The 3-Step Approach to Raising Resilient Kids (Starting Today)

[@EmmaHubbard]

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[@aro2103]

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[@EmmaHubbard]

Sorry! Fixed!

[@AbeerM-sd2fq]

@@EmmaHubbard thank you! 😄

[@bananayummyable]

Also letting them be bored!!! I remember my parents telling my siblings and I to “entertain ourselves “ but not because they were lazy or especially busy, but because they wanted us to be imaginative and proactive. I thank them for it.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much for sharing!

[@bananayummyable]

@@EmmaHubbard thank you for your videos!! I have a 6 week old and your videos have helped me so much!

[@garnetacquaye5613]

Your videos have helped me in these 6 weeks with my darling baby

[@garnetacquaye5613]

Thank yoouuu

[@ryancoody7069]

Tolerating boredom is so healthy. I wish more adults could learn to cope with boredom without their smartphone

[@considerthetruth]

Do one for building resilience in a 25 year old baby

[@etphonehome611]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@etphonehome611]

I let out an audible laugh at the gym

[@Donimo90]

😂😂😂 zamn

[@Behindthegoldenpaws]

😂😂

[@iamkeir]

Spat my tea 😂

[@ApostlicNinjaGirl]

Surprisingly I’ve already been doing this! I feels natural to me. If I’m doing work in the kitchen for example, and he’s in his walker and starts crying I usually say something like ‘I know baby boy, I’m sorry I’m busy, but you’re doing so good, I’ll get you soon I promise, you’re okay.’

[@pipersisk3966]

My baby cried the first time she crawled. I was sitting just out of reach and every time she was about to reach me I’d inch away just a little more. It was her little war cry of determination.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Love the war cry of determination!

[@pipersisk3966]

@@wildswan221 I was encouraging her to crawl. She wasn’t hurt, just a little frustrated. Learning new skills can be challenging but it’s good for us to face challenges because that’s how we learn and grow. Did you even watch the video?

[@fiolka3779]

My baby was crying a lot when he was mastering high support position. But when I put him on the back, he got back to the position in 2 seconds and cried again :D the same with sitting and crawlling. That is such a huge effort for such small body! Very tiresome, so they cry a lot, but it is like crying in a gym ;)

[@kiefershanks4172]

The struggle is real. Don't shield them from it. It'll only make it harder on them when they grow up and face reality. Let them struggle. Let them fail. Let them make mistakes. Let them have their own triumphs. If they are accustomed to problem solving, trying again and again and brushing off failures from a young age, imagine how strong they will be when they are an adult. Loving and caring for a child is not sheltering them but showing them how to thrive under the pressures and challenges of life. If they grow up accepting these realities, they will have no issues adapting to whatever gets thrown at them. You can still be there for them, just be sure not to get in their way. It's easy to do too much.

[@Graceji921]

well said

[@kiefershanks4172]

@@climatecrisisdragon3628 Where did I say that I recommend ignoring their cries? Ignoring them and letting them make mistakes (to a point) are two entirely different things.

[@maryamsaleem8202]

My baby wanted to crawl at 7mo but couldn’t move his legs and as a result cried a lot out of frustration. Everyone around me told me to get a walker so he could move around but I never listened. At 8mo he started crawling and got so much more happier.

[@verpal7920]

I have a similar situation with my baby right from her birth. Every day she attempts a lot of things she is not able to do yet. Like crawling etc. When she fails she cries very loudly and desperately, but never quits and doesn't let me stop her. I have nothing to do but ignore her crying. I can only give her a pacifier and turn on some music for relax. I wonder if it's a common case in babies or not.

[@solagratialife]

​@@verpal7920My 4.5 month old daughter has been trying to crawl and gets very frustrated and cries. She rolls from back to tummy beautifully but doesn't know how to roll onto her back from tummy. She wants to skip that and moves like she wants to crawl instead. She's a very determined little baby.

[@malorie-kaesteinmuller6810]

My son is the same, he just hit 4 months and is getting the hang of rolling onto his tummy, but can't get back onto his back. He just attempts to launch himself forwards because he wants to go so many places already haha.

