The Biggest Dating Mistakes You're Making

[@ShoqRox]

Date when you have a strong foundation of self love, self respect and self awareness.

[@yzma6142]

Amazing advice. I recently turned down a man who I was really excited about because I knew my self love and capacity was nottttt there.

[@whprose]

“When men know…they KNOW.” Such a true statement because we will most definitely pursue WITH intent AND let it be known we’re interested in courting you. You won’t EVER have to wonder or be in doubt. We will be transparent and open. That being said, justttttt make sure you’re ready to receive that invitation because having us pay for other men’s mistakes that you haven’t healed from yet will lead us to cut you off quick and move on. All in all, another great episode. Keep shining! ✨🥂

[@NinaThomasBooks]

I hate that most young women don't know this. Men date women they value differently from those they don't value BUT men will date both categories of women. I wish men would just leave the women they don't value alone instead of damaging them further with manipulation, hot and cold game playing, emotional abusive behaviors, etc. I've always wondered how men can be so cruel to some women and still consider themselves good people.

[@ShantaHutchins]

@@NinaThomasBooks A lot of older women don't seem to grasp it either. I think it is how we are socialized and the messages we receive on a daily. People constantly tell me I do not give people a chance and I cut them off too quickly, but the more you allow someone to cross your boundaries, the less they value them. I will wait on someone that really likes me and who I like. Not dating just to not be single.

[@KC-dx1yo]

I really love how your shared anchor experience allows the two of you to be exceptional interviewers/conversationalists with your guest. It really shows and it's so enjoyable to watch and listen to.

[@Msnewsladytv]

So kind of you to say. Thank you!

[@KC-dx1yo]

@@Msnewsladytvmy pleasure! You ladies are killing it ❤

[@ShoqRox]

Don’t ever downplay yourself to make anyone feel better. Don’t ever dim your light to let someone else shine. You do not have to do that! EVER!

[@africangoddes2070]

Best advice ever

[@charleneowens4276]

Yesss, let the man be a man, let him court you. Love AWF…excited to see/hear more❤️❤️

[@healthcoachjay]

My friends helped me create my dating profile, including the photos, and I met my now husband that way! Facebook dating! I am an advocate of that platform and online dating. Everything is game when you’re looking. I was 33 (so was my husband) when we met, married at 34 and am extremely happy!

[@katrinaLew]

As a person in my 40's and dating, a non-negotiable is kids. And since we are older, I changed it to no kids under a certain age because SIR why are you 48 with a 3 year old 😂😂 get away from me. I prefer their kids to be grown or teenagers.

[@KhloeGeorge]

🤣🤣🤣

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

The way I hollered at 48 with a 3yr old. 😂😂😂. And you know it is with someone in their 20s. A friend of mine is dating a 60 year old with a 10 year old. Like childhood 🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@sharioden5853]

I agree I’m 37 and I never wanted kids I don’t think that is a unreasonable non negotiable 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@SapphireDia-yc4yx]

Having the same issue. There are a ton of guys in their 40’s even in their 50’s that have young children or still want to have some. No thank you! My kids are grown.

[@binti-mfalme]

@@SapphireDia-yc4yx I dated one who wants to have/start a huge family, we are both in our early 40s 😅

[@unlockingwealthwithin]

If you deeply desire something, don't limit what you really want, no matter your age.

[@MAC-tf7pw]

This was nice to hear bc I’m so exhausted with dating and time is just ticking. It doesn’t seem like them men are even asking for dates and are just going with the flow. I even tried the apps and it was atrocious but I’m still hopeful that my time will come

[@alezandradavila2581]

I love how honest she is … with being an anchor ⚓️ ❤

[@SC2point0]

Monique mentioned looking a "hot azz mess" with no makeup at 29:35 lol, but speaking as a man, that's when I'm more likely to approach a woman bcuz I feel like that's a better representation of who she really is. I think women should do whatever makes them feel beautiful and confident, but for me, less is way more when it comes to makeup/lashes/weave/wigs etc. Sounds like I'm not alone in thinking that way since they feel like they get swarmed when they go out au naturale lol. I don't think a lotta women realize how naturally beautiful they are, and how a lot of us guys see them when they're wearing little to no makeup. Interesting discussion though ladies, I thought Monique came with great energy and gave sound advice! Looking forward to Episode 3!

[@sandybrownonyt]

Men like women who are cleverly wearing make up in the natural look. Men cant detect the makeup. Eg, do you know or bothered if our two presenters are wearing fake hair?

