3 Things I Wish I Did Differently With My First Baby

[@noname-un2yo]

My son didn’t take pacifiers and doesn’t take them now (he just turned 6 months). He also refused to be swaddled at all. It was so frustrating to see my friends’ babies (couple weeks difference with mine) sleep so well in their sleep sacks while mine was fighting to get out of it. I still feed him to sleep. Honestly, I thought it was something to be ashamed of, but well… it works for both of us. He will never be this small again

[@9393ily]

Hey! I know this comment is super old, I hope you and your bub are doing well! I have an 8 month old and I still feed him to sleep every single night + day. When did your little one stop feeding to sleep? And was it hard to stop the habit? 😊

[@noname-un2yo]

@@9393ily Mamaaa, it happened just recently! Last time I fed him to sleep was the day before his second birthday. I’m combo feeding my second because these ladies are tired 🫠

[@MirwenAnareth]

Every kid is different. I don't think there's any kind of general truth that would apply to them all. Ours never slept in a swaddle either, she just hated it. But she slept well enough without it. If I learned anything during those three years I've been raising my daughter, it's that I should take advice as a tip. Try it out, it might work or it might not. Observation and adapting to my kid's needs are my best friends here. :)

[@mirabraa7855]

​@9393farah My daughter was the same. And unfortunately once we stopped breastfeeding she was sucking her thumb. It was OK at the beginning, we kind of allowed her to do it but later on it bacame an issue. It took us ages to get rid of this habit and cost us all (her, me and my husband) a lot of stress. She is 7 now and still sometimes sucks her thumb unconsciously when sleeping in the morning... like it is deeply programmed in her sleeping habit. I have another baby now and... he refused to take a pacifier so I breastfeed him to sleep. Looks like I am doing the same mistake but I hope that once we switch from breastfeeding to bottle we will find a way to calm him down and definitely we will keep his thumb far away from his mouth.

[@wolfsmaid6815]

I still feed my 16 month old to sleep to be honest. I've weaned him off of milk during daytime, but he is currently in a phase where he wants to be fed to sleep again, I think it will just pass naturally with some time.

[@JA-vv8wy]

A tip I learned in speech therapy school: if you want to break a child from their pacifier, but don’t want to be the “bad guy”, just start by poking a hole in it when they aren’t looking. Then, every day make the hole bigger or cut just a little more off. That way they say to themselves, “ this just isn’t doing it for me anymore!” Then they spit it out and you aren’t the “bad guy” taking it away!

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks for sharing this!

[@Dana-mb1hd]

Congratulations emma on your 3rd baby! what a blessing 🙏🙏💖💖

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you so much!!

[@amandalyy8191]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊​@@EmmaHubbard

[@corireeves32]

Congratulations on the new baby!! You have been so helpful to me as I am blessed to babysit my youngest grandson two days a week, since he was six weeks old. (He is 14 months now!) Parenting and "tips" have changed a lot since my boys were born so your advice has given me so much inspiration and ideas. My grandson is happy, healthy and is a joy to be with. Thanks again and congratulations and blessings to you and your family!!!

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much! It's so great you can babysit your grandson. The relationship you would have with him would be so special!

[@allthingsjannah]

You're amazing to babysit your grandson 2x a week wow! I'm sure you're really appreciated you QUEEN ❤️❤️❤️

[@maria5249]

Congratulations on the upcoming newest addition to your family! How exciting! ❤️ As a first time mom, thank you so so so much for your videos. I bookmark them and revisit as needed when my sleep-deprived brain can’t remember anything. 😅 Your channel is truly the most helpful out of everything I’ve seen, and even more so than our pediatrician sadly. The world appreciates your dedication, passion and work!!!!

[@trrhyn]

Thankyou for talking genuinely from personal experience and sharing thing's that you would have done differently now, it humanizes you and make's me somehow much more receptive to your advice haha, sometimes I would watch your videos and feel a disconnect sometimes, maybe ashamed I wasn't able to do things in the same way or did things differently before seeing the video but seeing you as a mother, just sharng things that worked and didn't work, I appreciate that a lot. This is meant to be a positive message, not sure how it's reading but yeah, thanks again. xo

[@aijalam7487]

Congrats on your new bundle of joy!!! I love, love love your videos. First time mom here. Me and hubby watch them all in order to learn and for me they also give me a peace of mind! Our doctor is super nice but I feel like they don’t tell you a thing, just do a shot and off you go! Tell me how great we’re doing without giving me any instructions or what’s about to follow for my baby’s development in the next few months and how can I make it better. So these videos, in the middle of our busy days, are just excellent! A source that I fully trust and recommend to others! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much!💕

[@nsmith0110]

Halo ftw. Hands down the best swaddles, both of my babies have slept so much better with Halo than any other swaddle. Also, on pacis, we just don’t offer the pacifier unless baby is genuinely wanting it. I’ve had family members try to put the paci in baby’s mouth when he isn’t cranky, or even try to put it back in his mouth if he drops it while sleeping. If he’s content, we don’t try and force it on him. We did the same with our oldest and he decided he was over the paci at about 4 months old, so fingers crossed it all works out the same this time around.

