The biggest barrier to happiness + success 🫠

[@PickUpLimes]

📲 Pssst, our Pick Up Limes app is out now (1-week free trial!): bit.ly/PUL_app 🎉 … now it’s your turn! What’s a goal you’ve had. What fear or belief is holding you back? Rewrite the narrative in a more empowering way 💪 🥅 Goal: (e.g. *I want to start exercising*) ⛔ Unconscious saboteur: (e.g. *I fear looking weak*) 👉 Conscious mind: (e.g. *I’m capable of change, and the results will come in time*)

[@graceam4397]

Goal : I want better grades Unconscious: well you can’t because you have already done what you can Conscious: There is always room for improvement and you can achieve your goals

[@FrootKat]

Goal: I want to have deeper, meaningful friendships Unconscious saboteur: I fear rejection, and I fear the risk of revealing my flaws while connecting with another person. Conscious: I know how good it makes me feel when another shares both their strengths and weaknesses with me. I want to be able to reciprocate that. I may feel a bit raw as I open myself more, but my growth will be just absolutely exponential. Imagine how good it will feel to feel safer around others. Darn, thanks for this video Sadia 🥲

[@karanranaofficial]

🚀Goal: Grow my own KZbin Channel from 1k subs to 10k subs in 2023. 😱Fear: Consistency & Speed might be slow. 😊Conscious Mind: I will just focus on publishing 1 long video each week and 1 Short each day and try to add impact to people's lives. Numbers will trickle as a by-product.

[@infinitum-repertorium]

Goal: I will maintain contact with all my friends without excuses and shyness. Unconscious saboteur: It's tough and I'm an introvert. Conscious mind: I have great friends and I just need to do everything in my control.

[@permieforlife]

Self-sabotage is also and unconscious way to be in control of an event and the outcome

[@meganconnell3300]

I've suffered from clinical anxiety and depression for most of my life. One day while doing yard work I saw a tree ensnared in vines suffocating it. I realized that was me, my own growth as a person was stunted by this vine of mental illness. I realized that my depression and anxiety are not who I am and I can chop down those creeping vines when I make the conscious decision to acknowledge how I feel and choose to not let them sabotage me and my growth as a person. Thanks for making the content the world really needs! ❤

[@PickUpLimes]

Wow, Megan - it's inspiring to hear how you were able to find a metaphor in nature that helped you see your own struggle in a new light. Thank you for sharing, your journey is truly admirable 💕

[@lilliantkach2294]

Anxiety can get bad with a lot of caffeine consumption as caffeine targets your central nervous system and also it has to do with hormones and ect. Eating and avoiding foods that make those symptoms go away helps. Also getting a test done by a doctor to see if your are deficient in something will also help and you can heal. Also a plant based diet isn’t for everyone some of us need those fats and certain food from animal products to help out. When I was on a plant based or paleo diet, I would get irritable and annoyed more often and I got a test done by a doc it had to do with HDL levels and LDL my HDL level was too low I thought I was going crazy at times when in reality my body just needed those healthy fats. Olive oil, avocado oil and nuts don’t always help.

[@alisasabo]

Thank you for sharing❤

[@Morggg6]

Thank you so much for sharing that 💜 it brought tears to my eyes because I've been feeling that same way.

[@blahblahwhynot]

What happened with the tree?

[@Tharushi1.0.1]

Sadia hits me with so many wise truths in such a gentle way I can actually comprehend!!

[@mikeskylark1594]

Yeah. Because in a women's channel...

[@kuslanimunasinge688]

You hit the nail on the head!

[@Bydaisysandiego]

Our own self high expectations make us feel like we failed before we have even started. "Focus on progress not perfection" Thank you Sadia for this

[@SelfCompassion123]

"We create obstacles to justify our poor performance or lack of effort"... you just summarized my life in one sentence.

[@priscillajimenez27]

How have you been since seeing this video last year? 😊

[@SelfCompassion123]

@@priscillajimenez27 Hey Priscilla, didn't even remember that I wrote this comment last year :D ! Thanks for asking; well I think I'm gradually learning to start tasks that scare me with tiny baby steps, while being self-compassionate and fair to myself-meaning not immediately comparing myself to people who come from different circumstances and are at a completely different stage. This is how I'm gradually managing to get into the process instead of procrastinating, even though it doesn’t always help yet... But well, life is a journey :) Hope you're doing well and thanks for your comment.

[@colourrain1221]

This is such timely advice. I have been putting off job applications for a long while now because I keep assuming I will be rejected before ever even applying. And I think this stems from a degree of imposter syndrome. I also have so many personal project ideas I’ve been sitting on for years which I’m too afraid/lazy to start. This video is an excellent reminder for me to capitalise on those waves of inspiration and just go for it. Thank you Sadia!!

