The 6 Lesser Known Signs Of ADHD | Mel Robbins Podcast Clips

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[@Terrib68]

The worst thing about ADHD is being told you don’t care and that you are lazy.

[@amymcintire4135]

Or that you don't believe in excellence and is this starting late on a project a normal work process for you.....this is from my work. Do frustrating

[@letsmakemoney8027]

I lost some friendships over having ADHD because the people told me I was lazy I hope they get it one day so that maybe they will understand what I am going through

[@erinm3567]

So true. I job hopped a lot as a younger person and sabotaged a lot of good jobs etc and a couple of times my Grandma asked me if I thought I was too good to work. That really stung. This was way before I was diagnosed with ADHD.

[@krisbest6405]

Mom called me careless then at 11 left me with a pedo....Up at 8. l waited 4 hours in shopping centre while 2 tyres were fitted, had to sleep 3 hrs to recover.Every task l make harder. Birthday etc same.

[@AHE-pg6ho]

So true!! And having people & even family members thinking ur dumb &/or don't know what ur talking about, when I'm actually pretty fricken smart. Ya know what i mean?

[@DanaHanna1212]

#1- Hyperfocus 🙋🏽‍♀️ #3-Impulsive shopping/behaviors🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️ #4- Time blindness🙋🏽‍♀️ #5- High Functioning🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️ #6- Highly self critical (I’ve overcome this a lot!!)

[@jaytee3baxter]

You are describing me as well.

[@japhethodudu6445]

It seems like am looking at a mirror watching this video

[@KimberlyJose-si2sv]

I was diagnosed with ADHD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with related health challenges.

[@RaymondEMartinez]

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

[@Bastianbishops]

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

[@SusanaGomez-mp8sk]

YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@Edennnn926]

Dude! People like you give me so much hope. I am about 2 years clean now and I feel like mushrooms are turning my life around. I was feeling so lost and nothing has been working for my severe depression up until a couple years ago. but not since I started with the mushrooms for just some few days back then. Kudos to you for being clean that long! So happy to see people like me doing well in the future regardless of what society makes it seem sometimes. For me shrooms are remedy not a vice.

[@smith23652]

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

[@tammybrantley6262]

100% dead on. The hard part is never being comfortable in my own skin.

[@midgepomelow1716]

At 67 I am sobbing my way through this information. Thank you. I have no words but thank you.

[@maybeme94]

Im also 67 and I kno… meds haven’t worked for me so I’m going the nutrition route.

[@shannonflood255]

This is a God send….. finally diagnosed at 46 after being told for years it’s not a thing. So painful to live in this in constant confusion of wtf is wrong with me.

[@babyalikinz]

This is life changing info. I'm 32 years old and have dealt with all of these struggles my entire life. I'm chronically late, even though I TRY and try and try to be on time. Im a chronic procrastinator, I literally can't do something until it's at the very last second so I feel rushed enough to get it done (or get out the door). I live in a constant state of clutter, which obv adds to my frustration and stress and anxiety. I can't have a conversation or pay attention if someone is playing music in the background. I'm always spending money buying more crap and clutter bcs it "feels good" in the moment but when I bring it home I hate myself for buying more crap and spending money I don't always have. I forgot my good friends bday last year (it was 2 weeks after mine) and when it got brought up and I remembered, I saw the look of sadness and disappointment on her face and I HATED myself for being such a bad friend. I've struggled with addiction since high school, have had 2 heart surgeries due to IV drug use (and have 6 years clean from that drug) but the last few years, alcoholism has plagued my life and everything is finally starting to make sense! None of my doctors have EVER even brought up the idea of ADHD, I had never even considered I might have it until watching a KZbin video lately. I've been learning so much and am now on a quest to possibly get diagnosed. I feel like I'm drowning every single day and I'm so grateful to now know there may be a reason for it, that I'm not just a lazy piece of shit person.

[@Ireneta84]

Why am I crying while listening to you say all this? I feel like you are describing me and everything about my life. How to get diagnosed? I am currently sick with depression and treating my childhood trauma with medication and therapy but everything you said is a reflection of my life. I am 39 now and need a change!! Help My son is diagnosed with ASD and ADHD.