[@hummingbirds636]

You are totally blessing in disguise,I had been following you since my pregnancy days its been 9 months now with my baby and i had less stressful mind.Thank you

[@EmmaHubbard]

This has made my day. It’s so good to hear that these videos have helped make your parenting journey a little less stressful. Hope you continue to have fun with your 9month old!

[@salvesfamili5840]

Congratulations emma for the new addition to your family,you've been a great help to me now that i have a toodler myself . Stay safe!

[@mrmuffduchessannabell4785]

Congratulations!! And thank you for this post. It’s so nice to hear an honest account from a professional. It makes me feel so much better about struggling with these decisions ❤

[@EmmaHubbard]

You are so welcome!

[@alexasubescu]

Congratulations on the baby to come!🍀🌼

[@SuperHedva]

Congrats on the new arrival Emma! Your videos are always so informative, in depth and helpful. I love the halo for our son ever since he started rolling over but the biggest difference in his sleep for us was when we found the love to dream sleep sack, he loved having his hands next to him. He HATED being totally tied down🤷🏼‍♀️ And yes!! Those cat naps were crazy but we just let him do it. He seemed fine.

[@kawaiiheather5696]

Congrats on baby number 3! My 2nd babe is 5 months old now and I really liked the Happiest Baby Sleepea sleepsack swaddle. It's been a great transition piece as well now that he has both arms out. Definitely give it a try

[@claudiariley5518]

I lasted two weeks with new born twins until I gave in and bought them. I was trying to avoid it as I know my parents kept them until we started school. I didn’t want them to be dependent on them. But it helps so much with self soothing and sleeping when they are babies.

[@amiouch]

Glad to know that I should stop fighting the catnaps with my 4 month old. I feel so much pressure to have him nap longer and I spend too much time trying to resettle him. Good to know that this would change when he is a bit older!

[@chesea3]

I wish I saw this a few months ago! I spent months 2-5 fighting the cat naps and trying to extend them and was completely stressed out and obsessed over her sleep! Then one day at 5 months she slept two hours!! And has ever since for naps. Now we’re at 7 months and just waiting for her nighttime sleep to improve 😅

[@kaitlinparsons6556]

I'm in this same boat. Hope your babys night sleep improved!

[@sofiakallergi8129]

Oh im in the same boat too..my baby is 7 months now..i tried hard many times to get the pacifiers but he doesn't want to..

[@sofiakallergi8129]

And our nights is nightmare too

[@mamadoctor6985]

Now I know why my daughter was good sleeper! I swaddled her until she was ready to roll over and she had pacifier too. It was a breeze getting her to nap and sleep for long times! The only difficult thing was her colic. Thank you!!

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience with your daughter. So good to hear she was a great sleeper as colic can be challenging and tiring!

[@SlightlyVisible]

Omg whole day i was fighting to extend naps (at 3.5 months) 😮 You’re truly a Godsend!

[@RedWolfRun]

Thank you for these tips! These will definitely come in handy. I found the nap segment interesting because I just read a neurology study showing about a 20 minute nap can give you plenty of energy because you haven’t yet entered REM sleep and about a 1:30 hour nap also has the same benefits because you’ve completed a REM cycle. While this was a study on helping to prevent Alzheimer’s, it does help to make some sense as to why the 20 min and 1:30 hour naps are so helpful to new borns.

[@ilariama82]

Thanks for the video! My second baby is due in Jan, this time I'll still breastfeed but will also not put too much pressure on myself, I'll go with the flow and see what works. If the supply keeps being low even when pumping, I'll supplement as needed rather than feeling miserable and guilty.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Congratulations on your pregnancy. ❤️ I hope you are feeling well and not too tired with another child to chase around! Great advice to not put too much pressure on yourself! Breastfeeding can be difficult and we can make ourselves feel miserable if we feel we are not doing it "right". Remember to link in with a lactation consultant if your feel that would be helpful and always be kind to yourself.💕

[@ilariama82]

@@EmmaHubbard thank you so much! And congratulations to you, so glad I found your channel!

[@Ready-ForTheEnd]

I use formula and breast milk because I honestly am too tired at times. Besides I I dont have an electric pump yet. My daughter is eating frequently for a one week old

[@prettyintn2390]

Thank you so much for your videos!!! Our firstborn is almost 16 weeks now and was born with bilateral clubfeet and your videos have helped keep his development right on track and we are so incredibly thankful. Hope you are having a great pregnancy and will send prayers your way for a smooth delivery 😀

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much! So glad the videos have been able to help with your little one's development - but really it is all you! Everything you do with him everyday is helping keep his development on track.