[@emilystarck3196]

Hey! I struggle with a similar situation right now. I finished my studies and now I want to get a job but I avoid to apply for it because first I don't know what I want to do and second I'm scared they will reject me and that I'm not good enough.

[@jessicatou88]

I feel you on this I’m so much in the same situation. I’ve been mad procrastinating on applying for new opportunities

[@Designotherwise]

I’m in the same situation right now - not applying so that my abilities to do things are not challenged, I’m afraid that I won’t perform as well as I thought I could. The thing is that exactly does what Saida spoke about, it’s comfortable not to have your skills challenged I think I need to focus on improving and working with what I already have to offer to build on it and grow

[@lmo4879]

I used to be afraid of rejection at job interviews too. What helped me to move on was to remember that it is an *inter*view - that is to say, the conversation is (or at least should be!) a two-way street. It's your chance to find out whether the job would be good for you, as well as for the employer to find out whether you'd be good for the job. I noticed I began getting better responses when I brought that energy into the interview room. The other thing is to apply for loads of stuff so that you don't bring too much pressure on yourself about any one interview. I found it helpful to view the process as meeting new people and exploring new opportunities rather than some sort of judgement process to be suffered. Good luck with finding a great role! :)

[@patislittlenest]

Oh, it sounds exactly likey own story. I am right now in the same situation. Thanks for sharing. I hope you find the energy and braveness to do the first step. Just do the first step for as long as you drink your first cup of tea or coffee in the morning. It's something I promise to myself to do, too.

[@Giang_ng_2023]

Can you please make a podcast channel?? Your voice is soooo soothing to listen to. I love episodes like these ❤ Thank you!

[@priyarachel]

I use the 2 minute rule from James Clear's book when I don't feel like doing something I know I should. He says that doing something for just two minutes every day is vital to forming a habit.

[@georgiafaryon6097]

Sadia, I have been using your clips in my classroom in Vancouver for the last two years, and you have made a difference in my student's lives. Thank you for being such an amazing role model. BTW - we love seeing images of our hometown in your videos!

[@danijigi]

Wow , I would have liked it very much when I was at school or at any time in my academic formation to had a teacher who is so conscientious and who is not limited only to what is established but also looks for another sources of infomation to improve and motivate the students, good for you!

[@Taraclellandjones]

Sadie, thank you. I have made a career out of self sabotage. I ballooned up to 500+pounds just by thinking I am not worthy. 6 years of this prison. I am on the road to a beautiful painless life 100 pounds down. Just by being accountable and positive. Thank you for bringing this to light and reminded me I can still do this….it is hard as Hell. ❤️

[@Pinupred21]

Hey Sadia, thank you for this video. I had a crippling fear of driving. At 30 I finally learned how to drive, got my license and bought a car. It’s made my life so much easier. It took so many years to change “I can’t” to “I am capable”. My life has dramatically improved because of this. Love your videos ❤

[@nirau]

I'm happy to hear that, thanks for sharing. Had difficult experience learning how to drive, but I will do it in the future because it's a great skill to have.

[@VanessaEllyanne]

''Don't waste time doubting yourself. Just go for it!'' Love this!

[@justsaydiana-1232]

The quote: "I'm going to focus on progress, not perfection" hit me deep. I've always been an anxious person. Scared of what the future brings. Thought I wasn't good enough or never will be good enough. That has stopped me from doing so many things. This year I promised myself to at least try it. And if I fail it's still progress. Maybe I wasn't perfect but I still tried and that's what makes me feel better. Thank you Sadia and the Pick up Limes Team for this inspiring video :) I would love to see more of those ;)

[@gauraiyah]

:)

[@amandah9441]

The overthinking it part hit me. I overthink everything and maybe I just need to start and don’t worry about it being perfect, just the progress is enough

[@m.dinfinix2043]

Omg am the same.. have you started?!

[@mob-fr1jl]

Didn't realize how much I needed this today! Thanks (as always) for the break to take a breath, slow down, and reflect. Time to get out of my way!

[@tonifragale3014]

Thanks for a different perspective on self sabotage. Much appreciated.

[@edamouavang]

I needed this message today. I’ve been overthinking all night and sobbed all night. I couldn’t function at work. I came home early to take a long nap and ate. I watched this video and now have a different perspective on my situation. Thank you.

[@snoy98307]

Thank you for sharing this . I just lost my job and going through similar situation. Really appreciate your comment. All the best ❤

[@tanishsingh7276]

You feel like a breath of fresh air in a chaotic world, you’re a gift to this world, thank you for existing. ❤️

[@emmarumsby]

i so needed this video today. i've been putting off my uni assignment, i've convinced myself i can't do it, even thought i've been doing them for 6 years now lol. only because my last one i didn't get the score i wanted, i kind of feel i've given up, i'm really cruel with myself. i've been saying thing to myself like "i'm clearly not as smart as i thought i was" " i bet everyone else is doing well, apart from me because i'm useless" "ill never amount to anything, because i'm simply not good enough" my brain is driving me crazy with this nasty self talk, but i don't know how to stop it. noone has ever believed in me either, so i don't really have or had supportive people around me. one of the reasons i love your videos, you inspire me to do better.