[@MsGenXodus]

I was diagnosed at age 51. I assumed that everyone had issues with impulsivity and distraction but they must have had some secret to overcome those issues. I tried everything to focus my mind. My doctor gave me SSRIs in my 30’s thinking that the problem was depression (yes, and…). I became rageful on the meds and felt like it was just a matter of time before I committed violence. I stopped taking SSRIs within the first month because I couldn’t drive without having a meltdown (I certainly couldn’t work!). I started smoking marijuana, instead. It is a miracle I didn’t hurt myself or someone else when I was on SSRIs. Knowing now that the science behind SSRIs was fraudulent, I’m so glad I went against doctors orders 😊

[@namasteawake]

💯 This!!! I was diagnosed at 30. But only recently came to understand the role of dopamine. I resonate with all of this. That inner critic loves nothing more than to sweep kick my self confidence and lay it out flat. And yes, mundane office jobs literally make me die inside. I wish I would’ve understood that I had other strengths that are highly valued and could be successful in a different environment. Instead of spending years feeling like a loser as I tried to put a square peg into a round hole. And failed miserably at jobs that people who were often less intelligent than myself, seemed to completely effortlessly. Ugh. I’m so thankful for all of this new information. ❤️

[@lucimich0224]

Thank you for sharing this information. My son was born in ‘95 we live in central Florida. They did not take ADHD seriously. I tried his whole academic life to get him help. He suffered with all those traits, especially beating himself up and the emotional roller coaster. In 2013 he died by suicide and It is an immeasurable pain I live with. I now try my best to help others going through this. Your wisdom will help others know they are not alone and having ADHD is not a curse and that they can realize the gifts that is given to people who have it. They are compassionate and very smart, they often think outside the box and that’s a very good thing ❤ Thank You I needed to hear this today

[@pamela9662]

Sorry for your loss. ❤

[@alejandrapoch9338]

I’m so sorry for your loss. And thank you for your kind words about ADHD. I have struggled my whole life with ADHD (diagnosed at 25) and it really moves me to hear Mel talk about this and reading your encouraging words.

[@hind6874]

I'm sorry ❤

[@larateixeira8702]

My heart goes to you. I can't imagine the pain of losing your son, I hope life brings you love in diffent ways, all the best❤☀️🌈

[@SJL07]

My daughter was born in ‘93. I went through the same struggles, always trying to get her diagnosed with ADHD to no avail. The drugs, the cutting, the drinking, the depression, on and on…it’s horrible. At the age of 30 she is thriving and had herself diagnosed! My heart aches for the loss of your son. I know how desperately you struggled and tried to help him. I always feared I’d lose my own daughter but somehow she made it through. It’s heartbreaking how many didn’t 😞

[@ivtec4fun55]

This is why I'm so dang tired all the time? Keeping my brain from running away from itself all the time is tough. I have so much potential they always said, and all I wanted to do was have fun though, so then I feel obligated to live up to someone else's potential of me. It's like a master / slave situation, battling my own brain.

[@MichelleWard-fy5ym]

I am self-diagnoised at 57 yrs old. I am an "over achiever" all my life, impulsive shopping, time blind, able to hyper fixate, self critical. and I thought everyone feels this way....also, I now know that my "weird feeling of confusion and stress and slow-motion feelings" are actually disassociations. Wow! I never knew what to call this thing, but I believed it was something that happened to everyone. I have been a clutter gatherer for many years (since high school) and never knew why I had a problem not getting distracted when bringing in the groceries from the car, or walking into the next room and having 10 thoughts before I can finish the task at hand. My mind is always going, and has kept me from sleeping many nights. I just can't shut it off sometimes..I always thought I am just an IDEA PERSON- and I need to be more organized. My daughter has been unsuccessful treated for depression and anxiety. Meds not working, cuz she has ADHD. The docs didn't want to test her because she shows no hyperactivity. Thank you Mel.you have opened my mind to a better possibility for us both.

[@IndigoBellyDance]

As a 48yr old recently Finally diagnosed: My overeating when I have to do Boring ass busy paperwork : I eat simply to keep myself stimulated while I stare at the daily notes I have to do. School is a Disaster for Both the adhd student & the adhd parent: School hates our brains. My current Job I Love the creativity and I too get to be up and moving about. I used to love being a waitress (even tho society looks down upon you) But I loved the rush and thrill of having to laser focus during busy times to me that was a thrill and saying hi to people I Loved it.

[@gareydrummond7254]

All 6 is me, especially #6. This has been my struggle. 😔

[@jenniferresciniti1814]

This is life changing to hear…. I was diagnosed 20 years ago but have not been treated properly by any doctor to date.

[@pennycoleman6178]

I have been doing TM meditation twice daily for 16 years and it has made a huge difference…no medicine for me. Also diagnosed late in life in my late fifties.

