from their wings on her face some got so close. Put a complete stop to my progress. Butterfly jabber went on for a few minutes, complete shutdown of progress for me. Then she goes back out to finish her busy day. There I sit thinking, I hope that if I were created, or here by chance, whatever, cosmic muffin, hairy thunderer, whatever.... Please whatever it is or isn't...let me live and breathe just one more day...one more breath..so that my wife can come and completely WASTE MY TIME like that again. I must say I enjoy numerous occasions like that working at home. Helped largely by living where we do, surrounded by wildlife and forest. You guys like stuff like that? Someone sharing simple totally wonderful moments with you?? I get those feelings in my roll off observatory, but not as intense as with Linda and her butterflies. Health, Love, and Wealth to you all, and time to enjoy them.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for sharing that beautiful moment and incredible lesson for us all!

[@jaelinn2876]

My husband passed 7/7/24, 5 days ago in an auto accident . We were married 32 years. We were separated so his death has been devastating.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry that you are going through this complicated grief journey.

[@sylviaAguenther-zc9lg]

Hi there, sorry to hear of this terrible incident in your life, many of us who have gonna through the same shock R holding a lot candle of strength to help U through. Turn to a friend here if the day& night seems unbearable, here 4 u if I need to text/talk😢😢💖💖stay in peace

[@terrigodfrey8260]

Thank you for your words. You are so lovely and a very good communicator. Even though I am much older and my kids are adults with kids, much of what you say pertains to any widow, at any age. Very helpful and wise words to me as I listen. I am coming up on the 3rd anniversary of losing my prince. Having been thru menopause some years ago, I notice that your thyroid is swollen which may be indicative of hypothyroid (underactive) and two major symptoms of that are hair loss and weight gain and it almost always shows up at this age for the first time. I was put on thyroid medication for about 10 years which helped a great deal. Also research what nutrients support thyroid production....zinc, selenium, iodine, etc., and eating higher protein and lower carb. That info helped me back then tremendously. I'm not a doctor and if this doesn't pertain to you, please disregard.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you for your suggestions and your kind words as well! I do have Hashimoto's, diagnosed about 8-10 years ago and take medication, but it doesn't seem to make me feel much different if I'm off it or on it. THe dr. said nutrition will make more difference in how I feel than anything. I have been carnviroe eating for hte past year and a half or so, probably about 85% of the time...but those other 15% days when I have a setback, my body goes full-blown craving mode and I can easily gain 5-10 pounds in about 3 days of eating "junk" so it's been difficult to be consistent. It's just a constant job to see what makes me feel the best, what I can stomach, and of course the will power to stick to it!

[@janethendrickson6705]

Welcone Back#!!❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks, it’s good to be back!

I lost my husband 6 days ago. The grief is overwhelming. I have a great support system but I can't let them in right now. For now, I hibernate in our house, surrounded by my husband's things, listening to videos like this. Does it help to know others are suffering as I am? I don't know. Sorry, I'm rambling.

[@edgrossman8929]

Don’t be sorry. Talk is like therapy. I am moving through my own grief after losing my spouse in January 2024

[@OneHappyWidow]

You are in fresh grief right now, and it’s normal to not want company for a while. Take one day at a time, and be kind to yourself.

[@annegiarratana7744]

Our loved ones are always around as spirits they see everything especially they never miss big occasions

[@chelseajbri]

So true 🎯🙏🏽

[@JesseUnderwood-m8b]

HEY just want to say YOUVE got this!I believe that what ever is thrown our way,GOD has it in control.I can tell your a beautiful person inside ,I only take one day at a time ,because you not promised tomorrow .I believe GOD put you and your new husband together for purpose?I wish you and yours the most happiness that can be,for the rest of your time on this earth.GOD bless and enjoy life for it is LOVE.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. I do believe God sent my current husband to me, and me to him- we have certainly helped each other through some tough times!

[@Redmemory1]

Glad to see you on KZbin again! Teaching is so, so hard. I left my teaching career many, many years ago and never looked back. Have you considered a different career path?

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, it just keeps getting worse every year! I’m transitioning out, hopefully this next year is my last, as it’s only part-time!

[@NoodlesEaton]

October is my June. I hate October due to deaths and accidents.I gained 35 pounds. I am using intermittent fasing 16:8. I am so happy you are doing videos again. You were born to be a speaker and teacher! I love your channel! Your property is like heaven! p.s. I do not see the weight change in you.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. I’ve tried fasting and carnivore too, but it hasn’t worked. I’m actually taking medicine now to help with my insulin levels, and that’s helping a bit. Thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot!

[@dennismccowan5375]

Glad you are back! Your videos helped me after my wife passed...now its been just over 2 years.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@jeannekrenk3949]

Thank you for continuing to share your journey; I have missed you … I came upon your Channel when I lost my Mark last Fall … thank you for saying that patriotic holidays are especially hard; he was retired Air Force and these holidays have hit me hard; I thought that was kind of crazy on my part but you have helped me to put some perspective on those feelings … I really appreciated how you talked about honoring the memory of your loved one by living your best life … I am a retired Special Education teacher; my advice to you is to take care of yourself; it’s a very tough job and I totally understand your stress … ❤ Grateful to have “visited” you today!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Sounds like we have a lot in common! I have yet another new job this fall, and I'll talk about it in my net video, but I can say that it's part-time, and it's not in SPED...hopefully those 2 changes will help a little! Thanks for watching, and sharing your feedback #widfam

[@scrapstress]

I have missed you , thank you for coming back ❤

[@dawnleonard3000]

I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me!! Thank you so much❤

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your support

[@encouragingword1172]

Thank you for your channel and sharing your story.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching

[@janwilson6765]

Welcome back, we have a couple of things in common, not liking the month of June. I lost my husband June 2nd 2017 so I am also a widow 7 years and my husband's birthday is also in June. We were married 49 years . I have not remarried . It's great you're back ,looking forward to future videos. Have a great day.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your story #widfam

[@johandrihougaard437]

My husband died 2 June 2023, so I am in my 1 year. It is hard, but God is good!!!

