Tensions Rise As Stricter Rules Push Students & Staff To Tipping Points - Part 3 | Dare To Dream

[@FT-od4xv]

Rayyan is such a gentle "giant". Hope you can fulfil your goal this year. All the best to you.

[@Armz69]

True that, he going to be a great man growing up.

[@sbaumgartner9848]

I agree about Rayyan.

[@henlopresto]

Kheng Leng is such a wonderful human being.

[@gill77771]

She really is ❤👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@AA-mk7yn]

Ive had the opportunity to volunteer under her in 2017-18 and she is truly a wonderful individual, i dont know how she does it but she is truly an inspiration.

[@alanlts]

She has her set of principles. She would be a good friend to many people

[@levan-2965]

Ya totally agree! I can tell from watching from this documentary. She has a big heart ❤

[@lettucecarrots]

As someone who is in very similar circumstances with Estee I could relate so much with her struggles especially when she questioned if she was actually good at anything. Really hope that the people around her are supportive and that she continues to try, sometimes that all we can do. So much love and respect for the team :)

[@m03_m]

4 main runners of the home and 3 likely already left the home including one CEO. It is a good purpose of the home but there seen to be some problem with the management in many social sectors including public schools.

[@karlyntay8144]

Go Estee! You have done your very best! You are the right one to help them! All the way! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[@FT-od4xv]

All the best to Estee, its not easy choosing a career in this sector. Jia you!

[@TrashCas]

Hey Estee, not sure if you'd see this comment, but just wanted to share some heart as someone also just starting to work in the youth/care industry. One thing I've learnt from the job so far, in comparison to life as a student is this: As a student, we worked to make every effort count, and we aim to maximise the effect of every minute of our work/studying, to make the least mistakes to we can inch our closest to 100%. This stress/hope/expectation si highly effective as a student-when our grades are highly within our control, but not exactly so when working with people. But here, as a working adult working with people (or youths), it would be more wise to maximise our longevity in the career (pretty much the rest of our lives), and to sow when the opportunity arises. In exams, it is possible to get 100%, but in life, there is never 100%, there is always better (so no point chasing perfection/maximising effectiveness, because that is non-existent anyway) - much wiser to do what we can where we are and leave some fires to burn out themselves. Blessings :)

[@koruspring1519]

Nick has an ego problem that needs to be resolved. Such a soft environment may actually aggravate and inflate it. I’m curious how the staff thinks about it.

[@Armz69]

True that, he is inherently manipulative and that is a huge red flag. It is sad to see young kids to behave as such.

[@johnwig285]

Sorry to say, but from first episode i know Nick is the problem child. You want to be a chef, but you cant handle ppl scolding you. It's gonna be a problem throughout your life not just your career. If you don't appreciate the opportunity that attempts to level the playing field, pls give it to someone else who deserves more. DREAMS is NOT Boys Town.

[@etherionbl3034]

He is just a toxic boy that nobody loves. THat's why he's acting like that as if he is all tough. He don't deserve to be in this =dreams as he will just ruin the environment. Let him fail in life and nobody will love him. Let the others grow better without such a toxic individual. Giving him this opportuntiy but he still act like he is funny but in fact he's just a clown that nobody loves to be around.

[@washigirl]

Oh come on, he’s just 13. Probably reading this too. We adults should know better how these words could hurt. I see raw leadership quality in him despite his other weaknesses, which he could fix. Just wish him well. He’s still very young despite how he looks 😉

[@shirosvlog733]

True, his ego will get him in trouble one day in the future cause I met a lot of egotistic people in my life and l hate this kind of people always think highly of themselves and always think they are better than others but I always tell them that there is someone better than you so always be humble cause humility goes the long way in life. He has an attitude problem and anger issues, i used to have especially my anger issues and always get me in trouble and but now I know how to control and when people do something that pisses me off I just ignore them and laugh at them bcs their actions make them like a clown. 😂 He wants to become a chief he must change and take criticism to heart bcs being a good chief must take criticism regardless of good/bad, if good take it with a humble heart if bad take it with a learning attitude and try how not to make the same mistake and try how to improve the dishes by cooking it and tasting it a few times see what can add on and remove to make the dishes taste better than before, like those world famous chief, Gordon Ramsey and Jamie Olivier i bet they get scolded by their snr and being criticism by customers when they just started and through that they learned and create more dishes and learn more new dishes till they gain experience and now they become world famous chief. We are our chief in our life to make our life better and able to inspire others we must learn from our mistakes, take good/bad criticism and be humble through our learning experience in life we change and people will see the change in us.