[@archanashakya08]

You are the calm in the chaos. Thank you 🙏

[@shumilamalik4050]

This video is like therapy. ❤

[@shravanim6163]

Sadia, I really want you to make a tea time Tuesday video on Handling Criticism from yourself & those around you.

[@gabrielazeanadal5749]

Gràcies!

[@NadiaBananaa]

One of the things I noticed about myself after also going through a fitness/workout break and easing back into it, is that when I see my progress infront of me (seeing how many times I worked out per week) I feel more motivated and empowered to do more vs not seeing my progress. I’ve had moments where I forget I worked out three times a week till I see that I did and I suddenly feel like I got this 💪🏽 Track your progress friends! And reflect more often on it.

[@vlogwithshrin]

The self doubt comes up in mind so many times and procrastinate the dream. This was super helpful.

[@mabeld7493]

Your timing on this video was pure kismet in my life. Can’t even begin to explain. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

[@prithamajumdar6732]

I have become way too lazy lately. I have become very very comfortable in where I am, inspite of knowing this isn't the place I want to be in anymore. I am always doubting myself that I will not be able to do it, and have almost stopped making any efforts with the narrative of being incapable or burnt out. The truth is, I have stopped trying. I have been self sabotaging my growth and my unconscious mind is my biggest enemy. This was the biggest reality check I needed. Thank you Sadia for making me realize that it's all in the way we think and perceive our journey.

[@padmakaki1936]

Thanks!

[@mrugakshibhave4332]

Hey Sadia. I'm a Psychology student and I have been studying the concept that you have beautifully appreciated in this video for a long time. Being a student I feel that there's a lot of uncertainty about things that will be taking place in the coming future as students don't earn money or have not been financially independent. And I find that as one of the most fear-giving aspects. But over 1 year I have realised that there's so much more than what I'm doing. The continuous conflict between conscious and unconscious thoughts leads to several mental as well as health conditions. Keep making more of these videos ❤️

[@agnieszkawiszewska3348]

I feel so strongly EVERY word said here... Some years ago I found out that my children were not "difficult" and I was not "a bad parent", but they are autistic with adhd. Trying to understand them and myself more, I went for my own diagnosis and discovered I am autistic, with adhd. This explained my life and their lives, but gave my unconsciousness a lot of excuses and self-doubt, tons of ways of sabbotaging myself... Even after making lots of decisions for the good of my family and my own, and after I managed to find in my life things that inspire me, I was still saying to myself how much I cannot do, because... Sometimes things I would never said to myself in my 20s or even 30s... Thank you for stating it clearly and repeating that you go to therapist, because when I decided I want to leave my job, homeschool my youngest and enter doTerra business, I started my therapy. Today I chat a lot with my consciousness and unconsciousness... And here I am... managing both and still going for what's best for us... Thank you for this wonderful message... I feel that I will be coming back to this many times...

[@vijayak7308]

More strength and power to you! Good gut bacteria can really make difference! Try to incorporate natural pre and probiotics of various strains.. home made pickles , yogurt, kombucha, kimchi. avoid processed foods as much as possible.

[@ginavloet9697]

I haven’t lost my pregnancy weight in 15 years. I have learned that I sabotage myself my shaming myself and by placing everyone above me. I am learning to decrease my “people pleasing “ tendencies. It really saves me time and energy to know or reframe what I have done and say “That’s all I have to give, I need to save my strength and energy to love myself.”

[@KH-rh3lr]

I totally relate! It's taken me 20 years and 6 kids to realise (or admit!) that I don't have to be the one hanging back and just care-taking. A vicious cycle of tiredness, fear, shame and emotional eating isn't life for us or life-giving for those around us. It's ok to be inspirational - take a risk, follow a dream or even just some 'me-time' and personal health care. I have learned that actually it's important for our kids (whatever their age, it's never too late) to see us example a healthy balance of caring for self as well as others; trying, failing maybe, but progressing. No one learns endurance overnight and we are no good to anyone if we are 'broken'. I would not be happy with someone treating my children the way I have treated myself - was a wake-up call for me.

[@susanb5058]

@@KH-rh3lr beautiful!!! 💕

[@shivaagarwal4093]

Can you exaplain what exatly you did to decrease the people pleasing tendencies? I fail to do it.