[@einasabutailb4939]

⁠​⁠@@sandybrownonyt I doubt Mona or Jeanette are wearing fake hair. And if they are, then it is a pretty good representation of their natural hair. East African and Dominican women’s hair can come in varying textures and lengths. I do agree that men don’t often recognize the minimal “no make-up” make-up look and mistake it for a bare face.

[@sandybrownonyt]

@@einasabutailb4939 I saw video of Jeanette at hairdresser and it looked like she had some hair added. Mona had short Bob one day , then long hair the next. The wigs and hair pieces these days. Just appreciate women who want to be silky, polished, soft. We don't have to be born with it. As long as its not looking like a clown.

[@SC2point0]

@@sandybrownonyt You're absolutely right, I do like cleverly worn makeup in the natural look, or not very much at all. I know women that have mastered that technique, and it's great. I also know a few that only wear lipstick/gloss and that's awesome too. As I mentioned in my initial comment, I think women should do whatever they want to feel confident and beautiful, I'm just giving a guy's point of view, and saying who I would be more likely to approach. I don't have a problem with makeup, but for someone I'm dating, I'd love for it to enhance, rather than transform. As far as the hair, you're right again... I certainly appreciate any woman that wants to be silky, polished, and soft, but I also love to touch/twirl/play in my lady's hair, and that's one of the reasons I'm more attracted to natural hairstyles. And that natural hair can be permed, hot combed, pressed, curly, an Afro, locks, braided, a low-cut like mine, whatever lol. I understand women like to change their hairstyle though, and I know men's opinions aren't likely to be factored into those decisions lol. That being said, the hair pieces/wigs/weaves have gotten so good nowadays that sometimes I can't tell. And no, it doesn't bother me that Mona & Jeannette wear hair pieces or add hair, they both always look fantastic, but I do think they would both be just as fabulous with their natural hair.

[@NewMoonLocs]

Loving you all. Let’s continue to Go Awf! Loving this topic. This is my life at 49!

[@SandeeJackson]

That line about the clowns in the circus is real talk 😂🤣-- I LOVED this episode. So good. I can't wait for more.

[@TalithaNCummi]

The wise sisters have spoken. Good talk ladies ❤

[@helianthus33]

The duo I didn't know I needed! I'm so excited for future episodes.

[@unlockingwealthwithin]

Great podcast. I don't date because I do not enjoy it. There is NOTHING about the process that is fun. Time is so valuable and I find dating to be a time waster. Keep it friendly & hang in groups for me.

[@unlockingwealthwithin]

My cousin married her HS sweetheart in her 50s.

[@MissKimLifeStyle]

Great interview. I really like Monique because she gives such great advice. I’ll just add that Ashanti & Nelly were married in December 2023. I’m not a fan of spinning the block for myself, but if it works for others, go for it.

[@nishbeat6734]

She is so well rounded! You all are. This was hilarious and extremely refreshing to watch.

[@celiaelery1992]

Love the content! Just wish the lighting was better! You guys are beautiful!

[@AwfTheRecord]

Thank you 💕

[@je39981]

Great video topic ! and AH ! The truth about JLO and if she'll be married by the time this video come out ! She guessed right ! My experience, I think I would say no to meeting a guy at a place you go regularly because it BETTER WORK. When it doesn't work it becomes awkward even if there isn't any animosity. The enemy loves the church as well and I was approached by an unserious guy at church and now it's extremely awkward. I barely go there that often anyway anymore and relocated to my Home church on certain Sunday's. The way to maneuver is be willing to walk away, reciprocate his energy, be willing to call him out on behaviors, and spend time with yourself while not being too available.

[@MareChase]

Shoutout to Monique! Hampton hugs to you! You always represent well!💙⚓️💙

[@imanijx]

I am so glad I found your channel today. Already binge-watched an episode and now unashamedly on my next one 😂. New subbie and new fan, keep it up and thank you! Love from the UK xx

[@sydonnierobinson5688]

I was in a relationship with my children’s father at the age of 18 stayed until I was in my late 30’s. I Saw all the red flags but stayed. He told me time and time again, no man would want me because I had children. He cheated over and over, had two children outside our relationship. I had enough after he had the second child. I had enough courage to put my children and myself first and left him. I have not really trust men since then.

[@IamMsMoy]

I really enjoyed this episode. Wise words from wise women without any fluff ❤

[@maribyrd9603]

Ladies!!! I truly enjoyed this relationship convo. I felt like I should have been the fourth chair! 😊 We are so excited and blessed that the two beautiful black beauties decided to venture and start this podcast. I was already a fan before this! Can’t wait to watch the others!!! You guys Rock. So refreshing. ❤

[@KashG901]

Thank you ladies. Recently divorced, and I agree with you all.