[@lauralimweeheang4914]

Johnny and Rayyan have proven that they are positive influencers and good role models. For the rest of the children, your past does not determine your future. You can be the best person you choose to be. The team behind DREAMS are awesome.

[@MeowIsNotaCat]

There are a few comments about how to deal with Nick, with most bearing petty harshness with suggestions to 'break' him out of his current attitude. If you have observed him closely, when sharing his thoughts and the conversations he's had, Nick is a stinging onion with many layers built up as his defense. The approach towards him is to break down these layers bit by bit, not through harshness but with empathy and reassurance that they have gotten his back. He is a very vulnerable boy with low self-esteem, probably a result of the environment he grew up in. I hear him when he said that respect is mutual - that itself is a clue on how he has to be handled, he has to be reasoned with and clear explanations has to be given on why certain behaviours of his is anti-social and teach him how else can one approach a situation differently. Talking down will not break his walls, he will reinforce it further. Nick just needs to learn to be less anti-social and it's ok to be empathetic instead of having that tough stance all the time, that this centre is a place for him to let his guard down, release the angst and the many layers of negative defense mechanism he has built up and to believe in himself. Nick needs extra reminders that he can do it and there's a beautiful soul within that's screaming for assurance and guidance. Nick needs a big hug.

[@EastGuitarWorks]

CNA should filter comments on videos with kids who are still young and developing mentally. Especially when they are on programs as such where mentality towards it is direly important. Some of these comments could be perceived negatively when the kids read them which will affect their attitude/behaviour in this program.

[@dispatcharmy]

20:02 seriously? the cat just died and you are telling him "its just a cat". Well done.

[@johnwig285]

Relax lah, he's clearly attempting to comfort him. If u think u can better, than sign up. But no, everyone who criticise the staff will not survive 1 week

[@marimo66666]

@@johnwig285 clearly not doing a good job exhibiting empathy

[@farmergiles9126]

No comments about the kids - a mix of nature and nature, and we can easily see ourselves on the same path had we experienced the same. My problem is with Stanley - what exactly is his vision? He makes odd comments that kids don't need counselors, they don't need quantity time, just need to meet their idols etc. But for kids, quantity time is quality time. Most kids never see their idols/find non-idol related reasons to grow. Not sure how your owner can parrot such simplistic, unfounded claims that's not backed by evidence. That's probably why the staff are finding hard as well. What exactly is his goal, for the kids to succeed in a "meritocratic" society? Or to prevent them from getting into prison as he says at the end?

[@wsant2872]

Totally agree. His comment about the kids becoming forklift driver is patronizing and insulting

[@BlueMilkTea443]

Nick remind me of my classmate last time, wants things to be on his way, short tempered, always want to be the leader

[@RonLarhz]

The volunteers must be blind to not see it. He say ppl ooi him but he cuss and rough with the other kid nv say. Then call the instructor deh. No big no small.

[@jaydenplayz001]

Direct convert 没大没小 LOL ​@RonLarhz

[@shannonlim6455]

@@RonLarhzlet’s not forget that he is a 13 year old afterall

[@tzejianang2153]

Nick needs to be taught a huge lesson. He has a severe ego problem.

[@johnwig285]

When he go to tertiary education, he'll come across another Nick and he'll learn a lesson

[@tocino4]

I was wondering why =Dream was better than just letting the kids stay home with their family.... Thank goodness they decided to implement some law and order to help the kids focus on more meaningful activities like studying and sleeping.

[@johnwig285]

Mainly is the ease on financial burden. But discipline wise, i thing its for the worse, lets be real.

[@user-sf5bt8eb4y]

johnny is really cute at the same time really mature for his age. If i was in johnny shoes... i might not have the same restrain at the same time Nick really have some problems that i hope there is professional help. cuddling him would do more harm than good

[@syqsdq_]

Alot of keyboard warriors here, all talk but very little substance. Try putting urself in their shoes, they are with the kids 24/7 for 5 days. Most of you already cant tahan your own kids.

[@Abraham-uk4xy]

I couldn't understand why the program officer was crying and feeling inadequate. She did her best and is one of the softer staff.

[@wonderfulfable]

Sometimes, there is a lot of pressure build up inside the program officer / facilitators, these are the kind of emotions they really can't show openly towards the kids. They are human after all. Imagine, if the program officers or facilitators show a moment of vulnerability ( ie breakdown ) towards these kids, they might be taken advantage of.