[@ginavloet9697]

@@shivaagarwal4093 . I am in counseling and she listens to me then asks questions about my choices. I have to pause and think “Why did I do that?” My answer falls under 1.) they asked me to, so I couldn’t say No. 2.) I didn’t want to disrespect them, so I compromised my own needs to not rock the boat. 3.) whatever I do is not good enough…so I give up on myself. It’s very difficult to look in the mirror 🪞 when you say “Out loud” how I speak to myself. Sometimes I have an automatic pilot behavior of sensing a need and filling that need of another person. Now… I stop and ask myself are you going to hurt yourself financially , emotionally, add stress to your day if you do the task that you and you only are holding yourself accountable for? It stops me to think and reflect prior to the choice of going above and beyond. I am a survivor of abuse as a very young child… so it’s how I protected myself. Once , I can identify the “why” then I can make a healthy choice for myself.

[@Jess-lk3gr]

​@@shivaagarwal4093 this might not help for you, but it works for me: personally I remind myself that I have the right to say no to things and to people, that protecting myself and my own health should be the most important thing to me, and thirdly that while helping others is kind, often they can do these things themselves! Best of luck to you on your journey ❤

[@Lapybara1]

You sound like a poet! Love your videos.

[@pazbravo3886]

Thank you so much Sadia for existing. You are immensely inspirational. I am sitting here with so much to do and yet I can’t seem to find the energy, the drive to do it. I am 46 years old and feel completely lost. Your message has given me a small boost of energy to get up and tackle at least one thing today. Thank you and May God bless you, your family, your health and your business. Hugs to you ❤

[@julietidwell4947]

Hi, I’ve had days like this! For the life of me I can’t remember where I heard this advice but it had helped me. What is the one thing that if you don’t do, you will beat yourself up when you lay your head on a pillow and try to sleep tonight? It can be as simple as doing the dishes, taking a shower, making a phone call. Whatever that one thing is do it and forget about everything else. Small things are empowering and make a difference. Hope it helps!

[@pazbravo3886]

@@julietidwell4947 That is beautiful! Thank you so much. ❤️

[@nunoluis2699]

just what i needed to hear today, thank you

[@fayerichards6088]

Just finishing a book called Permission to Feel, great book for understanding emotions.

[@gabriellabrune3377]

Self-sabotage may be the biggest thing we can control individually. But, it also helps immensely to understand that the economic systems we are a part of are inherently oppressive and bad for mental health. This knowledge is powerful.

[@thistlestovines]

Not only do I find this video helpful for myself, but I'm also realizing these ideas can make us all more empathetic to others as well. Thank you. 🌹

[@annachabowska5444]

Hey, I would like to thank you very much for this video. I live and come from Poland and my sabotage immediately told me after the movie - you will never be able to thank this person because your English is very bad and you are so hopeless that you will never learn more than you can. Thanks to you, I immediately caught this sabotage and immediately thought about the solution of our time regarding this one of a million problems - help with google translate. And now I'm sitting and writing this message because I really feel that despite my development and partial exit from your patterns, I never thought about self-handicapping and sabotage. I've never seen it in myself. I saw reasons outside and within myself, but completely different, criticizing and judging myself. I am a beginner artist dealing with engaged art and I am just finishing my studies, which is associated with a huge project. Every day many plan how to do it best, and every day I feel too weak, too busy, too inadequate to do what I plan to do and finish my project, and to take care of myself. I think I'll be watching this video for a while every morning before breakfast. Maybe this will help me stop sabotaging myself so much. Thank you again. After this video my soul and my heart and my mind are several steps ahead. I send you as much warmth as you gave me. Thank you 🤍

[@marinelipartia8839]

Tea talks is my favorite videos of your! You have so much to share, everyone has, but majority of us do not do that. Thanks for the courage! Thank you for reminding us to inspire ourself and others!

[@crazyforplants]

Goal: 1. I want to feel healthier (post surgeries and covid) 2. I want to be less anxious 3. I want to grow my KZbin channel faster Unconscious saboteur: 1. I hate feeling weak and unhealthy especially, because I used to be very active (not athletic, but effortlessly active, could play a badminton game easily after not exercising for weeks), 2. I fear that my fears keep me safe from unprecedented failures or events, and if I stop feeling anxious, I will get in trouble, I will miss some clue about an impending crisis and suffer 3. I keep thinking about videos, and then feel it might not be good enough for people to watch. Conscious mind: 1. My body is amazing, that it has recovered so much in short span of time, it will get better slowly 2. I think my anxiety has no role in keeping me safe, I can keep myself safe without it, and in a calm and peaceful manner 3. Just put your content out there, and it doesn't matter if each and every video doesn't resonate with the audience.

[@jeewanthiwijesinghe4920]

sadie always coming to rescue with right content!

