My mom was like this off and on for a couple days before she died. Ten minutes before she died, she tried to get out of bed stating she needed her coat, shoes and purse because her dad , who died 30 years before, was coming to get her.
@jennyn56928 ай бұрын
That's actually kind of comforting.
@Inmatesixdoublefive3218 ай бұрын
@@jennyn5692it was . She wasn’t afraid and we knew she was ready to go. ❤
@jennyn56928 ай бұрын
@@Inmatesixdoublefive321 I hope your grandpa really did come to get her. ❤
@Ynglingsmusik8 ай бұрын
He was..
@missmerrily48308 ай бұрын
He most likely did come, at least to the extent that she could see, or know he was coming to escort her on her final earthly journey. There are numerous accounts of this happening shortly before death occurs. It’s been the topic of much research and some that I’ve been interested to hear is by Peter Fenwick, a British neuropsychiatrist, neurophysiologist and parapsychologist who has done in-depth studies with the dying and of near-death experiences.
@susanweiss14399 ай бұрын
To the families who allow us to view and learn from their videos. THANK YOU, for the strength to share what can be a very disconcerting at the time. I send strong hugs to you.
@hospicenursejulie9 ай бұрын
Yes yes yes yes- THANK YOU!
@laddoothesweet63816 ай бұрын
Agreed, takes a lot of courage to share something that personal. God bless them.
@Rebecca_Bailey5 ай бұрын
Most people would get trolled for showing such personal situations
@susanweiss14395 ай бұрын
@Rebecca_Bailey when they give permission, it is a different story. No names are given, unless you know the families shown, there is no way to find them.
@NanaPiperАй бұрын
Agree
@widrigleclerc9 ай бұрын
I was alone at my mother’s home with her when she died. The night before she did get agitated. The hospice nurse told me on the phone to give her more meds. I did and she calmed down but didn’t regain her consciousness . I wished I would have had access to this video before. But even 14 years later it finally gives me relief. Thank you for what you do!!!
@YeshuaKingMessiah9 ай бұрын
Yes say ur goodbyes before increasing meds
@missylearned98219 ай бұрын
Same situation with me. It’s been almost 19 years and I finally have an answer for why my mom did this the last night she was in her home and own bed. She’d asked me to be her hospice for as long as possible after her lung cancer diagnosis. She passed 3 days after she did this and we were blessed to be able to get her in hospice the last 3 days of her life. I’m grateful for this video because I finally have an answer and I’m very sorry for your loss.
@widrigleclerc9 ай бұрын
Thank you Missy! And I’m sorry for your loss too!
@user-yk8kf2xo2r9 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤yes
@LoLoLifeinFlorida9 ай бұрын
Same! My father in law passed away in hospice it was so hard to watch him struggling. 😢I wish we had this information.
@janetlee55609 ай бұрын
My father had horrible terminal agitation with sudden-onset dementia. He forgot who I was. He thought I was a horrible nurse who was trying to kill him. Sometimes he knew who I was and he would say horrible, awful things to me. He physically assaulted me several times. It was a nightmare. I will never get the image out of my sight of him crawling around the hospital bed in a diaper trying to escape, flinging his legs over the bar, fighting with me, trying to hurt me...saying horrible things. I didn't sleep hardly at all the last 4 weeks of his life. The night before he died, I couldn't believe the strength he had. The last thing he said to me was "Get your hands off of me, you f-ing b--ch!" As I was trying to keep his legs inside the rails. The next day, he was heavily medicated and nvr regained consciousness. It was especially hard because I had always been his "darling girl" and he was so kind and sweet. 😢😢😢 I suffered PTSD afterward and needed counseling. I wish someone had prepared me better. Thank you for doing this.❤
@hospicenursejulie9 ай бұрын
💗💗💗💗
@ivazadro58578 ай бұрын
Thats so painful. Sending you ❤️
@patriciawest41897 ай бұрын
God bless you
@jordang83176 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh ❤️ I can’t imagine how crushing that must have been💔 I hope the counseling has helped and provided some comfort and reassurance
@miss_whipps6 ай бұрын
I am so sorry you had such a challenging experience with your father🥺. He was blessed to have you by his side. My significant other exhibited extreme agitation for a few days and it was so frightening... Hopefully we can grow from these experiences and be useful to someone else because of them, somehow... even if it's just because of our ability to empathize. Wishing you peace and comfort❤!
@robinboyle56679 ай бұрын
When my mom was dying, her clothes and covers became a huge problem for her, so we let her just rest naked. My husband was OK with that. They were very close. We covered her up if we were expecting someone like a doctor or nurse, but, bless mom's heart, she couldn't stand material against her skin. She came to stay with us as she was dying of pancreatic cancer. I took 30 days off work. She died on the 29th day. ❤
@Fragrantbeard9 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing that. It helps us all prepare, learn and open our hearts. You and your husband did a beautiful thing for your mama.
@Jillybeans1409 ай бұрын
Hugs, you deserve them xx
@raisingswayneys8 ай бұрын
Bless your mother ❤ Thank you for sharing! It’s crazy how we come into this world naked and a lot of people want to leave this world naked too
@carol11233 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for seeing her through that very hard time huge blessings to you 💙🙏🏼💙
@mandibailey91049 ай бұрын
Thank you to everyone who allows these videos to be shared. It's very helpful to those who are going through the difficulties of losing a loved one as well as those who fear the dying process. It does seem scary, but it is normal. Our bodies are made to do these things. Education is very important for the person who is at their end of life and those who love someone going through this journey.
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
Well said. Have watched Nurse Julie for quite a while & have seen other videos she's posted. Bless these families who send her these videos, while still grieving, to help others. They have my thanks and respect❤
@MrsKimchula9 ай бұрын
I wish I had seen this before my dads death in 2019. He was very agitated all night on the medical floor doe decompensated liver disease, his BP was tanking, he had been seeing things all night, thinking he was in a boat. They said they didn’t know the problem so they mobilized him to the ICU. But when I saw him I knew he was dying. No one else seemed to realize it. They thought maybe he was septic and wanted to put in central lines. He had been living with HCC for more than 4 years and had recently withdrawn socially. In the ICU he was very restless, asking for things, we had to keep lifting him up in bed because he was so restless he was sliding down in bed. Picking at sheets. Said he “felt awful” denied being scared. I decided to discontinue everything and give him medication to calm him down. He died within 20 minutes of doing so. I always though death was peaceful but without those medications it would not have been so.
