The 5 Steps That Lead to Addiction

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Board-certified psychiatrist & addiction expert Dr. Daniel Hochman hails from Austin, Texas. He treats substance abuse & addiction issues in his private practice, and has worked in various addiction treatment centers so has built a wealth of knowledge on the many approaches to addiction recovery.
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[@sll110]

the point is how to change it ??

[@fieryelf]

I've been struggling with porn addiction for years. I've been trying to mitigate it by deleting all my porn, putting parental controls on all my devices basically removing the problem from my life. But I'm not feeling any better and I still have cravings. This video brought up some good points I need to work on. My core beliefs are that I feel like I can't and will never be in a relationship. I guess I'm gonna have to work on that first if I want to get anywhere.

[@nunya257]

fieryelf I really identify with your struggle. I have a highly addictive personality. All addictions go back to our core wounds in childhood. I’ve made a lot of progress with doing work on healing my inner child. Literally talking to her and comforting her and validating her. I highly recommend it. Healing the Inner Child is a good book to start with. I think porn addiction is really a fear of intimacy. A fear of being deeply known by another person. Also, porn really does rewire our brains so cutting yourself off it completely is a good idea. My friend’s husband has been struggling with porn addiction for decades, so I know how insurmountable it seems. Have you watched that movie Don Juan with Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Julianne Moore? Also, I think it’s really important to embrace our shadow self in order to beat these things. Love the things that you’re ashamed of. We’re all human and wacky. All the best of luck to you.

[@AdrianaLemus]

On top of what Nun Ya said, I could also recommend seekingintegrity.com (unrelated to this channel). They have free online drop-in groups that might be of interest to you and other webinars that I think complement well what was said in this video. And if you can access therapy, definitely take advantage of that. I've seen how psychotherapy can help people dealing with porn addiction, even if it takes time, effort and discomfort. You seem to be on the right path. Keep up the good work.

[@le_th_]

It may help you to search the terms "porn addiction, covert narcissism".

[@TnBadMan]

Consider seeing a CSAT. Certified Sex Addiction therapist. Or any therapist that works with childhood trauma. What you are doing is great but it is not getting at the core issue. Trust me you core issues can be fixed and your life will be much, much better.

[@WalldoTheWInner]

@@le_th_ In pornhub?

[@freyamoon7032]

Dr. Daniel Hochman' is amazing please bring him back!! so much insight and such a unique perspective

[@MedCircle]

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[@freyamoon7032]

@@MedCircle perfect thank you!

[@elainejude4616]

I feel like im being understood for the first time in 62 years. I've understood the that the way i was raised damaged me but now i have a new understanding of my core beliefs and how they still effect me. Raising my own kids kept me busy enough to avoid my damaging core beliefs. But since they've all grown and not needed their mom anymore I've been really flaying. These talks are really helping me. Thank you!

[@vanessasouthern1792]

Entrenched. It's programming. Time to deconstruct and reprogram the mind 💪 speak to yourself the way you'd talk to someone you love and respect (inner dialogue I mean) Practice every day 😊 START TODAY

[@treefrog0826]

I just want to tell you how much I love your name I think the name Vanessa is just beautiful.

[@vanessasouthern1792]

@@treefrog0826 thanks. That's kind. But I can't revel in the glory of it as it wasn't my decision. Lol. I was given it at birth when I couldn't even control my bowels 😂😂

[@treefrog0826]

@@vanessasouthern1792 Yes I understand but you still have a nice name. And TMI.

[@YanaWanderlust.]

I am a psychologist from Russia and this video was very helpful for me. Thanks to Daniel!

[@PurplePinkRed]

This is very insightful! I've had issues with food from a very young age, and I've tried to get help through an eating disorder specialist and dietician recently, as well as a variety of therapists with limited success. This video gave more information than any of those sessions ever did. I often wondered if there was an addiction element to it, and now I'm sure it does. Although I try to be a positive person generally, I recognise that I'm mentally and physically worn down by my battles with food and the thoughts in my mind. At least I now have some ideas on how to rebuild my mental resilience. The guilt and shame therapy hits a real nerve for me because I was raised around Christians and the Church, and I found religion restrictive and not freeing in the slightest, and rejected it as soon as I left home. I reject any organisation that uses guilt and shame tactics to control people.

[@xBwahx]

7:26 This is a VERY good question that I've been wanting to know the answer to for a long time. Every time I try to express to someone that I suffer from social anxiety, they roll their eyes at me and say "Everyone gets bullied, get over it. I did." or comparing their circumstances in life to mine and saying "If I had it worse than you, why am I not the one with social anxiety?" As if I were trying to use it as an excuse to be afraid of things in my life.