[@sweetjoyfulsoul9125]

As a psychologist…yes. You’re spot on. We like comfort and certain, it’s safe. But long term it’s not. We don’t get stronger, which keeps us in a disadvantage. And yes…be aware.

[@Karen-nq8du]

I'm reading "Atomic Habits". James Clear says the process is more important than the goal. When you reach a goal, you always have to set a new one. When you create a process, you become "that person" and then you're just moving forward, goal or not. I like that. My goal is to eat more plants and my underlying belief is that it's too much work. Watching your channel, I see I need to stop calling it "work". AHA! xo karen

[@sophias2960]

Thank you❤️❤️❤️!!!from Ukraine! this is very relevant to me right now… thank you! and thank you, because such open, positive, soulful people give confidence in a bright, happy future🙏❤️ thank you for sharing knowledge and Light!❤️❤️❤️

[@mathadkar7075]

Hello PUL! Most often we go through these situations and tag it 'just feeling a bit low' and feeling that everything is beyond our control. Thank you for talking about this. I feel I needed to hear this. Always looking forward to your uploads!

[@MealyTeddy]

I LOVE YOU!!!!!! YOU ARE NURISHING MY SOUL! YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL SOUL!!!!!

[@jeenaamana6015]

Sadia, this brought tears to my eyes. What you conveyed in this video hit me on so many levels. And the way you put out how to tackle the self sabotage couldn't have been more gentle. Thank you so much for this! ❤️🥺

[@215tiz]

I identify so much. I have been following you for years and I can relate to a lot of your content. Also the expat life and European culture. Thanks for your work

[@Jellybean05100]

I really needed to hear this today! Thank you!

[@ManiGupta49]

The video has come to me when I needed some sort of comfort. I have been dealing with some comment and ignorance from family who assume that I’m at fault always and don’t even bother to listen to my side of story or emotion. I had some hope but it was crushed. Now, I’m beginning to come to terms with the fact that you need to be there for yourself and never be dependent on others for any validation, emotional comfort. It sounds tough to accept that but it is how it is. Don’t sabotage yourself by thinking that you’re alone and no one’s there for you; you need to be there for yourself and know that the higher power is there with us.

[@shravanigosavi906]

Thanks for bringing this...tea times back😊

[@PhoenixAlwaysRising]

I always love videos like this!! Trust the recipes and the cooking are LITERALLY helping me to survive, and I do value videos like this too. Hope to see more.

[@NN-fz4pd]

That’s exactly it. I’ve been struggling with this intensely for years. This explains it. I’m self handicapping working out bc I know my performance/results are going to be judged by whatever partner I’m with. I can’t bring myself to do it. Thank you Sadia for explaining it to me you’ve really helped me out. New belief could be “I’m taking care of my health for my future self”

[@NowIKnow8]

These videos are absolutely fantastic. You deserve 10M subscribers. I feel the same way after watching your videos as I do after spending time with a good friend.

[@veerlestolker1]

Thank you, this just came ar the right time!! This is exactly how I think and feel. ❤ I'm gonna try out out your tips!

[@ayaelmahfoudi4250]

i geniunely love your words

[@annikakottier5367]

This exercise was so helpful, thank you so much! 😌 🥅Goal: asking a friend to meet up ⛔Unconscious saboteur : I have nothing to give and I feel unlovable (goodness, that's hard to admit) ➡️Behaviour: procrastinating, not asking 💪🏼Conscious mind: I know I have so many beautiful qualities and I am capable of socializing and being vulnerable. Social anxiety is hard, but remember: social stuff doesn't have to go perfect in order to be likable or lovable. I've been struggling with social anxiety, so this is an amazing exercise to investigate it, instead of only being overwhelmed by it 💪🏼

[@laura2208100]

I find myself in this video. It came to me at the moment I needed it the most. In covid and after this period, I lost myself. I really sabotaged myself. Thank you, Sadia, for opening my eyes. It is a long road in front of me, but opening my eyes and heart to improve is essential. Thank you.

[@shreyasi8954]

wow serendipity! I really needed to hear this!! Thanks!

[@celinaalfaro493]

You have such a pleasant personality, definitely a gift, thank you good information, ❤❤❤

[@camilleluc1183]

You'r so right when you say that overthinking is sometimes what holds us back. I lived the same situation with my boyfriend who no longer needs to motivate himself to go to the gym, he just does it. So one day I tried not to think too long about it and just got dressed and went to the gym. And fortunately, sport has an immediate effect so that after one or two times, it is a virtuous circle and we naturally want to go back. But this can be applied to many things in life ! Just act, you'll so proud after :)

[@TheRamya24]

I want to thank you so much Sadia for always putting out content that makes me think, introspect my fear and work on my inner self. I love how your approach to life is so holistic and through your videos, you empower by being vulnerable and relatable. I have been self-sabotaging myself for years now and this pandemic has somehow helped me to slow down and start my self-discovery journey. Being an overthinker myself, I often procrastinate with fear or get into emotional eating patterns but lately, I have been mindful of my thoughts and what I put in my body. I am not there yet but, progress is what counts... I always feel like the PUL community is intuitively connected!! whenever I feel this topic is something I want to explore, that will turn out to be your next video...looking forward to your upcoming videos and always keep smiling...your smile is contagious...