@Heeter_234 ай бұрын
I worked in a LTC facility and I've seen hundreds of people die. YES, the general public NEEDS education on the dying process..
@missmerrily48309 ай бұрын
One of the things which still haunts my sister, whose husband died at the end of a dementia journey, was that death isn't necessarily the quiet and peaceful thing she was expecting. Her husband's agitation was unexpected for her and she associated it with his being in great pain and distress. It's taken lots of talking to persuade her that, just like birth, dying is quite an active process and it doesn't always mean that the person dying is suffering. And that some simple measures can help to bring calm. It would have been so much easier for her to digest if she had seen your videos ahead of his passing. You are offering us the privilege of learning what dying is really all about and it is an education which is sadly missing for so many of us until we are thrust into the heart of it, and it can leave us traumatised. Thank you so much.
@christineslocumbarry3049 ай бұрын
I totally understand how your sister felt. I had the same experience with my mom. I was traumatized for a long time. I felt like my mom was suffering and trying to tell me something. I felt so helpless.
@lgannawa9 ай бұрын
So well said!
@peonypink91499 ай бұрын
I watched both my parents die of cancer as a teenager and it was very traumatic at the end both times. I had no idea what could happen. I couldn’t watch the family videos you featured however, this is an excellent use of KZbin- normalising something that mostly remains hidden in our culture. Good on Julie 💜
@ghayes62379 ай бұрын
My husband tossed,turned,flopped,flailed,failed, cursed,and sweated the whole time,for about 5 hours, thinking he couldn't sleep because he had slept all day this just past Nov.10. He had had no other sign anything was wrong except a headache. He also had a stroke in the past,a heart,and dementia.He was in his recliner in our bedroom,still at it ,flinging himself around complaining of being hot,when I finally dozed off a few minutes after 2 am. I awoke a few minutes after 5 to discover him still in the recliner,apparently asleep. Wrong. He was already pale and starting to cool.
@missmerrily48309 ай бұрын
@@ghayes6237 How brave of you to recount this for all of us, but how interesting and informative too. Thank you. We do need to know in order to help us cope better with the process of dying.
@Grahamt9789 ай бұрын
My husband actually stood up in the hospital bed during the night I jumped out of bed, landing on me and taking us both to the ground. It was scary to wake up to him standing on the bed out of his mind, jumping into your arms. He passed just a few hours later. Living inside my heart, miss you Gazie❤️
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
You have my sincere sympathy. It must have been very hard to go through that. Please try to find some solace in the old saying "It's not Goodbye, it's only until we meet again" ❤❤❤
@christineslocumbarry3049 ай бұрын
😮
@cuteclassi20047 ай бұрын
He probably wanted to give you one last hug 😢
@Dandelion___472 ай бұрын
Sending my sincere condolences to you for the loss of your husband💛
@ellenhulslander28979 ай бұрын
Again, my Dad. He was passing from leukemia and they basically had him in a medically induced coma. He was still very agitated. The doctors said it wasn't pain, but changed his medication to Valium, and he appeared much calmer. It was done more for our sake than his. It is comforting to now understand that this is just the process that we go thru. God bless.
@deborahmills21249 ай бұрын
Thank you lady's for every thing keeping the patients and there much needed family's
@deborahmills21249 ай бұрын
❤😮😮😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
I'm glad the doctor changed his mind and gave him Valium. You said it calmed both your dad and you, so that was nice. It's hard to lose a parent, you have my sincere sympathies❤
@ellenhulslander28979 ай бұрын
@laurierice7687 , thank you. It was a long time ago and I don't think there was much knowledge of the actual process. I am grateful for this channel to better understand.
@YeshuaKingMessiah9 ай бұрын
Why do we medicate the pt for the family? It’s not about them.?It’s the pt 🙁
@annegee70089 ай бұрын
Having been there while both my father & father in law passed, I noted that the day before they passed the agitation began. Recently my sister was admitted to hospital with septic shock. I spoke with her the day of and the day after being admitted. She seemed fine except for her breathing. I heard from the doctor & her son, that she was getting better everyday. So I was shocked to see her 4 days later. She did not seem better to me at all. One thing that really bothered me was how agitated she was. While I was there, the Dr came around & told me she was on “the road to recovery”. When I mentioned the agitation to him, he blew it off. When I left, I knew that would be the last time I saw her alive. She passed early the next morning. It still bothers me how the doctor ignored what was clearly a sign that she was not recovering! I hope that doctors will watch this video & take away what are signs of end of life. 😢
@catherinelenihan93899 ай бұрын
So sorry for your loss 💔
@teijaflink22268 ай бұрын
How awful by the doctor to ignore signs of her getting worse, I really hope they took all the tests before and saw if the medication was not working for the septic chock or if it was just too much for her body.
@dylankelley90968 ай бұрын
File lawsuit against doctor and hospital
@stpierreforjesusthesavior9845 ай бұрын
for too many doctors, "it's another day; another dollar...
@gailnewson84469 ай бұрын
My brother died in Sept after battling for 2 years with bone cancer. He picked at the sheets and constantly wanted us to keep moving him up the bed and lift his leg. Thank you for posting this as at the time I was so upset and felt I had failed him and that he was in pain. It is really important to show and explain what is happening. I would've liked to have known about this and I may have found it easier to cope with if I was educated about it. X
@JC-tp5lz9 ай бұрын
Yes, Julie's videos are a tremendous help to all of us trying to understand the "end of life" phenomena. Yet at the same time, when I watch these sad videos, I say a little prayer that God will take me to my Heavenly home BEFORE I ever get to this stage. My own Mother collapsed on the sidewalk from coronary artery disease while walking to the beauty shop. Although the paramedics were able to restart her heart, she never regained consciousness and died a short time later. That's what I'm hoping my own death will be like...quick, easy, gentle and painless. No suffering, no lingering, no agitation. 😥
@Dandelion___472 ай бұрын
@@JC-tp5lz I'm sorry for your loss. It must have been so shocking when your mom died so suddenly
@TheYogimind9 ай бұрын
So tough to watch, but I respect you and all hospice people for facing it directly.
