20 Tips For A Healthy Relationship (What Healthy Love Looks Like) - Terri Cole

[@terri_cole]

Tell me: which are your favorite tips? Which are you already doing in your relationship? Which ones would you like to incorporate? Remember to download the guide here for how to create a shared couple's vision and ask expansive questions: www.terricole.com/20-tips-for-a-healthy-relationship-guide

[@Wingsandflowers77]

I love all those tips! I'm taking notes for my next relationship. I can't thank you enough ❤

[@fabianafran927]

All these tips are so important and my favourite ones are "be an athletic listener" and "avoid punishing behavior". It is so hard to find a good listener because people are always turning the subject around to talk about themselves.

[@terri_cole]

I feel that! I'm hoping I can keep spreading the word so we have more athletic listeners in the world ❤️

[@parmidashamsaifar6531]

Oh boy!! Tip #11 !!! I had never thought to not interrupt even if you KNOW you could tell the story funnier. As an all around funny (and deeply humble) person and the resident story teller in my relationship, I always have the urge to be like “no wait, say it like that” or “don’t forget this part” Life changing advice!!! Thank you ❤️

[@terri_cole]

I feel you! So glad it was helpful ❤️❤️

[@lailasalli8743]

This whole episode was a treasure! Loved how you told personal stories too. Your perspectives are priceless! The big ones for me were #4 shared vision and #19 do things because..it really makes you treat the relationship as a partnership and reels back in any self centerdness. They both honor your relationship and humbles yourself. Thank you for this sooo much!!😘❤❤❤❤

[@terri_cole]

I am so glad you enjoyed it, Laila ❤️❤️

[@nicole.andrea.10]

Thank you Terri! This was fantastic and encouraging - I greatly appreciate the message.

[@terri_cole]

❤️❤️

[@jan854]

This was a great episode. It confirmed that some of the things I was asking from my ex were not unreasonable, and it wasn't me being difficult such as compromising to do activities that make me happy even if he's not that interested.

[@terri_cole]

I am so glad it validated you, Jan ❤️

[@mitchellcrow8761]

You may have literally saved my relationship with your words of wisdom... thank you... the love of my life is benefiting from your advice....

[@terri_cole]

I'm so glad to hear my content has been helpful for your relationship 💕

[@lindamacgregor8039]

Great advice here Terri. So many very helpful guides to improve relationships, and they're all do-able! I would only add - don't give up. Relationships seem to go through seasons and they can be impacted hugely by how you change. Your partner can't help but respond differently if you change to epitomize what you want your relationship to be,

[@terri_cole]

Right on, Linda!

[@michelesqueo5541]

I absolutely loved this video! What a beautiful reminder of what a healthy, loving, supportive and passionate relationship could look like. Unfortunately at 55 I’m still single as I’ve been unable to find a man who is willing to live those philosophies as of yet

[@terri_cole]

I'm glad you loved it ❤️ You never know, maybe that man is out there looking for you right now!

[@michelesqueo5541]

@@terri_cole ❤️

[@edl1188]

Thank you Terri! I’ve learned a lot in this video. I’m glad to say that my partner and I have a really beautiful and fulfilling relationship, and I think that these tips are going to add more enjoyment to our experience.

[@terri_cole]

So glad to hear that ❤️

[@shalini8Aug]

Omg... You are awesome. This is just what I needed at this time in my life. I have been married for 31 years.. And suddenly had the rug pulled from beneath my legs... I realised that I have to sort my self out... I love him and want us going strong till eternity... I searched youtube, found your episode and wow!!! You are my morning meditation! It's like I asked the universe for help&direction, and I was rewarded with you! Thank you so much.

[@terri_cole]

I am witnessing you with compassion and I am so glad you found my video and that it's helping you 💕💕

[@char6081]

8:55 Vic really ate with that one! imma start using that on everybody

[@sayusayme7729]

Still never married, not the goal. This respectfully loving each other is a goal. Beautiful video. Thank you 🤍🎼🖤🐾🕊️🌬️

[@terri_cole]

Right on!

[@lifeisgood1968]

Amen on the please and thank yous. It’s so important!

[@terri_cole]

Right?! ❤️

[@sd97007]

I loved them all! Excellent list!!!