[@sbaumgartner9848]

I find the roles all of the staff have very demanding. The pressure and skills needed to help these young people from poor backgrounds develop feelings of strong self worth takes special people to work in this environment. I'm not surprised if all staff feel inadequate keeping in mind this is a brand new school that is still finding it's way.

[@joyce132]

It's interesting to see the counselors strategy. As an educator, the rule is to be strict on the very first day. Because students will test your boundaries. That doesn't mean you can't be fun and nice. You can be their mentor and teacher but not their friend. You have to call them out when they are doing something wrong. And encourage them when they do something right. Students need to be held accountable and responsible for their actions and words.

[@user-uc5qq5ks2k]

what I did with my kids were, giving them a warning before receiving the consequences of their action. Basically, kids need structure. My son likes to play video games and he would find a way to play it after we sleep. As he was already warned of the consequences, when we took action, he knows that he had lost our trust, and he knew that he is wrong. Another example is when we gave him his own iphone, we set the rules of do's and don'ts and also informed him of what will happened if he goes against the rule. And at the same time, he is allowed to say or give opinion - like a discussion in agreement of the terms we agreed upon. This help in their personal development. This also help his younger sibling to understand what is expected in the future.

[@weisbars5]

Dare to dream... but I can see most of the kids have no dream. All they want to do is having fun away from their parents,. after watching this these program may lose more donor or fundings. Most of these kids has no interest in improving their study. Their placement should be reviewed every half yearly and made them known that they can lose their placement at school. The teachers are too soft, letting the kids talk over them. Molly coddling them and pitying them due to their circumstances won't help with their character building. It is so exasperating to watch this show! Rayyan deserve to stay. Nick should be expelled instead of suspended.

[@maxxie6275]

That one malay assistant discipline master talks in such a negative way! Yelling at the children and saying "It's YOUR fault if the fan breaks cause you dont listen to me", and smiling when a child told him that their cat died and his response is "It's just a cat. " ??? Why don't they vet the adults in this facility. Some of them are perpetuating the exact cycle that they are supposedly trying to break.

[@johnwig285]

Maybe they need to vet you instead. Your soft approach will get you stomped on lah. Ppl like Felany are the reason why there is some order. I can't believe you are that soft to consider speaking loudly as yelling. He also attempted to comfort Rayyan by saying that. You're a typical SJW who no action talk only acting like you can do better than him. Sign up then talk.

[@daphnnetan]

I guess that might not be the best way to speak according to us who are watching online but to handle a group of teenagers who highly wouldn’t sitting down quietly and listen to instruction, sometimes being firm has to be the way. They are in the big hall with so many children talking at the same time, the instructor might has to yell. End of the day, it’s not for us to judge the action of the instructors at that 1 min of action. They are with the children 24 hrs, even parents shouted at their own children at home. Instructors have room to improve to communicate more effectively. While I feel very much for the children but I also empathise the discipline master. The facility is not a place of perfection.

[@iamjaydennn]

Estee gotta stop being so hard on herself. You can only help those who want to help themselves. I was a student mentor (providing free tution) previously for many years, and it was really difficult mentoring those who aren't motivated to study themselves, there's so much I can do. So now, I only focus on those like Johnny. People, including these teenagers, will have to face the consequences for their actions later on, and we are nobody to force them to do what we want them to even knowing that it is wrong. The best thing you can do for these people is only encourage and provide them with the reason they should make certain correct decisions, and if they don't they have to face whatever that comes. You are not God. Gives off 1w9 vibes.

[@leelockie5513]

I totally agreee lol, really hate those who overly use the word "empathy".

[@suzanaluis2975]

Raising teens/tweens are especially hard. They need the space to grow and learn but at the same time be taught boundaries. These are good kids born into unfortunate circumstances, let’s all root for them and the amazing staff.

[@thereallegend2745]

Nick is clearly a narcissist with issues empathising with others or respecting authority. The pandering & "mutual respect" doesn't work with someone like that. He is a disruptive force who is negatively influencing the atmosphere & development of the other children there who can & want to change. Don't doom the harvest because a single crop is rotten. Pluck it out before it's too late.

[@MeepPop-ke1jx]

Wdym its just a cat? Bruh.

