The CRAZY Advantages Dumpees Have

Ever wondered how being dumped might actually be a good thing? This video dives into the unexpected and crazy advantages that dumpees experience. Without giving away the surprises, we’ll explore how these advantages can lead to personal growth and unexpected opportunities. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a breakup, you won’t want to miss the insights this video has to offer. Tune in to discover the silver lining of being a dumpee and how it might just be the best thing that’s ever happened to you!
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[@si_w8201]

This is actually so true. I know now my dumper monkey-branched to someone else who was going through their own break-up, and was rejected by him - I knew at the time that this was her motivation, I just didn't know how it would end out. She took no responsibility for any of our issues and actually accused me of putting the blame on her, playing mind games and holding her back from who she really was. On the other hand, I went through the grief cycle and a period of introspection where I realised that I was as much at fault for how I treated her and reacted to how she treated me, it was my pushing back that ultimately caused the split, but I'm glad I did as I got the power back. I also started walking and joined a slimming club to both lose weight and get out of the house. I've lost over 5 stone in 4 months, so who was really holding who back?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thanks for sharing buddy, and amazing effort on your journey. 💪💪💪

[@si_w8201]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick cheers, Nick. I've not felt this good about myself in years...

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

You should feel amazing. You’ve put the effort in and earned it.

[@morpheus3190]

Thanks Nick, exactly as I feel. My Dumper has not developed and she is just repeating her game with the guy she monkey branched to. He doesn’t know that it’s just his turn with her and she will rinse and repeat. She will never grow emotionally or redefine who she is. No empathy or profound appreciation. I kind of feel sorry for her, she is a good person, just not aware of the mess she is causing for herself.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

In this context, she taught you the lesson you needed to learn, and did you a favour. I hope you’re feeling better.

[@jonsiggy9397]

I also feel exactly the same @morpheus3190

[@alexardon91]

Nick, you can't imagine how much you have helped me, two years since my breakup, your videos have been a light on my path thanks keep it up.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Aww thanks man. Glad I could help. I hope you’re well. 😊

[@norswil8763]

My dumper was immediately shattered and suffered panic attacks in the week post BU. We had a good relationship and broke up with respect, I didn’t want it but walked peacefully. I could see her suffering even a month after🤷‍♂️

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Dumpers suffer too, my friend. Ending a relationship, is often the last choice, not the preferred choice!

[@fugu4163]

The moment a woman i have a relationship either are cheating on me or leaving me i have this feature to switch the of button to my emotions to that person. It is a kind of betrayal with the purpose to destroy me so i make sure that it backfires.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

My advice would be to stop choosing these type of women.

[@kori4580]

I’ve been through such much pain Nick, being cheated on and lied about it, then being dumped and blaming it all on me, being gaslighted and abused emotionally. Yet he’s out there going on dates and hooking up like I never existed…..it’s devastating

[@norswil8763]

Fuck that guy! If you don’t yet see this toxic guy leaving as a good thing you soon will. Don’t give him the satisfaction of feeling bad, if anything you should pity him. Consider him non-existent and find someone who will appreciate you and then he truely will become non-existent and the hurt will pass.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you and that is heartbreaking. The more you know about him, the more you focus on him, the more you disempower and hurt yourself. Focus on you now.

[@rascal211]

You are better off without that shallow player. Let someone else get stuck with him.

[@Champman543]

"Reward" him with your absence. No contact for life, in this case.💪

[@petridhskyriakos]

Excellent selection of words....

[@mrreddington777]

Currently going through a break up (day 12). This is the second one in a month and the first time I made the mistake of reaching out to her after two weeks of no contact. She promised to not use breaking up as a tool to deal with an argument. She disrespected me also. Now she did it again and even cursed me out when I called her out on her behavior. I walked out of her apartment and blocked her going no contact. If she wants me back she will need to do the work and earn it. I’m done chasing her.