[@emma_em_11]

Thank you, Mel. This is GREAT and TRUE! I WISH I found all this out YEARS… DECADES AGO!! It’s amazing how much the symptoms vary from person to person and in intensity! I get more emotional and critical with myself, than others though. I now know why I impulsively bought so many DVD films in my 20’s lol! I LOVED them though! I hyper-focused on studying subjects I enjoyed in education to the point I wouldn’t even go to the toilet or sometimes eat, unless prompted!! I achieved top grades, so nobody would even have known, even myself! Oh, my! I relate to clutter. I HATE clutter around me, but I HATE tidying too!! When I have visitors coming, I can do a WEEKS WORTH of housework in ONE DAY! 😂 It’s a GOOD JOB that we have a GREAT SENSE of HUMOUR! 😂

[@erincranston1924]

I have all 6. Thank you for sharing. I have hope for my future, and it's nice to know I'm not crazy! I have been in trouble my whole life for something I could not help. I always figured it was character flaws, now I know it's ADHD

[@LauraTryUK]

I literally said “oh my goodness” at all of these points. Aged 41, how have I only just realised???

[@lanascottlighthouse4934]

I found out when my first daughter was diagnosed..... I set out to learn as much as I could but that Was years ago.. so much more has been discovered!!.....

[@mistydavis1109]

The birthday reminder system she shared is exactly what i implemented a few years back! If I don't remind myself a week or two in advance I won't remember to prepare!

[@annemariebarrow6406]

Mel, I’ve followed you for years and everything you say resonates with me and makes me feel understood, connected and supported. When I try to explain ADHD/ADD to my family members and friends, they listen briefly, but then seem to quickly forget and treat me like I’m neurotypical. It’s frustrating and maybe you can make a video about ideas or techniques to help develop a truly informed and engaged support team. Thanks, Mel, love ya!

[@Alan_Duval]

First, it's nor-EP-ih-neff-rin :D Yeah, I've got all six. The impulse control/dopamine rush/over-spending thing is devastating. I'm 50 and have little-to-no pension saved. Having now got the diagnosis (two years ago), at least I know what I'm fighting against, and now I'm taking on tools to reduce spending and increase saving, but this is probably still the biggest source of my self-criticism. Especially when I think about the fact that I'm gonna have to work until I'm 75 to have any quality of life in retirement at all. On the fifth point, regarding being high-functioning, depending upon what you mean, my understanding is that people with ADHD are not more high-functioning than the average; if anything, we are slightly behind. I think that the reason that it may seem that people with ADHD are high-functioning is two-fold: First, clinically, a lot of highly intelligent people with ADHD have been able to develop coping mechanisms that make up for the ADHD. However, these coping mechanisms are, in the long run, maladaptive, so there is now a glut of high-functioning ADHDers getting diagnosed alongside the less high-functioning ADHDers who were diagnosed ages ago (or have died of their addictions as undiagnosed ADHDers). At some point, the underlying ADHD gets diagnosed. It was attending university as an adult student that ultimately led to my diagnosis (but as a consequence of seeking help for depression, which people with ADHD are 4-5 times more likely to suffer). I was a gifted kid at school, but because I'm inattentive (not hyperactive or mixed), because I could ace all of my exams, and because I wasn't disruptive, my inattentiveness was never seen as an issue. Second, socially, I think a lot of people who are highly intelligent can seem ADHD-like, hyperfocusing on certain things, agitated excitation about their preferred topics etc., etc. These people may also seem "a bit OCD" or "on the spectrum" to neurotypical people (I'm including high intelligence as a neuro-divergence, given that, in one sense of the term, that's accurate) because neurotypicals don't know the lived experience of ADHD/OCD/ASD, so often think that being over-hyped on caffeine/fastidious about some particular thing/feeling overstimulated once in a while is the same thing, so when they see something like that, but more so, in someone else, they pathologize it.

[@bethb5915]

And people with ADHD often have comorbid sleep disorders. So it makes sense that I have delayed sleep phase syndrome, a circadian rhythm disorder.