@joanb13939 ай бұрын
My mother also went through this . When she was more lucid at the beginning of hospice she asked if she had her coat on and told her she did and looked great for her journey . In the last 72 hours of her life she was constantly trying to get out of bed and also was over stimulated by clothing . She seemed to settle down when my brother would read to her from the Bible . Something soothing to her maybe ? You helped prepare me for her end of life journey. It was sad and I miss her but in the end this is how she wanted it. I think it is normal to second guess our decisions and actions . I certainly do .
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
It's so hard to lose a parent. You have my sincere sympathy. It is easy to second-guess ourselves but you said your mom passed the way she wanted to & in the end, isn't that what counts? You gave her the last gift she wanted in this life. I'm sure she's smiling and thankful❤
@user-ym4bj3hj9cАй бұрын
Turn to our God the Lord Jesus. He is the Prince of Peace & Lord of Pardon. You can have the Eternal Rest that can only be gained forever thru Faith in Jesus. Surrender your life over to HIM
@TeresaJones-ui4rh9 ай бұрын
My precious husband was on hospice at home. He had bladder cancer that had spread to bones, lungs, and his brain. Less than 24 hours before he passed, he suddenly woke up and was violent. My daughter and her husband helped hold him while I got extra meds for him. We didn't expect it, and he had tons of strength. He was spitting and cursing and fighting us, but we knew it wasn't him. It still haunts me daily, and I feel I should have talked to him more. I absolutely feel honored to take care of him. He was a wonderful husband for many years and always took care of me. It hurt me physically, but I wish I could have done more. God's richest blessings to anyone going through this.
@miss_whipps6 ай бұрын
Your comment brought tears to my eyes. I too feel honored to have cared for my partner during his terminal cancer. He made me feel SO loved every day... I pray I was able to bring him comfort in return. I am privileged to have walked that journey with such a remarkable man. ❤ Sending my love to you and your late hubby!
@Dandelion___472 ай бұрын
💛💛💛
@kathrynhansen91289 ай бұрын
I helped my BFF the last 2 months of her life. Hospice closed down in her area, so I was her only caretaker 24/7. we did have a nurse come in once per week to check her vitals and progress. Seeing these videos helps me understand that I did the right things to assist her at the end of her life. Thank you for sharing.
@Ellier2156 ай бұрын
Big hugs to you. ❤
@erichenningfeld9 ай бұрын
Thank you! I'm a chaplain and my assigned unit is medical oncology. Your videos have helped me feel comfortable with dying patients and explaining to families that things are normal/when to get the nurse.
@greenacresbloom9 ай бұрын
My 91 year old father-in-law went through this for most of his last month of life. There was just no calming him. He was in a hospice facility and they tried so hard. Calming medications barely touched it. He was constantly picking at clothes and covers and his catheter as well as moving his legs in ways that we feared he would end up out of the bed. He'd fall asleep for a few minutes then was awake and moving again for hours. We sat with him and held his hands and did as much as we could to help sooth him and keep as settled as possible. It was so hard for my husband. He was getting no sleep and finally had to go home for a couple of days. His last couple of hours were more peaceful and my husband told his sister and all the other relatives that he had passed peacefully in his sleep. There is no way that we could have taken care of him alone at home. My husband's sister was quite critical of my husband insisting on using the hospice facility. She believed all of the negative stereotypes about hospice and still insists that if he had gone to rehab rather than to hospice that he would not have died. But she wasn't there.
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry your family had to go through all of that. It is always easier for someone who wasn't there to point the finger but you know the right things were done. Rehab doesn't stop the end from coming. Please find solace and knowing you and your husband did the right thing. My sincere sympathy goes out to you all❤
@Sociallama9 ай бұрын
Maybe showing younger people that suffer from this at end of life would be good to show too, thank you for sharing and spreading awareness 🙏🏻
@sassenach59649 ай бұрын
I was wondering if young people experience this too.
@kelliwillis4179 ай бұрын
Me also!
@razrv3lc6 ай бұрын
Since these are videos sent in by viewers, I assume they're at peace with the deaths enough to share these videos. In most cases, young deaths aren't ones that people are very at peace with and so there's probably not going to be many people documenting it the way they would with an older person. But since most of these phenomena are biological, I'd assume the same happens with younger people who die on hospice as well. Their body would still shut down in the same way and their brain would signal the same as an old person, right?
@katieelizabeth30839 ай бұрын
This takes me back to when my dad passed. We were best friends, never went a day without talking then a hypoxic brain injury started a pretty dramatic mental decline. His life’s work was helping the elderly and I promised I wouldn’t put him in a home unless it was necessary. Thankfully when he started to wander he was only in a home on hospice for a month. One Sun morning he wouldn’t wake up so the dying process started. He was “unconscious” when I came in the room he sat up and tried so hard to talk to me (word salad) and began to get agitated when others started showing up. So 15 min after my mom left and it was just him and I, I told him I’d watch over mama, that he couldn’t protect us anymore down here and that it was ok to go. Once again, he sat up, looked at me, squeezed my hand, and passed in my arms. The day before he was pretty agitated so he was given meds. The nurse continued to give meds to keep him comfortable and I couldn’t have asked for a better way for him to cross over. ❤ Thank you for sharing all of these videos with us, and those who aren’t in the medical field. I’d been a flight paramedic for 20 years by the time he passed but I truly feel he didn’t want my mom to see him take his last breath, but knew I could handle it. Our loved ones all deserve to have comfort, so thank you so much for sharing these educational videos ❤
@terywetherlow79709 ай бұрын
I was with my best friend at end of his life. I had told him to go if he needed to, that I would take care of the details afterward. He passed while I was called into office to fill out paperwork. I recall my mom telling me that she and her sister were in at end of life of my Gram. Gram sent them both off to get coffee. She passed before they got back.....
@mydyisgod9 ай бұрын
Took care of many many hospice patients during 20 years and truly have seen these actions as well. Thank you for keeping it real.