[@ArianeTobin]

Ahh I have a lovely unused dodie (pacifier) collection 😂 I tried so hard but my little fella just wouldn't take it them and I tired loads of designs. Cest la vie. Congratulations on your impending arrival 💗

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@Malbeur]

Same here!

[@lingwow7932]

Congrats on the third child and thank you for your videos. Great resource for FTM ❤

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you so much!

[@Bcdangable]

Our girl hated swaddlers! lol every time we would put her in one they cried and moved so much. It turned out she needed to have at least one arm out for comfort. So cute. And now at 7 months she’s sleeping for 30minutes and up to 90 minutes! It’s hit and miss but she’s happy and she lets us know when she needs to rest. Love these videos

[@Ready-ForTheEnd]

First time mom here and good to know I haven't made these mistakes. I've swaddled her since her first days in the hospital and I quickly use a pacifier especially during a diaper change when she gets fussy. It stops her from kicking. I'm not sure about naps though for the most part we just feed her and then put her to sleep.

[@mac__attack8609]

Funny enough, my son doesn’t care for swaddling or pacifiers. What saved me with napping is contact naps!! He LOVED them until we made the final transition for all sleep to take place in his room when we’re home. I loved them too ): sleep “training” was also a life saver- we did exclusively nights and a month later incorporated the naps. We started at a little after 6mo of age.

[@MomoHitsujiOwO]

As both a pediatric occupational therapist and a new parent (my baby was born on September), this channel has been so insightful and informative! I’m learning so much binge watching all of the videos while on maternity leave so I can use these tips and tricks for both my clients and my baby. I am now subscribed to this channel, and I am looking forward to new content! Congrats on your third baby! 🥰❤

[@bryonnaaldubayan5387]

Hi ! Love you videos. Congrats on the new addition! Can you make a video on baby registry must haves for nursery and sleep such as cribs and bassinets?

[@alexandrastr8878]

Hi Emma! Just wanted to let you know that your videos are super helpful. Thank you so much! And congratulations on your pregnancy! Wishing you all the best.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much!

[@ivanakrcivoj4205]

Another round of excellent advice, thank you, Emma :) When you mentioned transferring the baby from hands to the crib, reminded me to share my best practice - we use pillows for babies (at least this is what we call them in Croatia) :) There are different models, some are softer, and some are firm (more firm the part where the baby's back & head are). So this is perfect for keeping her in arms while breastfeeding or when daddy is putting her to sleep :) And then is so easy to transfer her to her bed, without making her startle.😇

[@kurukafa3108]

Thank you very much for your help I will try all of guids gave us❤

[@Tanya1q44]

Emma, thank you so much for this video. Currently going through 4 month sleep regression. Taking your advice on stopping fighting catnapping 😊

[@amyrenshaw9538]

Congratulations on your 3rd baby Emma! So exciting ❤- love your videos so much!!

[@laryfrancine]

I have been watching your videos all the way from Atlanta GA, very helpful, our little one is 5 months now. Congratulation on your 3rd baby❤👶

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much! Also congrats on your little one! I hope the parenting journey has been made a little easier with these videos.

[@shannenrebello982]

Congratulations Emma 🎉 Thank you so much for all your tips you have really helped me so much being a new mum with no additional help and having parents back home. .

[@EmmaHubbard]

You are so welcome!

[@cinnamonndonuts]

My mum and mother in law made me feel bad about using a pacifier, but it’s honestly the best decision ever to use one for my son. It’s like magic lol

[@EmmaHubbard]

When it works it works so well!

[@ilovekeppu]

My son is already 6 months old and I regret so much not giving him one just because they've been telling me no no no 😢

[@andreasmit6454]

@@ilovekeppucan you tell more why you regret it? Trying to decide if I should use one

[@anassaleem873]

@@ilovekeppuits realy calm them and dnt think soo its harming

[@golo6374]

@@andreasmit6454my mom didn’t believe in pacifiers. I wasn’t a big cry-er, but I did become a lifelong nail biter. And I have a theory that maybe it had to do with my hands being the only things I could put in my mouth for comfort. I’ve heard people say you can eventually take away a pacifier, even if it takes longer than you expect, but you can’t take hands away.

[@rinamorgan8795]

Emma, my daughter is due this Saturday and I can't tell you what a relief it's been finding your channel and learning so much the past few months (including what a galah is). We're working our way through them all! Thank you. 💜

[@EmmaHubbard]

😂 I hope you're daughters arrival goes smoothly. You would be so excited about finally meeting her!

[@rinamorgan8795]

Yes, I was so excited I set a countdown clock haha! We had a scheduled C-section and I'm glad we went that route, because her cord had a "true" knot in it. Terrifying to see, especially unexpectedly. But her Apgar was 9 and she is doing very well! We love her so much.