[@jennifervawter7737]

I’m 46 and my chest hurts right now with anxiety because I just realized this is me ! I was misdiagnosed with anxiety/depression 😫. I thought it was just me or “ how I am” 😢

[@user-ex3mx7hk4l]

💕

[@maybeme94]

I’m 67…been there done that! You do have anxiety and depression…but they are happening as a result of the deficits from adhd. At least, that’s my understanding and it’s what has made sense in my life. My frustration is that made haven’t worked for me. Now Im exploring a nutritional component…I keep on trying to manage and heal. So grateful for Mel’s ability to explain this complicated and frustrating diagnosis. The emotional component makes it even more frustrating because they aren’t controllable, it’s about being reactive. Anyway, we keep keeping on and stay open to new info. Especially when it comes to WOMEN WITH ADHD… THANKS MEL FOR THE DEEP DIVE HERE. Mel, there’s a female medical doctor/ researcher who connects nutrition to all of this…Dr. Georgia Eades. There’s another, a male, who has also made a nutritional connection. As far as nutrition, some of us are more sensitive to foods…but these doctors are uncovering very interesting information and their discoveries are worth exploring. But, to each his own. All the best to those suffering and searching for answers. Be open to new information…the status quo isn’t going to give us answers. 🕊

[@jgirl345]

Wow this episode was so helpful for me to understand my son, hes 24yrs old and has had ADHD his whole life and was seen and treated my a DR and medicated and did ok and got through his childhood with alot of behavioral issues and alternate school substitutes because he could not function in a traditional school setting but now that hes an adult i dont know why I expected him to be an adult but I did, he over spends his money, cant keep a structured 9 to 5 job, loses important documents and his wallet constantly and I get so frustrated with him but this helped me understand what hes experiencing and that his brain doesn't function that way, can u do an episode on unconventional ways for him to be successful and hold a job, or jobs that better suite people with ADHD, things like that... thank u in advance

[@dubaiedge]

Diag. at 49. I was always told it was anxiety & depression. By college, I got so scattered taking 5 or 6 courses at once I thought I was gonna lose my mind. I knew there was something 'wrong' but knew it couldn't be ADHD, when that diagnosis came around decades later, bc I hyperfocus. I mean I can HYPERFOCUS. Started hearing comments from friends I must have ADHD. I blew it off. In grad school, friend slipped me an Adderall. It was like a curtain came down & everything got quiet. I was right in the moment with whatever I was doing. It was at night I took it, & I decided to stay up as long as this feeling lasted. Just a few hrs. Ah well. Went to student health about testing but the woman said I couldn't possibly have it bc I was sitting still 🙄, not moving around, tapping. YES, bc it's a DOCTOR'S OFFICE, & I'M TRYING TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION, not come across like a Nervous Nellie. Ling story short, got denied again by another shrink, but 3rd was the charm. Anyway, new subscriber, & I didn't know my BAT EARS were ADHD. I don't have time blindness (beat up by parents if we were late left a big mark on me) or overspending (I wish I had the $ to overspend 😅), but yes to everything else. Relentless critical voice each second of the day drives me *nuts.* 10mg IR Dextro. Thanks for your videos!

[@amygoldman7014]

My son has severe ADD since childhood. We seeked professional help and my son showed a tremendous improvement with medication, however, he refused to take any med or receive any therapy. My son is almost 21 yrs old now and is open to treatment for ADD because he sees how much of an impact it has had on his life (and mine, as I have ADD as well).

[@dlmills31977]

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 16, but I always heard it was just a label slapped on kids who were just hyper and wanted to drug kids. Now I am almost 47 and have been mostly unregulated. Looking back, the times in my life that I was doing better I had a daily planner and cell phone alarms.

[@brendamaricel]

I'm 37 and I totally relate to everything you said here (and on the longer podcast). I've tried being diagnosed yesterday, but when I described to the therapist my situation and the reason why I think that my kids and I can have ADHD, she only said that my problem is depression and anxiety, and that I need to try having a routine to make them more organized, just by talking to her for less that 30 minutes... It wasn't easy for me to look for help, and it's demoralising being told "you're just lazy and disorganized" by every person I talk to about this... (Therapists, friends, family, etc.)

[@alejandrapoch9338]

I’m sorry you had to go through that invalidation from your therapist. Is that therapist an Adhd specialist? If I may, I would advice you to get an in ADHD specialized psychiatrist. I hope you get to one soon. It can make alle the difference

[@brendamaricel]

@@alejandrapoch9338 the person that recommended her to me said she was a specialist, but I'm not sure. Today I started investigaing ADHD specialists in my area, because I've realized that not every therapist is able to evaluate.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Brenda, I totally understand what you’re saying. This happened to me too. Depression and anxiety, meds that didn’t help Drs that missed the diagnoses. Beating my self up wondering why you can’t do what others do, feeling out of step , yet knowing your intelligent, we just go about life in a different way, we have to work harder than most people to keep on top. It’s tiring very tiring. I was finally diagnosed by a psychiatrist who specialises in ADHD. I’m trying meds, I haven’t found one that suits so far, my next step is to find an ADHD couch. Good luck, with finding your diagnoses. 😉

[@brendamaricel]

@@wendyhannan2454 thanks for sharing 🫶🏻 I hope you find what suits you and helps you to achieve your goals in life.