[@heytheresacha]

Yes, i love this! Love that you specified the context! I will not accept my baby being distressed, but i will always encourage her to work through little things or when learning something new. I think its hilarious that my mom and sister are thr first to tell me "babies can cry its okay" or "its good for them" but also the first to jump to my baby's aid when she gets a little upset 😂

[@EmmaHubbard]

I know what you mean! It's so funny how that happens. 😊

[@wanderingchook1193]

ive always let my babies cry for a minute or two during tummy time instead of immediently flipping them into their back at hte smallest sound of frustration. i get that its frustrating for them but ive also noticed that just after voicing their frustration is when they display a new skill like lifting their chest up off the gorund or swaying from side to side. they get lots of praise and encouragement when they master a new skill or i can see theyre trying really hard.

[@Durrpadil]

Nice 👏👏👏

[@luisai.6258]

Dear Emma, perfect timing, thank you for this video! My daughter (10 months) also starts crying as soon as I put her in her car seat and start driving. I tend to talk to her or sing a song, but up to now it rarely helped. It's just now that she starts calming down for a moment before she starts crying again. I had the worst feeling because I felt like neglecting her while driving, but maybe it can turn into a good learning situation for both of us. Best wishes from Germany. :)

[@A.gamer_]

I always listen to what the cry is. At now 11 months, my daughter can be a little bit of a drama queen. She is having some trouble with the idea that I'm my own person. So usually I'll let her crawl around the house exploring, but me watching her because of the cats. Just makinQg sure she doesn't get hurt or hurts the cats by accident. But dishes, cooking, hanging the laundry all need to be done as well. So I'll put her in her playpen. But of course she doesn't always like that. So I'll be nearby talking to her and letting her know when I'm hers again or when she can come out. For instance I'll say: when this laundry basket is empty I'll come get you. She might not perfectly understand me yet but i feel like this is a good way to let her get used to the fact she can't always get what she wants.

[@fiolka3779]

Perfect approach❤

[@kryptonite_jules]

Helpful

[@Lolo-bk3ul]

Absolutely! And so much pressure from Asian society criticizing us parents for not watching our kids!

[@e.k.6513]

I wish I saw this Video 8 month ago 😢. You don’t know how much you are helping new moms or moms in general ❤❤❤❤ thank you so much !

[@DadLifeOfBrian]

Hi Emma, Love your channel, I believe in letting me kids feel uncomfortable every now and then and letting them struggle through things rather than giving them answer. I just started my channel documenting my life as a dad, learning how to be a dad while raising my 4 year old son and 2 year old daughter. We have a third on the way so your channel is a great refresher. 😊

[@lenavonstein9671]

Just happened to me yesterday. My little girl doesn't like carrides at all and we needed to drive to the doctor and she was crying and screaming so much I kept talking to her and said things like we'll be there soon it is okay i know you don't like being in the carseat.. It is very hard work to keep yourself calm though, because she does not stop until we are at our destination.

[@cvan259]

It could be medical-like our daughter.

[@EmmaHubbard]

It can be so hard to stay calm when they are upset in the car while you're driving.

[@thirstbasket]

I don't know, every time my son cries like crazy "for no reason" I later find out that there was a reason. Like he was hungry or tired or hurt in some way...

[@mariafc3814]

@@thirstbasketexactly! It happened to me with my firstborn. She was 9 mo, we were on a long trip and she wouldn’t stop crying when we were almost there. I completely lost it. I almost hurt her. I ask my husband to let me drive instead, and he showed her some videos in his cellphone. It turns out she was hungry. I was so anxious to arrive that I had missed her dinner time. I felt so ashamed.

[@Nursepenelope]

Soo hard ​@@EmmaHubbard

[@Sk4lli]

My daughter is now 6 1/2 months old, it's a relief that I (mostly) handled it pretty much as in the video. It's not always easy to understand the cries, but she is trying to crawl right now and fusses a lot when it's not working that way. I keep encouraging her with words, but only pick her up once she starts to cry louder and calm her down, but keep praising her for her efforts. Only when she reaches for toys out of range I kept pushing them a tiny bit closer... I will rethink that. 😅 At least only do help out when the toy is a bit too far away for her to manage it so far.