[@javierlandaverde4108]

One thing I want to point out as a man in a traditional relationship in the past. I notice majority of us including men and women often have trauma experience from childhood and many of us have insecurity attachments being raised by parents. I didn’t realize I had this and would cary this with me in relationship. My dad wasn’t there for me and my mom was very critical on me. I always recommend men and women to learn about your attachments and heal yourself from trauma. You will always be an emotional baggage for someone else if you don’t fix it. Now back to it, it sucks but men. You got to understand that you have to be the emotional savior for many women who in relationships and your job is to make them feel secured while courting them and making them feel wanted. Really hard work. Really worth it if you feel it’s worth it. Just keep in mind, stay patient but see red flags as well because not all women are nice and take advantage of you as well. Women who argue why men are not emotional. Let me tell you once we open up and share insecurities about ourselves and show you our issues we deal with. Some women not the good ones. Start to get turned off. They have such high expectations from movies or celebrity couples. Relationships are soo complicated and complex in a time where social media creates toxic culture, grass is always greener syndrome and fomo. Not to mention never get your best friends and inner circle involved in your love life. Always ends bad. Keep your love life private and away from family as well as parents can also be judgmental. Don’t let outside influence your relationship. With that in mind; I’m sorry to tell you the truth. As a man, just shut up, put a good face, suck up your emotions and go out there be the best of yourself and be an emotional wall for someone.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

It’s not anyone’s job to be anyone’s saviour, my friend. Healthy relationships don’t depend on one another to save one another.

[@roydied15]

what you're talking about is an avoidant personality type. They are literally forged by childhood neglect and disregard that creates further issues of insecurity, abandonment, jealousy, and so much more down the road. I just got dumped by one and while she never admitted to being an avoidant (i asked her at one point while we were together), she DID open up to me a lot about her dysfunctional household/upbringing and then a decade of toxic, emotionally abusive relationships. She ended things with me because she told me that after almost 3 months of being together, that she could no longer hide or "mask" her insecurities and jealousy and fear of abandonment, and that she had to end things in order to really fix her head and have the best chance at therapy actually being beneficial to her. It's amazing to thing someone as insanely beautiful as her (like no joke, think a blonde combo of ScarJo and Angelina Jolie, with the greenest, most captivating eyes you've ever seen), as successful as her making well into 6 figures a year whose traveled the world and dated doctors and millionaire trust fund babies and lived in apartments that rented out for $3500 a month, would be intimidated or jealous of me; your humble, blue collar worker living in a 900sq foot house, driving a beater 2005 Honda, who has never traveled outside the country or even more than like 1200 miles from home. I have NOTHING in comparison to the men she's dated, yet I made her more nervous and anxious than any of those other guys did because I was always my 100% transparent self around her, for better or for worse. I never sugar coated anything, I didn't get on my knees and worship her or tell her that she's the greatest human on the planet. I was always real with her and often criticized her, but made sure to balance it with as much or slightly more positive praise. She told me that she had to leave to focus on her career and her business she wants to start in the coming months as well as "fitness goals" and also to learn from her therapist what security feels like and if she's even capable of. What really happened though, 2 weeks post-discard is that I triggered her. She realized that I'm husband/life partner material and that she's not ready for that (or so she thinks) and that committing to me means a loss of freedom and so rather than pumping the brakes maybe and slowing things down (which we did try 2 weeks before i was tossed), she just said "eff this, I'm not allowed to have these feelings I have so.....run for the hills it is."

[@Cornelius1212]

A chain broken is never as strong as before the break. Yes, it can be mended, but it will never be as strong. It will always be more fragile.

[@charlesmullins664]

Actually the weld is stronger than the link

[@HopeFaithExpect77]

In the japanese culture they add gold to a sword or valued object that has been cracked or broken so its more valuable and stronger.

[@guilliano9047]

​@@charlesmullins664was going to say the same thing 😂

[@_Diaryofwealth]

​@@HopeFaithExpect77the Art of kingtsugi

[@redpug8236]

Get your negative ass out of here bruh. People break up and then get married later stop putting bad thoughts in everyone’s head just cuz you’re negative

[@NICH12]

Do you regret being kind to your ex(dumper) even after shit name calling, the anger but instead you choose kindness and be the bigger person in the room?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

No, because how I respond is a reflection of me. That’s how we measure ourselves.

[@user-sq7kv7qg2r]

THE BEST BREAKUP VIDEO TO DATE!!