[@user-bw7ww5ft7e]

Yes. I can relate......I am finally able to love myself completely

[@floridanativelh568]

Oh please please please bring dr. Ned Halliwell on. I am not sure if I spelled his name correctly but there’s only one…. It would be fantastic. ❤🎉

[@BlancaEstella4837]

I think we really dont talk enough aboit Taking décisions, like big décisions when we have ADHD... Thé paralysis that it can give, For me i sometimes couldn't chose between this thing that is already there, and will be safe even for my abilities, And things more ambitius and that i want more but are not yet there and i'm really not sûre if i'll get to it especially with my abilities... I have already missed opportunities because i though i was going to fail or suffer like hell if i choose this path, Because u'r not living ur life at it's full potential, because u know so many failures, the séparation between what u really want and what u get before u is very big... And it can make the process of Taking à décision really depressing

[@fitnesson-callnaples9960]

Mel to Mel you hit it out of the park AGAIN! Thank you for your help to not only enlighten me but to educate my mother, father, friends as to my behavior! Funny thing is once I quit drinking wine 8 .5?years ago the behaviors became much worse! I never was late Ibwas the punctual one! Spending is much better now. But the self demoralizing is aweful! My daughter at 36 moved to Naples and moved in with me from a man who is an active alcoholic, a narcissist with too many affairs it blows our minds and she too was diagnosed too late. ( In her late twenties.) My son on the other hand was diagnosed at a young age and doesn’t have this anymore! Oh God could I relate to the clutter! Amen sister! 🎉❤😂

[@teresah4972]

At 62, I can relate to what you have said, Mel. I’ve always known I’ve had ADHD, and today, I see ALL the affirmations of it. The funny thing is, I appreciate this in myself!

[@flightrisk6176]

This hit home oh my goodness🙏😊

[@dawnwebbmusic4837]

Thank you for explaining this topic in which now I can understand clearly. My son was diagnosed early and now that he’s an adult, he doesn’t take his meds like he did when he was younger. I’ve shared this message with him…thank you ❤

[@KCbaybee333]

Yes this is all so accurate

[@RhiannonKagoe]

this makes me feel seen, thank you Mel

[@denisegilkeson695]

You are spot on!!! Thank you 🙏

[@AngelaAlcornTinyHouseAmerica]

Thank you for saying "you still do this"! ... I was diagnosed at 32 (52 now)... I'm on medication and I still do the same shit... However, medicine keeps away the anxiety of it all. I've been a dental hygienist for 31 years and I'm successful at it because I'm on a regimented schedule... Best career I ever could've chosen.

[@amymcintire4135]

I struggle with a lot of these, esp at work. I have been overthinking and overcompensating covering it all up. Thank you for being honest and raw with this ❤️

[@torrihigh]

Spot on

[@annemariebarrow6406]

Thanks for nourishing my soul today!!! ❤

[@InGodImoveandbreath]

Thank you Mel,🙏 i am so thankful ❤

[@KimberleyMatthias]

Im serious so excited about this topic and cant wait for the podcasts you mentioned

[@jeangubar2132]

This hits home for me! Thank you for your insight to this disorder.

[@Abril-1234]

Mellllll this is me all of it

[@judyb99]

This is an Awesome episode, that just got lucky to find! It has helped me so much to understand myself. I am going to watch this again, subscribe, and share. Thank you, Mel, with all of my heart.

[@pamela-thehealingartist]

Great video, I am not diagnosed, however my son is, my family all has these traits and we very much life an "adhd life". Honoring how we feel and basing it on that. I also could NEVER work in a factory or a large massive office, nope! With school, I couldn't hold my focus for long, and yet graduated from college with honors and on the deans list, I slightly shocked myself, yet it was anxiety driven in very big ways.

[@nikkit_connectingthedots]

Thank you Mel this is honestly so helpful for me you’ve changed my views on myself I’m going to listen to this multiple times and do more research for myself 🙏🏽✨ thank you

[@1daughter1son]

Gosh I'm so grateful for these videos! You help me so much! (I'm diagnosed at age 49)

[@denisegilkeson695]

I still continuously beat myself up! I hate myself 😢😢😢

[@marthavanderpool6829]

Sending you love and sympathy.