[@hillary6563]

This was super helpful, not unlike most of your videos, what I'm experiencing right now! Your channel is such a godsend! Thank you. 🤗

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much! ❤️

[@mizziaradepaiva7584]

Perfect! I was looking for this vídeo 😊❤

[@EmmaHubbard]

Hope you like it!

[@slpmaterialgirl1]

I totally get what the therapist is saying but I don't know if the friend was totally wrong either. Depends on parenting style. I subscribe to the attachment parenting style which, in my belief (which may be wrong 😂), you answer ever cry and babies learn to trust you so explicitly that they actually still end up independent in a couple years bc they have the ingrained belief that UR ALWAYS there for them. Arguably, more independent as toddlers. Idk tho. Different training from different therapists, different belief systems. No one's wrong, just do your best and love them and it will all work out!

[@clarahaynes4812]

Agree. I think starting what she's saying around 1-2 years old could work. But as a baby baby they don't know if they're "truly distressed" or not they just know you aren't there and they're crying for you

[@EthOrlen]

For attachment purposes, responding to a cry doesn’t mean soothing a cry. And subscribing to a view like that leaves out a ton of people. Like me: My son was born with bilateral clubfoot. We began treatment at 2 weeks old. He HATED it and cried through every appointment the whole 8 weeks of treatment, no chance of comforting or calming him. (He did this for other more minor things too, like diaper changes) If attachment is about being there for him… we weren’t. We didn’t stop the distressing situation, we didn’t try to soothe him (after the first appointment), and we continued to subject him to the distressing situation. What we DID do was be in the situation with him, tell him it’s ok to feel uncomfortable and angry, and that we have to do the uncomfortable thing anyway. He’s 18 months old now, and displaying as securely attached behaviors as is possible. To bring it back to Emma’s example, responding can absolutely mean talking to them from the driver’s seat, being reliable and comforting with the getting in/out of the car process, and doesn’t have to include actively comforting and shushing.

[@braria9855]

@@EthOrlen Respectfully, I disagree with your analogy. I don't think women should be trained resilience by being uncomfortably chained up, semi naked and faced with gross men (but nothing bad actually ends up happening). There could even be a positive music/audio playing in the background telling them to relax and not to worry. I don't think this is a good method. And while yes, indeed, women who are subjected to such situations over and over will likely stop worrying about more petty first world problems and become more "resilient" imo it's not a good way of teaching resilience. I think your situation is different from the car. If a kid is burned and needs treatment for the wounds, yes, it will freaking hurt and yes you will continue to do it out of love for them. Car rides and separation from the parent (usually mother) this early (for the infant type we, homo sapiens have) are both completely unnatural. It could be argued that unless the car rides are literally about saving the kid's life, they should be avoided. Infants are not able to understand most of what's going on (they do comprehend a soothing voice, but not the words), and subjecting them to these kinds of things first of all barely teaches resilience because they're a bit too young for certain aspects of it, and secondly is utterly unnecessary if an option to avoid or mitigate such a situation is presented.

[@3331cmb]

I would be so happy if I had a friend that did that!❤️

[@martynait]

My baby always poops when we start driving and then he's very uncomfortable and starts crying! I pull over, change him and he's back ok. He never cries without a reason.

[@isabellaveillette8865]

I started putting my little one in a car seat 10 minutes before we leave the house for this same reason.

[@alyssamurphy2002]

See Andrea Olson (Go Diaper Free). Seems like my sweet baby does the same thing. It's the popp position!

[@eleonores8871]

actually the exact same steps and approach works also while dealing with big emotions with toddlers or little kids. I still does the same with my almost 4 year old girl...

[@Mamakaboy19]

Lord help me my baby boy is too cute to cry 😢😢😢

[@YK-jl3hi]

I think at first we are role models and they will learn from us . And then there is helping when there is actually no help needed or ignoring pain

[@atefehbarzigar6759]

My baby hates being in the car and car seat. I just wait for her to sleep then put her in the car. It is very stressful for me to drive while she is screaming. After this video, I need to be more brave and try driving even if she cries.