[@couldstrife1]

Does the dumper go through this when the rebound relationship doesn’t work out?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Possibly, yes. But it takes a great deal of self awareness. If they keep going from one person to the next, they’re merely outsourcing their wounds to other wounded animals. My advice. Don’t get hooked up on rebounders. They’re not thinking healing or long term. They’re securing their emotional survival by securing the low hanging fruit.

[@boop3260]

Do you think the dumper still experiences these things in a situation where they emotionally checked out months ago and monkey branched to someone new before the breakup?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Monkey branching is emotional cheating. It’s like they’re outsourcing the pain of the emotional checking out, to someone new.

[@leonidasdimiou6177]

​@TheLoveFix-Nick so this means that although they may not experience these feelings right away, the act of monkey branching is an unhealthy thing to do and feelings of loss will catch up with the monkey brancher sooner or later, right?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Possibly. Frankly, we will never know for sure. Ultimately, don’t wait around for monkey branchers. They are cheaters and have shown you their true character.

[@leonidasdimiou6177]

​@@TheLoveFix-NickOk, do they ever feel the loss or they just see the dumpee as a trash bag that they have disposed in a bin?

[@boop3260]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick that's very true, thank you for the insight. I don't want him back romantically but we were best friends for 7 years before getting together, and both expressed a wish to somehow rekindle that friendship. He dumped me over the phone, and I'm doing NC currently for my own wellbeing after telling him not to contact me, but am unsure when/if to open up a conversation with him

[@ParamSingh-of9ln]

How convenient to show that with time the dumper graph goes down & she/he feels the regret ....whereas the dumpee gets a se in lease of life & starts to prosper & bloom with passage of time . How convenient to make a story that’s hardly has any resemblance to the reality... I’m a man who has suffered for last 18yrs & still living with the pain of being cheated & dumped by my ex who monkey branched for another guy . It’s not so simple .... just good for you who are making money by manipulating others emotions .

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Manipulating others? If you feel that way, feel free to not listen to the content, my friend.

[@RakeemDixon]

Can things change even if my ex has said she’s mentally checked out of the relationship and she’s adamant she’s done. We broke up 3-4 times during our 5 year relationship, most of the relationship was great was always bad at all. Just want some advice. Thanks

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

It’s possible, but don’t wait around.

[@Lyd-PSN]

But what if she broke up with you because you as the man cheated, but cheated in a way that was connecting with someone else in order to get help but not real romance. I don’t see information for the man if he cheats and she dumps him, when you want her back

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Your situation is the exception to the rule, my friend. This may not be that right video for you.

[@brandonrussell9118]

Lmao. I heard nothing negative for the dumper. Just life continues as normal. They don’t feel anything. Best to always be the dumper than dumpee and just live your best life.

[@thatpoeticthug]

Thank you I feel so much better now.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

My pleasure. I glad I could be of some help.

[@Swmf-fd9jv]

I’ve been in no contact since March, that’s when I gave up and asked to say goodbye to her. She last spoke early February, she left it open ended. She ignored all my messages between her last message and my last ones in March. She just wished me happy birthday though? I replied light/fun/graciously and she didn’t open it? What do you make of that

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I try not to make anything of such things. Actions tell us everything. What’s the truth of her actions? She’s not making any effort to reconcile. That’s the answer, my friend. I know it’s brutal and I hope you feel better soon. It’s going to be okay. 🫂

[@Swmf-fd9jv]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you, yeah my hopes aren’t up at all. I just thought it was curious. Why not bother to read my messages, but then wish happy birthday instead of ignoring it, only to ignore me saying thank you 😂😂 It’s like she didn’t want to upset me/even though the rest of it did. Or perhaps she didn’t want me to have that in my arsenal should we ever talk and I can now not use ignoring me on my birthday against her. Odd, innit

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I think these situations, it’s our limbic brain trying to find pattern, meaning and connection, because that’s what it wants to find.

[@Swmf-fd9jv]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick yeah mate, just thought I’d ask in case you’d seen anything similar. Very conflicting signs from her isn’t it

[@archangelelmo]

Did your ex ever reach out to you???

[@rascal211]

There are no advantages to be the dumpee, to be the one rejected.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Then I’m sorry to say, my friend. You’re gonna be stuck for a very long time. I hope you can change your mindset.