[@user-qm5jo7hs8g]

I was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year and I can relate to SOOOOO much of what you talk about here. It's so helpful to see and hear from a highly successful woman that has similar symptoms / issues. Thanks so much for sharing :)

[@tiffanybarsotti873]

great infromation, thank you - so helpful and I appreciate the vulnerability! You mentioned that there would be a plethora of information in the show notes and links for some self tests, but I am not seeing those details here, is there another place to find those?

[@Kay-nh5zv]

Thank You so much for this podcast. All of these traits are evident in my life. Thank You for being real. I am in therapy. I have found meditation, tapping mindfulness of being in the present moment has made a big difference for me personally. Stillness helps a lot as well.

[@heatherhanson7245]

I'm 49, and just learning. Thank you!!

[@daathdorothiel]

Thank you! I'm waiting for my diagnosis for almost 3 years now (yes it's so hard here) . Being a functional orphan of a dysfunctional family I am working on my CPTSD in the same time in a holistic way. As a medical student (yes I've started BSc in Nursing with 42 for having the affinity since I was 3-4) I did all the tests and diagnostic criteria found and read a couple of studies and some books in the topic... And it made my brain happier than ever, together with the extra comorbidity option of having autism (here's still Asperger's) as well. The thing just changed my life and of course I have tried Adderall already 20 years ago when I did my first BA degree. Unfortunately in my country only Ritalin is available and Adderall is forbidden in the whole EU as I know. This is a ridiculous fact but we have a lot more (I am Hungarian lol, but it's better not to mention it these days). I'm just grateful for finding your channel and being able to share my experience of life with those who need to know that. Even most of the old school MDs and Psychiatrists are denying here ADHD and I have a calling to spread the word... Our nation is very deeply traumatized and we have the most of Alcoholics so that already explains a lot.

[@simonpollitt8269]

Hi Mel - This is the podcast that I’m sending to people for them to understand about me better with this very new diagnosis. At 61! Fifty something years of this experience without understanding what was wrong with me. Thank you so much!

[@flightrisk6176]

I am so scattered. I stopped taking medication years ago during covid. May need to get back to that

[@moon-waterlatte6709]

My teens got diagnosed last year....as well, myself! 48 years. Changed all three of our lives taking Vyvanse and therapy to navigate through executive function. Thanks for sharing Mel❤️

[@jasonmilocco2927]

great video

[@angelarutherford1840]

This is important and when I talk to my grown son about how very different life would have been if I’d gotten treatment sooner I urge him to never let stigma stop him from getting the help he needs. And I realize I’m saying life would have been better for him, too. Not because of his treatment, but because of mine. When our lives are improved, our families lives are improved.

[@INFAMOUSTRUTHTELLER411]

I have discovered that using a text to speech app and/or a narrating app documents to have a web page read to me cuz when I hear it being spoken to me I retain the information I don't retain the information if I read it myself I I forget maybe what was in the middle of beginning but when you have the narrative for the text-to-speech you can copy and paste it and it will read it to you and then that has changed a big part of my routine that's not routine but hope to get there someday..

[@maryann340]

Someone telling me to try harder. When I am literally trying the best that I can.

[@signelarsen5853]

Thank you

[@aema5124]

A million thanks!!!

[@danieldagama539]

Hi Mel Robbins, I am new to your channel. I am in the process of watching this video. I have had ADHD since childhood and certainly been diagnosed with Autism. Do you have any videos on family dynamics? My family struggle to understand me and often get frustrated and angry. All the signs you suggested in this video I have all of them. Thanks Mel

[@deangoodwin3663]

I’m working with my doctor and did ADD screen. I have a lot of symptoms you mention.

[@kelseybolfing]

100% me. I’m really hoping that when I talk to the doctor they don’t dismiss me bc that’s all that’s ever happened to me about any health related issue. 😢

[@user-xl2lu3yf7o]

Mel I have all the things you are talking about how did you get diagnosed

[@jaspas0]

Just been diagnosed with- I’m nearly 70! I’m starting on ritolin tomorrow.

[@sisterluck5449]

Six months late but thank you. My doctors dismiss me when I bring this up. “They’re symptoms of your depression” ok, well I’ve been on a new medication for over a year and my depression has resolved. So why do the inattentive symptoms remain?! Nobody will hear me, it seems. Thank you. This made me cry.