[@MissKaylaaJ]

This episode was AMAZING! Phenomenal job, ladies 👏🏾

[@feliznoire]

Such good info. I would like to see a panel of male and female relationship experts tackle the topics asked in this video.

[@TheMelodyLatrice]

Loved this episode. Really excited about what's to come next.

[@lorinakers7934]

Speak your boundaries and expectations...then listen. What he says, he will do, respectfully. You can decide to stay or pivot from there.

[@jaimemccoy2223]

Hello from Lynchburg, Va. Congrats on the new pod! Great episode!

[@zakiyasimmons-earl3317]

This was a really great and timely interview! Thanks ladies for the awesome real life scenarios!💜

[@taybee4653]

Great episode!!! Can’t wait to see what else you have in store 😊

[@Daft_Sage]

Why do people advice to work towards your career in your twenties, but not your relationship? If something is a dream of yours shouldn't you start on it as early as possible? Why not have fun with everything in your twenties and only start working on your life in your thirties?

[@tiffanyn06]

Loving this podcast ladies I can’t wait to hear future episodes 💕

[@FaithFoodFashionFinances]

Call them put because they be loud wrong, and miserable. Enjoy every age but don't be hyper focused on goals and miss out of someone that checks those boxes. take your time and create balance.

[@marjalife]

I wish I would’ve known about love bonding early on in my early 20s such a red flag! Love this episode ❤

[@mariot6531]

I turn 40 in a few days and here is what I am looking for in a gf/fiance/wife/life partner - 35yo - 42yo - College educated - race doesn't matter, but preference is brown to dark skin black women - no kids - wants 1-2 kids - knows how to communicate - has sex appeal - physical requirements depend of the woman - Religion doesn't matter Is it realistic, maybe/maybe not? In my experience, women I've met do not want to be married. They just want a wedding and the performative stuff they see on Instagram

[@sigriedshikokola]

Mario, where you from? You sound familiar..

[@kejuanlynette8531]

That’s not unrealistic. Did they tell you they don’t want to get married?! There are tons of women in Atlanta that likely meet this criteria.

[@mariot6531]

@@kejuanlynette8531 they didn’t tell me with words. It was more so their actions and behavior.

[@tfields8133]

Where do you live? 👀 I think what you're looking for is very realistic. Nothing wrong with any of it.

[@mariot6531]

@@tfields8133 Southwest US

[@javadoesit]

Tuned in! Podcast girlie!

[@nataliepedota5459]

Loved loved LOVED this episode💞 Keep em coming, ladies!

[@tierramonique]

GREAT EPISODE!!

[@sharioden5853]

I love these conversations ♥️ my new favorite podcast 🎧

[@Dippedingold93]

This was greattttt! ✨💕👏🏽

[@AwfTheRecord]

Glad you liked it!!

[@natashabettina]

Yes! Hampton ⚓️💙

[@s.murphy4095]

Great episode. Love the gems

[@prettyuniquell2011]

This was a good one 👍🏽👍🏽☺️

[@boxesbinslidsllc]

She said fools and clowns 🤡! 😂😂😂

[@MicheleHixEssentialMobilesigna]

6:04 pm. Great interview looking forward to more. Did I hear you say you are from Lynchburg, Va? I am from appimattox

[@wandisilesomdyala6834]

Fabulous conversation❤❤.

[@carmenlugo7935]

Two gorgeous ladies making great content

[@TonyaBrown-s5r]

Interested good topic I enjoyed yes please keep this going 🎉

[@raemae1378]

I feel like during the first few dates, men are very deep with me and Im trying to just establish if like their energy and just overall get a feel for them, but i think it might sometimes come across as if im not interested in them 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@AnyThngButOrdinary]

They are married! … been married!! Nelly and Ashante

[@mickyfingaz]

“I be breathin’ heavy!” I’m in my car hollerin’ 😂😂

[@delricketienne6823]

Great insights

[@BriannaLockett]

So good!

[@Passion84GodAlways]

I SINCERELY APPRECIATE this episode!💎✍🏾📝 It's comforting to know that I'm doing a lot of things right😃, but there are still some areas I can improve on. 🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@vavoo5181]

That’s a great orange you got there 😂

[@DNS1881]

Mona where’d you get your necklace??