[@sunhotpunnie]

I don’t think ppl understand HOW stressful it is when they cry while u drive, especially if the drive is more than 30 minutes. I get advice to “just let him cry, it won’t kill him” ….but it’ll kill me

[@bodhiforest401]

Yess I agree thank you and completely understand. My little one gets upset when shes hot in the car seat, when she cries she gets even hotter and then cries to the point of stopping breathing. I just cannot drive like this, its so dangerous as I'd be so distracted from the road ​@@sunhotpunnieand it's not just a small cry or a fussing its a complete intense screaming, there's no talking, singing or soothing that will calm her I'm that instance. I understand and respect the advice in this video in other situations like tummy time but the car and car seat is almost impossible to do this with her screaming. Plus it could be almost 30 mins to an hour just to calm her after it

[@sunhotpunnie]

@@bodhiforest401 exactly. The longer they cry, the longer it takes to soothe them back to being calm. I’ve been trying to tell my boyfriend this. Last Tuesday he was driving us to the airport, and the baby started fussing in the backseat. We both tried singing to him but to no avail. By the time we were 10 minutes into the drive he started wailing non stop. I told his dad, pull over, he’s probably hot or hungry. He said “no, he’s a baby, babies cry”. I said “PULL OVER NOW, I DO NOT WANT A CRANKY BABY ON THE PLANE”. So he pulled over, on the parkway, pissed. I didn’t care cause I know my baby and his cries. Lo and behold he was hungry, and cranky and whatever else. So I nursed him on the way to the airport and he fell asleep. This was 5am. And he’s now 2 days away from being 11 months old. Not the boyfriend, but the baby 😂 even though I can’t tell the difference sometimes 😂

[@alyssamurphy2002]

The car mirror helped, also when she started to take a paci better. You can put a picture of yourself where they can see it and secure some fake hair for them to hold. I had to keep pulling off in congested traffic because I couldn't stand it. Car seats are totally unnatural to a baby. They are alone, restricted and uncomfortable!

[@tesssklena]

My baby cried, whined, screeched, yelled, grunted pretty much nonstop for the first year if I was not constantly giving her my full attention. And if I let her "build resistance" like in the video, sometimes it would take 45+ mins to calm her back down. She couldn't sit in bouncers, a play pen...literally nothing. I didn't have the option to let her build resilience because it never ever ended. Dr said it was just her personality. Now at 2, she is building resilience and doing so much better but is extremely attached to the point my pediatrician is concerned. Don't know how I could have followed this therapist's method at all....but I can see how it would beneficial. Just not practical for every person maybe.

[@bodhiforest401]

Yess my little one is the same. My little one gets upset when shes hot in the car seat, when she cries she gets even hotter and then cries to the point of stopping breathing. I just cannot drive like this, its so dangerous as I'd be so distracted from the road ​and it's not just a small cry or a fussing its a complete intense screaming, there's no talking, singing or soothing that will calm her I'm that instance. I understand and respect the advice in this video in other situations like tummy time but the car and car seat is almost impossible to do this with her screaming. Plus it could be almost 30 mins to an hour just to calm her after it

[@fearnomore8915]

I also feel, she should have mentioned babies who scream excessively. Our son was also screaming all the time, but in the evening and in the car was the worst. The screaming would be so loud and intense that no soothing sounds would be audible. He would turn red, be wet from sweating, throw up because of it all, choke on his vomit, spit it out and go on screaming even worse. Her tips would not have helped. I went in this video with huge interest, because I would like to have another child, but I need a better plan to handle the extreme screaming next time...

[@trina-x2c]

Wow. I am sorry y’all are going through this but I am honestly glad to know I am not the only one. Will it get better as they get older? Please say yes 🙏🏼

[@AlyseNicoleO]

Your channel is absolutely my go to for sound advice. I have a 3 month old and you've been so helpful. Thank you!!