[@JessieArmy]

You described my boyfriend to a T! He was diagnosed with ADD as a child and has been in therapy for a couple of years.

[@bonniebeck4068]

Me too ..but being late I’m never late but I’m a horrible compulsive shopper..I have to buy and buy

[@mamamememoo]

I lost my best friend 5y ago because she hated how I had issues with my time management and how I couldn’t keep my home neat (I dunno how that’s a problem tbh since my home is my home, not hers). I didn’t know I had ADHD until the last 2y. Everything makes sense now.

[@maybeme94]

I’m 67, have had a ton of therapy and have been doing my own research on women w adhd. Because I also have the diagnosis. I can offer this to you about this woman who used to be your best friend. When people judge it is truly a reflection about them. Her judging you brought out her insecurities and her self doubts. And evidently, most likely it was too painful. Her insecurities were reflected by what she saw in you. So you were a teacher to her. The reasons you were friends are probably the “other side of the coin” from why she stopped the friendship. Maybe your initial bond was because “it”, your similarities, were so comfortable. And eventually she saw them as negative because of how her life was going. Maybe…I’m just offering… Now you are free of her judgement. One person…let go of the pain, but hold onto insight and perspective! And try to delight in your unique way of seeing the world! I’m telling you because still at my age, I need to remind myself. ✨✨✨

[@amytarbel4254]

Bingo...checked every box

[@yerallnobeds]

I've had hundreds of hobbies and I hyperfocus on them then they get taxing and the air just vanishes like a balloon. Jack of all trades master of none.

[@aimangelsinthemidst3010]

Wow. Mirror!

[@nitakh77]

I am 46(will be 47 in a couple weeks), and just a few days ago, I was told I have ADHD/the symptoms of ADHD. Thank you for making this video and for talking about this! Will you consider having an expert on your KZbin channel who discusses the difference between having the symptoms of ADHD because of other issues and actually having been diagnosed with ADHD?

[@Alyshajhawkins]

Mel, I am curious about adhd overlapping with survival mode or (childhood) trauma. Do you have a video on this topic?

[@johnmay256]

Thanks Mel 😊 I’m 48 and have my first ever ADHD assessment next week (after pleading with my doctor to refer me and then a long wait list. I’m in the UK). Years of struggling in life and not knowing exactly why, I stumbled upon the symptoms of ADHD, and your videos along the way, and it all seemed to fit. Next week we’ll find out. I’m nervous and equally excited about this assessment. Hoping for some answers, one way or another 🤞🏻

[@stacyjaye6350]

Just don't let them drug you. What I found out is, we go to therapists, they refer us to psychiatrists, and then here come the drugs. Side effects of psychiatric drugs, especially when used long-term, can be devastating. Good luck! Sending you strength, courage, and hugs, from Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA.💪⚔️🫂☮️😘

[@scottdavidson4132]

I'm in the UK too John - How did you convince your GP to refer you for assessment? I've had issues since primary school and continue to have issues at 50 years old

[@johnmay256]

@@scottdavidson4132 Hi Scott, I did reply last week but checking this again today it's not showing up. So, with advice from my Talking Therapies therapist I went through Psychiatry UK using their "NHS Right to Choose" template letter. You can find all the info if you Google "psychiatry uk right to choose" and it should be the first link. Best of luck :-)

[@johnmay256]

​@@scottdavidson4132 Hi Scott, I did reply last week but checking this again today it's not showing up. With advice from my Talking Therapies therapist I went through Psychiatry UK using their "NHS Right to Choose" template letter. You can find all the info if you Google "psychiatry uk right to choose". It should be the first link that shows up. Best of luck.

[@GoADHDGo]

My ADHD = Hard to focus on just one thing OR hyper focusing on just ONE thing.

[@louiseb4171]

I have adhd, and all of those ding dings. You didn't mention rejection sensitivity though. As for birthdays, my family understands!

[@ninmaxwell3848]

i have adult ADHD...but I have no issue with shopping--Im pretty money conscious and dont shop very often. BUT coffee makes me tired- Ive been told thats cuz if the ADHD

[@Amy-dx9vj]

thank you Mel! Oh my goodness! I didn't realize that ADHD had such a effect. does chocolate cause dopamine release?

[@chriso6278]

We are all who we are. But now we can give it an name.

[@KayYarbrough]

I really appreciate the info on ADHD my grandson has it, and I know it is a habit hard to break but on KZbin it would be nice to not use cursive language.