[@johanahaziza2516]

These videos are so helpful, thank you! The happiest baby sleep sacks ( the ones that don't attach to the snoo, for use in any crib/bassinet) are also great for swaddling with the arms down, and they can be used as regular sleepsacks with the arms out if baby grows out of the swaddling stage before outgrowing the sleepsack🙂

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much for sharing the information about the Happiest Baby Sleep Sacks.

[@lauracroce2129]

Dear Emma, congratulations for your third child! My little Cristina always stubbornly refused the pacifier, and still struggles to do a full night sleep at 12 months of age...she is a serene and happy child anyway 🤷‍♀️

[@allyjoy130]

Thank you so much Emma for that last tip. I have been going crazy over these 15 to 35 minute naps! I will try embracing them for more playtime and floor time.

[@EmmaHubbard]

You're so welcome!

[@vaishalisharma5103]

Heartiest congratulations Emma. Take care

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you!

[@CDyan]

Congratulations !!!! thank you for all your precious advices

[@margaridavaz250]

Congratulations on your new baby. And tank you so much for sharing this tips, I'm a big fan. What is the best aproach in how to wean your baby off the pacifier? My baby is almost 2 years old and finds the pacifier very soothing especialy in the night time when he is very tired and fussy.

[@MsFerity]

Congrats on the new family member

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you!!

[@shanthiiyer6065]

Congratulations Emma on your 3rd baby 😀 ! I Love watching your videos, they are very informative and have helped me a lot, cheers! Best wishes for a safe delivery 😀

[@PriscyIyanu]

My Son is 7 months and he started using a pacifier last week, I just gave him pacifier to play and after an hour I noticed he started sucking it well…I’m so happy cos I have a lot of relief.

[@lilachnadav2854]

Thank you! Im learning from you so much!

[@EmmaHubbard]

You are so welcome!

[@lp8598]

My son is 6 mths and one night i woke up 6 times to replace his pacifier and also to unswaddle his arms as he seemed to want to break free after waking at night (he didnt mind it to fall asleep). By the next day, i got rid of the soothie cold turkey AND transitioned him to a sleep sack. He sleeps the deepest he's ever slept now!!

[@abigailloar956]

Every child is different too. I have 2. Neither would take a pacifier. I offered many kinds at many times to them. Neither had anything to do with them. My first swaddled and fell asleep well but woke up a lot in the night. Didn't stop until i sleep trained him at six months. My second only falls asleep to nursing and is tougher to swaddle, but slept 6+ hours by 2 months. Just have to go with the flow i think

[@malamikica9591]

how do you train them?

[@Lillireify]

​@@malamikica9591in a nutshell: you take their sleep crutch away (pacifier, boob, rocking to sleep etc), lay them down in the crib and wait for them to figure out how to fall asleep without it. Then depending on your preference you either sit with the baby, pat them & sing, leave them and occasionally check them or just leave them alone until they fall asleep on their own. :)

[@meliamedaverman3558]

My husband said to me "your the only one I know that don't give baby a pacifier" 🤣 My daughter has always taken cat naps and I had no problem with it. I always do what my baby wants. I always go with the flow so I don't stress myself. Now my baby is 7 months and her sleeping patterns changes almost every 2 days. I just go with it. Whenever she taking a nap I go down with her. I leave all the house work alone unless I am not tired. I don't stress myself over anything when comes to my baby. Stress is not good for your health.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much for this great reminder! Going with the flow of your little one definitely helps to keep you calm as a parent and be present when they are awake and ready to engage.

[@TheWarriorLV]

Thank u!! I feel everyone around me thinks I’m strange I follow baby’s schedule. (Unless they have a baby, then they get it) it’s much easier !! ❤

[@malamikica9591]

me too, when they ask me what her schedule is i just tell them no idea, i only try to put my baby to sleep at 9pm, sometimes he wakes up at 10am, sometimes at 6am, during the day sometimes sleep 20min, sometimes 90min, i take quick naps with him😊

[@w37320]

Thanks Emma, your videos are awesome :)

[@EmmaHubbard]

Glad you think so!

[@fexcab]

Yo Emma🙌🏼💚thanks for reaffirming some experiments my wife and I have been trying with pacifiers, swaddles, and those cat siestas😻We are following your advice on letting baby guide use via his cues🐣

[@dothedo3667]

My brother was a finger sucker (paired with ear touching, his or yours). It became a bit of a problem, causing a sore, but ultimately it was resolved by 3 years old at the latest, I can't remember when exactly. He had no priblem stopping breastfeeding at 10 months old or so. My sister on the other hand never sucks her thumb or uses a pacifier and is still extremely reliant on breastfeeding past the age of 2, now unable to fall asleep by herself or with anyone but her mom. I'm sure she could've stopped earlier with some firmness, but her mom always gives in. She's finally going on a trip by herself soon though, so sis will have to figure it out.