[@EmmaHubbard]

So kind of you to say! Thank you!

[@jeanyevenes]

You made a lot of sense. Thank you

[@EmmaHubbard]

It's my pleasure!

[@happy7akira]

I would appreciate a definition of "baby" or "kids" from the beginning of videos, before we jump to the details. That way, we know from the beginning whether this is age-appropriate for our child. Thanks and appreciate for your work!

[@sevdedlk2118]

What would you recommend for me to bear the frustrations and cries? It is very hard for me to let her cry. Plus everyone else is forcing me to not too. So it got very hard now, and kind of late.. She's 20 months old

[@twocents7509]

I’ve been doing this for my girl during tummy time. She’s managed to roll over from her stomach to back a few times, but she refuses to roll the other way, lol. She’s also constantly trying to sit up, but she’s only 3 and a half months so I think that’s a little out of her reach right now.

[@SylviaSilvers]

My son (4 mo) currently wants to roll on his tummy and then he immidiately tries to move forward, no matter how. Both of these things frustrate him a lot. I try to give him just a little help with rotating his hips, so he can try rolling and lifting his head by himself, and then I let him struggle with gravity and his body however he wants. He's already doing better with rolls, and he seems to have more strenght on his tummy - he can turn hips to sides, pull knees closer to his chest or lift his butt.

[@rio20d]

Each kid is different my 1 yo son really love being inside of the car, I usually just drive and he will just calm down. It’s one way for me to calm him down if he keeps crying 😄😄

[@EmmaHubbard]

So true. Every child is so different!

[@RM-mx5ol]

At what point should I rescue him (11mo) for car ride cries? He'll wail and shriek for an hour. Speaking to him doesn't comfort him. I can get him and give him a cuddle break but he cries right when I put him back in.

[@ammushanmu7827]

Thank you dear Emma.. its a timely video as I am worried of leaving her at times to engage in my work & later she screams a lot.

[@paulinaebel5855]

My 15 month old is hurting herself as soon as she is frustrated - hits her head against a wall, floor, bites herself... I am not able to let her cry and build that resilience and don't know what to do

[@fearnomore8915]

My son was like this too. Just be there for her. Her personality might not be made for training resilience this early. Give her love and be her safe haven, she will gain confidence that way and that will make it easier for her to build resilience later. And most important, don't beat yourself up, if tips from others don't work out. (Includes this one.) Every child is different. ❤️

[@racothran]

Emma, I wanted to watch this video, but it has played 4 ads in less than 4 minutes. I can't even focus on what you are saying! :(

[@EmmaHubbard]

Wow, that is a lot of ads. I will look into what I can do about it. Thanks for letting me know!

[@racothran]

@EmmaHubbard Thank you Emma! I love your content, so I appreciate your reply!

[@cvan259]

My 4th complwtlybfeel apart every time we drive anywhere-day or night cose or far. Turned out ahe had severe, severe motion sickness. She didn't grow out of it until late high school. Poor thing.

[@karries5115]

I saw this with a little one I worked with too

[@EmmaHubbard]

Oh, the poor thing! Luckily my daughter didn't have it, she just hated the car for the first 6 months!

[@farwanqv]

Can you please tell me how do you know if a baby has motion sickness?

[@morufatadam4354]

Resourceful tips. Thank you very much.

[@EmmaHubbard]

No worries!

[@aria9615]

Is there a length of time you would consider too long for a drive during this hating the carseat stage? My baby is a month and a half and cries when she’s in the carseat. I don’t drive to many places but a few times a week I take my husband to work, it’s about a 20 minute drive. Is that too long of a drive to force her to take while she’s crying? I would also like to go back to church but it’s a 50 minute drive, any tips for that?

[@trina-x2c]

Hi Emma, love your content. I’ve been following since I was pregnant and my little one is now 9 months. Similar to your kiddo, mine absolutely HATES the car seat, always has. I know every kid is different but I am curious and if you don’t mind sharing, did your baby eventually like being in the car seat? I dread outings so much but desperately need to get out of the house for my sanity. The screaming and crying doesn’t stop and sometimes we’re travelling for 30+ mins, even longer sometimes. I don’t know why… most babies love car rides I thought 😢.

