The Biggest Problems with Thai/Foreigner Relationships and a few tips

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[@capio78]

I’m not sure what it means but the one thing ‘up to you’ definitely doesn’t mean is that it’s up to you.

[@bryanflowers3563]

It means give me a small choice. If a lady says up to you when you ask which restaurant. It means give me a few ideas!

[@germanfalang8897]

Very good video !!! From what I've learned vacationing in Pattaya 12 times is: a relationship with a "bar girl" (beer bar, Agogo, GC, Soapie-Soapie etc.) will not work. When the farang returns to his home country he will be seen just as an ATM/sponsor. And probably she doesn't only have you as a "boy friend" (=sponsor) but also a couple of other guys in Germany, UK, US, Australia, Sweden ... and maybe Dubai, India etc. When you live in Pattaya as an expat and she not a "bar girl" that is a totally different ballgame. You can consider yourself lucky to be happily married in Pattaya 👍

[@bryanflowers3563]

There are so many factors to consider. But most guys ignore all the bad signs

[@williamharrison7797]

I believe in giving people opportunity rather than merely money, as you do.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Yes

[@thaitime5244]

I think you really need to understand Thai culture for a relationship with a Thai to work. Its taken me over 30 years and 3 failed relationships with Thais to fully understand how these relationships work. Now i have been with my current Thai partner for 9 ysars and have 3 children, so far so good, but you have to keep working at it as with any relationship.

[@cabowabo5557]

Bryan, on your other channel you had mentioned trying to really help/tutor your wife in the business world. I think that is very admiral, captain!

[@cytone101]

One married man I know, if his wife isn’t following him about he is always having to message her where he is and taking a photo to show her. I couldn’t live like that.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Thats very common. It's weird

[@colin2657]

My dream is to find a beautiful young lady in Pattaya that will pay me to marry her. Is that possible there.

[@johngordon6823]

Another thought provoking video, Grow together to stay together, I think it’s hard to find a new business opportunity in Pattaya as most if not all angles are covered, but there’s a lot to be said for revamping old ideas, and then the Thai female can get more involved and grow together Slightly off track there !! Great video again

[@bryanflowers3563]

Growing together is key to long term success

[@markshepperson3603]

@@bryanflowers3563 Tolerating the changes that different stages of your life together that may not overlap is key I’ve found.

[@onetalentedman2822]

Culture is the problem in Thailand just about every thing is opposite to what Brits have grown up with & know best. These Thai girls family's can become huge never ending problems that only get bigger as the family does. We also must respect cultures so best to go with the flow just avoid certain circumstances like getting into relationships. Better to rent and trade in for a new model regular than buy maybe.

[@bryanflowers3563]

I guess I've been lucky then

[@Hell3xio]

Keep pushing videos out! Good content no matter what the topic is

[@bryanflowers3563]

Thank you

[@williamharrison7797]

Often girls are in a situation where they feel they can't stop the bar work, because they have unrealistic monetary ambitions. Unfortunately many cannot find love or a relationship, because they can't accept just getting a job, starting a modest business and settling down with a partner. Some are too far into the life to get out, and or have mental health issues that make it too difficult. Very sad.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Many of them get addicted to the lifestyle. Parties daily

[@markwick7898]

Age will destroy them , at 40 they become old in their world especially full of ink all over body , gonzo from that point and zero return . There not all dumb plenty save the lot don’t worry about that

[@pokeamaniwillnotbereplaced]

some girls just wanna have fun...

[@peapaulofthailand6539]

Strange seeing this today as I was literally having this conversation in A7 last night. I get the white knight in shining armour paying for everything to them. But I would rather help the girl better her life for her own future with or without me.

[@bryanflowers3563]

So many men over pay because of low self esteem or the they know deep down that the girl doesn't want to be with them

[@peapaulofthailand6539]

@@bryanflowers3563 Yes and it leads to a slippery slope.

[@dhruvd8953]

My take is that take sex out of a heterosexual relationship, women has nothing to offer to men. Take money out of a heterosexual relationship, men has nothing to offer to women. This is a universal law, even applicable in Burundi and Haiti. In sickness and health, in poverty and wealth, till death do us apart, help each other grow are just mythologies.

[@bryanflowers3563]

I feel sorry for you then. A partner is a friend and someone that you can trust. Its a bond that we all need. It's not just about shagging. That can be had elsewhere

[@thethrillofpattaya8404]

Have you bought your noose yet? Better yet...just take a handful of pills!

[@kevin.afton_]

So when two poor people marry where is the money?

[@thethrillofpattaya8404]

Great video Bryan! It was a nice look into the "relationship game"...not only in Thailand but everywhere really! Relationships are not free anywhere but what ever a person invests in will increase. Like you said...if you're in a "lop-sided" relationship and your girl is being overly controlling or possessive and You keep giving her more money just to shut her up...that's going to cost more and more as time goes on! I listened to alot of your ideas through your content. Thanks for the insight into how YOU feel about these things...because I know how guarded you are about your personal life, so I really do appreciate it Bryan. I plan of retiring there myself within the next year or so & will be looking you up for business ideas & opportunities as I can not sit around and bang hot girls all day (I also have a strong desire to earn money as well)!