@elainemcnary27889 ай бұрын
So very informative. Former caregiver for my mother 13 years, and this would have been a lifesaver for me to have known. She was on Hospice 5 months. Wonderful company that I dealt with, I even got a sympathy card and several cards after the fact. It truly made a difference. Hospice nurses are under paid and under acknowledged for the physical and emotional trauma that they go through daily. Thank you for your service to families.❤
@RandyAndNorma9 ай бұрын
My mom passed in may at home with us and she didn't want to stay in bed it was so hard to keep her in bed she couldn't walk no longer and then she started sitting up in bed holding her arms straight out and screaming! I was beside myself. I called the hospice nurse who came out and they told us to increase her meds! It was just heartbreaking to watch my mom go through that! She finally calmed down with the increase of meds. I held her had and talk to her and sat by her bed. She passed 2 days latter🙏 I wish that I had seen your videos sooner 😢 😞
@rocksunjaxindie9 ай бұрын
Dear nurse julie, I found your videos about 6 months before my mother passed away and I cannot begin to describe to you the level of peace and comfort your videos gave me as I was dealing with the events leading up to her passing peacefully at the age of 87. I hope you never get discouraged by making content. Your content is so valuable during this time that seemingly we will all inevitably go through. Thank you for shedding light in what was otherwise a dark and unknown matter. God bless you
@virgieholtz79359 ай бұрын
Thank you Julie For educating everyone that sees this I retired 7 years ago from Hospices and still help out when I can when needed
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
The families have my deepest thanks & profound respect for sharing these videos in these times of grief. Am so grateful nurse Julie educates and shares them with us. I've seen previous videos Nurse Julie has posted on passing but for some reason these videos touched me deeper then previous ones. Many thanks to Nurse Julie, yourself and others who have given their lives to helping others❤
@tod3msn9 ай бұрын
Our society handles death and dying badly because we would rather focus on idiocy. Your videos are the end point of life and should be seen by everyone. They educate about our fragile nature and make living each day in peace a noble goal.
@gretchenvono43859 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness, I just went through this with my Dad. He had a stroke and behaved exactly like this. He did survive and is currently in rehab and no longer acting this way. He did this for about 3 days though. True story, at one point I said, "Dad, let's pray" and he closed his eyes and calmed down. When I said "amen" His eyes flew open and he said, "It worked!". We still had about 2 days of this behavior before he started to come back to us. I wondered what his "it worked" response meant and seeing this has me thinking that maybe he was at "end of life" (the doctors thought so) and the prayer actually did work!
@pegs16599 ай бұрын
That's awesome. I believe it did work.
@sharonfisher18509 ай бұрын
Amen!
@saramurillo-garcia23019 ай бұрын
😇🫶🙌🙌🫶😇
@salauerman70829 ай бұрын
I did pray with my mom the night before. I’ll know only in God’s Providence if my prayer was answered as I asked…
@jayprivacc9 ай бұрын
Prayer may of not cured him of his ailments specifically, but those may of motivated a part of him to fight the Reaper and stay alive ❤️ Love, and the will to live for those you love, is far more powerful than any godly or earthly power. I hope he continues to thrive, and live his life comfortably with you all. Our bodies are all programmed to die one day, sometimes death just isn’t on the schedule when we think it is.
@mikey21119 ай бұрын
My dad had this in june a few hours before he died as well. He was trying to get out of bed constantly. Got annoyed with us when he wouldn't let him. He couldn't walk by himself anymore for months but he wanted to get out of bed for hours on end.
@ConsciousConversations19 күн бұрын
Yes
@amorblum52859 ай бұрын
I realise now with my aunt, she did the same maybe 30 min before passing. She had lung cancer and went from vibrant to passing within 2 months. Just before the end, before we knew it was the end, she received her cortisone nebulizer during medication time in the hospital. After that she seemed to breathe easier for some minutes but then she also took hold of the bed rails to try and come upright and forward. She was laying in a very upright position due to the condition of her lungs. I am so grateful for you nurse Julie, i had been watching your videos for quite some time, by chance, and 1-2 days before her death i knew she was going over to actively dying. I told everyone to come say goodbyes because i knew😭 she was like a mother to me, and because of your education i had the opportunity to know. Thank you so much❤
@electricshepherd61538 ай бұрын
Good evening Nurse Julie. This is the last video my mother shared with me through text before she died suddenly from an AVM. She came upon your videos while trying to understand and cope with the passing of her own mother about two years ago which she witnessed. Below is what she texted me after sending the video: “I watch her videos and they are so educational about terminal patients. I wish I would’ve been more educated about dying. I felt like mom was suffering but all of her experiences were a normal part of the death process.” I just wanted to share this with you and thank you from the bottom of my heart for making these videos which helped my mother understand and have some closure with the witnessing of my grandmother’s passing. Thanks you ❤
@wendybutler16818 ай бұрын
Condolences on the loss of your mom and her mom.
@nyccag5999 ай бұрын
I want to thank you for posting this information, my mom is 87 years old and has been going through dementia for 11 years, and these videos have removed a lot of fear from me ❤ once again thank you 😊
@hospicenursejulie9 ай бұрын
💗💗💗💗💗💗
@margaretballantyne62329 ай бұрын
Thank you to you and the families who gave their permission for this video. My mum dies 3 years ago and now I finally understand what was going on. ❤😢
@maryp32129 ай бұрын
Thank you for this channel. I was with both my parents and in-laws as their end of life care giver. I did not have access to any of this information or hospice care ( it wasn’t available at the time) but the doctors were great about the medications and taught me how to administer them because none of them wanted to be in a hospital. They all passed at home, in their favorite spot. Each had different end of life moments but I dealt with each as they came. There was so much trust and loving bond with each of them that I look back on it as a wonderful experience I shared with them. Dying is part of life and as hard as it is to let go, we must; for their sake. I shared the great lives they led for decades and then shared their leaving, saying goodbye was peaceful and satisfying. Thank you for helping me know I did ok:):):)
@janeperanteau61299 ай бұрын
What a gift you are. We try to avoid knowing anything about what happens as death approaches, and that makes it harder for everyone concerned. It's so helpful when you take it beyone telling us to showing us. It's hard to see but we're forever changed by it and have a better chance at being able to step up in whatever way we're needed. Sending you so much love and gratitude.