[@ravenwillowhart4501]

When I teach Human Growth and Development, I mention to my students (collegiate level) that even though people use the usual "baby talk" voice and there is an argument for using it, I'm not a fan. From day one, talking to your little ones in regular words and not "baby talk" allows them to hear what language sounds like. They learn to talk by imitating at first and as those language centers develop I'm on the side that says they should hear normal conversational speech. My mother did it with me. She would tell me all about her day at school (she was a K-12 music teacher). I think it was a good choice. As I said, others do make an argument for "baby talk." There is an analogous type of speech we use with our elderly folks called "elder speak" where we talk to our older parents, relatives, and others loudly, slowly, and condescendingly. Please don't do that. Even if the elder in question is dealing with dementia or hearing loss, they are a person. Please recognize that when you talk to them.

[@sophiemandese6989]

As someone studying speech pathology, you should absolutely use proper words and grammar when talking to babies (no "bah bah buh bah?" or "baby want bottle?" or anything like that). However, speaking with a exaggerated tone while clearly enunciating your words has been shown to help babies pick up language more easily because 1. it's more interesting and engaging for them and 2. they can hear the complex speech sounds better. So nothing wrong with baby talk - it's even been proven by studies to be beneficial! Just make sure it's not nonsensical or ungrammatical.

[@yume816]

Side question: do you know if there’s a critical narrow window for certain brain development in babies can’t be catch up? My baby is 6 mo and experiencing poor growth due to low feeding intake, supplemental refusal, reflux . It may be a few more months before she can start to catch up. I’m worry if a few months of poor growth will hinder her brain development permanently. 😞 thank you

[@hannahleemencher7904]

Thank you!!

[@erikabossie]

I am using your advice at our nursery looking after 1-3 year olds. Some kids have never been left to cry and it is so hard for them. My mum gave similar advice to me when I had my son 18 years ago.

[@chrisdottanck]

At what age of the baby can you start practicing this?

[@sititakhiuddin202]

I would like to know too, appreciate your reply Emma!

[@YWx14]

Me too..

[@EmmaHubbard]

You can start doing this from birth. For instance, if you're driving your baby to their 6-week checkup and they get upset, you can reassure them by talking gently to let them know you're there. Or, if you're in the shower and they wake up unexpectedly, you can speak to them calmly following the 3 steps, as you finish up, showing them that you're close by and supporting them.

[@YWx14]

@@EmmaHubbard thank you!!

[@chrisdottanck]

@@EmmaHubbard Thanks Emma 🙏

[@ayomidevictoria]

Thanks Emma ma'am

[@nyx0907]

One of my 16-month-old twins gets incredibly frustrated when he can't accomplish something, and it quickly escalates into a full meltdown every time. There’s nothing I can “help” with because he doesn’t want me to-he just insists on doing it himself. So I stay nearby, but I’m at a loss for how to support him when the meltdown happens. He doesn’t calm down with hugs or being held; instead, he just screams for what feels like ages. His twin sister isn’t like this, so I’m not sure what I might be doing wrong. Also, regarding the car seat, my daughter cries and screams and despite talking singing and giving her toys it only grows louder over time. She does calm down when I take her out, but when I put her back in to continue the trip, she starts screaming all over again.

[@fearnomore8915]

Say it with me: You are not doing anything wrong! Children are very different and no method works on every child. Sending love and strength ❤️

[@BrianNguyen-w8h]

Great content.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you!

[@annakl.6579]

Any tips for a 2 year old ? ☺️

[@nelus7276]

We froze ours for two years. Can confirm, was pretty chill.

[@Vikath11]

Thank you so much for confirming my way of handling car trips! This video and your explanations are a really helpful support for me.

[@Araniija]

Oh darn. Seems like i f* up already. He is 2.5 now and i was never able to ignore his cry or stay calm. Obviously i do want him to have good resiliance. Probably dont have it myself though... What now?