[@foreshadowing_panda3928]

I used a dummy with my first purely out of desperation. I was an isolated first time mum, completely overwhelmed. I never wanted to use them at all for many reasons including the ones you listed. we pulled it promptly at 6 months and it is one of my biggest regrets/ lessons as a mum. For me the benefits do not outweigh the drawbacks, though it's different for every family! For some families its an amazing tool, for us it caused more problems than it fixed. Due with #2 shortly and will not be using one again. we co-sleep and babywear and that is honestly just as good for soothing, if not better!

[@carterravoire85]

Hi Emma, I LOVE your videos! They are so helpful - this one and the ones on what can delay development particularly. What do you think about the « crawligator »? Is this good for a 4 month old who’s desperate to crawl or would you say it’s something to avoid like a bouncer/walker? Many thanks!

[@thiec.1513]

Congratulations on your upcoming baby hehe. Thank you for this video. I also get judged for giving my baby a pacifier but it has been one the best decisions I made.

[@PamelasLas]

Awww congrats on your pregnancy! I regret using a swaddle because he became so dependent on it but also unwrapped himself all the time…ugh 😅 never again

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you!! 😊 It can be really challenging to wean them off the swaddle!

[@simplybeautiful9021]

1st time mum and proud to say I never used a pacifier. No judgemental to all the parents who used pacifiers. I just wanted to encourage anyone thinking of going the same route as me.

[@LinaVera4]

Congratulations on your third baby how exciting

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you!! 😊

[@macbranda]

Thank so much.❤

[@dominikadylag9359]

Congratulations 🤰

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks!!

[@sarahnixon2680]

I appreciate this video so much ❤

[@EmmaHubbard]

You're so welcome!

[@arzoozehra605]

Congratulations Emma it's so great to hear that.. my baby is 6 months old and really dependant on pacifier to sleep.. but my doctor says that pacifier is harmful for him as it can make him sick.. so my baby gets fussy during night sleep ad wants something to suckle and I'm left with no choice so I give him my nipples to suckle during sleep but it's really exhausting for me as I can not even sleep peacefully.. what should I do?

[@kristinamiller508]

Thank you for your tipps, Emma! The pacifier never worked with my son because he simply did not want to accept it, although I tried multiple times to give him a pacifier to calm him down. Will try swaddling with my second child though.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@Almondamande]

I'm addicted of your information ℹ️

[@EmmaHubbard]

I'm so glad you're finding it helpful! Thank you! 💜

[@missh1774]

Hi Emma. Do you have video links to address the issues for climbing toddlers and how to direct them away or learn new behaviour to prevent climbing on home furniture?

[@gayatriv9782]

Thank you for sharing these

[@I_am_Spiice]

Thanks ma'am, this tip is really helpful

[@marianachindris9041]

Congratulations Emma for your third one ! Since I discovered you I follow your videos. We used the halo swaddle and it was a bless. All your materials are very useful and suits our concerns or questions we had as parents. Our daughter is still using the pacifier at 15 months only to sleep. I want to stop giving it to her but I don’t know how. Any advices please ? Thank you.

[@maryjanerx]

Congratulations!!!!

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you so much 😀

[@Nayero26]

I'm in cat nap stage and I needed this thank you

[@olay5757]

I just bought transitional swaddles bc my lo has been swaddled from birth but seems to be ready to roll. I tried to take them away cold turkey but he just doesnt sleep well without them. So the transitional ones it is. That way if he rolls he can still use is arms

[@lydiadavid2276]

Congratulations Emma.

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thank you! 💜

[@mlebrooks]

Congratulations

[@EmmaHubbard]

❤️

[@pitounesky7604]

My first child is currently 9 weeks old, and she doesn't really take a pacifier. We triées 6 different models. She sometimes take one for a few minutes only but so far it's not sucessfull. 😔 And also, congratulations for your third baby coming soon! 🥰

[@EmmaHubbard]

Some bub's just don't take to pacifiers and that is totally ok. Your little one may prefer to suck her hands or just seek comfort from your touch. Just follow your little one's lead.

[@eminemilly]

My baby didn't take pacifiers either but she loved those banana toothbrush chewys and teething tube type things

[@horpie]

Congratulations Emma.......thank you for helping us with our Little one

[@buzzi2k]

Hi Emma, do you have any advice on transitioning from one to two children? And managing with a baby and toddler?

[@aoimanami]

Congratulations for the pregnancy! Wishing the best for you and your family 😊🙏

[@EmmaHubbard]

❤️

[@nunocolon]

My son used pacifier and stood on his own by 1yo maybe a bit after… but even around then and before 1 he used sparingly… and then just stopped. My daughter is using it and she also sucks fingers, and kinda switched between the two depending on mood/ availability. So if it falls out we don’t immediately put it back… and see his she dies and it’s going well and she sometimes asks for it but it’s looking good so far at 5 months. And she spits out shortly after falling asleep

[@MirwenAnareth]

I am totally curious how it went with your third child. :D As much as I generally love your advice, these things, I'd say, are highly individual. I know babies who are calmer with a pacifier and those who hate it and are happier without it. Our daughter loved it, but e.g. she hated any sort of movement restriction such as swaddling right from the start. She wouldn't fall asleep ever if we swaddled her, but she had no trouble at all sleeping without it. She also didn't catnap at all. As I talk about our kids with other moms, I learn their experience is quite different. In my experience, these things are best observed. No advice helps here, one just needs to watch the baby and adapt to their needs.