[@livinginnanasworld382]

People judging , not liking the person I am . That’s why I stay alone . This mY first time seeing your video and I will be back more . You are natural and I’ve been looking for something like that . Stay safe and blessed God bless 🙏💕

[@-zeina-8008]

Love it!! More like this pleeaase!

[@rubivaquero3099]

I literally LOVE your channel. It’s so mindful and healthy and you’re so kind! Like you give out big sister vibes!! Haha I love it

[@chaitaly1]

I am soo happy these videos are back! Reminds me of tea time Tuesdays! Old follower ❤️

[@ms1295]

Great video and tip! Regarding your fitness goals - maybe the reason you’re uninspired is that you haven’t found the right activity for you? I hate regular exercises, but swing dancing and acroyoga give me so much joy!

[@juliagrun7812]

There is NO SUCH THING as Self Sabotage. What is preventing your goals is an internal part that expects pain or unsafety when you would do these things you want - it has your BEST interest in mind. You can explore this Part inside yourself and ask what it needs and find a WIN-WIN for both parts (e.g. the part that does want to work out and the one that doesnt). Be open(!) because you might realize that what you are conciously wanting now is not what you actually want or in that specific way. Everything inside of you wants your well being, it is just that these parts have different perspectives and are currently opposed to another.

[@Nurturingmeals]

Something as simple as eating healthy and working out has become the biggest challenge. I am unable to lose 20 pounds and cannot eat healthy and go to gym. This issue becomes bigger bigger and I try to start eating healthy but I fall out of it again

[@barbarar5869]

Robin sounds like a very wise person! I love the idea of having a bias towards action.

[@evarosseau2015]

Thank you for the warm and lovely advice! I recently started to read more about this unconscious and conscious identity which are often called ‘the ego’ and ‘the truth self’ and it really made me question which one is often on the driveseat. This time of reflection really opened a possitive chapter in my life! So thank you for starting this conversation in this open and safe space!

[@user-bh4si9dy9m]

Wow, just as I was self sabotaging by not working on my Master's Thesis and actively avoiding it because I'm scared that whatever I'm doing it won't be enough, I saw you posted this video. Thank you so much for this, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this today! Keep up the good work, it means a lot to us! :)

[@Livemindfully247]

A Master's thesis is a tough one to get to. I am in the same boat. Spent my whole Friday evening avoiding my next assignment.

[@user-bh4si9dy9m]

@@Livemindfully247 I feel you! Hang in there! Wishing you all the luck with your Master's thesis :)

[@IsidoraSage]

one of the things that got me through my masters thesis was the decision to write 15 min of utter crap per day. I found when I actually sat down and wrote, the 15 min turned into an hour or two and the crap turned into some useful stuff. You have been studying for years to get to this point... you can do this!!

[@user-bh4si9dy9m]

@@IsidoraSage that's a good tip and definitely worth trying. Thank you very much! :)

[@scienceislove2014]

Couldn't resonate more with this

[@aryana0126]

The world needs more empathetic and caring female role models like Sadia. Really, after so many disappointing acquaintances and friendships with women (I‘m one myself) I‘d be the happiest to have such a genuine female friend.

[@toliphant95]

I have a big set of exams coming up in a few weeks, and I keep finding myself avoiding studying. I often find myself caught in this narrative that I'm already behind on the studying process... that I didn't pay attention perfectly in all my classes and now studying is going to be so much harder and I'm just going to fail anyways, so why bother with starting studying. But when I tune in with my conscious mind I can pick a different story: I don't have to do this all at once. My goal isn't to ace all my exams, it's to get comfortable and confident applying the material we've learned. This isn't something that's going to come all at once, but every day I work at it will get me a little closer. As you said in the video, focus on progress, not perfection

[@aitana7831]

This video completely changed my mindset. I’ve been going through a tough time in school and my personal life, but understanding that I am self sabotaging is also empowering because this means progress is more in my control than I initially thought. Thank you!!!