[@joellehoareau9958]

OMW yes I loved waitressing! I occasionally forgot stuff, but at least the people in front of you were a reminder. I only found out about my ADHD two years ago, and all this information makes so much sense 🙌

[@missiris1234]

I definitely have adult ADHD. I was on Strattera for many years but it didn’t help. Also highly critical of myself and can only focus on certain things. Thankfully my two adult children don’t seem to have it. Daughter is very focused and son is a bit ocd.

[@aema5124]

Agree, Strattera and several others have not worked for me!! I hated that. 😢😢😢

[@tirarosaurioreads]

Thank you for this, this is amazing. I just got diagnosed now at age 42 and it's such an eye opener. It's taken a lot of guilt off my chest but as I'm breaking the news to my loved ones, I am struggling with some of them saying stuff like "ok, so NOW, everything wrong with you is due to ADHD?" in a sort of critical voice, as if ADHD is an excuse? :( Is there any advice I can follow to make them understand that this is somthing that is indeed been the reason behind a lot of my personal problems? Other than try to educate them :_

[@hind6874]

The voice inside my head.. I call it the demon inside my head.. But why we can be also diagnosed as bipolar disorder or even hypersensitivity problem when we have ADHD symptoms

[@Nitrogenb]

I don't see any links/resources she was talking about (specifically the self-assessment.). Can anyone point me to them? Thanks.

[@juliekrol]

Pretty sure I’ve had this for a while but depression has also become so bad that I just don’t care to really do anything and I’m trying different supplements and antidepressants to give me that kick in my butt, and I can’t get it

[@user-zs3cm7qp9n]

I can't declutter. I have bits 😂 for art for building for repairs!. And a husband, they do it even without ADHD. Although we are all different. I'm ok with time, ok with sleep. I had very good parents who helped me work out strategies for problems I had, before I grew up and found it was ADHD. But yes I beat myself up soooooo much, became extra good bait for narcs and abusive partners. A diagnosis is NOT a label! without it, I'd have been a label, and I prefer ADHD than idiot.

[@valerieandersen1944]

How do you get diagnosed / what type of dr do you see to get diagnosed?

[@joanb9237]

A specialized psychologist or educational diagnostician can do the diagnosis. 2-3 hours of tests, questionnaires etc. things like working memory scores etc factor in. Could cost several hundred dollars though

[@JB-Hae]

So o am 64 and I had severe childhood trauma as my father drank alot and there was violence and yelling. So I was and am a doer cleaning cooking but never have any time for myself. been a great mom. Single mom most of the time as my husband had drug alcohol issues. So I guess I relived my childhood. I have been offered adderall but I am afraid to use it. I think it’ll make me feel speedy. What are your thoughts. Thk u soo soo much.

[@JB-Hae]

Single

[@TheSnerggly]

I also advise getting a genetic test. I did and discovered that I have a genetic variant for it.

[@AHE-pg6ho]

My ex of 13yrs (a total narcissist & gaslighter, oh yeah & a Sagittarius, lol.) He used 2 ALWAYS put me down daily. He'd say things like; "Theres something wrong with u in ur head" "Theres something not right with you in ur head, ur NOT normal , u need 2 go see a doctor & get put on meds" "You do EVERYTHING assbackwards" "Being with u is like i'm raising another child" "WTF is wrong with you?" "Being with u is like a 13year apprentice ship program" "Mannnn, u need 2 lay iff the weed" "U cant do anything right" "Mannn, u talk in broken sentences, listening 2 u is like breaking the divinchi code" "Pull ur head out if ur ass" And other things like that on a daily basis & it really sucked bad. I thought he was just being an asshole but a co-worker one day said "why do u do that like that?" She said i make things harder 4 myself cuz i do things "backwards" .....i thot, omg, Tony's RIGHT! (my ex) i DO do everything assbackwards! And here i am, (Tony free -16yrs) & STILLLLL doing shit assbackwards & making stuff harder on myself. I just wanna be "fixed" Anyone else know what i mean? And, if so..... Can i ever be "fixed" or am i just stuck the way i am 4ever? Cuz, it can be exausting being me sometimes & i KNOW i can easily irratate some people (especially my griwn children) but that happens, they can get away from me, ya know? But, i CAN'T. Im stuck with my own ass & sonetimes that sucks, lol, cuz i could use a break once & awhile too. Ya know? Lol. Someone/anyone tell me im N🚫 T alone here.