[@janwilson6765]

One moment at a time

[@autobotdiva9268]

i cut off all his friends after one of them made a nasty comment to me. havent seen them in over a year.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I wish this wasn’t as common as it is..but so many widows have said this!

[@laurieschwarzrock7724]

It’s hard I feel so broken miss my husband

[@OneHappyWidow]

I totally understand!

[@jessicavaia2122]

Hi Leo welcome back great video!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@tinahauser8864]

I have a question - do you still quilt?

[@OneHappyWidow]

I actually don’t enjoy quilting (I have tried it), but I do love to sew, and I still love it.

[@AnhTran-ek6cx]

you look good Leo! sending you hugs

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks #widfam

[@melb2258]

Mine was 4 yrs 7/31/2020. He passed away due to Covid, while in a VA facility. I thought I would move on without a hitch. Wrong. It’s been a journey that I wasn’t prepared for. So I got very close to God. Instead of getting into a relationship I got into a relationship God. It’s been 4 yrs, but I think I still have more to be on my own. To raise my 14 yr old son. God helps you in ways you never thought. God helps through grief, darkness, alone. Ive accepted and am comfortable with the thought of staying alone for the rest of my life, if need be. We can make it! Single moms have God.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback

[@melindabarefoot4612]

I can relate to the menopause. Hot Flashes have been bad, and being so tired felt like it came out of nowhere. Oh, and the hair thinning is no joke either. I'm glad to hear you're doing better. Missed you!! I can explain the way I felt with the initial shock of my husband taking his life, on our 22nd anniversary. Shell Shock. It was like someone had shot a gun close by, and there was a ringing in my ears, I was going through the motions, but mentally I couldn't wrap my mind around it. December 4th will be nine years, and our family is torn apart. My children blame me, and I haven't seen or talked to them in two years. I became a grandma on Christmas Eve last year, and my son won't let me see the baby. I just wish their daddy could see just how much our lives are Not Better, since he's gone. Our boys were 11 and 15 at the time he passed away.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I'm so sorry you have had to go through all this, Im sure your grief is a mix of so many different emotions. One of my children has also gone no-contact, and will not allow me to see my only grandson either. It is so tough!

[@19snoopy64]

Congratulations on getting married again.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you it has almost been 5 years now.

[@19snoopy64]

@@OneHappyWidow Sweet.❤

[@mariselaramirez1087]

I just joined and you look beautiful! ❤❤ My husband committed suicide almost 4 months ago, he was 44. It’s been really hard but God has been my strength!!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing her feedback!

[@CarolynDick-r4f]

My Husband Phil died 7 years ago Good Friday April 14th 2017 Love and Miss him so much

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry #widfam

[@psrwhite]

So good to hear you. I started listening to you in 2021, right after my husband died. You feel like an old friend I haven't seen in awhile but we haven't missed a beat. So glad you are here again!

[@OneHappyWidow]

What a nice thing to say! 2021 is when I started the channel, and it is so nice to get back to it!

[@kgb2905]

Go out and get IT.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Every day!

[@kgb2905]

@@OneHappyWidow yes every day.stop being satisfied with poor performing partners. They must be GOOD and thats it.

[@kgb2905]

@@OneHappyWidow IF EVERY DAY ,YOU ARE MY TYPE.

[@irenemojocoa]

I’ve followed you a few months after the passing of my husband on Nov 2022. Thank you for sharing all of your grief journey. I can definitely relate to many of your experiences.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your support #widfam

[@muma6559]

Good girl that you stepped up to positive changes to avoid things such as diabetes, so good that you didn't make things more complicated

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yes, I'm trying my best to stay healthy. Dewey had diabetes in addition to so many other issues, so I saw how that affected him too. Thanks for watching.

[@tinahauser8864]

Thank you for all the videos you have made. My husband has terminal colon cancer. I’ll be referring back to these videos in the future for sure.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Praying for you, and thanks for watching.

[@prettyeyescovington5430]

Thank you, I needed to hear story because for me it's so hard and it seems like the pain will never get easier go away.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I understand; sometimes it seems that way. I suggest keeping a journal to track your progress.

[@kathyw4102]

Missed you, but I understand and take care of yourself.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for your kind message!

[@mounijani1154]

I lost my husband 20 days back a small misunderstanding between us he hung himself and left me we have been married together for 8 years ...i dont know how to live without him i just want to go to him all i want to say is sorry and i love him very much we have been allmost fighting because of his alcohol addiction and my anger issues but we do have lot of sweet memories we dont have kids ...i cant imagine my future without him i am totally lost...hope he will be at peace in heaven ...waiting for my death to meet him

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so sorry for your journey. Praying for you #widfam

[@irenebent7351]

Please be strong, you can get over this but it will take time. Don’t blame yourself, your husband was an alcoholic and not of sound mind. That is what led him to do it not what you said. God bless

[@irenemojocoa]

You look great!! Welcome back Leo!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for your kind words!

[@anneturner2759]

I just heard a little more about your husband always wanting to be a dad . Please allow me to say that this sucks and it is NOT fair ! ❤️‍🔥 How is your husband doing with his grief are you further along ? Is he ?im curious..

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for your feedback. My current husband is now 5 years out and I’m 7 years out. We are helping each other cope.

[@annegiarratana7744]

Are you drinking coke? No,no,no

[@OneHappyWidow]

No, its Diet Coke