@ameliahenderson49559 ай бұрын
My 80 year old mother died almost exactly a year ago in Hospice Care. I was with her the entire time. Thankfully, she had absolutely none of these things. She appeared so calm and comfortable. She appeared to just sleep until she finally stopped breathing. The nurses definitely medicated her well. They knew exactly when she needed medication. Thank Zgod for Hospice Care ❤️🙏🏻
@violetmartha9164 ай бұрын
Thank you to the families for allowing us to see these videos. I'm sorry for their losses. 🙏🏻
@sadib47829 ай бұрын
i don’t know if any of the family members of these patients are reading this comment but if you are, i’d just like to say thank you. losing your loved one in this way is so extremely painful, but the fact that you chose to use it as an opportunity to educate caregivers and medical practitioners is truly honourable. you’ve taken your pain and brought something positive out of that to help other people and that is beautiful to me. the knowledge gained from watching these videos will help families and their loved ones going through the same situation. so thank you, it’s truly a selfless act❤
@floodx49479 ай бұрын
After watching many of these videos, I have to say that I hope and pray that I go as quickly as possible. 'Normal' or not, I don't want my family to experience this. 'Thankfully', my dad passed away nearly instantly, but even just the few minutes that I was with him as he died was emotionally horrific. If I have a choice, I would just prefer to be sedated entirely during this process.
@hospicenursejulie9 ай бұрын
Thank you for being willing to be here. I totally understand what you mean. Sending you love. 💗💗💗💗💗
@yvonneplant94348 ай бұрын
Same here. Hopefully my loved ones won't let this happen to me....just let me go asap. Please.
@karyne8268 ай бұрын
I agree totally. No one knows if the agitation causes real fear. I find it scary to even imagine being in that situation.
@NextStopAntarctica9 ай бұрын
These videos are so important. I was with my husband throughout the dying process, and if I had not someone explain to me the stages he went through, I would have been so much more stressed. It’s such a daunting process to experience. Channels such as yours provide such insight and guidance. You are wonderful!
@meredithrollins64299 ай бұрын
I really appreciate this education and the shared videos. I was diagnosed with terminal cancer at 25 I turned 27 a few days ago and these days are coming closer for me. It really helps me not be as afraid and helps me emotionally prepare my family by having these things to let them know about.
@k.w.26519 ай бұрын
God bless you.
@eriktyler23588 ай бұрын
Please don’t give up! Please look into Fenbendazole, eliminating all sugar, and going on a ketogenic diet. IV vitamin C therapy will also help you feel better if going through chemotherapy. You’re young, please give this a shot as it can only help you!
@InExcelsisDeo245 ай бұрын
When my mother was actively dying from cancer she’d been unconscious on a pump with midazolam, morphine etc. A night nurse came to help me get a few hours sleep. I was on the sofa asleep, the nurse came in and apologised for waking me. I thought mum had died or was close. What happened was that mum was physically and vocally distressed and the experienced nurse couldn’t calm her. I will never forget her loud wailing. Nurse had given her a meds top up but it wasn’t kicking in. To say I was traumatised by this was an understatement. I managed to calm my mum but had to leave the room to just cry my eyes out. I felt that the nurse could have handled that so much better than she did. I was so appreciative of any help we got but nobody explained terminal agitation before or after my mum died. Thanks for educating so many x
@ronsmith22419 ай бұрын
When my wife was passing after 26 years with MS, the palliative care Dr put her on Midazolam and it saved her from all those symptoms and gave her a peaceful death. I was so grateful for that.
@barbarawood97479 ай бұрын
Just watched this video and realised my husband has only just started this agitation stage . Thankyou for your help in preparing myself for what is coming x
@antiquecans8 ай бұрын
My dad was very restless on his last night, a lot like the first video. It was hard not being able to soothe him for more than a couple minutes. There came a point where he clearly wanted to get UP, so we helped him briefly stand. When we got him back on the bed, he was calm, his eyes and body and breathing much more relaxed than before. We said our goodbyes and told him it was OK to go. His last few minutes were peaceful. He was always an athletic man before he got sick and it comforts me that getting on his feet one last time helped him let go
@heatherbuggar9 ай бұрын
I’m so glad you shared this. It also applies to pets! I lost my beloved dog and experienced a lot of the same behaviors before he passed. I wish I would have known that it would be so active. It was fairly traumatic at the time.
@cynthiastogden70009 ай бұрын
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@Juuanaa20149 ай бұрын
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@karenglenn67079 ай бұрын
It happened to my beautiful 20yr old Maltese doggy too. I was so distressed as she seemed to be so distressed. It was awful. We keep on giving her Valium and Tramadol but it didn’t seem to help her enough. Oh my little Bella 💔
@heatherbuggar9 ай бұрын
@@karenglenn6707 I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I completely understand. ❤️
@dressageandalusian9 ай бұрын
Thank you so very much to these families for sharing, without you we wouldn't be able to educate and prepare ourselves ❤
@hospicenursejulie9 ай бұрын
Thank you for being here
@tracyfoster73609 ай бұрын
Thank you, I was very lucky to have your videos while my mother was in the process of dying. They taught me a lot of what to expect. She was in the last 3 days of life and continually pulled her glasses off her face, pulled at her hair and picked at the neckline of her gown. I thought she was in pain. I didn’t realize this was normal until the Doctor came in and told me she wasn’t in pain but just needed something to calm her. She passed peacefully.
@jadegblueparrot86069 ай бұрын
honestly why cant we be put to sleep like animals when were on our death bed rather than going through the process. i love what you share and that you show the reality of dying/death. thankyou
@voguee29 ай бұрын
Was thinking the same thing ! I would so much rather just be put out then have to go through this
@lastone7839 ай бұрын
There are some states that allow this, but they are very strict on requirements.
@louisevessey38399 ай бұрын
I agree. It was so painful for the family to stand over my mother in law's death bed as she lingered for almost 2 full weeks. Not a humane way to leave this earth.