[@terri_cole]

❤️

[@katiebertacchi540]

You are so relatable and fun! Thank you so much for this you have a gift❤️

[@terri_cole]

Thank YOU for watching and being here ❤️

[@FatimaEstrela80]

Thank you. You’ve made a difference in my world ❤

[@terri_cole]

That warms my heart, thank you for letting me know 💕

[@ursulada619]

I loved them all!! ❤

[@terri_cole]

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[@24cammo98]

making flashcards, love them all! I am adding a note to also care for myself mentally and physically as it will make me a better partner.

[@terri_cole]

I love the idea of making them flashcards ❤️ And YES to self-care!

[@staceyweber9973]

That was awesome! Some of those I do, and some have fallen by the wayside, and some never even occurred to me. Thank you so much for all your help❤

[@terri_cole]

You're so welcome ❤️

[@staceyweber9973]

@@terri_cole I was a bit shocked that you actually replied... it made me cry, which also shocked me. Thank you for allowing me to feel seem. 💖💕

[@LorenaMartinsAdvocacia]

I love you, Terri. Thanks so much for being honest, strong e real. Everytime I need to feel confident I come to your channel ❤

[@terri_cole]

Thank you so much, Lorena ❤️ I'm glad you find my content confidence-boosting!

[@paulaholder9292]

Great topic and great advice❤…we are working on a healthy future. Your words speak volumes with clarity and help us learn what we did not from our families of origin. Hats off to you again, Terri 😘

[@terri_cole]

So glad this was helpful, Paula ❤️

[@IndigoHazelnut]

Your channel and book have been such a precious resource of information. Thank you for doing this and for having such a big heart and teaching us that changing our brain and the way we relate to others is possible

[@terri_cole]

I am so happy to hear my work has helped you ❤️❤️ I appreciate you!

[@karenlong4364]

Oh my word!!! This is perfect!! I’ve shared it with my brother and will listen with my husband. Thank you!

[@terri_cole]

Thank you for sharing and letting me know it resonated ❤️

[@moen4645]

I found this episode and tips very valuable and interesting! Thank you for sharing them Terri. 💕 Quite inspirational. 😊 My favourite is #6 value the other person's goal and #1 mutual respect. In my opinion it so important to value&respect each other's aspirations for a healthy love relationship. Understanding that value& respecting might not be that you& partner have same same goals and interests.

[@terri_cole]

You're so welcome ❤️ Yes, valuing the other person's goals is so important (and can be challenging sometimes!)

[@moen4645]

​@@terri_colethank you! 😊

[@davidbayer9714]

Yes we are morning the loss of a loved one

[@LesleySASMR]

I hope I find my Vic someday. I don’t like how my generation goes about dating.

[@terri_cole]

I hope you do, too ❤️

[@BrillGirl82]

Me too ❤

[@crazykidcreations9507]

You are so amazing my dear thank you thank you thank you. For all that you share!

[@terri_cole]

Thank you for being here and watching! ❤️

[@stevenjones3684]

Very good ty

[@torimoore3477]

I have problems with not going to bed mad. I try but I fail. But I really want to try to change that. I'm not sure how.

[@terri_cole]

I see you ❤️ I recommend journaling about it. Maybe think about the last time it happened and ask yourself what stopped you from changing it that time. What holds you back? Sometimes it's discomfort because it requires vulnerability to change the dance. I had something similar back in the day when I was a master stonewaller during arguments. I started "calling myself out" and sharing that with the person- “Hey, I’m upset right now. My first instinct is to ignore you and give you the silent treatment. I want to ignore the entire situation, but I want us to effectively problem solve more. So can you please give me a few minutes to cool off and think about how I feel?” “Then let’s come back together and talk it out because I love you and I don’t wanna fight or ignore you to make a point.” I hope that helps xo

[@morganbaublit9315]

Do you have a video that can help explain and break down these tips ?

[@terri_cole]

You can look in the description of most of my recent videos for a list of "related videos" 💕

[@angelmossucco]

❤

[@BrillGirl82]

I’m feeling really bad about not always being the best listener 😢

[@terri_cole]

I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ Remember, it's a journey and a skill you can learn over time.

[@chobleu]

Oof…. Amazing

[@terri_cole]

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[@bellib00p88]

Need to work on number 7 🫢

[@LC_Lightworker]

Omg! I loved this. Thank you Terri for being so real. 🙏🏽🤍Lee B Oz

[@terri_cole]

I'm so glad you loved it! ❤️