[@rascal211]

@@TheLoveFix-NickYes it takes a long time to meet someone else usually but I survive always.

[@jaydub7386]

Change for the better is your superpower.

[@javierlandaverde4108]

Rejected yes, but you come out and do self improvement to get yourself out of the rut and be a stronger than you were before.

[@jaydub7386]

I don’t want him back, he contacted me two months after the breakup, and I rejected him. There's no going back.

[@ninath13]

Not this time

[@naserdeen8210]

Whatever

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

@naserdeen8210 Care to elaborate?

[@juliaguglia1356]

Nice video Nick!!!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thanks, Lizzy 😊

[@jackjames5694]

What if my ex girlfriend was monckey branching with another man ?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that. Monkey branching is emotional cheating. My advice is to not wait around for a cheater. I know it hurts but, she’s shown you her true character. I hope you feel better.

[@asdfxcvbn746]

6:00 this assumes women have a conscience to even feel bad in the first place. they don't. the only time women have regret is fomo when they age out of desirability. when they lose access to men they once has access to when they were younger & hotter, only then do women regret trashing a viable dating option for no reason other than "i got options" smh

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

4 billion women in the world. Quite a blanket statement. Leave the red pill BS alone, buddy. Trust me, you’ll be happier.

[@asdfxcvbn746]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick we're talking western society & other 1st world countries. which is where a majority of your viewers reside. there's a reason large swaths of men in the "passport bro" movement are leaving america to get a partner because the women i'm talking about have become the majority. if you can't rebut what I said with facts & evidence, my point still stands. the blue pill copium isn't going to do you any better. i'd rather be in touch with reality, even if dire, than remain in a state of delusion to assuage feelings.

[@neodistinct]

You are actually right. Don't buy "politically correct" conformism. They don't care about you once they left you. Especially those with BPD.

[@aleksandras4659]

Does the emotional pain still apply to the dumper who bounced between me and the rebound for 7 months 4 times, and still returned to him. At first she said that spending time apart made me realize that i was everything she needed, and she wont return to this guy because everything was very bad, no trust no intimacy, broke her self love, because of his actions. Few days later she tells me that everything is not the same, and everything should be new. Dumped me again week later she is back with the same guy. And this guy doesn’t know anything what happened. And there was even another guy after him before she reached out to me the fourth time. So my question is due to the fact that she hasn’t given herself time to experience the break up, because she wasn’t alone those seven months, and she cant be alone as she said, will she experience pain of a 3 year relationship later?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Buddy, only your ex can answer that. A different question. Why invest time in someone bouncing around to the highest bidder?

[@aleksandras4659]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I do have a regret that i did not push her away 2 months ago when she wanted to rekindle things the 4th time, i really thought that after hearing her out something has changed, that she did finally understood what she wants and chooses. 7 months she bounced, told me that she misses me etc. that it hurts( even when she was with him). But i will admit when came back to him i was so mad that told her, i will tell him everything so i was blocked then unblocked on messenger. I did apologize to her thou. I wont be the person who does this kind of thing i have to be higher. And the thing that i do not understand is why she tells me that she has all those problems like not being able to be alone, no self love etc. she told me everything even that she dated and slept with another guy after she broke up with him, and then returned to me, as she said that i with the second guy were very similar but he was not me. But she wont tell a thing to the first guy.

[@camellia8625]

@@aleksandras4659sounds like she wants to keep him as an option or she is cheating on him with you or vice versa. I do not understand why you are tolerating being treated so badly.

[@Mentalxminds]

@@aleksandras4659bro it’s time to leave…

[@aleksandras4659]

@@camellia8625 I meant that she cheated on him with me, and after she broke up with him in January, there was another guy she dated, and then returned to me. Then she broke up with me and returned to the first guy.

[@stanlove9682]

Thank You Nick

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

My pleasure. I hope you’re well.

[@SteveDobbs-hj7fc]

You were too available and she found someone who she thinks is better in that moment. Pull back and she comes back because that other guy started becoming too available. Women never admit the monkey branch… However if she dumps you and comes back. Never commit to her again, that’s what she lost. Now you decide when and if you want to give her your attention, and she better do as you say or you cut her off cold.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Who was too available?

[@SteveDobbs-hj7fc]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick dumpee.