@ButterflyWings19009 ай бұрын
Yes I totally agree 😢 My brother passed recently from Cancer and he was no more than a skeleton with no life, full of misery etc & all of our family just wished he could pass away in peace with no lingering etc ☮️
@trmp99238 ай бұрын
@@voguee2I just don't wanna know beforehand, would make me feel very scared
@marianaawawda45889 ай бұрын
I wish I had seen these videos when my father was in his last days… I took care of him till his last breath.. but I’m not going to lie it was so stressful, I was scared , so so scared and sad at the same time . ..It was so difficult, till this day it affects me . Your videos would of helped me so much ….but better late than never …You have inspired me to possibly volunteer and help others with their elderly parents , going through the transition phase into the next realms of life …
@mdavisscadedu9 ай бұрын
So helpful. For years, we've talked about keeping death out of sight. Now, with the advent of hospice, many of us are getting exposed to death more directly. We need your short, sweet, and valuable lessons. Unfamiliar with death and fearful of it we may miss some of the extraordinary lessons death can teach us.
@susiessoapstuff14599 ай бұрын
I so appreciate you posting these! I spoke to a patient's daughter on Friday who's mother was exhibiting signs of terminal secretions and I pointed her to your videos and suggested she call the hospice company for a long overdue chat.
@cathtf79579 ай бұрын
It's a big thing to be able to help someone with their dying process. To be able to choke back your own fear and uncertainty, and just help, is huge. ❤❤
@NurseSnow2U9 ай бұрын
It’s angelic and a great honor most definitely. 🤍✨🙏🏽
@patscott63659 ай бұрын
Thank you for showing us these videos of the various processes in dying. I wish that my mother, sister and myself had known about this so we could be prepared for our father's dying process which went on for hours and hours. Naturally we were greatly disturbed at what seemed an extremely lengthy process and begged the doctor, who came to the house, to ease his suffering. He did administer some drug but even with that it was another 6 or 7 hours before he passed. I have since been present at three other deaths of friends and not one of them was as prolonged or as agonising as my father's back in 1970.
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
I lost my father in the late '70s also. Like yours, my dad suffered for hours terribly. It was a different era & thank God we rarely see that these days. Just wanted you to know I understand the pain you feel with those memories. When I start thinking about it I go further back and try to remember all the good, happy times with him. Also, that he is in a much better place and that I will be with him again someday. I hope you can do this & it helps you too❤
@FaithAloneUK9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Julie and the very kind families who realise that others need to know what to expect. My mum died last year and was always a very peaceful, composed person in her life but in the last few days of pneumonia and heart issues she kept pulling at her clothes and sheets and groaning and moving her legs like she was uncomfortable. I just fanned her a lot with the sheet, it helped. But you feel so terribly helpless. She was deaf, so I couldn’t even read to her. It was cruel. I pray she is at peace and happy now. God and church was her whole life.
@dtulip19 ай бұрын
Oh I wish I had seen this 2mths ago when my Dad was doing this in hospital the last afternoon I saw him before they called me in in the wee hours, and I knew he was Dying when I got there, unlike the junior doctor who was on the night shift. Please thank the families for sharing this with everyone who needs to know what they are seeing, I hope all the family members are doing well
@diannawalker7589 ай бұрын
My dad passed in 2007 after a severe stroke. I wish that I'd known what to expect. He exhibited many of the behaviors you cover in these videos. My sister and I were able to remain calm, but it was distressing not being able to understand the process. Thank you for your dedication in educating people on what to expect. Thank you to the families for being willing to share the videos of their lives ones.
@crystal83359 ай бұрын
You are doing such a service by sharing these videos. Death should not be feared, yet we keep so much of it hidden and unknown. We're all going to face it one day. Better to be educated and more comfortable with the process. Many blessings to you. ❤
@TheKyPerson8 ай бұрын
My father was in memory care. He quit eating and drinking and we moved him to a hospital (he did not want a feeding tube). He was somewhat restless and agitated but we stayed with him for the two days it took for him to die. We talked to him, we talked to each other, we had the priest in to give him the last rites and we prayed the rosary together which seemed to calm him. Talking was the main thing that brought calm and peace to him. Thank you for these videos, they are informative and compassionate.
@gemmasmith67159 ай бұрын
My dad has terminal lung cancer and is getting to near the end of his life and I'm so glad I have these videos. I am his only carer and I'm looking for things to help him any way I can. Thank you!
@missylearned98219 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I’ve wondered for almost 19 years why my mom did this the night before we put her in hospice and now I know what it was she was going through. They sedated her there and she passed 3 days later at the hospice from lung cancer that had spread to her brain and the rest of her organs. It was rapid and she was gone in 5 months, but those last few days were brutal to watch if you love someone.
@annecassidy44489 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your videos! They’re very helpful, educational, straight-forward,and your explanation has removed the “sting” of the fear we experience when we don’t understand what is happening. I only wish I’d been better educated when my Mom died in 1992 and my Dad died in 2013. Traumatizing. And only now am I beginning to learn/understand some of what to expect when someone is dying. Thank you so much!
@LisaStickle-mw6oq9 ай бұрын
My mom went through this, but we didn't ƙnow what she was going through as our hospice nurse was out of town! I was home alone with her, it was heartbreaking! 😢
@toddstropicals9 ай бұрын
Yeah my dad did this exact thing back in 2001-2002 before he passed of Parkinson's. I was fortunate to have a hospice nurse like yourself to explane all of this.
@dabailey10009 ай бұрын
Hard to watch but so important to share so people understand what is normal. I am a retired RN and agree that education is the key. Thank you for sharing ❤
@laurierice76879 ай бұрын
I am thankful to nurse Julie for educating us and showing the videos. I've seen previous videos but for some reason these almost scared me. It is still good to know because one day when it finally happens I won't be as afraid❤
@A.L.I.S.O.N9 ай бұрын
My mom had the leg movement like that at the hospital just hours before she passed last yr. I really wondered why she was doing that. I thought maybe she was uncomfortable or in pain. The nurse I asked was indifferent and wouldn't give her anything. I appreciate you showing these bc it's not what comes to mind when you say terminal agitation. I imagined agression. My mom had dementia but she caught Covid and became Septic. It all happened so fast. Please thank the families again from us bc what was shared has brought understanding and comfort. ♥️
@gzrguy9 ай бұрын
Those videos were perfect Julie! What those families gave you to show us is exactly how terminal agitation presents in the actively dying. A huge thank you to those families and to you for your tireless efforts in educating us! 🙂
@nailadee5 ай бұрын
I’m so grateful to find this channel to be prepared for the future. My mom has just been diagnosed with dementia and I’m already seeing a side of her that I’ve never experienced. We can still have normal conversations but then there’s those other times. One thing I’ve learned is don’t try to convince them that they’re wrong in what they say and do. Deflect and stay calm.