[@ZaGaijinSmash]

We used one from the beginning and our now 11 month old only wants it at bed time to help chill him out, after he’s asleep he usually spits it out.

[@yaa2866]

Your videos are so informative and useful. My baby is 4.5 months. I've resisted using pacifier. This has meant that I have been her pacifier (comfort nursing) often late into the night, which can be exhausting. Is it too late to offer her the pacifier? Or do you have other suggestions?

[@michellep9536]

What about teething though? My daughter didn't even want a binky until 6 months! (Yes, we had the right sizes too) 😅

[@angelinapyankova290]

I tried using pacifier with my child, he is nearly 5 months old and all the attempts were futile. He just spits it out. Tried various designs. Still no luck. Just gave up. It's okay though, I just built my day schedule around his sleep: several 30-40 minutes sessions of sleep while eating during the day, longer sleep in the evening and even more sleep during the night. So I get to read, answer emails etc during the short naps, work on my laptop and prepare food in the evening. Pretty neat and tiresome but works for me

[@Nadea19ify]

mine exactly like that! 🤯

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much for sharing! Some bub's are just not into pacifiers and that is completely fine. Following their lead is more important which it sounds like you have done and works for you both!

[@erinloi]

I would have pumped my breasts when my milk came in at day 3/4 to let my body know to create more milk. I was told not to remove the milk with a pump and only let baby suckle. I have struggled with an inadequate supply for 6 months and exclusively pumping still. I believe I could have helped my supply in the initial stages 💯

[@EmmaHubbard]

Hi Erin, Thanks so much for sharing! Sounds like you are doing an amazing job getting breast milk to your baby.

[@Kasumistern]

Same! Would I do it again I would as soon as possible start using the haakaa pump to increase supply and get the milk flowing!

[@erinloi]

@@EmmaHubbard thanks Emma and congratulations for baby no.3, wishing you a happy healthy and safe delivery x

[@Ready-ForTheEnd]

I had to pump immediately because my baby ended up in the nicu after birth and before releasing her they wanted to make sure she was eating regularly and feeding. I have definitely experienced that heavy supply of milk since doing that.

[@poojam6383]

Many many congratulations and love from India

[@EmmaHubbard]

❤️

[@samunzalanjala7691]

My baby become so dependent ,didn't feed well and lost so much weight. I stopped at 2 months . Started feeding well and chubby now at 4 months.

[@sailorarwen6101]

I desperately wanted my baby to use one because she’s sucking her hands raw. It took a few months to get her to do it. She still prefers her hands but they’re healing

[@katarzyna6795]

Hello:) my little Mary is 4 month old. She is not convinced to the pacifier, she is removing it after some time. I realized that she loves to suck her fingers and I was told that it is normal and even beneficial while she is producing sounds during this activity. But I am a bit concerned when she sucks only the thumb without vocalisations, she sucks mainly right thumb and it happens when she wants to sooth herself. I offered her a pacifier instead a thumb, but she prefers thumb.. sometimes breast helps, Mary eats quite often, she is only breastfeed. I will be thankful for bit of advice. I find your channel very profitable for not experienced parents as I am. Greetings from Poland and have a lovely day:)

[@vee_grave]

My daughter uses a pacifier to fall asleep and only occasionally when she’s really upset. I’d like to transition out of sucking to sleep and she seems to be happy using her favorite blanket. But unfortunately since she’s still less than 12 months, we can’t leave the blanket in the crib with her so it’s not an option for overnight. I’d love a video about transitioning out of pacifiers (when it needs to happen, how to help a child through it).

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks for sharing this information and also the video topic suggestion. I plan on making a video on this exact topic very soon!

[@kruthikaainapur3620]

I had seen one of ur videos in which u mentioned disadvantages of using pacifier ...like we may hav to keep back the Pacifier into babies mouth once they spit it out .. which can happen multiple times .. Seeing that video ..i didnt offer pacifier to my twins ... Now they 6 month old .. one uses thumb to soothe herself...to fall asleep... But ya as u told now...i noticed that she is really getting fussy when we go out .. Guide me on how to go about this ... And also wen shud i start attempting to stop her from sucking her thumb

[@juanitawilliams5902]

Thanks for the video, What age should I stop swaddling?

[@KharamelSueno]

I've read that you should stop swaddling when baby is able to roll over. Baby will need their arms to help them breathe in the case that they roll over. A swaddle at that point would be dangerous.