[@donacatanguma]

xBwahx I’m so sorry you’ve had those experiences with others. Basically, they were the bullies for not allowing you to speak. And by saying that they “got over it” sounds like they actually don’t understand what you’re feeling and obviously don’t have much empathy, if any. Please stay strong and just keep on going. I will think of you and send you much Love & Light. Love and success from your friend in NYC ☮️💚💪🏼🌻💚💪🏼☮️

[@genghiskengmail]

With therapy many find that they are struggling to find a good reason to let go of the core belief. Like the doc said there are reasons once you go deep enough.

[@sll110]

I feel very very horrible every day, I grew up with.all evils, they crazy selfish to destroy me and use me, then I left family, continue to with lots if lots of evils around me, my life totally destroyed by those evils, I have nothing left but very very serious trauma.. how can I really recovery???!!!

[@poojachoudhary7696]

Daniel is very smart and intelligent!

[@snomad2248]

Going to school. Going to high school. Having undiagnosed adhd. Being treated like shit.

[@terrylbell6378]

"I CAN GET THROUGH THIS." Never ever give up. 😎✌.

[@vanessasouthern1792]

Thank you 🙏

[@MyRobert626]

I literally rolled my eyes lmaooo im too happy I saw this comment haha as if it was words never heard by human ears lol

[@treefrog0826]

A few months before my Mom died she made the comment "I tried to love you" and then she realized what she had said and kind of got a surprised look on her face like she couldn't believe she said that out loud. I just looked at her and told her "I know mom" I seriously don't think I have ever been loved. I grew up with 2 narcissistic parents where it was both physical and emotionally abusive. When my mom died my whole family turned on me. I hate life I will be glad when its over. Oh and I have to admit I use drugs. Gee I wonder why.

[@robingardella6240]

Good God, what a terrible thing to say to someone!! I’m so sorry. That would disturb anyone. I hope things get better for you. Everyone deserves love and happiness, I hope you can find some way out of this.

[@JenR1215]

this brings a lot of perspective to me

[@MedCircle]

So glad to hear you found it helpful. 💙

[@dimitrinapashova2857]

Greetings from your colleague from Bulgaria! It is with great interest that I watch all the videos on this channel. All the psychiatrists present the information in a very cohesive and comprehensible way so as to be helpful to the youtube watchers! I wish you every success and wish to see more on the subject of OCD and perinatal mental issues.

[@themontrealgirl95]

i want those tools to get out of addiction 😭

[@katrinagrubner4263]

Incredibly insightful - thanks!

[@danielkaiser8971]

I always wondered about why some people are more prone to addictions than others, and I appreciate this discussion which has helped my understanding. And Kyle, I think the shape of your nose is exquisite. Try giving the whole world a chance when you notice that you are having negative thoughts about yourself.

[@CristinaAcosta]

Excellent talk. Thanks!!

[@veronica21319]

Loved this video do more on this topics!’

[@aaronmiller6051]

This was a very insightful discussion. Thank you for this

[@MyRobert626]

am I the only person who feels my addiction to opiates wasn't Fueled and developed out of being sad? I was never abused or bullied it was born from a general obsession with addiction itself like as if I was adopting a new cool hobby boy oh boy did I not know how deep its roots would grow into my life and affects me till this day .. it sounds crazy I wish I had someone to dissect it for me

[@isabelleboulay2651]

Distress doesn't just create craving, there's an actual need to escape pain. Just as if you stub a toe really hard, at the moment of the height of the pain, you only have 1 thing in mind: you want the pain to stop. You don't crave the ice that will relieve the pain, you need the relief it brings. Addiction stems from a lack of connection as well. It's the repetitive reach for momentary relief because there's no other obvious escape or solution. The longer the addiction, the less we see a way out. If you know pain is returning, you'll want to numb it before it can arrive, hence escaping on a regular basis. If there's a person we can connect with in trust to share the reason for the pain and find them as an ally to find another way or solution that will get us out of the cycle; then there's a chance of facing the issue and working it through. Whether it's physical or emotional pain, I don't know anyone who craves relief. They usually need it,whatever is represented as such. If the trusted individual is like them in pain, they become buddies in addiction, such as drinking buddies. If the trusted person is qualified to help, then it's therapy.

[@leeboriack8054]

This talk is an amazing find!

[@donacatanguma]

Gabor Maté also brings a great perspective on addictions of all types.

[@mikew2479]

Could you do a video on Depersonalisation/Derealization? A lot of people suffer from this condition.

[@DianaSRice-iu7yk]

So informative! Thank you for this. I will be utilizing this knowledge in my practice 🙏🏽♥️

[@michellelee1123]

Thank you!