[@ceesantos-s8517]

Luv’d this!!!👏👏👏👏🔥

[@Wrappedinhisglory]

I relate so much to Mona. My mother said the same thing. So I too looked at it as man will derail your dreams. My mother said get at least 1 degree under your belt before getting married.

[@arkemajones8164]

I would say to women with non-negotiables, sometimes that trade school education is more lucrative than that college degree.....🤷‍♀️ I loved the interview, but can we normalize making the effort to correctly pronounce someone's name, especially when you ask? It's different but not impossible.

[@izzylabor2606]

I absolutely agree

[@tam6011]

My issue with trades is where is he at. For example, I know men that are in their 50’s have to install cable but they are in pain everyday. He needs more skills to shift to something in management and doesn’t want to. He is too young to retire. I have never met a retired truck driver, plumber, or electrician. They typically age out. If they not in union or don’t have a retirement account set up. Not knocking trade men I just seen enough where you the woman have to step in and set it up if he allows it and if you want too.

[@mariaberry8611]

Divorce….right here AWF this was good❤

[@dewdan11dnd46]

💝🌟Ooooh! YES! So many great life mantle’s, to open up and uncover. 👏 ✨💞

[@FaithFoodFashionFinances]

The derailing can also come from familial expectations , so it becomes generational and you miss out on life because you spend your 20's looking for husband. We are living longer.

[@malstarrainbow]

Not to mention getting a Masters Degree is more required so young women are in school longer than the generation before. And that is another reason women haven’t settled down in their 20s.

[@lorinakers7934]

Be comfy...dropping the proverbial handkerchief. I Usher at church and don't know if someone has interest...maybe she is just being nice and Christian-like. Smile and recognize the service or his attendance, etc.

[@Fola255]

What does ‘awf’ stand for?

[@AwfTheRecord]

It's the phonetic spelling of "Off"

[@katrinajones9382]

Love this ❤❤ but I need advice I've been with someone who I've been with for 3yrs I will be 39 in 3 weeks but he talks in hypothetical about us when it comes to marriage do I continue or leave?

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

You have been dating a man for three years, and you want to be married. He is speaking hypothetically with a future as his wife. IMO, He does not see you as his wife at all but more as a placeholder for now. Stop wasting your time, energy, and body on this guy. This decision is on you and not him at this point. He has shown you where he stands. I wish you luck.

[@snicholson8884]

Ask him. And don't settle for uncertain answers. If he can be clear, there's your answer: You're not the one.

[@katrinajones9382]

@snicholson8884 well I got my answer the other day he asked for a break so he could focus on things and me to focus on things. The kicker was he said I could block him. I'm guessing so he wouldn't be a distraction but who knows.

[@binti-mfalme]

Guys say the know within 90 days if they will marry a woman or not. And in 6 - 9 months, they should be proposing.

[@demewharton9646]

How do you all identify your non-negotiables?

[@malstarrainbow]

You identify it as something that would either deter you from growing or harm you or irritate you when you’re with that person.

[@AnyThngButOrdinary]

What’s wrong with where is this going ? Or what are we?

[@Irvthalight]

What are the Choosing Signals Women give off

[@drumchik09]

So what's up with that videographer?? 👀👀

[@Sparklesandlove]

“Sometimes you’ll be at the circus and not even realize you’re dating a 🤡”

[@Nataliejulie-p8b]

Jeannette looks like Jackie Aina 👀👀👀

[@ayannamcook]

I love your pod casts. I am a connection person, and I think you should reach out to Rene Syler. This bring to veiws from the same profession together. Trust me, you will thank me later.

[@latishaturner5114]

❤❤

[@andreaperry7574]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@FolaNaid-l2f]

The Ethiopia or east Africa girl they don’t date outside their race their own race expect white or Asian. I wonder what her husband race

[@capricornlayanna3828]

Mona is Somali and her husband is mixed race Dominican.

[@jeanluccouture9088]

Why does this look like it was filmed in 1990?

[@cp3onmtv963]

Not you being shady. 😬 It’s only episode 2, allow them to grow!! With that said, @awftherecord yal do need at least 2 more key lights. That would’ve helped brighten the scene, especially where Jeanette was sitting.

[@je39981]

1990 ? No way. Video was more grainy and not as clear as this. Time for the eye doctor.😂😂😂

[@binti-mfalme]

dating and marriage advice remains the same … video quality they could have done better

[@robertedge861]

This needed a man in this discussion, they would have a better understanding from a mans perspective.

[@876me7]

No it doesn’t. This is a convo for women by women and that’s ok!