[@staz334]

start again :_D

[@kryptonite_jules]

How do you deal with a clingy toddler while taking care of a breastfeeding baby too?

[@emmieherbert6283]

gv him a doll bottle etc

[@omuamaar6641]

Hi Emma, my baby is approaching 9 months and he’s wobbly when sets down is that normal? He was born 2-3weeks before his due dates Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us

[@Beautifullybroken30]

Thank you

[@JOANNEeeM]

What if my 5 month old cries when I first put her in the stroller and stops as soon as we're in motion? 🤣 We usually just place her in, push the stroller, stop and buckle her half way, push the stroller, and finish buckling her to prevent her from crying haha. 😅 Any tips are appreciated. Thank you!

[@ajandmitchgallop]

How do you know a baby on the ground is actually distressed or that they just want to be picked up? I've got a 4 mo boy and think I've definitely picked him up at the first sign of crying so he cries quite quickly when put down. But I struggle to know when he's distressed because his cries are so intense even if he's not hungry or tired.

[@alessandriagiannantonio2698]

Any recommendations for a 9 month old who still absolutely hates the car seat? Literally nothing I have tried works and I am losing my mind being stuck completely at home.

[@monika-1315]

Can you walk anywhere? I would get a baby carrier for walks or try to get somewhere by bus etc

[@alessandriagiannantonio2698]

​​@@monika-1315I have three, including a hip carrier, but now that he's crawling around he doesn't want to be on me at all but also only wants to be on me. And we live way out in the boonies, so no buses or public transport ☹️

[@johannabecker8408]

Sometimes thr baby just doesn't like the type of carseat they are sitting in. A friend of ours switched carseats and it git a little better for her baby.

[@alessandriagiannantonio2698]

@@johannabecker8408 I wish I could try before buying, they're so expensive. He hated the infant car seat and hates the convertible one too. He'll arch his back and scream until his spit becomes so sticky he vomits.

[@monika-1315]

@@alessandriagiannantonio2698 Was he okay about strollers (when he was lying and when he is sitting)? Is it specifically about a car seat? Did he have problem with spitting or it's just because he cries so hard?

[@lidyakurniawan5265]

What if it's a 2yo who gets frustrated with his toys because he cant build it and even throwing the toy? What should we do?

[@hkeller8886]

What if it’s a problem that’s not rly solvable? My little one gets frustrated pulling on toys attached to his baby gym, so when I notice that, I would take them off so he can grab them freely.

[@becca_123]

Is it too late to start doing this? I have an 11 month old (almost 1 year) and I don’t know how to start doing this when I’ve been doing the exact opposite

[@isaiasabinadisosagarcia936]

I just noticed that I've gotten used to being the only adult in the front seat when me, my wife and my baby daughter are all in the car. (I'm the only one who knows how to drive). My wife will always be in the back seat trying to calm our baby down when she cries. And since she seems to hate the car seat, she'll cry almost every time she's there. I now see there's a different way of doing things.

[@noosha7sm]

This use of language also works well with people with dementia who have lost their cognitive and linguistic abilities.

[@isabiryefarouk7531]

Wow , educative. Now my boy is 2,years but he is always pulling things from the little sister of one years. His plays are rough

[@EmmaHubbard]

At this age, children are naturally impulsive and very focused on the present, plus they aren’t yet aware of how their actions impact others. Teaching them about taking turns can be a great way to build this awareness, along with plenty of practice!

[@isabiryefarouk7531]

@EmmaHubbard Thanks Emma. This is helping.

[@madhu7983]

​@@EmmaHubbardat what age do kids start developing empathy or even just the understanding that others have wants/needs and we need to take turns? My 20mo is starting to show jealousy toward the cats and I want to wait to have a second child for him to grow out of that a little. We try to explain taking turns and things like, "Ouch! It hurts Mango when you pull her tail. She doesn't like it."

[@thusharakc3458]

My one year old cry non stop for phone or anything she want .. wat should I do that time

[@Spadestr81]

Watch her video on whining

[@JuliyaSayapina]

What if 6 MO baby cries if left with daddy or nanny, wanting to be with mom only?