[@abdulrajaf6]

Honestly...These kids are VERY...Intelligent....(They are BORN GREAT...it Depends how we see a GEM in them..)..I'm XS'porean...n i Coach Orphan kids...n i TOLD them...they ARE SPECIAL coz SOMEBODY is Guiding them...coz During my TIME in S'pore in the 80's...i NEED to Search my OWN DESTINY....

[@johnwig285]

Sorry to say, but from first episode i know Nick is the problem child. You want to be a chef, but you cant handle ppl scolding you. It's gonna be a problem throughout your life not just your career. If you don't appreciate the opportunity that attempts to level the playing field, pls give it to someone else who deserves more. DREAMS is NOT Boys Town. He has no respect, and doesn't take discussions seriously.

[@allanyeowjj]

Send him to Gordon ramsay . Best

[@haichoo3214]

nick so annoying if he continues acting like an egotistical spoiled brat there’s no hope alr

[@martinbrock713]

“This is because education is not about competition with one’s classmates but learning through collaboration and teamwork with one’s peers,” he noted. Competition for top-ranked schools is unhealthy and has inflicted serious psychological damage, according to mental health professionals, on our children.

[@koruspring1519]

CNA please hide this guy on your channel please…

[@eliseliang9748]

@@koruspring1519 fr he's been commenting everywhere and asking us to support sdp or smth

[@jeremyfoo1107]

Why hide? It may sound negative but still something to take note in the big picture of education. Whether be it valid or not, at least it’s not vulgar or insulting. I believe many people do have this view to a certain extent.

[@martinbrock713]

The goal should be to lead our students to learn, not push them to study. The former will open up their naturally enquiring minds; the latter will kill curiosity.

[@wsant2872]

Easier said than done. Obviously you are not in education sector

[@jeremyfoo1107]

Well companies need evidence of certification that you have acquired crucial knowledge and skills at a passable standard. That’s how our world works (unfortunately) at the moment. Seeing is believing.

[@nicholasgoh3526]

People should break the cycle of poverty first before they think of giving birth. These kids are so unlucky.

[@alanlts]

Nicholas, no one chooses to end in poverty. Some situations may make them end as such, they may have a decent life when they decide to give birth. It is after the kid it became worst

[@starplayz7536]

I love this

[@candychia8275]

The real working world is never kind. So what is the purpose of this dream?

[@martinbrock713]

Mr Pwee also pointed out that the current system contributed to the growing inequality in Singapore. Because of the intense syllabi, teachers are under pressure to complete the list of required topics regardless of whether the students understand the material or not.

[@martinbrock713]

Pwee highlighted the system’s dependence on exams and rote-learning. In this day and age, such an approach does not prepare our students for a world that emphasizes creativity and innovation.

[@LYJrb819]

ok

[@caedanteng5417]

Make the google on facts with work with phone.

[@angietan77]

It's JUST a cat???!! Wow no empathy at all! And also, he shouldnt yell at them like that! Think military is it?? I think he did mention he was ex police officer or what... There are not his junior officers! He is not suitable for this job! 😡

[@anziar3038]

They will continue to remain poor if they choose not to change for the better.

[@martinbrock713]

The SDP believes that education must be the process where an individual learns to discover oneself and, in doing so, endeavour to improve the human condition. For the sake of our nation’s future, it is important that we teach our children that reading and learning can be enjoyable and intrinsically rewarding.

[@MC-mu4ze]

Rayyan really inspires me ❤️ (Johnny johnny yes papa 🥹 )

[@aluvitystraykissforyou]

i mean if people “oi” me i also mad leh ,, people have name then they oi oi

[@RonLarhz]

You sure you have never go "hey"/ooi before as a reflex to sudden situations? You're the one with problem when you can't grasp context of situation. He was cussing and being physical with the other kid.

[@zhihao5750]

im sure you are the cream of the crop

[@aluvitystraykissforyou]

@@RonLarhznola if people “hey” you ,, i think thts considered as a more polite word then “oi”. like for example, you dont know this person’s name that you met for the first time ,, you dont go “oi” to that person. nick got mad at a grown adult for saying “oi” because some adults think that because they are older ,, they can call younger people however they want w/o using their name.

[@marcedrickirby6348]

MARCEDRIC KIRBY FOUNDER CEO. MARCEDRIC.KIRBY INC. THE VALLEY OF THE VAMPIRES You have to give the oldest three kids to show them what authority is because they need to know that 16 - 24 you are in your suicide years so you to learn to control feelings love and anger are the two powerful ones so ten push-ups