[@bryanflowers3563]

I'm not particularly guarded about my personal life. But I have seen many people with no ethics or moral ls around. So I exercise some caution with information. Thanks for feedback

[@matthewstewart8284]

Thanks Brain, some great information 👍

[@bryanflowers3563]

Thank you

[@williamharrison7797]

Sorry Bryan, I meant to say, like you I believe in providing opportunity rather than just doling out cash

[@bryanflowers3563]

Giving out cash only means they will run out again

[@mrsweeves7035]

I have luckily found a nonbar girl here. She doesn't ask for anything except me so far and that will hopefully not change. She hasn't exchanged her heart for money lust and will never I think.Just a nice regular, nice girl.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Very nice

[@humanbeeing69]

hahahahahahahahahaha...well yeah.

[@davidthomas5679]

Thank you for the video Bryan. Maybe we can meet up when I am in Pattaya at the end of this month. Take care. David

[@bryanflowers3563]

Sure. Thanks

[@shane0traveller451]

Dating is not for me! Single life is best!

[@bryanflowers3563]

Yes. Many guys say that. But its a numbers game in pattaya, if you poke a few hundred girls, you end up falling in love with one.

[@arsh839]

Hi bryan I'm kind of in the similar situation u expressed.. I recently moved to bkk sathon area for work.. I'm almost 26..n I met this young lady at brewski bar n asked her out she is 24 thai-chinese ..works as physiotherapist in a hospital. anyways she moved into my condo real quick like in a same week... found it kind of strange.. its been over a month n we r good but i m kind of afraid if she have a thai bf n the kik culture here scares me lil bit.. do u have an email where i can discuss some more details n clear my doubts n any advice u want to give out on how to maintain trust with Thai gf.

[@pokeamaniwillnotbereplaced]

Hey, Bryan enjoyed the tips. I have worked with working girls and boys and in general, it messes with their minds they end up emotional cripples and the line between boyfriend and punter can get blurred. It amazes me that with all the information out there that these guys behave the way they do. No one should be scammed but if you are, it's probably your fault for being so naive and stupid. I would not let money be the way to attract a partner. because it never ends and they want more & more. You end up resenting her and finally you break up much lighter pockets and a sore ego. As partner material, no she/he /ladyboy are damaged goods and not stable people. I can have fun with them but no b/f g/f stuff. Take care GOD Bless you and yours. M

[@bryanflowers3563]

Most girls get out fast. I believe that's the best way. People in and out fast

[@blackbolt1013]

Liked the vlog. I have had the part time long distance girl friend relationship misadventure. Hopefully I wont succumb to this again. It's a "Kobayashi Maru"..a no win scenario. There should be a "Pattaya Anonymous" 10 step program. Never happen though it would be bad for business. Good Stuff

[@bryanflowers3563]

Haha. Advice line for broken hearts

[@arthurdunga345]

good luck to anyone like yourself who gets married to any girl from Asia but i would never even think of it myself and when i hear of blokes giving them piles of money every month i think there crazy i'm sure some of the girls very much appreciate it but most are laughing at you , probably giving it to there other boy friend. i do think you should pay your way if your with a girl though nothing is free

[@bryanflowers3563]

Plenty of happy relationships

[@nicks3933]

Pretty interesting

[@bryanflowers3563]

Thanks Nick

[@36handy]

Photos about where are are and with whom. Lol. Time to walk.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Ok

[@dantae666]

How is the language learning going? Any tips or resources you like ATM

[@bryanflowers3563]

On pause again sadly but I will get back to it soon

[@dantae666]

@@bryanflowers3563 Understand tho getting ready for high season hopefully. look at learn to read thai the rapid method I've finished the free trial but can recognize a number of letters and vowels now. Just on the fence on weather to spend the money or not

[@Abundancesobernew]

we all need money. in asia you marry the family. but. all in proportion. i meet one shark in the bar. two sharks. good girls. not in the bar but sharks. now current no shark not from bar. but wants to help family. not crazy shark food money. no. $10 or $30 bucks a week for some food. helping family. not shark food. and my current works in our business. a working partner. so pay big money no. help the family yes.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Always meet the family before marriage!

[@Abundancesobernew]

all bad investment. friends. no. partners. no. as a gift yes. a helping hand yes. weekly excuses no. trust honesty grow. self time. together time. love is not on a salary. loving is supporting. if its a salary be aware thats not love. sharks. piranna. goldfish. who knows. wish em all well. i live for my wife and kids. and mum. and wifes family. thats real for me. if you dont know real. well sorry for you. thanks bryan good blog.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Nice one

[@jamescasey611]

Quit while your not ahead in Pattaya with a girl.

[@bryanflowers3563]

Many good ones out there. But many guys seem to be attracted to the idiots

[@jamescasey611]

@@bryanflowers3563 yep Bryan. Hoping to catch u in pattaya somewhere for a coffee. There in December.

[@garyroey4445]

Thai family sponging

[@singas2854]

First mistake pattaya. 😂

[@nickyboy.]

1st

[@bryanflowers3563]

Nice!

[@sandgroper1980]

Nice one Nicky Boy mate. That one was uploaded at 2.30am my time so well and truly missed it😆👍🍻🇦🇺

[@michaelmcknight3639]

YOUR WIFE HAS GONE TO A 7-ELEVEN ON HER OWN? 😮

[@bryanflowers3563]

Not sure what that comment is about, she drives herself all over the place. She's independent

[@michaelmcknight3639]

@@bryanflowers3563 my ironic pistol misfired

[@austJW]

Salary. Alcohol and drugs.

[@bryanflowers3563]

For some definitely

[@KippaxInThailand]

Never paying a penny it's just madness. No thanks

[@bryanflowers3563]

Paying a reasonable amount is fine imo. But not these huge western salaries