@ryanwilliams42708 ай бұрын
As a nurse for 2.5 years, I watch your videos to get a spiritual sense of what you do. When I was brand new, I was overwhelmed with end-of-care in an ICU environment. Never met a hospice nurse that didn't awe me. I work with an elderly volunteer in an ED that was a hospice nurse for 40 years; beautiful soul. I wish I was that connected.
@todds41019 ай бұрын
Great video! My wife's dad recenlty passed from a horrible case of pancreatic cancer. Peace be with you, Julie! I have utmost respect for nurses that work in hospice, with pediatrics, and oncology.
@annp979 ай бұрын
Thank you for showing these videos to teach people what could happen and that there are things that can be done to comfort the patient. My grandmother passed almost 5 years ago. She was extremely agitated and vocal and moving appendages. It was scary to me to witness, as each of us three family members would spend the day with her on our own. Lasted about 4-5 days in a hospital setting. She didn't get put on hospice until the day she passed. I wish I would have known there could have been some medicine administered to help calm her. Again, she wasn't on hospice yet, so hospital was still giving fluids and antibiotics and stuff. I always envisioned she was fighting off the grim reaper until the very end.
@filmchick63899 ай бұрын
My goodness. If only I had access to this information 10-20 years ago when my parents were dying. There was so little information. I loved my dad so much and had to call for sedation at 3am as he became increasingly distressed. I was alone with him and scared. But his last words were that he loved me and he passed peacefully. I carry that in my heart. You are providing an amazing service. ❤
@johngroves98289 ай бұрын
Thank you for your sensitivity toward patients & their families.
@jenniferlindsey20159 ай бұрын
Thank you for this educational video series. Your channel is very professional and compassionate. I’m not looking forward to watching my father pass eventually.
@jennyl.57309 ай бұрын
Thank you Julie. I so wish I had this knowledge while my mom was dying. Quilt & tears here even though I didn’t know.
@000000Kimo9 ай бұрын
My boyfriend, in his 60s, just got put on hospice care. Small cell cancer. I dread the things that i have seen in the videos, but i am very thankful it wont be totally unexpected. Thank you 💗
@Jedward1089 ай бұрын
Thanks to the families for allowing these videos to be viewed. You are providing a great public service.
@errrrm789 ай бұрын
Love your content Nurse Julie. The dying process is something everyone should be educated on. I witnessed my Grandmother’s last days, and the experience really affected me, so I find your content really interesting.
@Sandra-ww6oz8 ай бұрын
I not only want to thank Julie but also the families who submitted the video of their loved ones. As a Registered Nurse in Australia I have recommended Julie's channel to new Grad Nurses - and their opinion is they have learnt more on this forum from a practical perspective than they ever learnt from a text book. thankyou! Sending positive Nursing and health vibes from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
@PennyThompson6189 ай бұрын
This is exactly what my Dad did as he was end of life transitioning in March. I wish I could have seen something like this video then. It would have prepared me. I wasn't there when he actually passed but I did see him the day before and this is exactly how he was even though heavily sedated. Thank you for sharing this. It explained a lot for me about what he went through before he died.
@bexlo97949 ай бұрын
My mother's last day was quiet. She slept, mouth open, raspy breaths, etc. She had fought all the machines and everything the night before and had been restrained. Occasionally she would try to raise her hand. Once transferred to hospice she continued to sleep and made no other such movements. That evening I went to take my elderly father home. We had seen no movement and heard nothing but her breaths. I leaned down to kiss her cheek and told her I loved her. I knew deep down this was goodbye. She began trying to talk at that point and squeezing hard on my hand. Her eyes were closed but she was making guttural sounds as though she wanted to speak. I am not sure if that was terminal agitation, as her sister said the moment I left she quit doing that and went back to sleep. My interpretation was that maybe she was trying to say goodbye. I had told her two days before (she was disoriented and delirious) that I loved her and would miss her for the rest of my life. I also told her that I knew I would be able to make it and help my father if she needed to go. I wanted her to feel like she didn't have to suffer more to take care of us. I like to think that last moment with her making those sounds was her way of trying to say it was time. She passed away three hours later.
@kbwoodcock9 ай бұрын
My husband exhibited those mannerisms on our way back from the grocery store and died as I tried to get him into the house. He was in late stage Alzheimer’s. Thank you for sharing because I had no idea what was going on, until now.
@dawnmguzman9 ай бұрын
Thank you, Nurse Julie and the families of these three patients. I believe you are providing an important insight that has not been available to the general public before the KZbin era. Thank you again.
@QSaranis6 ай бұрын
I got a call from my Aunt telling me that my father had suffered a stroke a week before (My father and I had a very difficult relationship) and that they were moving him to hospice care. Never having known anyone in Hospice care before, I thought it was another department of the hospital one went to recover and told her it was "good he was going somewhere he could get the treatment he needed." He had been unresponsive since the stroke but I did end up going to see him. In the end I was able to tell him all the things that he refused to listen to in life and I am very glad I did.
@ceciliarodriguez37698 ай бұрын
Nurse Julie you're God sent. My mom just passed November 27 2023 on Monday. Hospice never came by to assess her after I called several times reached out to everyone who's number I had but since it was Black Fri Thanksgiving weekend no one came. Your videos helped me care for my mom on her final transitioning phase. I sincerely Thank you!! I unfortunately ran out of morphine so it was devastating for me to watch my mom die. My mom had dementia an all your Awesome videos guided me. This hospice team really devastated me. May God have mercy an guide my mom. You're a special special person 🥹 Thank you Cecilia
@Silverfot5 ай бұрын
I am so sorry. That is unacceptable and shouldn't have happened. The dying process and the need for help don't go on holiday, there should have been staff available to you in some form. Lots of love to you and your mom.