[@bendymindsyoga]

I totally resonate with the bias towards action advice. I have been dreaming about being a location independent yoga teacher for 5 years now, and have been holding myself back from taking my teaching online due to my insecurity of being in front of the camera and the voice that tells me I am not good enough, don’t know enough, not cool enough, look ridiculous on camera etc….. In the last 1.5 years, thanks to outer circumstances that literally pulled the safety carpet from under my feet (e.g. I lost my „stable“ day job) I have been diving into a wave of actions. They were all super scary and I felt like I am going in blindly (filming Yoga videos, starting a KZbin channel, creating an Online Yoga program etc) but the further I went the more I realized each scary action brings me a little closer to my authentic me. Because once you go for it, you realize… oooh, it’s actually not as scary as I thought! Or even… I am good at this / this is fun! Today, I am living a life that I thought is impossible to achieve for myself. I can live where I want and put my energy into sharing with others what‘s important to me. Of course I am constantly challenged (every day 😂) by new little or big obstacles, but I now know that these kind of fears and resistances only help me to push against and superspeed me further on my way to finding my authentic lifestyle. It never gets boring 😅 Cheers and support to anyone going through the scary phases these days and thank you Sadia for your inspiring content! ❤

[@dishnaphukan9787]

Today, I want to sayto you that I love you. Not because you have inspired me to evolve, but because by watching you, I am reminded of how far I have come to identifying and working on self-sabotage, and how I have come to love myself. This self-love allows me to accept my flaws, but also pushes me to go beyond self-sabotage and better myself. Thank you for reminding me that I hold the power within. ❤

[@lily_jo2817]

I've been going through this and I found that when I caught myself in this pattern, I try to redirect my focus so that I am back on track :) being gentle to yourself is important

[@anubhavforall]

Sadia, it's Holi today on 7th March in India when I am writing this, and there's a ritual here where we pray that all the negativity in our life burns away making room for the colours of life. I came back from the ritual and I saw this video. It honestly touched me very deeply as to all the aspects you discussed and I can really feel from within that I can really do the things I always wanted to do. So well let's go straight to the objective right! I want to work on myself - nurturing every aspect of my existence - the physical, emotional, mental , spiritual, psychological , philosophical - every aspect of mine with utmost care. I used to care less about me. I didn't feel that I could be fit, or I should indulge in self care but now I know ! I will workout ( I have already started & I am enjoying) , elevate my diet standards ( taking help from your videos ) fix my schedule, meditate, travel, socialise, read books and learn every fine thing the world has to offer!! I am working and I will strengthen on my career. I will always try to skill up, searching for your ways to do things , taking a sustainable yet innovative approach. Being in touch with reality yet developing it for the better is my objective! I want to do things for my family and all the people I love and well if possible, for the world & nature as well. I deserve to and I want to be loved. I already feel fortunate that there's not too much bother in my life but yes, I want to grow more on love, I want to make the people around me feel loved. Well , exams are coming by, I am prepping up for them, I will smash them with finesse. I will prepare well and won't be afraid on my capabilities and do great on the exams in career or life! I feel so happy to hear your thoughts. You are Robin's love is serene and a bliss. I wish the goodness protects you. So well , Time to enact!! See ya :) I wish that whenever if ever I see this comment again, I am at a better place. If anyone else sees this comment, I hope they do super good! 😃💫

[@PickUpLimes]

Happy Holi to you! I love hearing that the video resonated with you and inspired you to focus on nurturing so many aspects of your life. Wishing you all the best of luck with your exams and all your endeavours, AFA!

[@RC-km8dg]

Thank you for Expressing..thank you for digging deep down in self.. thank you for the love and light for all..

[@3ashokumar]

Most meaningful Video to boost self esteem. Thank you Sadia.

[@akinderedspirit7437]

Thank you Sadiya Di for talking about this...💙💜💛

[@marmotian4287]

I think it is more about taking small actions gradually and learning by doing (i.e., getting empirical data) instead of overthinking everything (i.e., keep generating false internal data), than it is about dissecting the conscious/unconscious mind (it is hard to tell which is which, plus some people's "conscious" mind can still be toxic, over-confident and full of dangerous desires).

[@PickUpLimes]

You bring up some really valid points! The "create a bias towards action" tip in the video definitely aligns with the idea of taking action as opposed to overthinking, as you mentioned. It is true that our conscious mind can also sometimes hold us back and presents toxic thoughts, but in this video we wanted to specifically explore the case in which our unconscious thoughts are at the root of our inaction. Trying to identify them (which can indeed be difficult), and practicing cognitive reframing can be really helpful in this case. Thank you for sharing your perspective and opening up this dialogue, Marmotian! It's always great to have discussions like this 🤓

[@marmotian4287]

@@PickUpLimes Thank you, I agree with what you said! I appreciate your insight, basically be aware of what you are thinking rather than falling into a subconscious habit. "Be an observer of your own mindset". :)

[@ahernandez7401]

Your voice is so calming💛

[@priyankadubey1014]

I love your content ❤ somehow it always strikes with my present situation ❤ a big thank you 🙏🏻

[@manjirikulkarni6672]

This was a very nice video. Very well explained. Thank you. All of your content is amazing.