[@larissave9819]

My baby is 5months and loves his pacifier! But some nights I have to go in several times to replace it 😩 not sure if I should wean him from it or if he’ll be able to just put it in by himself soon

[@lawaincooley6788]

I have four young children. My oldest is 7. My youngest is 5 months old. All of them did well with swaddling but my youngest did not like the swaddle much so I let her sleep (well) on her tummy. It makes her most happy. I didn't allow anything else in the crib. She was absolutely fine. My others did love their swaddle thingies though. Also, all of my children stopped using their pacifiers (other than car rides) after 6months of age. They didn't really care about it so I was glad to eliminate it.

[@MysteryExodus]

I spent so much of my pregnancy thinking about what swaddle to get and wasted money buying a few. Turns out my baby will not sleep in a bassinet & we bedshare and when bedsharing baby cannot be in a swaddle.

[@Lifeisbutanillusion]

My baby is 15 months now, she never liked any pacifier, any bottle, nor any swaddling ever. Never sucked her fingers either haha. She would spit the pacifier out instantly no matter what we tried, and I guess a part of me was glad because I learned at the time that it can lead to dental problems and it can be hard to wean them off of it, so wasn't going to look forward to that if she'd been okay with it. The "downside" to that is my breast ended up being her pacifier instead, which isn't a bad thing as it's extremely beneficial for babies to soothe at the breast whenever they need to (and good for mama too), so I also felt it was my job as her mama to do it for her whenever she needed me anyway, and it felt right, too. Feed and soothe on demand is what they teach here in New Zealand, and I love it because it's how it should be and it's just natural and pure love. ❤️ It was impossible to swaddle my daughter, she disliked any kind of swaddling or being held down by anything (including car seats, so rides in the car were impossible). When I pumped to keep my milk supply up, I tried giving that milk to her in a bottle but she wouldn't have it, so I ended up not using the milk I pumped (I didn't pump to use the milk as I mentioned, but felt like a waste half the time). I saw a comment on this video from someone who said that they wished they'd pumped early on on day 3 or so, and I absolutely agree, you should. My milk was a bit late when I had my daughter (only had a tiny amount come through) and I had to use donor milk at the hospital until it did come through a few days later (which broke my heart), and they let me use the hospital pump while I was there to help my body get started on the milk production and it really helped. Thing is, you have to feed your baby on demand even if you pump, and then just feed her what you've pumped every now and then. It is absolutely, irrefutably beneficial for the baby to be close to you at the chest, at the very least the first few months. It keeps baby warm as the mother's chest is programmed to be a few degrees warmer than usual solely to keep the baby warm, and it relaxes and destresses and soothes the baby as oxytocin is released for both baby and mother and this is very, very good for the baby's development. So if you're planning on not even offering the baby your breast at all, please reconsider, all the baby wants is to be at your chest and be close to you, you are your baby's safe haven, the whole world and everyone in it is scary and unfamiliar except for you, their mama who is all they have known for 9 months. ❤️ I never liked freezing milk, although having emergency milk isn't a bad thing. The reason I never liked it is that women are designed as such that the antibodies in the milk change based on mamas and baby's health and needs that same day, which is so remarkable and humbling and amazing, so that's extremely beneficial, and you won't reap those benefits at all with frozen milk from a completely different day. Just food for thought for anyone who's interested or considering it. I would pump as well as feed though, at least initially as I did, as it does help keep up milk supply so you don't have to worry about having enough milk (feed baby, wait an hour, pump, then an hour later you have enough new milk in your breast for your newborn to drink from). Also eat oatmeal every morning and/or incorporate oats into your daily diet, make cookies or smoothies or protein bars/balls with oats, they help A LOT with milk supply. Pineapple helped me with milk supply too. Make sure baby keeps sucking from the same breast for a while (30-40 min) before switching to the other because if you don't baby won't get the hindmilk which is the fatty milk that has all the important nutrients; the baby gets mostly watery milk when they first start sucking and only after sucking for a while does the baby get the hindmilk. One thing I wish I'd done differently is getting a baby carrier to wear the baby from the get go instead of carrying my daughter around in my arms for hours on end. Because I carried her in my arms directly for so long everyday I developed "mommy's wrist" and dealt with the pain for months. This also lead to me bedsharing with my daughter for longer than I needed and now she has a sleep association, which is once or twice a night she still wakes up and wants the breast to fall back asleep, and we still bedshare. Loud white noise helps newborns settle and sleep as the noise mimics the sounds inside of mamas body when the baby was a foetus - they say white noise as loud as a vacuum cleaner is about the right volume as that's how loud it is for baby in your belly when pregnant. Learned that as I went and eventually bought a Bluetooth speaker and connected it to a spare phone I had and got the "Atmosphere" app and played constant rain noise for my baby (highly recommend that app btw, free). I also got a portable white noise machine for on the go, really helped. Lots of tips really but those are a few, hope they can help someone out there! 😊