[@undeadly1103]

i've never "dropped everything" when my babies cried. i always got more worried when they were quiet.

[@eldaaranel]

I needed this video. My daughter is learning to sit on her own and she hates it. Same with car rides.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Hopefully the 3 step approach makes it a little easier for you both❤

[@jessicacombs148]

How are you supposed to talk to your baby when you’re in the shower? I can’t hear much over the water 😅

[@AlexandraBovenko]

Being in the car may not be thr same situation as when they learn crawling or waiting for mama from the shower. What if your baby is scared of cars?

[@rockinstrawberries]

Unfortunately, my baby cries (regularly) in the car so hard that she stops breathing and turns red. That's how much she hates the car

[@EmmaHubbard]

Oh, the poor thing. Hopefully, it gets a bit more tolerable for her when she can play and interact with toys.

[@cassandrakemara8755]

Letting my baby struggle a bit is why hes crawling at 5.5months

[@karendarel6281]

Emma, I desperately need your help. Could I communicate with you directly? You are my last resort. Do you have an email? My question is about my 9 month old Grandaughter

[@EmmaHubbard]

Hi! While I don’t currently offer one-on-one consultations, you’re very welcome to reach out to me through my website at brightestbeginning.com/contact. I’d be happy to see if I can provide some guidance for your questions about your granddaughter.

[@user-rz1kh6vv6u]

its hard to tell if the baby fussing over the car seat or if they have a poopy diaper

[@tarabithia4509]

My daughter used to scream in the car seat and as soon as we switched to a different type she stopped and stared enjoying the car. We had a bucket seat at first

[@Spadestr81]

Which one did you switch to? Thanks!

[@vom-batus]

Okay but when and how does a parent transition from letting their

[@EmmaHubbard]

I actually cover that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gn-yqIKbn8-bpqM I even use a similar example to the one you mentioned 😆. Also, something people asked in that video was what to do when they want something they can't have or that you don't want to give them. So just to cover that - when you can't give them the item, you would say no and explain why they can't have it. It’s normal for children to whine or get upset, and that's okay. Hold firm on your boundary while offering comfort if needed. Over time, they will understand that your decision is final, and that whining won’t change your response.

[@vom-batus]

@EmmaHubbard I watched that video when you released it. But then I just stumbled on this one. To me, this video is talking about letting the baby whine a little (depending on situation) and struggle, to build resilience. But as they get a little older, it's the same scenario, the toddler is not in danger and they are struggling a little but not going to die waiting an extra 5 mins for a drink. What age should a baby be when a parent stops letting them whine/struggle a bit to be resilient, and start meeting their needs as soon as possible to avoid reinforcing negative behaviours as toddlers (re what you outlined in the video you linked in comment)

[@lingyao2767]

I already know this by instinct but whenever I do this my husband thinks I am doing a terrible parenting job and sometimes interferes. It’s so frustrating that I can’t convince him it’s the right thing to do

[@zoltanantal-kis7905]

How can you bear hearing the baby crying for hours on long road trips? My nerves snap one by one as my son is constantly crying

[@dannahfam]

I only do tummy time maybe once or twice a day, and my 3 month old is already commando crawling. He looks up at me and smiles, then drops his head to continue crawling.

[@rosietyler]

This is where i get nervous about my own children. I work in daycare, so it doesn't really look good on us teachers if we just let the kids cry without soothing them. But i know i want to do this with my own children. I just think it's so engraved in me to immediately go to them.

[@jolinewuxian4256]

Nowadays it's weird. It's almost Dogma, if you don't jump IMMEDIATELY when baby cries. It's like we went from one extreme to the other...sigh

[@Durrpadil]

Pushover parents bow down to their children, causing them massive anxiety later on in life because they aren't constantly occupied. Please don't do this.

[@patanne3680]

This never happened in my day

[@jehhuty]

Lol the infamous "back in my day"

[@jesssc402]

Trying to do this but mil always jumps in to save the baby 🥲

[@priyaraaman]

Every family member does that All the time 😂😂😂