[@catesmith8114]

well, I was avoiding even watching this video because I was afraid of the truths I had to face. If that's not self-sabotaging what is... and I was so wrong, every video you post helps me so much. Thank you!

[@aleshalipsky1684]

Wonderful!!! I have been saying I can't and don't want to eat in. I end up making food choices that don't follow my plant based wants and then feel so much guilt and embarrassment. I am afraid of the cooking takes to long, that I get frazzled and get snappy with my husband and kids. When watching this, I challenged myself to think I can eat at home, I have all the food already paid for, I can choose more simple meals to make, I can slow down and invite my family to cook with me, we can chat and laugh in our home, and not throw food away. And all staying with the plant based goals we have and save so much money and time.

[@podracer35]

This is the stuff I already know in my mind, but it's always helpful to hear from the outside. I usually end up distracting myself or try to do too much at once to stall my progress. Challenging fears and turning them into something more motivating is great I think my biggest fear is change, but it's also something I've recognized as something I want. I also remember relating a lot to both fear of failure and fear of success in my psychology classes. It's funny because it feels like they should be at odds, but they work together pretty well to stall me.

[@mahimusicals]

Sadia, oh my gosh, you are a boon to this world. You made this video and delivered the exact messages I needed for the behaviors I've been struggling with for 4-5 years now. I'm recovering from chronic, severe depression and self-sabotage is absolutely my #1 hurdle. I have to lose around 65-70 lbs, eat more wholesome home cooked meals, and continue moving my body more regularly and enjoy this process of leveling up. I also need to take action on all thee ideas that have been percolating in my mind for several years but never had the focus, will, belief and gumption to actually take action on before. I am going to make my own decisions for my life, commit to them, and be more fearless about my choices. Things may have gone poorly in the past for me, but I made those decisions from my heart and with integrity and I will continue doing the same now & believe in myself. You inspire me so much and I send you all the love, gratitude and warmth in the world. Many thanks!

[@MsAndrealOrtiz]

Love the message of this video, thanks Sadia, I suffer from anxiety and sometimes I limit myself by that. Self sabotage is so real. You should create a podcast, love your voice and the message you share

[@TheEmster2011]

Thank you. Vision boards have helped me.

[@meghanamarathe3891]

I have always loved tea time tuesdays for major two reasons 1. Topics that you pick up 2. Simplicity and Clarity in thoughts which is bag-packed with your experiences and/or reads Thanks Sadia for another wonderful topic! ❤️

[@ssamiksha9911]

I needed someone to talk to me about my issues like this, no better person than Sadia could do that. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart

[@trishk.7876]

Watched this twice in a row and bookmarked to watch again. I self-sabotage in lots of ways, but one situation stands out for me. I rescued an Old English Sheepdog in Mexico City two years ago thinking I'd find her the best forever home, but I keep thinking of all the ways rehoming her could go wrong. The situation has been a significant source of stress in my life and holding me back in so many ways (even though she's an amazing dog and great company), especially now that I'm moving back to the States. I just keep making excuses, worrying, overthinking and procrastinating. I'm hoping a lot of positive change will come with the move back to my home country. With some mindset changes, maybe I could turn the dream of finding Penelope a loving forever home into reality.

[@annalaura74158]

I have been feeling so tired and demotivated lately. Thank you for this

[@betturn2846]

You have no idea how much this video answers all of my feelings today.

[@cristinadinisroldao]

very meaningfull words, thank you so much.

[@krisakrisa8528]

Dear Sadia! Happy birthday, you are truly wonderful and I just wish you to continue shining and spreading heartfelt joy and beautiful wisdom through your videos! I wish I could meet you some day and give you a big hug as a small thank you for your smile and amazing things you share. I admire your natural joy of giving. Love every bit of PUL 😊🙏

[@movementismyconstant]

This is an incredible resource. Thank you so much🙏 And exactly what I needed today as i am right in the middle of this process of understanding what is on my way (aka the saboteur). I fear the failure that comes with building my business, and most important that fear of saying something I want, that I am then not able to commit to my word. I believe in the end the root is fear of being alone for speaking one's truth, or pursuing one's dreams. Thank you for creating room for reflection, Sadia 💛

[@ingridchacon2463]

Thanks Sadia for this video you have no idea how much it helped. I had no idea that self sabotage existed. You hit the nail on the head with so many examples. I have been doing this to myself for such a long time. Especially after my mother passed away 5 years ago. I always feel like a failure when my expectations are so high for myself. I plan on going to back to school for a masters degree and listening to your video made me finally admit to myself that I’m scared to go back to school. It’s like you said over think to stop doing that and just do it. There is nothing or anyone holding me back but myself.