@ceciliarodriguez37695 ай бұрын
Thank you 🥹💫🙏
@liselalonde11259 ай бұрын
Thank you. This is perfectly relatable. We witnessed these symptoms with our relative. Please continue your important work
@janecaldwell42239 ай бұрын
My brother-in-law was highly agitated by his sudden terminal ( lung cancer ) diagnosis. He kept moving around his house, poured a much too generous amount of alcohol in a glass and was essentially not in his right mind when I visited him. I was shocked by his behavior trying to comprehend just what was going on. He had been a medical tech in a hospital so was aware of the stages of death; however, as it was happening to him the combination of drugs he was taking and his mental state were quite bizarre. The next time I saw him he was calm but asleep having been giving drugs to settle his agitation. Seeing him conscious and enduring the the reality of his diagnosis was very unsettling to me. He died in a few weeks. I would characterize in this instance his behavior as a combination of drugs and initial disbelief in his diagnosis-a very dangerous time for him and those loved ones around him. In hindsight we think in terms of stages as taking time to go from one to another: diagnosis, disbelief, acceptance, and so forth. With my brother-in-law his death track was very fast. He probably should have been treated differently.....
@thekirksiffs52858 ай бұрын
At the moment of me commenting, now in the few days before Christmas 2023, my Mom is on hospice care at her senior living facility, and exhibiting these kinds of symptoms along with terminal secretions, and stopped oral intake 5 days ago. I don't expect her to make it till Christmas, and it is helpful to hear your educational videos. We have full time round the clock bedside attendants for her, and as family members we spent many hours with her too. We just did this 13 months ago with our Dad. Thank you for your channel.
@emilygeiger62669 ай бұрын
Thank you to all the families who shared. We recently cared for a family member who was dieing from a rare major neurocognitive disorder and agitation was a normal symptom of his disease process. We decided to start with agitation meds early in his hospice care and I am so grateful we did. It helped him relax and be at ease. Reducing stimuli and providing comfort measures was just as important as well.
@joanie09139 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos. One of my friends went through this when we were 21. It's been almost 20 years now but it's stayed with me and I'm glad to understand it more now. I think whenever it's my turn I want to just sleep through it. But your way of explaining everything is so nice and makes it not seem as scary. Thank you!
@christineslocumbarry3049 ай бұрын
I was completely traumatized from my mom’s terminal agitation. I felt helpless because I think she wanted to get out of bed and wanted to come home. She did not want to be there from the start. She wasn’t ready to die, I think she was worried about us even though we told her we would be OK and not to worry. She was always worried about loose ends. She had back pain and I’m not sure it was being controlled. Very bad anxiety issues, too, and very scared to be alone. I had extreme anxiety and could not stay with her at all times. I struggle with guilt and remorse to this day. I understand it’s a natural process, but it seems to be very grueling to go through whether there is physical pain or not.
@whyimsmarterthanyou8 ай бұрын
This is a tremendous resource. Wish I had found it earlier. From the moving of the legs, to the vocalization of distress to the constant attempts to get out of bed, this is exactly how Mum passed. I was given a morphine pump that allowed me to give her another dose when the agitation couldn't be controlled with regular timed doses.
@isaflechas9 ай бұрын
This looks exactly like my grandpa. I was with him all through his dying process because he wanted me there. Im so grateful for these videos because they confirm what I thought. It was his time. ❤
@VariablePotpourri9 ай бұрын
My mother displayed agitation the night before she passed. I had left the room to get some rest, but my father was by her side; she had been bedridden and unconscious for two days prior and then suddenly sat upright, swinging her legs over the hospital bed that had been set up in their bedroom. He was certain she was actively trying to get out of bed. Because I wasn’t present, I can’t give an opinion of her level of awareness at that moment, only what I’d witnessed afterward, which was again unconsciousness. It was disturbing for him because he was alone with her when it occurred, and he had to carefully get mom back into bed from that alarming position (hospice had not yet started to watch over her). He was not forewarned about this possibility despite having met with hospice, so these videos are valuable for the familial caregivers that will stay with the dying in their last days.
@Unit13FREMSLT9 ай бұрын
Some of the best videos on KZbin! Thanks for showing people what the death process is really like.
@kbr10649 ай бұрын
I am so grateful that you are sharing with us what we can expect. It is so important that everybody knows. We are all humans, and we are all going to die one day it takes away the fear and mystery. Thanks for educating us.
@janac28819 ай бұрын
Thank you so much I was a caregiver for my mother for 16 years. Hospice saved my life but I sure would love to have seen these videos back then in 2004. 💕💕💕💕💕thank you. Jana - Texas
@moonshine40499 ай бұрын
Having watched my mother actively pass with aggressive activity and nor knowing what was happening and then wbeimg present when my sick brother passed I understood more of what was happening but still needed alot of advice. I so appreciate your videos and wished we had more open conversations to help us non medical people assist our loved ones to rest and pass peacefully.
@MsBamafanatic8 ай бұрын
My dad had this with his feet. He was over 6 feet, and when the staff at the nursing facility made his bed, they had tucked in the foot end of his covers and his feet were constantly moving in an agitated way. So I untucked his covers and liberally applied lotion to both feet and he immediately calmed and relaxed.
@dianneking38429 ай бұрын
I am so grateful you decided to do this channel. Please keep it going.
@robertnilla9 ай бұрын
Thank you hospice nurse.. most of us fear death.. The long process of these people dying seems agonizing to lively folks but we need to face this reality and confront our mortality.. thank you for sharing wth us!
@Laurie_Tinsley6 ай бұрын
I was not aware of terminal agitation until my husband was actively dying from cancer. He was much younger than your examples and there is definitely a more aggressive terminal agitation. My husband was unconscious, but he was clearly terrified of wetting the bed. He would jump up out of bed and start yelling that he had to go pee. I could not hold him down, he pushed me onto the floor and into walls when I tried to keep him in the bed. He did not know who I was and called me "dude" a few times. I had to have the ambulance come out 3 times just to help me get him back into bed, because after wetting on the floor in the bathroom he would go back to unconsciousness. I would have a chair ready to have him sit on before he fell unconscious. Just a tip......have your cellphone on you 100% of the time when your loved one is actively dying. If I had not had it on me, I dont know how I could have made it to the phone for help and keep him from falling off the chair.