[@chrishess7443]

This explains what I've said about addiction and Americas obscured and flawed understanding of it and how to treat it. But then again most dont wanna look within reflecting resolving accepting and improving which is costly both $$ wise and time compared to transferring one addiction for another or going to avoidance by another distraction

[@genghiskengmail]

Are you talking about the treatment centres? If they're anything like Australia they know it's ineffective. They need people to remain sick so they stay in business.

[@chrishess7443]

@@genghiskengmail not just treatment centers, counseling, N/A - A/A and such, but also American social views & messed up beliefs

[@sll110]

my mom and other relatives tried hard to destroyed me because they are evils and jealous, but I grew up.with them until.19 years old, how can I overcome the evil effects on me ??? God, please save me ,I m living in the hell with evils!

[@tesshoran4545]

My parents always encouraged me and were never mean that I can remember and I never had bullies I just compared myself a whole lot and had perfectionism since the first grade could that have cause these negative core beliefs that I had since I was little?

[@mynewyork165]

29:02 Kyle, your face is covered!

[@Technoidmania]

We should treat smoking addiction with psychotherapy.

[@franceslock1662]

When enough people tell you you’re stupid you need to study and let your results validate you. I always wondered why people get addictions.

[@cjennings6179]

U have NO addiction to anything? What is your CORE BELIEFS?? You must have HAD VERY RESPONSIBLE PARENTS. PERFECT EDUCATION? Well TAUGHT to feel confident at ALL TIMES?? SERIOUSLY?

[@franceslock1662]

@@cjennings6179 No way, how amusing, I enjoy food but I'm a healthy weight, you almost make me feel bad for not having any addictions. I love my job and my study so I'm a happy person. I care for a beautiful 3-year-old foster child. I live near drug addicts and I see how they live. I always wanted to understand how it can happen to people. I've had a dose of heavy-duty pain relief after operations in hospital but never had a single craving. By the way, my parents were very abusive and I've self-sought psychology since my twenties for 30+ years. I credit fantastic psychologists, even for when you don't really think you need it. You take care C Jennings.

[@michelekurlan6489]

The regression is so very sad. Intolerance of our feelings is intolerance of ourselves.

[@FrancesShear]

Frances Bernard here. Isn't it possible after 6 months of not having a good time at work each and every day there while killing sheep at a slaughterhouse or whatever that the belief, "I am not having any good days [here]" -- Is not a core belief? Wouldn't offering help to find an affordable safe place to rent like offering career counselling first be a better idea than looking for excuses to prescribe small amounts of toxic substances that will hurry up the addiction process instead of arresting it?

[@liabw05]

Medication can be a good transitional help. Not everybody can leave their job quickly.

[@jacquelinethereseplunkett221]

Addiction- shame, guilt...

[@cjennings6179]

Oh GRIEF. GRIEF 😟😕😟😟😟😟😟

[@cjennings6179]

We will get through this!" There is better people. Kinder. Considerate of my needs for acceptance as i am. 😄😎😆

[@davidsbranson6202]

THE CHOAK IS ON YOU.

[@Proud3579]

The town guy is crazy, gay and chill lmaoo

[@kristinmeyer489]

MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE, THIS GOES TO PROVE HOW UTTERLY EVIL GANG STALKING IS, INCLUDING EVERY SOULLESS LIAR WHO COVERS THIS CRIMINAL ACTIVITY AND WAR ON SINGLED OUT INDIVIDUALS.

[@le_th_]

The 5 Steps to any addiction (be it substance or process)... 1 Narcissistic Personality Disorder 2 Borderline Personality Disorder (especially binge drinking) 3 Antisocial Personality Disorder (excluding Factor 1 psychopaths who lack the neural capacity of ever becoming addicted) 4 bipolar disorder 5 untreated/ineffectively treated PTSD/C-PTSD (although not everyone with PTSD turns to alcohol/drugs/sex/gambling to numb out) ....and when they go into AA and get "sober" they are still incredibly messed up and just at the very beginning of learning how to become a less narcissistic person and begin to think of someone else besides themselves. I'm not sure they can ever develop genuine empathy for others, but they may be able to develop cognitive empathy.

[@davidsbranson6202]

i suppose you paid pofesser sucme if you want too make big bucks with you little pointer. a wholelotz

[@dalebeaupre7438]

Nice video but AA and Na is a dollar a meet if you want to. And this shit is 100 dollars a month minimum, do you really think addicts are going to have that kind of money. It too bad he is more interested in money than helping people.

[@Susan-ol4ys]

“Bad” feelings?! Poor use of language there, potentially leading to or strengthening unhelpful beliefs about feeling states.