[@Kasumistern]

These tips are all absolute gold and I agree with everything said. Too late for me, but I hope someone will read it and get something out of your comment. 💖

[@larbakatariina1912]

All terrific tips! I'm so glad we already had the baby carrier at home from our firstborn (who we only carried on it when outside, strangely, it never occurred to me to use it inside the house doing chores back then. Oops) because second baby was so clingy and desperate for attention as I had to now split my attention between two kids who needed me. She definitely was a koala just hanging on me daily and I got to take care of our toddler at the same time. Now it's more difficult as youngest is walking and wants to be semi independent but in her mind i'm not allowed to have her big sister on my lap, the wail of betrayal and despair she demonstrates as soon as I even hug our eldest is - - something else. But up until she started walking, she was very content in the baby carrier. Would definitely recommend baby wearing.

[@Lifeisbutanillusion]

@@Kasumistern 💖

[@Lifeisbutanillusion]

@@larbakatariina1912 I want to have another and am dreading the inevitable jealousy and split attention. My daughter and I have such a strong bond. ❤️

[@larbakatariina1912]

@@Lifeisbutanillusion aww, I definitely understand. We were going back and forth on deciding whether to grow our family or not as well. I finally made up my mind by thinking about my childhood (I was an only child until my stepbrother was born when I was already 15 years old so alone all my childhood) vs my partners childhood (who is an older brother and their uncle was in the mix as well a lot, their uncle is only a few years older than my partner so three young ones growing up together) - I thought that maybe growing up with a sibling would be better? I mean yeah, there'll be fights and split attention but hopefully they'll grow to have each other's backs and have a great bond, too. The newborn phase is quite boring for the toddler, though, as we adults were excited about our eldest having someone to play with but then baby sis arrives and it takes her like 9 months to even move on her own, so no proper playing with the toddler, like we exclaimed... Youngest is learning so much from big sis, she practically sprints or gallops to our eldest, learned skills faster like crawling and walking and now a sprint-ish fast walk. Hard to keep up with the both of them and indeed, the look and wail of betrayal when our youngest wants to be the one held and cuddled by me. But I guess it takes time. Toddler is pretty excited that baby sister understands a bit of hide and seek now and can come seek when big sis runs somewhere. Sharing toys is hard, some days toddler is very gentle and sharing and guides baby but mostly it's "no! don't touch!" and toddler wants to have what baby has in her hands, to take even baby toys away. It's a process for sure. But some parts are easier: like the baby fell into our toddler's day and night rhythm pretty well after the first 3 months -ish. Toddler likes to do night routine and fall asleep with dad, I get to put baby to sleep. Definitely less time to even catch up with my partner about his day, though. Oh boy and intimacy, what's that... ? But we make do and try our best to remember us as well in the mix of it all. This is temporary and it'll be a blink and they're already starting school. Next blink, they're moving out. Sorry this turned into a novel, length-wise. I advise anyone thinking about having a second baby to look up other's experiences, too, here on youtube. Video searches for "what I wish I knew before having a second child" or something similar was what I watched as well. All the best to you!

[@sabrinakelly7408]

My daughter has a pacifier at 7 weeks old. The nights are hell because of it. It keeps falling out and she keeps waking up and crying for me to replace it. I'll be replacing it every 15 mins the whole night. Sometimes I want to throw that thing at the wall so bad (the paci not my daughter 😂) she is already doing catnaps at 7 weeks.

[@marcinraszkiewicz2509]

Hey Emma, I love your videos, they helped a lot. My son is 14 months now. Unfortunately there is one thing that we struggle very much with - sleep, especially during days. Our son never, ever slept for more than 1 hour. 30-45 minutes is his usual. We can try everything from your (and not only yours) list and everything fails. He mostly wakes up crying. During the nights he tends to sleep even 3-4 hours undisturbed by the closer to morning the shorter cycles he has. And he always cries while waking up, very hard to soothe. Any ideas what might be happening here? He has bed connected to ours and we follow the Sears method of upbringing in general. Thanks!

[@angiecats5298]

With my first baby, he had a dummy up until he was 8 months old. He kept throwing them away so I stopped buying them and then he forgot about them and we moved on. This stopped him from sucking his fingers/thumb (which I done up until I was 12) and helped me get through long nights with a baby. My 2 month old also has dummies and I’ll be doing the same, when she throws them away I’ll stop buying them. My personal rule is to never let them have their dummy past 1 years old.

[@Kasumistern]

I do not regret not using a pacifier, but I wish I would have used a baby carrier much earlier and often. And I wish I started using the haakaa pump as soon as my milk came in, because my son wasn't strong enough to remove milk efficiently. Most of the time when he was fussy he was actually just hungry...

[@EmmaHubbard]

Thanks so much for sharing! I agree a baby carrier is a must. I found it particularly helpful during the period of purple crying.